We Do Whatever It Takes

Danny Ray and Kimberly

We are a Magician & an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and we do whatever it takes to have a thriving marriage. We have tips and tricks to help you do the same! (Disclaimer: this is not therapy and Kimberly is not acting as your therapist on this podcast. If you need therapy, please seek professional help from your mental health provider). read less
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S4:E2 Marriage Metaphors: Marriage is Like an iPhone
May 15 2024
S4:E2 Marriage Metaphors: Marriage is Like an iPhone
Discover the secret to a thriving marriage with a twist—imagine your relationship as an iPhone in need of regular updates! Join us, Danny Ray and Kimberly, as we navigate the complexities of wedded bliss with laughter and lessons alike. We promise an enlightening journey that compares the quirks of marital life to the ins and outs of your favorite gadget. From the unique 'apps' each partner offers to the necessity of a 'protective case' to keep the bond strong, we're spilling our personal stories and the wisdom they've etched in our hearts.Our chat isn't just about love and laughter; it's about growth and grit. We tackle the importance of admitting when we're wrong—those "I told you so" moments that can either trip us up or transform us. Just like skipping an iPhone update can leave you with a sluggish device, ignoring your partner's insights might mean missing out on essential relationship 'fixes'. We explore how to keep our commitments fresh with regular maintenance, apologies, and a dedication to listening and improving together—because let's face it, even the best relationships hit a snag now and then.Wrapping up with a humorous glance at New Hampshire's take on liberty (seatbelt laws included), we invite our listeners to buckle up for a ride through the twists and turns of love's highway. We're eager to hear your thoughts, so don't be shy—like, subscribe, and drop us a review. Stay tuned for more episodes where we pull back the curtain on the real work of marriage, all served with a side of chuckles and charm. Grab your coffee and join us on this adventure—your marriage might just thank you for it!
S3: E7- The Power of Fine Tuning Your Marriage
Apr 10 2024
S3: E7- The Power of Fine Tuning Your Marriage
Have you ever considered that a successful marriage might just be like perfecting a spellbinding magic act? Allow us to enchant you with our insights as we, Danny Ray, a magician with a knack for the extraordinary, and Kimberly, an insightful associate marriage and family therapist, share our personal 28-year odyssey of love and commitment. Together, we draw astonishing parallels between the awe of a magic show and the delicate dance of a marriage, underscoring the importance of constant evaluation, genuine feedback, and the art of tender communication. As we reflect on the wisdom of Proverbs 15:1, we'll guide you through the process of cultivating your relationship with the care and attentiveness of tending a vibrant garden. Our conversation is a tribute to all the couples out there who believe in the magic of growth and the power of nurturing their bond.Within the realm of matrimony, we also delve into the deeply personal aspects that make or break the connection between two souls. Acknowledge the beauty in our differences as we discuss the significance of respecting individual needs for rest, relaxation, and personal fulfillment. Learn how we navigated the challenges of the pandemic, using it as an impetus for further education and enriching our own marriage in the process. We'll talk about the dance of communication, ensuring that the melodies of our individual lives harmonize with the shared rhythm of our partnership. Sharing our love for songs and podcasts, just as we do with our hearts, we uncover how cultivating personal interests can foster mutual understanding and growth. Join us as we unravel the continuous, loving effort it takes to fine-tune a marriage into a masterpiece of affection and companionship.
S3E6: 7 Questions that Connect You Deeply to Each Other
Mar 20 2024
S3E6: 7 Questions that Connect You Deeply to Each Other
Celebrate a milestone with us as we mark our 51st episode by engaging in some of the most transformative questions that can solidify and direct the dreams shared within a marriage. Our conversation unveils how setting aside "dream days" is a crucial strategy for fostering mutual understanding and triumph in each other's aspirations. However, it's not all smooth sailing—I confess to being a "dream crusher" on occasion, but the journey is about evolving together, learning the shifting ways we experience love and support, and ensuring that our partnership's roots grow deeper with every challenge we face.This episode isn't just about us sharing our stories; it's enriched by the wisdom of experts who guide us through the nuances of mental health struggles, such as body dysmorphia and eating disorders, that can cast shadows over a relationship. They offer their expertise on the importance of validation, not just through words but also through seeking professional help. Additionally, we open up about tackling life's hurdles hand-in-hand, from financial distress to parenting quandaries, because overcoming these challenges is not a solo endeavor but a testament to the resilience of a united front.As we wind down the episode, our focus shifts to the legacy we're crafting through our union. It's not just about navigating the daily grind but about cultivating a marriage that echoes through generations, guided by faith and the values we hold dear. By sharing personal anecdotes and reflections, we hope to inspire you to build a marriage that's not only about facing the present together but also about leaving an indelible, positive mark on your children and community. Join us as we explore the power of a partnership that transcends the ordinary, aiming for a legacy as lasting as love itself.
