The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide

Eric Payne

Eric Payne, a divorced dad and retired marriage & fatherhood blogger, tells the comedic tale of his "Chapter 2" — having to start life over brand new after a divorce he didn't want. What Does Starting Over Mean? Although "free” for the first time in 15 years, Eric has years of baggage and a stubborn desire to hold on to the past which initially keeps him stuck as he tries to move in a world way different than the one where he first met his ex-wife in the year 2000. From one-night stands to ghosting to online dating, to mental anguish and heartbreak to the self-care that is required of a 40+, divorced Black man and father in America, Eric tackles it all with fearless transparency, vulnerability, and a refreshing sense of humor — especially when it comes to making fun of himself. It's transparent, it’s raw, it’s funny, it’s messy, and it’s hopeful, but most of all it’s proof that second chances do in fact exist for us when life doesn’t go as planned. Tune in for the exploits, especially the failures — there are plenty along the way on his journey of trying to find love again and discovering himself in the process. read less
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Season 4

From Paris to Atlanta: Dressed in ALL BLACK Like the Omen
Sep 10 2021
From Paris to Atlanta: Dressed in ALL BLACK Like the Omen
You have to be old enough to have seen The Omen AND current enough (if you call the 90s current) to remember Lil’ Kim’s iconic line in “All About the Benjamins” to catch the reference I’m dropping here. Episode 2 of Season 4 of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide continues with the ongoing my ongoing post-divorce journey. Broken boundaries, making myself small, the past, present, and an unconfirmed future relationship collide at a birthday party where my insecurities are running high from the way I look, what I have to offer as a person, to the clothes I'm wearing. Although the growth is real, there are still many stumbling blocks along the way that this divorced guy has to overcome. Visit http://datingafterdivorce.guide to learn more about the show, me, my Patreon support channel and more! Follow me on Instagram at http://instragram.com/ericlpayne and http://instagram.com/datingafterdivorceguideSubscribe to the playlist featuring the music that inspires the podcast here: https://epayne.me/playlistIf you're new to this podcast, thank you for visiting and I hope you'll stay awhile! The best place to begin here is all the way that the beginning, Season One, Episode One. That way you won't feel the way I do when I get to a party a little later and everyone else is already dancing.Resources from the Episode : You are Beautiful, Inside & Out and You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerchSign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayneGet control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-careLearn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpA
Dating In My Forties
Sep 20 2021
Dating In My Forties
This is a bonus episode, y'all! I wrote an article over at Medium and was encouraged to narrate it as well. Of course, that meant I had to share with all of you. I'll tease the content here but for the full transcript, visit www.medium.com/@ericPayneTRANSCRIPT:Dating In My Forties, by Eric PayneBy the time you read this, I will be nearing my fiftieth year on this planet though most mistake me for an old thirty-five or a young thirty-eight. When making conversation with strangers in public places such as gas stations, grocery stores, and parks, I’m struck when people either my age or younger occasionally address me as “young man.” I make no effort to correct them. Instead, I appreciate that life has been kind to my appearance, everything considered. I have two children — a twenty-six-year-old son and a fifteen-year-old daughter who is wise beyond her years, as most teenage girls are. On paper, I have joint custody of the youngest with their mother. But honestly, it’s often hard to think of myself as anything other than a single father. I’m the only adult in my house. When my life as Dad challenges and stretches me, no one is there to guide me with that needed woman’s touch — to let me know I’ve said too little or too much or am applying too much pressure or not enough. Of course, my ex-wife is only a phone call away, but in these moments, there is no teammate present to step in to catch my fumble, run the ball for me when I’m headed straight into interference, or tell me to take a seat so she can do her thing. At least, that is what I believe should happen in the moments when I’m out of ideas and patience...Read the full article/transcript here with your exclusive Patron of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide Link!Thank you for listening! If you like what you hear or read, please share with someone you believe will benefit. Much Love,E
From Paris to Atlanta: Pretty Isn't Everything & Dating Can Be Messy AF
Oct 10 2021
From Paris to Atlanta: Pretty Isn't Everything & Dating Can Be Messy AF
Things don't always go as planned or envisioned. When this happens what do you do? Do you run away or do you stand and see your way through the mess? I experience this in grand fashion during Episode Four of Season Four. Things start off calmly enough with me trying to meet up in person with The Woman Dressed in Black I met in Episode 2 (Season Four), but things take a turn and accelerate full-speed into the unexpected. After all, isn't that one of the main things that makes life the beautiful tapestry of experiences that it is? In this episode, I come face to face with the unexpected and learn that much more about myself in the process.Episode Hot Takes:Emotional Desire versus Physical Desire vs. ChemistryWhat to do when it's you not themAs always, the gift of the cold hard truth and learning how to be honest with yourself and your feelings, despite the urgings of othersPretty is, but pretty so what?Learning how to exercise grace rather than "winning"Why unfollowing on social media matters (it doesn't)Acknowledging pain and talking honestly about it with GodIf you enjoyed the episode:Please subscribe and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Subscribe and never miss an episode. If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. Check out my bonus episode, Dating In My Forties, featured on Medium here: https://datingafterdivorce.guide/episode/dating-in-my-fortiesPlease, follow the Dating After Divorce music playlist to follow all the tunes that influenced my life while I was going through it: https://epayne.me/playlistTo My First-Time Listeners: Thank you for listening! If you want to truly know what's going on you need to go back to Season One, Episode One, because that is where the story starts.
