Sunday Ain't Scary

Jordan Carroll

The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣⁣

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I'm taking a break
Mar 20 2022
I'm taking a break
Hey friends! Thanks so much for being part of this project. #SundayAintScary has meant a lot to me over the past 6 months. When I published my first episode in October of 2021, I knew I wanted to publish at least 20 episodes and then see if I felt like continuing after. While the number was somewhat arbitrary, I knew that getting to 20 episodes is a feat and I went 20/22 in the past 22 weeks.Now that I'm here, I feel honored and blessed to have so many people listen and send me messages of support and that my content resonated with them. I post this with a subliminal feeling of guilt knowing those that really enjoyed it won't be hearing new episodes anytime soon. But let me say this, guilt is a terrible way to make a decision!I'm taking a break to put the primary focus and energy on my book and Kickstarter, and will be traveling the next 4 months to Mexico, Croatia, Turkey, and Bulgaria. I don't want this podcast to be a "checkbox." If I'm going to do it, I want it to be fully aligned to me, and right now it feels like something I need to drop to make space in my life for other things.I'm lucky to have multiple "right" decisions here, but that also makes it tough to know what to cut. I hope you can use motivation from this episode to cut something that's not aligned to your purpose at the moment. And until next time, keep wandering, you're not lost.Links MentionedYoutubeInstagramLinkedInBook Waitlist---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
I'm taking a break
Mar 20 2022
I'm taking a break
Hey friends! Thanks so much for being part of this project. #SundayAintScary has meant a lot to me over the past 6 months. When I published my first episode in October of 2021, I knew I wanted to publish at least 20 episodes and then see if I felt like continuing after. While the number was somewhat arbitrary, I knew that getting to 20 episodes is a feat and I went 20/22 in the past 22 weeks.Now that I'm here, I feel honored and blessed to have so many people listen and send me messages of support and that my content resonated with them. I post this with a subliminal feeling of guilt knowing those that really enjoyed it won't be hearing new episodes anytime soon. But let me say this, guilt is a terrible way to make a decision!I'm taking a break to put the primary focus and energy on my book and Kickstarter, and will be traveling the next 4 months to Mexico, Croatia, Turkey, and Bulgaria. I don't want this podcast to be a "checkbox." If I'm going to do it, I want it to be fully aligned to me, and right now it feels like something I need to drop to make space in my life for other things.I'm lucky to have multiple "right" decisions here, but that also makes it tough to know what to cut. I hope you can use motivation from this episode to cut something that's not aligned to your purpose at the moment. And until next time, keep wandering, you're not lost.Links MentionedYoutubeInstagramLinkedInBook Waitlist---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[19] A Month Long Challenge You Can Steal From Me to Become the Best Version of Yourself
Mar 6 2022
[19] A Month Long Challenge You Can Steal From Me to Become the Best Version of Yourself
I started a challenge in March with 8 friends! Feel free to steal it from me below:The StructureThe challenge is a $31 USD wager. Each dollar represents ONE day in March (hence $31). One dollar for each day.  You can adapt this wager however you want, obviously. The amount of money is less important than the symbol of commitment it provides.The goal is to retain your bet. To retain your dollar for the day, you MUST accomplish 2 things on that day:Do a group “check-in” where you text the rest of the group with your statusComplete all the items on your habit list for the day (honor system - if you say you did them, we believe you)Losing Your BetIf either of these doesn’t happen (i.e. you don’t text the group, even if you complete your habits, or you don’t complete your habits and text the group), you lose $1 that day.If you miss multiple days in a row, your losses start to double. So on the 2nd day of you missing your habits or texting (or both), you lose $2 instead of $1. And so on (e.g. if you miss 4 days in a row, you lose $8).If you miss enough days in a row, you’ll end up owing money!How to PlayEveryone chooses something they either want to ADD or SUBTRACT from their current everyday routines in these areas of life for the entire month. These should be challenging yet attainable in your daily life. Adding something means you don’t currently do it consistently. Subtracting something means you do it all the time and want to live without it:1. Physical Movement (Exercise)2. Mental (Emotional/Spiritual)3. Work (Business/Job)4. Nutrition (Substance/Food)5. Wild Card (Anything)Once you’ve chosen the routines you want to add/subtract, you’re responsible to yourself and the group to report every single day and actually do them. Again, only by completing both of those tasks (reporting + doing) allow you to retain your bet on any given day.WinningWhoever has the most money in their account when the clock strikes midnight on the first day of the next month gets ALL the money.Tie BreaksIn the event of a tie, the people who tie split the pot between themselves equally.Are you going to try this challenge for yourself? See if you can get a few friends to start with you! While you can start at the beginning of the month you can really adapt the structure to fit your needs. Have fun with it.DM me on Instagram and send me a screenshot of you and your group.---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[18] Be. Do. Have.
