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hero starts with HER

Leslie Travis and Stephanie Zurmehly

Hero starts with her is hosted by Leslie Travis and Stephanie Zurmehly. Stephanie and Leslie come from two totally different worlds but have come close in their shared experiences through social media, motherhood, their faith and women. They discuss who they really are and the challenges they face every day. They are opposites of being the extrovert and introvert but love to have discussions on motherhood, marriage, friendship and being vulnerable putting their lives out there on social media. Stephanie and Leslie will discuss all the latest going on in their lives, advice for other moms and venting about balancing it all.

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MENTAL HEALTH CHECK
4d ago
MENTAL HEALTH CHECK
Have you checked your mental health lately? Leslie brought some GREAT questions you should be asking yourself if you aren’t feeling things lately. Maybe you don’t feel enough joy as you feel you should. If that is the case, take a few minutes to ask yourself these questions and dive in with us as we discuss this today. It’s the end of June, which means we are halfway thru 2022. Mentally, are you okay? How are you talking to yourself? Who are you around and following on social media? What and how is your confidence level? Because how your portray yourself, is how other perceive you. What are your standards/boundaries and how are you setting them? Did you set any goals for 2022, what have you achieved from your list? How did you set your goals for the year? Here are a few tips on setting goals and NO its not too late to set some goals, boundaries and standards for 2022, at least for the rest of it. Tips for setting goals: 1. Choose a goal(s) that are worthwhile and make YOU HAPPY. 2. Make them achievable- Be realistic. 3. Be Specific. So Specific. If you are the praying the type, Pray about them and PRAY SPECIFIC! 4. Commit to them. 5. Tell people about them. Accountability is a beautiful thing. 6. Prioritize the goals. Don’t be afraid to put them in order by what’s more important or more achievable first. 7. Make the REAL to you—again, be realistic. 8. Set deadlines to push you to reach them. 9. Take time to step back and evaluate your goals. Are they working for YOU? 10. Last, but most important (we think) Reward yourself when you reach a goal! Did you reach the first one? CELEBRATE you and the fact that you did it! That will help you be more encouraged to keep going. Here are our Social Media links, and resources from today’s episode: The Real Highlight FB Community: (this is a community we are working hard to build—something woman can turn to when shit gets real with life) Please join us and help us build it. Leslie’s Social Media: IG: FB: (Hero starts with Hero with Leslie) Stephanie’s Social Media: IG: FB: (Live a faithful balanced Life with Stephanie) Encouraging verses for daily life and maybe some we mentioned in today’s episode: Psalm 139:14 You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Proverbs 21:5 The plans of the diligent lead surely to abundance. 2 Chronicles 15:7 But you, take courage! Do not let your hands be weak, for your work shall be rewarded. Philippians 3:14 I press on toward the goal for the price of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. We want to hear from YOU!! Please email us with topics, that you might want us to talk about. Things we can dive into WITH YOU. Email us feedback on how we can improve and what you want to hear. We are here because of YOU and for YOU. We love being transparent with you all and we hope you will consider writing us because we love hearing from you and hearing your stories. EMAIL BELOW: chatwithlesandsteph@hotmail.com Until next time guys.