From Paris to Atlanta: I Choose YOU!
Oct 25 2021
From Paris to Atlanta: I Choose YOU!
"So, I typed a text to a girl I used to see/Sayin' that I chose this cutie pie with whom I wanna be...."André 3000 made a choice of with whom he wanted to be in his opening verse of Int'l Players Anthem. How many of us are choosing what we want versus going with what is right in front of us, what is within reach, what is easy, or what appears to yield results with the least amount of effort or risk...to our egos? Rejection is REAL and it cuts like a knife. No judgments here for not wanting to deal with it. But during the events of this episode, I learn to face it head-on.The ability to choose is a powerful asset to have in your dating/love and happiness toolkit. In this episode, I share why it is of the utmost importance that YOU choose at every stage of the dating experience, most importantly, the beginning; what happens when you don't; and a simple mindset shift that will help you leverage your past setbacks, failures, and pain to propel you forward through any challenge that comes your way. After all, what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger. ------------------------If you enjoyed the episode:Please subscribe and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Subscribe and never miss an episode. If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. Please, follow the Dating After Divorce music playlist to follow all the tunes that influenced my life while I was going through it: https://epayne.me/playlistRead my article, Dating In My Forties, over at Medium for free as a Friend of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. Read the article here.-------------------------If you're new to this podcast:Thank you for visiting and I hope you'll stay awhile! The best place to begin here is all the way that the beginning, Season One, Episode One. That way you won't feel the way I do when I get to a party a little later and everyone else is already dancing.Resources from the Episode : You are Beautiful, Inside & Out and You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerchSign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayneGet control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-careEpisode 6 is coming soon!
From Paris to Atlanta: What If?
Nov 12 2021
From Paris to Atlanta: What If?
"What if?" is right up there with "Why?" as far as a question that has no real answers and honestly isn't worth asking to begin with unless discussing alternative realities and timelines in comic books. But that has never stopped anyone from asking this of themselves, especially when it comes to love and romance and heartbreak and failure.A Life of RegretWhat if you could do it all over again or do things differently? Would you escape failure? Would you circumvent pain? Would you still be married? Would you be better at dating? Would you be happier? Do you truly know that if you handled “things” whatever those things are (love, communication, your emotions) things would’ve gone any differently?How would you know? How could you know?How to Overcome Regret In Love, Life, and Everything ElseIn Episode Six of Season Four of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, the question of “what if” comes up when I get triggered after stumbling upon an artifact from my past. What if I had handled it all differently? Would I have gotten married? Would I be dating after divorce? Would I have more children?This episode goes deep to address:Why not having an opinion can be dangerousWhat happens when a woman can’t rely on a manWhy doing something is better than doing nothingWhy the past and all its failures and shortcomings will always be a prison if you allow it to be, and How to spin “What if?” from a question that can imprison you in regret into a personal challenge that puts you in charge of your life.------------------------If you enjoyed the episode:Please subscribe and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Subscribe and never miss an episode. If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. Please, follow the Dating After Divorce music playlist to follow all the tunes that influenced my life while I was going through it: https://epayne.me/playlistRead my article, Dating In My Forties, over at Medium for free as a Friend of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. Read the article here.-------------------------If you're new to this podcast:Thank you for visiting and I hope you'll stay awhile! The best place to begin here is all the way that the beginning, Season One, Episode One. That way you won't feel the way I do when I get to a party a little late and everyone there is acting like they're best friends.Resources from the Episode : You are Beautiful, Inside & Out and You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerchSign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayneGet control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-care
