Ep 9 Fear-based assumptions can lead to a parent-child relationship of pain, drama and heartache for all involved. As fathers we often lash out at our kids in order to protect them from the unknown, or to prevent them from getting involved with something that we don't understand but are afraid to admit it. In this episode let's explore another way to approach fatherhood in the New Year 1. What does it mean for a father to actively listen to his children and not assume he knows everything? 2. How can fathers instill fear of God and not fear of the world in their daughters? 3. What is the importance of self-control, communication, and emotional connection in fatherhood? As a father of nine, I have come to understand that assumptions about my children, myself, my family, and even my manhood can lead to pain, drama and headaches. I know that I cannot assume that one conversation is enough to teach my children, and I must actively listen and show them love and support. I must also be mindful that although I have experience, it does not make me an expert on my children's lives. I must be adaptable and have self-control, knowing that what I say will affect my children. I strive to speak life, prosperity, liberty, and innate spirit, teaching my children to be secure in themselves, and to be prepared and have the tools needed to protect themselves.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 17 This episode is a must-listen for parents seeking guidance on discipline and communication with their children. In today's society, many parents walk around on eggshells, and it seems like fathers have no authority when it comes to raising the kids. As an advocate for traditional fatherhood, I have dedicated myself to helping other parents like you reclaim your power and raise kids who respect and obey you.  It's important to establish boundaries and respect, rather than trying to be your child's friend. Issues of teen mental health issues, addiction, and other taboo subjects must be address properly. By advocating for open communication and a supportive community, I believe we can help our children become confident, successful adults.  SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch  Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com  Other episodes you'll enjoy: Redefining Masculinity: Balance and Empathy in Relationships | FATHA TORCH Any Fool Can Make a Baby | FATHA TORCH Are You a Good Father? It All All Comes Down to This    Podcast Like a Pro! Riverside.FM Promo Code JAZZYCAST for 15% off Remote Recording  JazzCastPros.com for help launching, branding or editing your podcast. In this episode, you will be able to: Explore the complexities of modern fatherhood and its influence on children's growth. Scrutinize current parenting approaches and the growing disregard for respect. Recognize the significance of a solid foundation and discipline in raising children. Embrace the power of community backing, empathy, and solidarity within the black community. Tackle open dialogues on taboo subjects and the consequences of societal repression. The key moments in this episode are: 00:00:00 - Being a Father vs Being a Friend 00:01:14 - Parenting in Today's Society 00:05:40 - The Importance of Respect 00:09:36 - The Reality of Parenting 00:13:36 - The Challenges of Parenting for Black Fathers 00:15:16 - Advocating for the Children 00:17:38 - Bring Back the Village 00:21:06 - Be the Part 00:23:07 - Breaking Taboos 00:24:50 - You Are Not Alone Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 6 Does toxic masculinity impact on a man's mental health? Carl Binger and Joel Lesses have some theories. In this episode you'll learn 1. How men and women experience and cope with depression differently 2. The influence of rap music on mental health and depression 3. The importance of nature and wilderness in mental health and depression 4. Who has the best chicken wings, Buffalo or Rochester, NY RESOURCES: Book: Spiritual Depression by Martyn Lloyd Jones  Living the Front Seat Life Podcast hosted by Coach Kelly Marie Need someone to talk to confidently? Call the free Crisis Lifeline at 988    CRAZYWISE – Documentary Film (crazywisefilm.com)   ABOUT THE GUESTS: Carl Binger Counselor - LMHC, Podcast Host Surviving Depression Podcast on Spotify  Having served as a Counseling Pastor at his home church from 2016-2018, Carl began his own private practice on February 14th of this year, specializing in helping individuals who struggle with depression. Carl was under the influence of depression for two years prior to getting the help he needed in the form of medication in 2006.  Joel David Lesses: Director, Counselor at Education Training Center; Writer and Poet; Podcast Producer, Unraveling Religion. Unraveling Religion on Apple Podcasts  Joel Lesses professional background is in educational psychology and counseling for people marginalized by trauma, addiction, and psychological distress, as well as its effects on them, such as homelessness, incarceration, and institutionalization.    GET INVOLVED Leave a review on Podchaser. Rate Fatha Torch on Apple Podcast Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76 to show this support.  