Our homes are supposed to be where we feel safest but for some of us, that's not the case. It can be very daunting to love a person that doesn't make you feel you are safe when they are in your surroundings. I know exactly how this feels but leaving is not always the best option, at the time.
Most of the time you have to make the moves while your partner is unaware. This exit strategy plan has been created with the basic needs to move out slowly while making sure it's done safely and you don't forget the "small" things.
You can get the exit strategy plan, here
If you need more of an understanding of what you have been through to move toward healing, you can get The Break Away Journal, here