Decide Your Legacy

Adam Gragg

Are you ready to take the steps necessary to thrive? Join us every episode as host Adam Gragg discusses what is holding us back and how to move forward with purpose, along the way developing healthy relationships and navigating life transitions while overcoming fear, stress and anxiety. Adam is a family therapist, mental health professional and life coach helping individuals and organizations find the transformational clarity that unleashes hope. Live the life you want, the legacy you decide.

#50: A Big Mistake Most People Make
Nov 22 2022
#50: A Big Mistake Most People Make
People are always asking me how they can have better, more vibrant relationships.  But often, there is one big mistake that most people make in their relationships.  We're going to dive into that mistake and 10 strategies for countering it. On this episode we discuss:The big mistake of invalidating othersHow invalidation drives wedgesStrategies for being more validating of othersAvoid being criticalKeep the focus off yourselfUse someone's first nameShow interest in them and their interestsValidate their feelingsApologize with no excusesName their emotionsAsk more questionsLove how they want to be lovedParaphrase and summarize And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST!Resources:Rekindling Relationships (Episode 49)How to Be Grateful When Life Is Hard25 Gratitude Building QuestionsMy 20 Favorite Questions to Ask Clients One Big Relationship Mistake Most People MakeThe Daily 5 & 5Read these articles below about the Daily 5 & 5. How to Be Grateful When Life Is Hard. Start your own Daily 5 & 5 on your phone, in a journal, or using this Daily 5 & 5 Worksheet. After a few days, reflect on how this activity impacts your mindset.Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgraggThanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review! Get personalized coaching from Adam! Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling.Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!
#49: Rekindling Relationships
Nov 8 2022
#49: Rekindling Relationships
As we approach the holidays this year you may be thinking about relationships that have gone stale, or people you don't talk to often or have the level of closeness or intimacy you would like to have.  But with the change in schedules you will have the opportunity to use the strategies in this conversation to rekindle and strengthen those connections. On this episode we discuss:The value of relationships on our mental healthWhat makes someone a true friendLoving yourself firstMy 30-day challenge to youValuing honesty, even when it's uncomfortableViewing conflict as an opportunityHelping other people succeedShare your personal goals with othersBe more curiousBe yourselfAnd click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST!Resources:Getting to Know Yourself (Episode 48)Repairing Relationships Over the Holidays (Episode 29)A Transformational Self-Confidence Building ActivityThe Daily 5 & 5Read these articles below about the Daily 5 & 5. How to Be Grateful When Life Is Hard. Start your own Daily 5 & 5 on your phone, in a journal, or using this Daily 5 & 5 Worksheet. After a few days, reflect on how this activity impacts your mindset.Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgraggThanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review! Get personalized coaching from Adam! Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling.Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!
#48: Getting to Know Yourself
Oct 25 2022
#48: Getting to Know Yourself
As we deal with the challenges of pleasing others and overcoming past trauma, it can sometimes be hard to know what we truly want in life.  Today we are going to break down some actionable strategies you can use to understand yourself in a deeper and more authentic way. On this episode we discuss:Why I invite people to take risksKnowing yourself as the key to long-term happinessLaughing and having funWhat codependency does to usJournaling regularly to externalize your thoughtsCreating a plan to overcome negative core beliefsTaking emotional risksRadical acceptance of realityGetting professional helpAnd click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST!Resources:Being Assertive (Episode 47)How to Journal for Self-Improvement50 Best Journaling Prompts30 Damaging Core BeliefsWhat is AcceptanceAcceptance is NotTake Emotional Risks Frequently!How to Select a Great Life Coach (or Counselor)Self-Care ActivityTake the time to get to know yourself. Complete the Know Thyself Worksheet and use those answer to help you complete the Radical Self Care Worksheet.Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgraggThanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review! Get personalized coaching from Adam! Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling.Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!
#45: How to be Happier
Sep 13 2022
#45: How to be Happier
It's written right there in the Constitution of the United States of America: we have the right to pursue happiness.  But what is it that will make us happy?  We get down to the practical this week on how you can cultivate happiness in your own life.  On this episode we discuss:All the risks I'm taking (I'm doing it a lot lately)Why happiness is important to usAvoiding Facebook happinessHow I found myself on a beautiful beach, but ultimately was miserableThe cost of misery in our livesFocusing on a clear vision for your futureEnjoying the journey instead of focusing on the destinationDo the hard work firstReframing the negative experiences in our livesStanding up for yourselfMeaningfully connecting with others.And click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST!Resources:Secret Communication Skills (Episode 44)Core Beliefs ActivityMost people have 3 - 10 deeply rooted negative core beliefs. Become aware of them and replace them with a healthier perspective so they no longer drive you. Identify your top 3 - 5 negative core beliefs using this 30 Damaging Core Beliefs Worksheet. You never know when something might go wrong. Seeing that there are lots of option.. Then complete a Be Truth Oriented Worksheet for each one. Enter the negative core belief in step 1 on the Be Truth Oriented worksheet and follow each step. Save on your desktop, completed, and email the completed worksheets back to me before our next visit. Here's an article article to read that will be helpful How to Change Negative Core Beliefs.Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgraggThanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review! Get personalized coaching from Adam! Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling.Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!
