Schooling Struggle

Schooling Struggle

The only guarantee in life is that all humans struggle at various times throughout their journey. The Schooling Struggle Podcast dives deep into the theories and tactics that are not often a focus in formal education. The discussions of this podcast center around the most integral skill needed for a life driven by purpose and fulfillment - How to cultivate a mindset to embrace struggle. Feedback 👉🏽👉🏻👉 https://aka.ms/SchoolingStruggle/Feedback [and/or] SchoolingStruggle@gmail.com

What is SUCCESS anyway? Ep. 41
Nov 20 2022
What is SUCCESS anyway? Ep. 41
Peter and I discuss success. What that word means and holds for us individually, how the idea has changed over time, and in different spaces of areas of our lives.  How do we get insight from and share perspective to those around us, in this regard, of success. Success definition = The accomplishment of an aim or a purpose. Mental habit / action / tool examples: Question the ideals behind what drives your definition of success, personally.Leveraging the perspective of others around us to hone our actions in areas we aspire to do better, can be an especially useful lens to what we ourselves fail to see within ourselves.There is no replacement for time together, between parents and children.Push others to do their best but try not to push them into conformity or your ideas of what that means to you.If you fail to ask, you will fail to understand.Tracking your mindset at points of time (hourly, daily, weekly, …) and mapping the result can help us have awareness of how we are moving, in which direction. Related points: Many hands make light work.As we get older, sometimes we are less willing or able to share with others what we hope to achieve (think audacious goal) to others.Sometimes one’s ‘drive’ is not easy to find or even know what all that encompasses.Is success measured by accomplishment, purely?  The validation of efforts from others?Kids typically do not get a hand in choosing their unique nicknames. Quotes / quips: “If you fall flat on your face, that's a good sign you are moving forward. ““As long as you are trying and moving toward that which moves you forward, you are succeeding.”“The beautiful want to be seen for their smarts, and the smart want to be seen for their beauty.”“Do the best you can, from where you are, with what you have.” Rando Mentions: Colin O’bradyCalm (meditation platform) - www.calm.comAdam Grant Contact us: SchoolingStruggle@gmail.com Send in a voice message:
Delay of Gratification & Financial Fitness: Ep. 40
Nov 7 2022
Delay of Gratification & Financial Fitness: Ep. 40
Episode Guest: Doug Anton - Teacher (Social Studies/Economics), and many other hats. We pick the mind of our guest for perspective on financial matters and choices as well as the environment we construct and place ourselves in (socially).  Shared along the way are frameworks for thinking about these things, as well as lessons learned and tips and tricks. Mental habit / action / tool examples: Financial wellness = to be financially and economically fit and well.To be financially fit = Are your short-term needs and wants taken care of, and do you have a reliable long-term plan?Physical wellness and financial wellness can complement each other. Look for strengths within yourself and others, and leverage those to amplify success.Very few choices in our life are all or nothing.  Use decisions at the edge to focus on the present yet do not 'dent' the future.If we spend money on things which align to our goals, this is an investment in self.Look for opportunity in everything, and constantly as we move forward, and things shift. Related points: Key to success in life?  Maybe delay of gratification.One way to think of moving forward is how are what we are doing in the present.Be aware of the people whom you surround yourself with, these relationships have a significant impact on one's environment.We can aspire to be in a way, and not always hit the mark all the time.  Be kind to yourself and give space and grace.Evidence based research can be useful when considering ice cream intake and timing.Few thumbs up (in social environments) for maxing out your ROTH contributions - more for bankrupting yourself to purchase a flashy car. Quotes / quips: “Be willing to give up what you want now, for what you want most.""We can shape our environment in order to improve our fitness in any element.""If you are only living for the future, you'll have a pretty bad time on the way there.""Social interaction is the fabric of what makes us human and what makes human lives meaningful.""The way the world is, is not always the way the world seems.""Nothing is certain, but we can often shift the odds in our favor, by shifting your environment." Rando Mentions: Marshmallow Test RevisitedOpportunity MindsetChoice architecture Contact us: SchoolingStruggle@gmail.com   --- Send in a voice message:
Happiness & Guinness Book World Records: Ep. 39
Oct 31 2022
Happiness & Guinness Book World Records: Ep. 39
Episode Guest: Adam Adatto Sandel - philosopher, (previous) Guinness World Record holder for Most Pull-Ups in One Minute (68), and an award-winning teacher, author, and current assistant D.A. in Brooklyn NY. Much discussion about pull-ups, philosophy, world records... Mental habit / action / tool examples: Sometimes frustration can become a realization of opportunity.Listening to the limitations of your own body can lead to meaningful transformation.Stacking what we learn from previous experiences has utility in the next endeavors we undertake.Beware of getting wrapped up in a goal, no matter the topic.There exists a relationship between many efforts physically and things in our natural environment.Philosophy can serve as a framework for deeper connection, awareness of the deeper levels of connectedness we experience throughout life.Try to keep an open awareness of obsession around goals.  