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The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide

Eric Payne

Eric Payne, a divorced dad and retired marriage & fatherhood blogger, tells the comedic tale of his "Chapter 2" — having to start life over brand new after a divorce he didn't want. What Does Starting Over Mean? Although "free” for the first time in 15 years, Eric has years of baggage and a stubborn desire to hold on to the past which initially keeps him stuck as he tries to move in a world way different than the one where he first met his ex-wife in the year 2000. From one-night stands to ghosting to online dating, to mental anguish and heartbreak to the self-care that is required of a 40+, divorced Black man and father in America, Eric tackles it all with fearless transparency, vulnerability, and a refreshing sense of humor — especially when it comes to making fun of himself. It's transparent, it’s raw, it’s funny, it’s messy, and it’s hopeful, but most of all it’s proof that second chances do in fact exist for us when life doesn’t go as planned. Tune in for the exploits, especially the failures — there are plenty along the way on his journey of trying to find love again and discovering himself in the process.
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Nov 5 2019
4 mins
SERIES TRAILERCan It Be All So Simple
Divorce is never easy and when it's unwanted, it's even worse. When it comes to getting over and getting through things sometimes you have to go back to the beginning, not to dwell on the past, but to learn from it. Episode One of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide takes off with a running start as I take you back to the "good old days" when I first laid eyes on the beautiful woman who would eventually become my ex-wife — when I was bright-eyed, thought I looked like something and believed the power of love could raise the dead. The times were innocent enough, or were they? If you like what you're hearing, please recommend this podcast to one person who you think will benefit from this message. Did I mention subscribing? Make sure you do so you don't miss the start of Season 2 of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. Shop the Store: https://epayne.me/podmerch YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/ericpayne FREE Time Management Worksheet: https://epayne.me/self-care Guided Meditation for Self-Worth Maintenance: https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA About the Podcast Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne, me, for the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, arguably the best relationship podcast on the Internet, rated 5-Stars on Apple Podcasts a Black Podcasting Awards 2020 nominee for Best Relationship Podcast. I take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys of navigating dating life as a divorced man and living life brand new in my forties. I don't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and I'm not afraid to call myself out when I'm the one being messy. For behind-the-scenes content, follow me on Instagram: http://instagram.com/ericlpayne (@ericlpayne) For exclusive content subscribe to my Patreon page: http://patreon.com/ericpayne Support this podcast
Nov 14 2019
24 mins
Buggin' Out
Episode Two of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide draws its name from the Tribe Called Quest track and is the conclusion of the story arc that began in Episode One: Can It All Be So Simple. Here the stage is set for how Eric makes his reentry into the jungle of single life. Find out what happens to the mindset of a man, who wholeheartedly and perhaps naively believes in the power of love, and what he does, when: *love falls apart, *what he does to try to keep it together, and *how that impacts his outlook on the single life that’s awaiting him.  If you like what you're hearing, please recommend this podcast to one person who you think will benefit from this message. Did I mention subscribing? Make sure you do so you don't miss the start of Season 2 of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. Black Friday deals on merch are available at http://epayne.me/blackfriday (epayne.me/blackfriday) from 11.29 - 12.2.2019. Outtro music courtesy RoseredBlues available on SoundCloud. About the Podcast Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy. To keep up with Eric behind the scenes, follow him on Instagram: http://instagram.com/ericlpayne (@ericlpayne) Support this podcast
Nov 29 2019
29 mins
No Bounce To The Ounce
Dec 12 2019
28 mins
Happy Merry Christmakwanzaa EveI Ain't 'Fraid of No Ghosts