Follow me on Instagram @Fatha_Torch  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com   CREDITS Hosted by Rah Produced & Edited by JazzCast Pros Music "Lover's Rock" by All Good Folks   Other Episodes You'll Enjoy Is He Dumb or is it Something Deeper? with Carl Binger & Joel Lesses Unraveling Religion with Joel Lesses Is Fatherhood Broken? A Father’s Confession   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 18 This episode is a tribute to my grandparents who have shaped my life as Fatha Torch, a beacon of light for the next generation. As a father, I believe it is important to honor our elders and learn from their wisdom, especially in these challenging times. In this episode, you will learn: How honoring your elders is a way of embracing and uplifting our generations How to connect with your elders and listen to their stories What benefits you can gain from learning from the wisdom of the past How to pass on the legacy of your elders to your children and future generations Why listening to grandparents is a good way to learn about your cultural heritage and family history SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com  Other episodes you'll enjoy: Why Kids Don’t Respect Their Parents Anymore Redefining Masculinity: Balance and Empathy in Relationships | FATHA TORCH Any Fool Can Make a Baby | FATHA TORCH   Podcast Like a Pro! Riverside.FM Promo Code JAZZYCAST for 15% off Remote Recording  JazzCastPros.com for help launching, branding or editing your podcast.   Other Podcasts Mentioned in this episode: Healthy Illness | a podcast by Kelly Marie Heart of the Hustle | a podcast by Monique Chatman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 27 We must recognize that many of us lack self-awareness and struggle to comprehend the repercussions of losing control, and the importance of practicing self-discipline. To establish a healthy relationship with oneself and others, one must exert self-control and manage one's thoughts, which various emotional and developmental factors can influence. This is especially important to consider as a man and a father in today's world.  THE TRUTH AND FAULTS OF DISCIPLINE   It's essential to discipline your children early on, as you may regret it later if you don't. Additionally, if you find yourself bailing out hot-tempered individuals once, be prepared to do it again. This advice can be found in Proverbs 19:18-19 of the New Living Translation( NLT). ANSWER THE FOLLOWING IN THE COMMENTS  Are you in control of your thoughts, or are they in control of you? Do you struggle to comprehend yourself and your awareness? Is there a support system in your life that you can turn to when you are experiencing difficulties with your emotions and thoughts?   SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Podcast Like a Pro! Riverside.FM Promo Code JAZZYCAST for 15% off Remote Recording  www.JazzCastPros.com for help launching, branding or editing your podcast.   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76    Check out other Podcasts on the JazzCast Pros Network: Healthy Illness Podcast | Building Healthier Relationships While Living with Mental Health Conditions Heart of the Hustle Podcast | JazzCast Pros       Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 26 Relationship 101 provides us with the hope that our values and worth will be acknowledged by someone. It is equally crucial to deeply understand ourselves and the aspects we hold in high regard. It is important to make sure that these values are respected by our partners. Otherwise, we risk compromising our own sense of self-worth and integrity. It is also essential to be open to learning from our partner and growing together in the relationship.   SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Podcast Like a Pro! Riverside.FM Promo Code JAZZYCAST for 15% off Remote Recording  www.JazzCastPros.com for help launching, branding or editing your podcast.   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76    Check out other Podcasts on the JazzCast Pros Network: Healthy Illness Podcast | Building Healthier Relationships While Living with Mental Health Conditions High Vibe Table Talks | Empowering Your Self Growth Journey          Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 25 The concept of fatherhood is a joke to many people and systems that govern our society. We have the right to procreate, but our rights to nurture, discipline and guide our children is slipping away every day. In this episode Fatha Torch will help you reclaim your power and authority as a man and be the dad you wish you had.  1: Fathers' Rights and Duties: - Discuss fathers' legal and societal rights regarding parenting, custody, and decision-making. 2: Breaking Stereotypes: Embracing Emotional Support: - Discuss the importance of emotional bonding and its positive impact on children's development. 3: Respectful Co-Parenting and Collaboration: - Highlight the significance of respectful communication and collaboration between parents, whether together or separated. 4: Navigating Work-Life Balance: - Explore the delicate balance fathers often face between work commitments and family responsibilities. 5: Shaping Future Generations: Role Modeling and Legacy. SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76    Produced by JazzCast Pros    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 24 The idea of taking responsibility and being accountable can be intimidating for men who struggle with abandonment issues and commitment-related traumas. Some simply don't care about life or its lessons and behave poorly as a result. It is necessary to break these negative patterns and move on with life, taking responsibility for one's actions and learning from mistakes. This is ultimately the only way to lead a fulfilling and meaningful life for you and your children.          