When things you see somehow in your mind, carry you back to the obsession, this is a flag.Qualities of character define us outside our typical endeavors.Friendships - are important in the exchange and deep meaning of what that word means to us all.  Allies, Friends, Acquaintances. Related points: Drop and give me twenty push-ups, often it is not thrilling.Sometimes in the rain, it can seem like your running pace is expedited. Sometimes pullups trump what can be gleaned from law school.Don’t be afraid of letting go (holding less tightly) when you get too close and become overly obsessed in goal chasing.Happiness.  It most often involves overcoming some sort of hardship. Quotes / quips: "If I’m encountering these difficulties, could it actually be nature’s way of telling me I need to go in a different direction?”“Sport can take you into a different zone, a more expansive zone, where you can appreciate the world around you in a new way and shift your perspective on things.”“When we get too hung up on the goal, it can be damaging.  As a result, we can lose an appreciation for the activity itself.”“What can I take from this experience that's going to last, that I can carry forward.”“If you have a passion, if you’re motivated, go for it!”“If you want good neighbors, be a good neighbor - same goes for friends.”“Happiness isn't something you find, rather a way of acting/being.”“A life that is happy, is a life that involves meaningful struggles. And ones that fit into a narrative that you can own up to.” Rando Mentions: Chest to Bar PullupsHarvard Philosophy DepartmentAmazon.com: Adam Adatto Sandel: Books, Biography, Blog, Audiobooks, KindleGuiness Book of World Record --- Send in a voice message:
A Year Into this Thing? - Our Thoughts: Ep. 38
Oct 24 2022
A Year Into this Thing? - Our Thoughts: Ep. 38
One year, from concept and first action - that went fast – this a retrospective.  We talk about what has transpired, what we think about it, what we’ve learned, and what comes next for us. Key Questions: Q. What have you learned about yourself thought he podcast? Q. What’s the perspective about how the podcast fit into your life? Mental habit / action / tool examples: - Always look for ways you can learn new things from seemingly mundane actions. - Try not to reach too far for what seems appropriate for an audience – rather do it for something that resonates within you. - Always lean into what’s uncomfortable – what is hard for you. - Sharpen an awareness which allows you to observe current actions, especially those which are not working toward your intentions. - Giving ourselves in a meaningful way can serve as an example (to ourselves and others) of how we aspire to be. - See the lens of what you do but realize that that lens is not who you are. - Sometimes the things which drain us are not of our making.  Keep a vigilant eye. Related points: - Peter loves podcasting, and he never thought it would be as rich as an experience when we began. - Portal, the term can be scary - ask Peter.  Magic happens there. - Launching a podcast from an iPhone 6, is a path potentially fraught with danger. - WWPD – What would Peter do? - If you have a podcast (or similar platform), people may be more likely to engage and join a conversation, than just a coffee chat or random call. - Text exchanges with Todd can drive you mad with a blast of fragmented responses. Quotes / quips: - “It’s a very difficult thing to be always aligned with the person you wish you were.” - “Remember why you started.” - “If I verbalize that I’m going to do something, I am more likely to do it.” - “I don’t want my students to be done being my students when the day or semester ends, I want to be their teacher for life.” - “It’s like a pen pal, but fast forward.” Rando Mentions: - The Pete Driscoll Vlog - Pen Pals - ASB – Associated Student Body Contact us: SchoolingStruggle@gmail.com   --- Send in a voice message:
Tips for Navigating Stress Like A Pro: Ep. 37
Oct 10 2022
Tips for Navigating Stress Like A Pro: Ep. 37
Episode Guest: Dr. William Slammon - Clinical Psychologist Stress... having it, avoiding it, dealing with it, leveraging it.  We chat about this topic at length with our guest.  We dive into mindset, sleep, how to be useful to others who ask for a hand in schooling their struggles. Stress (definition) - Is when there are forces impinging on us, that in the moment exceed our sense of our own capacity to manage. Mental habit / action / tool examples: (Quality) Sleep is essential to good health.Healthy stress on/in the body is natural, and beneficial for us to grow.Chronic stress (when we are stressed all the time, excessively) is unhealthy for us over time.Poor habits are typically born/leveraged as a response to combat or offset stress.Healthy stress can be used to unwind these poor habits through physical movement.Keep a list of helpful things that have helped rise above or alleviate stress situations.Exercise, that is enjoyable and sustainable, has the potential to be universally beneficial to everyone.To help others with stress - listen to hear, validate their experience - leveraging healthy relationships.  Ask for permission to give a hand and interact with others, to help arrive at a plan working on what can be done in the now.Mindset is key to offset stress response.  Choose to look at things as an opportunity, and what they can teach us. Related points: Our body has a physiological response to stress.  This is by design and exists for our survival at the base class.Our bodies/brains keep track of the stresses we've experienced over time.Temperament plays a role in how we work on stress, therapy, and such, is approached.We are designed, humans, to be engaging physically in our world.Our brains are prediction machines.  We create our reality based on what has already occurred and try to anticipate what will occur in the near future.Culture predicates the stories/script which serves as our defaults in life.Oncologists tend to save the term curable, for specific cases. Quotes / quips: "I don't need a bunch of studies to tell me that exercise makes me feel better.""I believe that the best, healthiest way to live is to move and exercise building that into your day.""Pain is inevitable, but suffering is a choice."'"I've had plenty of suffering in my life, I've learned the power of how I think about it completely changes the experience." Rando Mentions: How Bad Do You Want It? Mastering the Psychology of Mind over Muscle - Matt FitzgeraldThe Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma - Bessel van der KolkBorn to run - Christopher MacDougall  Contact us: SchoolingStruggle@gmail.com  --- Send in a voice message:
When Happy & Nice Aren't Enough: Ep. 36
Oct 3 2022
When Happy & Nice Aren't Enough: Ep. 36
Episode Guest: Steve McCloskey This episode is all about continuums.  Exploring the depths, contexts, and contrasts of (or between) several levels.  This of course dives into all related areas and nuances which may overlap or are derivatives of those terms.   Interesting Question (also in the poll):     - Do you need to love yourself, to love someone else? Mental habit / action / tool examples: Kindness is more than treating someone in a pleasant way.  Sometimes it's more than what's nice or comfortable.Can you be equally kind to people who you know, and those you do not, alike?Which criteria predicate how we determine our response to others?Seek activities where you know that what you are giving of yourself is used to better of be of utility to others.It is not wrong to have boundaries for your time and how / when / why others seek or receive it.Consider that there are different lived experiences and circumstances of specific things across the world.  Some examples, poverty, privilege.  Be aware of the true relativity of how those things play into your intentions.Joy has more depth and longevity than simple happiness.Acknowledging and expressing fully emotions, letting them swell and release.  This unblocks the dept of emotions we can accept and feel.Sometimes what we want now is not aligned with what we want most.  To get what we want most, we need to look past what we want now. Related points: What is the difference between nice/polite/civil and kind?The language we use is dynamic.  It changes over time.Very few individuals aspire to simply be 'nice' in life.It's easier for some to intentionally help people in physical proximity.If you want an autograph, get in line but try not to be 103rd in line.A home without a foundation doesn't give much to build upon."Love" can have many different meanings and contexts.There is much strife in parenting.Sometimes in Peter's mind, joy can conjure images of peaches and rainbows.Kindness can be costly. Quotes / quips: "You can have anything you want, but you cannot have everything you want.""Niceness is to kindness, as happiness is to joy.""It is so easy to do easy things in life.  Be the type of person that is willing to do challenging things.""If you don't have good well-maintained care for self, then the care for others will be diminished or others.""The way you do anything, is the way you do everything.""Don't postpone joy.""We have to embrace discomfort for something deeper and more durable in the long run." Rando Mentions: The Ohio State UniversityPrinceton Theological SeminaryAmanda Barnhart - CrossFit Contact us: SchoolingStruggle@gmail.com  --- Send in a voice message:
3 Lessons a Seven-Year-Old Taught Us: Ep. 35
Sep 26 2022
3 Lessons a Seven-Year-Old Taught Us: Ep. 35
Peter brings reality through sharing a few recent experiences with his family, one which gave him a pause and point to reflect on what the people in our lives can teach us if we slow down to observe their model. Mental habit / action / tool examples: Slow down with your frantic needs.  Try to be a human 'be'ing not a human doing.W.A.I.T = Why Am I TalkingIf you are willing to embrace challenges, try to slow down and look for the beauty within that challenge and what you can learn, rather than just rush to the finish line.Humans seek consistency for reliability and trust, yet at the same time a balance of change to keep it interesting.Authentic experiences are those which can be absorbed through the human senses without corporate intervention.Ponder relying less on what humans bring to the world to be satisfied or fulfilled during the day.Be less dependent on the niceties of life and commerce.Don't use "can't" alone, always follow it with "yet".  Sometimes it's easier to remove small squares of carpet over time, to prompt you to eventually replace it. Related points: Todd's patio in Parkland sometimes sounds like a raceway.Sometimes knees need three servings of surgery.Picking flowers should never be annoying, even mildly so.Peter sees no utility in smores, disliking marshmallows.Running/moving water and dancing fire can be alluring because they are consistent yet always evolving, interesting, and engaging.Kids love holes filled with water (think swimming pools).The utility of human connection appears to be increasingly obfuscated.Sticks and rocks and leaves are great materials for constructing fairy houses. Quotes / quips: "Your children will teach you the things that you miss no matter what.""Every single person you interact with plays a role in your life.""Rely on yourself, to be with yourself.""The busyness of the world is magnified by those who teach the world's perceived expectations." Rando Mentions: The episode about Todd and his daughter's deep conversation.Life Is Not a Journey - Alan Watts Contact us: SchoolingStruggle@gmail.com  --- Send in a voice message:
113 LB Weight Loss & Mindset for Life at Age 21: Ep. 34
Sep 12 2022
113 LB Weight Loss & Mindset for Life at Age 21: Ep. 34
