Why You Need to Stop Calling Your Ex a Narcissist with Laila Aitken, Founder of Split.fyi on The Divorce and Beyond Podcast #316

The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast with Susan Guthrie, Esq.

Oct 16 2023 • 47 mins

As we continue our domestic violence month awareness series, Susan Guthrie welcomes Laila Aitken Ali, the founder of Split.fyi. In this episode, Laila explains why it’s not helpful to keep calling your ex a narcissist and how you can regain your power!

Laila Aitken Ali is a passionate advocate for personal empowerment and serves as a dedicated Divorce and Separation Coach. In the role of CEO and Founder of Split.fyi, Laila has established an invaluable platform to support individuals facing the daunting challenges of divorce, breakups, or other significant life transitions. Often referred to as a "Divorce Doula," Laila extends a compassionate and guiding hand throughout the emotional and logistical journey of divorce.

Topics and Golden Nuggets include:

  • Why you shouldn’t focus on the word “narcissist” to describe or diagnose your ex
  • How to approach communication and interaction to get closer to the outcome you desire
  • Processing hard emotions before, during, and after divorce
  • “Focus on yourself, how you show up, and operate through it all.”

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About this week's special guest: Laila Aitken Ali

Laila Aitken Ali is a passionate advocate for personal empowerment and serves as a dedicated Divorce and Separation Coach. In the role of CEO and Founder of Split.fyi (www.splitfyi.com), Laila has established an invaluable platform to support individuals facing the daunting challenges of divorce, breakups, or other significant life transitions. Often referred to as a "Divorce Doula," Laila extends a compassionate and guiding hand throughout the emotional and logistical journey of divorce.

As a Keynote Speaker, Podcaster, Mentor, and Strategist, Laila is pivotal in helping individuals unearth their inner resilience and map a clear path toward their future. With a steadfast commitment to communication and innovation, she continuously seeks novel approaches to simplify and destigmatize the divorce process.

Beyond entrepreneurship, Laila is a true Believer in Community and the transformative potential of Mentorship. Laila champions those undergoing profound life transitions, offering unwavering guidance and support at every stage of their journey.

Website: http://www.splitfyi.com

Laila on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lailaaitken/

Laila on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesplitcoach/

Laila on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Thesplitcoach

Laila on Twitter: https://twitter.com/lailinna1

Split.fyi Socials:

Twitter https://twitter.com/SplitFYI Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Splitfyi

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/splitfyi/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/splitfyi/

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClBHE2a4Fs9TgufhFVyYDXQ

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