Divorce Coaches Academy

Tracy Callahan and Debra Doak

Divorce Coaches Academy podcast hosts Tracy Callahan and Debra Doak discuss topics designed to help professional divorce coaches maximize client impact and business success. We also advocate for the critical role certified divorce coaches play in the alternative dispute resolution process. Our mission is to create a community of divorce coaching professionals committed to ongoing learning and professional development.

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How Long Until I Make REAL Money as a Divorce Coach?
6d ago
How Long Until I Make REAL Money as a Divorce Coach?
Are you a relatively new divorce coach and wondering when the money going to start coming in? How long does it really take to start making a living at this? In this week's episode, Tracy and Debra give you the unvarnished truth about what (and how long) it really takes to get a successful divorce coaching practice up and going.As a solopreneur, how do you know what's normal? If you look at Instagram and TikTok, it might seem like every coach is making $10k a month within their first 90 days. We're here to tell you that's a bunch of BS. It's not you - you are not failing.Realistically, a new business venture takes 18-24 months to get to the point where it is profitable enough to be paying your (reasonable) monthly bills. And that's if you're putting in a significant amount of effort. If you're pursuing it as a side gig, extend that timeline quite a bit.And, remember, you're not just starting a new business, you're starting a new business in a new profession. If you say you're a carpenter, everyone understands what you do. A divorce coach? Not so much. Check out our episode You're a What? How to Effectively Describe What You Do As a Divorce Coach for some tips on how to talk about our profession.Business planning is critical. What timeframe have you allowed yourself? What income targets have you set? Are you targets reasonable - have you considered taxes and expenses? Are you having enough conversations? Pro bono coaching is awesome - we love that you're doing that. I's a great way  to get experience and put some raving fans out there in the world. But when is it time to move them into paid status? Resist imposter syndrome and the temptation to undervalue yourself. And finally, throwing more money at other "experts" like business and social media coaches who don't know our niche isn't likely to accelerate this business building process - it's just going to leave you  with the same frustrations and less money in the bank.We believe in you and your ability to achieve financial success divorce coach. We can help.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
How Long Until I Make REAL Money as a Divorce Coach?
6d ago
How Long Until I Make REAL Money as a Divorce Coach?
Are you a relatively new divorce coach and wondering when the money going to start coming in? How long does it really take to start making a living at this? In this week's episode, Tracy and Debra give you the unvarnished truth about what (and how long) it really takes to get a successful divorce coaching practice up and going.As a solopreneur, how do you know what's normal? If you look at Instagram and TikTok, it might seem like every coach is making $10k a month within their first 90 days. We're here to tell you that's a bunch of BS. It's not you - you are not failing.Realistically, a new business venture takes 18-24 months to get to the point where it is profitable enough to be paying your (reasonable) monthly bills. And that's if you're putting in a significant amount of effort. If you're pursuing it as a side gig, extend that timeline quite a bit.And, remember, you're not just starting a new business, you're starting a new business in a new profession. If you say you're a carpenter, everyone understands what you do. A divorce coach? Not so much. Check out our episode You're a What? How to Effectively Describe What You Do As a Divorce Coach for some tips on how to talk about our profession.Business planning is critical. What timeframe have you allowed yourself? What income targets have you set? Are you targets reasonable - have you considered taxes and expenses? Are you having enough conversations? Pro bono coaching is awesome - we love that you're doing that. I's a great way  to get experience and put some raving fans out there in the world. But when is it time to move them into paid status? Resist imposter syndrome and the temptation to undervalue yourself. And finally, throwing more money at other "experts" like business and social media coaches who don't know our niche isn't likely to accelerate this business building process - it's just going to leave you  with the same frustrations and less money in the bank.We believe in you and your ability to achieve financial success divorce coach. We can help.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Is Your Client Divorcing a Narcissist? Drop the Label, Focus on Strategy
Sep 21 2022
Is Your Client Divorcing a Narcissist? Drop the Label, Focus on Strategy
