How to Build Secure Relationships in an Insecure World With Dr. Ann Kelley

Wise Effort

Apr 29 2024 • 44 mins

What does it mean to interact in a secure way from a centered, wise space? According to Dr. Ann Kelley, co-author of Secure Relating and co-host of the popular podcast Therapist Uncensored, we all move in and out of secure and insecure patterns in our relationships. Ann’s modern take on attachment theory moves us from rigid categories into a more dynamic, evolving, and systemic look at our relational patterns.

Listen and learn:

  • What is the Modern Attachment Regulation Spectrum
  • How we borrow each other’s nervous systems
  • Why sometimes it’s better to speak in sentences, not essays
  • The difference between leaning “red,” “blue,” or “green” when it comes to relating with others
  • How our nervous system is shaped by our environment, history, and context

Join us in this episode to discover the key to secure relating: identifying your nervous system’s protective emotional reactions so you can find your way back to connection.

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