An invisible man Sleepin' in your bed (or in your head) Ow, who you gonna call? Ghostbusters! ...I ain't 'fraid of no ghosts! Ghostbusters aren't real outside of that great 80's movie and its regrettable remake in 2016, but in Episode Four of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide writer, Christie Glascoe a.k.a. Chatterbox Christie (https://chatterboxchristie.com/ (chatterboxchristie.com)), is a real-life Ghostbuster. When it comes to dating she's got some strong opinions on what "ghosting" is and why it happens. Just like a Ghostbuster, she takes aim at the people who ghost and calls them out for being what they are. If you like what you're hearing, please recommend this podcast to one person who you think will benefit from this message. Did I mention subscribing? Make sure you do so you don't miss the start of Season 2 of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. Visit my merch store at epayne.me/podmerch For exclusive members-only content sign up for The Dating Game (in the episode I refer to it as The Club of Hearts) at https://patreon.com/datingafterdivorce (Patreon.com/datingafterdivorce) About the Podcast Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy. To keep up with Eric when he isn't on the mic, follow him on Instagram: http://instagram.com/ericlpayne (@ericlpayne) Support this podcast
Dec 31 2019
30 mins
Roaring Into The Soaring TwentiesEP.5 TRAILER: Eric Pancakehouse & Attack of Target LadyMidseason TrailerEric Pancakehouse & Attack of Target LadyEP.6 TRAILER: Wookin’ Pa Nub In All Da Wong PacesWookin' Pa Nub In All Da Wong Paces
In this double-episode bonus (hey, sometimes it takes twice the time to deliver the message), prior to the Season Finale, Eric remains heartbroken behind the scenes despite his new escapades as a single man. He wants nothing more than to be reunited with his ex-wife and his family. But when reality sinks in, he channels his inner Eddie Murphy a.k.a. Buckwheat and turns to dating apps to find love. Connecting online is easy enough. Connecting in real life proves to be a bit more challenging as he crosses paths with: Brown Gravy The Youngin’ Boston Legal The White Girl Who Loved Me The Angry New Yorker...among others… If you like what you're hearing please recommend this podcast to one person who you think will benefit from this message. Did I mention subscribing? Make sure you do so you don't miss the start of Season 2 of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. Visit the merch store at https://my.captivate.fm/epayne.me/podmerch (epayne.me/podmerch) For exclusive members-only content join https://patreon.com/datingafterdivorce (The Dating Game) at https://patreon.com/datingafterdivorce (Patreon.com/datingafterdivorce) About the Podcast Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy. To learn more visit https://dating-after-divorce-guide-eric-payne.captivate.fm/ (The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide) To see what Eric does besides recording podcasts, follow him on Instagram: http://instagram.com/ericlpayne (@ericlpayne) Support this podcast
Jan 24 2020
56 mins
EP.7 TRAILER: D.R.E.A.M. (Dating Rules Everything Around Me - But Should It?)CLIP EP.5: Texting With Target LadyD.R.E.A.M. (Dating Rules Everything Around Me - But Should It?)Monday Motivation: Tell YOUR TruthMonday Motivation: Time Heals All WoundsMonday Motivation: How To Beat The Coronavirus BluesMonday Motivation: #NeverSettle (Even During Quarantine)Monday Motivation: Creating (Quality) Time for Yourself in the Time of Coronavirus
CORRECTION: The link mentioned at the end of the episode is incorrect see the corrected link below (before the dotted line). Today's Monday Motivation comes on a Tuesday. In this episode, I'm talking about creating quality time for ourselves now that we are in the Time of Coronavirus. Depending on where you are in the world, you may be days or weeks into self-isolating and quarantine due to the COVID-19 outbreak. Work-life and school life have moved home, you have more time on your hands than you did a month ago, and you're now sharing space with people who before now, you mostly saw only in the evenings and on the weekends. You're doing the dang thing keeping it together for all parties involved. I sincerely applaud you. But what are you doing for yourself beyond catching up on Netflix? Are you creating a structured time to help YOU get through this and be a better parent, spouse, helpmate, partner, and person in the process? Are you using the time productively? Are you exercising your mind as well as your body? In this video, I mention dedicating 90 minutes to self-care, but I realize this may sound like A LOT if you've never tried something like this before. Let's cut it down to 60 minutes and while you're at it you can download my Free 60 Minutes of Self-Care worksheets to help you get started. You can get them at http://epayne.me/self-care (https://epayne.me/self-car)http://epayne.me/selfcare (e) . We're all in this together. Let's come out of this better than we entered into it. ----------------------------- Check out podcast merch at: https://epayne.me/podmerch (https://epayne.me/podmerch) To learn more about the show visit https://datingafterdivorce.guide/ (https://datingafterdivorce.guide) Have a question for me? Click here and ask away or email me at info[at]datingafterdivorce[dot]guide. I may feature it as a topic in a future episode. Support this podcast
Mar 31 2020
10 mins

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