The Rabbi and The Shrink

Rabbi Yonason Goldson and Dr. Margarita Gurri, CSP

What do you get when you cross an Orthodox hitchhiking rabbi and a Catholic Cuban psychologist? An unpredictable conversation about everyday ethics and the secrets for successful relationships in business, family, and community. Contact us with questions and comments: http://therabbiandtheshrink.com/ Podcast@TheRabbiandTheShrink.com

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Archive Episode #20: The Ethics of Communication w/ Susan Rooks
3d ago
Archive Episode #20: The Ethics of Communication w/ Susan Rooks
Does thought influence language of does language influence thought?Is it worth the risk to offer constructive criticism?Can you set high standards and remain respectful when others fall short?Discover the answer to these and other highly relevant questions as Grammar Goddess Susan Rooks joins The Rabbi and the Shrink  The importance of preserving the integrity of languageWe are what we say and what we thinkLanguage is only as perfect as how we use itObjective vs. subjective perception8:00 Words are free, but it’s how you use them that costsWe get defensive when we don’t like what we hear“You can do [even] better”11:00  It’s risky to offer correction or disagreeStart with a smileYou can have high standards and still be pleasantSmile at strangers16:30  What’s the effect of grammar mistakes?The power of positive speakingTechnology can bring us closer togetherAccept people for where they are coming fromLook for the nobility in others25:00  We’ve become more abruptWe have a responsibility to choose our words carefully30:00 Be curiousWhen you hear an accent, adjust expectations“You’ll see the robot in the street”33:00 Onomatopoeia -- a word that sounds like what it isIn Hebrew the same word means “word” and “thing”Respecting the meaning of words is respecting reality36:00 How do we further meaningful discussions that increase understandingListen to learn, not to respondEverybody knows something you don’tThe sages teach:   Who is wise? One who learns from every person39:00 How do you keep words freshStrike a balance between tradition and progressionWhy can’t our language be poetic and elegant while preserving the integrity of words?43:30  Should some of us impose usage on others?Orwell’s vision of thought control through speech controlChoose to speak respectfullyAll content © 2022 The Rabbi and The Shrink.
Archive Episode #20: The Ethics of Communication w/ Susan Rooks
3d ago
Archive Episode #20: The Ethics of Communication w/ Susan Rooks
Does thought influence language of does language influence thought?Is it worth the risk to offer constructive criticism?Can you set high standards and remain respectful when others fall short?Discover the answer to these and other highly relevant questions as Grammar Goddess Susan Rooks joins The Rabbi and the Shrink  The importance of preserving the integrity of languageWe are what we say and what we thinkLanguage is only as perfect as how we use itObjective vs. subjective perception8:00 Words are free, but it’s how you use them that costsWe get defensive when we don’t like what we hear“You can do [even] better”11:00  It’s risky to offer correction or disagreeStart with a smileYou can have high standards and still be pleasantSmile at strangers16:30  What’s the effect of grammar mistakes?The power of positive speakingTechnology can bring us closer togetherAccept people for where they are coming fromLook for the nobility in others25:00  We’ve become more abruptWe have a responsibility to choose our words carefully30:00 Be curiousWhen you hear an accent, adjust expectations“You’ll see the robot in the street”33:00 Onomatopoeia -- a word that sounds like what it isIn Hebrew the same word means “word” and “thing”Respecting the meaning of words is respecting reality36:00 How do we further meaningful discussions that increase understandingListen to learn, not to respondEverybody knows something you don’tThe sages teach:   Who is wise? One who learns from every person39:00 How do you keep words freshStrike a balance between tradition and progressionWhy can’t our language be poetic and elegant while preserving the integrity of words?43:30  Should some of us impose usage on others?Orwell’s vision of thought control through speech controlChoose to speak respectfullyAll content © 2022 The Rabbi and The Shrink.