Feb 28 2022
[18] Be. Do. Have.
To get what you want out of life, you need to first act like the person you want to BE by doing the things they would DO so you can have the things they would HAVE.What We’re Conditioned to Believe:Have: I have to have this before…Do: I can do this thing…Be: So I can be this person…But... this way of thinking is counter-productive!In Have, Do, Be, you’re waiting for an external factor to change youMany people don’t recognize this faulty thinkingIt’s easy to get stuck in a loop of inactionExample:“I need to have money to be able to do this coaching program to be an entrepreneur that makes a lot of money.” But ironically, it's going to be that coaching program that helps you get to the level you want to go.The Upgraded Way to Think: Be. Do. Have.Be: I will act as the person I want to be…Do: By doing the things they would do…Have: So I can have the things they would have…This Requires You 2.0There is a NEXT LEVEL version of you that already exists in possibilityAccessing You 2.0 requires you to act like You 2.0 before you’re readySome might call it “faking it till you make it”The reality is, if you act a certain way long enough you just become that wayThe more you connect to You 2.0, the more you can make decisions based on what they do, and it relieves the pressure from YOUQuestions to Answer About You 2.0You 2.0, think: who do you need to be to get the result that you want?How does this person act and make decisions?Picture You 2.0 in your head. What are some traits that person has?Picture You 2.0 in your head, how does that person feel about themselves?Does You 2.0 have a name that you can reference? (i.e. Alter Ego)What’s one weird thing about You 2.0 that you can always remember easily… e.g. something they wear or do that’s totally unique…Links MentionedMatthew McConaughey SpeechThe Alter Ego Effect Book---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[17] We All Live in the Same Glass House
Feb 20 2022
[17] We All Live in the Same Glass House
At what lengths must we search just to find out that we're all imperfect?We live in a world in which we impact each other with everything we do, yet we find ourselves in extreme silos of division.In these silos, we create so much judgment of others that our belief systems become our identities.And I’ve been feeling like this shift is causing us to forget something very important: we all live in the same glasshouse.People inherently have this rush to throw stones at others whom don’t believe the same as they do.But when you throw stones in a glasshouse, you’re only breaking your own collective home.A society in which no one can make mistakes is a society in which no one can win.No one is mistake-free. No one is defined by one moment.True personal growth is acceptance and compassion for others in the way you’d like to be forgiven for your mistakes.It’s knowing that if a light were shown on your past in excruciating detail, there would be things you’re not proud of.---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[16] Things Don't Happen for a Reason
Feb 6 2022
[16] Things Don't Happen for a Reason
I've heard time and time again that "things happen for a reason." I disagree...Things just happen. The meaning that comes from the situation, or the "reason" is completely manufactured by the person. Two people can have the same thing happen to them and respond in completely different ways. Does that mean either of their "reasons" is less valid? No, it means that we can choose. Think about challenging times in your life. What are the opportunities that have opened up because of challenging situations? Are you able to proactively see the beauty in experiences that initially felt negative? What would you do if you could retroactively create the "reason" for anything happening in your life instead of accepting a presupposed explanation that someone else offers?The more we can accept and appreciate circumstances for what they are, the quicker we'll be able to assign our own meaning to them and do so in a way that serves us instead of digging ourselves a grave of despair. Enjoy this episode for my thoughts on this subject.---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[15] Ten Habits of Highly Effective Remote Workers and Nomads
Jan 30 2022
[15] Ten Habits of Highly Effective Remote Workers and Nomads
