Conversations for Ally

Ebonnie Whan

A podcast hosted by Ebonnie Whan. 'Conversations for Ally' shares the real life, everyday stories of Australian women from the bush. Join us with a cuppa as we have a yarn and share some of life's most challenging, gruelling, uplifting and joyous experiences. You'll hear true resilience shine through as we learn about how these women have overcome some huge adversities as well as what tools they use on a daily basis to regain a sense of peace, normality and happiness in their lives again. This podcast series is being created in loving memory of Ebonnie's dear friend, Dr Alexandra Jane Tapp. read less

Episode 6: Shanna Whan
Feb 27 2021
Episode 6: Shanna Whan
Today you’re going to hear from my sister in law, Shanna Whan. Please be aware that this episode does deal with sensitive topics and adult themes. If you find this triggers anything for you, please phone Lifeline on 13 11 14. In an emergency, call 000 or go to your nearest hospital Emergency Department. Rural Adversity Mental Health Program: Linking people to Mental Health Support ramhp.com.au  Shan and I have known each other for eleven years. My husband Pete and Shan’s husband Tim are brothers and very close so we see each other regularly and really love their company. Tim and Shan are a fabulous aunty and uncle to our children and we’re very glad that Shan has been able to recover from her addiction to alcohol, to allow our relationships to flourish. For about 20 years, alcohol ruled Shan’s life, and ultimately nearly took it. 6 years ago she hit rock bottom and she describes it as a miracle that she was able to truly acknowledge there was a problem and begin to heal. Now Shan is the founder and CEO of the national charity, Sober in the Country (https://www.soberinthecountry.org/) who are an independent not-for-profit charity addressing alcohol harm in the bush through their #OK2SAYNO campaign & via advocacy, social impact and providing a rural members only peer-to-peer support group. Pete and I, and our extended family, are very proud of all she has achieved so far and look forward to seeing what more is to come. I was a bit nervous to record this podcast with Shan, or Shania as I affectionately call her because she’s so gifted at speaking and being able to get her message across, but I soon relaxed and realised that it was just us, having a cuppa in the home Tim and Shan recently moved into which is the old family church belonging to the Whans, dedicated to our husbands’ great grandmother and actually where Pete and I were married 8 years ago. You’ll hear Shan scold her new puppy, Mallee; her new companion for loyal and elderly Blue Heeler, Fleabag. It was a little snapshot that I thought was too good to edit out. It was a special bush setting, for a special conversation. This is Shanna’s story.
Episode 5: Pattie Lettice
Nov 26 2020
Episode 5: Pattie Lettice
Today you’re going to hear from Pattie Lettice. But first a little back story… I was born in Moree and grew up on the North West Slopes and Plains of NSW. My mum’s family is from Mungindi on the NSW QLD border and I’ve always said that’s the centre of my soul. I had to go away for high school and uni and was homesick for the North West for 13 years. I knew if I became a teacher that I would get a job at Moree or Mungindi - that was the dream. I’ve always had a real connection to that country. Towards the end of my degree however I met my now husband in Narrabri and that is where I ended up. I love it here and loved talking about our western towns with Pattie for this podcast such as Walgett, Lightning Ridge and Brewarrina. 10 years ago I moved back to Narrabri to do my internship at Narrabri Public School under Craig Jollow and this is where I met Pattie Lettice, our AEO or Aboriginal Education Officer. I took an instant liking to her and have always enjoyed hearing parts of her story. I’ve taught at nine schools in our district and have learnt that Pattie is an absolute stand out in the way that she conducts herself, her inclusive attitude and passion for reigniting her culture with our kids. We share a passion for teaching children and she continues to inspire me to love all children, despite their background, home life or what we might perceive to be their limited potential. Pattie is a living example that no matter where you come from or what you go through, if you set yourself a goal and work hard, you can achieve it. Pattie is a very proud Gamilaraay woman, married to her husband Noel, of 34 years and mother to too many children to count. In December of 2016 Pattie and Noel lost their only daughter Kia to cancer at age 22. Obviously that was a devastating loss for their family and I love seeing how they continue to honour Kia’s memory and carry her with them wherever they go. Our own daughter Bridie started kindergarten at Narrabri Public School this year. Like many families, we’ve missed watching her in her first year of school as we’d imagined. To celebrate NAIDOC week this year, Pattie taught all kindergarten children an Acknowledgement of Country song in language. It was filmed and shared on social media for families to see. I was very overwhelmed by this, here was our daughter who doesn’t identify as being Aboriginal but being included in this cultural opportunity which represented to me that we are moving forward. Pattie makes me more proud to be Australian and also a part of our wonderful Narrabri Shire community. If you’re looking for a resilient, Australian woman from this bush, look no further than Pattie Lettice.
Episode 3: Virginia Tapscott Part 2
Sep 20 2020
Episode 3: Virginia Tapscott Part 2
In this episode which is Part 2, Virginia shares about how Ally developed a problem with drugs and alcohol, her self harming, factors surrounding sexual abuse and rape, suicidal thoughts and the end of Ally’s life. You’ll also notice how much Alex achieved despite what she had endured. This part of Ginny’s story was not easy to record and it’s not always easy listening but we know that it’s the right thing to do. Alex was my oldest friend and has been one of the most significant people in my life, she even introduced me to my husband. We always said we’d be best friends forever and as much as I desperately miss her now, the least I can do is make sure people keep saying her name. Please be aware that this episode does deal with sensitive topics and adult themes. Trigger Warning: sexual abuse, rape, eating disorder, suicidal thoughts, drug and alcohol abuse, drug overdose.  In an emergency, call 000 or go to your nearest hospital Emergency Department. National Crisis Numbers: Lifeline: 13 11 14 Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 Rural Adversity Mental Health Program: Linking people to Mental Health Support ramhp.com.au  If you get something out of this episode, please give it a rating on your podcast app and share this post so other people can find it easier. ** Virginia lives on a farm between Albury and Holbrook and our connection dropped out a few times for a couple of seconds so apologies in advance if you notice a gap every now and then.