After Paris: When You're Your Own Worst Enemy
Jan 27 2022
After Paris: When You're Your Own Worst Enemy
Picking up where we left off at Episode 6: After a year of misses capped off by holiday heartache, I have an “aha” moment that leads me to create new boundaries, manage my expectations, and finally gain peace of mind as it relates to my ex-wife and all my relationships. But in almost the same breath, I break an old boundary in a moment of weakness as I move two steps forward but three steps backward into 2019. Be sure you listen to the end. Every fight isn't worth winning. Sometimes you simply have to walk away.IG: @datingafterdivorcesurvival & @ericlpayne------------------------Thank you, for listening! If this is your first time:The best place to begin here is all the way that the beginning, Season One, Episode One. That way you won't feel the way I do when I get to a party a little late and everyone there is acting like they're best friends.Please subscribe and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Subscribe and never miss an episode. If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. Please, follow the Dating After Divorce music playlist to follow all the tunes that influenced my life while I was going through it: https://epayne.me/playlistRead my article, Dating In My Forties, over at Medium for free as a Friend of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. Read the article here. You can read all my articles on Medium at: medium.com/@ericpayne-------------------------Resources from the Episode : You are Beautiful, Inside & Out and You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerchSign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayneGet control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-care
After Paris: When the Past Sends You a Text
Feb 8 2022
After Paris: When the Past Sends You a Text
When the past sends you a text, you:respond happily and pick up where you left off.ignore it and possibly block them.run like the wind.break your phone, then change your number.Some of the above.None of the above.In Episode 8 of Season 4, the Past makes a surprise appearance in my life while I navigate a new career opportunity, my singleness, am uncomfortable walk down social media memory lane, and my growing hypocrisy as it relates to one person in particular. Topics covered in this episode: managing expectations in relationships and managing emotions because of and despite past and present traumas.IG: @datingafterdivorcesurvival & @ericlpayne------------------------This episode is in loving and brotherly memory of Hasan Jelani Durley [July 6, 1974 - January 31, 2022] Learn more: https://www.gofundme.com/f/hasan-durley-love-offering------------------------Thank you, for listening! If this is your first time:The best place to begin here is all the way that the beginning, Season One, Episode One. That way you won't feel the way I do when I get to a party a little late and everyone there is acting like they're best friends.Please subscribe and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Subscribe and never miss an episode. If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. Please, follow the Dating After Divorce music playlist to follow all the tunes that influenced my life while I was going through it: https://epayne.me/playlistRead my article, Dating In My Forties, over at Medium for free as a Friend of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. Read the article here. You can read all my articles on Medium at: medium.com/@ericpayne

Season 3

Season 3: More Than Dating. More Than Divorce. More Than Survival.
Jan 22 2021
Season 3: More Than Dating. More Than Divorce. More Than Survival.
New logo. New season. New misadventures and adventures for divorced dad, Eric Payne as he navigates post-divorce life and dating along with a good old healthy dose of self-awareness.In Season 3, Eric deals with: acceptancetrue forgivenesslust versus lovethe power of rejectionknowing better and ultimately doing better#datingafterdivorce___________Links For Ya: My farewell to 2020: https://www.instagram.com/p/CJbTWYfB4_H/You are Beautiful, Inside & Out and You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerchSign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayneGet control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-care————————————I have a favor to ask...If you like what you're hearing, please recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Please do so you won't miss an episode. If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. And if you listen on Apple Podcasts and have a few extra moments, please, leave me a 5-star review. Why 5? The podcasts with the highest and largest amounts of reviews are showcased by Apple. This will give me the chance to share my content with people who will benefit from it.About The Dating After Divorce Survival GuideDatin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.
