Stepmomming Made Easy

Kristen Skiles

Is stepmomming the most challenging thing you’ve ever done in your life? If so, you’re in the right place!

Welcome to the Stepmomming Made Easy podcast, where your host, Certified Stepparent Coach Kristen Skiles will ensure you never feel alone on this stepmom journey again. We’ll never be able to predict every stressor or struggle you could anticipate as a stepmom, but each week, you’ll learn new tools and techniques to prioritize your peace. Tune in for your weekly dose of validation, inspiration, and step-by-step guidance to build a stepmom life you love.

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Episodes

EP 52: 5 Challenges Stepmoms Face (& What To Do!) with Dr. Patricia Papernow
Mar 19 2024
EP 52: 5 Challenges Stepmoms Face (& What To Do!) with Dr. Patricia Papernow
Stepparenting is not hard because you're doing it wrong. Stepparenting is hard because it's an entirely different family structure and dynamic than we've experienced before. Today, I'm joined by arguably the foremost expert on stepfamily dynamics, Dr. Patricia Papernow, to discuss 5 challenges stepfamilies face. We're normalizing the challenges you struggle with and talking all about what works and what doesn't work!Dr. Patricia Papernow is an internationally recognized expert on stepfamilies. She teaches all over the U.S. and the world about best practices for meeting stepfamily challenges integrating the now considerable research with her own four-plus decades of clinical work. She loves putting this good information into the hands of people in stepfamilies!  Patricia has written dozens of articles and book chapters and has authored the leading books in the field: Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships: What Works and What Doesn’t, and, with Karen Bonnell, The Stepfamily Handbook: From Dating to Getting Serious to Forming a “Blended Family.” She is the recipient of awards for Distinguished Contribution to Family Psychology from the American Psychological Association and the award for Distinguished Contribution to Family Therapy Theory and Practice from the American Family Therapy Academy.Links Mentioned:stepfamilyrelationships.comSurviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships: What Works and What Doesn’t Book (affiliate): https://amzn.to/3PLSuYkThe Stepfamily Handbook: From Dating to Getting Serious to Forming a “Blended Family” Book (affiliate): https://amzn.to/48IKC2yReady to create a stepmom life you love? Grab my FREE GUIDE 15 Ways to Become a Happier Stepmom Overnight: https://stepmomming.com/happierLet’s work together: https://stepmomming.com/quick-links/Join our FREE support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/stepmommingainteasyHere's something I wish I learned a lot sooner... I have control over my stepmom life. And once I found it, everything changed. I want to help you find it, too! Our signature program helping stepmoms claim control is BACK for a limited time! Join Control Freak Collective now: https://stepmomming.thrivecart.com/control-freak-collective-april-24/.
EP 50: Adding An Ours Baby with Kimberly King
Mar 5 2024
EP 50: Adding An Ours Baby with Kimberly King
One of the biggest, most challenging transitions that stepmoms can make is adding a baby to their blended family. Today, Kimberly King joins me to discuss her experience and best tips for stepmoms who are preparing to add an "ours baby" to the family! We're answering all of your burning questions, like:How do you prepare your stepchildren for adding a baby to the family?Do you need to tell the ex you're expecting?Did your love for your stepchildren (or perception of that love) change after having a baby of your own?Did you ever feel territorial over your baby?When you had a baby of your own, how did your stepmom role shift?It's a great discussion that will help you feel better prepared for the exciting next chapter in your family!Kimberly King is a multifaceted entrepreneur and owner of Honestly Mum (www.honestlymum.com). She is bonus mum to 2 girls, and bio mum to 2 boys.After meeting her husband in 2016, Kimberly dove right into the deep end of step motherhood without a life vest and it’s been a wild ride ever since. Just 5 years into our marriage, the family has moved quite a bit. They lived in the Caribbean for several years and now reside in her husbands home state of Pennsylvania. As a biracial woman, raised in the inner city of Los Angeles, Kimberly, who is also a first generation American, specializes in Interracial + Intercultural stepfamilies, peeling back the layers of race and ethnicity. We work on identifying how these differences are helping or hurting your overall stepfamily dynamic and how to improve on your current situation. As a once expat herself, she is also well versed in overcoming struggles relating to relocation and all the hard parts of doing that with another new “ours baby” in tow. Her practice focuses on keeping marriage first and all facets of building confidence in your role as a stepparent.When Kimberly isn’t working with stepfamilies, the stay at home mom moonlights as a chef creating beautiful home cooked dishes.Links Mentioned:https://www.instagram.com/kimberlykamish.king/Ready to create a stepmom life you love? Grab my FREE GUIDE 15 Ways to Become a Happier Stepmom Overnight: https://stepmomming.com/happierLet’s work together: https://stepmomming.com/quick-links/Join our FREE support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/stepmommingainteasyHere's something I wish I learned a lot sooner... I have control over my stepmom life. And once I found it, everything changed. I want to help you find it, too! Our signature program helping stepmoms claim control is BACK for a limited time! Join Control Freak Collective now: https://stepmomming.thrivecart.com/control-freak-collective-april-24/.
