VOICES with Amber B Skylar

Amber B Skylar

Have you ever wanted to talk out loud about being sexually assaulted? Or has society taught you that you were not strong enough to handle it? What about other subjects like single parenting, gaslighting, or women and religion? I am the expert on my trauma and have spent 30 years in therapy for low self-esteem, low self-worth, depression, and anger – all while getting up over and over only to be beat down by the cultural norms. However, even after being raped, suicidal thoughts, sexual harassment, military sexual trauma, homelessness, and surviving against a tsunami of "you can't do it" mindset, I managed to write a book called "Colors of Amber, A Memoir" and won a scholarship to be a yoga teacher from the Kripalu School of Yoga. Writing and yoga shredded years of torment and shame as it cut into my neural sheath – pathways that reminded me that I was female and less than. I once heard a psychiatrist say that “depression is the silencing of the soul”. It hit me. If I ever wanted to feel free, happy, joyful, and to have healthy anger, that talking, writing, speaking, and bringing all the “dirty secrets” to light was the ticket. It would hurt either way. Podcasting is another tool - therapeutic and transforming - that in 2021 gives women a voice and people are listening. In my "VOICES with Amber B Skylar" podcast, I share content to inspire, uplift, and plunge a listener into her/his nature, so you can see it, grieve it, get help and thrive. My goal is to be the voice of those who cannot speak up. I purposefully aim to show what empowerment as a woman really can be – self-inquiry, self-assessment of one's actions, contributions, beliefs. I am committed to my craft will dedicate talent, skill, research, compassion, and relentless energy to uphold the voices of women and the men who love and support them – and to healing future generations of humans. -Amber B Skylar, Author, Colors of Amber, A Memoir (Amazon). Audible version coming in May 2021. Contact: admin@amberbskylar.com

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[EP:44] Trump or No Trump, Vaccine or Unvaccinated, Black or White, Asian or Not, Rape, Sexual Harassment- What happened to that conversation? - Amber B Skylar
Aug 27 2021
[EP:44] Trump or No Trump, Vaccine or Unvaccinated, Black or White, Asian or Not, Rape, Sexual Harassment- What happened to that conversation? - Amber B Skylar
I got depressed this week, didn't even do my Wednesday episode.  The politics of vaccines, mask fights, people judging each other on whether or not they like Trump or republicans, are the democrats more caring, will doctors really stop treating people without a vaccine?  We talk about freedom to choose and yet we are still battling the issue of abortion.  I follow stories of sexual assault, rape, violence against women and it seems that it makes a headline as long as it feeds to media cycle and their need for funding, or whatever lobbyist is  pushing its political agenda, or its insatiable need for the competitive market of media.  Sensation sells.  It seems that the time for women - has not arrived quite yet.  We still have nation states suppressing women, stopping them from working and we here in the US are going round and round like mice on the wheel of the science of politics, the business of big money, and the fact that institutions are not designed to be good, they are designed to thrive  - no matter the cost.  People, you are expendable.  You are replaceable.  I learned this in the military. Grappling with this as a woman, contributes to my growing cynicism - and feeds the depression of a silenced voice.  And yet, here I am, standing up for the rights and lives of females. It is a lonely path. #amberbskylar #voiceofamber #rape #metoo #violenceagainstwomen #domesticviolence #equalrightsforwomen #voiceofwomen
[EP:44] Trump or No Trump, Vaccine or Unvaccinated, Black or White, Asian or Not, Rape, Sexual Harassment- What happened to that conversation? - Amber B Skylar
Aug 27 2021
[EP:44] Trump or No Trump, Vaccine or Unvaccinated, Black or White, Asian or Not, Rape, Sexual Harassment- What happened to that conversation? - Amber B Skylar
I got depressed this week, didn't even do my Wednesday episode.  The politics of vaccines, mask fights, people judging each other on whether or not they like Trump or republicans, are the democrats more caring, will doctors really stop treating people without a vaccine?  We talk about freedom to choose and yet we are still battling the issue of abortion.  I follow stories of sexual assault, rape, violence against women and it seems that it makes a headline as long as it feeds to media cycle and their need for funding, or whatever lobbyist is  pushing its political agenda, or its insatiable need for the competitive market of media.  Sensation sells.  It seems that the time for women - has not arrived quite yet.  We still have nation states suppressing women, stopping them from working and we here in the US are going round and round like mice on the wheel of the science of politics, the business of big money, and the fact that institutions are not designed to be good, they are designed to thrive  - no matter the cost.  People, you are expendable.  You are replaceable.  I learned this in the military. Grappling with this as a woman, contributes to my growing cynicism - and feeds the depression of a silenced voice.  And yet, here I am, standing up for the rights and lives of females. It is a lonely path. #amberbskylar #voiceofamber #rape #metoo #violenceagainstwomen #domesticviolence #equalrightsforwomen #voiceofwomen
[EP:33] Call for stories - Amber B Skylar
Jul 16 2021
[EP:33] Call for stories - Amber B Skylar
In the fall/winter 2022, I will be organizing a few events, perhaps a live call in event, and introducing 2-4 guests per month.  I aspire to have a few series on Women and Religion, Religion and Sexual Violence,  different types of trauma, like Institutional Trauma, Trauma and Substance Abuse/Use, Military Sexual Trauma, Sexual Trauma and Legal System, Sex Trafficking, Domestic Violence, Sex, Rape as a War Weapon.  I seek to help victims of trauma to share what its like to live with being a victim/survivor of a violent crime.  We need more of these unpopular stories to help strengthen a person's ability to accept the trauma, and for all listeners to gain strength by listening and ultimately get involved.  You are stronger than you realize. I know what it feels like to face pain.   I get it, people want to feel safe.  The sale and distribution of quick pop psychology of "happiness"  ideas is very alluring because we have been disempowered  to believe we can fight back. In the playing fields of human evolution it is dangerous to keep looking the other way.  Most people do not know until it impacts them personally.  Then they cry out for justice and understanding. We must persue justice, policy change, a louder awareness that inspires more people to stop looking the other way.  It is OK to be a serious person.  Joy and happiness are the rewards when we as human beings face our darker depressive moments that lure us into hiding, avoidance. You make a difference.  Release any attachment to the evidence of this and take action. Share your story with me.  #amberbskylar #voiceofamber #metoo #sexualassault #domesticviolence #veteran #ptsd #anxiety #depression