#69 Lucille Ossai - Communicate with Grace
Aug 4 2022
#69 Lucille Ossai - Communicate with Grace
How can we solve problems of communication when we aren't even aware of them?How do we turn authenticity from a cliché into a mindset?Is it hypocritical or authentic to present myself as the person I want to become?These and other contemporary questions are addressed when award-winning communication guru Lucille Ossai joins The Rabbi and the Shrink. yourself in the shoes of your audience to create connection with them.What's the difference between simple and easy?Body language cues us to be more aware of our own verbal communication.Don't be afraid to ask for clarification.What are Dialogues of the Deaf?How body language triggers confidence in yourself and a positive impact on others.Authenticity misapplied can become incivility.It's authentic to be aspirational.Have the end in mind when you know where you're going.  The courage of curiosity leads us on a journey of discovery that can lead to wonderful destinations we never imagined.What are the impediments to effective communication?Great leaders need to be great communicators.Gratitude and appreciation forms the bonds of mutual respect and trust that facilitate communication.We have to be aware of the message we might be projecting even if we have no intention of doing so.The word of the day:  euphonyagreeableness of sound; pleasing effect to the ear, especially a pleasant sounding or harmonious combination or succession of wordsOur style of speech established credibility, trust, and connection so the message will be received.Give yourself permission to be yourself.
#67 Commander Mary Kelly - Ethical Battle Plans
Jul 21 2022
#67 Commander Mary Kelly - Ethical Battle Plans
Should we be more afraid of pit bulls or chihuahuas?How do the rules of the war room apply to the rules of the boardroom?What are the six phases of crisis response?These and other compelling questions are addressed when retired Naval Commander Mary Kelly joins The Rabbi and the Shrink. can we transform our daily professional lives in five minutes a day?Every morning ask yourself:  “What does my leadership need to look like today?”Leadership skills prepare us to default to the right decision amidst chaos and confusion.Proximity to greatness makes us great.What are the ethics of self-sacrifice vs. scapegoating?Use the Socratic method to correct bad behavior.Influencing through facts vs. emotions.Civility allows us to disagree while remaining friends.Leaders have to create commonality and channel emotions in a healthy way.Establish your reputation as a person of honor and integrity.Value individuals for who they are, not for assumptions we make based on their identity labels.The job of a team is to support decisions once they’re made even if we don’t like them.Choosing character over ideology is key to success.Earn trust and loyalty by admitting mistakes and take responsibility for them.How do we balance hierarchical structure against individual initiative?Word of the Day:  Martineta strict disciplinarian, especially a military one.someone who stubbornly adheres to methods or rulesSuccessful leaders demand high standards and respect while showing respect and earning trust.Kīnāʻole:  Do the right thing, in the right way, at the right time, in the right place, to the right person, for the right reason, and with the right feeling, the first time! In other words, “Just do the next right thing!”
Archive Episode #26 Marilyn Suttle - Success in the Palm of your Hand
Jul 14 2022
Archive Episode #26 Marilyn Suttle - Success in the Palm of your Hand
How do we do a better job handling it when we get flustered and defensive?How do we give and receive criticism in a way the builds trust and encourages improvement?What is the alternative to flight or fight that promotes cooperation and collaboration?These and other critical question for success in business and in life are answered when customer service maven Marilyn Suttle joins the Rabbi and the Shrink. Wellbeing and security are critical to a healthy work environment for workers and customersEthics creates a culture of trust, solid relationships, and loyaltyRaising trust increases expectations, which is a good thingDevelop the skill set to deal with difficult and unexpected situationsDifferent values and styles need to be accommodated6:00 Learned behavior is not easily unlearnedHow do we handle it better when we get flustered and defensive?We’re 100% responsible for 50% of every relationshipWe make assumptions about the facts, which may or may not be trueWe make up stories that create feelings by exploiting our unmet expectationsWhat outcome do we really want?Clear communication often defuses conflict before it happens.13:00 