Bid For Connection Challenge Recap

The Ardent Wife

Jan 7 2024 • 9 mins

According to Gottman, a bid for connection is any attempt from one partner to another for attention, affirmation, affection, or any other positive connection.Bids show up in simple ways, a smile or wink, and more complex ways, like a request for advice or help.

As part of his research, Dr. John Gottman conducted a study with newlyweds, then followed up with them six years later. Many of the couples remained together. Many divorced. The couples that stayed married were much better at one thing: the third level of the Sound Relationship House, Turn Towards Instead of Away. At the six-year follow-up, couples that stayed married turned towards one another 86% of the time. Couples that divorced averaged only 33% of the time.

Resource: https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/ The wives give a short recap of our Bid for Connection Challenge. The wives recap how it went and what they have learned and took from this time.

The hope is that this challenge would spur you on towards love and good deeds in your marriage.  Ardent Wives FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theardentwives

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