Hi Shame Spiralers! I'm briefly emerging from our mid-season hiatus just to drop this very special bonus episode with comic, writer & actor Jes Tom! (Our Flag Means Death, Less Lonely.) Jes is one of my favorite comedians and you can and SHOULD drop everything you're doing and go see their one-person comedy show Less Lonely at the Greenwich House Theater in NYC, from now through January 6! This hilarious, poignant show is written & performed by Jes, presented by Elliot Page, and has been described as "an exploration of sex in the face of death and gender transition on the brink of oblivion."  Tickets available now, GO GO GO!  It was such a pleasure to spiral out with Jes this week. We talked perfectionism and failure, fear of being sociopaths, the shame of self-promotion, the relationship between judging oneself and others, career angst, what we want in a therapist, fear of getting in trouble , our very deepest, darkest traits and SO MUCH MORE. And not only was this episode a pleasure for me, it was also AN AGONY- as Jes turned the tables on me, reading me to filth and legitimately making me  SQUIRM.  It was horrifying for me, but I'm pretty sure it makes for a damn good episode.  Follow Jes on IG @ jesthekid and Twitter @jestom, and you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes. ***SEASON TWO UPDATE*** I'm currently cooking up some exciting mysterious stuff for Season 2, so it isn't dropping quite yet. BUT it will be worth the wait! I'm recording amazing eps in the meantime, and will keep you posted on the launch date as soon as I can. While you wait, please  catch up on old episodes, and email me your own twisted shame game scenarios- if it's sufficiently dark and disturbed you might even get to hear me haunt one of your fave funny people with it.  Can't wait to be back with you all weekly soon, and thank you so much for listening! Audio Engineer/Editor:  Theresa Gaffney, IG @theresagaffOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with psychotherapist, OCD specialist, writer & content creator Alegra Kastens! We talked OCD origin stories and the thoughts that broke our brains, the obsessive struggle to discern if you don't like someone because you're not into them or because there's something wrong with you, fear of being cancelled and social media trolls, the idea of "harm," and what it really means to harm someone, obsessing about finding a partner and worrying about your eggs dying,  the dangerous proliferation of unlicensed TikTok mental health "coaches" and the messages they disseminate, the intersection of trauma, shame and OCD, how being a therapist can actually make things MORE difficult for you in dating, love and life, and SO MUCH MORE! Plus, Alegra shares a relatable and vulnerable shame story about being in a dark place in her life and ending up hospitalized for one night- and the shameful aftermath that ensued. And I shared with Alegra a little *casual witchcraft* that I employed when I was looking for love....I promised her the full spell and haven't recovered it yet, but when I find it, trust I will share it with all of you potential witches out there! Alegra is an incredible, radical force of change on social media, sharing openly  and often hilariously about her own experience with OCD and doing the good work of  shattering the debilitating stigma that comes with mental health struggles. Follow her NOW if you don't already on IG & TikTok @alegrakastens! And stay tuned for news about the upcoming BOOK she's writing!As always, you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes. *** special note! After over a year of weekly episodes, this is the FINAL EPISODE OF THE EXTREMELY BULKY SEASON 1! I'm taking a few weeks between seasons to record new eps and recalibrate, and will be back to launch Season 2 shortly. Thank you so much for listening this year- your support for the pod means everything to me, truly!  Stay tuned for news of official Season 2 drop date, and in the meantime catch up on old episodes, and please review, subscribe, and leave those five shining stars.  Audio Engineer: Sarah Gabrielli, IG @cruisingpod Editor: Theresa Gaffney, IG @theresagaffOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with writer, illustrator, podcaster & professor Nicole J. Georges! (Calling Dr. Laura)  We talked shame and recovery from harmful family dynamics, making amends to yourself & others, the important of zines and yahoogroups for isolated young 90's queers, shoplifting, vegan betrayals, gossiping, gaslighting, writing memoir when you know your family won't be happy about it, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Nicole shared several incredible shame stories, including a true showstopper: a moment in which she may have accidentally shamed one of the best women of our time who we agreed deserves not a SINGLE iota of further shaming: MS. MONICA LEWINSKY HERSELF. Nicole has published several amazing and award-winning graphic novels, including Calling Dr. Laura and Fetch: How A Bad Dog Brought Me Home, and she has a new book out RIGHT NOW called Dog's Breakfast! It's an anthology of diary comics, which includes twelve issues of her zine Invincible Summer, and more than a decade's worth of rare and never before seen stories about love, loss, teaching, being a grouch, drawing graphic novels, dog death, and starting over.  