When we get into fight or flight, our biology hijacks our thinking and decision makingThe other option is a challenge response, which can focus and motivate usBeing honest make us vulnerable, which is frightening but creates the potential for closeness17:30 It’s all in the palm of your hand:First impressions -- eliminate the potential for annoyanceLast impressionManage high emotion momentsMarry yourself to your team and your customersMeasure and gauge -- feedback21:15 Value their time and ask only for meaningful feedback and use itHow do you respond to criticismRedirect attention toward the good to promote reframingTake responsibility and show appreciation27:00 Empower employees to address customer issuesHave someone to call to help you regain clarity31:00 Different perspectives generate an ethical view32:00 The word of the day:  pithyWe don’t want to reduce all ideas to soundbites, but we do want to be concise so our ideas have impact34:00 Happiness is a profound concept that come from being part of something important36:00 Tailor your customer care according to the needs of each customer37:00 Blaming, complaining, and making excuses are responses that will not lead to improvementThe difference between responding and reactingGet comfortable with silence or pausingCounting to 10 reboots your brainResist the pressure to fill empty space without thinking firstThe benefit of one, two, and three second pausesThe pauses are the most essential part of the classIt takes stress to allev
Archive Episode # 34 Scott Mason - Create a Circle of Laughter
Jul 7 2022
Archive Episode # 34 Scott Mason - Create a Circle of Laughter
Is it possible that we share responsibility for how others treat us?What signals are we sending out that promote or allow them to treat us badly?Can individuals with foundationally different values connect civilly and cordially?These and other profoundly relevant questions are addressed when speaker and podcast host Scott Mason joins The Rabbi and the Shrink. People are responding to alienation by seeking meaning and purposeProgress and purpose -- the source of happinessYou cannot pursue happiness3:00 Make connections to build communitiesLove emerges through giving and committing ourselves to a common purposeA flame gives without giving anything up We should influence one another in a way that we improve one another8:00 It’s a moral imperative to contribute light to the worldA lack of clarity or belief holds us backRecognize your gifts so you can give10:30 A leap into the unknown changed everythingA ride in the dark and the rain produced a service mindsetA new perspective brings new opportunitiesDo we listen when we hear “the voice”?The profound power of humility and opening ourselves to new possibilities16:30 Be Theseus -- meet the challenges that will make you a heroGet out of the comfort boxBuild a circle of laughter and joyWhy is a safe place a place of terror?21:00 Fight fear with fearThe power of shameRecover balance to make the right decision by looking down all roads23:00 Viewing the world as hostile makes us hostileEmbrace the challenges that are beyond our control and respond with what we can do with themRadical accountability turns us into positive extremistsWhat signals are we sending out that promotes or allows them to treat us badly?Is it possible that we share responsibility for how others treat us?32:00 Irreconcilable differences?Can individuals with foundationally different values connect civilly and cordially?Absolute truth is truth, regardless of whether we like it or understand itLiving in a world where we don’t all agree on truth, we have to recognize the sincerity and good intentions of those with whom we disagree37:00 Belief in our own soul is transformativeThe nature of the universe transcends our ability to comprehendRespect facts, logic, and reasonSeek commonality of belief and humanity before focusing on differencesDon’t be afraid of uncomfortable conversationsIf you personalize every belief, you will find it impossible to coexist with others who have different beliefsWe need to disagree honestly in order to grow and be willing to revisit our beliefs45:00 Befriending “adversaries” may bring us condemnation from our “allies”Every human being is deserving of basic respectMost of us are doing good things despite our shortcomings or errorsPrincipled compromise is not compromising our values49:00  We have to be able to connect and to leadLeadership is impossible without self confidence in who we are and what we believe55:00 Word of the day: gorgonizeWhen we look for the ugliness in others, we petrify our own hearts
Archive Episode # 27 Amanda "Jo" Erven - Speak the Truth, Even if your Voice Shakes
Jun 30 2022