According to social media, just about everyone is divorcing a narcissist. And you may be hearing this from your clients. In this week's episode, we talk about why it's important to work with clients to drop the label and focus on strategy.NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) is fairly rare, but if we look at the diagnostic criteria, we can see a ton of overlap between NPD and the self-interested behaviors we see from scared, angry people going through divorce. What we call "good people behaving badly".Regardless of whether your client is divorcing someone with NPD, someone who's a total jerk, or someone who's just really angry right now, the truth is that they have a choice to make. They can obsess over their spouse's bad behavior or they can turn their attention to what they do have control over. They also have a choice as to whether they show up with a can of gasoline and some matches or they show up with a fire extinguisher.By focusing on the label of "narcissist", clients can set themselves up for a couple of problems. First, they may create unrealistic expectations that proving "narcissism" will create an outcome in their favor. You all know from experience, that it isn't labels or diagnoses that impact parenting plans or property settlements, it is evidence of behaviors. So help them shift to strategy and create documentation rather than trying to prove that their spouse is a jerk.Second, continuing to use that label of "narcissist" can allow our clients to perpetuate the story that something is happening "to" them and it leaves them feeling helpless, hopeless, and powerless.  Instead, let's help them focus on the strategies of protect and respond. Use the legal system to get agreements and orders to protect themselves AND be prepared to respond in a way that saves their sanity if their spouse or ex continues to behave badly.If your client is divorcing one of these HCP's (high conflict personalities), you can also help them head off future conflicts by using powerful questioning to identify specific details they might want to include in their divorce agreements to eliminate ambiguity.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Don't Be Afraid to Tackle Divorce Financial Planning With Your Clients
Sep 14 2022
Don't Be Afraid to Tackle Divorce Financial Planning With Your Clients
This week we want to encourage you to talk money with your clients. Financial professionals (like CDFA's, CPA's, and forensic accountants) certainly play a role in divorce, but as a divorce coach, we don't want you to be afraid to dive into the topic too. It doesn't matter if calculators make you nervous or you failed high school algebra, you can provide a lot of value working with your client on at least these 2 things: 1) their divorce budget and 2) their post-divorce budget.We know you're already talking with clients about the options available to them for ending their marriages (pro se, mediation, litigation, etc...), but are you discussing how much money they want to spend ? A divorce budget is simply being intentional about choosing a process and making decisions that don't put your client in difficult position after divorce. You're simply asking them to consider where they will get the money  and how it will affect their future well-being if they spend $20k, $50k, or $100k in legal fees. Next, you are MORE than qualified to start helping them tackle the idea of a post-divorce budget. In other words, how much is it going to cost them on a monthly basis to live on their own? Where will they live? Can they qualify to refinance the house and afford all the associated expenses? How much will health insurance be? This work shouldn't be put off because it is an important filter through which your client will be making divorce decisions like:Whether to keep the houseHow much spousal support they needIf they need to work and much they need to earnIf trading retirement assets or investment accounts makes senseAs their case progresses, there may be a need to add a financial professional to the team, but don't shy away from starting these discussions with your client. There's a lot of good reality testing that can happen here.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
You're a What? How to Effectively Describe What You Do As a Divorce Coach
Sep 7 2022
You're a What? How to Effectively Describe What You Do As a Divorce Coach
What's a divorce coach? How you answer that question is important for 2 reasons. It's an opportunity to advocate for the profession and you have the chance to do some grassroots marketing. In today's episode, Tracy and Debra dive into the specifics of how you can answer this in a concise and impactful way. Professional divorce coaches work with clients along a big continuum and provide so many benefits, it might feel hard to answer this question without rambling on and on. But remember, the person on the receiving end probably doesn't want to drink from a firehose. Give them a 15 second elevator pitch version - an appetizer so to speak - and then see if they ask for more.Debra offers a template you can use to craft your own elevator pitch. You may want to create a few different versions depending on whether you are talking with an attorney, a soccer mom, or a local businessperson. Speaking with targeted language will help your listener connect and get your message heard.The first 15 seconds of your answer to the question "what's a divorce coach?" are critical to advocating for the profession and planting the seed for future sales. Be intentional about what you say and how you say it.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Social Media: Love or Hate It, You Need a Strategy
Aug 31 2022
Social Media: Love or Hate It, You Need a Strategy
Do you feel pressured to be all over social media? Are you spending hours designing posts, creating reels, and trying to gain followers? Do you love it or do you avoid it like the plague?In today's episode, we talk about the phenomena of social media and how divorce coaches can make smart choices around their use of social media as a business strategy. The keyword here is strategy and we encourage coaches to be clear on the reason behind their use of social media. There are many reasons you might choose to have a social media presence including:CredibilityBrand awarenessCommunity engagementLead generationProduct salesOnce you're clear on the purpose (strategy) behind your social media, the next key is to track your metrics to be sure you're achieving your goals. Debra shares a favorite quote by Lori Taylor "Fans are vanity, but sales are sanity". If you have 10k followers, but aren't booking any clients, is that a successful strategy? Is it worth the time and effort you spend every week?What if you hate social media? Then don't do it! There are many successful divorce coaches in the space who have no social media presence - they are finding their clients through grassroots marketing efforts. Check out the episode Making Your First $10k: Relationships and Referrals for more on this powerful strategy.Social media can be one tool in your marketing arsenal, but as with all marketing strategies, your goal should be to use it with intention.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