EP 48: Co-Parenting with a High-Conflict Person with Megan Hunter, MBA
Feb 20 2024
EP 48: Co-Parenting with a High-Conflict Person with Megan Hunter, MBA
Stepmom, today we are chatting with fellow stepmom and co-founder of the High Conflict Institute, Megan Hunter! If your stepchild's other parent is high-conflict, then this is a discussion you can't afford to miss! We're chatting all about practical, tangible tools to use when dealing with someone high-conflict and answering your most burning questions like:What traits define a high-conflict person?What are best practices for communicating with a high-conflict co-parent?Do you need to respond to every communication from a high-conflict co-parent?What can we do when the co-parent is lying in court about us?How can we de-escalate high-conflict situations?It's an honor to have Megan on the podcast sharing her in-depth knowledge on this topic. I know you're going to walk away from this episode feeling validated and empowered with better tools!Megan Hunter, MBA, is an expert on high conflict disputes. She is co-founder of the High Conflict Institute along with author and speaker, Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. who developed the high-conflict personality theory. Megan developed the concept of the Institute after 13 years in policy, legislation and judicial training with the Arizona Supreme Court and 5 years with the Dawes County Attorney’s Office in Nebraska. She is founder and publisher of Unhooked Books, a U.S.-based media company.Megan has trained business, workplace, government, public service, legal, mental health, leadership groups, non-profits, universities and other professionals across much of the U.S. and 7 countries. Megan holds an MBA from the University of Phoenix and a Business and Economics degree from Chadron State College, Chadron, Nebraska. She has served as President of the Arizona Chapter of the Association of Family & Conciliation Courts, the Arizona Family Support Council and Nebraska Child Support Enforcement Association. She served 5 years on the Arizona Board of Psychologist Examiners, and currently serves on the board of Stepfamily Magazine.Links Mentioned:The High Conflict Institute: https://www.highconflictinstitute.comNew Ways for Families: https://www.conflictplaybook.com/NWFFLive Lab: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/bookstores/live-labBIFF for Coparent Communication book (affiliate): https://amzn.to/45D9vKqReady to create a stepmom life you love? Grab my FREE GUIDE 15 Ways to Become a Happier Stepmom Overnight: https://stepmomming.com/happierLet’s work together: https://stepmomming.com/quick-links/Join our FREE support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/stepmommingainteasyHere's something I wish I learned a lot sooner... I have control over my stepmom life. And once I found it, everything changed. I want to help you find it, too! Our signature program helping stepmoms claim control is BACK for a limited time! Join Control Freak Collective now: https://stepmomming.thrivecart.com/control-freak-collective-april-24/.
EP 47: Stepmomming is what you do, NOT who you are!
Feb 13 2024
EP 47: Stepmomming is what you do, NOT who you are!
