PODCAST

The Confident Healer

Sharmila Mali

Learn from healers as they talk about being confident in their healing business. We will take a deep dive and talk to all types of healers and learn what inspires them, where their confidence comes from and how they keep moving through the whirlwind of being a healer and entrepreneur—a healerpreneur (and so much more).

S2E17 What is Reiki and how does Reiki/energy healing work?
So what is Reiki anyway, Sharmila? Well, I am so glad you asked because that’s what this week’s episode is about! I give many examples of how we experience energy in our everyday lives and we apply that to healing.  I also give a  what a Reiki micro-session, so you know what Reiki feels like. It’s near the end of the episode.  Hopefully, you will understand Reiki healing and energy healing more and if you would like to experience a session, you can book an appointment: https://www.ojaireiki.com/scheduleyoursession Shownotes: -I started my Reiki journey for my own personal self-healing. -What is Reiki? -A Japanese type of healing either hands-on or done remotely. -Can be done across time, distance;  you don’t have to be physically touching someone. -We are all energy beings. -What does this expression mean:  I don’t have the energy or I have so much energy right now. -Reiki/energy healing is a meditative state that facilitates healing with intention. -Practitioner channels infinite energy to another person, using their Divine Guides. -In last week’s episode, “how to stop absorbing other people’s energy” I mentioned that you don’t need to fix; or use all of your energy, you can get help from your guides. -Some energy healers have a mentality that they need to fix the person because that’s what healing is. -You can’t fix this person, you can help alleviate a sense of relief. -Example of feeling drained of energy is child-rearing, so you can prevent physical exhaustion. -Reiki helps clear, ground, relieving some kind of stress in your life. -Does this make sense, if it is or isn’t let me know you can leave me a voice message on theconfidenthealer.net website. -There is an energy exchange with this podcast, you are drawn to me because something about me resonates with you. -Reiki, energy healing allows you to work outside the box, you use all of your senses and more even when you are receiving. -Visualize how the energy works, it comes from your infinite source, and imagine the energy coming out of your crown, third eye, and or heart chakra, flowing down and out of your hands. -To help you understand what energy/Reiki is, you can give a texture to the energy to help you connect with it more, maybe it’s like water or light. -Another example of energetic interaction to help you understand, is walking into a room and you know whether or not you want to be there,  there is something you are feeling that makes you not want to be there. That’s an energy that you do interact with on a daily without realizing it. -That’s where you follow your intuition and leave. -Some people have fear about Reiki or energy healing because they don’t want someone messing with their energy. -Most healing practitioners aren’t nefarious, they are very altruistic and want to help people because it’s their calling. -Of course, there are people scamming others, but they are easy to spot if you are discerning enough. -My Reiki experiences after the 1st level were exciting because I felt like King Midas, I felt like I had a golden, healing touch. -Reiki changed my life in so many great ways and brought a deeper healing experience so that I could be more self-reliant. -I would practice before going to work, after waking up, I would practice Reiki on myself. -Reiki can validate you, like if you have psychic abilities that you shut off since you were a kid. -A little history of Reiki, started by a Japanese Buddhist, Mikao Usui. -Downloaded a healing system after meditating for 21 days. -Reiki is different from other energy healing systems because a Reiki Master Teacher initiates or attunes the student to Reiki. -Energy healing teaches you how to connect with energy, using meridians, and visualizations, but there is no attunement process like in the Reiki system. -Either way, they are both effective. -The way I teach, are the traditional Usui Reiki attunements and Reiki hand positions, plus teaching energy healing techniques, and helping you find your own intuitive healing gifts. -Practice is key to growing your healing abilities and growing your intuition. -Practice Reiki, tapping into that universal energy flow -I transmit Reiki through the episode so that you can experience it. Mentioned in the episode: Here is the application  link for the Confident Healer Training Certification https://forms.gle/qHAXxuxW6geUCK4S9 About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 19 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. FB: @SharmilaTheSelfLoveExpert IG: @sharmilatheselfloveexpert  TIKTOK: @confidenthealer Support the Confident Healer: -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone that needs it. Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Produced and Edited by Sharmila Mali
Apr 18 2022
34 mins
S2E16How to Stop Absorbing Other People’s Energy
What are your best practices on how to stop absorbing other people’s energy?  Or are you trying to figure out that one yourself? This week, I walk you through 8-9 techniques that I use as part of my energy hygiene practices and setting boundaries.  This is really needed if you practice energy/Reiki healing, psychology, or in any healing art (including medical doctors).  This is great for empaths, and Highly Sensitive People (HSP). Implement some of these techniques, and you will feel so much lighter, the heaviness will dissipate and you will feel so much more expansive and comfortable in your own skin. This is a module I have taught in my past Reiki workshops and in my new 9 month Confident Healer Training Certification that starts in May. Shownotes: -We are energy beings, we are emotional beings. -We are all empathic, we all have different levels of how much energy we take from others. -Why it’s important to have clean our energy and have boundaries. -This is something Sharmila teaches in her 9 month Confident Healer Training certification which starts in May. -Especially for empathic healers, energy healers, it’s very important to establish boundaries and know how to clear your energy, and how to stop absorbing other people’s stuff. -Imagine energy like shit, people emanate their shittiness by smearing it on the wall, and you walk in and you see and smell the shit. -That’s how our aura works, and that’s how it affects us, the stench of their shit affects you. -You can learn how to not absorb someone’s energy. -Give the conversation a time limit when you don’t want to spend too much time with the person. -Tip #1 ground yourself when you talk to this person. Hang up on them, and then call them back once you ground yourself. -Tip #2 do the 3 layers of protection from Fairy godmother Georgie Weston. -Tip #3: 1st layer of protection is a few inches or many feet in front of you, imagine something hard, like Teflon. -2nd layer of protection.  