Here we meet one of Peter's former students, Camden.  A measurable undertaking with the heaviest weight of 292 pounds, Camden shares with us his journey, his wins, losses, and learned lessons - as well as his future and how he is moving forward. Mental habit / action / tool examples: 99.9% of engaged parents genuinely believe are doing the best they are able.Be aware as you slip into new habits, try to remain sharp to what you're trading off for new ones.Weight moves weight, but physics doesn't mean carrying around excess body fat upon your skeleton is a good thing.A shift in surroundings and environment can be a powerful catalyst for change.  These changes can snowball.  Quickly.Moving outside our typical 'comfort zone' expedites our ability to be resilient and open to adopting new habits or behaviors.Being accountable to/for other living things (plant, animal, human) helps us reach beyond our own needs.A new habit recipe often encompasses things which are enjoyable, sustainable, and which move us closer to our goals.It can be daunting when weight loss begins, as it can be difficult to 'see' the difference in how you look physically. Tracking what you eat very closely can be a very great tool and point of awareness.Watching ourselves grow in a positive way often rewards us with internal motivation and confidence.Slight changes in diet and habits can have profound and compounding impacts. Related points: Hard to water the grass during a drought.113 pounds is a massive endeavorThree people Petering (calling Pete, Peter), is worth mention. and an honor.Divorce can seed behaviors for a host of reasons.It can be a struggle to eat healthily if you are working in a restaurant kitchen.Walking in Florida, where it is often hot and humid, can be a recipe for perspiration. As a podcast host, it's easy to accidentally ask more than one question at a time.Shockingly high calorie foods include nuts, peanut butter, oils, dressings.Don't let extra skin deter you from losing weight. Quotes / quips: Somehow nothing to report here. Rando Mentions: Daytona Beach, FLFarm StrongPace University, New YorkNorwegian ElkhoundTurkey TrotPaper Towel EffectMyFitnessPal - Calorie Counting AppTDEE - calorie burn calculator  Contact us: SchoolingStruggle@gmail.com  --- Send in a voice message:
Schooling the SPIRALS of Life: Ep. 33
Sep 5 2022
Schooling the SPIRALS of Life: Ep. 33
Spirals and paths.  How do we find the right path, how do we know we are on a path to positivity or wellbeing? Speaking to the three questions just below Peter and Todd provide our responses and discuss points which pop up along the way. Intended topic questions: What are the things which can disrupt the flow or routine in life? How can we hedge against spirals which are taking us away from our intentions? How do we break the spiral and get realigned? Mental habit / action / tool examples: Set routines can help us keep moving in a positive way.To acknowledge the lens of positivity, and employ it, can be useful in how we navigate life.Instead of focusing upon the things you dislike, switch to the things you do (like) instead.The more beaten the 'path' of habits, the more well defined they become.Structure and routine can be very soothing and result in stability for some personalities.Comparing oneself to a previous version can be a double edge sword.Commitment is a key, for some, to reorientation.Balance is extremely hard for some to achieve.  Knowing the type of person you are when looking at where you'd like to be or go can be a very useful tool.Using food to teach yourself a lesson can be a dangerous lever to pull.When there are planned events, letting oneself off the 'hook' can offset a negative spiral.Unplanned changes can create a rut or disruption.Working back in incremental and intentional ways can help restore a path to stability.A-B-C = Always Be Communicating. Related points: In the upper left corner of the United States, is the state of Washington. Should anyone reading this have any ideas for content topics, please share them with us at any of the contact endpoints listed below.Starting where you find yourself is often a beautiful place to begin taking action.Peter is so positive that when thinking of his routines as they apply to his direction in life, he sees only how to keep the positive sharp, not how to get rid of those he knows are negative.  This is exactly the opposite of Todd.  Isn't that interesting?There was a time when cookies "spoke" to Peter.  They had a deep conversation one afternoon and invited milk.Mike Hathorne is good at cutting hair. Magical sounds can be heard around 34:30.  From whence they came, a true mystery.Sometimes insults can be appreciated. Quotes / quips: "Fans and cats, but not fans of cats.""I don't call it age; I call it experience.""If I don't hold myself accountable, I don't feel that good about myself.""Why are you trying to balance something which you know has been historically un-balanceable.""I find myself beating myself up about achieving balance, because I don't understand why a balance needs to exist.""Is the best way to get out of a rut, not to fall in at all?""I really appreciate your thoughts and insults." Rando Mentions: Google SheetsAversion Therapy - Schick Shadle  Contact us: SchoolingStruggle@gmail.com  --- Send in a voice message:
I'm Done Doubting - I CAN DO THIS - Keith Smith Pt.2: Ep. 32
Aug 29 2022
I'm Done Doubting - I CAN DO THIS - Keith Smith Pt.2: Ep. 32