MENTAL HEALTH CHECK
4d ago
MENTAL HEALTH CHECK
Have you checked your mental health lately? Leslie brought some GREAT questions you should be asking yourself if you aren’t feeling things lately. Maybe you don’t feel enough joy as you feel you should. If that is the case, take a few minutes to ask yourself these questions and dive in with us as we discuss this today. It’s the end of June, which means we are halfway thru 2022. Mentally, are you okay? How are you talking to yourself? Who are you around and following on social media? What and how is your confidence level? Because how your portray yourself, is how other perceive you. What are your standards/boundaries and how are you setting them? Did you set any goals for 2022, what have you achieved from your list? How did you set your goals for the year? Here are a few tips on setting goals and NO its not too late to set some goals, boundaries and standards for 2022, at least for the rest of it. Tips for setting goals: 1. Choose a goal(s) that are worthwhile and make YOU HAPPY. 2. Make them achievable- Be realistic. 3. Be Specific. So Specific. If you are the praying the type, Pray about them and PRAY SPECIFIC! 4. Commit to them. 5. Tell people about them. Accountability is a beautiful thing. 6. Prioritize the goals. Don’t be afraid to put them in order by what’s more important or more achievable first. 7. Make the REAL to you—again, be realistic. 8. Set deadlines to push you to reach them. 9. Take time to step back and evaluate your goals. Are they working for YOU? 10. Last, but most important (we think) Reward yourself when you reach a goal! Did you reach the first one? CELEBRATE you and the fact that you did it! That will help you be more encouraged to keep going. Here are our Social Media links, and resources from today’s episode: The Real Highlight FB Community: (this is a community we are working hard to build—something woman can turn to when shit gets real with life) Please join us and help us build it. Leslie’s Social Media: IG: FB: (Hero starts with Hero with Leslie) Stephanie’s Social Media: IG: FB: (Live a faithful balanced Life with Stephanie) Encouraging verses for daily life and maybe some we mentioned in today’s episode: Psalm 139:14 You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Proverbs 21:5 The plans of the diligent lead surely to abundance. 2 Chronicles 15:7 But you, take courage! Do not let your hands be weak, for your work shall be rewarded. Philippians 3:14 I press on toward the goal for the price of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. We want to hear from YOU!! Please email us with topics, that you might want us to talk about. Things we can dive into WITH YOU. Email us feedback on how we can improve and what you want to hear. We are here because of YOU and for YOU. We love being transparent with you all and we hope you will consider writing us because we love hearing from you and hearing your stories. EMAIL BELOW: chatwithlesandsteph@hotmail.com Until next time guys.
Going through the stages of marriage
Jun 21 2022
Going through the stages of marriage
Join Leslie and Stephanie today as they discuss their week with motherhood, learning how to work through the different stages of marriage, trying to balance the everyday work load and still showing up for themselves. They discuss the "7 year itch" of marriage and how every year is hard. When to hold their tongues before starting an arguement at 6:00 am. How it looks when you're out with friends and alcohol is involved. Stephanie and Leslie open up about the truth in what they have experienced in their lives and what has worked for them.  Daily passages to start your day/week: God will cover me with his wings; I will be safe in his care; his faithfulness will protect me and defend me. I need not fear any dangers at night or sudden attacks during the day. PSALMS 91:4-5 It's in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Ephesians 1:11 Here are our Social Media links, and resources from today’s episode: The Real Highlight FB Community: (this is a community we are working hard to build—something woman can turn to when shit gets real with life) Please join us and help us build it. Leslie’s Social Media: IG: FB: Stephanie’s Social Media: IG: FB: We want to hear from YOU!! Please email us with topics, that you might want us to talk about. Things we can dive into WITH YOU. Email us feedback on how we can improve and what you want to hear. We are here because of YOU and for YOU. We love being transparent with you all and we hope you will consider writing us because we love hearing from you and hearing your stories. EMAIL BELOW: chatwithlesandsteph@hotmail.com Until next time guys.
Be Informed not Overwhelmed
Jun 14 2022
Be Informed not Overwhelmed
It’s hard in today’s world NOT to get sucked into the FB and social media vortex of fear. Dive in with us as we touch on this topic and some others as we just chat about life. We both agree that we get stuck in scrolling through social media, the fear creeps in, right? It is so easy to let it steal your joy too. Stephanie talks about a social media fast she took a couple years ago and how that allows her to be more mindful of her scrolling through FB and getting sucked in. Leslie talks about the same thing, how she doesn’t let the negativity set in and steal her good moods for her day. They set their days up right with God’s word and a workout, but also admit its so easy to forget and mindlessly scroll. We encourage you to set limits, If you have an iPhone there is a setting with screen limits you can set for yourself and your kids. It’s a very easy tool to use on the smart phones so you can track where you are spending your time. We weren’t meant to fear anything of this world. Don’t let the fear mongering sink in today and steal your joy. Here are our Social Media links, and resources from today’s episode: The Real Highlight FB Community: (this is a community we are working hard to build—something woman can turn to when shit gets real with life) Please join us and help us build it. Leslie’s Social Media: IG: FB: (Hero starts with Hero with Leslie) Stephanie’s Social Media: IG: FB: (Live a faithful balanced Life with Stephanie)   Encouraging verses to lean on when Fear sinks in; Luke 14:27 “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” Deuteronomy 3:22 “You shall not fear them, for it is the Lord you God who fights for you.” Isaiah 35:4 “Say to those who have an anxious heart, ‘Be Strong and Fear not!’ Behold, your God will come with vengeance, with the recompense of God. He will come and save you.” We want to hear from YOU!! Please email us with topics, that you might want us to talk about. Things we can dive into WITH YOU. Email us feedback on how we can improve and what you want to hear. We are here because of YOU and for YOU. We love being transparent with you all and we hope you will consider writing us because we love hearing from you and hearing your stories. EMAIL BELOW: chatwithlesandsteph@hotmail.com Until next time guys.