Why Do I have to Grow-up Once I Have Kids? 1. Fathers who are mature and responsible can provide a positive role model for their children. Children learn a lot from observing and imitating their parents, especially their fathers. They can develop social skills, academic abilities, emotional regulation, and self-esteem by following their father’s example. 2. Having a child can be a rewarding and fulfilling experience for men, as they can bond with their child and share their love and wisdom. However, having a child also requires men to balance their work and family life, and to cope with the demands and challenges of parenthood. Men who act their age and manage their time and resources wisely can enjoy both aspects of their life without compromising one or the other. 3. Being a "grown-up" does not mean that men have to give up their hobbies, interests, or fun activities that they enjoy. It just means that they have to be more mindful of how their actions affect themselves, their partner, and their child. Being a father is not easy, but it can also be one of the most rewarding roles in life. 😊 SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76    Other episodes you'll enjoy: Discipline Children While There is Hope, Otherwise You Will Ruin Their Lives Realistic Expectations: Key to Successful Fatherhood I Am FATHA: Fathers are the Highest Authority (It’s time we act like it)     Produced by JazzCast Pros          Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 23 Being a father requires possessing proper guidance, self-control, and discipline. Discipline should be viewed as a tool to impart knowledge to children about making better decisions in the future rather than punishment. Communicating expectations and consequences calmly, firmly, and consistently is essential to ensure the child comprehends. It's crucial for both parents to work together to ensure the best possible outcome for their child. Proverbs 19:18 NLT "Discipline your children while there is hope. Otherwise, you will ruin their lives."   Consistent and fair consequences are important for a child to understand the set boundaries and learn from mistakes. Praise and positive reinforcement should also be used to reward good behavior and to encourage a child's development. It is important to remember to remain consistent in the way consequences are enforced. Avoiding punishments or rewards that are overly harsh or lenient will help to ensure that the child understands the logic behind the consequences. This will enable them to learn to make better choices in the future. SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76    Other episodes you'll enjoy: The Truth About Forgiveness: How to Make Peace with Yourself and Be Better for Your Kids Realistic Expectations: Key to Successful Fatherhood I Am FATHA: Fathers are the Highest Authority (It’s time we act like it)     Produced by JazzCast Pros      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 22 Translating forgiveness can be a challenging process, especially when grappling with emotions such as regret, anger, and confusion. It's crucial to clearly understand oneself to avoid getting lost in a world of pain. Taking the time to forgive is important in accepting the situation and moving forward in your journey to be the dad you wish you had. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting but rather understanding and accepting what has happened. It is a path to peace and a way to open the door to a brighter future.  As men, we must learn to confront our pain and vulnerabilities head-on to attain redemption. Forgiveness, whether towards oneself or others, may appear unattainable, but dwelling on the negative only hinders the healing process. With the help of loved ones, we can create a nurturing environment that encourages growth and progress. Rather than clinging to familiarity, we should embrace the power of a supportive circle and allow ourselves to heal. This journey of self-discovery can be difficult and uncomfortable, but in the end, it will lead to a more meaningful life. The courage to change is within us, and we must believe in ourselves to find the strength to move forward. SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76    Other episodes you'll enjoy: Realistic Expectations: Key to Successful Fatherhood I Am FATHA: Fathers are the Highest Authority (It’s time we act like it) Passing the Torch: Embracing Growth & Maturity as Men   Produced by JazzCast Pros    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 21 Growing up without a father I found myself setting unrealistic expectations on other men in my life, trying to fill the void my father left. But there were always disappointments because those men simply could not give me the things my soul longed for. It wasn't until I learned to set realistic expectations for myself, my partner and my children that I could truly embrace my goal of being the dad I wish I had. In this episode I share with you my journey of self-discovery and how I learned to find joy in the journey of fatherhood by setting realistic expectations. In this episode, you will be able to: Grasp the power of establishing practical expectations in pursuit of accomplishments. Unravel the secrets to fortifying relationships through intentional family planning. Examine the aftermath of damaging expectations and abuse during the prenatal stage. Master techniques to overcome feelings of inadequacy as a devoted father. Unearth strategies to nurture self-esteem and embolden confidence in oneself and others.     SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76    Other episodes you'll enjoy: I Am FATHA: Fathers are the Highest Authority (It’s time we act like it) Stop Being Your Child’s Friend and Start Being Their Leader How to Embrace the Wisdom of Elders to Raise the Youth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 20 As fathers, it's imperative that we possess a deep understanding of ourselves. The archaic notion of relying on guesswork to ascertain our worth and capabilities is a thing of the past. We must be cognizant of our duties and rights as fathers, and we shouldn't have to be reminded of this simply because we are fathers. Because we are men, it is our duty to protect our loved ones from any imminent danger without any apologies. We do not rely on mere likes or friend requests for a solution as we set the trend. But, with discipline and authority, we assist in your growth and prosperity and the development of our survival and legacy. Being honest and trustworthy is crucial. We must acknowledge our limitations and avoid attempting things beyond our abilities. Blindly following authority without questioning it is not a trait of a wise man. This mindset is a product of ignorance and a legacy of conquerors who ruled with authoritarianism, disregarding the feelings and situations of others while serving their wicked interests. SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76    Other episodes you'll enjoy: Why Kids Don’t Respect Their Parents Anymore Stop Being Your Child’s Friend and Start Being Their Leader How to Embrace the Wisdom of Elders to Raise the Youth   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 19 Do you want to leave a positive legacy by shaping and guiding the next generation? As 'young elders' we can empower and inspire the youth to reach their full potential and become the leaders of tomorrow.  In this episode of Fatha Torch, I, Rah, delve into the topic of the importance of becoming an elder and sharing wisdom with younger generations. As a father and mentor myself, I understand the need to pass down knowledge and experiences for future generations to learn and grow from. I discuss the four aspects of development - emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual - and how children need to learn how to handle each aspect to reach their full potential. I also touch on the self-destructive nature of gangster culture and the importance of fathers taking up their highest honor to create a space where their children can thrive and grow. In this episode, you will be able to: Embrace the vital role of becoming an elder in society to enrich lives by sharing your wisdom. Balance your growth in emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual aspects for well-rounded development. Acknowledge the damaging effects of gang culture and violence on individuals and communities. Harness your innate power and knowledge for progress across all dimensions of your life. Cultivate essential qualities like discipline, humility, and inner guidance to excel as responsible fathers. SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com    Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com  Other episodes you'll enjoy: Why Kids Don’t Respect Their Parents Anymore Stop Being Your Child’s Friend and Start Being Their Leader How to Embrace the Wisdom of Elders to Raise the Youth   The key moments in this episode are: 00:00:00 - Importance of Mentors, 00:05:03 - Retired Gangsters, 00:09:44 - Becoming an Elder, 00:12:12 - Male Development, 00:13:34 - Lack of Elders, 00:15:24 - Embracing Your Inner Power, 00:17:42 - The Importance of Nurturing, 00:20:06 - Overcoming Fear and Adversity, 00:21:51 - Creating a Legacy, 00:25:18 - Gratitude and Reflection,   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 16 Sitting in our favorite pizza joint, Create a Pizza, I felt a sense of peace as we shared a vegan meatball pizza. Little did I know, I was about to embark on a journey that would forever change my understanding of masculinity and empathy. As I conversed with my wife, I realized I had to adapt my behaviors to be a better husband and father. But what happened next was truly unexpected and has left me with a newfound appreciation for life's little moments. The resources mentioned in this episode are: Visit Creative Pizza at 766 Monroe Avenue, mention Father Torch and enjoy the $5.99 lunch special with a drink. Focus on understanding yourself and your own expectations in relationships, especially with your children and spouse. Make sure to respect and love your spouse, communicating openly and without belittling or disregarding their opinions and feelings. Adapt to your children's needs without losing the foundation of being a father, ensuring you maintain effective communication. Give your children the benefit of the doubt and avoid making assumptions based on their actions or the people they associate with. Develop a strong relationship with your children through dialogue and understanding, being open to their experiences and perspectives. Avoid bringing up past experiences to justify assumptions about your children's behavior and instead focus on the present situation. Understanding Relationships In relationships, it is essential to acknowledge the differences in how men and women approach them. Each partner comes with their unique views and expectations, often shaped by their personal experiences and upbringing. Understanding these differences is the first step towards building a strong foundation for a deeper connection with one's partner. When communication is clear and respectful, the relationship thrives, making it easier for both parties to