Have you ever felt like stepmomming has taken over your life? Like the main part of your identity is now “stepmom” and everything else has taken a backseat? I remember feeling like this pressure to be the perfect stepmom was the most important thing in my life, and I needed to be successful. I stopped doing many of the things I loved doing before meeting Kevin and Krista. I let stepmomming become all that I am. But it was suffocating.One day, I looked in the mirror and hardly recognized myself. Today, I want to talk about that identity crisis I experienced–and that I know many of you experience.In this episode, I describe and validate the experience for stepmoms who feel like they've lost themselves in the role, and provide valuable tips for reclaiming your identity. Stepmomming is what you do, not who you are.Ready to learn how to start setting life-changing, marriage-saving boundaries? Grab my FREE GUIDE Basics of a Boundary: https://stepmomming.com/boundaries-basics-guide/Let’s work together: https://stepmomming.com/quick-links/Join our FREE support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/stepmommingainteasyHere's something I wish I learned a lot sooner... I have control over my stepmom life. And once I found it, everything changed. I want to help you find it, too! Our signature program helping stepmoms claim control is BACK for a limited time! Join Control Freak Collective now: https://stepmomming.thrivecart.com/control-freak-collective-april-24/.
EP 46: Marrying a Widower and Blending Families with Rachel G. Scott
Feb 6 2024
EP 46: Marrying a Widower and Blending Families with Rachel G. Scott
Two of the largest factors that can make an already-complicated role like stepmom even harder are blending two families and stepparenting when the children have lost their other parent. Today's guest, Rachel, shares all about her experience doing both, and how she navigated these challenges with intentionality, grace, and empathy. Even if you don't fit into either of those categories, you can learn SO much from her!Rachel G. Scott is a devoted wife, mother, stepmother, and Ohio native. She is also the author of the upcoming book, Taking the 5 Leaps, which releases March 2024. As founder of the I Can’t Come Down Movement, speaker, and podcast host, she desires to inspire believers to walk in their purpose and assignment as they boldly take leaps of faith. Links Mentioned:RachelGScott.ComBetterThanBlended.comTaking the 5 Leaps Book (affiliate): https://amzn.to/3PTBTChReady to create a stepmom life you love? Grab my FREE GUIDE 15 Ways to Become a Happier Stepmom Overnight: https://stepmomming.com/happierLet’s work together: https://stepmomming.com/quick-links/Join our FREE support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/stepmommingainteasyHere's something I wish I learned a lot sooner... I have control over my stepmom life. And once I found it, everything changed. I want to help you find it, too! Our signature program helping stepmoms claim control is BACK for a limited time! Join Control Freak Collective now: https://stepmomming.thrivecart.com/control-freak-collective-april-24/.
EP 44: The Importance of Setting and Discussing Expectations with Amy Ambrozich
Jan 23 2024
EP 44: The Importance of Setting and Discussing Expectations with Amy Ambrozich
You don't know what you don't know... And that is never more true in blended families than when it comes to the critical importance of setting and discussing expectations with your partner! Today, I'm joined by fellow coach, Amy, who is tackling this huge topic with me! Together, we're giving you our very best tips for how to recognize your expectations for your role, home, relationship, and the ex, and how to get aligned with your partner on those things! This is a doozy of a conversation, but it's absolutely a can't miss for any stepmom!Get ready to meet Amy Ambrozich, M.A., blended family coach and strategist.  As a down-to-earth coach, Active Parenting workshop facilitator, dynamic speaker, and SMART Stepfamily Therapy Provider, Amy has dedicated her career to supporting blended parenting couples in building a stronger parenting partnership. With her practical approach and expert guidance, Amy empowers couples to create a solid foundation, fostering a stronger bond and effective teamwork in their parenting journey.Whether you're navigating the challenges of a blended family or seeking to enhance your parenting dynamics, Amy is here to provide the support and strategies you need. Join her as she shares her wisdom, insights, and relatable stories on podcasts, offering valuable tools for creating more harmony in your home. Learn more about Amy's transformative coaching services at www.daretoparent.com and get ready to embark on a journey towards a stronger and more connected parenting partnership.Ready to create a stepmom life you love? Grab my FREE GUIDE 15 Ways to Become a Happier Stepmom Overnight: https://stepmomming.com/happierLet’s work together: https://stepmomming.com/quick-links/Join our FREE support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/stepmommingainteasyHere's something I wish I learned a lot sooner... I have control over my stepmom life. And once I found it, everything changed. I want to help you find it, too! Our signature program helping stepmoms claim control is BACK for a limited time! Join Control Freak Collective now: https://stepmomming.thrivecart.com/control-freak-collective-april-24/.
