Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/humorist.therapist and  https://www.instagram.com/mattcard.oneFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Sara Kuburic is an existential psychotherapist, consultant, writer, and columnist for USA Today. She specializes in identity, relationships and moral trauma. Social Media Handle: Instagram: @millennial.therapist Twitter (new): @sarakuburic Website: www.sara-kuburic.comPublications: https://www.sara-kuburic.com This podcast is hosted by Dr. Angela Phillips (IG: @humorist.therapist) and Matt Cardone (IG: @mattcard.one). It is produced by Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please contact anphillips@advancedrecoverysystems.com.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Memorable Moments: 2:58 - I'm a constant learner, and just obsessed with that. That personal development mission that is just at my core of continuing to evolve into that complete person you're intended to be. And as a result, I've had the chance to build an incredible team. My team is my heart. I have enjoyed not only working alongside them, but also watching their evolution and pushing them to grow.7:45 - One perfect example is we launched an educational program called Real Talk back in 2016. And I got to really marry my two worlds. For those that don't know, I'm a former Miss Florida. I have absolutely loved being involved with the Miss America organization. And I saw an opportunity to have Miss Florida and potentially Miss America service spokesperson for Real Talk and the prevention of teen drug abuse and misuse. And so we were able to do something in tandem with the Miss America organization. We have Miss Florida who has been an ambassador for us for six years.10:14 - Our team is rooted in strengths-based coaching. We use Gallup's StrengthsFinder to help clients identify their strengths, because people will naturally gravitate towards “I need to fix my weaknesses”, or “I’m not good at this”. Your strengths are where you should stay in play.11:32 - A huge part of what's made me successful is the level of self-awareness and being able to articulate when I see a potential in something and having a plan to execute it. 13:21 - Don't be afraid to be amazing. Putting one foot in front of the next incremental growth on a daily basis is going to add up over time, and you'll be blown away by your results. But it requires you to actually take the step forward. And it doesn't mean you have to climb Mount Everest, it's literally one foot in front of the next like that's it. So don't overwhelm yourself in the process. Commit to growing, commit to learning.15:27 - I've been on this show and just throughout my entire life, really over the last 20 years, I struggled significantly when I was in high school. I had terrible eating disorders. I struggled with anxiety and depression—my own battle. I always utilized my voice to create change and try to create a safe place for other people to recognize that they were struggling with that themselves. And so I am now going to be working primarily with adolescent mental health, which is very exciting to me.17:15 - Happiness means being happy with how I'm showing up for others and with where I'm at. 15:22 - I struggled significantly when I was in high school. I had terrible eating disorders. I struggled with anxiety and depression—my own battle. I always utilized my voice to create change and try to create a safe place for other people to recognize that they were struggling with that themselves.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle: @bpmattmorganMemorable Moments: 01:18 - I learned at a very early age that I had to work incredibly hard for something, and the more work I'm willing to put into something, the better results I'm going to see.02:02 - I've gotten into 16 years of sobriety now under my belt from opioid addiction to doing what I feel the Lord has put me here to do. And that is to help as many people struggling with addiction as I did every single day.02:34 - I do believe the Lord made me a wrestler, made me seven feet tall, and made me all these different things to use one day to get people's attention… My job is to use it as a platform to put a spotlight on important issues that I'm very passionate about. Drug addiction is at the top of them.06:23 - The face of addiction is every color of the rainbow. It's every race, every creed, or every religion, short, tall, fat, skinny, funny, unfunny. It's an equal-opportunity butt kicker. And I think it's my job to get that message out there to show everybody that no, it's not the dude under the overpass on a floor with a needle hanging out of his arm, homeless. That's not a drug addict. It's so much more vast than that.11:21 - My addiction specialist made the mistake of telling me he's never had somebody he's worked with who has never relapsed. It's a normal part of the process. If it happens, we just get back on the wagon. It's no big deal… But what stuck in my head because I'm weird, and I'm very competitive is that he's never had somebody that didn't relapse before. So I treat it like a sport and said I’d be this guy's first. So anytime I'd want to use after two or three days of not using, I wouldn't do it because I wanted to prove this guy wrong—that you can do it without relapsing.12:16 - Everybody's different. It was a different story. Our struggle is going to be different. But if it gets to that point where it's so myopic, where you're flipping out, like I was in that intersection, because it's too stressful, calm everything down, slow everything down and say, “All I got to do is stay sober for just five more minutes.”16:57 - I knocked on all their doors not once, not twice, but three times and talked to these residents to find out what their needs were, what they wanted to see done in the city that really wasn't too far off what I want for my own son—a safe community for him to grow up and prosper that has more special needs services in this community as well.17:55 -  Most of my support came from my community who wanted to see a change and wanted to see somebody that had no ties.18:27 - Nobody could tell you what to do one way or the other. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Memorable Moments: 02:51 - Hypnosis is just a state of highly focused attention. It's like when you get so caught up in a good movie that you forget you're watching the movie and you enter the imagined world… It's the ability to narrow the focus of attention and put outside of conscious awareness things that would ordinarily be in consciousness.03:44 - Shifting mental states has great power. And it's something that we can learn to use better to help us live better.04:24 - You can start out dealing with stressors on the outside by dealing with the way they affect your body on the inside. That's the way you start to gain control.06:32 - This is better because [for example] you're trying to get to sleep at three in the morning. I'm not going to be there to hypnotize you back to sleep. But the app is. 07:24 - Hypnosis is the oldest Western conception of Psychotherapy. It started 250 years ago—the first time that talking interaction between the doctor and the patient was thought to have therapeutic value. 10:05 - Just by shifting your focus to how your body feels, you're changing the relationship between external stressors and our normal reaction.10:43 - Learn to approach stress by first handling the thing you can best handle, which is how your body reacts to it, and then approach the problem and figure out what to do about it.11:42 - Hypnosis is Western. It's meant to solve a problem… And it's more focused on changing a given problem. You do it not just to be open and to lose yourself but rather to deal with your pain or your stress.  16:05 - We're born with this big brain and a great imagination, but not with a user's manual. We don't use it very well.  Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle: @plantbasedaddictMemorable Moments: 03:35 - Evolutionary Psychology refers to the ways in which people behave, why they choose to go one way versus another, in regards to the way in which our genes have explored the environment of our evolutionary story.04:58 - All animal life is actually motivated by something called a tripartite motivational system, or a motivational triad, and those are pleasure-seeking, pain avoidance, and energy conservation.13:03 - In the modern environment, when we get a dopamine stimulus, it is what we call a supernormal stimulus that raises our dopamine circuitry way outside the bounds of normal human experience. And our brains don't really like that. And so what they're going to do is they're going to defend themselves against this intense stimulus.15:23 - When you're habituated to repetitive, consistent supernormal stimulus, the wrong decision feels incredibly right for your survival. And the right decision feels incredibly wrong. 16:01 - The reason why people find themselves in that situation isn't because they're broken. It's because that is their psychology responding exactly the way it's designed to respond to an environment that is too shifted away from our natural history and our natural behavior. 17:48 - It's not a fault of theirs, it's the fault of their environment. And if they are willing to cultivate an environment that looks more indicative of their natural history and their natural behavior—spend two to four weeks living in that environment, their dopamine receptors are going to regain sensitivity. They're going to recalibrate to an environment that makes sense. 25:02 - What you have to understand is that humans have a psychology of more. We're trying to get the most for the least every single time. But now for the first time in human history, that decision might not be the best thing to do for our long-term outcome. 25:48 - If you can organize your environment to look like what you want to do, you don't have to outcompete the environment in order to be successful. 29:10 - Everyone thinks that they've got to figure out how to be disciplined enough to do a thing. Instead of trying to become more disciplined, design a more disciplined environment. This is really valuable. Your self-control will always be a lot less necessary when your environment doesn't require you to depend on it. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle: @allisonwalsh @humorist.therapistMemorable Moments: 2:15 - So many of the individuals that we work with on a daily basis have also battled their own challenges throughout the course of their lives. We wear that as a badge of honor, not something that we're shameful about, which is just a beautiful place to be able to work and come from and to be able to share our lived experiences with others.3:09 - We've had a lot of open, candid conversations, really asking very straightforward questions of how are you feeling? What's going on? How can I support you do you need time?3:18 - Being compassionate and empathetic to people first, and the employer second was the most important thing and allowed us to create this safe space to have open conversations.3:55 - Mental health is health.4:09 - Having these conversations on a more regular basis allows people to feel very safe and be able to be very open about what they're dealing with so that we can get them what they need. 4:18 - Give people the space and resources they need. Or just purely checking in with each other to let them know that we care on a deeper level and that you're not just another person that's on the team. You're a very special person that we care about.5:07 - One thing that a lot of us struggle with is the difficulty to decipher or determine what's appropriate for us to share and what are we really going to feel comfortable with.11:42 - We don't have cookie-cutter approaches. We were very focused on what are the needs of all the people that were taken care of in our centers or online with Telehealth.15:16 I've seen so much movement around big, small and medium-sized groups and companies wanting to provide their people with what they need. And they're really looking for a solution that's really going to meet all of those needs, which is why we love Nobu, why we love Advanced Recovery Systems, who we work with and for because we're able to really provide a lot of that.18:26 - When it comes to setting boundaries around work-life balance, it’s really about being intentional about that transition from one environment or role to another, and then being consistent with that, and really respecting that time.20:03 - Boundaries are the greatest act of self-respect.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Ross Szabo is a social innovator who pioneered the youth mental health movement. He is the Wellness Director and founding faculty member at Geffen Academy at UCLA, where he has created a program for students to learn about mental health once a week throughout their education from grade 6-12. Ross is also an award winning speaker, author and the CEO of Human Power Project, a company that designs mental health curriculum.Social Media Handle: @rossszaboPublications: A Kids Book About Anxiety, Behind Happy Faces; Taking Charge of Your Mental HealthMemorable Moments: 2:50 We're really kind of in just the beginning stages of mental health literacy. And what we're trying to do is tie that past history of physical literacy and mental literacy as a way to actually normalize conversations around mental health. 4:26 We need to start actually teaching that there are different categories for mental health challenges. One would be everyday challenges: stress, lack of sleep, body image issues, things like that. Those are things everyone experiences. Another category would be environmental factors. The next category would be significant events, so experiences with loss change, and rejection, and how that affects your lives. This is really critical in terms of normalizing mental health. Because most people are confusing these issues. But those aren't the same things. This is just one tool. Let's actually separate what you're experiencing so that you have a better vocabulary for it.6:20 - One of the most important things there is teaching kinds of sensitivity around what is a mental health disorder and what isn't. 6:25 - The conversations that are getting normalized now aren't actually beneficial. They're dismissive of people's experiences.8:06 - Mental health literacy and mental health education are different from social-emotional learning. 8:36 - Mental health literacy is important because the definition of mental health isn't having a problem. It's how you address challenges in your life.8:56 - Mental health should be taught the same way as physical health. What schools are mainly afraid of is becoming therapeutic centers. But there is a way to take a public health approach to mental health. 12:12 In the professional setting, put up boundaries and only share things you’ve processed. Give yourself the outlet so that you're not stuck to take things back or wish you didn't share some.13:27 - One of the most important things you can do as a parent is to model the behavior you want to see in your kids. The largest form of education will always be through example. It'll never be words.16:40 - It's natural for kids to have different things they like and have those things shift throughout adolescence. There's nothing wrong with that. But when it gets deeper than that, when you see that they're not able to do the things they used to do for a longer duration of time,  that's when it's time to call someone in.18:05 - As you go through the early decades of your life, you spend so much time building and trying to find what works for you that it takes a while to get to a place where you can be more present and be in a place where you're connecting.