Vera, Age 8: Change self to make friends?

Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic

Jan 13 2024 • 5 mins

Ep. 44 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Being true to our authentic self

Vera wants to know if we have to change ourselves to make friends.

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- Think about yourself two or three years ago. How have you changed? How have you stayed the same?

- Have you ever been in a situation where you thought you had to hide your real self from other kids? What made you think you had to do that? How did the other kids react? How did you feel while doing it or after doing it?

- Describe some times when you’ve done something that wasn’t exactly what you wanted because you cared about a friend. How did your friend respond? How did you feel while doing it or after doing it?

- Dr. Friendtastic says friendship is about knowing and caring for each other. What do you think that means in terms of what you should do or not do to build a close friendship with another kid? Why do we need both ingredients, knowing and caring, for friendship?

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