EP 42: A Mom's Perspective Co-Parenting with a Stepmom with Ashley Machele
Jan 9 2024
EP 42: A Mom's Perspective Co-Parenting with a Stepmom with Ashley Machele
You are in for such an incredible conversation today, stepmom! I'm chatting with Ashley Machele, a mom who shares long-distance custody of her oldest daughter. She'll share her perspective co-parenting with a stepmom and asks how she can validate and empathize with her daughter's stepmom—a perspective she references as life-changing. We discuss boundaries her daughter's stepmom crossed, how she understands the positive intention behind those actions and appreciates the stepmom regardless, and MUCH more! I'd consider this episode a can't-miss conversation for any stepmom whose stepchild has two homes.Ashley is the founder of Our Splendid Life. She has provided resources and support for blended families since 2013. She is a certified stepfamily specialist and is finishing her Bachelor's Degree in Family Studies from BYU-Idaho. After struggling for years after her divorce, she felt inspired to do things differently. She has spent the past 15 years trying unconventional techniques to improve her situation, focusing on creating change from the inside out. She is passionate about sharing these tools with other families who are struggling in similar situations because they have truly changed her life!Links Mentioned:www.ashleymachele.comwww.instagram.com/ashleymachele/Ready to create a stepmom life you love? Grab my FREE GUIDE 15 Ways to Become a Happier Stepmom Overnight: https://stepmomming.com/happierLet’s work together: https://stepmomming.com/quick-links/Join our FREE support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/stepmommingainteasyHere's something I wish I learned a lot sooner... I have control over my stepmom life. And once I found it, everything changed. I want to help you find it, too! Our signature program helping stepmoms claim control is BACK for a limited time! Join Control Freak Collective now: https://stepmomming.thrivecart.com/control-freak-collective-april-24/.
EP 39: Combatting Guilty Parent Syndrome with Tracy Poizner
Dec 19 2023
EP 39: Combatting Guilty Parent Syndrome with Tracy Poizner
Hey, stepmom! Does your partner's guilt because of their separation and sharing custody affect their parenting? If so, this episode is for you! Today, I'm chatting with Tracy Poizner about the causes of guilty parenting syndrome, the effect it has on the children and the stepmom, and what you, as the stepmom, can do to empower your partner instead! It's a great interview full of valuable info you won't want to miss!Tracy Poizner has been a stepmom for over 15 years and launched the Essential Stepmom facebook group about 6 years ago. Her podcast of the same name has over 100 episodes, many of them geared towards problems facing the dads such as parental alienation, bringing a new wife or baby into the family and difficulties asserting authority or enforcing household rules. She hosts a separate podcast specifically dedicated to the challenges of post-divorce fatherhood called UnDeletable Dad.Links Mentioned: essentialstepmom.cominfo@essentialstepmom.comundeletabledad.comReady to create a stepmom life you love? Grab my FREE GUIDE 15 Ways to Become a Happier Stepmom Overnight: https://stepmomming.com/happierLet’s work together: https://stepmomming.com/quick-links/Join our FREE support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/stepmommingainteasyHere's something I wish I learned a lot sooner... I have control over my stepmom life. And once I found it, everything changed. I want to help you find it, too! Our signature program helping stepmoms claim control is BACK for a limited time! Join Control Freak Collective now: https://stepmomming.thrivecart.com/control-freak-collective-april-24/.
