How do you feel when you are wrong?

Who is the saboteur? The unconscious in everyday life

May 30 2022 • 3 mins

You were really sure that you were right, but you have found out that you were wrong.

How many times have you been in that situation? How many times have you said to yourself, ‘how could I have been so stupid?’

Becasue when you feel you are right it does not actually mean you are right.

It’s just a perception. It's a belief and a feeling and not a fact. Your feeling of being right could be right - or it could be wrong. This tendency that we all have - to experience our perceptions as facts is one of the biggest factors that our internal saboteur uses to derail us.

The next time you know you are right...pause and, just for a moment, accept that you might be wrong. Treat your feelings as being hypotheses - as beliefs rather than objective truth (this is hard but possible).

Here are some awkward questions that you can ask yourself that will help you achieve this:

  • What do I believe about this situation?
  • What evidence do I have for my belief?
  • Is there any evidence to indicate that I’m wrong?
  • In what way could I be wrong?

Because even the most intelligent people can sometimes be wrong...



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