In Residence with Keith and Laura

Keith King & Laura King

Hi! We are Keith and Laura. We are creatives and makers at heart and looking to make change, for ourselves and people like us who want to dig a little deeper. When you're In Residence as an artist, a writer, a musician, a leader–you're digging deep and tapping into your creativity. Learning and practicing and honing your craft. Creating teams, building relationships and culture, connecting ideas that may not be clearly connected. We see In Residence doing that via conversation. Join us as we push through uncomfortable growth on our way to make a difference. We like to dig deep, explore, learn, and grow. read less
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Practice Meets Perfection - Episode 003 [Rerelease]
4d ago
Practice Meets Perfection - Episode 003 [Rerelease]
Keith and Laura explore the multifaceted nature of perfectionism and share their personal experiences. Perfectionism, while often seen as a positive trait, can be a significant obstacle to productivity and personal growth. It is complex and may appear in various shapes and forms: over-processing, hesitation, avoidance, and overwhelm.Laura and Keith dive into Katherine Morgan Schafler’s The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power. Schafler identifies common perfectionist archetypes and offers insights into the characteristics and tendencies that come with each profile. Perfectionism can be incredibly nuanced, and being a perfectionist isn’t necessarily a bad thing.Laura identifies as a Parisian Perfectionist, driven by the desire to be perceived in a certain way. She often finds herself overthinking and second-guessing her actions, fearing judgment and criticism. This can lead to procrastination and a reluctance to share her work.Keith, on the other hand, leans towards the Procrastinator Perfectionist archetype. He struggles with starting tasks, often paralyzed by the fear of not doing them perfectly. This can result in missed opportunities and a sense of frustration.Gemini Ai’s Key Takeaways:Recognize the impact of perfectionism: Understanding how perfectionism manifests in your life is the first step towards overcoming it. Challenge self-limiting beliefs: Question the unrealistic expectations you place on yourself and strive for progress, not perfection. Prioritize action over perfection: Take action, even if it's imperfect. Remember, done is better than perfect. Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and avoid self-criticism. Seek support: Talk to friends, family, or a therapist about your struggles with perfectionism.Relationships and projects can suffer if we chase perfection. Let's lean in and harness the good, prepare for the bad, and close the door on the ugly. Through recognizing the patterns of perfectionism and implementing practical strategies, we can break free from its grip and live a more fulfilling life.Thanks for Joining Us.*In Residence with Keith and Laura***Practice Meets Perfection - Episode 003 [Rerelease]** -  Episode 061🔊 LISTEN ON: 🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Overcast 🟠  Audible🔴  YouTube 📺 Full Episode Playlist📱 Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links
The Overwhelm of Starting - Episode 002 [Rerelease]
Oct 17 2024
The Overwhelm of Starting - Episode 002 [Rerelease]
How on earth do we start this? How do you start a project? We've got lots of reasons why we don't start: Is it good enough? Is it even worth me doing? Who wants to hear from me? Do I have something worthy to say? What is it that I'm going to contribute that's different and creative and thoughtful?We put up barriers and get stuck and spin. Where do you find yourself struggling when it comes to starting a project?Keith emphasizes the importance of taking action rather than waiting for motivation. He shares personal experiences of overcoming fear and self-doubt, particularly in areas where he feels vulnerable. Keith's approach to starting projects involves focusing on passions from childhood and embracing the unique voice each person brings to their work. He advocates for the power of admitting mistakes and taking ownership, which can alleviate fear and shame in professional settings.Laura brings a leadership perspective to the conversation, highlighting the value of transparency and vulnerability in leadership roles. She discusses the use of time blocking as a strategy for making progress on projects and emphasizes the importance of choosing projects that bring joy and excitement. Laura also touches on the concept of shame, referencing Brené Brown's work, and how it can impact our ability to start and continue projects.Brené Brown,  Seth Godin, Steven Pressfield, and Simon Sinek’s work has been instrumental for us as we learn and grow. There are many more, and we are sure to mention them in future episodes.  Laura finds Keith’s copy of James Victore's “Feck Perfuction” amongst his books and they go into a bit of an impromptu book club. Do you ever do that? Grab a random book, open to a random page, and see what the universe has to offer? Thanks for Joining Us.Here are a few quick links to select works we enjoy and find helpful. Again, there is so much more.●  Brené Brown, Daring Greatly● James Victore, Feck Perfuction ● Seth Godin, The Song of Significance ● Steven Pressfield, The War of Art● Simon Sinek, Start with WhyBiggest Takeaways:1. Start before you feel ready: Action often leads to motivation, not the other way around.2. Embrace your unique voice: Your perspective is valuable and needed.3. Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself as you navigate new territory.4. Use strategies like time blocking to make consistent progress.5. Remember that vulnerability can be a strength, especially in leadership.*In Residence with Keith and Laura*** The Overwhelm of Starting [Rerelease]** -  Episode 059(Recorded way back on 4/15/2023)🔊 LISTEN ON: 🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Overcast 🟠  Audible🔴  YouTube 📺 Full Episode Playlist📱 Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links*In Residence with Keith and Laura*** The Overwhelm of Starting [Rerelease]** -  Episode 059(Recorded way back on 4/15/2023)
Sensitive, Independent Partners and Friends [Remixed]
Sep 19 2024
Sensitive, Independent Partners and Friends [Remixed]
In this remixed episode, Keith and Laura explore how their partnership and support for each other has evolved over the years. As they continue to learn better ways to support, understand, and show up for each other; communication, curiosity and feedback continue to be instrumental in their journey.From dating to marriage to parenthood, Laura and Keith have become a team and best friends. Through shared experiences, they developed open communication, mutual support, and a willingness to grow together.Keith and Laura emphasize the importance of finding people and partners who can not only offer support, but also kindly challenge them to become their best selves. This delicate balance of accountability and support creates a safe space for to make mistakes and learn.Laura and Keith are sensitive, independent partners and friends. Learning to provide each other space while still being supportive, enables them opportunities to pursue their own interests, maintain their identities, and find tools to support each other. Open communication, mutual respect, and a commitment to personal growth, allows Keith and Laura to build and maintain a strong, lasting relationship. Together is the best way they’ve found to navigate life's challenges.Thanks for Joining Us.- - - **Sensitive, Independent Partners and Friends** [Remixed - IR-038] -  Episode 55🔊 LISTEN ON: 🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Overcast 🟠  Audible 🔴  YouTube 📺 Full Episode Playlist📱 Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links
Winning, Losing and Playing the Game
Sep 12 2024
Winning, Losing and Playing the Game
Keith and Laura delve into the nuanced world of sportsmanship, offering their thoughts on winning, losing, and the personal growth that can come with either experience. While listening to Seth Godin’s Akimbo podcast, Keith was reminded of a lesson learned in youth hockey. When his team was significantly ahead, the coach’s crucial lesson of working on skill development over running up the score, spoke directly to the question Seth was asking on his podcast: What’s the purpose of sports, especially in school settings?Laura talks about competing and more specifically how losing, can create drive and an ability to endure difficulties. Showing up, even when the odds of winning are low, like a parent-child tennis tournament, can create an opportunity to learn, improve, and grow. Facing adversity through competition can build resilience that serves us beyond beyond sports and games.Competition isn't just about winning; it's about growth and improvement. While it's natural to celebrate wins, it's equally important to acknowledge and learn from losses. Maintaining equilibrium, in both victory and defeat, fosters resilience and character development, preparing individuals for the ups and downs of life.Laura and Keith both agree on the importance of maintaining a balanced approach to competition. Using both victory and defeat as opportunities for personal growth and character development, we can build resilience that extends beyond sports and games and apply it to various aspects of our life.Recommendations for further learning, including a Mel Robbins podcast episode and Seth Godin's upcoming book "This is Strategy." How are you going to respond?Thanks for Joining Us.*In Residence with Keith and Laura***Winning, Losing and Playing the Game** -  Episode 054🔊 LISTEN ON: 🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Overcast 🔴  YouTube 📺 Full Episode Playlist📱 Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links
Back to School
Aug 29 2024
Back to School
In this episode, we discuss the importance of embracing both the excitement and nervousness that often accompany fresh starts. Keith recalls the excitement of possibility that comes with learning. Laura shares some experiences with anxiety and overthinking when starting something new. They are both huge nerds and love the thrill of new school (office) supplies.Both, Laura and Keith, reveal curiosities and passions that continue to cultivate and fuel their desire to learn and grow. They both love music and discovering the way different systems work. For those facing first-day jitters, whether in school or a new job, Keith and Laura suggest leaning into the possibilities of new situations and remembering to create and utilize and support systems self-care and kindness towards oneself during transitions to help us succeed.While new beginnings are sometimes challenging, they offer opportunities for growth, self-discovery, and renewed passion for learning. It's never too late to explore new interests or deepen existing ones. By approaching transitions with openness and self-compassion we can make the most of the exciting possibilities that lie ahead.Thanks for Joining Us.---**Back to School** -  Episode 052As the back-to-school season approaches, Keith and Laura reflect on the mixed emotions that come with new beginnings. 🔊 LISTEN ON: 🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Overcast 🔴  YouTube 📺 Full Episode Playlist📱 Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build LinksFusebox the podcast hosting and player we use. Check it out! 💻 *If you buy something using one of our affiliate links, we may receive a small commission.*