Part of Two: We resume our time with Keith Smith.  From 'the bubble' to realization of what it takes to achieve keep balance.    Mental habit / action / tool examples: If you feel blocked or stuck, keep pushing, there is another way around, and it's going to take work to find it.Sacrifice is often involved when enabling dreams.Look for times of transition to double down on achieving balance.Sleep is important, prioritizing it is key.Be open, be approachable, talk to people.Don't fear challenging work.Do what takes care of people, that's important.  And remember, you are one of those people too.Imposter syndrome is real for everyone.  Looking at points of positive validation or praise can help get out of the tailspin.Know the granular details of your budgeting and realistic expenditures before making a large life switch.The minute you accept money for something, do what you say you're going to do for that money.  Don't accept money and not deliver. It's a mutual investment.If you find yourself saying to yourself, I don't want to do this.  It's likely you need to have a conversation with someone about it. Related points: People want to be helpful and kind, as their natural inclination.Fear will drag you down, it will steal from you.Having self-compassion and making sure you can encourage yourself.You're never too old to start something new, just take a step.Leave things better than you find them.  No burning bridges.You can always come home and have a sandwich.If you are able, positioning yourself in meetings to multitask can have large rewards.Great Superbowl tickets can be had in sketchy dark closet like settings.Great friendships are ones which you feel like you can ask for anything, nothing would be off the table.Sometimes in life, between generations, shifts which seem unstable can make our loved ones question our decisions.Make more chairs then.  They are more than just a tool for sitting. Quotes / quips: "I'm done with doubting; I can do this.""People are generally more approachable than we fear they won't be.""Sometimes it's more important to know the things you don't know, than to know what you do know.""Nobody is ever going to die saying, I wish I could have spent another day at work.""Chase what you love, and things will fall into place." Rando Mentions: NBA Front Office - PodcastScott SkilesDrunk and Dungeons and Dragons - Podcast --- Send in a voice message:
It's Never Too Late to Chase What You Love - Keith Smith: Ep. 31
Aug 22 2022
It's Never Too Late to Chase What You Love - Keith Smith: Ep. 31
Part One of Two: In this episode we welcome our first guest, the one and only Keith Smith.  We dive into his story, from early sports analytics, through high school and college, to the workforce, and then into what he wanted ‘to do for a living’.  Mental habit / action / tool examples: Long term relationships built atop commitment, lead to accountability and resilience over their duration.Leverage where you are to learn and add skills to your toolbox.Skill acquisition is a fantastic way to steadily add new tools to your toolbox.One approach to learning is go it as far as you are able THEN look for reference and/or ask individuals who are proficient in that space.Know the limit of your bandwidth when considering shifting gears to chase dreams. Related points: Pete wore exceptionally large basketball shorts for many years.  Comfort is key.An inflatable raft can serve very well as a cheap air mattress replacement.Basketball is one of the few team sports one can practice effectively in solitary.‘Front office’ in the basketball world, works on scouting and team management aspects.Walt Disney World (Florida US) is twice the size of Manhattan (NY, US).You can work at McDonalds near your home, there’s no need to move hundreds of miles away to do that.No strollers on the handicap ramp, in Walt Disney World.  Hard stop.Big corporations love acronyms and hierarchical re-organization.133 million dollars (USD) is the standard NBA salary cap. Quotes / quips: "If you think you’re the only one who cares about something, go to Google and type it in, if it auto fills… someone else cares about it too.”“Thank you for a thoughtful and thorough idea.” Rando Mentions: The Disney Scholarship ProgramUSA Today (newspaper)Gen Ed Vista Way of Walt Disney WorldWalt Disney WorldChris Haynes – Yahoo SportsKeith Smith – Twitter 2020 NBA BubbleRudy Gobert --- Send in a voice message:
A Relationship Pete Struggles With: Ep. 30
Aug 15 2022
A Relationship Pete Struggles With: Ep. 30
Peter leans into a challenge he experiences personally, well quite a few come up in this episode.  Family reunions, lobster dinners, COVID, pet deaths, self-image, parenting.  The show is a continuation of a previous show where we lost time (surprise) and here we follow through to the end. Mental habit / action / tool examples: Hitting the gym can help exercise and build self-confidence.Feeding one's ego can be tricky if attaching self-worth to egoic aspects.Competition can help shift perspectives from extrinsic to intrinsic.Eventually one's age will catch up in several ways.  Anticipate and accept that our abilities slow as age increases.What leads to a healthy and fulfilled physical and mental life?  What leads to vitality later in life?  If we can find things which move us in these directions we will flourish.Consider using choice while raising children, allowing them to choose and understand the options while doing so.Choose words wisely around children, words carry a lot of hidden connotation and signal.  (⬅️Todd is terrible at this.)Surround yourself with people who make you feel valued and loved. Related points: Pete was the fittest he has ever been in 2018.Sometimes when challenges occur, they appear to compound Emma the cat, was seventeen.  Rest in peace, Emma.Every human has a relationship with their body.If anyone has "The Parenting Handbook", please let us know.A special star tops Peters parents' tree at Christmastime.Singing and dancing are not skills Peter currently possesses. Quotes / quips: "The only guarentee in life is that Struggle is going to come our way.""Without difficulty, there is no progress.""You can create cardio in months, but for strength it takes years." Rando Mentions: Reactive Airways DiseaseThe Rescue - Nat GeoJimmy ChinNapoleon ComplexThe Body Keeps the ScoreLow trajectory, distant horizon. --- Send in a voice message:
Our Wasted Attention & Time: Ep. 29
Aug 8 2022
Our Wasted Attention & Time: Ep. 29