You should ALSO check out Nicole's fantastic podcast Sagittarian Matters, and follow her on IG & Twitter @nicolejgeorges. As always, you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes. Thank you so much for listening! Please review, subscribe, and leave those five shining stars. Audio Engineer: Sarah Gabrielli, IG @cruisingpod Editor: Theresa Gaffney, IG @theresagaffOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with writer, poet and lovely person LaToya Jordan! We dug deep into her recently published novella, To The Woman In The Pink Hat, and some of the issues it explores: medical racism, infertility, white feminism, the Women's March, and uterine transplants (?!?,) and also spiraled about twenty-something alcohol-induced regrets, the struggle to "make the first move" in attempting friendship with adults and fellow parents, and how sometimes the right amount of shame just affirms you're not a sociopath. Plus, LaToya shared a vulnerable , poignant and retrospectively hilarious shame story about being "outed" as a lesbian on her high school track team (in a horrible, homophobic way, and DESPITE not actually being a lesbian!!!) Follow LaToya on IG @latoyajordanwriter and Twitter @latoyadjordan, and buy her novella!!!!!!! It is such a good read and despite the heavy topics, manages to be truly  IMPOSSIBLE to put down.  https://www.aqueductpress.com/books/978-1-61976-236-7.php And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you want to hear me spiral LIVE, the next Gay Shame comedy show is next week! 10/30 at 7:30pm at Union Hall in Brooklyn, and in honor of Halloween it is HOCUS POCUS-THEMED, WITCH!!!! tickets available here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/gay-shame-tickets-722973672717Thank you so much for listening! Please review, subscribe, and leave those five shining stars. Audio Engineer: Sarah Gabrielli @therealsarahgabrielli @cruisingpod Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with brilliant television writer, showrunner and co-creator of YELLOWJACKETS (!!!!!!) Ashley Lyle! We talked nicotine and being 90s teens, the moment you realize you can hurt your mom's feelings,  caring too much about what people think of you at the expense of the people who truly care, the vicious procrastination cycle and ADHD, anxiety & shame intertwined, unhinged goth childhood behavior, feeling replete with humiliation on CELEBRITY FAMILY FUED,  and so much more! I also gave Ashley two Yellowjackets- specific shame game scenarios, which she was an incredible sport about (even though they fully elevated her heart rate- sorry Ashley!!!)  If somehow you have not yet seen Yellowjackets, WATCH IT NOW!  IT IS INCREDIBLE, TOP TIER TELEVISION!!!! Now that the strike is over, you can finish it and join the rest of us in waiting with bated breath for season three! Ashley has also written on Dispatches From Elsewhere, Narcos, The Originals, and more. Follow her on Twitter @ashannlyle!   And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  And if you're enjoying the pod, please rate, review and subscribe! If you do, I will SPIRAL-but in the good way.  Audio Engineer: Sarah Gabrielli @therealsarahgabrielli @cruisingpod Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with hilarious and deeply relatable novelist, television writer & painter Ali Liebegott!   We talked regret, people pleasing and the shame of saying no,  making mistakes and accepting your own and others' flaws , accidentally farting on a stranger in a grocery store, taking your students to a casino, wishing your childhood fish was more like a dog and SO MUCH MORE.   Ali's published a handful of incredible award-winning books, including : The IHOP Papers, The Beautifully Worthless, Cha-Ching!, and The Summer Of Dead Birds. She's also written for television,  including on amazing shows like Transparent, The Sex Lives Of College Girls, I Love That For You, and The Connors.  And Ali is also a painter- check out her gorgeous work on aliiebegott.com, and follow her on Instagram @friendofducks. You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  And if you're enjoying the pod, please rate, review and subscribe! If you do, I will SPIRAL-but in the good way.  *In the episode, I tell Ali a shameful story involving me, her, and an Eminem song....if you must know, this is the song in question: https://open.spotify.com/track/1HR2CTi0ytRJIcik1QKdOa?si=700c6968828942a0Audio Engineer: Sarah Gabrielli @therealsarahgabrielli @cruisingpod Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with the brilliant & SUPER funny stand up comic & writer Amy Silverberg! (Comedy Central, The Paris Review)  We talked Jewish parents, boundaries, talking about your students and boyfriends in your stand up, fake vs real vulnerability, codependency and hurting people more in trying NOT to hurt them, how being teased can feel like love, being a recovered ghoster, and SO MUCH MORE. Amy also shared several juicy shame stories AND we went deep into the world of her relationship with her now infamous therapist, DR. BARBARA.  Amy's debut novel First Time, Long Time is forthcoming from Grand Central Publishing in 2024, and you can spy her short fiction in The New Yorker, The Paris Review, Best American Short Stories, and more. She performs stand up regularly in LA and tours all over the country- follow her on Instagram & Twitter @amysilverberg and TikTok @amysilverbergrules to stay in the know of her upcoming shows! You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  And if you're enjoying the pod, please rate, review and subscribe! If you do, I will SPIRAL-but in the good way.  