The Art of Patience
Aug 22 2024
The Art of Patience
Keith and Laura explore how patience can profoundly impact various aspects of their lives.This episode is a blend of practical wisdom and emotional resonance for those seeking to cultivate greater patience and balance in their lives. Intentional moments of stillness can create tension, drama, and ultimately, a more impactful and fulfilling experience.Keith is determined to develop the skill of pivoting between  patience and ambition. His tendencies towards perfectionism and hesitation highlight how we can all strive to be more patient with ourselves, acknowledging our limitations while also pushing ourselves to grow and achieve our goals.Laura notes how she and Keith have different ways of approaching processes. Laura is “more patient with people than the process.” She knows that rushing the process can lead to suboptimal results. Making time and allowing for processes to unfold naturally in our personal and professional endeavors can lead to better outcomes.Embrace the beauty of the pause. It's never too late to start a project, confront obstacles, pushing through setbacks, and ultimately complete your goal.Remember, the true power of patience lies not in passivity, but in the intentional, purposeful navigation of our personal and professional journeys. By learning to slow down, reflect, and trust the process, we can unlock our full potential and create meaningful, lasting change.Keith and Laura’s key take aways:● Communicate and set clear expectations to avoid frustration. ● Persisting through the challenges of a daunting task can cultivate fulfillment.Thanks for Joining Us.🔊 LISTEN ON: 🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Overcast 🔴  YouTube 📺 Full Episode Playlist📱 Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links*In Residence with Keith and Laura***The Art of Patience** -  Episode 051
Stories We Tell Ourselves
Aug 15 2024
Stories We Tell Ourselves
Keith and Laura dive into the powerful impact of the stories we tell ourselves.We all have stories we tell ourselves–some empowering, others limiting. Keith and Laura emphasize the importance of awareness, catching negative self-talk, and questioning the validity and usefulness of these narratives.A key takeaway is the concept of agency. We have the power to change our stories and, consequently, our lives. Laura and Keith share personal examples of overcoming self-doubt, highlighting the transformative effect of small, consistent steps towards growth.The conversation also touches on valuable tools for self-reflection, such as journaling and asking probing questions. These practices can help uncover underlying beliefs and motivations, paving the way for positive change.Laura shares a personal breakthrough of sharing about their podcast on social media, demonstrating how small actions can challenge limiting beliefs. Keith underscores the importance of community and support in personal growth journeys. Keith and Laura's candid sharing illustrates how vulnerability and openness can not only foster personal development but also inspire and help others.For listeners looking to delve deeper into this topic, the hosts recommend "Choose Your Story, Change Your Life" by Kindra Hall, a book that provides practical strategies for rewriting personal narratives.Overall, this episode serves as a powerful reminder that we are the authors of our own stories. By becoming aware of our internal dialogues and actively choosing empowering narratives, we can unlock our full potential and create the lives we truly desire.Thanks for Joining Us.*In Residence with Keith and Laura***Stories We Tell Ourselves** -  Episode 050🔊 LISTEN ON: 🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Overcast 🔴  YouTube 📺 Full Episode Playlist📱 Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build LinksFusebox the podcast hosting and player we use. Check it out! 💻*If you buy something using this affiliate link, we may receive a small commission. 🤗
Finding Resilience
Aug 1 2024
Finding Resilience