S3: Ep5: 10 One Minute Ideas that Create A Big Impact in Your Marriage
Mar 14 2024
S3: Ep5: 10 One Minute Ideas that Create A Big Impact in Your Marriage
Have you ever marveled at the magic of a well-crafted illusion and wondered if that same sense of awe could be infused into your daily life? My partner in crime, Kimberly, and I, Danny Ray, are beyond excited to bring you a very special 50th episode where we reveal the enchanting parallels between the art of magic and the heart-filled journey of marriage. Together, we share insights and playful strategies to bring the wonder back into your relationship, one minute at a time.Celebrating love can be as simple as a shared glance or as deep as a ritual of connection. In our latest heart-to-heart, we unwrap the power of small actions and gestures that can leave an indelible imprint on your marriage. We're not talking grandiose displays; think the intimacy of a one-minute kiss or the personal touch of a handwritten sticky note. These acts, though seemingly trivial, are the threads that weave a rich tapestry of togetherness. From the importance of eye contact to the magic of a morning coffee ritual, we provide you with an arsenal of simple yet profound tools to fortify your bond with your beloved.What's more, we don't just preach these methods; we live them. As we round out our conversation, we dive into the joys of relationship-building tips and rituals that any couple can seamlessly incorporate into the rhythm of their lives. 'Get to know you' cards, one-minute shoulder massages, and bedtime prayers are just a few of the gems we discuss that can set a positive tone for your day and deepen your connection. So, pull up a chair and let us guide you through crafting those magical moments in your marriage, because who says you can't create a little magic every day?
S3: E3 The Magic of Intentional Moments: Strengthening Bonds in Marriage
Feb 15 2024
S3: E3 The Magic of Intentional Moments: Strengthening Bonds in Marriage
Imagine finding joy in the smallest things—like the unexpected gift of rhino socks—just because someone remembered you mentioned rhinos once. That's the kind of magic we, Danny Ray, a magician and pastor, and Kimberly, an associate marriage and family therapist, unwrap in our latest chat. We delve not only into the wonders of magic shows but also into the intimate dance of creating those unforgettable moments in relationships. By weaving intentional actions into the fabric of daily life, we uncover how such moments can lead to profound connections and enduring happiness. Join us for a journey through the art of listening and the delightful impact of acting on those listens, as we share stories that highlight the transformative effect of thoughtful surprises and the importance of being present with your loved one.As we sit back to reflect on the humor and humanity of our digital companions, we share a heartwarming tale involving a smart speaker that illustrates the laughter we find in our technologically entwined lives. Whether it's taking a pause on a tough day to lie on the carpet and listen to a calming song or embracing the quirks of a digital assistant, we explore how these shared experiences can fortify the bonds of marriage. This episode provides not just a look into the intentional downtime that strengthens a relationship but serves as a reminder of the shared joy and support that comes from truly experiencing life with your partner. So, tune in and let's celebrate the enchantment found in each other's company, and learn how the smallest gestures can be the most significant in nurturing a great marriage.
S3 E2: Morning Rituals that Improve Your Marriage
Jan 31 2024
S3 E2: Morning Rituals that Improve Your Marriage
Waking up groggy and famished, we didn't let our late start stop us from diving into a heart-to-heart about the transformative power of morning rituals in marriage. If crafting the ideal beginning of each day sounds like a puzzle, we're here to help piece it together, sharing how these precious moments can set a harmonious tone for your relationship. Imagine your life as a carefully orchestrated magic show, where the grand finale informs every preceding act; that's how we approach our days, with purpose and connection at the forefront, just as a magician connects with their audience. By intertwining our insights with reflections on previous discussions about keeping lifelong goals within our daily grasp, we reveal how intentional mornings aren't just beneficial—they're essential.As the sun rises, we explore the terrain of mismatched schedules and the unique challenges they present for couples striving to maintain their bond. No matter if it's through a tender wake-up kiss, a thoughtful morning text, or a heartfelt video message, we emphasize the importance of finding what resonates with your partner. And when the day winds down, it's all about resisting the siren call of technology to truly be present with one another. Sharing my own anecdote of banishing the phone from my morning routine, we hope to inspire you to make mindful choices that reinforce the bonds of marriage. So, grab your favorite mug of coffee, and join us as we unpack the secrets to starting your day with love and intention, and maybe you'll be compelled to share your own sunrise stories.