Editor: Kalie McAlexander, Twitter @kaliebud & IG @kaliebuddOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with the hilarious and thoughtful writer & stand up comedian Django Gold! (The Late Show With Stephen Colbert)  We talked social awkwardness, persecution complexes, the weirdness of being an introverted comedian, accepting your flaws, parading around your job with a beard full of ice cream, torturing yourself with anxiety, the benefits of getting older, spectacularly bombing a stand up set and ON YOUR BIRTHDAY,  unintentionally breaking the social contract of a bagel place, and so much more. Django also had to face off with maybe my MOST gruesome shame game scenario yet- and while it's not a win or lose game, we both agreed he crushed it.  Django just released a brand-new hour-long stand up special called Bag Of Tricks, and you should GO WATCH IT IMMEDIATELY! IT'S SO FUNNY! Stream it on Youtube here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lk4rV2_Z4swand follow Django on IG @djangoindustries and Twitter @django to stay in the know on upcoming stand up shows. You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  And if you're enjoying the pod, please rate, review and subscribe! If you do, I will SPIRAL-but in the good way.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with the delightful & brilliant writer, podcaster, and mental health advocate Allison Raskin! (Overthinking About You, Just Between Us) We talked the nuance around mental health diagnoses, all about OCD, insecurities around friendship, self-compassion as the antithesis of shame, the liberating potential of knowing your own schemas, and even meta-processed a few moments INVOLVING EACH OTHER that made us both spiral, if you can believe.  If you're not already listening, go binge Allison's podcast Just Between Us, buy her new book Over Thinking About You, about the intersection of mental health & romantic relationships, follow her on IG & Twitter @allisonraskin and TikTok @allisonraskinbaby, AND follow her mental health account on IG @emotionalsupportlady! And don't neglect to subscribe to her substack too: emotionalsupportlady.substack.com.  You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  And if you're enjoying the pod, please rate, review and subscribe! If you do, I will SPIRAL, but in the good way.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpatwitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with super funny & absurdly talented comedian, writer, actor & podcaster River Butcher! (The Knew Guys, League Of Their Own.) We talked fear of people leaving if you dare to share your feelings, the difficulty of actually implementing your coping skills when things are POPPING OFF, giving a gift to your inner child and carrying all previous versions of you inside yourself, letting go of trying to be a "better person," somatic therapies, striking out in baseball and SO MUCH MORE. Check out River's incredible podcast The Knew Guys everywhere you get your pods, stream his half-hour comedy special A Different Kind Of Dude,  catch him on Good Trouble and in Friendsgiving, and follow him on IG and Twitter @rivbutcher to stay in the know on upcoming shows! You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod!  Next up is 9/12- which is TONIGHT- and it's gonna be SO FUN.  Headlined by Janeane Garofalo (!!!) and featuring a crop of incredible comics AND a surprise celebrity guest  who will DEFINITELY make you spiral- but in the good way. Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with wonderfully deep, refreshingly honest and truly hilarious writer, actor, comedian, musician AND podcaster Lane Moore! (Tinder Live, You Will Find Your People)  We talked shame and relational trauma, the damage done by unrealistic and grossly prescriptive self-help books, dealing with the incessant self-critical DJ playing the worst songs over and over in your head, making art from pain, the struggle to believe there's nothing wrong with you,  the difficulty of giving yourself the grace & compassion you freely give others, and SO MUCH MORE. Check out Lane's incredible podcast I Thought It Was Just Me, available exclusively on Patreon ( https://www.patreon.com/lanemoore) and buy her freaking amazing and relatable books: How To Be Alone and You Will Find Your People: How To Make Meaningful Friendships As An Adult.  You can follow Lane on Twitter, IG and TikTok @hellolanemoore and find all things Lane at lanemoore.org. And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod!  Next up is 9/12 and it's gonna be SO FUN.  What can I say guys, shame is my brand. Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with hilarious & deeply relatable stand up comic, podcaster (and fellow neurotic Jew) Carly Montag!  We talked the pervasive fear of making others' feel bad, coming out as queer via an improv class revelation, Jewish guilt and hypervigilance, the shame of feeling stupid, internalized homophobia and the pressure to marry a nice Jewish boy, the rocky learning curve of your first relationships and the regrets that follow and SO MUCH MORE.  