Life requires you to integrate your best self into all areas because they are all connected. This means: establishing habits for health, wealth, work productivity, and relationships.Why is this important?It’s incredibly easy to negatively impact one area of life by ignoring another.BUT… the same is true inversely…It’s incredibly easy to positively impact one area of life by thriving in another. I interviewed dozens of remote workers and high-performing, "effective" nomads. These are the 10 habit pillars of their success, consolidated.They care about what they put in their bodyEat real foodAutomate decisionsLimit toxinsMovement and recovery are non-negotiableMake exercise a priorityIntegrate movement into daily lifeGet quality sleepThey don’t feel guilty prioritizing self-careRecharge with healthy escapismIncorporate play and get outsideHygienize informationCreate and maintain connectionsKeep in touch with loved onesSeek accountabilityFind and/or create local communityRely on routines instead of decisionsMornings are the sameLocation-independent routines Iterate as neededResourceful in all aspectsPractice minimalismFinancially literateMaximize opportunitiesThey create structure through planningEnable environment Stay for at least a monthFly short distancesConstantly learningConsume targeted contentLearn from other culturesShare skills They practice introspectionCreate a vision for lifeReflect on feelingsGet JOMO not FOMO Optimize productivityFocus on one thing at a timeLimit distractionsKeep a calendar Links MentionedMy Reflection Cheat CodeCoWorkClub.io---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[14] How to Get Universal Energy to Work in Your Favor
Jan 24 2022
[14] How to Get Universal Energy to Work in Your Favor
You are the universe experiencing itself in physical form, and everything you experience is governed by energy, here's how to get it to work in your favor...After some time of feeling down, I've had a shift of energy. Being able to externalize my thoughts has helped me move on and forward.In this episode, I want to share some of my thoughts about energy...Everything, from a granular level, is made of energy. The common denominator between every interaction we have in our life, all objects, plants, humans, and animals is an exchange of energy. Since you both emit and absorb energy from everything you interact with it's a useful practice to ask yourself:What kind of energy do those which we interact or consume carry?What kind of energy are we individually bringing to every exchange?What kind of energy do we want from these exchanges?It’s all of our individual responsibility.Think about what you eat, what kind of clothes you wear, the music you listen to, and the information you consume, they all make a difference.When you realize everything is connected, you give yourself an opportunity to see the big picture. You have an impact. How you choose to use your energy in these exchanges will largely determine what kind of energy you get back. The universe is a mirror and you attract the type of energy you exude.Choose wisely.---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[13] This is Why You Like to Suffer
Jan 16 2022
[13] This is Why You Like to Suffer
"Until you make the unconscious, conscious, it will rule your life and you will call it fate."I’ve gone through life thinking that I know what I want. I want the good things to happen to me, and I don’t want the bad things to happen to me.But what if bad things in my life came about because I like it that way?It’s a strange concept to think about, but, what I’ve found is that pain and suffering can be addictive. Suffering is a part of the human experience and the more I tuned into how I chose to feel in specific moments, the more I realized I was choosing to suffer and stay in my suffering, but I didn’t really know why.I want to make a quick note that I’m not invalidating suffering. Again, it’s part of our experience as humans, and some of us have gone through atrocities that are unfathomable. But suffering at its root is a reaction to events that unfold.Victimization, suffering, pain, can all bring us a sense of importance and significance. As children, often it’s our crying and pain that would draw attention from others. And as we grow into adults we find other ways to bring meaning to our existence through our struggles.So, while our conscious selves don’t want the bad stuff in life, we often end up getting the opposite because of the unconscious patterns we’ve learned as a child, or through experiences in our lives that create repressed feelings and our ego finds these patterns highly addictive.What your unconscious wants, it gets. You are not who you think you are!Take a look at what you currently have in your life, and know that that’s what your unconscious wants, whether you classify it as good or bad."One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious."Instead of repressing and numbing the senses of wrongness in your life — and what you think you don’t want — come to terms. Accept yourself wholly. You are a complicated being with a spectrum of desires. You don’t have to only want good things. On some level, you want bad things, whether you know it consciously or not.So think about this: What situations or patterns in your life seem to show up frequently that you think you don’t want, but you may unconsciously be bringing into your life?Give yourself permission to be shameless, and open the communication between your unconscious and conscious. This will greatly increase your individual agency and awareness. Find pleasure and acceptance knowing you have an open mind to wanting bad things, and that will help you actually choose them or not.---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[12] I'm in a F******g Rut. Here's How I'm Getting Out.