Archive Episode # 27 Amanda "Jo" Erven - Speak the Truth, Even if your Voice Shakes
What's the single most effective way to avoid ethical pitfalls?Why are so many people afraid to talk about ethics?Has the world gotten less ethical?These and other critical questions for success are answered when ethics auditor Amanda "Jo" Erven joins The Rabbi and the Shrink. Amanda “Jo” Erven1:30 Changing one person’s mind contributes to a better worldIt’s hard to sell ethics because people don’t have a definition and are scared by the wordHave an ethics icebreaker Ethics may not be simple, but don't  have to be complicated6:00 Three ethical character typesThe Big MeThe Ethical RationalizerThe Everyday EthicistPeople who call themselves ethicists tend to be less ethical10:00 Unethical behavior encourages others to behave unethicallyCreate your own ethical value statement or mantraWe can’t change our circumstances except by changing ourselves14:30  Be ethically pro-active which is pro-selfToo many people don’t know their own values16:00 Where do we start to put ethics into action?We don’t have to be expertsSometimes we’re scared to do what’s right18:00 Individual, leadership, and organizational ethicsThe seven deadly ethical sins“Move fast and break things” mentalityDisingenuous leaders -- always speak the truth, even if your voice shakes20:30 Have things really gotten worse?We are definitely more self-absorbed todayWe don’t feel shame, but we rush to shame othersThe contradiction of AirBNB24:15 Beware of conflicts of your own interestEthics is threatened by fear and entitlementThe ethics of COVIDDan Ariely’s research: thinking of the 10 commandments makes us more honest28:30 Find your trusted advisorFacing and embrace your adversityTeaching surly students in Budapest, HungaryWhen we have to defend our behavior, we think more about our choices33:00 Doing the right thing feels really goodEthical discipline protects others and ourselves38:00 The word of the day:  miscreate -- to produce in a way that is defectiveGood intentions without disciplined execution can have disastrous results40:00 Everyone deserves a better-than-good life
Archive Episode #33 Daryl Davis- Hate and Harmony
Jun 23 2022
Archive Episode #33 Daryl Davis- Hate and Harmony
Why are we reluctant to "walk across the cafeteria" to start a conversation?What is the soundtrack to your life?Why don't books and history tell the whole story, and where should we turn to get it?These and other critical questions for building a harmonious world are addressed when award-winning musician and race reconciliator Daryl Davis joins The Rabbi and the Shrink. Music is a bridgeThe benefit of a global perspectiveLegal desegregation took years to take effectAttacked for being a Cub Scout?Learning about racism at age 10How can you hate me if you don’t know me?7:30 Responding to injustice and hate with genuine curiosityBreadth of experience provides perspective to moderate our responses10:00 Books and histories did not explain hateMeeting the head of the American Nazi Party as a high school studentThe coming race war?“Joining” the Nazi rally before the White HouseThe “rationalism” of white supremacy18:00 What happens when whites become the minority in the U.S.?What does the fear of that do to people?Charleston, PIttsburgh, El Paso22:30 A chance encounter with the KKKHere was the answer to the question28:00 We have to know who we areExposure to different cultures and ideologies make us broaderThe five values all humans want:Love, respect, to be heard, to be treated fairly, we want those values for our familiesA missed opportunity for dialogue is a missed opportunity for conflict resolution33:00  Meeting the Imperial Wizard of the KKKThe “noise”We all feel fear of the unknown, we are all relieved when that fear is removedWe hate what we don’t understand because it frightens usAwareness of our collective ignorance can bring us togetherEducation cures ignorance, which cures fear, which cures violence48:00 What can we all do to transcend and eliminate hate?Spend time listening to people to learn who they areDebate doesn’t bring people together; getting to know one another as human beings does53:45 Music contains the keyHarmony allows our differences to become a source of strength and unity57:00 The word of the day:  liminalof, relating to, or situated at a sensory threshold : barely perceptible or capable of eliciting a responseWhat if life had background music?Any moment can offer the opportunity to change our lives and our world
#63: Eliz Greene - Low Stress for Great Success
May 26 2022
#63: Eliz Greene - Low Stress for Great Success