Carly performs stand up in NYC, DC and beyond, and is the co-host of one of my fave podcasts, Alone At Lunch, a pod about feeling like the odd man out! Go binge it immediately if you haven't already, and follow the pod everywhere @aloneatlunchpod and Carly @carlyjmontag on IG & Twitter!You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod!  Next up is 9/12 and it's gonna be SO FUN.  What can I say guys, shame is my brand. Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with incredibly talented comic, writer and actor Joel Kim Booster! (Fire Island, The Other Two, Shrill)  We talked the impact of growing up extremely religious and queer, fear of going to hell and terrifying fantasies of what hell would be like, caring way too much of what others' think about you, being young and extra thirsty, people pleasing tendencies (except for with the TSA,)  the journey of going from shameful to shameless, a dead Dad orgy, masochistically name searching yourself on Twitter and SO MUCH MORE.Joel has written for and/or appeared in so many shows you probably already love: Shrill, The Other Two, Big Mouth, Loot, Search Party and Praise Petey, to name a few. You can and SHOULD stream Joel's stand up special Joel Kim Booster: Psychosexual on Netflix (IT IS SO FUNNY,) and if you haven't already seen it, go watch the hilarious and moving and iconic film Fire Island RIGHT NOW, which he wrote and stars in, and is an overall absolute delight. And stay glued to his socials @ihatejoelkim for upcoming tour dates! You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  AND if you wanna hear me go off on shame LIVE with a bunch of queer comics, come to my monthly queer comedy show Gay Shame (@gayshamecomedy) at Littlefield in Brooklyn, co-hosted with amazing fellow Brooklyn comic Sheria Mattis of @semi_woke_pod!  Next up is 9/12 and it's gonna be SO FUN.  What can I say guys, shame is my brand. Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with the disarmingly honest, lovely, hilarious & brilliant writer Tara Schuster! (Glow In The F*cking Dark, Comedy Central) Talking shame with Tara was hilarious, delightful, and honestly inspiring AF.  We talked shame and trauma, the relief and empowerment that comes from knowing when the past is crash landing into the present, drunk dialing your therapist, self-compassion & forgiveness, the good side of "selfishness," reparenting yourself, existential angst and SO MUCH MORE. Tara is the author of two incredible mental health/self-help books (with a fabulous dash of memoir.)  Her book Glow In The F*cking Dark came out just a few months ago, and her first book Buy Yourself The F*cking Lilies was a finalist for Goodreads Best Non-Fiction Book of 2020. Before pivoting to writing, Tara served as Vice President of talent and development at Comedy Central, where she was the exec at the helm of iconic shows like Key & Peele!Follow Tara on IG, TikTok & Twitter @taraschuster, buy her books and check out her substack: taraschuster.substack.com! And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with incredibly hilarious, honest and charming comedian,  writer & actor Emma Willmann! (Colbert, Comedy Central, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend)  Emma and I talked ADHD, addiction and recovery, accidentally learning things from TikTok, getting in a fight with Chelsea Handler, ungodly shameful moments with exes and discerning when apologizing is for you and not them, and unpacked maybe my MOST BRUTAL hypothetical shame game scenarios yet ( sorry Emma!) Follow Emma on Instagram and TikTok @emmawillmann and Twitter @iamemmawillmann to catch her insanely funny clips, and stay in the know on upcoming shows! Emma's out performing stand up constantly and she is SO GOOD, get after it!!!! And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with comedian, writer & actress Nori Reed! (Netflix is a Joke, HBO Max, Comedy Central)  Nori's stand up is iconic, hilarious and brilliant, and she was featured in New York Magazine as one of Vulture's "Comedians You Should Know And Will Know In 2021."  She also recently wrote for seasons five & six of Disney's Raven's Home, creating Disney's first ever live-action trans character, which led to a GLAAD award nomination! Nori and I talked class and financial shame, weirdly going to the same uber-niche Northern California hippy therapy school (!!!!)  in the hopes of having a  transformational experience,  shame as a pesky fly you need to accept rather than keep trying to kill, the lifeline of meeting fellow  queer/trans kids when you are a queer/trans kid, our mutual adoration of Orna from Couple's Therapy, and SO MUCH MORE! You can and SHOULD follow Nori on Instagram @norireed and Twitter @therealnorireed, and go see her perform live! If you're in the Seattle area, she has a show coming up on 8/13 and tickets are available on her IG! GET AFTER IT! And you can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with queer, neurodivergent and gender expansive psychotherapist Jess Sprengle! (@TheCrankyTherapist on IG) Jess is an Eating Disorder Specialist and Educator, and especially passionate about engaging with the intersection of the LGBTQIA+ experience, neurodivergence, and eating disorder recovery.  