Make this layer another few inches or feet from the first layer, again, imaging a hard, protective layer, i.e. Teflon. -Imagine these layers like a cylinder around your body, this is your where your aura is. -3rd layer is another few inches or more surrounding the 2nd layer, and you imagine a puffy, pink cloud of unconditional love. -Tip #4 to cleanse your aura rake your area, spread your fingers like a rake, or imagine a rake and extend your arms and hands as far as you can and rake in front of you from top to bottom, your sides, and the back of your body. -Make sure you shake your hands with that energetic debris and shake off the energy with the intention of sending it to the earth to recycle. -Tip 5 being aware of any beliefs you have about helping someone, that you must take their pain away and you hold on to it, not realizing it. -Not being aware of your philosophy about taking on other people’s pain leads to burn-out, fatigue, and not wanting to do healing work anymore. -Tip #6: go to an energy healer to help clear your aura on a regular basis -Tip#7 Call in your divine guides, goddess, whatever deity you resonate it you call them in to hold space for you, you can do this per hour, or for the day, etc. -For agnostics and atheists, you can imagine a comfy chair for your people to sit in and lean on the arm of the chair instead of leaning on you. -You will still hold space for people, you can’t help it, but asking a divine entity to hold space for you, will relieve a lot of energy and you can keep 95% of your own energy, you don’t need to drain yourself anymore. -Calling in your Divine Guides, is like a prayer, you get into meditation and ask them to hold space. -Tip 8 take a salt bath, or salt scrub, or if you can get to the beach and get into the water by wading or taking a dip in the ocean. Salt cleanses the aura. -Practice these techniques for good energy hygiene and watch how much happier you feel by doing it. -Sharmila teaches these techniques in her 9-month Confident Healing training certification starting in May, grab the application on www.ojaireiki.com, and for more information contact info@ojaireiki.com -She is starting 2/month Reiki Soundbath, starting April 15, it will be 2nd and last Friday of each month, www.ojaireiki.com for more information -Grab your free Energy Hygiene checklist until the end of May 2022 from https://www.ojaireiki.com/theconfidenthealerpodcast Mentioned in the episode: Here is the application  link for the Confident Healer Training Certification https://forms.gle/qHAXxuxW6geUCK4S9 Reiki Soundbath, starting April 15, it will be 2nd and last Friday of each month, www.ojaireiki.com for more information. Grab your free Energy Hygiene checklist until end of May 2022 from https://www.ojaireiki.com/theconfidenthealerpodcast About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 19 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. FB: @SharmilaTheSelfLoveExpert IG: @sharmilatheselfloveexpert  TIKTOK: @confidenthealer Support the Confident Healer: -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone that needs it. Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Produced and Edited by Sharmila Mali
Apr 12 2022
41 mins
Energetic Alchemy and Learning Reiki with Yolanda Williams
This week, we have a serene and gorgeous soul, Yolanda Williams, Self-Mastery Mentor, certified Reiki Master, and host of the Reiki Radio podcast. Like many people, Yolanda found Reiki because she was seeking a way to alleviate her stress and anxiety from transitioning out of the financial corporate sector. Her natural confidence, a great sense of self-worth, and self-esteem didn’t waver too much as her Reiki practice organically began to form as she joyfully practiced on family and friends. She started the Reiki Radio podcast, (now it’s in its ninth year), to discuss her experiences with Reiki in hopes to help other Reiki practitioners because she couldn't find enough information about what happens after you take a Reiki class and start to practice on yourself and others.  She also interviews other spiritual healers about their work and self-improvement.  Check out her new deck coming soon, The Energetic Alchemist oracle deck a blend of Tarot and oracle with beautiful original art. You can purchase those on her website, www.energeticalchemist.com Show Notes: -Introduction to the guest, Yolanda Williams, Self-Mastery Mentor, certified Reiki Master, and host of Reiki Radio podcast. -Discussion of Yolanda podcasting for 9 years, why she started, and how it’s grown -Yolanda started podcasting because she wanted to create a community to discuss how Reiki works and to answer questions. -Are clients different now during the pandemic, and coming out of it discussion -Yolanda notices clients are hungry to self-soothe, self-heal to navigate the enormous changes -prior to the pandemic people came to her to heal others, to start their own Reiki practice. -Most clients come to her to learn Reiki to focus on their own well-being and self-care. -Yolanda’s tools to get through lockdown were to be with her family, she became bi-coastal after family and friends passed away that lived in the East coast. -Yolanda’s Alchemy Circle, a community for Reiki practitioners to offer support, and guided meditations was borne from being in the pandemic lockdown. -Serendipity played a big part for Yolanda after being laid off from the corporate sector -She started to feel very stressed and anxious, and an astrologer recommended she take a meditation class and get Reiki sessions. -She started to take Reiki classes and started to practice on friends and family, and organically, her friends started to refer people to her. -She was detached from the results so she didn’t feel any pressure, and didn’t feel the need to convince people about Reiki. -Yolanda was sharing from her direct experience, she thought Reiki was amazing, and other people thought Reiki was amazing, too. -As her Reiki practice grew into a more formal practice, she made sure to NOT put pressure on herself. -She went through her own dark night of the soul in the beginning of her practice. -She would work on people, and she was also going through her “ick” and she started to feel resentful. -Realized she was holding space for others and realized her self-healing practice wasn’t enough, she needed someone to hold space for her. -Her goal was never to be a healer, and she still doesn’t put that pressure on herself or label herself a healer. -She studied with different 8 Reiki teachers, to get different perspectives, and spent a lot of money on Reiki classes, and retreats. -Realized that many people in the healing communities struggle with charging money for their work. -She came from a corporate background and understood that your time is valuable, you invested a lot of time and money to develop your healing abilities, why wouldn’t you charge for that exchange. -How long did it take from taking her first Reiki classes to formally charge money for Reiki? -Understands that in the spiritual community people struggle to take money in exchange for providing services. -She instills to her listeners and Reiki students to honor their time, their training, the financial investment they made to hone their craft. -It’s all mindset, if it’s valuable to you, act like it, how long are you going to hold on to that story of not charging money in exchange for providing healing services.  -Yolanda stated that she invested in building a website, making the podcast, and newsletters. -If she is investing that, she needs to have an exchange of monies in order to continue sharing her love of Reiki. -Sharmila explains her view of self-worth and self-esteem in terms of an economic chart, there is a baseline, anything below, to her, is the poverty level--very little to no sense of self-worth or self-esteem, anything above the baseline is good to a high sense of self-esteem and self-worth.  -Yolanda answers that she did have a healthy sense of self-esteem and self-worth and that it’s true that low self-worth and self-esteem attributes to struggles with money with spiritual services. -Yolanda talks about how people have a certain idea of what you are expected to earn money for and paying for, it’s okay to earn money at a corporate job, for instance. -She says more people are becoming spiritual entrepreneurs and entrepreneurs in general in the past few years. -And if you are working, you are showing up then you can expect to charge for the services that you are offering. Guest Contact Info: Yolanda Williams http://theenergeticalchemist.com IG: @reikiradio FB: @teareiki YouTube: Reiki Radio Podcast Guest Bio: Yolanda Williams Yolanda Williams. She is a  Self-Mastery Mentor, certified Reiki Master, and host of the Reiki Radio podcast. She uses a blend of techniques to help clients and students achieve deeper connections with themselves, which facilitates new levels of self-awakening and reveals the dynamics of mind, body, and energy. Her methods have helped Reiki practitioners, globally, and she is currently authoring an oracle deck to highlight your connection, relationship, and understanding of what it means to be an authentic expression of true nature. Yolanda trained with internationally recognized Reiki Masters in the lineages of Usui Reiki Ryoho and Jikiden Reiki®. She also trained with shamans and healers of various modalities, increasing her intuitive abilities and exploration of transformative self-observation. Her classes include Usui Reiki Ryoho, all levels, in San Diego, as well as mentoring and intuitive awakening courses, online.     About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 19 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert  TIKTOK: @confidenthealer Support the Confident Healer: -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone that needs it. Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Produced  by Sharmila Mali Edited by Chris Jessup