In this episode Peter and Todd get back together after some vacations on both sides.  We discuss where we place attention and time (as the title suggests), each of us brings to the table three areas of life where we could use a higher level of mental strength, or three areas where we tend to get rattled more than we are comfortable.  Sidebars include arbor speak and discussion, hosting snacks, and other small loosely related   yet interesting personal tie-ins. Peters three (well two):    - Being a fan of sports teams.    - Longing for landscaping that meets some lofty expectations of the past (for self or others).  (Massachusetts -vs- Vermont)    - To be continued Todd's three (two):    - What are the things I know I do, that I observe other people do not do, that I wish I could do differently.       - Constant procrastination.    - Adopting irritation. Related points: Sometimes the pitter-patter of little feet can drive us nuts.Age is just a number, and forty-six is not that many in the scheme of things.We might all benefit from small helpings of 'ish' from time to time.Depending on your friends and social circles, Fantasy Sports can have some allure.The human condition is that we all want to feel noticed and enjoyed - connected.In Brazil, you might find armed guards near the soccer pitch - during rivalry games.Getting your federal income tax done, in July, is better than ignoring them altogether. You'll be hard pressed to find someone in Vermont saying that the winter is great because there's no need to do yardwork.~60% of Hawaii power comes from burring invasive vegetation.When the company is over, pour the chips in the bowl, not all hands should be reaching into the bag. Mental habit / action / tool examples: Take a poll of things you spend your attention and time upon, and review how they make you feel.Utilize your awareness to know when your thoughts are hijacking how you respond to others.Writing lists can be a way to hold oneself accountable.  Narrow a list to "the things" that you must accomplish.  Checking the done box can help drive completion.Small wins accumulate into large swaths of positive reinforcement.Consider giving away the (perceived) ownership of things you hold on to for egotistical/selfish reasons. Quotes / quips: "Sports teams is simply rooting for laundry." Rando Mentions: Ragnar Relay - Northwest Passage Los Angeles RamsStihl FS-94 Line TrimmerBlack Locust TreeDanny Canzler - Canzler Tree Service (Tacoma WA) --- Send in a voice message:
6 Tips We Take On Life's Journey into the Unknown: Ep. 28
Aug 3 2022
6 Tips We Take On Life's Journey into the Unknown: Ep. 28
In this episode we touch on perspective (some may say advice), about embarking upon major life changes.  As typically occurs we fall into some common themes of alignment, intention, purpose... Housekeeping notice: Show notes are a thing I (Todd) love to do.  I have been struggling to release them due to complications of my attention and situations of life, go figure.  I intend to do better going forward so we can indeed have a consistent release cadence.  I appreciate your patience and support as we grow and navigate our own paths.  Ok, back to the shownotes... Six (6) tips in total, three (3) from both of us. Peter's Tips:    - How we do anything is how we do everything.    - Nobody owes you anything, you must earn everything.    - When taking on something new, do not let your ego get in the way of your learning. Todd's Tips:    - Just start.    - Say it aloud.  Tell the world, or at least the people in proximity.    - Question everything.  Especially what is humbling. Related points: Stay tuned for info about Peters behind the scenes release, in upcoming episodes.If you're not making mistakes, you're not really learning much.People who are passionate about something are extremely excited and willing to share what they have learned.Always accept what others offer, especially in Brazil and if coconuts are involved.There is no failure if you are trying new things and chasing what interests you.AMA = Ask Me Anything Mental habit / action / tool examples: Allow intentional changes, if possible, to spill into other events of your day.  With the idea of being comfortable with being uncomfortable.Act in a manner which you would even if nobody is watching.We can get out of our own way, by just taking the first shaky step.  If we wait until we're ready, we'll never begin.Do the things which you must, to the highest degree of your ability.When you look in the mirror, ask yourself, deeply, how you can be the best.If we can admit our faults / shortcomings... that is where we are open to learning most/best.Instead of trying to be the best, try to start something new.Don't do what you don't want to do.  Absolutely just chase what you love. Quotes / quips: "It's hard to find fault in an honest human being.""I don't provide advice; I only provide perspective.""If you say the word can't, you must follow it with yet.""If you don't invite yourself places, you'll never do anything cool.""In order to be the best, you need to do what you hate as if you love doing it." Rando Mentions: Karate Kid (film)Over the Top (film)PaleoPushers (Todd's previous cookie side hustle)Iron Mike Tyson --- Send in a voice message:
The Hardest Thing We Face Everyday / Mailbag: Ep. 27
Jul 13 2022
The Hardest Thing We Face Everyday / Mailbag: Ep. 27
