Is it possible to foster obedience in children without resorting to overbearing methods? Discover the answer with Dr. Steve on this illuminating episode of "Death by Adulting." We promise you'll gain powerful insights into why teaching children to obey quickly, completely, and without complaint is not just a demand but a crucial parental responsibility. Through practical examples, such as the potential hazards of a child running away in a busy area, we highlight the real-world implications that underscore the importance of immediate and joyful compliance.Building emotional and spiritual security is another essential topic we tackle. We address the pitfalls of overbearing discipline that can lead to insecurity and emphasize how kindness and communication build trust and safety. For single parents grappling with this task, we offer hope by discussing how a parent's relationship with God can provide the needed stability. By comparing parents to the unwavering walls of a building, we illustrate the necessity of consistent rule-setting and mutual respect, especially in divorced families, for the well-being of children.Ever wondered how your child's personality affects their approach to obedience? We dive deep into understanding different child obedience personalities—thinkers, feelers, and doers—and offer practical advice for guiding each type effectively. Learn how to navigate differences in standards, like media consumption, without breaking fellowship and understand the spiritual importance of teaching children to respect rightful authority as a foundation for obeying God. By the end of this episode, you'll be armed with the tools to foster emotional security, spiritual growth, and a strong moral foundation in your children, equipping them to face life's challenges confidently.

Why do so many men seem to get stuck in a perpetual state of adolescence, treating relationships like conquests and shirking responsibilities? Discover the root causes of arrested development in relationships as Megan and Dr. Steve Scheibner explore this pervasive issue in our latest episode of "Death by Adulting". We delve into the mindset that keeps some men trapped at a 19-year-old level of maturity, leading to toxic behaviors like love bombing and blame-shifting. Through real-life counseling experiences and societal analysis, we highlight the seven signs of immature relationships and offer strategies for recognizing and addressing these harmful patterns.But it’s not just about the men. We also contrast this arrested development with how it manifests in women, particularly after marriage. You’ll hear about the struggles women face in balancing personal ambitions with household duties, and the damaging impact of unrealistic self-expectations. We discuss why the mentality of "I can change him" often fails and the importance of assessing a partner’s maturity and past relationship behaviors before committing. Megan and Dr. Steve provide insights into embracing responsibilities joyfully and breaking the cycle of immaturity for more fulfilling, mature relationships. Listen in to learn how to foster healthier connections and grow beyond arrested development.

Ever wondered why kids form friendships so easily while adults struggle to break the ice? Today, we examine the magical world of children's social interactions, reflecting on the effortless way they engage with strangers and form bonds. We share practical tips for parents, like the red flag, green flag system to manage neighborhood playtimes. This episode is all about embracing humility and staying open to connections at any age, ensuring that both children and adults navigate social situations with ease and grace.Next, we tackle the tricky topic of honesty, inspired by a personal story of watching "Incredibles 2" twice and its lessons on truthfulness. We dive into when, if ever, lying might be justified, touching on real-world historical scenarios like hiding Jews during WWII. We offer strategies for parents to teach the value of truth, prevent manipulation, and manage social requests effectively. It's about proactive parenting—setting expectations and leading by example to foster integrity in children.Finally, let's talk about building stronger relationships and expanding social circles. Learn how proactive planning can help manage children's behavior and prevent family disruptions. We also discuss the importance of inclusive hospitality, encouraging kids to invite diverse peers and develop empathy. This episode concludes with practical advice on communication, forgiveness, and rescuing children from negative influences, all aimed at creating a kinder, more inclusive community for our kids. Join us for a thoughtful discussion on navigating the complexities of social interactions for both children and adults.

Are you ready to conquer the chaos of back-to-school season? Join us on this episode of Death by Adulting as we share hilarious anecdotes and essential tips to ease the transition for both parents and kids. We'll explore how to tackle the anxiety that often accompanies this time of year, emphasizing the magic of preparation and maintaining a positive attitude. Whether your children are excited or dreading the return to school, we've got advice on keeping your cool and avoiding the pitfall of projecting your anxieties onto them. From public and private schools to homeschooling, our strategies for staying organized and supportive will help you reduce stress and create a smoother, more enjoyable experience.But that's not all! We also dive into the modern parenting dilemma of over-scheduling and the lingering effects of helicopter parenting. Reflecting on how the pandemic allowed kids to rediscover the joys of unstructured play, we stress the importance of letting children face challenges and build resilience. Plus, we'll share creative ideas to celebrate the back-to-school season, making it a memorable time for the whole family. So, grab your favorite back-to-school memory and listen in as we remind you that in the world of adulting, what doesn't kill us just makes us tired—but also a little wiser.