Apr 4 2022
54 mins
Done Taking Shit from your Narcissistic Partner
Episode: Done Taking Shit from the Taking Care of Number F***ing One podcast Do not adjust your dial, you are in the right place! This is The Confident Healer podcast, it’s me Sharmila Mali. You are hearing different music and a different voice because of a special event that I am participating in,  it’s called Operation Switcheroo, for April Fool's Day. This is where podcasters play an episode from another podcast, hence switcheroo. This episode does have cursing in it:  You are about to listen to Stacy Carlin from the Taking care of Number Fucking One podcast to support people going through narcissistic abuse. Stacy says: Recovering from narcissistic abuse is a healing journey. You need to learn how to set boundaries and gain control back over your life. Stacy Carlin will share her journey with you as she supports and guides you in your own. So please stay tuned, and listen to this episode, which is called Done Taking Shit. It will help you recognize the manipulation patterns from your partner, which is the m.o. of a narcissistic person. If you love this episode please subscribe to her podcast which is Taking Care of Number Fucking One. I will definitely interview her on a future episode, and I look forward to that conversation! I will be dropping my new episode on Monday, not to worry about that. Let’s get back to Stacy Carlin’s episode Done Taking Shit, I hope you enjoy this episode and happy April Fool’s Day! Guest info: Stacy Carlin www.stacycarlin.com Social Media:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/449638236580389 Boot the Narc Boot Camp IG: https://www.instagram.com/stacy__carlin/ TikTok: stacy_carlin YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnwuX5iYXuzhiXNnlRoNAMA About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 19 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert  TIKTOK: @confidenthealer Support the Confident Healer: -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone that needs it. Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Audio effects: https://freesound.org/s/431778/ Creative Commons License Edited by Sharmila and Stacy Carlin
Apr 1 2022
24 mins
Ask the Akashic Records part 4
This is part 4 in the Akashic Record series, I am just having so much fun answering questions that you send me! We get answers to some great questions such as what is the energy for the week, and I answered a listener’s question (with the listener’s permission) to ask Ancient Mother’s Akashic Record about using a pendulum and getting answers that later turns out to be the opposite. Let me know if you want to ask a question for the Akashic Records, or have a topic you would like for me to cover regarding healing. I would love to hear from you. Show Notes -Part four in the Ask the Akashic Record series -Look out for more information about the new Confident Healer certification program, 9 months of in-depth healing, developing your intuition and getting certified in all 3 levels or Reiki -What is the energy for this week is asked to Ancient Mother’s Akashic Record -Finding peace on Earth by connecting to the Earth by lying or sitting on the bare earth -If everyone did this, the love from you will amplify Earth’s energy -It helps to move your stagnant, excess energy, joy, sorry, depression, etc -What does the world need to know about this week another question for Ancient Mother’s Akashic Record -“Her” records say: tumultuous, it’s a natural part of the life -Remedy is to walk in nature -Ancient Mother answer’s the questions: What are the Akashic Record, this is a request by a friend of Sharmila -A listener asked Sharmila about why the pendulum isn’t accurate for the lister -Ancient Mother’s Akashic Records answers a listener’s question about using a pendulum -Being attached especially if dowsing yourself -Manage expectations of yourself and the other person is projecting on you About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 19 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert  TIKTOK: @confidenthealer Support the Confident Healer: -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone that needs it. Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Edited by Sharmila Mali Sound Engineer: Chris Jessup
Mar 21 2022
14 mins
Ask The Akashic Records Series 3
This is the 3rd episode in the Ask the Akashic Record Series. This episode centers around fear. Why fear? Because I had opened my Akashic Records and asked what would be the best subject for me and my listeners and it all centered around fear: fear of love, fear of asking for money in your business, fear of receiving what you asked for This episode helps you move through fear with very practical and loving guidance.  And we could all sure use some loving guidance right now. Show Notes: -New healer training, the Confident Healer Reiki training, 6 months comprehensive certification in Intuitive Healing and Reiki Levels 1 and 2 -Introduction of Ancient Mother, the energy describes who “she” is -Ancient Mother is the ancestor of all living beings on this planet, including mountains, oceans, animals -How do we move through fear to learn to trust and love again -Forgiveness of yourself and the other person/people that you felt hurt by -I asked what if you were in an abusive relationship -Ancient Mother says to find some level of forgiveness even out of the worst intention, the person you were involved with acted out of their pain -How to get through the fear of asking for money in your business -Breathe and find your way through the fear, remembering why you are doing what you are doing -Believe in what you are offering and realize that both you and your customer/client will benefit from what you are offering -It’s natural to have fear about asking for money in business -Grounding yourself will help to allay your fears -Work from your highest good -How to not sabotage yourself when you do get what you asked for -How to move on when you didn’t make a sale -Believe in your product/service that you offer -What do you do when your business slows down and the flow of people that were coming to you and stops and those people go to other people -Why do I avoid exposure when having a business Let me know if you want to ask a question for the Akashic Records, or have a topic you would like for me to cover regarding healing. I would love to hear from you About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali is a Self-Love Expert, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader and a podcaster.  For the past 19 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert  TIKTOK: @confidenthealer Support the Confident Healer: -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone that needs it. Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Produced and edited by Sharmila Mali
Mar 16 2022
21 mins
Ask The Akashic Records series 2Ask The Akashic Records