Forgiveness Is A Process
Jan 30 2021
Forgiveness Is A Process
And we’re back! Season 3 of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide opens with me returning to Atlanta from my Labor Day Weekend love fest in New York City with a pep in my step and my nose wide open. But that post-coitus shine is quickly dulled by a couple of run-ins with the ex-wife. But the Divorced Dillinger (yours truly) manages to end the month with a bang, literally, for my birthday which may or may not be a good thing!Episode topics: The Afterglow from C-Sweet LadyFighting with the Ex, Part OneFighting with the Ex, Part TwoLearning to Forgive - Forgiveness Is a ProcessBirthday Self-Love and Self-CareThe Pros and Cons of Being a Hodaddy----------------EPISODE LINKS: The poem, Crash & Burn of a Hopeless Romantic: http://epayne.me/poetrybookYou are Beautiful, Inside & Out and You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! https://epayne.me/podmerchSign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayneGet control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-careLearn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpASupport the show: https://cash.app/$epayne ----------If you enjoyed the episode:Please subscribe and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Subscribe and never miss an episode. If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. If you listen on Apple Podcasts and have a few extra moments, please, leave me a 5-star review and if you're really feeling generous, a written review. Why 5 stars? The podcasts with the highest and largest amounts of reviews are showcased by Apple. This will give the show the opportunity to be seen by more people. Don't forget to use the hashtag: #datingafterdivorce
Finding Love on Instagram
Jan 30 2021
Finding Love on Instagram
Fresh of the Birthday Debacle from Episode One, the Divorced Dillenger (Yours Truly) is coming to grips once again with being single and not wanting to just "mingle" if you get what I'm saying. So what do I do to create a love connection? I go to "The Gram!" Oh boy...Episode topics: Instagram, the pros and cons of the appInstagram, the source of much emotional and mental stress Instagram as a dating app, what to do and what not to do (aka "Instagram Hunting")How to shoot your shot on Instagram----------------EPISODE LINKS:The poem, A Passing Want: http://epayne.me/poetrybookYou are Beautiful, Inside & Out and You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! https://epayne.me/podmerchSign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayneGet control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-careLearn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpASupport the show: https://cash.app/$epayne ----------If you enjoyed the episode:Please subscribe and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Subscribe and never miss an episode. If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. If you listen on Apple Podcasts and have a few extra moments, please, leave me a 5-star review and if you're really feeling generous, a written review. Why 5 stars? The podcasts with the highest and largest amounts of reviews are showcased by Apple. This will give the show the opportunity to be seen by more people. Don't forget to use the hashtag: #datingafterdivorce
Dating An Older Man With Small Money
Jan 30 2021
Dating An Older Man With Small Money
Fresh off my Instagram hunt from Episode 2 of Season 3 of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, Episode 3 begins with a reunion (finally!) with C-Sweet Lady. Before it's all over I will have contemplated outrunning a cheetah, I transform like Optimus Prime and bravely set myself up to get rejected by my new IG Crush.Just a regular Tuesday in the life of your host, the Divorced Dillinger.Episode topics: Game recognize game - learning when to count your losses and move onGetting your swagger/groove/good juju backWhat determines your value as a person and in datingWhat to do as a man when you want to date but have limited (little) money----------------EPISODE LINKS:Eric on the "Spin Bike": http://www.instagram.com/p/CKV-EFDh3H3/ The poem, Tapestry: http://epayne.me/poetrybookYou are Beautiful, Inside & Out and You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! https://epayne.me/podmerchSign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayneGet control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-careLearn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpASupport the show: https://cash.app/$epayne ----------If you enjoyed the episode:Please subscribe and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Subscribe and never miss an episode. If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. If you listen on Apple Podcasts and have a few extra moments, please, leave me a 5-star review and if you're really feeling generous, a written review. Why 5 stars? The podcasts with the highest and largest amounts of reviews are showcased by Apple. This will give the show the opportunity to be seen by more people. Don't forget to use the hashtag: #datingafterdivorce
People Pleasing, Being Alone and Living In Denial
Feb 14 2021
People Pleasing, Being Alone and Living In Denial
Moving right along from Episode 3 and just in time for Valentine's Day (if you haven't listened to it start there, actually just start at Season 1 because this is a story, not a podcast made up of standalone episodes)! It's the holidays and yours truly, Eric Payne, The Divorced Dillinger, travels home to visit the family! Before it's all over I will have eaten my way through Chicago, connected with old friends, weighed in polygamy, and held court with a trio of prayer warriors. See below for the episode acts and topics and their timestamps:(03:47) Act 1: Dealing With RejectionHow rejection can manifest negatively in your life such as imposter syndromeA better way to view rejection and use it as a springboard for success (10:18) Act 2: The Power of Being AloneUsing solitude to your advantageUnderstanding the paradox of people-pleasing and ways to go about breaking the codependent need to please othersand why you should(15:10) Acts 3 & 4: Acceptance is a Hell of a DrugReconnecting with old friends over the miles and the yearsThe damage and dangers of living in denial and keeping secrets a.k.a. ignoring the truthThe power of being present, accepting your circumstances for what they are, and what this means---------Resources from the Episode : This episode's poem, As the Drip Drops, can be found here: http://epayne.me/poetrybookYou are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerchSign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayneGet control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-careLearn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpASome episode music by Epik The Dawn and Temper BeatsIf you enjoyed the episode:Please subscribe and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Subscribe and never miss an episode. If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. If you listen on Apple Podcasts and have a few extra moments, please, leave me a 5-star review and if you're really feeling generous, a written review. Why 5 stars? The podcasts with the highest and largest amounts of reviews are showcased by Apple. This will give the show the opportunity to be seen by more people. About The Dating After Divorce Survival GuideDatin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger (MakesMeWannaHoller.com) and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.