Jan 9 2022
[12] I'm in a F******g Rut. Here's How I'm Getting Out.
I’m in a fucking rut: I’m unable to walk, I'm the heaviest I've ever been, I'm forcing my business through a transformation, I'm unhappy... and in this episode, I'm going to tell you how I'm going to get out of this.Like most *honest* humans, there have been countless times I've felt "stuck in the mud" with life. It's a sinking feeling. Like every time I try to move, I fall deeper, limiting my hope of a better situation.This has happened in business, love, and health. At the current moment, the surgery I had on my ACL is the main culprit of this feeling. Being unable to be as active as I want to be is frustrating.My Gameplan:Make aligned investments. These are financial commitments to things that are aligned with the change I'm seeking. Some of these investments have been a health coach, BYLR Big Ass Calendar Club, and the Oura Ring. A lot of them are around health.Make plans to look forward to. The sinking feeling of being immobile is only intolerable if there's no light at the end of the tunnel. As part of the Big Ass Calendar Club, one of the main activities is making plans! I'm excited to get back to traveling, doing things with friends, etc. Having these on the calendar helps my mindset.Commit to Physical Therapy. I've been going to PT 2x a week and these exercises are incredibly helpful in me getting back to normal. Getting out of my rut starts with this as a priority.Get my habits back in place. Because of the knee injury and subsequent surgery, I let go of many of my healthy habits. It's time to restart those and lock them in.Ask the question, “What must I believe is true to create my new reality?" I like this question because it forces me to reconsider what limiting beliefs I've bought into since this operation. I need a new frame of mind and finally...Hold myself capable. Instead of just being accountable, I want to hold myself capable. Meaning, I can actually believe that I can get out of this, and I'm capable of handling any obstacles that come my way.Every time on my way out of a rut I’m reminded: One of the worst things we can do to ourselves when we're stuck is to focus on our stuck-ness — thereby giving it more energy and power over us. It doesn’t make it any less hard, but I feel I’m fortunate I'm in a headspace now where I can focus on more than just survival mode because the unbearable pain has subsided.---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[11] My Reflection Cheat Code: How to Easily Document Every Year of Life
Jan 2 2022
[11] My Reflection Cheat Code: How to Easily Document Every Year of Life
My biggest life hack is reflection! My life dramatically changed when I started keeping track: daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, yearly... but unless you have a process, it can seem incredibly overwhelming.In this episode, I describe how I do it and give you the tools to use what I do as an example for yourself. DM me on Instagram with anything you do to reflect, I want to hear it!Daily: I keep a daily journal which I've been doing for the past 6+ years. I prefer the 5 Minute Journal by Intelligent Change.Weekly: I update a Google Doc by compiling answers from my weekly, hand-written journal into a digital format. Find the template in the "Links Mentioned" section. I also update a metrics sheet to keep track of the important numbers in life and biz.Monthly: I create a calendar invite to go through my weekly reflection and answer a series of questions that help me redirect my energy and plan for the next month. The template is also below.Quarterly: I have a call with my mastermind group where we review the quarter together, and I'm able to pull the high-level stuff from my monthly reflection.Yearly: I go into each level of reflection and bold the important stuff. I then go back through my photo album and pick out the best pictures. I compile the main things that happened into a Canva story template and create a story highlight.Links MentionedGoals and Reflection DocumentMetrics DocumentMy IG Reflection (Under Highlights) for 2021My IG Reflection for 2020My IG Reflection for 2019My IG Reflection for 20185 Minute JournalCanva.com---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[10] More Isn't Better
Dec 26 2021
[10] More Isn't Better