How To Advocate for the Profession of Divorce Coaching
Aug 24 2022
How To Advocate for the Profession of Divorce Coaching
You're a what? A divorce coach?Divorce coaching is still a relatively new profession and today Tracy and Debra talk about what you can do on an individual level to help spread the word about the value we add for clients going through the divorce process.It all starts with professionalism in your individual practice and insuring that each and every client has a great experience with you.  Next step is talking about what you do in your local community and don't underestimate the power of that elevator speech. Being able to accurately describe what you do in a couple of short, impactful sentences goes a long way with people you meet.Then there are the State and National organizations like the ABA, APFM, AFCC, IDFA and others where divorce professionals gather. They offer conferences, continuing education, and presenting and writing opportunities. And finally, mentoring new divorce coaches is another way to invest in the future of the profession. Individual Practice StandardsCommunity InvolvementState Organization ConnectionsNational Organization MembershipContinuing Professional EducationMentoringHowever, let's not overlook the importance of mindset when it comes to advocacy work. You must have the confidence to speak up, the belief that you deserve a seat at the table. When you are operating as a professional and are committed divorce coaching as a credible profession in the divorce space, then you'll be ready to start your own advocacy campaign.We invite you to join us on the 1st and 3rd Tuesdays for our Case Consultation & Mastermind Group if you'd like to brainstorm ideas or get some encouragement.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Helping Kids Remain Resilient Through Divorce with Guest Ashley Wood
Aug 17 2022
Helping Kids Remain Resilient Through Divorce with Guest Ashley Wood
We are thrilled to bring you another coach spotlight interview today with fellow CDC Ashley Wood, also known as The Conscious CoParent.Ashley Wood is a CDC Certified Divorce Coach® in service to parents who feel overwhelmed by divorce, hopeless about co-parenting, and concerned about how living in two homes may impact their children. As a coach Ashley helps parents regain a clear sense of direction, reduce conflict with their former partner and support their children’s growth and resilience through all of the challenges and changes associated with family restructuring.Ashley says a common question she gets from clients is whether they should be co-parenting or parallel parenting. She encourages them to take a step back and examine their own needs, their own best self/core values, and how they want to model resilience to their children. She and Tracy talk about how the foundation of divorce coaching and the concept of exploring our best selves is so critical when it comes to making it through all the big changes that divorce and co-parenting require of us. Ashley reminds us that children's ability to be resilient and make it through this process are based on 3 main factors:1) The parent's ability to support a healthy relationship with the other parent2) The parent's ability to reduce the child's exposure to conflict3) The parent's ability to focus on their own parenting skillsWhile we can work with our clients to communicate effectively with BIFF or EAR statements, the bottom line is that we cannot control anything our co-parent does or doesn't do. We can help our clients continue live well and be the best parents they can be regardless of how the other parent behaves.Work with clients to prioritize their own needs, establish boundaries, and let go of the need for control - these are the keys to a post divorce life of peace for themselves and their children.You can find Ashley at the following links: Website: www.ashleywooddivorcecoach.com Social Media (IG, TikTok, FB etc.) @theconsciouscoparent Podcast: Split. The After Ever After Podcast FREE Support Group via Circles App: The Conscious CoParent ConnectionYou can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
How Becoming a Conflict Resolution Expert Puts Money in the Bank
Aug 10 2022
How Becoming a Conflict Resolution Expert Puts Money in the Bank