What causes stress and what will relieve it?If work-life balance isn't the cause of our stress, what is?Can you reorder your stress environmentThese and other urgent questions for our personal well-being when anti-stress guru Eliz Greene joins The Rabbi and the Shrink. Lessons from cardiac arrest while carrying twinsA bubble of contentment protects us from tragedy and traumaWhere we want to be vs. where we need to beIt’s harder to watch someone you love going through uncertaintyDenying our pain can be fatalSubtle pain can be just as deadly as intense pain9:00 Gauging early warning signs against the fear of hypochondriaJob stress can have consequences at homeWhat causes stress and what will relieve it?Overwhelm and uncertaintyNOT work-life balance95% of our efforts are trying to solve the wrong problem15:00 Stress is good in crisis, but dangerous when chronicWe’re stressed about being stressedFirst responders are most at risk for stressPay attention to what you’re experiencing20:00 What we can do to release stressChanging focus relieves our cortisol levelThe power celebrating little victoriesThe time and place for stoicismProblem-solvers are vulnerable to difficult-to-solve problemsWonderful is not always relaxingUnreasonable expectations are the source of anxiety27:00  We don’t live in joy all the timeJoy vs. contentmentHow to keep stress outside my bubbleThe sticky note solutionCan you reorder your stress environmentEthics requires us to balance our responsibilities to others and to ourselvesWe can’t mortgage ours health for the benefit of the team32:00  We don’t do what we should because we know we shouldVisualize what-ifs and what-if-nots“I will because…”Meet the goal, know why it’s important, do it your own wayRebuke = validation, if it’s done the right way for the right reasonsThe power of reward systems47:00 The Word of the Day:  Averted visionWe perceive brightness and color through the cones that are concentrated in the fovea, the central part of the eye.  Fainter objects are more easily detected by the rods, which occupy the outer regions of the eye and perceive dim, monochromatic light.First alluded to by Aristotle, the phenomenon called averted vision allows us to process information by looking away from an object of interest, just as a filter makes it possible to study the nuances of the sun’s surface by eliminating the intense light that makes direct observation impossible.  Since the cones that make up the fovea register brighter light, we have to rely on the peripheral rods to capture subtleties of shading.  But that only works when we look away.We can overlook what’s right in front of us no matter how important it isConsequences live at the periphery of our visionLooking away can help us see more clearly
#61: Susan Fitzell - Brains are Wired Differently
May 12 2022
#61: Susan Fitzell - Brains are Wired Differently
Why do employees sometimes pretend to be someone they’re not?When is bending norms the key to a healthy culture?How do we avoid inadvertently projecting disrespect?These and other highly relevant questions are addressed when neurodiversity expert Susan Fitzell joins The Rabbi and the Shrink. The origins of neurodiversityAutism initiatives at StanfordExecutives and administrators were unprepared for working with the neurodiverse and neurodivergentAsking questions and listening to answers opens doors and possibilities5:30 Brains are wired differently from birthWe don’t always understand each otherAwareness and initiatives creates a vibrancy and multiplicity of perspective that sameness does notDyslexics as codebreakers10:00 We hire for diversity but train for samenessEfficiency often filters out talent and encourages a monolithic cultureWe make mistaken judgments because we don’t respect differencesYou will lose people because of harassment or mis-measuring16:30 We may unconsciously project messages we don’t intendCreate a user’s manual or bio-deck for each employeeMorning check-insHow accepting is our company cultureAre we providing options?“Masking” increases stressHow kung-fu changed Susan’s life26:00 The importance of asking for helpWhat do you do when you empty the transmission fluid instead of the oil?Managers need to ask for help and ask the right person for helpWe live in a world framed by a deficit mindset rather than a gift mindset36:00 How do we promote diversity?Address the issue to create the cultureFlexibility leads to success according to every metricConcrete strategies -- Slack, chat, phone, email, etc.Dress code flexibilityBrainstorm solutionsThe perception of unfairness or arbitrariness promotes an unethical culture48:00 The word of the day: Palimpsesta parchment or the like from which writing has been partially or completely erased to make room for another text.something that has a new layer, aspect, or appearance that builds on its past and allows us to see or perceive parts of this pastThe Mona Lisa and many layersOgres are like onionsThe importance of taking advantage of youth and remaining child-like in our learning