In this week’s episode, I did an Akashic Record reading.  And boy, did it ever apply to my life right now.  I asked my friends to give me questions that they wanted to ask the Akashic Records. My friends gave me a nice list of questions that I will go through in my new series, Ask The Akashic Records.  The questions for this episode have a theme of how to the stress of the environmental crisis, and how to deal with our unconscious behaviors in terms of causing harm to others. The answers were quite surprising! Show Notes: -I explained that I asked whose record do I open for the human collective, and my records told me to open the Akashic Records of the “people listening to this podcast” -Invited the audience to send me questions they would like to ask the Akashic Records, or a topic they would like for me to cover, a guest they would like me to interview or just reach out -Asked the Akashic Records how can we practically minimize the impact of our own unconsciousness on others? -They answered: by being in the present moment -they also suggested that using self-reflective exercises like meditation, prayer, journaling, being nature were all ways to stay in the Now, the present moment Let me know if you want to ask a question for the Akashic Records, or have a topic you would like for me to cover regarding healing. I would love to hear from you About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 19 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert  TIKTOK: @confidenthealer Support the Confident Healer: -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone that needs it. Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Produced and edited by Sharmila Mali
Mar 1 2022
26 mins
How to stop the inner critic
How to stop the inner critic This week I was inspired by a client who wished a movie I recommended to her (Violet amazon Prime) would have shown how to get out of the cycle of the inner critic.  You know that evil voice inside your head that is always criticizing you.  The inner perfectionist that will let you know that you are never good enough.   The inner critic, is also referred to as negative self-talk, negative voice, and also beating yourself up.  If you have one or know of someone that does, please listen to this episode.  And learn how to stop the inner critic, it can be done because I overcame it. There a many ways to get out of the cycle of the inner critic, the negative self-talk, beating yourself up. In this episode, I talk about 3 ways to stop the inner critic. I also talk about my own struggles with my inner critic and the list I discuss is what helped me silence that inner critic. I feel so free and less heavy because I stopped criticising myself.  It’s important to say good things about yourself, instead of saying shitty, terrible things.  Let me know if this episode helped you, I would love to hear from you! About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali, in case you didn’t know, is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 15 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert  TIKTOK: @confidenthealer Support the Confident Healer: -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone that needs it. Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Produced and edited by Sharmila Mali
Feb 15 2022
26 mins
Helping South Asian Menstruaters find Empowerment
This week, I welcome back my guest from a few episodes ago, (S2E4) Jonita D’souza to discuss how South Asians teach people that the most natural event that happens to a person is a time of impurity: menstruation. .   If you are squeamish about this topic, I suggest to lean in because you know someone that menstruates no matter who you are, and since more than half the population bleeds every month for 5-8 days, understanding how old-world cultures view menstruation might give you more appreciation and how resilient menstruaters are.    The stigmas in my Nepali culture about menstruation in my opinion are archaic and steeped in some patriarchal bull shit. Plain and simple.   Please tell me how, if you believe that god created you, then god also created you to bleed every month, but during that time, god says you are dirty, impure? Naw, dude.  God didn’t say that. Who made that rule up? So if a menstruater believes in god, and that during that time you are impure, dirty, you are not allowed to perform your aarti? Or like Jonita who grew up Christian, she along with other menstruaters are not allowed to take holy communion. Or a  Muslim menstruater in India, that you aren’t allowed to pray (she mentions that in the episode)? Yeah, it boggles my mind that people still carry on these traditions, but maybe, just maybe we can evolve, and people can stop putting their young girls and women all alone in period huts in rural areas of Nepal where danger and death can befall them. https://abcnews.go.com/Health/wireStory/menstruation-huts-destroyed-nepal-exile-persists-68346515 We discussed our experience of our respective South Asian families and South Asian society's rules we had to abide by when we were on our period. Jonita offers some of her teachings on how to reclaim and be empowered while on your period.  It was a fascinating and eye-opening conversation for me, because I feel disempowered and drained when on my period. Topics discussed: - Sharmila talks about her experience growing up Hindu in America and being on her period - Jonita also talks about growing up in India as a Christian menstruating woman, witnessing her Hindu and Muslim friends traditions around their periods - Conflicting message equating menstruating to being dirty - Jonita found reverence with her period through Ayurveda - Jonita discovered that in ancient India women were honored when they were on their period -Jonita also talks about how in other cultures, thousands of years ago there is evidence in other cultures about the reverence for women and their menses. -Jonita talks about changing your perspective starting with being okay with your blood -Self-care during your period with nutrition, meditation, etc -Advanced practices for using your menstrual blood About the guest, Jonita D'souza Jonita D’souza is a Feminine Lifestylist, an Author and Creatress of Exploring Femininity Ltd., assisting modern-day busy women who struggle with burn-out, overwhelm and body love to reconnect with their feminine and sensual energy using the ancient Taoist and Tantric arts, so that they can create a lifestyle that is fulfilling, nurturing and pleasurable. She is also a certified Life Coach, NLP Practitioner, Master Hypnotherapist and combines the teachings of Indian feminine mysticism and shamanism in her work, facilitating monthly moon circles, online workshops and sacred feminine retreats. jonitadsouza.com  FB: @exploringfemininity www.youtube.com/channel/UC6UoCyuUA5J8hWcLGc2yUow About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali, in case you didn’t know,  is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 15 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. Sharmilamali.com FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert TikTok: @confidenthealer https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEcso8CuyKEae6pIp9Afjsg Support the Confident Healer: -If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it! Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Produced  Sharmila Mali Edited by Chris Jessup
Dec 14 2021
48 mins
Grieving as a spiritual practice builds confidence with Neelam Nanvani