Interpersonal conflict is a part of our everyday lives, but divorce can magnify any conflict that already existed in the marriage. Tracy refers to divorce as a conflict petri dish.In today's episode, we talk about how getting additional training to become a conflict resolution expert can provide your clients with even more tools and skills to manage conflict during divorce and beyond.Families spend an exorbitant amount of money on divorce because the process is unfamiliar (read scary) and they don't have the skills necessary to engage in productive conflict and negotiation. We believe highly skilled divorce coaches can change that.Although most divorce coach training programs introduce the concepts of conflict resolution, our 6-week DCA™ Divorce Conflict Coach training offers the next level of expertise you need to truly help clients make that shift. Debra gives a sneak peek into the upcoming class by sharing some of the goals for working with clients in conflict and a few of the characters you'll meet in class (you'll love Raging Regina, Clueless Carl and the rest of the bunch).The 5 C's of conflict coaching are:- Clarity- Comprehension- Choices- Confidence- Competence The next session begins August 25 and we hope you'll consider adding this specialty to your divorce coaching practice. You'll get some cool letters after your name and your clients will get better outcomes. And those are both good for your business.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:DCA™ Divorce Conflict Coach Training: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Onboarding Clients: 5 Steps For a Smooth and Professional Relationship
Aug 3 2022
Onboarding Clients: 5 Steps For a Smooth and Professional Relationship
First impressions matter and it's never more important than when you're onboarding a new client. Once you've had that consult call and the client says "yes", the next experiences they have with you set the tone for the rest of your coaching relationship.Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk through the 5 critical steps that create a foundation for a smooth and professional relationship with clients.  Whether you use a coaching platform, a scheduling system, or prefer a more manual approach, having a standard, repeatable process means a hassle-free experience for both you and your clients.1. Coaching agreement2. Payment3. Initial session4. Scheduling future sessions5. CommunicationsWe also discuss the idea that professional expectations beget professional respect. Maintaining good boundaries with clients enables them to take responsibility for their own coaching results. We are not in the business of doing the work for clients, but offering an environment where they are invited to be self-directed and take control of their own process.As professionals in the divorce space, divorce coaches want to be seen as credible, valuable team members - and a professional client experience helps build that reputation. If you haven't taken the time to up-level your client onboarding process, we encourage you  take some tips from today's episode. Both you and your clients will benefit.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Building a Professional Divorce Dream Team with Guest Cindy Stibbard
Jul 27 2022
Building a Professional Divorce Dream Team with Guest Cindy Stibbard
We're excited to bring you another spotlight coach interview with our CDC colleague Cindy Stibbard.Cindy is the driven and compassionate entrepreneur and CEO behind Divorce ReDefined, her Vancouver-based separation and divorce coaching practice. After going through her own high-conflict divorce, this passionate and determined mother of two, became inspired to help others successfully navigate this difficult time in their lives. As a Certified Divorce Coach® and Certified Divorce Specialist, and trained Relationship Discernment/Decision Coach, Cindy created her unique practice to help people on an international level through every stage of their divorce. Cindy was gracious enough to spend some time with Debra to chat about how divorce coaches play a key role in helping those going through divorce choose the right professionals for their team.We talked about how the divorce coach is the most underrated player in divorce today. Cindy uses the analogy of a concierge to describe how a coach works as the single go-to person who helps clients find the resources and information they need to feel informed and in control.Cindy and Debra examine why having the right professionals involved can set clients up for successful negotiation, good decision making, lower costs, better co-parenting relationships, and better outcomes.Divorce coaches truly do play a critical role in helping clients build their professional dream team.You can find Cindy at the following links:Website: can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Making Your First $10k: Relationships and Referrals
Jul 20 2022
Making Your First $10k: Relationships and Referrals
Today's discussion is all about how to start making money in your divorce coaching practice. We see far too many talented professionals ditch their dreams of achieving financial success and want to share some tips for hitting your first $10k without all the expense or heartache.Being a great coach with impeccable coaching skills is one part of the equation, but if you're not selling to those you come in contact with in your daily life, you're missing out on the relationships and referral opportunities that can jumpstart your business. Statistics show that 20% of small business fail within the first year (OUCH) and  we don't want  you to be a statistic!Listen in as we share the four keys to accelerate making money in your business:1. Share your elevator speech2. Close consult calls3. Nail the takeaway and celebrate results4. Ask for the referralAs a professional divorce coach, you have the solution to your potential client's problem. Remember that by sharing that message (selling) you are making sure the client doesn't walk away with that problem still in their hands (helping). DCA™ is committed to your success as a practicing, professional divorce coach and that means helping you reach your financial goals. You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
It's Like Having a Divorce Coach in Your Pocket with Guest Jennifer Warren Medwin
Jul 13 2022
It's Like Having a Divorce Coach in Your Pocket with Guest Jennifer Warren Medwin
We're so happy to bring you another spotlight coach episode this week featuring Jennifer Warren Medwin, Jennifer Warren Medwin, MS is a CDC© Certified Divorce Coach, Supreme Court of Florida Family Mediator, a Certified Marital Mediator, and author of Strategies & Tips from a Divorce Coach: A Roadmap to Move Forward.  Jennifer is a member of the National Association of Divorce Professionals (NADP), a member of the SupportPay Advisory Council, and a contributing writer for Your Tango, Thrive Global, and OurFamilyWizard. She partners with clients to develop the clarity, confidence, courage, conflict management strategies, and communication skills they need to move through the process. Tracy and Jennifer shared an intimate conversation about the role of professional divorce coaching, the inspiration behind Jennifer's book, her writing process, and why she believes having a framework can help couples make divorce less difficult.Jennifer says her book is like "having a divorce coach in your pocket" and shares how emotional management and conflict resolution skills play such a big part in helping families experience a less traumatic divorce process and move forward more successfully.Listen in as Tracy and Jennifer talk about the power of divorce coaching and reminisce back to the time when Tracy was Jennifer's mentor in the CDC program. The mutual admiration is an inspiration to all of us in the profession.You can find Jennifer at the following links:Website: her Book "Strategies and Tips from a Divorce Coach: A Roadmap to Move Forward": can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Why Clients Hate Their Attorneys and How You Can Help
Jul 6 2022
Why Clients Hate Their Attorneys and How You Can Help
Did you know the family law/divorce lawyer industry revenue for 2022 is projected to be $12.1 billion dollars? OMG, that's a lot of money being spent on divorce.On today's podcast, Tracy and Debra talk about the frustration that clients often experience with their attorneys and what you, as a professional divorce coach, can do to support your clients to have a more productive AND cost-effective relationship.It seems the narrative out there is that the only way to divorce is to get an attorney, so that is the first step many clients take. In fact, the court system was not intended to be a family resolution process. So, they are expecting the legal system to solve a family problem. In an ideal world, divorce coaches would be brought in at the very beginning. That would allow us to help them understand the process, explore all their divorce options and if they do choose to work with an attorney, assist them in identifying their needs and interview questions targeted to their specific case.And once that relationship is established, we can provide enormous value in guiding the client to take charge of their own divorce, be a credible client, communicate effectively, and be assertive when the relationship isn't meeting their needs. We can also help them assess if they are contributing to the problems that exist or if they need to change counsel. You have the opportunity and, we would argue, responsibility to consistently speak to potential clients through your marketing materials and in your consult calls about the benefits of making a divorce coach the first member of their team.We can make a difference for families.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
The Critical Skill of Remaining Neutral
Jun 29 2022
The Critical Skill of Remaining Neutral
As divorce coaches, we want our clients to have a better divorce experience.  But when does that desire cross the line from supporting our client to feeling the need to save our client? Today's episode is a reminder that we serve our clients best when we stay neutral and allow them to choose their own path and make their own decisions.We talk a little about the difference between sympathy and empathy and how sympathy pulls us into judgement, the need to give opinions, problem solving, and the urge to "save" clients from their own choices. While empathy allows us to feel what the client feels but still sit in the neutral, supportive space.Are you tempted to put on your cape and be a superhero for your client? The simple statement "It's going to be OK" can be an indicator that you're stepping into that role. If you find yourself using phrases like "I think", "You need to", "You should", and "Have you considered" you may be trying to direct your client toward the solutions you think are best.When we block our own curiosity, we block the client's opportunity to discover their own solutions. They're also left at the end of their divorce without knowing that they have the skills, power and agency to make good decisions going forward.Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
When and Why to Fire a Client (And How to Avoid It in the First Place)
Jun 22 2022
When and Why to Fire a Client (And How to Avoid It in the First Place)
It happens. You begin coaching a client and ... uh oh ... it's just not working. If you've ever struggled with the decision to end a client relationship, then this episode is just for you.Today Tracy and Debra talk through the nuts and bolts of what to do when you begin to notice something is off, action isn't being taken, the client isn't a good fit, payment isn't forthcoming or something else has gone sideways in your coaching relationship.Relationship is the key word here. Coaching is a relationship between us and the client, so all the same boundary and conflict resolution skills we would bring to any other relationship should apply here. Chances are if you aren't feeling it, your client isn't either. So use your curious questioning skills to identify what is getting in the way and help your client determine how they want to move forward. Often this open and honest dialogue will either get the work back on track or help the client self-identify that coaching with you isn't right for them right now. This allows you to bless them and send them off with resources, referrals, and love.You have two powerful tools that can help you - your consult call and your coaching agreement. The consult call has two express purposes. First for you to share the value of what you offer (sales), but also for you to learn enough about the client to determine if they are a good fit to work with (screening). Once you choose to engage, your coaching agreement outlines the mutual responsibilities (boundaries) that you both commit to uphold.Don't let an ineffective coaching relationship linger and create friction or frustration for either of you. It's not a reflection of your coaching skills or expertise, it's just not a good fit. Support that client in discovering what they do need, point them in the right direction, and sit back in confidence knowing you did the right thing for both of you.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
The Importance of Cleaning Up Your Own Divorce Debris with Guest Andrea Hipps
Jun 15 2022
The Importance of Cleaning Up Your Own Divorce Debris with Guest Andrea Hipps
Periodically, we want to bring you insights from other successful, practicing divorce coaching professionals to expand the conversation . We're so excited to bring you our very first spotlight coach interview today.   Today's guest, Andrea Hipps, LBSW, is a Certified Divorce Coach® and author who helps parents all along the divorce continuum resolve their divorce debris and create beautiful two-address families for their kids. She's the author of the internationally bestselling book The Best Worst Time of Your Life: Four Practices to Get You Through the Pain of Divorce, which outlines the four practices you need to create wholeness and healing for you and your kids before, during, and after divorce. As a regular contributor to our nation’s divorce recovery conversation, she's been featured on NBC, ABC, FOX and the CW discussing how we can do divorce better for the sake of ourselves and our families.Tracy and Andrea focus on the topic of divorce debris and why it's so critical for those thinking about entering the field of divorce coaching to wait until their hearts and their wisdom can catch up with their passion . As Andrea so aptly states, "We can only lead people as far as we've grown".We're not in the business to create "mini-me's" or to "save" clients from having a divorce experience like we did. We're here to be curious and help them self-discover the best options for their own families and their own lives. Divorce coaches need to have enough space and healing from our own experiences  to support clients from a neutral perspective.As Debra often says, "We must coach from our scar, not from our wound". Listen through to the end to learn how taking the garbage out every morning keeps Andrea "debris free".You can find Andrea all over at the following links:Website: her Book "The Best Worst Time of Your Life": can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
Session Focus: Critical for Your Clients and Your Business
May 25 2022
Session Focus: Critical for Your Clients and Your Business
In today's episode, Tracy and Debra talk about how the coaching conversation is intentionally different from a conversation with friends and family.  While divorce coaches are great listeners, empathetic, and caring, we're also professionals who are there to get results for our clients.In order to achieve those results, we need to understand where the client wants to go. Much like using a GPS in our cars, we have to know our destination in order to plan a route to get there.When clients inevitably show up with a whole host of issues, emotions and concerns (what Tracy refers to as the "dump truck"), we serve them best when we can help them sort through and prioritize what needs attention.  Establishing a specific focus for each client session allows the client to feel a sense of forward motion, some progress toward their goals.Not only does this help your client feel confident and empowered moving through their divorce process, but it makes them feel amazing about their work with you. And that's good for business because referrals from happy clients can be one of the best sources of new business for you.Listen in as we discuss why establishing session focus is the key to getting results for clients and for building your practice.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com
You're the Captain: Reminding Clients They Run the Ship
May 18 2022
You're the Captain: Reminding Clients They Run the Ship
One of the most common mistakes we see as divorce coaching professionals is when clients allow others to make decisions in their divorce.Today we discuss the power of reminding clients that they are the captain of their own divorce; from deciding the type of process they use to the amount of conflict they want to introduce to the final financial and parenting agreements they make.When clients let family, friends, attorneys or even coaches influence their choices in divorce it can leave them feeling confused and powerless. One of the greatest gifts we offer are tools and encouragement to help clients advocate for themselves. Getting them to the understanding that they are the captain of their divorce and they have hired other professionals (or asked others for input) as part of their decision-making process, but not in place of it. When clients are able to make informed, intentional choices, they walk away from divorce feeling empowered, not victimized. And that leads to a faster and fuller recovery. After all, divorce isn't just an ending - it's also a new beginning.Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk about the advantages of supporting clients to be the captain of their own ship.You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com