An AMA session (Ask Me Anything) where students of Peter's ask him at the conclusion of the school year.  We ported this into a five-by-five, again, then a speed round, then created two of our own.  Each question (of 5) we each try our best to stick to 2:30 for each response.  The questions come from a grab bag, so we answer and discuss in real time for flair. Mailbag Questions: What is your single best childhood memory or moment of specific amazement?What is something that you once steadfastly believed, and now you have changed your tune?At age 18, did you see yourself being what you are today, if not, what did you see yourself being at your current age when you were eighteen?What is one thing that you would change about yourself?What is the hardest thing you must wake up and do every day? Lightning Round Questions: First car?If you could make any food in the world healthy, what would it be?Do you love yourself?If you could meet anyone, alive or dead, and spend 24 hours with them, who would it be?If you could be any age for the rest of your life, what age?At what age were you at your lowest?What is a set of words that you'd like to model your life by/after? Totally off the cuff Questions: What's the first toy you remember as a child?Tell me in succession the jobs you've had in your life? Related Points: Sometimes sleep is illusive.Fat free foods are not a proper nutritional balance for longevity.Would you rather have a loose cannon, or no cannon at all?It can be difficult to see, but teachers (by and large) are typically not the enemy.Enduring cumbersome events, although a challenge, can be acceptable if doing so allows work on things which are meaningful.In Vermont educational systems, teachers don't make sense, but they do make dollars. Mental habit / action / tool examples: Try to have gratitude in the moment.  Being grateful for the/a thing as its occurring.Beware of the sources of news you consume.  The media is a machine solely based upon profiteering.Try to sharpen your awareness of addictive mechanisms in your day, news, tech, social media, eating.  These things steal our time in tricky ways. Quotes / quips: "Win the morning, win the day.""The youth is wasted on the young.""When you get older, you lose hair in places where you want it, and get it in places you don't.""You can't change the world, but you can change your neighborhood.""When times are sweet, say thank you and enjoy.  When times are challenging, say thank you and grow." Rando Mentions: Jury DutyTyphoon LagoonWestport, Washington (USA)Razor ClamsJack In the Box - Loaded Breakfast SandwichSee 'n Say --- Send in a voice message:
Bring Your Own Struggle - Where Did Y'all Go? Ep. 26
Jun 23 2022
Bring Your Own Struggle - Where Did Y'all Go? Ep. 26
In this episode, Peter rides a shotgun seat - Todd takes the bull by the horn.  Topics range from compassion to parenting mishaps - through a lens of... as you may guess lived, raw, enduring struggle.  Uncovered herein is a huge realization of how being part of this podcast has unearthed unlikely and surprising benefits in multiple ways. Related points: No stoplights and two post offices in Hartland Vermont.Communication is key and sets intention for all those involved.  Lack thereof leaves gaps and places for confusion.It's hot in Arizona, but it is a dry heat.Sometimes the celebration of an event pales in contrast to attending the event itself, and in its entirety.Laundry rooms, although small, can hold large topics and host huge conversations.At the spot where words turn into emotion, or flirt right on that edge.  This is the spot where being truly alive and present demands attention.Perspectives differ between every individual.  What one person sees in us, oftentimes is something we are completely blind to ourselves.Frogging can be fun. Mental habit / action / tool examples: If you think you know something about an event you've never attended - try to remain aware of that fact - the assumptive nature of what you think you know, and how that may impact your presence or decisions. When a statement or message from someone triggers a sense of emotion in your body - listen closely and look for an opportunity to stretch and grow.  It will be uncomfortable, even to look, but holds a wealth of education if you allow it in.Seek feedback and when it's given, look at it as a gift.Ask more questions than statements, as much as possible. Quotes / quips: "It's more important to be loving than to be right (in a marriage/relationship)." - Keith"Do I want to be looked at as the person that is right, or do I want to be looked at as the person who is caring?" Rando Mentions: University of ArizonaHealthy resting heart rate. --- Send in a voice message:
Feelin' It? You Got Permission: Ep. 25
Jun 13 2022
Feelin' It? You Got Permission: Ep. 25
In this prepisode (pre-episode) we set the stage for, well, our next episode. To be completely transparent Todd failed to complete his homework and gather up content to discuss around (self) compassion topics. Peter unveils his plans for a new experimental class in his community/school relying on the wealth of experience he has found, and how he can attempt to fill the gaps. Related points: In Vermont when the school year winds down, the yardwork season ramps-up.Be vigilant employing awareness around areas of heavy investment in your life, seeking balance about where you place your largest efforts.Research points to a shift/increase of health issues (in our younger populations) with the rise and adoption of social media.How can we directly measure the efficacy of mental health initiatives, especially in learning environments?Making rewind (cassette tape) sounds can be entertaining for those who are able to relate with the events of the era.Many times, humas tell their stories of struggles, post experiences. Many things can be learned by sharing space, in the middle of the struggle itself. Mental habit / action / tool examples: Use your emotion, the sense felt in your body, to plant curiosity into deeper introspection.Our perception is/or becomes our reality.Learning that our feelings are fleeting – then – understanding what can be done about those feelings – let that sink in.Do the best you can to keep genuine connections with those closest to you, at all costs. Time is involved here, and it slips through our fingers much faster than we ever recognize. Quotes / quips: "If you don’t make time for health (physical/mental) now, you will be forced to find time later.” Rando Mentions: Brene BrownDr. Kristin NeffDare to Lead (book - Amazon)Permission To Feel (book - Amazon) --- Send in a voice message:
Sleep - 10 Tips for More Special Sauce: Ep. 24
Jun 9 2022
Sleep - 10 Tips for More Special Sauce: Ep. 24