Finding your purpose
Jun 7 2022
Finding your purpose
We start off today’s episode talking about How to find Your Purpose. What is God calling you to do in your life? Have you heard His calling over your life? It’s hard to find and figure that out and it doesn’t always have to be a “career move” it could be your calling to be a mom, a servant in your community, or to start a bible study at your local church. Your calling could be anything that God is leading you to do. Something that brings you joy and might come easier to you than others that might be doing something similar. We have shared a few encouraging verses about this and a couple devotionals that might help steer you in this “fork in the road” if you are currently there. If so, we are praying for you. We did end up talking about A LOT more life then just this topic. So make sure you tune in and join us for this chat and please share the episode if it touched you and you think something might need to hear it. Here are our Social Media links, and resources from today’s episode: The Real Highlight FB Community: (this is a community we are working hard to build—something woman can turn to when shit gets real with life) Please join us and help us build it. Leslie’s Social Media: IG: FB: Stephanie’s Social Media: IG: FB: (Live a faithful balanced Life with Stephanie) Encouraging verses about finding your purpose and following his word. Psalms 57.2 "I cry out to God Most High, to God, who fulfills {his purpose} for me". (NIV) Phillippians1.6 "Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus". (NIV) Job.42.2 "I know that you can do all things; no plan of yours can be thwarted." (NIV) A couple plans/devotionals in the YouVersion Bible app: #MADEFOR: Discovering the purpose planted inside you. What is God’s Purpose for my Life? We want to hear from YOU!! Please email us with topics, that you might want us to talk about. Things we can dive into WITH YOU. Email us feedback on how we can improve and what you want to hear. We are here because of YOU and for YOU. We love being transparent with you all and we hope you will consider writing us because we love hearing from you and hearing your stories. EMAIL BELOW: chatwithlesandsteph@hotmail.com Until next time guys.
Our favorite tips to start your morning routine
May 31 2022
Our favorite tips to start your morning routine
First off, we want to start off with a prayer over the families in Texas; Lord may you guide them, may you provide them with the strength, the courage and the understanding for their kids and family member being taken WAY too soon. We ask for peace and comfort in this hard, HARD time for them. Lord may your presence be known with each and every of them that were affected by this tragedy. We pray this over families, the community and every where in between, if you MIGHTY name, Amen. We wanted to take a second to talk about this, as it was on Leslie’s heart, and a lot will ask. WHY? Why does the Lord let things like this happen? Let us start by sharing the comforting verse, John 16:33 reassures that we will have trouble, but to fear not, for he has overcome the world. This is NOT his world we are living in today. We pray that everyone sees that evil is all around us, This tragedy and many others were led by evil, not love. We must continue to love one another. We would also LOVE to share with your our two to three main tips on how we created that morning routine that we both love and cherish so deeply as wives and moms we HAVE to be able to put ourselves first. We both reiterate this is NOT selfish. Leslie’s Three ways of thinking for starting her day: I am tired no matter what time I wake up, whether its 4:00 am or 7:00 am. I'm not always motivated. Those days I make myself get up.  Giving myself that two hours in the morning to be alone has  made me a better wife and mom. It has connected me more with God and helps calm my anxiety. I seriously LOVE my energize and my workouts. Finding something I love to do is HUGE! If you don’t love it, its easy to NOT show up. Stephanie’s Three Tips: Tip #1 Find something that EXCITES you enough to get out of bed. Tip #2 Make yourself do it. This turns into motivation, which then will eventually turn into discipline. Tip #3 Be kind to yourself, when you mess up or skip a day—Don’t give up on that goal. Here are our Social Media links, and resources from today’s episode: The Real Highlight FB Community: (this is a community we are working hard to build—something woman can turn to when shit gets real with life) Please join us and help us build it. Leslie’s Social Media: IG: FB: Stephanie’s Social Media: IG: FB: Link and info on Energize that we both talked about:
EXCITING CHANGES!!!