Season 2 Ep 8: Avoiding Family Drama During the Christmas Season
Nov 30 2023
Season 2 Ep 8: Avoiding Family Drama During the Christmas Season
Christmas is the season of joy, love, and...drama? Let’s face it, the holidays can sometimes bring out the worst in our families. We've all been there - from Uncle Larry's incessant political ramblings to the simmering tension between your sister and her spouse. But what if we told you that you could take control of these situations, navigate tricky family dynamics, and truly enjoy your holiday? That's what our latest episode is all about!We dive headfirst into the meaty subject of blending holiday traditions in a marriage. We expose the raw and real experiences we've faced while managing car rides filled with antsy kids, and the challenges that newlyweds or blended families confront when integrating differing traditions. We learned, sometimes the hard way, that prioritizing your own family's needs over trying to keep everyone else happy is the key to a peaceful Christmas. We also stress the importance of setting boundaries, not just for your sanity but also to foster a healthier relationships with your loved ones.Lastly, we discuss the elephant in the room - forgiveness. As we reveal our personal experiences, the power of forgiveness becomes apparent, especially when it comes to family. But, we're not talking about shallow "forgive and forget" kind of forgiveness; we mean the deep, let-it-go kind of forgiveness that brings true peace and joy. So, sit back, tune in, and get ready to make this Christmas the best one yet – filled with love, connection, and positivity. Let's journey together to create beautiful Christmas memories.
Season 2 Episode 4: The Art of Trust-Building in Marriage: Part 2 of 2
Sep 20 2023
Season 2 Episode 4: The Art of Trust-Building in Marriage: Part 2 of 2
Are you yearning for a deeper connection with your partner? Craving a relationship built on authentic trust, understanding, and commitment? Join us on a transformative journey as we dive into the heart of genuine relationships. We shed light on the art of active listening, the power of empathy, and the significance of being fully present. Let's unpack the role of 'eyeball time' - complete focus on your partner, a silent plea for understanding and connection.We don't stop there. Together, we will crack open the chest of commitment, delving into its profound impact on trust. We believe commitment isn't just a whispered vow, but an action, a testament to your love and devotion. Let's navigate the waters of forgiveness, understanding its healing power, and the stark difference between sweeping issues under the carpet and truly digesting them. We delve into the mechanics of making amends, a crucial element in fostering an environment where trust can flourish.Finally, we touch on the sensitive topic of transparency. From the small acts like sharing passwords to the larger, more profound moments of vulnerability - revealing our deepest fears and insecurities. It takes courage to bare our souls to another, but this vulnerability is the key to building trust. We wrap up by emphasizing the importance of creating a safe, non-judgmental space for your partner. Listen in, learn, and apply these principles to your relationships. Rediscover the joy of a relationship built on solid trust, commitment, and love.
The Art of Trust-Building in Marriage: Part 1 of 2
Sep 13 2023
The Art of Trust-Building in Marriage: Part 1 of 2
How often do we sidestep honesty with little white lies or half-truths? In reality, trust, the backbone of every relationship, rests on the bedrock of honesty, integrity, and effective communication. Join us, Danny Ray and Kimberly, as we embark on an in-depth exploration of the ten principles of trust in relationships. From the simplicity of recording a podcast to the myriad complexities within a marriage, we touch upon how honesty and integrity form the linchpin in cultivating trust. We delve into how our childhood experiences shape our perspectives on truth-telling and how crafting a sanctuary for honesty with our partner, is key to a secure relationship.Isn't communication the bridge that connects hearts? We navigate this intriguing aspect in our second segment, exploring the role of effective communication in trust-building. Through the labyrinth of creating an ambience conducive for vulnerable discussions to dealing with challenging conversations that involve consequences, we throw light on the art and science of communication. Emphasizing the importance of understanding and empathizing with your partner's feelings, we discuss the need for a middle ground, a common platform where both parties can reach a consensus.To wrap up this insightful exploration of trust in relationships, we spotlight the vital role of accountability. Imagine having a partner who helps you stay true to your course, aids in rebuilding trust in your relationship, and offers unwavering support during the journey fraught with pitfalls. We bring to the fore the fifth and final principle of trust-building - accountability. Drawing lessons from biblical examples of faith heroes like David and Abraham, we illustrate how even they required accountability in their lives. Remember, a relationship brimming with trust is a reservoir of joy and hope. So, tune into this episode as we share our five principles for building trust in marriage.