What if instead of more, our goal was "Less, but better?" I recently read a book called Essentialism, which has quickly become one of my favorites. It gives you a framework to develop your own purpose and stay focused on your goals. It is a discipline you apply each and every time you are faced with a decision about whether to say yes or whether to politely decline.The way of the Essentialist is the relentless pursuit of less but better and happens in 3 steps:Explore: Discerning the Trivial Many From the Vital FewEliminate: Cutting Out the Trivial ManyExecute: Removing Obstacles and Making Execution EffortlessA Nonessentialist approaches every trade-off by asking, "How can I do both?" Essentialists ask the tougher but ultimately more liberating question, "Which problem do I want?" An Essentialist makes trade-offs deliberately.This intentionality is important because if you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will and traditionally in our society we are punished for good behavior (saying no) and rewarded for bad behavior (saying yes).Here are some ways you can explore, eliminate, and execute on your new journey to LESS but BETTER. Mind you, this is a process, as I'm doing it, I'm evaluating decision by decision...Keep a journal to help you recognize where your energy is leaking and document lifeGet some quick wins by cutting out things that obviously aren't aligned to youUse a criteria list with 3 minimum criteria every opportunity must meet to get a "yes" from you90% Rule: Give the option a score between 0-100, if it's less than 90, it's a 0Pretend you don't own it and ask "If I didn't have this opportunity, how much would I be willing to sacrifice in order to obtain it?"Set your boundaries and stick to them! It can be hard but remember these about "No's"Separate the decision from the relationshipFocus on the inevitable trade-offRemind yourself everyone is selling somethingMake peace with "no" often requires trading popularity for respectRemember a clear "no" is more graceful than a vague "yes"Here are a few ways to actually say "No"Pause before you speak"Let me check my calendar and get back to you""Yes, but what should I deprioritize?""You're welcome to X. I am willing to Y.""I can't, but X might be interested."Use email bouncebacksMore isn't better. Essential Intent is making one decision that will eliminate 1000 later decisions. It's getting away from majoring in minor activities.The way of the Essentialist means living by design, not by default.Links MentionedEssentialism Book---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[9] Universal Lessons From 2 Life Changing Surgeries in 6 Months
Dec 13 2021
[9] Universal Lessons From 2 Life Changing Surgeries in 6 Months
In the past 6 months, I've gone through 2 life-changing surgeries.A half year ago I had my gallbladder removed because of gallstones that threatened to infect my pancreas (which is potentially fatal), and on the 1st of December, I had an ACL reconstruction (knee).Going through these experiences has forced me to try to make sense of why after 30 years without any major surgeries, my body would require 2 of them in this short of a time span. So the purpose of this podcast is not for pity… It's nice to know people care and I appreciate the sympathy, but it’s really about the bigger picture, which is summed up by this quote:⁣“The mind affects the cells in your body, in the same sense that what manifests in the body affects your state of mind.”⁣In this podcast, I go through 6 lessons I've learned through this process in which I believe are universal. I went through the surgeries and learned these so you don't have to 😉Challenges are opportunities to breakthrough your threshold, and typically they are the sign that you're about to do exactly that.Instead of resisting reality, practice surrender and radical acceptance of your circumstances.Eliminate your  "shoulds and have to's." Being as limited as I am right now physcially, it's caused me to question what's actually "needed" in my life, and what's the most important. You only get one body! As I'm getting older my body is changing and I'm unable to push it to certain limits with reckless abandon like I used to. Going forward I have a renewed focus on mobility, longevity, stretching, and feeling good.An injury like this brings about a new level of gratitude. Not only for my folks as caretakers, but for my career, remote work, the times of progress, and just being alive.It's all connected. The physical is connected to the mental, spiritual, relational, emotional... messages from the universe come via different means. Right now the message is coming through the physical passage of injury, but it's also tied to the other aspects of my life.---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[8] How to Improve Your Everyday Conversations (5 Easy Steps)
Dec 2 2021
[8] How to Improve Your Everyday Conversations (5 Easy Steps)