EP 37: Overcoming Resentment as a Stepmom with Beth McDonough
Dec 5 2023
EP 37: Overcoming Resentment as a Stepmom with Beth McDonough
Resentment is pretty much a universal experience for stepmoms. If you've struggled with feeling resentful on your journey, you're definitely not alone! In today's episode, Beth McDonough and I discuss why resentment is so common for stepmoms and the reason why, steps you can take to identify your triggers, and how to overcome resentment in order to be fully present and engaged in your stepfamily!Beth is a Certified Stepparent Coach, Co-CEO of Stepfamily Magazine, Co-Founder of The Stepmom Summit, and owner of The Inclusive Stepmom, where she takes stepmoms from hopeless to happy.Beth specializes in LGBTQ+ issues, resentment, being a childless stepmom, infertility, dealing with the ex in a small town, and strengthening stepfamilies through focusing on your relationship with your partner.The Inclusive Stepmom blog was named one of the best stepmom blogs of 2020 by Healthline. Her work has been featured in Good Morning America, NPR, Stepfamily Magazine, Stepmom Magazine, SheKnows Parenting, Bustle, Romper, TravelZoo, BabyCenter, Stepmomming, and ParentMap.Links Mentioned: The Inclusive Stepmom: https://theinclusivestepmom.comStepfamily Magazine: https://www.stepfamilymagazine.comStepfamily Circle (affiliate): https://stepmomming--stepmomsummit.thrivecart.com/stepfamily-circle/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theinclusivestepmom/Ready to create a stepmom life you love? Grab my FREE GUIDE 15 Ways to Become a Happier Stepmom Overnight: https://stepmomming.com/happierLet’s work together: https://stepmomming.com/quick-links/Join our FREE support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/stepmommingainteasyHere's something I wish I learned a lot sooner... I have control over my stepmom life. And once I found it, everything changed. I want to help you find it, too! Our signature program helping stepmoms claim control is BACK for a limited time! Join Control Freak Collective now: https://stepmomming.thrivecart.com/control-freak-collective-april-24/.
EP 35: Feeding Picky Eaters with Jenny Friedman, MS RD
Nov 21 2023
EP 35: Feeding Picky Eaters with Jenny Friedman, MS RD
Calling all stepmoms struggling with picky eaters! Today, we're chatting with dietitian, Jenny, all about how to take the frustration out of mealtime with picky eaters! I am excited to share with you everything I learned in this interview about the causes of picky eating, ways to discuss food and mealtime to ease the struggles, setting boundaries with extended family members around your child's food choices, and SO much more! Jenny is full of great insight and tangible tips to put some fun back in mealtime.Jenny Friedman, MS RD is a dietitian who helps families overcome extreme picky eating and pediatric feeding challenges. Known for her playful and approachable style, Jenny is the author of Stories of Extreme Picky Eating: Children with Severe Eating Challenges and the Solutions that Helped Them. Jenny lives in Philadelphia with her family.Links Mentioned: JennyFriedmanNutrition.com or FeedingPickyEaters.comInstagram: @feedingpickyeatersJenny's book, Stories of Extreme Picky Eating: Children with Severe Eating Challenges and the Solutions that Helped Them (affiliate): https://amzn.to/46cm0xBReady to create a stepmom life you love? Grab my FREE GUIDE 15 Ways to Become a Happier Stepmom Overnight: https://stepmomming.com/happierLet’s work together: https://stepmomming.com/quick-links/Join our FREE support group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/stepmommingainteasyHere's something I wish I learned a lot sooner... I have control over my stepmom life. And once I found it, everything changed. I want to help you find it, too! Our signature program helping stepmoms claim control is BACK for a limited time! Join Control Freak Collective now: https://stepmomming.thrivecart.com/control-freak-collective-april-24/.