Ever felt overwhelmed by the idea of hosting guests? You’re not alone. Inspired by 1 Peter 4:9, we explore the real challenges and profound rewards of hospitality from a Christian viewpoint. Join us at the Death by Adulting table as we unpack the difference between merely entertaining and offering genuine hospitality that fosters deep, personal connections. We discuss the importance of making our homes welcoming and dive into how being hospitable can start with our own families. You'll learn how to transform the exhaustion of hosting into meaningful relationship-building.From repurposing that old wedding dress for a fun twist to engaging your kids in preparation, we share practical tips to make hospitality stress-free and rewarding. Discover why sticking to tried-and-true recipes can save you from hosting nightmares, as we recount our own mishap with a failed pumpkin pie. Learn the significance of clear communication and the magic of preparation so you can genuinely enjoy your guests. Whether you're a novice or a seasoned host, this episode offers actionable insights to help you open your home and heart, turning hospitality into a blessing for everyone involved.

Is non-face-to-face communication sabotaging your relationships? We explore this intriguing question by recounting our own close call during Steve's time in Aviation Officer Candidate School. Discover practical strategies we've developed for managing long-distance relationships, such as scheduled FaceTime sessions and avoiding late-night texts. Effective communication can be challenging, but with the right tools, you can weather any storm—even from miles apart.Navigating conversations with narcissists and individuals with dementia can feel like walking through a minefield. True narcissists thrive on chaos and manipulation, so we share insights on how to counteract their tactics by being meticulous note-takers and exercising empathy. Drawing from personal experiences and biblical teachings, we emphasize the power and impact of words on relationships. Learn how to guard your tongue and communicate with greater patience and understanding.Lastly, we dive into the complexities of communication within various relationship dynamics. From managing social overload as an introvert to the transformative power of storytelling, we touch on the importance of trust and understanding. Find out how to avoid accusatory language, which often sparks anger, and instead cultivate habits of gentle, attentive communication. By the end of this episode, you'll be armed with actionable tips to improve your communication skills and build healthier, more resilient relationships.

Join us on this eye-opening episode of "Death by Adulting" as we share the intimate details of our own long-distance relationship. Have you ever struggled with the nuances of non-face-to-face communication? We'll reveal how our long-distance engagement was fraught with misunderstandings and even led to a temporary breakup. Get ready to equip yourself with practical tools for better communication like limiting texting, scheduling structured times for talks, and relying on video calls. Our personal experiences aim to help you avoid the pitfalls we faced and make more mindful communication choices.Ever felt emotionally hijacked by a narcissist? We dig deep into the complexities of true narcissism, distinguishing it from mere self-centeredness and spotlighting manipulative behaviors like gaslighting. Discover the importance of keeping detailed notes to protect yourself from manipulation and explore how empathy and patience can help rebuild broken trust. We also delve into the dual nature of speech, drawing wisdom from James' teachings, to show how your words can either build up or destroy relationships. Learn the demanding yet rewarding effort it takes to communicate positively.Finally, we tackle the challenges introverts face in maintaining healthy communication boundaries. Overwhelm and irritability can easily creep in without proper space and respect. Hear firsthand how we've navigated these hurdles, offering strategies to reduce sarcasm and shift from self-centered storytelling to engaging others with thoughtful questions. We underscore the power of sharing personal God stories and the transformative impact they can have. Wrapping up, we emphasize the art of gentle speech, active listening, and steering clear of perverse language to ensure your communication remains respectful and effective. Tune in to discover how mindful communication can ease the trials of adulting.

Managing stress in today’s hectic world can seem impossible, but what if we told you that balance is within reach? On this enlightening episode of "Death by Adulting," we explore our top 10 tips for stress management, starting with the profound power of prayer. Learn how incorporating prayer into your daily routine can offer a sense of calm and center, drawing on personal stories that highlight its transformative effects on our lives and our children, especially during high-anxiety moments.We then shift gears to provide you with practical, actionable strategies for managing stress effectively. Discover why seeking professional counsel trumps relying on peers or the internet, and get our best tips for achieving restful sleep and mindful eating. From creating the perfect sleep environment to understanding the impact of sugar and caffeine on your stress levels, we’ve got you covered with insights that aim to improve mental health through holistic and balanced approaches.Our journey doesn’t stop there. We delve into the importance of healthy eating and regular exercise, sharing personal experiences such as an unforgettable hiking trip in Liechtenstein. Additionally, we discuss the power of forgiveness, the value of building community, and the crucial role of effective communication in reducing stress and fostering healthier relationships. Join us for this comprehensive guide to navigating the challenges of adulting with grace and resilience, filled with heartfelt insights and practical tips.