In this episode Todd and Peter dive a bit into sleep… its purpose, utility, restorative powers as well as learned tips, and tricks to get more and of better quality.  As sometimes happens, our conversation wanders this way and that, but mostly related (this time) to the topic. Related points: Lead with gratitude, helps disarm overwhelm.It is often difficult to get a good night’s sleep with newborns in proximity.If you consistently disregard sleep, its loss will appear in numerous places.R.E.M. = Rapid Eye Movement (not just an American rock band – see below).It is more common than you might think, getting hooked/dependent on sleep masks. Peters 10 tips for better sleep… Treat sleep like medicine needed to maintain health.Pre-bedtime routine is key to success.Stay away from and/or block blue light.The darker the room, the better the quality of sleep.60-67 degrees (F) is the optimal sleeping temperature.Try to keep from eating 2-3 hours before bed.Keep your bed(room) a dedicated space for sleeping, purposefully.Those who exercise on a regular basis, tend to have better sleep… this can be overdone.Calm the mind and the body for solid sleep. Mental habit / action / tool examples: Sleep and hydration are the two biggest things we need to operate well.Mileage may vary by individual, on what actions will help achieve harmony in sleep.As sleepy time nears, you’ll get more effective sleep the longer it has been since you’ve peered into a device or screen.Alcohol inhibits deeper cycles of sleep.Breathing/meditative techniques can help calm the mind and body for sleep.It’s been said that when counting sheep to get back to sleep, imagining them atop snowboards doing park tricks works wonders.Sleep supplements can assist with making humans sleepy, again mileage varies. Quotes/quips: "Trying to get my life from being overwhelmed, to just whemled.”“Moderation is for cowards, so let’s just go all in.” Rando Mentions: Bloomsday Run (Spokane WA)Sleep deprivationWhoop StrapStages of sleepR.E.M. (The musical band)Cooling mattress cover(s)Box breathing technique(s)CPAP MachinePower broom in actionPower napping --- Send in a voice message:
Laughter, Death & Fun Stories in Between: Ep. 23
May 29 2022
Laughter, Death & Fun Stories in Between: Ep. 23
The title hits the larger themes in this episode however Peter and Todd explore the intersection of Storytime and M3 (Magical Microphone Monday's) going into places unexplored.  Might not be typical for these two, given the ‘structure’ of other releases – or – not.  Hope you all enjoy it. Related points: Sometimes books are worth a revisit, depending on where you are along your life’s path.Measure of success can be pinned to ‘some guy’ in Vermont asking you to co-host a podcast.Death – what happens in the mind of the dying.Sometimes the body fails, yet the mind is 100% intact.How can you make every interaction, personally, result in someone feeling noticed and enjoyed?Jumping across breezeways sixteen floors up might not be the best idea – sober or not.Irritation can help some drivers remain awake. Mental habit / action / tool examples: Leaning into scary or uncomfortable experiences in our lives can reshape who we are, in many ways.Share, if you can, the experiences and actions which have shaped your life with others. To share what we learn is to add to the wellbeing and growth of those around us.Thoughts which are outside our control / comprehension are often fruitless to ponder. Fruitless in contrast to our forward intentions in the present.If you feel uncomfortable when leaving a situation, when you ponder it and feel there is something undone / left unstated – this is an opportunity to lean in and take a step into discomfort.Listen to your emotions, the felt sense of how they feel in your body… these feelings have utility but are often discounted or ignored. Quotes/quips: “Definition of focus – paying close attention to the detail while always keeping the big picture in mind.”“The human condition is that everyone wants to be noticed and enjoyed.” Rando Mentions: How to Win Friends & Influence People – bookThe Top five regrets of the Dying – bookRobert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness | TEDLogan Raymond – Raymond Construction Hartland VT --- Send in a voice message:
Fast, Furious, & Out of Control: Ep. 22
May 23 2022
Fast, Furious, & Out of Control: Ep. 22
In this episode Peter digs a bit deeper into Todd’s backstory… several of our listeners expressed their hunger for additional depth in this department – so let this serve as an extended play (the first was episode three). When/if we look close into the things which drive our decisions and behaviors, sometimes we can see what unfolded outside our knowing in real time. Related points: Peter has been a PE teacher for 16 years, so now he has known the current class since kindergarten. Shoutout to Alex.Differences found against others’ expectations, at an early age, can be the place where labels are applied.Parenting is difficult – should you hear differently, lean in, and ask questions.Rarely (in our current times) are students ‘held back’ in school (redo grade 5 as an example). Mental habit / action / tool examples: Create interesting ways to allow others to discover themselves, in unique ways.Find things which interest you, and as much as possible allow those to pull you into learning more.If you don’t feel like what you are doing has value, you may discover an aversion to being in that environment and/or what is found there.You cannot run fast enough to escape the real world, self-imposed, financial problems.If you are willing to look, opportunity exists in EVERYTHING. Every event in our lives. Quotes/quips: "The baggage we carry stays with us for much of our life’s journey.""You can’t know what you don’t know, but how else can you find out if you’re not willing to go see." Rando Mentions: Population of Tacoma WashingtonWhat is Snocross (Adam)?What is a­ savant?ADHDSynchronicity --- Send in a voice message: