PODCAST

Emotionally Fit

Coa x Dr. Emily Anhalt

Welcome to your gym for mental health with psychologist Dr. Emily Anhalt. Staying emotionally fit takes work and repetition. That's why this podcast delivers short, actionable Emotional Push-Ups every Monday and Thursday to help you build a better practice of mental health. We'll also share surprising, sometimes funny, sometimes shocking conversations on Taboo Tuesdays, because the things we are most hesitant to talk about are also the most normal. So join us to kickstart your emotional fitness. Let's flex those feels and do some reps together! Emotionally Fit is brought to you by Coa, your gym for mental health. Head to joincoa.com to learn more.

TABOO TUESDAY: Panic in Silicon Valley with VP of Marketing at GoodRX, Sunil Rajaraman
4d ago
TABOO TUESDAY: Panic in Silicon Valley with VP of Marketing at GoodRX, Sunil Rajaraman
In 2016, Sunil Rajaraman wrote a satirical essay titled ‘This Is Your Life in Silicon Valley’ for the tech-heavy, San Francisco-based online magazine The Bold Italic. Within days the article was trending on social media with hundreds of comments and nearly a million page views. In this Taboo Tuesday, Sunil talks with Dr. Emily about the anxiety he experienced as a successful entrepreneur in Silicon Valley, and how he’s learned to shift his relationship to it. Staying emotionally fit takes work and repetition. That's why the Emotionally Fit podcast with psychologist Dr. Emily Anhalt delivers short, actionable Emotional Push-Ups every Monday and Thursday to help you build a better practice of mental health, and surprising, funny, and shocking conversations on Taboo Tuesdays - because the things we’re most hesitant to talk about are also the most normal. Join us to kickstart your emotional fitness. Let's flex those feels and do some reps together! EPISODE RESOURCES: Follow Sunil on (Twitter)  Listen to Sunil’s podcast (This is Your Life in Silicon Valley) Read (This Is Your Life in Silicon Valley) by Sunil Rajaraman - (The Bold Italic) Thank you for listening! Follow Dr. Emily on (Twitter), and don’t forget to follow, rate, review and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #EmotionallyFit  The Emotionally Fit podcast is produced by (Coa), your gym for mental health. Katie Sunku Wood is the show’s producer from (StudioPod Media) with additional editing and sound design by (nodalab), and featuring music by (Milano). Special thanks to the entire Coa crew! JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (02:01) - How ‘This Is Your Life In Silicon Valley’ changed Sunil’s life and career - “I put up the piece and then 24 hours later it started to get traction. I had never experienced true virality before. This was nuts. This was like almost a million page views in days. It was crazy.” (05:26) - Cue the Anxiety Attacks - “There's a face that you put on for investors. There's a face that you put on for employees. Then there's the face that you try to put on at home. And then there's other parts of you that you just try to compartmentalize here and there. Eventually that can't hold.” (11:12) - Self-stigmatization and why we should be more open about struggling with mental health - “In the process of going through therapy, you say stuff out loud that sounds weird at first. And then you're like ‘Wait a second. This isn't weird. This is who you are. And it's totally okay’.” (15:54) - Addiction and substance abuse - “It's all a spectrum. Pretty much anything that can bring good into our lives, when used incorrectly or in the wrong amount, ends up hurting us.” (17:25) - How going to therapy has helped Sunil - “You do say things out loud about yourself that can kind of feel uncomfortable, but I can now say out loud, ‘I like writing and I like when people read my writing’ and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.”  (20:58) - The downsides to social media, FOMO and constant comparison - “The feeling of wanting more, rather than owning what you are and being happy with it. It's very different. I still struggle with it.”
TABOO TUESDAY: Should You Talk About Mental Health on a First Date? with Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, Logan Ury
Jun 14 2022
TABOO TUESDAY: Should You Talk About Mental Health on a First Date? with Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, Logan Ury
Bestselling author and Director of Relationship Science for dating app, Hinge, Logan Ury joins the show to explore talking about mental health and therapy on a first date. Logan also discusses vulnerability, pandemic dating trends, and her book How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. Listen now to find out why opening up about your mental health might just be what gets you a second date! Staying emotionally fit takes work and repetition. That's why the Emotionally Fit podcast with psychologist Dr. Emily Anhalt delivers short, actionable Emotional Push-Ups every Monday and Thursday to help you build a better practice of mental health, and surprising, funny, and shocking conversations on Taboo Tuesdays - because the things we’re most hesitant to talk about are also the most normal. Join us to kickstart your emotional fitness. Let's flex those feels and do some reps together! EPISODE RESOURCES: Follow Logan Ury on (Twitter) and (Instagram) Read Logan’s book: (How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love) Learn more about Logan’s (Date Smarter) workshop Thank you for listening! Follow Dr. Emily on (Twitter), and don’t forget to follow, rate, review and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #EmotionallyFit  The Emotionally Fit podcast is produced by (Coa), your gym for mental health. Katie Sunku Wood is the show’s producer from (StudioPod Media) with additional editing and sound design by (nodalab), and featuring music by (Milano). Special thanks to the entire Coa crew! JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (2:11) - How Logan’s work shows up in her personal life - “My husband and I have this sweet/cheesy thing that we do where sometimes I'll lean over to him in bed at night and put my hand out and be like ‘Are we connected?’ and what that means is like ‘Are we on the same page right now?’” (07:31) - On pandemic dating trends - “What we actually found in our research was people were like ‘I'm afraid of a dance floor makeout. I want a relationship and somebody to hold me while I cry about all the stuff that I lost, or literally people that I lost.’” (13:36) - Logan’s advice on how and when people should disclose details about their mental health journey in romantic relationships - “It's really about saying ‘This is something in my life that will impact you potentially, but I am not asking you to take care of me. I am asking for you to be curious, ask questions and really explore this with me as you get to know me.’” (16:52) - Self perception theory and the realities about ghosting - “Nobody wants to be ghosted, but then when you say, ‘Have you ghosted someone?’ most people say, ‘Yes.’” (20:29) - Logan’s final advice to improve your dating life - “So often the thing that we think makes us ineligible for dating is actually the thing that makes us approachable, relatable, lovable, special.”
TABOO TUESDAY: Therapy and Basketball with All-Star, Kevin Love
Jun 7 2022
TABOO TUESDAY: Therapy and Basketball with All-Star, Kevin Love
Basketball All-Star Kevin Love joins the show to talk about starting therapy after dealing with a very public mental health crisis during the NBA playoffs in 2017. Kevin shares what motivated him to take care of his emotional fitness and sends a shoutout to other athletes who have inspired him. We also explore the stigmas in professional sports and why Kevin believes vulnerability actually creates stronger teams. Staying emotionally fit takes work and repetition. That's why the Emotionally Fit podcast with psychologist Dr. Emily Anhalt delivers short, actionable Emotional Push-Ups every Monday and Thursday to help you build a better practice of mental health, and surprising, funny, and shocking conversations on Taboo Tuesdays - because the things we’re most hesitant to talk about are also the most normal. Join us to kickstart your emotional fitness. Let's flex those feels and do some reps together! EPISODE RESOURCES: Follow Kevin Love on (Twitter) and (Instagram) Learn more about the (Kevin Love Fund ) Thank you for listening! Follow Dr. Emily on (Twitter), and don’t forget to follow, rate, review and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #EmotionallyFit  The Emotionally Fit podcast is produced by (Coa), your gym for mental health. Katie Sunku Wood is the show’s producer from (StudioPod Media) with additional editing and sound design by (nodalab), and featuring music by (Milano). Special thanks to the entire Coa crew! JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (01:28) - Kevin shares his emotional journey after suffering a panic attack in 2017 - “I got very lucky. I bonded with my therapist. He allowed me to feel safe, speak freely, and in a lot of ways changed my relationship with myself, my perspective on problems and my life in general.”  (08:29) - Becoming a globally known mental health advocate as a top athlete - “Withholding compassion, withholding empathy, never helped anybody. It has made me feel not only more involved, maybe that's the wrong terminology for it, but very much more comfortable with who I am.” (14:50) - Why players who allow themselves to be vulnerable actually create stronger teams - “We're that pay-it-forward team. We're that next-man-up, share-the-wealth, celebrate-each-other, celebrate-the-small-wins type of team. So I think it's made us take a major step forward in developing our culture as a team.” (19:45) - Kevin on stigmas in the sports world - “I think everybody's going through their own process, and the way that they absorb things or offload things at their own pace, and those are the types of people that I feel for, because in a lot of ways they don't know where to turn.” (27:07) - Kevin’s secret to stability - “If I'm having a bad day or having a great day or wherever in between, she can feel that. I mean, there's a reason that people that own dogs live longer.”