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle: @plantbasedaddictPublications: Memorable Moments: 4:11  I was very accepting of myself, both physically and emotionally. But all of a sudden I was told there are now conditions that I was allowed to accept myself physically, and that was a scary thing, especially coming from my parents.7:46  One of the biggest drivers for depression is a future that doesn’t seem like a place you want to be a part of doesn’t feel safe and doesn’t seem comfortable. In fact, it feels like it’s gonna be a painful place, too, more so than where you are right now.9:18  On August 21st of 2012, life had been the most painful it has ever been. Every day was the most difficult day of my life, and I live in full confidence that the next day would be even worse. And when you do that long enough not only do not know how it got to this point, you don’t know how to get out of it. Because there’s so much shame and stigma wrapped around it, you don’t know how to say Hey I don’t know what I'm doing here but, man, things are not working out, and so I tried to end my life.11:05  I believe this to be true for the majority of people: Suicide isn’t someone wanting to end their lives; it’s someone wanting to end their pain.12:45  The things that we choose to believe have consequences on us and the people that we care about.15:42   The reason why I have survived all of those moments, those years, and that experience was because my body has never once given up on me. My body has been fighting for me since the day I was born, regardless of the way I treated it.16:18  When I switch the mindset to not what's the matter with me, but what matters to me in terms of my physical health, my social health, my emotional health, then you're very clear about which direction you want to go. Then every decision that you make isn't about what not to do. It's about what's going to enhance the opportunity for you to show up in life in a way that feels meaningful to you.19:13  The nutrition conversation is about trying to inform better decisions and patterns over time.20:28  Human research data over time shows that fiber is dose-dependent to benefit, meaning the more you consume, the better the benefit, the greater the reduction of all-cause of mortality, and the greater the increase of human health outcomes over time.28:12  What I think is so important, what I think matters most in recovery, isn't “Why don't they stop?” It's “Why does it make sense?” It's such a more valuable question to ask.28:30  If we can understand why it makes sense that someone uses drugs, we can reorganize their life, we can organize their dietary pattern, and we can reorganize their emotional patterns in a way that reconnecting seemed a lot more likely. Use may not stop entirely over the course of the rest of their life. But the intention may be different. And the frequency will be far less.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Amy Van Slambrook is a licensed psychotherapist and certified leadership & relationship coach. She helps high-profile women and couple CEOs, entrepreneurs, and leaders to reclaim and elevate into the most aligned and powerful version of themselves in their business, relationship, and life by doing deep healing and transformation at the soul, mind, and body levels. With 30 years of professional experience in psychotherapy, coaching,executive leadership, genetic and psychological research, functional medicine, and entrepreneurship, as well as her own 35-year personal journey of trauma healing and personal development, Amy brings vast experience to her work in post-traumatic growth and holistic wellness and empowerment. She is a sought-after speaker, podcast guest and host, and published author. Amy builds her life and works on a strong foundation of faith.Social Media Handle: @amyvanslambrookMemorable Moments: 2:47  I think one of the hallmarks of someone who’s really of transformational wealth is that they’ve tried to separate them, they tried to exist in the mind without appreciating what’s happening in their body and trying to be in their body without appreciating what’s in their spirit and the three are so inextricably tied because they are mouthpieces for one another.4:36  It’s great to have relationships when there’s no pressure. It’s easy. It’s when there’s the pressure that we are really exposed to the reality of our lives and our relationships.6:15  I really encourage my clients to take a pause and let themselves get silence in their lives because silence is when we face the reality of things.6:33  When we are silent, we’re faced with looking in the mirror of what we’ve created not only on the front-facing image of our social media but what happens behind the scenes in the reality of who we are and the relationships that we have starting with ourselves, with God, with those we love the most in life.8:14  I really am such a champion for the fact that trauma, can be the biggest springboard for your life into a whole new level of success and triumph. It isn’t something we need to run away from.8:58  I’ve been through decades of my own trauma, I can stand here and say it is the gateway to that next level in your life because it reconnects us to the truest part of ourselves.10:20  That is how post-traumatic growth really gets to shine because suddenly you’re saying what inhibited my growth, what stunted my growth now can actually catapult it so that I can impact the world the way I'm supposed to.12:39  If you went through trauma as a child, that's kind of an imprint of how you are going to view all relationships happening. 14:18  We are usually drawn to people who not only give us the comforting feeling of home but also remind us and tend to wound us in ways we were wounded as a child.19:28  What matters most is absolutely going all in on what God has called me to go all in on. I just turned 50, and it has given me a new sense of liberation and freedom. I have never felt more motivated and vibrant and free because of all the healing work I've done.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Dr. Sherry Walling is a clinical psychologist, speaker, podcaster, author, and mental health advocate. Her company, ZenFounder, helps entrepreneurs and leaders navigate complex human experience. She hosts the ZenFounder podcast, which has been called a “must listen” by both Forbes and Entrepreneur Magazine. She is also the host of Mind Curious, a podcast exploring innovations in mental health care via psychedelics. She is the author of two books: The Entrepreneur’s Guide to Keeping Your Shit Together and Touching Two Worlds: a guide for finding hope in the aftermath of loss. Sherry and her husband, Rob, reside in Minneapolis where they spend their time driving their children to music lessons. She has also been known to occasionally perform as a circus aerialist.Social Media Handle: Instagram: @sherrywallingPublications: Touching Two Worlds: a guide to finding hope in the landscape of lossMemorable Moments: 2:24 Any kind of human that’s under a state of stress is dysregulated. Their body is elevated trying to react to a stressor.  