Where do you find the courage and strength to continue running your business after your spouse and business partner suddenly die? This week’s guest, Neelam Nanvani will tell you, the only out of grief, is through. It’s been challenging, to say the very least and, yet Neelam has found a deeper connection to the Divine within.  She had to continue a new women's mentorship program she was teaching when her husband suddenly fell ill and then died within a week. Through her grief, she was able to be a channel in her mentorship program and taught new concepts and a deeper understanding to the Divine Feminine. For her, Shamanism is not just another healing modality, it is a Way of Life, a way from which anything and everything springs, births, and evolves. Neelam is also a highly evolved facilitator in the areas of Shadow work, trans-generational wounds and Inner Child work. She also teaches about Dream work as practiced in indigenous Shamanic societies and how we can use the gift of Dreams to heal. She calls dreams, “Oracles of the Night.” Evolving into BEing a voice for the Divine Feminine and The Empowered Woman.   Topics discussed in this episode: -Neelam discusses her grief process being lonely and no support in her grief -Her husband died very quickly during the start of her women’s mentorship program -She observed how masculine we have become in our grieving process -Grit and glory, and bypassing emotions -Grief is a doorway to a deeper feminine journey that people have forgotten -People forgot how to be a human -Her husband’s friends and colleagues turned silent because they didn’t know what to say to Neelam -She canceled the other programs that people had signed up before -She became a conduit during the women’s mentorship program -She didn’t hide her pain from her students -Paul was the webmaster, creating the newsletter, Neelam was more the front end -Plus they taught a lot of programs before -She has to run the business full-time now and learn how to do what he did -Divine masculine and divine and feminine, they are yang and yin -Feminine, all of nature represents the feminine nature, retreat, recuperate, receptivity, creativity (birth), compassion, collaboration, nurturing, also like nature, ferocious, the dark night of the soul -Masculine outgoing, expansion, growth, rational mind, cognitive mind, light, logic, taking action -Shamanism is a spiritual practice that exists in all cultures of the world, it’s a way of life -Commonalities in shamanistic principles is the same throughout the world is to live in harmony with nature, live from the heart -The modern world violates the Earth, and disconnected us from our soul -Pandemic taught that love, being there for each other, and basic necessities -Her family doesn’t understand what the spiritual work that she does -They understand she does some kind of teaching -Vedic, Hinduism and shamanic way of living are the similar, though rituals might be different -She worked in corporate, met her husband Paul a few years ago -Confidence has been challenging, experienced bankruptcy, low turnout for workshops online and in person when over the years -But she had a deep-rooted belief in her work and Paul’s -She and Paul was a twin-flames, yet they still had their challenges -Whenever they had challenges, they would work through their blocks about money -They also did practical things of running a business in terms of marketing and sales -She still has anxiety that she deals with when running a business -Alignment with your purpose and your path, the rest of things in life fall into place -The faith she has in herself remains strong despite current struggles of running her business alone now -While making money is important, she has other measures of success that align with her values and who she is -After her husband died, she was worried she would lose her audience, but again relied on her believing in herself -She expressed her vulnerability during after Paul died, and found a lot of support from women online -As an entrepreneur, we need our work to be seen -Putting yourself in some kind of action no matter how small builds confidence About Guest: Neelam Nanvani Neelam is an International Teacher, Guide and Shamanic Counselor whose voice represents the voice of the Collective You! She has risen from her own pain, abuse, and strife to Re-member, Re-claim and Re-discover her true potential and Power. Dedicated to sharing her knowledge and compassionate heart with others, she blends intuitive wisdom with solid understanding, creating a powerful, holistic approach, specializing in the areas of Spiritual & Emotional change in a Light, simple and effortless way. neelamnanwani@yahoo.in www.shamanic-vision.com About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali, in case you didn’t know, is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 15 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert Support the Confident Healer: -If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it! Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Produced by Sharmila Mali, Edited by Chris Jessup
Dec 7 2021
46 mins
Ex‘s, Premonitions, and Emotional Abuse--oh my!
TRIGGER WARNING: Discussion of emotional abuse. Life is funny, you just never know what you will uncover about yourself and other people.  It was a beautiful sunny day, and I was giving Akashic Record readings at Starborn's Psychic Faire. I checked my email during a break in between clients and lo and behold a strange email from an even stranger phone number.  Turns out, it was from an ex. I have not discussed this past relationship on the podcast because the trauma from that relationship doesn’t show up in my day-to-day and I am so far removed from that previous relationship.  But what I realized after my self-Akashic Reading, was the trauma does come up when I watch that ex walk around the back of my building, confidently calling for my cats.  This is why I never told him to leave on numerous occasions when I saw him through my kitchen window. The sub-text is, it’s not really about the cats. Also, it’s about boundaries. I decided to open the Akashic Records of Ancient Mother on a whim to ponder if I was being jaded after reading the note. I ended up receiving a beautiful healing from Ancient Mother and I uncovered that I was still traumatized from that emotionally abusive relationship. I also discovered I experience auditory premonitions from this experience, which is a bonus! Despite the topic, my energy is balanced and grounded, with just enough humor, a little bit of anger, and a lot of self-compassion. If you are suffering from any type of abuse from a parent, friend or partner, please visit: www.thehotline.org/get-help/domestic-violence-local-resources. Thanks for listening. Topics discussed: -An ex sent me a text via email and I checked my email while I was in between clients at the Psychic Faire at Starborn Wellness and Healing -Earlier that day while at home I thought I heard the ex make the whistling sound that he used to use when he would try to find Kashmir -We used to live together in the home I currently live in -I discuss the nature of the verbal and emotional abuse -Since our break-up, he has trespassed numerous times whenever he is in the area to visit “his” cats -I talk about why I never told him to leave when I saw him lurking around my building -When I read the note he sent, it just seemed disingenuous -I decided to access Ancient Mother’s Akashic Record -I didn’t realize until the reading that I was traumatized from the emotional abuse and that’s why I didn’t want to talk to him -I received healing from the reading by asking a particular question -So many layers of releasing and healing the trauma from an emotionally abusive relationship Resources mentioned: www.thehotline.org/get-help/domestic-violence-local-resources Psychic Faire at Starborn Healing Wellness and Dance Center starbornhealing.com, IG: @starbornwellness  FB: @starbornwellness Claire Blanc, Channel, Intuitive healing, Mediumship, Space Clearing IG: @Claire_blanc_art About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali, in case you didn’t know, is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 15 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. Sharmilamali.com FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert Support the Confident Healer: -If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it! Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Produced and Edited by Sharmila Mali
Nov 16 2021
28 mins
What are the Akashic Records?