May 17 2022
EXCITING CHANGES!!!
Guys, we are BEYOND excited to make this announcement together, this has been MONTHS in the making, really!  Months we have talked and prayed a lot about this, and well.. Today is the DAY!  Stephanie will be joining me on my Hero starts with HER podcast as a co-host.  Today we talk about how this relationship transpired and it all started on Social Media. We talk about finding the good in the Social aspect of today’s media.  It can be good, if you let it.  We are proof.  We give some hints on what is to come in the coming weeks on our podcast as we dive into some of our favorite things and topics.  Please join us and give us any feedback you lovely listeners have.  We appreciate you and are grateful for your time always. Here are our Social Media links, and resources from today’s episode: The Real Highlight FB Community:  (this is a community we are working hard to build—something woman can turn to when shit gets real with life)  Please join us and help us build it. Leslie’s Social Media: IG: FB: Stephanie’s Social Media: IG: FB: We want to hear from YOU!! Please email us with topics, that you might want us to talk about.  Things we can dive into WITH YOU.  Email us feedback on how we can improve and what you want to hear.  We are here because of YOU and for YOU.  We love being transparent with you all and we hope you will consider writing us because we love hearing from you and hearing your stories.  EMAIL BELOW: chatwithlesandsteph@hotmail.com   Until next time guys. ♥
Let's normalize talking about sex!
Apr 26 2022
Let's normalize talking about sex!
How do we approach this topic? OUCH!! It’s a tough one. It really is, if you sit back and think about it. Were you talked to about this? Did your parents give you the talk? If so, what and how did they do it? Dive in with us as we talk about this “shameful” topic now days? Why can’t we talk about intimacy in our marriages? Why can’t we normalize, as moms and wives to talk about this. It can be a stressor if we let it. So why not talk it out with some girlfriends. Maybe if we did that more often, we would know HOW to approach this topic with our teens. In this world, if we don’t stand up and teach them what is right and how God created intimacy and sex. Then this world and its secular view will teach them something different. Maybe that won’t align with your values. So, grab a bottle of water or a glass of wine and listen as we tackle this topic. Here are our Social Media links, and resources from today’s episode: The Real Highlight FB Community: Leslie’s Social Media: IG: FB: Stephanie’s Social Media: IG: FB: Bible Verses: Ephesians 5:3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. Ephesians 5:33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Genesis 2:24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Other Podcasts mentioned on our show: Sex w/Emily: Heaven in your home:   Great read regarding a Biblical teaching on this topic: What Does the Bible Actually Teach About Sex? (crosswalk.com)
Finding Friends as a Mom
Apr 20 2022
Finding Friends as a Mom
How do we make friends as a mom?  How do we find other moms that aren’t judgmental of how we raise our kids or live our lives?  How do we make friends in general?  Dive in with us as we talk about how we struggled and still do struggle with making friends and even relationships in general.  Join us as we talk about these topics that other women and moms might struggle with but not understand why.  Find out as we talk about how Leslie got through losing a friend of 20+ years. And how Stephanie gained a new perspective on friendships and her phase of life. Bullet Points from today’s talk with Leslie and Stephanie: Giving it to Jesus. Laying down your relationships and friendships.   What phase of life are you in? And will it matter on who you can and will put your time into? Learning how to let go of those friendships that have been removed from your life. Here are our Social Media links, and resources from today’s episode: The Real Highlight FB Community: Leslie’s Social Media: IG: FB: Stephanie’s Social Media: IG: FB: Bible Verses: 1 Corinthians 15:33. Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11. Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing. Proverbs 27:17. As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. Proverbs 13:20. He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm. Bible Devotionals available on the YouVersion Bible app:
*Survivor Story* Silencing of Grief with Tina Saad
Apr 5 2022
*Survivor Story* Silencing of Grief with Tina Saad