A New Orleans Ghost Story
Mar 1 2021
A New Orleans Ghost Story
Episode 5 is a ghost story, or should I say a story of ghosting, just in time for the 2018 holiday season. It's a tale filled with hope, mentorship, and an ending that couldn't have been expected but perhaps anticipated. The outcome of this story will set in motion a series of decisions and actions that will lead to series of less than desired outcomes. See below for the episode acts and topics and their timestamps:(01:15) Act 1: Creating Love In New Orleans(06:59) Act 2: All That Glitters Ain't Gold: Mentorship, Creating Tribes, and Listening to AdviceMentors don't have to be just for your business and your careerThe types of people you should have in your tribeEmotional intelligence is key to being mentored successfullyWhat to do when good advice is something you don't want to hear(13:48) Act 3: When the Truth Comes Home to RoostWhy you need people in your corner to help you handle the truthWhat to do and what not to do when someone is showing you who they are---------Resources from the Episode : Episode Poem, "'Bout to Burst": http://epayne.me/poetrybookYou are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerchSign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayneGet control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-careLearn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpAEpisode music by Epik The Dawn and Temper BeatsIf you enjoyed the episode:Please subscribe on your platform of choice and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? 😃About The Dating After Divorce Survival GuideDatin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger (MakesMeWannaHoller.com) and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.
Revenge Sex and a Brown Paper Bag
Mar 15 2021
Revenge Sex and a Brown Paper Bag
"Revenge is mine!" sayeth the Lord. Revenge may look cool and might seem like a good idea in the movies when the hero goes for broke to even the odds. But that’s the movies. In real life, not so much. Revenge sex (not to be confused with make-up sex) is an even worse idea. But that doesn’t stop me. Mad, sad, disappointed, upset, and completely knocked off my game thanks to the events of Episode 5, A New Orleans Ghost Story, revenge is on my mind. But revenge doesn't accomplish much.EPISODE TOPICS:(00:14) Act 1: Acting out of Anger and Living in Echo ChambersStuck in someone else's painWhy revenge doesn't workMistakes versus evil and why your pain doesn't make you special(06:54) Act 2: Revenge and Its Various FormsHow revenge plays out in emotional mattersWhy you need to be honest with your accountability tribe no matter whatWhy revenge is a waste of timeWho actually suffers when you seek revenge(17:24) Act 3: Revenge Sex - Setting the Trap and Creating the BaitThere was really no way for this to end well, but at the time, I simply did not care.------------Resources from the Episode : You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerchSign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayneGet control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-careLearn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpAGet poems featured in Season 3 here: http://epayne.me/poetrybookEpisode music by Epik The Dawn and Temper Beats------------If you enjoyed the episode:Please subscribe on your platform of choice and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? 😃About The Dating After Divorce Survival GuideDatin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger (MakesMeWannaHoller.com) and divorced dad, Eric Payne, for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over and through emotional hills and valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.
Love, Rain, Kings, and Queens
Apr 1 2021
Love, Rain, Kings, and Queens
Acting on your emotions always feels good in the moment but rarely works out in the long run. Your host, Eric Payne, a.k.a. the Divorced Dillenger puts both his feet in a pile of you know what when he casts care to the wind (based on the events of Episode 5: A New Orleans Ghost Story) and backslides on his principles when it comes to who and how he dates. But don't lose hope! Things just may end on a high note in the season finale of Season 3 of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide.EPISODE TOPICS:Why acting based on your emotions rather than sound judgment is never a good idea in any relationship. Why it’s okay to want what you want. That you can and in some instances should elevate yourself above your circumstances.Why it’s necessary to have “space” in relationships, no matter what.----------Resources from the Episode : You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerchSign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayneGet control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-careLearn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpAGet poems featured in Season 3 here: http://epayne.me/poetrybookEpisode 7 poetry is adapted from Love Rain by Jill Scott (Miss Jill)------------If you enjoyed the episode:Please subscribe on your platform of choice and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? 😃About The Dating After Divorce Survival GuideDatin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger (MakesMeWannaHoller.com) and divorced dad, Eric Payne, for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over and through emotional hills and valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.