In this episode, I answer questions that my friends and brother wanted to know about the Akashic Records. I did the reading the day before I made the episode.  The way I read my own Akashic Records is by writing it by hand or on a laptop.  I don’t get information any other way.  So I am reading the transcripts from the Akashic reading I gave myself the day before recording this episode.  However, when I do a reading for a client, I get information right away by hearing, feeling, being shown scenes, or words flashing before my eyes.  I don't need a pen and paper, or a laptop.  I am a conscious channel for the Akashic Records, I keep my eyes open, and I am fully grounded and aware of what is happening, as opposed to closing my eyes to focus. This is how I was taught to read the Akashic Records. Topics discussed: -My process for reading the Akashic Records -I learned how to do Akashic Readings for myself and for others from Cheryl Marlene -Explaining how I did two different readings to ask questions to explain about the Akashic Records -Opened my records to ask what is an Akashic Record -My Akashic Record explains the human history of accessing information beyond the 5 senses -My Akashic Records explain that it is the name given to the oracle of your soul, that you are accessing the origin of your soul -My Akashic Records explain how language limits but they do the best they can to conceptualize -I open the Founders of the Akashic Records -I got the inspiration to open the Founders of the Akashic Records from my level 3 class with Cheryl Marlene -Who/What are you is the question I asked The Founders of the Akashic Record -They explain they are the energy, the consciousness of earth and its inhabitants -They go into a lot more paradoxes -I explain that when I did this reading the day before I was very overwhelmed by their answer and couldn’t comprehend -What is beyond universal consciousness is what I asked the Founders and they answered in a very esoteric way that goes beyond my concept of universal consciousness -They tell me to move forward with the questions because I was trying to wrap my head around that concept -What is an Akashic Record I asked the Founders, the term “akashic record” is human language to help you grasp the concept and give it context -When you get a reading, you are accessing it from who you are in that moment, it’s a dynamic, evolving just like a human -They explain how it can differ from a card reading or other types of psychic readings based on where the non-Akashic Record reader is accessing the information -This is due to where the reader is accessing the information from and they distinguish from a higher self to your soul’s point of origin -Also these distinctions matter to people, because this is how humans process information -They describe the type of reading that can happen during an Akashic Reading -What is the purpose of an Akashic Reading? The Founders answer in logical ways and more personal to a recipient of an Akashic Reading -They talk about how I was taught to give a reading and let me describe how my fears can come up when doing a reading for another person -I gave an example of how I was doing a reading and I was afraid of telling the person the answer because of the nature of the question -The person’s Akashic Record gave me a surprising answer -How can the info be used for transformation? The Founders respond that it’s infinite and give some examples. They also say that a reading is always transformational. -Do the guides ever decide if they can give you an answer? The Founders give a surprising answer -How do you choose an Akashic Reader? The Founders answer any way that makes you feel comfortable and give other examples of how random humans can be with their logic. -The Founders have a great sense of humor -How can you prepare? Is it advisable to? The Founders respond that to be present and do what makes you feel comfortable to prepare and give examples, basically, there is no wrong or right way -Is it better to be free of recreational substances and meds that make you drowsy/numb, they suggest that if you cannot be present then to not take those substances or wait until it wears off. -I talk about how Cheryl in her guidelines for readers and clients, to be free of substances for 24 hours, so if you took some sort of recreational substance the night before, don’t do a reading and don’t get one. -I talk about why I think that guideline is there -Reading ends and I close out the episode Resources mentioned: Sharmila highly recommends Cheryl Marlene for a reading, and to learn how to open the Akashic Records. www.cherylmarlene.com About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali, in case you didn’t know, is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 15 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. Sharmilamali.com FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert Support the Confident Healer: -If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it! Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Produced and Edited by Sharmila Mali
Nov 8 2021
28 mins
Jonita Dsouza on Self-trust and Womb Healing
Remember how 2020 started--new year, new hope?  For this week’s guest, Jonita D’souza, it was filled with adventure. She and her husband sold their belongings, gave up their flat in England and started their travels. Jonita sensed change was in the air, and followed that intuitive hit. Little did she know that the rona was also in the air. They got stuck in their first destination, India when the world started going into lockdown. Luckily, she was in a familiar setting with her husband, in her hometown in India. She kept her business going while making a new home in her childhood home. Her take on self-trust and self-confidence gave me something to really think about. For Jonita, it was a drain of her lifeforce to build self-confidence, so she worked on building self-trust.  She also talks about tapping into your womb space to fill yourself with energy and creativity.  This was such a beautiful and much-needed convo right now…take a listen! Jonita D’souza is a Feminine Lifestylist, an Author and Creatress of Exploring Femininity Ltd., assisting modern-day busy women who struggle with burn-out, overwhelm, and body love to reconnect with their feminine and sensual energy using the ancient Taoist and Tantric arts so that they can create a lifestyle that is fulfilling, nurturing and pleasurable. She is also a certified Life Coach, NLP Practitioner, Master Hypnotherapist and combines the teachings of Indian feminine mysticism and shamanism in her work, facilitating monthly moon circles, online workshops, and sacred feminine retreats. Topics discussed: -Pandemic pivots while she has been stuck in India -Uncovering and realizing there is more to heal while she has been living in her old hometown -The two main techniques she has used to get her through the pandemic and the huge transition she is still experiencing -How she says people confuse confidence and self-trust -Learning how to use her own energy, needing rest which helps her be more creative -How she learned how to tap into her womb to build self-trust -How she doesn’t always feel confident when leading a course or retreat -How she trusts herself and feels more in the flow -How she doesn’t mind making mistakes because it’s part of the process -The importance for women to get in touch with their womb space to heal past traumas -How healing those past traumas lead to more love, creativity, freedom and a more natural way of being -How a healthy balance of masculine and feminine energy contributes to a woman’s life force -Advice to learn to tune into your womb to find self-trust and self-love -Offers a free 7-day course: https://mailchi.mp/exploringfemininity/sensualize-your-womb Guest Contact: Jonita D'souza:  jonitadsouza.com  FB: @exploringfemininity  www.youtube.com/channel/UC6UoCyuUA5J8hWcLGc2yUow   About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali, in case you didn’t know,  is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 15 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. Sharmilamali.com for more information about my work. FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert Support the Confident Healer: -If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it! Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Produced by Sharmila Mali Edited by Chris Jessup
Oct 25 2021
33 mins
LC Collins Psychic Tarot Reader and Straightforward Confidence
LC Collins said her Tarot Reader journey all started when walked into a metaphysical store for the first time when the Rider-Waite tarot deck called out to her.  The love affair began. After college, she started her professional journey as a Tarot reader and has been reading ever since (over 25 years).  I found her confidence solid and grounded just like her and we talk about very practical ways of developing your talents and confidence when reading the cards. We also talk about her interesting childhood where she grew up in a very intellectual household with very open parents: her Mom was the family Medium, regularly helping their deceased family members and her Dad would train LC to move objects with her mind.  Just your typical American fam. She calls it Psychic Tarot because the cards are a way for her to tap into her intuition to receive information about her dear clients.  And she has developed a level of accuracy based on some of the stories she talks about in our conversation.  Topics discussed: -LC’s background with Tarot -LC’s interesting childhood of ghosts and psychometry -LC’s relationship with the Tarot cards -Trusting what the cards give you -What she means by being a “psychic” tarot reader   -Dealing with confidence and self-doubt when learning how to read the cards -Being a pure channel and not filtering herself when it comes to Tarot reading -Boundaries when working with clients -Parting words of wisdom for budding Tarot readers and for healers      Contact the guest: LC Collins: VividLifeTarot.com IG:@VividLifeTarot                                                                                    About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali, is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 15 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. Sharmilamali.com FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert Support the Confident Healer: -If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it! Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Produced by Sharmila Mali Edited by Chris Jessup
Oct 18 2021
51 mins
Anthony Bourdain dreams, Psychic Faires and Akashic Record Readings of the departed souls
I had two interesting dreams about dead people, it’s so rare, maybe the last time was after my grandmother in Nepal passed away in 1996. I had a dream about Anthony Bourdain and my grandmother, and I received a reading from a new friend and colleague from the psychic faire at Starborn Healing and Wellness.  I then noticed synchronicity with a new soup I had to make and realized that Anthony Bourdain in my dream made me and my friend a vegetable puree/soup that he used to serve over polenta.  Oh yeah, it’s bizarre, and amazing at the same time because of what happened during my reading with Claire from the psychic faire.   Plus, I share more messages from them from opening my Akashic Records and the Akashic Records of Anthony and my Grandma. It's just another day in the life of an intuitive healer! Topics discussed in this episode: -my dreams and having dead people visit me -Anthony Bourdain came to me in a dream -My Hajur-Ma (Grandmother) came to me in a dream the next night -I worked the Psychic Faire and did a trade with someone that is a channel and medium -Claire told me that they did visit me in my dream -Claire and I helped Anthony Bourdain -I gave myself an Akashic Record reading about both dreams with Anthony Bourdain and my Grandmother who is also deceased -I read the results of opening my Akashic Records about my Grandma and Bourdain -I read the messages from the Akashic Records of my Grandma and Bourdain Shout-outs: Claire Blanc, Channel, Intuitive healing, Mediumship, Space Clearing IG: @Claire_blanc_art Starborn Healing Wellness and Dance Center starbornhealing.com, IG: @starbornwellness  FB: @starbornwellness About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali, in case you didn’t know,  is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 15 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert Support the Confident Healer: -If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it! Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music. Produced and Edited by Sharmila Mali
Oct 11 2021
29 mins
How I Gained Confidence, Self-worth and Self-esteem
https://www.theconfidenthealer.net/ I MISSED YOU!  The podcast is back for SEASON 2!!!!  I am starting out strong with a solocast about how inadvertently making The Confident Healer Podcast, help build my confidence as a healer in biznaaas, WAAAT? Yeah, check out the episode and I will tell you all the dirty-dirty about what it was like to live inside my head, filled with insecurities about not being good enough. Can you relate? For years, I tried to find a life preserver, and while they worked for a while nothing ever stuck in regards to feeling like I was worth it. I didn’t feel confident about myself in promoting my work and sometimes lacked confidence about my work as a healer, wondering if I was effective even though I my clients were experiencing breakthroughs. I would always just chalk it up to it being some kind of fluke and that I couldn’t get those results the next time. How draining is that? It’s debilitating and I would put myself through so much mental and emotional anguish beating myself up for not being confident enough and not being good enough. Topics discussed in this episode: -lacking confidence in business -low self-esteem and no sense of self-worth when it came to work -Keslie’s KarmicSoul Reiki Level 1 class -Usui giving me a gift during one of the attunements for level 1 -How exercising the muscle of regular publishing on social media and email marketing helped build confidence (to my delight) -talking to other healers about how they built their confidence in business and “putting themselves out there” -going over the 3 steps that helped me have sustainable confidence About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali, in case you didn’t know,  is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 15 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki. FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert Support the Confident Healer: -If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it! Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music Produced and Edited by Sharmila Mali