2:32 To help someone feel better in the midst of stress is to reregulate or bring their body and their mind down to homeostasis. Thoughts go slower, the heart beats slower, and breath is slower. If we can turn the slow-motion dial on that often helps stress feel much more manageable and accessible.3:22 When we can feel that sense of agency over our bodies and our lives, that feels so much better than feeling stuck on the tilt-a-whirl at the fair. And we're just moving so fast and we're like, ‘Yeah, I wanna get off.’4:47 Being in my own grief after the losses (of my dad and brother), one of the things that were so helpful to me was I really connected with my own body.  6:13 When we get into some kind of emotional expression, we can breathe again. It's a big exhale. It’s like putting down the heaviness of all that we are carrying and being present with a different experience.6:27 Emotional expression allows you to have a little lightness, a little levity, or really express some of those negative emotions. Feel into your anger. Feel into your fear, but not in a way that feels like it's going to be overwhelming for you.6:52 Our society is kind of set up to move quickly through grief. Like policies related to bereavement leave. You might go to your mom's funeral on Saturday and on Tuesday, you're supposed to be back at work. There's not a lot of space for grief.7:09 A lot of us feel like we gotta muscle through hard things when we're in pain or suffering. But the tendency is to just keep going, just keep moving, just be gritty. And those aren't bad messages. I just think they may be out of balance.7:30 Don’t go around pain or suffering. Don't avoid it. Don't skip over it. Talk about it. Feel it. Express it. Move toward the heart of what's difficult, knowing that that's where all the growth lies. That's where all the lessons are.  8:03  When you go in and through something - for instance, grief - there's no part of you that you don't have access to. There's no part of you that you feel like you have to hide from.8:56 Writing can be helpful for people who like to journal. Writing about your own experience can be a really powerful way to do some of that in and through work.9:13 If you feel like you want the presence of another human, it will help to be in therapy or go to a support group where you can begin to tell the stories to give life and words to the things that feel painful.  9:33 You can also try expressive movement such as a five rhythms dance practice where you pair different kinds of movement with different kinds of emotion. It can be a yoga session. There's something really can be quite healing about holding a warrior position and lingering there and letting your body do the work to breathe through and to hold that position.10:55 Doing grief better means talking about grief. It’s naming those that we've lost. Naming the hopes that we had that never came to be.11:12 Doing grief better means we're collectively comfortable moving in and out of tender spaces, knowing that we can do that with gentleness and with some graciousness and not feel like we have to, again, skip over it and just get back to work and get back to normal life. That is quite damaging to people who are in any kind of grief.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Angela Phillips. This podcast is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Lindsay Bettis, Miss Florida 2022, a Summa Cum Laude graduate of the University of Central Florida and is currently pursuing her MBA from Louisiana State University Shreveport’s accelerated online program. Her social impact initiative, “Prescription for Change: Addiction Prevention, Treatment and Recovery” was crafted from the responsibility she felt to reverse the addiction crisis after growing up in a family with substance use. As Miss Florida 2022 she will continue her partnership and employment with Advanced Recovery Systems, a leader in behavioral healthcare, which allows her the opportunity to repair lives, restore families and revive communities. Through her advocacy, she has saved over 315 lives and impacted over 975 lives. She recently became a nationally Certified Event Interventionist (CEI) and serves as an ambassador for two substance abuse prevention programs, Natural High and Real Talk.Social Media Handle: Instagram: @missamericaflMemorable Moments: 3:08  I grew up in a family with substance use. And it was something that was really associated with the dark parts of my life. So I really never saw it becoming a career because it was something that I always looked at and frowned upon...something that my family always swept under the rug and tried to keep hush hush. And as we grew and progressed through this journey, we realized that that was the worst possible thing that we could have done. And what we needed to do was reach out and get the resources that were needed in order to get my loved one healthy, and back on track and recovery.7:00  I remember the first time that I saw a real talk presentation, I was in college, and I will be the first to admit, I was naive about what was going on in the world related to drugs and alcohol. I didn't know all the science and the facts. And I'm glad that this program laid it out straight, because it's something that students need to hear. Because there are a lot of people like me that don't necessarily know what happens if you choose to experiment. 14:52 I think that that will forever be a part of my story, the fact that I persevered through something that could have been where I easily decided to just give up, bow out. But instead, we decided to go full force and go down kicking and screaming in the process. 19:36 My dad is my biggest supporter and always gives me his full okay to bring these stories to the stage and to bring them out to the public and I could not be more thankful for that because I know that our story is similar to a lot of other individuals that could really benefit from hearing this.20:05 What matters most to me at this point is that I have been handed this incredible opportunity. So what matters most is making the most out of that opportunity and making a difference.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Angela Phillips. This podcast is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Originally from Germany, Mari Stracke is a London-based writer, occasional stand-up comedian and mental health advocate who blogs about mental health to her engaged 50k following on Instagram. After a close family member tried to commit suicide in 2013, she began to speak publicly about the importance of de-stigmatising mental illness. Today, she openly shares her own struggles with anxiety and PTSD, which she was diagnosed with after witnessing a graphic knife crime in London.   With a background in filmmaking, Mari particularly loves working on stories that raise awareness. She believes that making the extremely personal experience of living with a mental illness widely accessible through storytelling can be a lifeline - not only to those who suffer in silence but also for loved ones who find it difficult to relate. She is currently working on her first book and in her free time she enjoys watching the colourful houseboats on the canal in her home borough of Hackney.Social Media Handle:Instagram: @maristrackeMemorable Moments: 2:38 You cannot sweep mental health issues under the carpet. It just comes back and it comes back bigger and worse.4:48  So often I think people who struggle mentally with things assume that “well that's just life.” 9:58  I initially just thought if I just talk about it the way I truly feel it without trying to think about the likes that you will get, or if it resonates with people, then I can, I can just, it's out out of my heart in a way, the negative stuff.10:54 But we are getting there, where we understand that we all have vulnerable sides. That's what makes us human. And you have such a bigger shot at building a stronger connection with people, if you actually show your vulnerability. And if you go beyond the surface.12:49 And so I had meaningful conversations. And sometimes it's just like an exchange of two sentences. And that's all I or the other person need in that moment. It snaps you out of that, that loneliness that I think fuels so many of the mental illnesses that we have.14:48  I feel like what else are we really here for if not making real connections? It's the most beautiful thing. And I think when you're younger, that might not be on the forefront of your thoughts. And the older you