#60: Ron Carucci - Lead with Power and Purpose
May 5 2022
#60: Ron Carucci - Lead with Power and Purpose
What are the triggers, patterns, and conditions that set us up for failure?Why are we voyeurs of depravity rather than students of dignity?Why are good-hearted leaders not more successful?These and other critical questions are addressed when transformation guru Ron Carucci joins The Rabbi and the Shrink. The origins of truth, justice, and purposeWhy are good-hearted leaders not more successful?Truth-telling makes all the differenceTell the hero storiesWhere does knowledge take us?  That is the road to wisdom8:30 Why are we voyeurs of depravity rather than students of dignity?Stories of heroes inspire heroism in us11:00 Four preconditions for successBe true to who you are -- unfulfilled values are destructiveJustice and accountability -- measuring intangible contributions with integrityGovernance -- make decisions honestly and transparentlyCross-functional relationships -- seamless cohesion and conflict resolutionIf you’re good at all four, you’re 16 more likely to have a healthy and vibrant work cultureHonesty is not a trait, it’s a muscle20:00 It’s so obvious, why don’t people get it?Leaders believe these things will take care of themselves; THEY WON’T!Good intentions are a good start, but design is what makes them happenThe Jewish triad of truth, justice, and kindnessOur brains are hardwired for these values, if we don’t short-circuit them28:30 What’s one big first step?Start with you: be honest about your dishonestyKeep a journal of where your behavior needs improvementWhat are the triggers, patterns, and conditions that set me up for failure?32:00 The word of the day:  Casuistry (/ˈkæzjuɪstri/ KAZ-ew-iss-tree) a process of reasoning that seeks to resolve moral problems by extracting or extending theoretical rules from a particular case, and reapplying those rules to new instances. This method occurs in applied ethics and jurisprudence. Commonly used as a pejorative to criticize the use of clever but unsound reasoning, especially in relation to moral questions (as in sophistry)Fact-driven decisions, not decision-driven facts
#58: David E. Marlow - Uncover Your True Essence
Apr 21 2022
#58: David E. Marlow - Uncover Your True Essence
What is your reason for getting up each morning?Why are distraction and FOMO so dangerous to our well-being?How is the media consciously sabotaging our efforts for success?These and other highly relevant questions are addressed when David E. Marlow, the Ikigai Guy, joins The Rabbi and the Shrink. What is Ikigai?Your reason for getting up in the morningLiving in the moment of doing what you are uniquely created to doDoors open naturally when we are aligned with our true purpose4:00 Is this different from living according to God’s will?Living your essence in the best way you canDisintegration is the opposite of integrityFinding our balancing point between focus on our higher purpose and focus on our community9:00 What is MOAI?Connection to family, friends, and community11:00 How David found his IkigaiWhat came to him in a dreamLooking back, we see how seemingly disconnected events are connected by a common threadThe blessing of Providence and serendipity appear when we pay attention20:00 What to do if you feel you’re wasting your lifeThe power of self-reflection and monotaskingDistraction and FOMO destroy productivity27:00 More views, less newsSet priorities and eliminate noiseDon’t let the media manipulate you and steal your timeFeeling alive vs. true livingWe uncover rather than discover our true selves38:00 The word of the day:  hedonic adaptationthe return to our emotional default settings that follows experiential peaks and valleysWe conflate pleasure with happinessIt’s not moments of elation but the differentiation between states of beingLottery winners are no happier than paraplegics45:00 Start small to go bigInvest in yourself and believe that your essence is there waiting for you to uncover itBegin working to define your purpose
#57: Dr. Melissa Hughes - Train Your Brain to Succeed
Apr 14 2022
#57: Dr. Melissa Hughes - Train Your Brain to Succeed
