Let's Fix Leadership

Jen Thornton

The landscape of business is changing...radically. Yet leadership is being taught the same way it's always been taught. When the world is changing, it’s time to bring our leadership styles along for the ride. Thanks to cutting-edge neuroscience, we now have access to new tools and new language that inspires action, collaboration, and innovation in the modern workplace. And Let's Fix Leadership is designed to bring you the best of these cutting-edge tools, exercises, best practices, and modern leadership strategies - every week. Whether you're a company leader, corporate visionary, intrapreneur, or entrepreneur, this show gives you new insights into the neuroscience and language of leadership, as well as practical steps and tips you can take back to the office. Join Jen Thornton as she showcases how to lead your teams in powerful ways, and keep your people happy and engaged while achieving your biggest goals. read less

The Workplace Nemesis: Clock Your Cortisol and Stay True to You
Yesterday
The Workplace Nemesis: Clock Your Cortisol and Stay True to You
Have you ever had a workplace nemesis? Just thinking about one of my old supervisors can send my nervous system into a bit of a tizzy. I can remember it like it was yesterday, sitting stalwart, staring at my laptop, shut down to any motivation for my job, day after day. It was like the man had reached into my soul and fundamentally changed who I was as a person. I felt petty; I felt judgemental; I felt angry. I truly let this guy get the best of me. I was acting out of character, always in reaction. How I felt about him was changing how I felt about me.  Over time, the tension and resentment had built up so much that I was acting in ways that weren’t true to myself. That was tough on me—and it was tough on my career.  What I didn’t know then, and what I do know now, is that I had complete control over that situation the whole time. I was letting someone else change and impact my daily performance. The key words here are: I was letting them. (To quote one of the great southern poets of our generation, Taylor Swift, “It’s me. Hi. I’m the problem, it’s me.”) If this story sounds all too familiar, don’t worry, it happens to the best of us.  Nothing gets you to act out of your integrity like a workplace nemesis. Even one interaction can ruin your day and leave you internally rolling your eyes and complaining to other colleagues. In this episode, let’s talk about something we’re probably all familiar with. This is “how to keep your cool and your integrity in your daily interactions” 101. I hope it helps. Five Things To Take Away From This Episode  Recognize how this dynamic has impacted your behavior.  If you’ve been participating in “smack talk,” or are actively wishing this person their comeuppance, or your communication has become toxic, it’s time to get honest with yourself.  You get to decide how you’re going to be and respond. Does someone just rub you the wrong way? The way they work, lead, show up, and prioritize, it’s just…different. (That’s definitely not how you would do it.) That’s on them. You do you.  Get real about their contributions.  If your personality conflict is getting in the way of a harmonious workplace, put down the power struggle and focus on relationship building. Start paying attention to what they contribute, not how they do it.  Clock your cortisol.  When you are in conflict with someone your nervous system will react. Cortisol, stress hormones, flood the system and they stay with you all day. What’s more, our brain remembers and will start to pre-react accordingly. Change the predictive chemicals by changing your mindset.  Never stop being the person you are. Give up your power for that chucklehead? No way, man. Control who you are, how you show up, and how you respond. Let go of your judgy obsession and focus on yourself. Otherwise, you’re denying the rest of us the gift of your authentic self.
Think Horizontally and Make Decisions Vertically
Mar 16 2023
Think Horizontally and Make Decisions Vertically
We’re all used to the idea of vertical leadership, a leader and their team. Everyone in the group looks up to the boss, and the boss looks up to their boss, and so on, and so on. We understand the hierarchy.  What many of us don’t expect, as we move up the ladder, is that the higher the climb, the more we must look laterally: other leaders at level, other teams below them.  A manager who moves to an executive role must start to think horizontally and think vertically.  It’s not enough to lead your team in a silo; you must now consider the integration of all parts of an organization.  The higher you go in an organization, the more you have to lead horizontally and also in balance with vertical leadership. You have to think holistically; take into account the needs of the business as a whole, as well as the needs of your own group. For most people who get promoted into executive roles, this transition can be challenging, especially when you may have to give up some resources — and some ego —to achieve real integration.  What are the key benefits of horizontal leadership? Why, nothing less than making more informed decisions, learning new things, and contributing in new and different ways, of course. Did I mention that your own team will also reap the benefits of your knowledge building and relationship cultivating? Booyah! 🤠 In this episode, I talk about how vertical and horizontal leadership are two sides of the same coin, a lucky penny in your leadership pocket.  Four Things To Take Away From This Episode  Understand organizational priorities and why they matter. Your success as a leader will hinge on your ability to identify ways to get your team to intersect with the rest of the company. Identify what your group actually needs and doesn’t need and put everything into context with company objectives.  Learn a little bit about what everyone else does.  No one likes operating in the dark. Come out of your comfort zone and start making connections between departments, roles, and people. Understand just enough to be dangerous about how the organization functions across all verticals.  Let go around ego. This is the time to tap into your sense of the greater good. Yes, you may lose precious talent, time, or budget to some other more urgent need, but if you can frame it from a global perspective no one will take it personally. Get comfortable with curiosity, challenge, and conflict.  The ability to have frank, honest conversations in a no-drama zone is a skill you can improve with practice. Look for opportunities to challenge your peers, ask questions, and coach peers into shifting perspectives. The more you communicate effectively and with emotional intelligence, the more acute your understanding of the board, the game, and all of the players.