get, or at least for me, it's like, oh, well, of course, that's what I'm here to do, the enjoyment of the dialogue with other people and to share a little bit of their experience and the way they see their world. Yeah, it's very powerful.17:10 I often have to remind myself that I now live in a very nice bubble, of people who are advocating and who I have conversations with and where it's very open and where everybody is proud to be vulnerable. But that is a bubble, in the grander scheme of society that is not there yet at all. 18:15 Don't let anybody invalidate your pain.21:22 If you feel it, it's there. Pain is pain is pain is pain. There is no “oh, no, this pain is different than that.” And if you feel it, you have it. You have that pain inside you, and you're suffering from it. And so therefore, you deserve to be heard, and listened to and taken seriously. And to receive, ultimately, help.27:04 So that's the first thing I say to people. I'm absolutely open to listen, and I'm interested if you want to share it. But it's not for me to measure whether your pain is valid enough to now say, maybe try some therapy, maybe try some tools about breathing exercises, those kinds of things. Because you know that no one else is an expert on how you feel, but you. No one else, there's no other authority than you. 29:22 I think that's a big one for me at the moment to try and live fully. And by that I mean, go for the connection. Say yes to things.29:53 Life is about the dialogue with other people, understanding how other people see the world and understanding that my viewpoint is just one of very many. And we all have this experience on this planet. So living life to the fullest, for me, personally, is something [that] has become a mantra recently.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Angela Phillips. This podcast is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle:Instagram: www.instagram.com/c_hurst10/?hl=enLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/catherine-hurst-6564b416/Twitter: https://twitter.com/cathy_hurst10Memorable Moments: 6:39 If we had learned early on, just like you learn math skills or science or spelling or whatever, if we had learned more about our emotions, and where did it come from in the brain and the neurological system and how can we go: "okay, I'm gonna get myself out of this emotional mindset." Take a deep breath, walk away from a situation and be able to come back and face it better, because maybe I was angry, maybe I was frustrated. And if I continue staying in that headspace, it's going to consume me. 8:00 That's what's important for us, to really get these kids to think about that tomorrow can be a better day, and that it's okay not to be okay. And nobody, nobody in this world is perfect. And we all have our own issues and situations.11:15 We need to get back to allowing children to be vulnerable and have these feelings and say, you know, I'm learning [too] at my age...and instead, if I say, "Wow, I can't believe you felt that way. Let's talk about it or share with me, why do you think you have those feelings?", it makes it into a totally different conversation. And so at my age, I'm still learning how to work with people and my children, especially.14:15 We're so used to just going "well, I'm sorry, that happened." You know, let's just move on. And we’ve got to stop doing that because children are more sensitive today. They want so much to feel accepted...and so we've got to let them be the individuals that they are, but encourage them and you know, and help them through the rough times. 17:08 That's how we can help people figure out ways to handle this with their kids, [by] getting more and better resources out there at their fingertips.19:36 I get up every day and just want to make a difference and help that next child realize that life is important and to be resilient and not give up hope.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/upnadotnet/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/upnCoaching/Memorable Moments: 5:10 There's a road to anything that we want to do in life. Right? No matter what it is, there's a road. The road may be long, the road may be short, but there's a road. 5:20 And so when we talk about self efficacy, we talk about goal setting, and we talk about self confidence, what I see is a lot of people don't realize that they have to set these small, tangible goals and build to their big goal. 8:06 So self efficacy is “I am able to.” [It’s] what you believe you are able to do. 11:53 There is no one way to make yourself happy. There just isn't. There's a bunch of things that you can try that are out there. 13:16 The better physical condition you are in, the more likely you will be happy and healthy and productive and do the things in your life that you want to do, that you deserve to do. 14:28 There's some grit to it at the beginning. And the grit part is to make it a habit. That's grit. Like, there's some tricks to making things a habit, but when it comes down to it, it’s going to just take you going “this is what I'm going to do.” 17:16 Before one seeks a mentor or to be around people that they would like to emulate or positive influences in their lives, they need to recognize the negative influences in their lives. Wow, I want to say that one more time. If someone is bad for you, get them out of your life.19:43 A lot of people want to succeed in their lives, they want to be happier, they want to be in a better place, yet they keep the negative influences in their lives, and they can't for the life of them figure out why they keep the negative things or people in their lives. 20:25 So cutting off our negative or limiting if we have to, our negatives, in our environment is just as important as looking at what we can do to surround ourselves with the positives and the people that we need to surround ourselves with.22:20  I want to have an impact in the world, continue to help people, continue to inspire people and really make a difference in people's lives.24:14 But no matter who you are, you're going to have setbacks, you're going to have difficulties, you're going to have losses, you're going to have breakups, you're going to have you know, grandparents and parents pass away…these things will happen to us, I don't care who you are. And we can choose to let those experiences define us. Or, we can let those experiences help us move on to better places in our lives.27:39 And if you're in a good place, then I would offer up your services to help others. And this book will inspire you to not just help at-risk youth, but seek to give, because we are all connected, and we can be so much more connected. And when we're in good places, we can do amazing things for people that we don't know.28:33 I wake up in the morning and say, How can I leave a positive impression? How can I help someone, how can I do something to make someone realize that they have some amazing abilities and beauty inside them that they can unleash? 29:12 But I guarantee you, once you make that initial step, everything will get easier. It just takes you showing up for yourself.