We talked shame as an adaptive response, the fear of being a bad therapist, explored brutal therapy-themed shame scenarios and the strange and specific experience of being a therapist with a social media presence, "cool girl" archetypes, boundaries, dopamine and social media, owning the reality that therapists are real, messy, and flawed people, and SO MUCH MORE. You can and SHOULD follow Jess on Instagram, where they have a massive following- for good reason- at @thecrankytherapist! Jess is so funny, honest, and vulnerable online and in person, which just so happens to be my favorite combination of things. And to learn more about Jess and her work, check out her website: jessprenglelpc.com. You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with writer & actor Mara Wilson! (Good Girls Don't, Matilda, Mrs. Doubtfire)  We talked growing up in Hollywood, being a chronic oversharer, the prison of being a "good girl," the drama of young adult relationships, anxiety & OCD,  My So-Called Life, and so much more! Plus, Mara shares a multi-layered shame upon shame upon SHAME story about embarrassing herself in front of multiple celebrities....and then sharing the story with a friend and feeling shame yet AGAIN by her response. Follow Mara on Instagram and Twitter @marawilson, check out her Substack, and listen to  her new audiobook "Good Girls Don't," available exclusively on Scribd!  It's A LOT about shame and she both wrote and narrates it, and it's amazing so GET AFTER IT! You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli @cruisingpodOriginal Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with queer author and hilarious, deeply relatable person Marisa Crane! (I Keep My Exoskeletons To Myself) We talked internalized homophobia, being menaces in our twenties,  self-sabotage, parenting shame, botox and the horror of lying to Drew Barrymore, why it's so damn hard to give yourself the grace you freely give everyone else, the quiet shame of being a jock in the literary world, Rugby as an addictive self-punishment tool, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Marisa shares a shame story about having a history of infidelity in their relationships, feeling like they had really overcome that pattern, and then meeting their wife while they were both in relationships with someone else. We dove deep into what it's like to have their happiness tied to this reminder of one of their hugest sources of shame- and what it would take for them to finally forgive themself.   Follow Marisa on Instagram @marisa_crane, Twitter @mcrane_12 and TikTok @marisacranewrites. And buy their debut novel, I Keep My Exoskeletons To Myself! It's queer and dystopian and INCREDIBLE! GET AFTER IT! https://books.catapult.co/books/i-keep-my-exoskeletons-to-myself/ You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok @elykreimendahl, and the pod on Twitter and Instagram @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun video clips of especially juicy or hilarious moments from the episodes.  Audio Engineer/Editor: Sarah Gabrielli (check out her amazing podcast about the last lesbian bars in America @cruisingpod on Instagram and TikTok and listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cruising-a-lesbian-bar-road-trip/id1585850925Original Music: Shadwick Wilde, Instagram and Twitter: @shadwickwildeCover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek, Instagram, Twitter and TikTok: @heavenlygrandpaNew episodes every Tuesday! Don't forget to subscribe, review and please leave those five shining stars!twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl

This week I spiraled out with physical therapist & cast member of instant queer reality tv classic The Ultimatum: Queer Love Xander Boger! This one is a special treat for all you fellow Queer Love Ultimatum fans, because we dove deep into shame around deciding to be on the show, being on the show, and the emotionally complicated aftermath. And we don't just discuss the show- we also went hard on queer relationships and codependency, chasing people who are giving you every signal that they don't want to be with you, being a healthcare provider with a public persona, and so much more. Plus. Xander tells a shame story about watching the show for the very first time LITERAL HOUR before filming the reunion, and spiraling around seeing herself exist on screen in the place they were in at the time of the show- and reckoning with the world seeing her in that place , too. Xander was such a delight to talk with and was so real and honest about the intricacies of the whole multi-layered reality tv process and about life overall! I officially love them now and I know you will too, if you don't already! You can follow Xander on Instagram and TikTok @xander.ology, and if you want to check out the work they're doing now, peep their website www.movewithxan.com, where they're newly offering virtual physical therapy and yoga and more. You can follow me and the pod on IG, TikTok & Twitter @elykreimendahl and @podshamespiral, where I'm regularly posting fun and juicy video clips from the episodes. Thank you so much for listening, and please rate and review! Audio Engineer: Sarah Gabrielli Original Music: Shadwick Wilde Cover Art: Cassidy Kulhanek twitter.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/podshamespiralinstagram.com/elykreimendahltiktok.com/@elykreimendahltwitter.com/elykreimendahl