navigate any difficulties that arise. Fathers represent authority, so they should be able to understand or overstand when something is out of order. - Rah   SPONSORED BY CREATE A PIZZA: home of the FATHA TORCH Lunch Special Try the Vegan Meatball Pizza with Sexy Cheese and a Drink for only $5.99 766 Monroe Ave, Rochester, NY Order Ahead at www.createapizza585.com Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: @FathaTorch  Website: www.fathatorch.com  ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION -Local Programs for Fathers Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com  Other episodes you'll enjoy: Any Fool Can Make a Baby | FATHA TORCH Are You a Good Father? It All All Comes Down to This  Letter to My Youngest Son | FATHA TORCH   Podcast Like a Pro! Riverside.FM Promo Code JAZZYCAST for 15% off Remote Recording  JazzCastPros.com for help launching, branding or editing your podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 15 Your dad was an asshole, alcoholic, abuser or just not around to teach you how to be a good man right? So it's up to us the be the change we wish to see in the next generation of fathers. I was surrounded by men who were a waste of time, women who blocked the teaching of fatherhood, and people who were more excited to see a stranger than me. I realized I needed to learn how to be patient with my children, treasure them, protect them from emotional and mental harm, and always be real with them.  In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. How can you be the dad you wish you had without a good example? 2. What does it take for fathers who are not in the home to create a balanced family for their children? 3. What can we do to overcome the pain of our own past trauma in order to be a better father?   RESOURCES Incarcerated Fathers Statistics  63% of federal inmates reported having minor children. 50% of those inmates are black men. How can we be good fathers if we are away and institutionalized?  Local Programs for Fathers - ABIMILECHH FOUNDATION   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatha_torch/ Website: www.fathatorch.com Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com  Other episodes you'll enjoy: What Men Fear the Most | FATHA TORCH Overcoming the ”You Ain’t Shit” Narrative in Co-Parenting | FATHA TORCH Are You a Good Father? It All Comes Down to This | FATHA TORCH   Podcast Like a Pro! Riverside.FM Promo Code JAZZYCAST for 15% off Remote Recording  JazzCastPros.com for help launching, branding or editing your podcast.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep 14 Men fear being unable to provide, being questioned as fathers, and being unable to protect our loved ones. Men often express fear in destructive ways such as aggression and anger, instead of vulnerability. As men we must be mindful of how we express our fear, as it can stifle the growth of relationships and cause resentment. Instead of relying on fear, we should focus on pouring love and protection into our relationships. "Love and fear are true motivation. It's only reason why we do anything." In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. What is the true motivation behind a man's actions. 2. How can fathers prevent themselves from stifling their children's growth? 3. How can fathers build meaningful connections with their partner while still setting boundaries and limits?   Connect with Fatha Torch:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatha_torch/ Website: www.fathatorch.com Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com  Other episodes you'll enjoy: Abolish Fear-Based Assumptions in 2023 | FATHA TORCH Overcoming the ”You Ain’t Shit” Narrative in Co-Parenting | FATHA TORCH Are You a Good Father? It All Comes Down to This | FATHA TORCH   Podcast Like a Pro! Riverside.FM Promo Code JAZZYCAST for 15% off Remote Recording  JazzCastPros.com for help launching, branding or editing your podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 13 I was once plagued by the question, "Am I a good father?" I asked myself if I was a good man and what it meant to be a good father. After much thought and research, I realized that being a good father means having principles and characteristics such as protecting, loving, reasoning and being patient. It also means being willing to learn and humble yourself, while also being teachable and understanding of your child's mother. Being a good father is more than just providing and setting boundaries - it's about being honest, understanding and recognizing your role in your child's life. I now strive to be the best father I can be and to leave a legacy of love, respect and understanding. In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. What are the characteristics of a good father? 2. How can men build relationships with women who have children from previous relationships? 