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Jenna Kutcher guides millions of listeners each week in chasing their dreams on the #1 Marketing podcast in the country, The Goal Digger.A born-and-raised Minnesota wife, mother, and entrepreneur, Jenna has helped women all over the world redefine success and wake up to their lives through her decade-long work as a leading online educator.Social Media Handle: @jennakutcherMemorable Moments: 2:38  I feel like we're in a very unique time right now, where a lot of us are kind of experiencing this push and pull of like, Where do I belong? And I feel like we're in such a polarizing world in so many different ways. But one of the ways is, especially as ambitious people, ambitious women, we're feeling like we have to pick between hustle culture; this idea, this notion of like “work harder, do more, just keep going” and the other idea, the other side of the coin is the manifesting, like, you know, just hold this vision and speak it out and it'll happen. And I feel like I live in this gray area in so many places in my life, but specifically in how can we hold these visions of what we really deeply desire for our life but also, how can we take even micro action towards them?5:03 I think that there are, a lot of times, two different people: there's the "jump and then the net will appear" and then there's the people that are like, "I'm gonna weave this net so that I know with security and safety, I can make the leap."5:44 But for me, sometimes learning what I don't want or what I will not take or what I don't feel is in alignment with me is a better indicator of how I can start moving in the right direction.  5:57 I felt like I was riding two Clydesdales going in opposite directions because the life I was living did not showcase what I really wanted, what my values were, what I was heading towards. And in order to figure out how to jump from one horse to the other, I had to just take these micro actions and start working towards that vision of something else.7:45 I know so many people who start the degree for the dream job and halfway through the degree, they know that they don't want that job anymore. But they feel like they've already spent two years, why would they waste that? And it's like, Wait, we're wasting our future, knowing we're moving in a direction that's not going to serve us? And so for me, what's been so fascinating is working through this process of figuring out who am I? But not just who am I today, but who do I want to become? And I think a lot of times we put so much pressure on like, what sounds impressive, what sounds good, instead of saying what feels good in my life, how do I want to feel?  8:58 Our identities aren't fixed. We are constantly changing and growing and evolving. And I want us to continue becoming.  9:13  And a changed mind, I think, is like one of the most beautiful things that we can gift ourselves and in doing that, invite other people to maybe consider different things so that we can continue changing our identities, as we should as students in this thing called Life School and as people who can have their mind changed and become something different.11:18 Being a mom to a toddler, I've learned that you can tell a kid a stove is hot, but sometimes they need to touch it to experience it. And I think that a lot of people are that way; they have to experience something to really know that they don't want to do that again. But I think that the way that we are perpetuating this hustle mentality, it is only going to lead us there. And we have become people who have tuned out those check engine lights so long that something has to suffer for us to wake up to the fact that we're not doing something that's sustainable, whether it's relational or health-related.12:20 One of the things that I think is really important, is to talk about boundaries. I feel like balance was the word for a long time. And I feel like boundaries is the new word.  12:53 But boundaries, to me, have been my saving grace. They have been the thing that has kept me in my life...And so, when we think about burnout, what I want to come coupling alongside of that is boundaries, and how can we invite them into our lives, to really preserve our lives so that the lives that we're living feel good, but that we're enjoying them that we're not faking to enjoy them, or that we're not spending the whole journey in pursuit of the thing, missing the point.17:45 Strategy can get you really far. But when you really start to invest in who you are and who you're becoming, as a human being, that's when things really skyrocket.  18:08 If you don't have community in that way, find ways to invite it because it can be a really lonely journey, no matter what you're doing, when you don't have somebody who's in that similar life stage.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Dr. Williams is an Assistant Professor within the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences and the Director of the Stanford Brain Stimulation Lab. Dr. Williams has a broad background in clinical neuroscience and is triple board-certified in general neurology, general psychiatry, as well as behavioral neurology & neuropsychiatry. In addition, he has specific training and clinical expertise in the development of brain stimulation methodologies under Mark George, MD. Themes of his work include (a) examining the use of spaced learning theory in the application of neurostimulation techniques, (b) development and mechanistic understanding of rapid-acting antidepressants, and (c) identifying objective biomarkers that predict neuromodulation responses in treatment-resistant neuropsychiatric conditions. He has published papers in high impact peer-reviewed journals including Brain, American Journal of Psychiatry, and the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science. Results from his studies have gained widespread attention in journals such as Science and New England Journal of Medicine Journal Watch as well as in the popular press and have been featured in various news sources including Time, Smithsonian, and Newsweek. Dr. Williams received two NARSAD Young Investigator Awards in 2016 and 2018 along with the 2019 Gerald R. Klerman Award. Dr. Williams received the National Institute of Mental Health Biobehavioral Research Award for Innovative New Scientists in 2020.Social Media Handle: NolanRyWilliamsPublications: https://ajp.psychiatryonline.org/doi/10.1176/appi.ajp.2021.20101429Memorable Moments: 4:17  I've been very focused on specifically trying to help develop rapid acting interventions with you know, with a lot of a lot of work in the, in the kind of emergence emerging psychedelic space with some, you know, with with drugs like Ibogaine and ketamine being explored in the lab. And that's, that's part of it. And those studies are definitely important in trying to understand the mechanism of those drugs and trying to understand what we can use those drugs for. Where we've been very focused is using and kind of engineering a rapid acting form of for repetitive transcranial magnetic stimulation.5:47 So we've been very focused on trying to develop rTMS and kind of re-engineer rTMS into an approach that allows for us to treat people over a very short period of time.  7:25 The idea there is this is a way of treating rapidly by rearranging the stimulation in space, and time and dose.13:25 The highest risk of completed suicide is in the period right after psychiatric hospital discharge. [That's] rate of the whole lifetime. So we were very interested in that particular population, because we wanted to be able to treat people in these high emergency settings.  22:42 To me, the problem of really getting TMS in particular out there has been an educational problem.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Megan is an International Life & Energy Coach. For the past 6 years, she’s supported women to tap into their magic and confidently lead their life. Through transformative coaching sessions and discovering their unique Human Design, she takes women from overwhelmed and stuck to crystal clear, confident, and purposeful. Megan is passionate about working with female business owners, change-makers, and leaders to reawaken their full authentic selves. So they can create the impact they were born to make without fear, doubt, or people pleasing standing in the way.Social Media Handle: https://www.instagram.com/meganseamans and https://www.facebook.com/MeganSeamansCoaching/Publications: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/moving-through-grief-im-strong-because-i-feel-it-all/ -- https://podcasts.apple.com/il/podcast/turning-30-and-getting-out-of-your-comfort-zone/id1526149550?i=1000493311891Memorable Moments: 2:31 I felt like I was doing it all wrong, even though I was following all of the steps that everyone said you should be following. 