Ever find yourself tangled in the web of modern communication, wondering how we got here? On this episode of "Death by Adulting," we unravel the evolution from letter writing and phone calls to the quicksand of texting and email. With humor and wit, we share our personal escapades of adopting our kids' texting habits, only to find ourselves hilariously uncool. Join us as we spotlight the irreplaceable value of face-to-face interactions for clarity and conflict resolution, along with practical tips for nurturing meaningful connections in today's digital age.Why do men rush to fix problems while women, though natural fixers, need to step back? Dive into the dynamics of listening and problem-solving within relationships in this riveting segment. We discuss the importance of providing space, asking insightful questions, and practicing silent support—crucial for parenting and helping children develop their problem-solving skills. Hear us extol the virtue of just sitting and listening, allowing others to express themselves without the immediate urge to offer solutions, thus fostering stronger, more understanding relationships.Misunderstandings can wreak havoc on any relationship, but we've got you covered with effective communication strategies. Discover the magic of repeating back what you heard, a technique that guarantees clarity and accountability. Whether you're navigating parenting challenges or simply trying to find the peanut butter in the pantry, these tools will enhance your interactions. Plus, we introduce essential techniques from our book "The Eight Rules of Communication for Successful Marriages," proving that listening and gathering facts are fundamental skills for any successful relationship. Tune in and transform the way you communicate!

Ever felt like the world is closing in on you for no apparent reason? You're not alone! Tune into this episode of Death by Adulting, where we tackle the all-too-familiar beast—anxiety. We'll share our personal stories of glazed looks during anxiety attacks and dive into the biological factors like heredity, high blood pressure, and pregnancy that can crank up those anxiety levels. But it's not all doom and gloom; we promise you'll walk away with proactive strategies to manage anxiety and recognize your personal predispositions to lead a healthier life.Next, we break down the complex nature of anxiety and offer you a toolkit of practical strategies to manage it. Whether it's getting a medical checkup, adjusting your diet, or simply stepping out for some fresh air, we cover physical, emotional, and even spiritual helps. Introverts, don't worry—we understand the allure of isolation, but we'll discuss why it’s crucial to stay connected. And for those seeking spiritual comfort, turning to God can be a game-changer. Through humor and relatable anecdotes, we aim to make managing anxiety feel less like a chore and more like a manageable part of life.But adulting isn't just about managing anxiety. We've got practical advice on handling air travel frustrations and avoiding those cringe-worthy gift choices. Ever been denied boarding due to last-minute aircraft changes? We'll help you see these adult responsibilities as privileges. Plus, get ready to laugh as we list the worst gifts ever—from supersized candy mishaps to unwanted Groupon deals. Finally, we'll chat about the perfect timing for getting a pet, emphasizing the readiness and responsibility required. Join us for this "Don't Worry, Be Happy" edition, where we remind you that what doesn't kill you just makes you tired.

Ever been handed a floating light bulb as a token of love? You're not alone, and you're in for a treat! This episode of Death by Adulting kicks off with Megan Scheibner and Dr. Steve Scheibner hilariously dissecting some of the most ridiculous "romantical" gifts ever suggested. From fill-in-the-blank love journals to bizarre gadgets, we laugh our way through why some gifts might be better off never leaving the store shelf. Spoiler alert: you might rethink your next romantic gesture! Plus, five sure-fire ways to ruin your sex life. You will want to avoid these triggers!Ever had a fight over who holds the door for who? We bet you have. Our conversation then takes a serious turn as we unpack the "expectation trap" and the anger that often follows unmet expectations in relationships. Using relatable and laugh-out-loud anecdotes, we explain how miscommunications can spiral into bigger conflicts and why it's crucial to address anger before it gets out of hand. Drawing wisdom from Ephesians 4:26, we offer actionable advice on open communication and tackling anger, ensuring your relationship stays strong and harmonious.Finally, we tackle the everyday quirks of coupledom, from the comedic misuse of household tools to the trials of navigating each other's spaces. Megan's "adulting boss tip of the day" will have you rethinking how you manage your time and priorities. We wrap up with a lighthearted yet important discussion on early sexual education for teenagers in today's complex world, sprinkled with funny and heartwarming family stories. Tune in for a mix of laughter, wisdom, and practical advice to enrich your relationship and everyday life.