Sep 27 2021
23 mins
Adrienne Shamszad on Singing and Building Self-Esteem Through Confidence
Meet Adrienne Shamzad, this week’s confident healer! This was such a packed conversation about being an artist and sharing your voice with the world. This week’s guest is an amazing singer and I highly recommend you check out her live acoustic sets on her Patreon, then you will know why her music is so evocative, she has a way of taking your breath away.  We got into a deep conversation about the effects of late-stage capitalism and the effects it has on your self-esteem and confidence. We also talked about her life experiences with managing depression and anxiety, one of the things it has taught her is to appreciate what makes life so unique and to boldly sing her heart out.  Topics discussed in this episode: -Opportunities that showed up during the pandemic -Created an online singing community with people sheltering from abusive relationships -Adrienne started singing in childhood -Mother was a folk singer -Parents were supportive of Adrienne’s career choice -Father’s conflict fueled Adrienne’s creativity -Being a daughter of an immigrant and the conflict of pursuing music professionally -Started studying Iranian music and incorporating it into her style -Adrienne’s talks about confidence and self-esteem -Suffers and manages depression and anxiety -Making music versus the challenges of pursuing it professionally -Late-stage capitalism and how we as a society tie money to our confidence and self-esteem -Yoga and how it helps her singing v About: Adrienne Shamzad is a singer-songwriter, culture preserver and teaching artist from Oakland, CA who combines American folk, soul and the blues with traditional Iranian music to tell the story of life. Her music centers around the pursuit of truth, building bridges between culture, and her mission is to offer her human family Love and connection through song, laughter, and storytelling.   Contact Adrienne: adrienneshamszad.com www.patreon.com/adrienneshamszad instagram: @aidishams Facebook: Adrienne Shamszad Music Youtube: eyeamshamszad   About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali is the host of The Confident Healer podcast and is a Self-Love Expert and Reiki Master Teacher that works with womyn who want to get over their ex. Support the Confident Healer: -If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it! Music: New Day by Tokyo Music Walker Stream & Download: https://fanlink.to/tmw_new_day​ Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0, Tokyo Music Walker: https://soundcloud.com/user-356546060, Produced by Sharmila Mali, Edited by Chris Jessup
May 17 2021
1 hr 6 mins
Chi Amaefule,  Professional Matchmaker on Finding True Love
This was such an amazing conversation with Chi Amaefule! I have never met a professional matchmaker before and you will love her confidence and her beautiful heart.  She is shining with passion for bringing people who want true love and takes no shit if you aren’t aligned with who you say you are. I think whatever your perceptions about relationships, she will open your heart to a new paradigm, whether you are off the market or attached. Chioma Amaefule better known as Chi is the CEO and Founder of NYA Love and Dating Services LLC. She is also a Certified Matchmaker and Dating Specialist who enjoys working with singles all over the US ages 28-68 who are single, entanglement-free, and serious about their search to find true love. Her goal is to continue helping others navigate through the ups and downs of dating and relationships. She is determined to provide a matchmaking and dating service that continues to help her community thrive in the dating world. She believes in a direct, straightforward, honest approach and has packages that are highly competitive in comparison to others in her industry. Nothing surprises her when it comes to matters of the heart. She has been nicknamed "The Love Genie" as she does her very best to make wishes come true. Her hope is to continue changing the world one heart at a time. Contact Chi Amaefule: nyaloveanddating.com Facebook & Instagram: NYALoveByChi Youtube: True Chats with Chi Love About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali is the host of The Confident Healer podcast and is a Self-Love Expert and Reiki Master Teacher that works with womyn who want to get over their ex. Support the Confident Healer: -If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it! Music: New Day by Tokyo Music Walker Stream & Download: https://fanlink.to/tmw_new_day​ Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0, Tokyo Music Walker: https://soundcloud.com/user-356546060, Produced by Sharmila Mali, Edited by Chris Jessup
May 11 2021
46 mins
Leah Patterson :Passionate Living, Self-Acceptance and the Divine Feminine
This week’s guest is a powerhouse, and there is nothing that she can’t do! Leah Patterson possesses a joie de vivre that you can feel during the conversation.  Everything Leah has learned, she has given it back to her community and amazing clients to empower them to create more joy, self-acceptance and abundance. She is a chemical engineer whose foray into holistic wellness and health started when she was working for the NIH studying ovarian cancer. This led her on an amazing trajectory of learning: herbalism, become a green witch of wise woman tradition, professional salsa dancer and teacher, created a sweat-proof mineral make-up line, and intuitive healing. She has quite an amazing story to tell and had her confidence nurtured by teachers, parents, and her love of learning. Fueled by her passions she had created so many amazing empowerment programs and skin products.  Let’s listen to how her boundless creativity fuels her energy. About Leah Patterson: She is a transformation coach, holistic beauty and wellness mentor, professional salsa dance instructor, and business owner.  She is the founder of MOVE Makeup, a sweatproof and natural cosmetic line. She also is a host of Shop Black Live and is featured on local morning tv shows as a beauty expert.   Contact Leah Patterson: info@leahpatterson.com  www.leahpatterson.com instagram.com/leahrpatterson Facebook.com/leahrpatterson Resources mentioned: www.shopblacklive.com  Watch Leah Host Shop Black Live on: www.youtube.com/watch?v=wXNbVxekljk   About the Hostess: Sharmila Mali is the host of The Confident Healer podcast and is a Self-Love Expert and Reiki Master Teacher that works with womyn who want to get over their ex. Support the Confident Healer: -If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new -DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support -Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it! Music: New Day by Tokyo Music Walker Stream & Download: https://fanlink.to/tmw_new_day​ Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0, Tokyo Music Walker: https://soundcloud.com/user-356546060, Produced and Edited by Chris Jessup and Sharmila Mali
May 3 2021
1 hr 4 mins