XXTRIGGER WARNINGXX  Content in today's episode are graphic.  In today's episode Leslie speaks with Tina Saad and her story of sexual abuse as a young child. After it had happened Tina was silenced and told never to speak of it again. Tina shares her story of growing up with this secret and what it did to her. Fast forward to herself becoming a parent and finding out both of her children had become victims. Tina was silenced again, and was told "this is a family matter". Tina knew what this had done to her as a young child and she wasn't going to allow that to happen to her children. Tune in to listen how Tina lived in silence for years and is now speaking out for herself, her children and for so many others that need it.  The damages caused by child sexual abuse last a long time without the proper healing. Post-Traumatic Stress DisorderDisrupted sleep patterns and nightmaresRegression to more infantile behavior (bed-wetting, etc.)Problems with memory, cognition and attentivenessChange in appetite or eating behaviorsInability to trust othersControlling behaviors or involvement in exploitative relationshipsPowerlessness, vulnerability and avoidant responses, such as running awayTendency to withdraw from relationships and societyA fear of intimacy or commitmentParanoia/hyper-vigilance/phobiasRe-victimizationHigher incidence of mental and emotional disorders, such as anxiety, depression or eating disorders For more information, read: Child Sexual Abuse Warning Signs and Resources. You can find Tina on IG at,
Finding Fertility with Monica Cox
Feb 15 2022
Finding Fertility with Monica Cox
Monica Cox here, Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner and Infertility Expert. Ready to discover what you need to do to improve your fertility? Dealing with infertility for nine-years has brought her here. As Monica was fighting to find the answer to her unexplained infertility, she discovered that infertility can have nothing to do with your lady bits!  A miscarriage survivor, IVF mom & pregnant natural even though the doctors said there was nothing she could do to improve her situation, she was on a mission to make your journey a little less dramatic. Monica spent six years searching for an answer to her unexplained infertility, which included never seeing a BFP and two failed IVFs. After decided to make some dramatic diet and lifestyle changes to improve her fertility health and requested immune tests, even though the doctors told her that she wasn’t a candidate for such testing. Monica is the author of the best-seller Baby & Me mindfulness journal and host of the highly popular podcast Finding Fertility.  Her signature online programs Fertility Food, The Finding Fertility Formula & personal Fertility Focused Coaching have helped woman discover the root cause of their infertility, improve their health and get pregnant.  Monica inspires over 20,000 followers on Instagram @findingfertility & TikTok @findingfertility to look beyond their infertility diagnosis and take control of their health through clean eating and simplifying their lifestyle.
Holding Space for Pregnancy & Infant loss with Lola Brognano
Feb 1 2022
Holding Space for Pregnancy & Infant loss with Lola Brognano
Lola Brognano is an extensively trained Licensed Clinical Social Worker in private practice in Tallahassee, Florida and passionately believes that Maternal Mental Health Care is a necessity, not a privilege. She is a certified Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorder Specialist, a Birth Trauma Level 2 Specialist, and is a certified Pregnancy & Infant Loss Advocate. Lola also has specialized training in Reproductive & Fertility Psychology. Lola's work is centered around Maternal/Perinatal Mental Health issues such as Postpartum Depression, Perinatal & Infant Loss/Grief, Labor & Delivery, NICU or Reproductive/Birth Trauma that is inclusive of High Risk Pregnancies, and the Fertility Spectrum that includes Carrier Consultations, IVF, Multiple loss, Adoption, and Infertility. Having received extensive training in her field, and being committed to supporting those affected by Maternal Mental Health issues, Lola has been able to ensure her clients receive holistic, quality and specialized Mental Health Care by accepting Medicaid to provide access to quality care, as well as offering low cost sessions with one of her registered clinical social work interns that are receiving specialized supervision for Maternal Mental Health. Lola currently offers local classes and trainings to community stakeholders and specialized consultation for providers and for clinical interns through her LLC, Lola Brognano, LCSW.  She is also the facilitator for Cherished Mom's free, bi-weekly virtual Perinatal Grief & Loss Support Group that can be found at: Referrals or to schedule an appointment, please contact via email or text. Her email is: lolabrognanolcsw@gmail.com Her text is: 850-888-0136