How do elephants, orcas, and dwarf mongooses deal with their mother-in-laws? Get ready for a wild ride as Megan Scheibner and Dr. Steve kick off this episode of "Death by Adulting." We start with a humorous exploration of animal kingdom in-laws and then dive into Megan’s hilarious stories about her daughters, Emma and Molly, a.k.a. "the criminals." Their childhood and college escapades are sure to leave you in stitches!Ever wondered how the Normans and Vikings shaped Irish history, or why men seem to organize their lives in such peculiar ways? We touch on these fascinating cultural influences and segue into the delicate balance of matriarchal and patriarchal elements in today’s society. Plus, we share practical strategies for managing in-law relationships. From asking before advising to respecting new family boundaries, we emphasize the importance of open communication and mutual respect.Ending on a note of surprise, Megan and Captain Steve reveal the shocking truths DNA testing can uncover about your ancestry, sometimes shaking up your sense of identity. Then, we can't forget those essential adulting tips like checking food expiration dates and dressing safely for air travel. Wrap it all up with a teaser for our next episode, where we’ll humorously discuss five surefire ways to ruin good sex. Join us for a blend of laughter, wisdom, and invaluable life advice!

Ever feel completely overwhelmed by the intricate demands of adulting? We’ve got you covered! In this episode of Death by Adulting, we kick things off with essential tips for scheduling that dreaded doctor’s appointment—because let’s face it, no one should avoid taking care of their health. From knowing your birth date and symptoms to storing your insurance details on your phone, we’ve compiled everything you need to make this task easier. Personal anecdotes about our eight children will make you chuckle and highlight why it’s vital to take charge of your health responsibilities.Next, we discuss how to stay sane by minding your own business and managing your social media usage. Ever caught yourself getting stressed over online arguments? We delve into how limiting screen time and focusing on your own life can bring peace. With wisdom from 1 Thessalonians 4:11, we'll explore how controlling your schedule and learning to say "no" purposefully can help you avoid unnecessary stress. Practical advice like turning off your phone at night and enjoying real-world activities will give you actionable steps to live a healthier life.Lastly, we stress the importance of self-care and nurturing positive relationships. Imagine a world where you schedule unplanned, restful time for yourself each week—sounds dreamy, right? We recommend at least one unscheduled night per week for adults, and a daily "rest hour" for kids, to recharge and rejuvenate. Evaluating your friendships and setting boundaries, especially with family as you transition from obedience to honoring your parents, are key topics we tackle. And as we gear up for our final stress series episode, we promise to return with practical solutions to help you tackle adulting with confidence. Tune in—you won’t want to miss it!

What if overcoming your fear of phone calls could be as simple as channeling your inner Inigo Montoya? Learn how this beloved character from "The Princess Bride" can guide you through the art of making phone calls in a world dominated by texting. We'll share practical tips to help you conquer this modern-day challenge, all while sprinkling in a dose of humor and nostalgia from the iconic film. Discover essential communication skills that will not only make you better at adulting but also reduce your stress levels.Ever wondered why a phone call might be more effective than a text? Tune in as we break down five compelling reasons, from the complexity of the message to the emotional nuances that only a voice can convey. We'll also discuss the alarming rise in stress levels among younger generations and why older adults seem to be handling stress better. Mental health is a pressing issue, and we aim to shed light on the importance of communication in alleviating some of that burden.Life is full of unavoidable stresses—work, family, and everything in between. However, armed with the "Hundred Year Rule" and practical tips for managing emotions, you can navigate these challenges more effectively. We'll also introduce you to our "What the Heck" segment, where we humorously tackle everyday frustrations, and provide some seasonal cleaning tips to help create a more peaceful living environment. Join us for actionable advice and a bit of humor to make your adulting journey a little less stressful.

Ever wondered how parenting can feel like trying to land a plane on a bustling street? That's exactly where we start this episode, as Dr. Steve Scheibner shares his experiences with the peculiarities of Gibraltar Airport, where airstrips cross paths with everyday life. From there, we seamlessly transition into the pandemonium of parenting, drawing comparisons to the colorful chaos that parrots bring into our homes.As seasoned pilots in the vast skies of child-rearing, my wife Megan and I unfold the map of our parenting journey with eight kids, offering you navigational tips that steer clear of celebrity fads and focus on tried-and-true methods. We'll teach you when to use "must" and "now" to give your kids a clear runway for success, and we'll decode the language of thinkers, feelers, and doers, so you can communicate effectively with your child, no matter their personality type.Wrapping up, we share how to harness the boundless energy of 'doer' children and integrate it into a family dynamic that's as diverse as a party guest list—without the need to hand out favors to everyone. Stick around for a comedic salute to the unsung heroes of birthday parties (hint: it's not who you'd expect), and a parting adulting tip from Megan that's as refreshing as an unexpected upgrade to first-class. Fasten your seatbelts; this is an episode that promises to elevate your parenting approach and lighten the load of adulting one anecdote at a time.