What do you do to be a bad boss?What’s the greatest gift you can give?Would you talk to another person the way you talk to yourself?These and other fascinating questions are addressed when Brain Science maven Melissa Hughes, Ph.D. joins The Rabbi and the Shrink. Knowing our past gives us a sense of direction for the futureFrom 4th grade teacher to neuroscience researcherWe all have access to information; how are we using it?6:30  What do you do to be a bad boss?Traditional hierarchy vs. teamsPsychological safety and Maslow’s hierarchy of needsWe all want to feel that we belongInnovation is all about challenging the status quo“This is how we do it” vs. “Can we do it better?”11:00 Who is wise?  One who learns from every personWe have to know what works, but also what doesn’t workObstacles vs. challenges:  the brain loves challengesLeaders who listen to employees create a culture of problem solving15:00 The best way to learn is to teachWe all teach and we all learnWe all contribute and we’re all recognizedThe brain doesn’t differentiate between physical and emotional threatsDiversity of perspective leads to full understandingWhat’s the greatest gift we can give?19:30  When we contribute we fee ownership and controlPatterns and self-fulfilling propheciesWe notice what we’re looking forWould I talk to another person the way I talk to myself?Showing gratitude benefits us more that the object of our appreciation 25:00 The brain’s bouncerThe brain let’s in what we tell it to29:30  The word of the day: Adumbrativeserving to foreshadow; faintly indicativeWe create our own reality through our experiences, habits, and expectations
#56: Cordelia Gaffar - Experiment with Joy
Apr 7 2022
#56: Cordelia Gaffar - Experiment with Joy
Why do we choose not to be clear?Are we flawed or are we human?How does nurturing ourselves benefit our businesses?These and other urgent questions are addressed when joyful living guru Cordelia Gaffar joins The Rabbi and the Shrink.  The value of joy-mongering and joy-bondingElevate our interactions rather than being transactionalJoy is a function of growth, progress, purpose and connectionOur vocabulary creates our worldHow joy addresses the lack of trust in businessThe corrosive effect of tracking software9:00 How nurturing ourselves benefits our businessesDifferent kinds of rest, diet, and exercise are essential to a joyful dispositionEmotions and thoughts influence and are influenced by our state of beingWe have more control over thoughts than feelings and most control over our actions14:00 Doubt, frustration, isolation, powerlessness depress our attitude and performanceThe complexity of “safe spaces”Culture flows top-down, modeling trusting behavior promotes a culture of trustExperimentation is the human condition19:00 Clear communication leads to productive cooperation and collaborationWhy do we choose not to be clear?We have to know who we are and who others areAre we flawed or are we human?Vulnerability promotes trustAlly-ship and followershipThe value of silence29:00 The word of the day: sesquipedalian polysyllabic; long.characterized by long words; long-winded.We need to communicate in a way that strikes a balance between concise and thorough
#55: April Shprintz - Winning Through Generosity
Mar 31 2022
#55: April Shprintz - Winning Through Generosity
#55 Winning through generosity w/ April ShprintzHow do you make the leap from damage control to prevention?What question should leaders be asking themselves?What is the ROI of generosity?These and other transformational questions are addressed when generosity guru April Shprintz joins The Rabbi and the Shrink. What are magic blue rocks?We don’t always recognize how we can inspire othersMindset makes all the differenceThe power of authentic storytelling6:30 The belief that life can be differentWe can feel shame for circumstances beyond our controlWhen generosity becomes a reflex, it means nothing to us but everything to othersWe don’t see what grows from the seeds we sowIn order to serve others, we have to see the bigger picture14:15 Things in life happen for you, not to youWorking on how you view the world is the best thing you can do for yourselfWhat’s with the leopard print?Dressing your truthThe sages’ lesson from the animal world21:00  The ROI of generosityPour into your people, your clients, and your communitySymbiosis survives and thrivesWhen leaders don’t recognize their own resourcesWhat are The 5 Questions?27:00  Leaders need to ask themselves:  is your culture healthy?The consultant as a member of the pit crewHow do you define “leader”?Generosity should be a no-brainerPeople who guard their “secret sauce” may have little that’s actually worth guardingWe’re in business to make ourselves obsolete32:00 Is generosity a hard-sell?When people are ready, then it becomes easy to show them the solutionMake the leap from damage control to preventionYou don’t have time?  You don’t have time not to!Firemen are sexier than building inspectors36:00 The word of the day:  Effluencethe action or process of flowing out; efflux.something that flows out; emanation.Effluence is close to affluence -- when we pour into others, we serve ourselves as well