Keith and Laura explore how resilience shapes their personal and professional lives.Many of us struggle with the fear of the unknown, but there is value in embracing uncertainty. Stepping out of our comfort zones can lead to tremendous growth.Unexpected obstacles often force us to reassess our goals and strategies. Keith posits that “grace” is key to bouncing back when facing challenges. Laura’s self-care practice helps her overcome stressors. We both incorporate tools to maintain a positive outlook while adapting to change.While it's essential to pursue our goals with determination, it's equally important to recognize our limits and take time for rest and rejuvenation. We explore the balance between ambition and self-care. It’s crucial for maintaining long-term resilience and avoiding burnout.The concept of “micro-resilience"–the everyday acts of perseverance that build our overall resilience–reveals itself. Acquire various tools to support a more resilient mindset, and acknowledge challenging experiences, can transform setbacks into opportunities. Minimizing our struggles is not the point. And, we are often more capable than we know. Resilience is not about avoiding difficulties. It’s about developing the strength and flexibility to overcome them. By nurturing our resilience with grace and compassion, we can lead more fulfilling lives and achieve our goals, even in the face of adversity.Building resilience is a journey, not a destination. Embrace the challenges, learn from your experiences, and keep moving forward.Thanks for Joining Us. *In Residence with Keith and Laura***Finding Resilience** -  Episode 048🔊 LISTEN ON: 🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Overcast 🔴  YouTube 📺 Full Episode Playlist📱 Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links
Turning Regret into Growth
Jul 25 2024
Turning Regret into Growth
Keith and Laura dive into the complex relationship between worry, regret, and personal growth.After last week's recording, Laura mentioned the idea of "spending less time worrying and more time going after what we want." This idea stuck with Keith, and drawing inspiration from Daniel H. Pink's book "The Power of Regret," they explore how worry and regret can be leveraged for positive growth and change.We focus on adopting a "journey mindset," reframing regrets as opportunities, and recognizing that growth is an ongoing process rather than a destination. Instead of letting past mistakes hold us back, we can use them as stepping stones to better decision-making and personal development.Both Laura and Keith harness the powerful tool of journaling for processing thoughts and emotions. Keith shares his unique journaling framework, focusing on four key areas: shadow, environment, light, and focus (SELF). This structured approach helps provide clarity and direction when journaling, or facing challenges and uncertainty. When Laura journals, she asks herself, "what does my soul need to hear today?" and her pen flows.We also touch on the power of normalizing difficult emotions by recognizing that others face similar challenges. Pink's emphasis on self-disclosure through writing or speaking with others was Keith's biggest takeaway from "The Power of Regret." Laura highlights the crucial role of support networks in personal and professional growth. Whether it's mentors, colleagues, or friends, having people to turn to for advice and perspective can make a significant difference in navigating difficult situations and overcoming self-doubt.Everyone is on their own journey. By embracing our regrets, seeking support, and maintaining a growth mindset, we can turn our most challenging experiences into opportunities to keep leaning in like the leaders we are, on the journey we want.Thanks for Joining Us.**Turning Regret into Growth** -  Episode 047🔊 LISTEN ON: 🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Overcast 🔴  YouTube 📺 Full Episode Playlist📱 Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links**Turning Regret into Growth** -  Episode 047
Embrace Simple Joys Without Guilt
Jul 18 2024
Embrace Simple Joys Without Guilt
In this episode, we dive into the delicate balance between productivity and life's simple joys. Keith and Laura discover a key theme emerging in their lives: the importance of incorporating simple pleasures into everyday life. Rather than postponing joy for some idealized future, we acknowledge the power of choosing to bring elements of our envisioned future into the present. It's always a good time to reflect on long-term goals, and if possible, do something now to move one step closer.Laura shares her recent experience participating in a tennis tournament with Child 1, reflecting on the challenges and rewards of revisiting a long-dormant hobby. Keith explores the pressure to always be doing something useful. Both Laura and Keith had been feeling under the weather (yes, again), which leads to a discussion on the importance of self-care and the guilt often associated with taking time away from work to rest.Finding time to play and relax sparks a broader conversation about rediscovering past interests and finding new meaning in them as adults. Keith and Laura examine their own habits around sports, video games, puzzles, and social media use, not to mention the potential pitfalls of platforms like Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok.Our lives can often feel hectic, which is why practicing self-compassion, finding moments of relaxation, and embracing simple joys are essential for overall well-being and productivity.- - -● How do you shift your mindset to embrace leisure without guilt?● What simple joys or past hobbies have you neglected in pursuit of productivity, and how might reintroducing them improve your overall well-being?● If you could live one day exactly as your idealized future self would, what activities or habits would you incorporate, and what's stopping you from implementing some of those now?Thanks for Joining Us. - - - In Residence with Keith and Laura**Embrace Simple Joys Without Guilt** -  Episode 046🔊 LISTEN ON: 🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Overcast 🔴  YouTube 📺 Full Episode Playlist📱 Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links
What Grows Together Goes Together
Jul 11 2024
What Grows Together Goes Together
Keith and Laura dive into the age-old saying "what grows together, goes together," applying this gardening wisdom to the realm of relationships. Our shared passion for learning and personal growth has been a cornerstone of our partnership. However, we must acknowledging the challenges that come with evolving together and the delicate balance of growing as individuals within a relationship. We cannot emphasize enough, the importance of communication, self-awareness, and a willingness to change and adapt.We share personal strategies for dealing with uncomfortable growth, such as reflection, reframing, and clearly identifying goals. Laura introduces the idea of growing apart and the role of proximity in relationships. Keith notes that while physical closeness is important, modern technology has reshaped long-distance connections, opening up new possibilities for maintaining relationships across distances.Laura’s approach to having difficult conversations, framing them as giving a "gift" of honesty and clarity to the other person is powerful for any relationship. Whether you're in a romantic partnership, a close friendship, or simply on a journey of self-improvement, we’re here navigating the complexities of long-term relationships and personal development.How do you handle growth and change in your relationships? What strategies have you found helpful? We'd love to hear your thoughts.Thanks for Joining Us. ---**What Grows Together Goes Together** -  Episode 45Keith and Laura discuss relationships and personal growth. 🔊 LISTEN ON: 🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Overcast 🔴  YouTube 📺 Full Episode Playlist📱 Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build Links
Navigating Work, Relationships and Personal Growth
Jul 4 2024
Navigating Work, Relationships and Personal Growth
Keith and Laura discuss viewing life holistically rather than as separate segments. They explore the idea of creating a "recipe" for a fulfilling life, with various aspects serving as ingredients; work, family, hobbies, relationships, etc.Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, reframing perspectives, developing tools and leveling up skills to navigate life's challenges. As we explore the idea of helping others find their own path to a fulfilling life, we acknowledge that we don’t have all the answers. But, we are determined to be curious as we keep moving forward to better understand our goals. Morning routines, journaling, and other practices help Laura and Keith manage stress and stay focused. The importance of balancing personal time and shared experiences in their relationships is key, especially the challenges of managing work-life balance as parents.Moving in between the components of life is the hard work. Work that is worth doing on our way to living a robust, fulfilling, and meaningful life. Keep exploring what works for you and collecting practical tips and tools for personal growth and fulfillment.Thanks for Joining Us. ---**Navigating Work, Relationships and Personal Growth** -  Episode 44Keith and Laura discuss navigating work, family, and personal growth. 🔊 LISTEN ON: 🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Overcast 🔴  YouTube 📺 Full Episode Playlist📱 Shorts Playlist⚫️  Make Create Build LinksOur affiliate link to Fusebox, the podcast hosting and player we use. Check it out! 💻
Acknowledge and Celebrate Wins
Jun 20 2024
Acknowledge and Celebrate Wins
Keith and Laura discuss slowing down so they can recognize,  acknowledge and celebrate wins, both big and small. Laura likes to celebrate. She wants to focus on pausing after a project is completed to acknowledge and recognize people's work. Keith enjoys downtime and relaxation after a project is finished, but doesn't find himself pulled towards celebrating–something for him to explore.Celebrating accomplishments is important in both personal and professional relationships. Understanding people's expectations and celebration styles will lead to better, more balance experiences , and success. Investing in supportive and reflective practices fosters relationships that thrive.Laura and Keith have different styles and expectations for celebration. But, they can both agree on the importance of acknowledging accomplishments. Investing in communication, managing expectations and celebrating authentically is crucial in their relationship(s). Keep making time and space for your team to celebrate. Thanks for Joining Us. ---**Acknowledge and Celebrate Wins -  Episode 42**🔊 LISTEN ON: 🟣  Apple 🟢  Spotify 🔵  Amazon 🟠  Overcast 🔴  YouTube ⚫️  Make Create Build Links- - -▾ Select works and resources we enjoy and find helpful ▾● Kindra Hall, ”The Story Edge: How Leaders Harness Power Stories to Win in Business”● Paul Scheer, ”Joyful Recollections of Trauma"● Dixit Board Game, Storytelling Game for Kids & Adults- - - Fusebox the podcast hosting and player we use. Check it out! 💻If you buy something using one of our affiliate links, we may receive a small commission.* 🤗