Last week I made the argument on the podcast that the most important, granular thing in your life is the conversations you have with people every day. These conversations are indicative of your quality of life...BUT, I realized I left out something important... HOW do you have better conversations?5 Easy Ways to Improve Your Daily ConversationsBecome aware of the patterns of conversation in your life (and change them). As Jim Rohn says, "You are the sum of the 5 people closest to you." When gaining awareness of how to change your life, you can do an honest assessment of your immediate environment. Questions to ask:Who do you talk to on a consistent basis?What do you talk to these people about?What patterns do you notice that you'd like to change?Reduce your complaining and encourage others to do the same. Victimhood is normalized and celebrated in today's society and it seems like more and more we feel the need to gain sympathy and significance by parading our hardships to others. While venting is a necessary human activity and emotions are valid -- complaining shouldn't be the norm of interaction. Dwelling on things by complaining about them only feeds them more energy and attention! Can you imagine if your interactions started with a positive statement rather than a complaint?Ask better questions. Have better answers. Take, for example, the question, "how are you?" When someone asks you this question, instead of answering "good," actually give them a real, detailed answer. Most people will be surprised and taken aback when you actually answer this question authentically rather than by knee-jerk. In addition, instead of asking the question, "how are you?" you can ask better more meaningful questions! Think of: "What's been the best part of your week?" "What are you celebrating lately?" "What are you working on that excites you?" Avoid negative gossip about others. "Great Minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people." - Eleanor Roosevelt. While gossip is evolutionarily beneficial for our species, by talking shit about others, you'll always be at a karmic disadvantage.Put energy into conversations with people that inspire you and make you better. Stop talking to people that bring you down with negative energy. This might require cutting people out of your life (yes I know that can be difficult!)BONUS: For virtual conversations, instead of sending texts, send voice notes! Whatsapp, Instagram, iMessage, Facebook Messenger all have voice note functionality that helps you add non-verbal cues and tonality to your messages so even your "text" conversations can be better.How are you going to change the conversations you have every day?Links MentionedRead my article on the Cultural Complaining Conundrum here.---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my san
[7] This Qualitative Metric is Proportional to Your Quality of Life
Nov 25 2021
[7] This Qualitative Metric is Proportional to Your Quality of Life
If you agree that your relationships are the most important thing in your life, it makes sense to deconstruct what makes them important and how we can improve them.When we are disconnected we mentally deteriorate and literally go insane (e.g. Tom Hanks in Castaway or prisoners who are subjected to isolation).Humans NEED connection.Relationships provide connection.Communication is the glue that solidifies our relationships.The quality of our life is determined by how we communicate.If you agree that your relationships are the most important thing in your life, it would follow suit that the most important, granular thing in your life is the conversations you have with people every day.Think about these questions:Who are you talking to?What are you talking about?The compound effect of ALL your conversations in your life is what determines your place in the universe. The very quality of your life is directly proportional to the quality of the people and conversations in it.---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[5] The Four Steps to Gain Confidence in Anything
Nov 14 2021
[5] The Four Steps to Gain Confidence in Anything
During a session a few years ago, one of my previous coaches gave me a lesson on how to gain confidence in growing my business. When he started speaking about the methodology, I felt surprised at how simple it seemed, yet it forever changed the way I think.Initiating confidence is incredibly important to achieving your potential in life. Most *real* ambitions you'll have will live outside your comfort zone. Meaning, you'll need to deal with the reality of not feeling confident while still taking action. The good thing?Knowing that confidence can be manufactured should give you, well... confidence. Since it's not 'God-given,' you can work on confidence like it's a skill.Use this framework of The 4 C's to find more confidence and ultimately achieve your goals:⠀Step 1: Commitment⠀Commitment is the prerequisite. Most people fail because their commitment to their current situation is stronger than the one to their potential future.