Ever wondered why flamingos are pink or why opposites attract in the wild dance of love? Join me and Dr. Steve Scheibner as we unravel these mysteries with our unique blend of humor and insight, offering a colorful perspective on the adulting spectacle. From the curious courtship rituals in the animal kingdom to the baffling allure of jerks, we'll connect the dots between nature's quirks and our own complex human interactions.This episode isn't just about laughs and head-scratching facts; it's a candid exploration of the deep impact our choices have on who we become. We dissect how the media we consume, the emotions we indulge, and the spiritual nourishment we seek, all tint our personalities with a hue as telling as a flamingo's feathers. Dr. Steve and I don't shy away from the tough topics—whether it's about keeping it real in relationships, debunking the myth of male compartmentalization, or revealing the secret sauce to a harmonious household.To top off our adulting adventure, we take a playful jab at the zany world of baby products. Can you imagine spritzing your infant with perfume or shuffling them around in baby high heels? We share our own parenting tales and chuckles while navigating this bizarre bazaar. Hang around for our 'Adulting Pro Tips' and get a sneak peek at what's next: 'Parrots and Pandemonium.' Trust me, this grown-up journey is one you don't want to miss, and we're here to guide you through with laughs, empathy, and some unexpected wisdom.

Discover the unexpected lesson otters teach us about nurturing closeness in our relationships as Megan and I, along with our insightful guests, explore the significance of maintaining contact and the transformative power of touch. Embrace the cozy bedtime habits of these hand-holding creatures to unlock a deeper connection with your partner. This episode is a treasure trove of strategies for enhancing intimacy, from the importance of non-sexual touch and intentional communication to the art of appreciation and the joy of spiritual growth.Dive into the art of continuous learning about each other and how it keeps the spark alive in a thriving relationship. You'll learn why differences between partners aren't just acceptable—they're essential. We discuss how a simple shift in language, from 'have to' to 'get to', can infuse your daily routine with 'betterness' and positivity. Join us as we unwrap the importance of eager participation in spiritual growth and its impact on familial dynamics, challenging the prevalent victim mentality with the power of gratitude and mindset transformation.Wrapping up, we debate the whimsical: what we would do if crowned emperor for a day. We tackle the irritations of air travel, share anecdotes about nostalgic tunes, and revel in the simple joy of life's small wonders—like a photo of otters holding paws. Plus, Megan shares her ultimate tip for mastering adulting with intentional planning and a robust morning routine. Stay tuned for an engaging journey through the trials and triumphs of grown-up life on Death by Adulting, where humor meets wisdom and the ordinary becomes extraordinary.

Ever wondered if there's more to the penguin's love life than meets the eye? Steve and I certainly did, which is why we're tickled to share our revelations about the slapstick world of emperor penguin courtship and its uncanny resemblance to the human quest for love. Grab a front-row seat to our laughter-infused chat where we compare avian slap-downs to swiping right, and unveil the lengths we've gone to in the pursuit of partnership. Our personal escapades in love just might make you look at those tuxedoed birds—and your own dating history—in a whole new light.The journey to the altar isn't always a straight path, and our story is a testament to that with a spiritual twist you didn't see coming. Tag along as Steve and I peel back the layers of our unconventional love tale that began at a place called "The Rat" and deepened through Bible studies and weddings (where a little friendly rivalry never hurt). Our walk down memory lane is dotted with laughter, faith, and a candid look at the unexpected ways love blossoms from friendship. If you're a believer that life's greatest romances might just start with a bit of divine intervention, this chapter of our lives will resonate with you.Let's face it, "adulting" can feel like a series of comedic errors, and we're not ones to sugarcoat it. From dealing with apartment floods to the financial faux pas that taught me more lessons than I bargained for, I'm ready to spill the beans on the trials that come with the grown-up territory. Steve chimes in too, sharing the wisdom we've gained from embracing chores to keeping that kitchen sink spotless. So, adjust your clocks for daylight savings and join us as we muse over the bittersweet symphony of responsibilities and life's unexpected joys, because, let's be honest, we're all just fumbling through adulthood together.