We Do Whatever It Takes

Danny Ray and Kimberly

We are a Magician & an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and we do whatever it takes to have a thriving marriage. We have tips and tricks to help you do the same! (Disclaimer: this is not therapy and Kimberly is not acting as your therapist on this podcast. If you need therapy, please seek professional help from your mental health provider). read less
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S3: E3 The Magic of Intentional Moments: Strengthening Bonds in Marriage
Feb 15 2024
S3: E3 The Magic of Intentional Moments: Strengthening Bonds in Marriage
Imagine finding joy in the smallest things—like the unexpected gift of rhino socks—just because someone remembered you mentioned rhinos once. That's the kind of magic we, Danny Ray, a magician and pastor, and Kimberly, an associate marriage and family therapist, unwrap in our latest chat. We delve not only into the wonders of magic shows but also into the intimate dance of creating those unforgettable moments in relationships. By weaving intentional actions into the fabric of daily life, we uncover how such moments can lead to profound connections and enduring happiness. Join us for a journey through the art of listening and the delightful impact of acting on those listens, as we share stories that highlight the transformative effect of thoughtful surprises and the importance of being present with your loved one.As we sit back to reflect on the humor and humanity of our digital companions, we share a heartwarming tale involving a smart speaker that illustrates the laughter we find in our technologically entwined lives. Whether it's taking a pause on a tough day to lie on the carpet and listen to a calming song or embracing the quirks of a digital assistant, we explore how these shared experiences can fortify the bonds of marriage. This episode provides not just a look into the intentional downtime that strengthens a relationship but serves as a reminder of the shared joy and support that comes from truly experiencing life with your partner. So, tune in and let's celebrate the enchantment found in each other's company, and learn how the smallest gestures can be the most significant in nurturing a great marriage.
S3 E2: Morning Rituals that Improve Your Marriage
Jan 31 2024
S3 E2: Morning Rituals that Improve Your Marriage
Waking up groggy and famished, we didn't let our late start stop us from diving into a heart-to-heart about the transformative power of morning rituals in marriage. If crafting the ideal beginning of each day sounds like a puzzle, we're here to help piece it together, sharing how these precious moments can set a harmonious tone for your relationship. Imagine your life as a carefully orchestrated magic show, where the grand finale informs every preceding act; that's how we approach our days, with purpose and connection at the forefront, just as a magician connects with their audience. By intertwining our insights with reflections on previous discussions about keeping lifelong goals within our daily grasp, we reveal how intentional mornings aren't just beneficial—they're essential.As the sun rises, we explore the terrain of mismatched schedules and the unique challenges they present for couples striving to maintain their bond. No matter if it's through a tender wake-up kiss, a thoughtful morning text, or a heartfelt video message, we emphasize the importance of finding what resonates with your partner. And when the day winds down, it's all about resisting the siren call of technology to truly be present with one another. Sharing my own anecdote of banishing the phone from my morning routine, we hope to inspire you to make mindful choices that reinforce the bonds of marriage. So, grab your favorite mug of coffee, and join us as we unpack the secrets to starting your day with love and intention, and maybe you'll be compelled to share your own sunrise stories.
Season 2 Ep 8: Avoiding Family Drama During the Christmas Season
Nov 30 2023
Season 2 Ep 8: Avoiding Family Drama During the Christmas Season
Christmas is the season of joy, love, and...drama? Let’s face it, the holidays can sometimes bring out the worst in our families. We've all been there - from Uncle Larry's incessant political ramblings to the simmering tension between your sister and her spouse. But what if we told you that you could take control of these situations, navigate tricky family dynamics, and truly enjoy your holiday? That's what our latest episode is all about!We dive headfirst into the meaty subject of blending holiday traditions in a marriage. We expose the raw and real experiences we've faced while managing car rides filled with antsy kids, and the challenges that newlyweds or blended families confront when integrating differing traditions. We learned, sometimes the hard way, that prioritizing your own family's needs over trying to keep everyone else happy is the key to a peaceful Christmas. We also stress the importance of setting boundaries, not just for your sanity but also to foster a healthier relationships with your loved ones.Lastly, we discuss the elephant in the room - forgiveness. As we reveal our personal experiences, the power of forgiveness becomes apparent, especially when it comes to family. But, we're not talking about shallow "forgive and forget" kind of forgiveness; we mean the deep, let-it-go kind of forgiveness that brings true peace and joy. So, sit back, tune in, and get ready to make this Christmas the best one yet – filled with love, connection, and positivity. Let's journey together to create beautiful Christmas memories.
Season 2 Episode 4: The Art of Trust-Building in Marriage: Part 2 of 2
Sep 20 2023
Season 2 Episode 4: The Art of Trust-Building in Marriage: Part 2 of 2
Are you yearning for a deeper connection with your partner? Craving a relationship built on authentic trust, understanding, and commitment? Join us on a transformative journey as we dive into the heart of genuine relationships. We shed light on the art of active listening, the power of empathy, and the significance of being fully present. Let's unpack the role of 'eyeball time' - complete focus on your partner, a silent plea for understanding and connection.We don't stop there. Together, we will crack open the chest of commitment, delving into its profound impact on trust. We believe commitment isn't just a whispered vow, but an action, a testament to your love and devotion. Let's navigate the waters of forgiveness, understanding its healing power, and the stark difference between sweeping issues under the carpet and truly digesting them. We delve into the mechanics of making amends, a crucial element in fostering an environment where trust can flourish.Finally, we touch on the sensitive topic of transparency. From the small acts like sharing passwords to the larger, more profound moments of vulnerability - revealing our deepest fears and insecurities. It takes courage to bare our souls to another, but this vulnerability is the key to building trust. We wrap up by emphasizing the importance of creating a safe, non-judgmental space for your partner. Listen in, learn, and apply these principles to your relationships. Rediscover the joy of a relationship built on solid trust, commitment, and love.
The Art of Trust-Building in Marriage: Part 1 of 2
Sep 13 2023
The Art of Trust-Building in Marriage: Part 1 of 2
How often do we sidestep honesty with little white lies or half-truths? In reality, trust, the backbone of every relationship, rests on the bedrock of honesty, integrity, and effective communication. Join us, Danny Ray and Kimberly, as we embark on an in-depth exploration of the ten principles of trust in relationships. From the simplicity of recording a podcast to the myriad complexities within a marriage, we touch upon how honesty and integrity form the linchpin in cultivating trust. We delve into how our childhood experiences shape our perspectives on truth-telling and how crafting a sanctuary for honesty with our partner, is key to a secure relationship.Isn't communication the bridge that connects hearts? We navigate this intriguing aspect in our second segment, exploring the role of effective communication in trust-building. Through the labyrinth of creating an ambience conducive for vulnerable discussions to dealing with challenging conversations that involve consequences, we throw light on the art and science of communication. Emphasizing the importance of understanding and empathizing with your partner's feelings, we discuss the need for a middle ground, a common platform where both parties can reach a consensus.To wrap up this insightful exploration of trust in relationships, we spotlight the vital role of accountability. Imagine having a partner who helps you stay true to your course, aids in rebuilding trust in your relationship, and offers unwavering support during the journey fraught with pitfalls. We bring to the fore the fifth and final principle of trust-building - accountability. Drawing lessons from biblical examples of faith heroes like David and Abraham, we illustrate how even they required accountability in their lives. Remember, a relationship brimming with trust is a reservoir of joy and hope. So, tune into this episode as we share our five principles for building trust in marriage.