3:31 And I just started saying yes to all of these things that before felt so scary or so out of reach, and I built this really beautiful life.4:24 Because no matter what the chapter is and no matter what you build outside of yourself, there you are. You’re coming along for the journey.6:39 The more we can discover our own unique energy and the more we can uncover how we actually want to operate, the more we can show up in relationships and in our career and on teams from a space of “I’m me, you’re you, let's do that together.” And really honor that we all show up differently. And I just think it's such a gift to learn that, know that and express that to the world.8:12 That first step for having that reset is getting to know yourself and more importantly, beginning to shed the stories that aren't you. Because so often with our energy, like we're trying to run our energy as if we were someone else. 8:46 Getting to know what actually feels good for you instead of how you think you should be showing up, I think, is the first step for that reset.13:47 To me, balance is actually about noticing when your scales are tipping too far to one side, when you're getting really heavy in one area of your life, and then to be able to take yourself back to center. And that doesn't mean it's going to stay permanently.16:03 Human design brings these contrasts together, and shows you how you can use these different traits and energy and ways of showing up with the least amount of resistance.20:13 At this point in my life, what matters most to me right now is connection.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Whitney Goodman is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the hugely popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit, the author of Toxic Positivity, and the owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center, a private therapy practice in Miami, FL. She helps people who want to improve their relationships and emotional awareness.Social Media Handle: @sitwithwhitMemorable Moments: 2:04 Toxic positivity is really this just unrelenting pressure to be happy and positive, and be pursuing that at all costs, no matter what the circumstances are. And I find that it's something that we use against ourselves and other people. The reason that positivity can become toxic or so damaging is that it ultimately becomes dismissive, causing people to shut down their emotions to dismiss what they're feeling and thinking. It also causes us to feel really isolated. 4:49 I feel like lately, especially over the last two years, we've all become a little bit more isolated. We've all kind of had these moments of like, what is important to me in life and trying to figure that out. But it's caused a lot of confusion for people. 6:28 Teaching people how to help us when we're struggling, I think, is a lot of our own responsibility.  I think if we can empower people to be more vocal about that, we can also stop putting so much pressure on ourselves to always know the exact perfect thing to say to someone. And that's when that toxic positivity usually comes up, is when we're just trying to figure out something to say or do about a problem that we don't know how to fix.9:29 Manifestation sort of proposes that like, if you think positively, visualize what you want, put it out there, you're going to get it back and that people get what is meant for them. “What's meant for you will never miss you,” like, we hear a lot of these, these phrases. And the problem I have with that is that I work with a lot of people who have had really unfortunate things happen to them. And I think you can get into this place where it's like, “okay, so that was supposed to happen to me. I deserved it in some way or it was meant to happen to me, it's going to have meaning later in my life.” 10:10 And it's an unfortunate reality that I think we have to remember when it comes to manifestation, all of these types of practices, that it's okay to use that line of thinking for good, positive things. But when you use it for everything about your life, it can be really damaging.13:00 And in that book, I tried to tackle a lot of the things that we think are negative. So like,  complaining, certain types of “negative emotions”, you know, even just feeling your feelings, talking to people about them. And then also giving people scripts or different things to say in situations where I think positivity really doesn't fit as a form of comfort or motivation.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Duke Rumely is the Founder and Executive Director of Sober AF Entertainment, SAFE. This nonprofit creates and manages sober support events and sober sections at music festivals, concerts and sporting events. SAFE has hosted 100 events and had over 5,200 people join in person and another 44,000 join virtually on their Twitch Channel. Before SAFE, Duke founded National Recovery Skiathon. Duke worked on Wall Street for 20 years and then worked as a interventionist and community liaison for treatment centers for 10 years. Duke has a 20 year old son, Ben, and 24 year old daughter.Social Media Handle: Sober AF Entertainment on Facebook and LinkedIn Memorable Moments: 3:07 You know, it's ridiculous there's no secondary culture. As far as, if you don't want to drink or do drugs, you don't need to feel like the weirdo. Plus, I've had this long term sobriety and just kind of knew, like, the first year sobriety is so hard and so awkward. But if you had a sober wingman to kind of show you how to have fun sober, it kind of takes away this self pity card that we're all walking around with. Just that, you know, oh my god, I can have fun sober. 6:50 I think we're like a little nudge, a little poke to people like, “hey, you can host your own sober support events.” Like, it's okay. Just because you're in recovery, [it] doesn't mean you can't put your hand up, [it] doesn't mean you can't like, protect your own community. 7:48 You know, there's a community out there that to drink is to die. And how do we kind of help those people feel comfortable at these different events, because their life doesn't have to be over. Just because you're not drinking or doing drugs, you don't have to be like, you're the weirdo.10:38 We had a woman in long term recovery, who 25 years earlier, [at the] inaugural season, was asked to sing the national anthem at the Rockies. And she was so drunk, she couldn't leave the house. So she was so embarrassed, she left Colorado. A year later, she gets sober. So now she's 24 years sober, gets to come back to Colorado, sing the national anthem, and slay that dragon of that guilt and remorse that she had about it. And she got to tell that story at our sober tailgate beforehand.14:39 Then that one day came where the idea of life might be okay without alcohol. That's as much as I could kind of give with this first little, like step zero. Like somehow you gotta get a buy in to that life might be okay without alcohol.17:05 It was this big thing in my head. And people don't care. But it was the first time walking through that. And the second time you go through, it's still awkward, but not as awkward. And the third time, it's still awkward, but not as awkward and it just gets so much easier. But that first year, there's so many new experiences. So I think that's kind of why Sober AF is so important.19:47 I think we all need to give ourselves a little bit of a break, and just try to get back into whatever that groove was before. 20:50 I think we're in an unprecedented time that we won’t realize how disruptive COVID was to the recovery community. So that being said, you're still alive, you got a chance to kind of get back on whatever that beam was before.23:29 I think as a guy who's 32 years sober, who goes back to meetings, I almost need to like, forget what I've learned before. Right? What worked in 1989 and the 90s, may not work in 22.  24:42 I think that is where we need to understand that’s what the generation wants. How do we support people virtually, if that's kind of what the future is going to look like?Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.

Subscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Allison Walsh is the Vice President of Business Development and Branding for Advanced Recovery Systems, a national provider and industry leader in behavioral healthcare. She has over 15 years of organizational leadership, mentorship, and coaching experience and has shared her story with over 100,000 live audience members. Dedicated mental health and female empowerment advocate,  she is the co-host of the Dear Mind You Matter podcast, as well as the host of The She Believed She Could podcast.Angela Phillips, Ph.D., LICSW is a licensed therapist, clinical researcher, telehealth director, podcast cohost, content creator, and partner to a firefighter paramedic. She has worked in the mental health field for over 15 years and specializes in tech-based mental health and wellness support and treatment.Social Media Handles: @allisonwalsh @humorist.therapist @therecoveryvillage @nobuapp Publications:Allison WalshHarvard Business ReviewForbesEntrepreneurDr. Angela Phillips Stanford Accelerated Intelligent Neuromodulation Therapy for Treatment-Resistant DepressionrTMS effects in patients with co-morbid somatic pain and depressive mood disordersMemorable Moments: 4:21 Being a leader, you learn so many things, but nobody prepared any leader for leading through COVID and leading through a pandemic.4:31 There was just so much that I put on my shoulders because I wanted to, right? I wanted to help my team, I wanted to help the company, I wanted to help all the people that we serve. But what I wasn't noticing is that as I was slowly or quickly putting on more responsibility, or just trying to get us through, I was chipping away or neglecting some of the things I needed to do for myself to keep myself in an optimal well being status or really taking care of myself.5:08 I've been in the mental health industry for like 20 years, literally. And I was even struggling to recognize some of the warning signs, because they had never presented themselves the way that they were at that point.6:03  I reached out for help immediately when I really recognized like, this isn't good. But it took me, that was probably a year of building or nine months, and really like building and building and building and building and I wasn't realizing it. 6:23 I also realized that there was a deeper situation and something that needed to be addressed. And that was just where I'm at, in this stage and phase of my life and, things needed to look different and feel different. And I needed to show up differently in order to be the best mom and wife and boss and colleague and everything else that I could possibly be. And ultimately, that meant that I needed to have some really brave conversations. 6:50 I had been advised on so many different occasions, well, if you're feeling this way or you're not doing well, maybe you should just quit, maybe this is time for you to start something different, right? Like, from professionals in this space saying this. You know, oftentimes, some people need to do that when they're struggling with burnout. But I was not subscribing to that. I love it here, I'm not ready to move on.7:49 And the farther I get away from that really brave conversation, the more grateful I still become, because, you know, it could have been different, but it wasn't. And now I'm happier, they're happier. I feel like I can show up as my full self again. I've continued to heal from burnout, I've continued to do the work I needed to do and really be mindful of prioritizing myself first, because I can't pour into the cups of anybody else if I'm not taking care of myself first.8:28 You know, it wasn't my first battle with burnout, but it was the first battle that looked like this. And I think that's the other thing to recognize is it's not always going to show up the same way every time.11:42 Because if you're listening to this, and you think it doesn't impact you from that systemic or organizational piece, you're wrong. If you are in the workforce, you know someone who's in the workforce, you plan to become someone in the workforce...all of this impacts us and how we carry and interpret the weight of and burden of what burnout could look like for us.12:13 I found myself in a position where I was not really seeing it. I was kind of blinded to that, and I was just crunching through everything. And then finally had to really take a step back and say, if I want my future to look like x, I cannot continue to do y. It's not going to happen. And like what really are my goals here? Is this the environment? I want to continue in? Why? And so it's asking all of those questions. 13:13 I'm so glad that we're talking about this again, just so that we can have these conversations and really make folks more aware and support one another. Because this isn't anything to be ashamed of. We're not weaker because we need to have a personal life or because we can't, you know? Everyone has a limit, every individual, every team, every organization.15:46 There wasn't just like, one thing, right? It was a lot of different things. It was a lot of different things at different times that helped me. And, you know, ultimately, I had to trust that everything was going to work out too, on the job front side of it, and be okay with things looking different. 16:06  I knew I couldn't sustain at the pace that I was on, and I couldn't continue to take on more. And so being able to really define what was a healthy life gonna look like for me? And what could it look like and still accomplish the goals that we have, and you know, personally and professionally, was really important too. And really being honest and clear about what I can and can't handle.16:47 I had to learn about which are the right yeses, right? And putting up some boundaries for myself and protecting my time and energy and not just saying yes to say yes, but saying yes to make a huge impact, when it's the right time to be able to do so. 20:06 We know people are expecting more support, they're expecting that their employer is going to support their employees, whether it's offering mental health days or just being aware of what's actually contributing towards burnout, and how they can support their employees through whatever it is, EAP other support systems. 23:33 I love the fact that employers are starting to pay attention to this in a more significant way. There's always been, you know, the ones that are leading the pack, but now people are realizing, “wow, I have good people. I don't want to lose them because we're not doing what we need to do to take care of them.” And I think there's just so many more businesses that are finally prioritizing mental wellness.30:57 I think that we have to prioritize our children's mental health just as much as we're prioritizing everybody else's. Because this pandemic impacted us all in so many ways the last couple of years, but I think it's we're just seeing the tip of the iceberg when it comes to, you know, what has it really done to our kids? What is it done to us emotionally and mentally and so I'm very concerned about making sure that they're okay, making sure that I'm okay. And that I'm able to show up for them as the best possible mom that I can be. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh  and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.