⠀Step 2: Courage⠀You don't need to always know the "how." Once you commit 100% - you begin to live in a place of courage, not fear, and you build your belief systems which often become self-fulfilling prophecies.⠀Step 3: Capacity⠀As you act courageously, your mind, body, and spirit increase in capacity. You use feedback loops to think critically and solve problems. You prove you can do more than you thought.⠀Step 4: Confidence⠀You internalize the confidence in yourself and your ability to succeed at this level. Now it's on to the next, and the entire cycle starts over again. Level up, level up, level up, level up.Listen to this episode to learn more details and extended examples of the 4 C's.---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[4] What I Learned From My Best Friend Dying
Nov 5 2021
[4] What I Learned From My Best Friend Dying
A physical life was taken from us far too early... Danny, one of my closest friends, who was only 30, passed away unexpectedly just over a year ago. Being as tragic as it was, I've found myself looking for the lessons from this experience as a coping mechanism. In looking for those lessons, I may have found something even more interesting...Since my best friend died, I've been spiritually guided by him in my everyday life.What?Alan Watts says "we are the universe experiencing itself," and the beautiful part about life, from my view, is that it's cyclical and non-linear. I believe we are all part of a collective energy: simply projections of the universe from different perspectives, not bound by time or physical restrictions or limiting beliefs we choose to hold.We learn from our experiences with other humans, and that learning continues long after they're gone. Some past experiences (and trauma) have taken me so long to process, only after 10-20 years have I actually been able to internalize the lesson. But that's just life. I imagine some lessons from Danny's passing won't show themselves for time to come. Nonetheless, I feel I'm still able to consult Danny all the time about important decisions.Yes. I know this is dense. If you're still with me, keep going: Our physical body is only one representation of us, the spirit lives in memory, energy, thought, and more. Think about anyone you've ever lost... Not seeing them in person doesn't mean that they don't impact your life. It doesn't mean your projection of them won't still live in your conscious. Sometimes I'll sit and think in my head, "what would Danny tell me to do?"Here's what I learned from losing my best friend:After you die, you're not goneIt will never really feel realGrief isn't linearWe have no idea how much time we haveGratitude for every I wake upThese lessons are strongly correlated to my experiences with Ayahuasca, which I talk about in episode 1. I hope you enjoyed this episode. I hope when I pass that I have amazing friends who can take guidance from my spirit, and allow me to do so 🙏---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.
[3] Sobering Reflections from Quitting Booze (3+ Years Alcohol Free)
Oct 31 2021
[3] Sobering Reflections from Quitting Booze (3+ Years Alcohol Free)
In August of 2018, I stopped drinking alcohol. Over 3 years later, I'm still committed to my decision. In this podcast, I talk about my original reasoning as well as how I quit.I discuss the societal misconception about quitting alcohol that often labels you as an alcoholic, feeling deathly terrified to talk about the subject, and eventually the liberation from sharing my story. I’m constantly searching for self-actualization through this type of documentation. And, by sharing, I may also help someone else going through the same thing.For anyone considering reducing their consumption, quitting, or sharing these ideas with a friend or family member, please check out the article I wrote in the links section below for an even more comprehensive take on this topic. And, if you're really struggling with addiction or alcoholism, remember to contact a professional to help (American Addiction Center Hotline below).Links MentionedArticle About Quitting AlcoholAmerican Addiction Centers Hotline---The Sunday Ain't Scary podcast is the show dedicated to those addicted to living outside of their comfort zone, obsessed with designing a life of freedom, and who choose to make every day count, because they know... Sunday Ain't Scary.⁣3 Ways You Can Support this Podcast (For FREE)⁣⁣1. Write a Review⁣2. Share with Your Friend(s)⁣3. Follow/Subscribe on your Favorite Platform⁣⁣► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Audio)► Sunday Ain't Scary Episodes (Video)(Note: I stopped doing video after Ep. 4 to maintain my sanity)Keep wandering, you're not lost 🌎This podcast is edited, mixed, and mastered by Polsky Podcast.