#42: Stop Procrastination Now! (9 Strategies You Can Use)
Aug 2 2022
#42: Stop Procrastination Now! (9 Strategies You Can Use)
Most people actually have goals and aspirations for their lives.  But despite knowing what they want, they find themselves spinning their wheels (present company included) because of procrastination.  In this episode we review 9 strategies you can implement now to stop procrastinating!   And don't forget to sign up for Tune Up For Life!  On this episode we discuss:The four (4) risks I took recentlyWhy we procrastinateThe emotional component of procrastinationHow many people can identify their goalsDelayed gratificationHarvard goals study and what it says about the influence goals have on our lifeWhat delegation can do for youThe 10 Strategies:Identifying your ideal weekly scheduleClarifying the quadrants of important / urgentPlanning your top tasks regularlyCreating a written scheduleWriting down your goalsCounting the cost of procrastinationAsking others for helpDealing with your perfectionismCreating a life purpose statementAnd click HERE to get my NEW FREE SHATTERPROOF YOURSELF MENTAL HEALTH CHECKLIST!Resources:If by Rudyard KiplingStop Procrastinating & Get Things DoneStephen Covey's Time Management Matrix Explained3 Ways to Eliminate Mental ClutterHow to Reach Your Goals (Part 1)How to Reach Your Goals (Part 2)How to Reach Your Goals (Part 3)Dealing With Conflict (Episode 41)Clip: Do the Hardest Thing FirstBe sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgraggThanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review! Get personalized coaching from Adam! Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling.Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!
#38: Motivation in the Workplace (w/ Nevada Raitt)
Jun 7 2022
#38: Motivation in the Workplace (w/ Nevada Raitt)
Got a special episode this time as I discuss motivation in the workplace with Nevada Raitt.  We discuss building effective teams and creating meaningful connections so that an organization can thrive.  And don't forget to sign up for Tune Up For Life!  On this episode we discuss:Why start a business that focuses on employee wellnessLearning from failuresFostering connection between employeesStruggling together through adversityHow remote work is influencing connection in the workplaceHow to build engagement at workGiving ownership to othersHaving fun as a teamMotivation works differently for everyoneBeing available to your teamBeing genuine and consistent over timeMaking conflict safe for employeesHelping others achieve their dreamsStaying focused on your goalsHighlighting the meaning behind everythingBe sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgraggResources:3 Tips for Improving Your Work EnvironmentEpisode #6: Developing Deep & Meaningful FriendshipsEpisode #31: Overcome the Fear of Rejection11 Fun Ice Breakers for Work Meetings and Social Events4 Things that Make Work SuckSkills for Successful Relationships - 10 min VideoThanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review! NEW FREE GUIDE! 5 Days to overpowering anxiety! Get 50 free relationship building questions and a free e-book on life balance! Get personalized coaching from Adam! Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling.Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!
#36: Identifying Healthy v. Toxic Relationships
May 10 2022
#36: Identifying Healthy v. Toxic Relationships
Relationships are a key part of all of our lives and have major ramifications on our life satisfaction.  But how do we know which ones are good for us?  On this episode we explore what healthy v. toxic looks like.  And don't forget to sign up for Tune Up For Life!  On this episode we discuss:The risks I took last weekWhy healthy relationships are so importantThe monkey and his buddy7 things to look for in healthy relationshipsDo they having lasting relationships?Do they have a sense of humor?Are they easily offended?Are they willing to deal with their past?Do they have healthy lifestyle habits?Do they establish healthy boundaries that are in line with their values?Do they have a healthy amount of self-confidence?Be sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgraggResources:Easter Prank 2022Episode 19: Improving Your Self-WorthEpisode 35: Practices to Overcome AnxietyThe Loony BinThanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review! NEW FREE GUIDE! 5 Days to overpowering anxiety! Get 50 free relationship building questions and a free e-book on life balance! Get personalized coaching from Adam! Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling.Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!
#35: Practices to Overcome Anxiety
Apr 26 2022
#35: Practices to Overcome Anxiety
It's time to get practical on dealing with anxiety.  This week we will cover 3 specific practices you can do today to overcome your anxiety, including walking through a mindfulness exercise together.  And don't forget to sign up for Tune Up For Life!  On this episode we discuss:How anxiety is different from fearSympathetic v. parasympatheticTaking action to get out from anxietyIdentifying negative core beliefsThe value of journalingAdding humor to your lifePracticing mindfulnessBe sure to follow me on Instagram @adamgraggResources:How to Change Negative Core Beliefs (Part 1)How to Change Negative Core Beliefs (Part 2)Short StoriesThe Essential Earnest HemingwayTales from the Klondike: A Treasury of Jack London's Best Short The Complete Stories by Flannery O'Connor50 Great Short StoriesFunny Videos (I can watch these over and over)The Farting Old ManNobody Messes with my BOY……FRIENDUltimate Dog TeaseGag Gifts (Oh yes, I have these and many more)Remote Controlled Fart MachineFake Beer Belly Waist PackYodeling PickleThanks for listening, be sure to subscribe and leave us a review! NEW FREE GUIDE! 5 Days to overpowering anxiety! Get 50 free relationship building questions and a free e-book on life balance! Get personalized coaching from Adam! Adam is a life coach and counselor who specializes in helping individuals and organizations find transformational clarity.  He specializes in anxiety, depression, life & career transitions, adolescent challenges, and family counseling.Be sure to check out Escape Artists Travel and tell them Decide Your Legacy sent you!