Feb 14 2021
People Pleasing, Being Alone and Living In Denial
Moving right along from Episode 3 and just in time for Valentine's Day (if you haven't listened to it start there, actually just start at Season 1 because this is a story, not a podcast made up of standalone episodes)! It's the holidays and yours truly, Eric Payne, The Divorced Dillinger, travels home to visit the family! Before it's all over I will have eaten my way through Chicago, connected with old friends, weighed in polygamy, and held court with a trio of prayer warriors. See below for the episode acts and topics and their timestamps:(03:47) Act 1: Dealing With RejectionHow rejection can manifest negatively in your life such as imposter syndromeA better way to view rejection and use it as a springboard for success (10:18) Act 2: The Power of Being AloneUsing solitude to your advantageUnderstanding the paradox of people-pleasing and ways to go about breaking the codependent need to please othersand why you should(15:10) Acts 3 & 4: Acceptance is a Hell of a DrugReconnecting with old friends over the miles and the yearsThe damage and dangers of living in denial and keeping secrets a.k.a. ignoring the truthThe power of being present, accepting your circumstances for what they are, and what this means---------Resources from the Episode : This episode's poem, As the Drip Drops, can be found here: http://epayne.me/poetrybookYou are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerchSign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayneGet control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-careLearn your worth. Speak your worth! https://gumroad.com/l/MinpASome episode music by Epik The Dawn and Temper BeatsIf you enjoyed the episode:Please subscribe and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Subscribe and never miss an episode. If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. If you listen on Apple Podcasts and have a few extra moments, please, leave me a 5-star review and if you're really feeling generous, a written review. Why 5 stars? The podcasts with the highest and largest amounts of reviews are showcased by Apple. This will give the show the opportunity to be seen by more people. About The Dating After Divorce Survival GuideDatin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger (MakesMeWannaHoller.com) and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.