3. What makes a bad father and how can bad fathers make amends? Resources: Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com  Other episodes you'll enjoy: Overcoming the ”You Ain’t Shit” Narrative in Co-Parenting | FATHA TORCH Letter to My Youngest Son | FATHA TORCH Qualities of a Father with an Ungrateful Child | FATHA TORCH Connect with me:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fatha_torch/ Website: www.fathatorch.com Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser Listen Notes Chapter Summaries: [00:00:00] Father Torch is a podcast to help new and renew fathers cope with anxiety and stress. My mission is to help you reclaim your power and ease your concerns about being a father in today's social climate. What do we do to define a good father? [00:00:43] Today's episode "Are you a good father?" What is the definition or characteristic of meaning of a good dad? To be a good man, you must have these principles. [00:04:40] Most of the women or most women that we are engaged with carry 100% of the past relationships. As manhood, man of the house, you must know how to set the laws and rules. A good man, a good father first is patient and always listening. And always willing to learn. [00:12:28] Bad fathers are the ones who do not want to learn or have not learned their lesson. Good father, bad father, you are still a father. You still have a chance and have the ability to be the best of the best father that you wish you had. [00:20:05] The biggest trend that I see now with fathers and fatherhood is that they got such a fight to to try to be in the children's life. Some of us fall for it. And we end up hurt, broke, it, destruct, bitter, angry. A good father, a bad father is still a father. [00:26:19] Fathers must get with other fathers. You never raise a child by yourself. It's always a village. But because we've fallen short on this, especially our black men, our brown men, we are falling short in the elders department. We can upgrade our fathering skills. [00:28:51] Let's make 23 the year of reconcile. The year of forgiveness. The year of just doing right. Check me out again next Sunday. www.Fathatorch. com    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 12 In part 2 of his conversation with Kelly Marie, we embark on a journey of self-discovery, learning how to embrace anger, forgive those who have hurt you and relinquish guilt while navigating the complexities of relationships with parents, siblings and even other people who are living with mental health conditions.  In this episode we discuss: 1. How art and old cartoons can help you cope with depression. 2. How to identify and let go of pent-up aggression. 3. How to move past guilt and forgive oneself for the damage caused by anger.   Listen to part 1 of this conversation with Kelly Marie on Healthy Illness Podcast right here on the JazzCast Pros Network. Mental Health Resources  Call 211 or visit www.211.org for help finding public services in your area Suicide Prevention Helpline has someone for you to talk to 24/7 call  988 Text GO to 741741 to reach a trained crisis counselor.    Other episodes you'll enjoy: Better Relationships Come from Within: Self-Love and Forgiveness| Healthy Illness Finding Purpose and Reclaiming Fatherhood in 2023 | Fatha Torch The Other Side of Depression with Carl Binger and Joel Lesses | Fatha Torch   Leave a review for Fatha Torch Podcast on Podchaser. Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76  Follow me on Instagram @Fatha_Torch Want to be a sponsor or guest on the podcast? Email me at fathatorch@gmail.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Episode 11: About last year.... Have faith in yourself. Believe in your abilities to make ends meet, to strive. Lower your pride and lower your ego, that you may do better this year. In this episode, you will learn the following: What are the double standards men face in today's social climate, and what can fathers do to help themselves and their children? How can fathers practice self-love, gratitude, and protect their families in the midst of a chaotic world? What can fathers do to empower their children and provide them with the tools to succeed, even when they are no longer around? Last year was a year of depression, hopelessness, and disparities, particularly for men. Fathers need to practice healthy habits, self-love, and gratitude to be a successful father. We should give our children the tools they need to succeed and guard them, but not helicopter over them. We must practice what we preach, take charge of ourselves, and be men of the time to be successful in this ever-changing world.   CONTACT THE HOST: FathaTorch@gmail.com www.FathaTorch.com   OTHER EPISODE YOU'LL ENJOY Abolish Fear-Based Assumptions in 2023 | Fatha Torch Emotional Exhaustion: Coping with the Stress of Fatherhood | Fatha Torch Overcoming the ”You Ain’t Shit” Narrative in Co-Parenting | Fatha Torch God’s Plan: Breaking Bad Habits with Rose Ann Forte | Healthy Illness  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ep. 10 Emotional exhaustions amongst men can lead to depression and suicide. It is essential to recognize our mental exhaustion and make sure we are taking care of ourselves and our loved ones who are suffering in silence. I am here to offer support and to listen to my brothers and sisters. I want to help them find healthy outlets to cope with anxiety and stress and to be the dad they wish they had. My mission is to help you reclaim their power and to prevent you from taking your own life. I am willing to provide a light in your darkest times and listen to whatever is on your heart. Email me at FathaTorch@gmail.com www.FathaTorch.com I am here, Ra   Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here:   Podchaser , Listen Notes Buy me a coffee or send a CashApp $RAHG76    OTHER EPISODE YOU'LL ENJOY Abolish Fear-Based Assumptions in 2023 | Fatha Torch Overcoming the ”You Ain’t Shit” Narrative in Co-Parenting | Fatha Torch Heart of the Hustle | a podcast to help turn your Hustle into a Legal Business   Podcast Like a Pro! Riverside.FM Promo Code JAZZYCAST for 15% off Remote Recording  JazzCastPros.com for help launching, branding or editing your podcast.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices