Daddy Issues We have all heard the term, “Daddy Issues”, but how does the relationship with your father really affect you?  Is it possible to not be affected by an unhealthy relationship with your father? How do you separate “daddy issues” from a problematic relationship? What should you do, if you find yourself repeating the same problems relationally? These are the type of questions explored on this podcast episode, and have plagued the lives of countless women.  We don’t decide the family we are born into; however, as adults, we can choose how we deal with the challenges we experienced growing up. Whether your father was absent, inconsistent, or physically present but emotionally disengaged, there is no escaping the influence of a father’s relationship.  In this podcast episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Jonetta Rose Barras, pioneering author of What Happened to Daddy’s Little Girl and founder of Esther Production.  More about Jonetta Rose Barras Jonetta rose barras found her voice, experiencing life as a poet, fiction writer, performing artist, and community organizer. Along the way she became a magazine feature writer, investigative reporter and contextual journalist. Her strength remains her ability to connect for the public seemingly unrelated issues, enabling them to better understand the impact public policy, politics and culture in America have on their lives. She is a best-selling author and award-winning journalist, jonetta rose barras is a Washington, DC institution. She has written investigative reports, breaking news stories and opinion editorials for many of the media organizations in the nation’s capital: The Washington Post, The Washington Examiner, The Washington City Paper and The Washington Times. She currently writes a weekly column for the online news site THEDCLIne.org. She also works with Esther Productions Inc., a national nonprofit organization based in Washington, DC. It is dedicated to inspiring and empowering fatherless girls and women.jonetta is dedicated to living her life with compassion, passion and without training wheels.Stay Connected Don’t forget to subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast on your favorite streaming platform, and follow Dr. Nic Hardy on Instagram at @nichardy_. You can also subscribe to Dr. Nic Hardy’s Youtube Channel. Where you can watch the full episode.

Talking about your spouse’s health can be a sensitive topic. This is an ongoing battle that most of us deal with personally; therefore,  understanding the ins and outs, and challenging outdated beliefs is essential.  If you want to learn how to address this topic without creating an unsafe environment, tune in to this episode on the Untherapeutic Podcast. In this episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Psychologist and Food Relationship Strategist, Dr. Ebony Butler.  Dr. Ebony provides timeless insight on how to address important topics around health, the influence of culture, understanding the origin of our own beliefs, and productive strategies that can facilitate healthy conversations around health. Dr. Ebony is also the creator of the My Therapy Cards, first-ever self-exploration card deck for Black women and other women of color. You can follow Dr. Ebony online at drebony.com or you can follow @drebonyonline.  Also, don’t forget to subscribe to the Untherapeutic podcast on your favorite streaming platform and follow Dr. Nic Hardy online at @nichardy_.  Looking to improve communication in your relationship – visit communicationhurdles.com today and invest in your personal growth.  Interested in counseling and live in the state of Texas – visit nichardy.com  More About Dr. Ebony Ebony Butler, PhD is a Licensed Psychologist and Food Relationship Strategist who has made it her mission to help women of color heal and thrive in the areas of trauma, including racial trauma and recovering from food and body trauma experienced through diet culture. Dr. Ebony works alongside women to help them develop skills that increase their relationships with others, themselves, and their bodies. Aligning with her passion to break through barriers that make it difficult for Black people and other people of color to access quality mental health care, Dr. Ebony created My Therapy Cards®, the first-ever self-exploration card deck for Black women and other women of color. Since its launch in May 2020, Dr. Ebony has expanded the card deck to include a Teen Edition and Men's Edition. The expansion of this resource has made self-insight and discovery work more accessible and affordable!  As a result of her trailblazing work, Dr. Ebony has been featured across several media platforms including Revolt TV, The Real Talkshow, PopSugar, and other news outlets from Florida to New York. Dr. Ebony is an experienced speaker, consultant, and course creator. Her work centers around empowerment and representation within the field of mental health for people of color, with particular interests in addressing barriers and increasing resources for Black communities.

When we are active, not only do we lead healthier lives, but our energy level increases, mood improves, and we are able to grow our self-esteem and confidence. Although, getting the motivation to exercise can be difficult. Work. Busy schedule. Competing priorities. Fear and Embarrassment. Exhaustion. The list goes on…. It’s not always easy, but now more than ever, is it critical to invest in your health.  Furthermore, when we feel good about ourselves, how we interact with others is positively impacted.  In this episode of Untherapeutic, I am joined by Willie Cruz, Director of Performance for the Houston Rockets.  With years of experience training professional athletes and peak performers, Willie knows what it takes to break through barriers and establish a healthy routine.  Willie also offers a number of practical tips to accurately assess your progress, and overcome the comparison trap that keep many of us from finishing our race. Don’t forget to subscribe to the Untherapeutic podcast on your favorite streaming platform, and follow on Instagram @nichardy_.  You can also find Willie on Instagram @williecruz20We all know the benefits of exercise and maintaining an active lifestyle. However, getting the motivation to workout, and overcoming mental limitations can pose a challenge

Dating can be difficult. Dating when you have a career that is public facing can be extremely difficult. When our professional lives are also public, how do we maintain privacy? How do you determine if someone is in to you, or who they believe you are? How do you create boundaries, and determine what to share and what not to share? In this episode of Untherapeutic, I am joined by Tessa Barrera cohost of Houston Life and cohost of the @rodryanshow. Tune in to this episode as Tessa answers many of the tough questions about dating in the public eye. Tessa shares stories from her personal dating experiences, and what she has learned throughout her professional career. If your professional career places you contact with a lot of people, this is a must listen.  Learn the dos and don’ts to consider when vetting a potential partner, and ways your spouse can be supportive with those you interact with.   Watch the full episode on the @drnichardy Youtube channel and don’t forget to follow, like and subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast online at @nichardy_.   You can also follow Tessa online @Tess1tess2

If you are in a relationship or have considered being in a relationship, social media has played a role in some way.  With access to “ex’s”, past relationships, and endless exposure to the lives of our peers, it makes sense why social media is the reason a lot of relationship fail.  Since social media is a part of our lives, , it’s best to learn how to manage it in a healthy way. In this episode of Untherapeutic, I am joined by Karen De Amat, CEO of Social Behavior – a full-service Social Media Marketing Agency. This podcast episode addresses many of the controversial topics found in relationships and on social media:   ·      Does it mean anything if my partner doesn’t post pictures of our relationship? ·      What if you are dating a “private” person and they choose not to post certain aspects of your relationship? ·      What does it mean when we like, follow, or comment on pictures? ·      What if your spouse is comparing or competing with others they see online? If social media has ever been a problem in your relationship, or if you and your spouse ever argued over what’s okay and what’s not okay, make sure you listen to the latest episode. Don’t forget to subscribe to Untherapeutic on your favorite streaming platform, and follow us on Social Media at nichardy_. Also, subscribe on your Youtube channel @drnichardy as well to listen to more episodes and to receive new content from Dr. Nic Hardy If you are having trouble with communication in your relationship, and need to get to the bottom of your problems. Purchase the communication hurdles course, and learn how to overcome common obstacles like appreciation, not feeling heard, safety, resentment, and growing apart. To learn more, visit communicationhurdles.com

Discrimination at work is stressful. It’s sometimes subtle, and the signs are not always obvious.  Even when discrimination is not the case, if you have experienced it in the past, it’s impossible to exclude that possibility. However, when dealing with problems at work, most of us don’t have someone that can coach us through the process. If we do, is this someone you can trust and be truly honest with? In these situations, it’s easy to feel isolated, alone, and question our own ability. Secondly, it’s easy to second guess your own beliefs and wonder if your experiences are in fact real, or worthy of addressing.  • Am I being too sensitive?• Is my boss discriminating against me or does he just not okay with my work performance ? • Did I miss out on the promotion because the other person was more qualified, or was I overlooked because of how I look? • Do I have difficulty establishing relationships, or am I not willing to kiss As%& and be fake around others? We spend a 1/3 of our day at work, and therefore, what happens on the job, impact us at home, in our relationships, and in every aspect of our lives.  Listen to the latest Untherapeutic Podcast episode with Zella Life founders Remy Meraz and Julian Lewis. Zella Life is a cutting-edge coaching platform and closes the development gap for diverse talent and middle management.  Their company provides 1-on-1 & group coaching for both leadership and talent, and gives individuals the skills and resources to excel professionally.  If you are serious about investing in the talent in your company, ZellaLife is the way to go. The results they achieve are unbelievable. To learn more about Zella Life or if interested in partnering with this amazing company, please visit their website at Zellalife.com   Don't forget to follow Untherapeutic on social media:Instagram: @ nichardy_  Youtube: Drnichardy Facebook: Nichardycounseling

Is your job destroying your sex life? Do you give so much to growing professionally, that you overlook the potential consequence on our sex drive? Does your partner get the leftovers?   Is it your fault or are you the victim of an oppressive system that forces us to exhaust ourselves? Is it just how things are in a capitalistic society, or do we put more pressure on ourselves then necessary?  We hear a lot about sex and a lot of advancing our careers, but rarely, do we get the chance to hear about them together.  In this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Dr. Nicole Hargons, award-winning associate professor of counseling psychology at the University of Kentucky. Dr. Hargons is a thought leader in this field, and provides timeless insights to improve work-sex-life balance.  In this episode, Dr. Hargons answers common questions about what it takes to have a thriving sex life, even with a demanding job.  Whether you are trying to muster up the energy for your partner at night, or overcoming unhealthy stigmas around worthiness, this podcast episode is packed with timeless insights on sex, shame, worthiness, and unhealthy cultural norms that we have adopted.  Don’t forget to subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast on your favorite streaming platform and follow us on social media.  Instagram: nichardy_Facebook: nichardycounseling Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons About I am an award-winning associate professor of counseling psychology at the University of Kentucky, where I study sexual wellness and liberation. I host F*ck the System: A Sexual Liberation Podcast, as well as How to Love a Human, a liberation podcast that asks people with multiple marginalized identities what the world would be like if it loved them. I have published over 50 research articles and have been featured in HuffPost, Women's Health, Cosmopolitan, the New York Times. and elsewhere.Connect and Follow Dr. Hargons:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.candicenicole/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drcandicenicole/

How to Wait Well What does it mean to Wait Well?  When you have done everything you know to do, and still, nothing has happened – there is a tendency to question. Did I hear God correctly? Am I doing something wrong? Why others and not me? Is this even the Will of God for my life?  In the book Wait and See, author Wendy Pope shares timeless biblical wisdom on how to prepare for the future, when you experience discouragement and weariness about your present circumstance.  Instead of getting distracted with the “object of your wait, you can grow closer to the Person of Your faith” Wendy shares.  Regardless of what you are “waiting on to happen” in your life – a relationship, children, career opportunities, or a better outlook on life, Wendy touches on in her book and in this podcast episode.   About Wendy Pope The most important thing you need to know about Wendy is that she loves the Lord, and His Word with all her heart. She lives and serves in ministry everyday with the desire for every person to love the Lord and His life-changing Word.Wendy and her husband Scott have been married for thirty years. They have two amazing adult children, and one very cute Boykin Spaniel named Maxie. You can connect with Wendy online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendy_pope/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/WendyPopeOfficialWebsite: https://wendypope.org You can also purchase a copy of her phenomenal book Wait and See here. Don't forget to like and share the Untherapeutic Podcast with others. Also, for more information about Dr. Nic Hardy, please follow us on social media at nichardy_

What you believe is important, but what role does faith really have in our relationships.  Is it a deal breaker if two people don't share the same faith? What does it actually mean, when someone says, "equally yoked". What should people look for when they say their Faith is important to them?  Can it be used to restore relationships and overcome many of the challenges we experience on a daily basis.  In this episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Licensed Therapist, Rashad Skinner (LCSW).  Rashad is the founder and Executive Director of Sapphire Therapeutic Services, Inc. His non-profit agency has been working families by providing counseling and training for over a decade to preserve and improve the family unit for children. Prior to founding the agency, Rashad’s social work expanded to include helping clients in hospital settings, treating drug addiction in the criminal justice system, and with families involved in the child welfare system. He specializes in motivational interviewing, cognitive behavioral therapy, structuralism, and grief counseling. Rashad has bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Fisk University, and Master’s in Social Work. He is a Licensed Clinical Social Work Supervisor, DWI educator, and parenting instructor. To Learn more about Rashad and his practice, you can visit him online at http://www.sapphiretherapy.org/ or follow him on instagram @thats.helpful. Also, make sure you subscribe to Dr. Nic Hardy Youtube channel and follow online  @drnichardy ​

If you knew this 20 years ago, what would you do different in marriage? For anyone who is married, considering marriage, or interested in a long-term relationship, learning from those who have been in the trenches can sometimes be the best form of counseling.  However, what does it really take to be married for over 20 years… Sometimes we want to be "happily married after" but how many of know what it takes to go the distance in relationships. In this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Tasha and Neil Lyons from Love and Marriage DC on the OWN Television Network. The Lyons have been married for 20 years and share timeless advice on what it takes to thrive relationally. As high school sweethearts, Tasha and Neil discuss the highs and lows of their relationship, and timeless advice for others. Watch this episode and learn insider secrets to a lasting, healthy relationship.Neil and Tasha Lyons met and began dating their senior year in high school in the year 2000. They've been married for 16 years and have 3 amazing children from their union. The Lyons have a family real estate firm called The Lyons Den Group, which their oldest daughter, JaNeil is also a part of. Neil and Tasha were also a part of new reality TV show, Love and Marriage: DC on the OWN television network. They enjoy educating people on the power of homeownership and the financial rewards that come with it.  Make sure to follow them online @tajaly to connect and learn more about the work they are doing in the community and around the country. Follow Dr. Nic Hardy and the Untherapeutic Podcast on IG at nichardy_

If you have ever wondered whether or not you should go to therapy, or if the problems you are experiencing warrant talking to someone, then this episode is for you.  Join Dr. Nic Hardy, and Arron Muller, LCSW as they discuss the subtle signs if you are okay or not. Although we can “push through”, or maintain a “business as usual attitude”, the impact of what we experience in life can create problems in future relationships if we don’t get help.  If you are in a relationship with someone who needs to go counseling, or if they have tried to figure it out on their own, this episode may offer helpful tips on how to have that conversation in a productive way.  Make sure you subscribe to the Untherapeutic podcast, and follow us on Youtube, and social media.  Also, if you are positively impacted, make sure to leave us a review.  Follow Dr. Nic Hardy on all social media platforms:  Instagram: nichardy_ Facebook: nichardycounseling Twitter: nichardycs Youtube: @drnichardy  About Arron Muller Arron Muller, LCSW is the CEO and Founder of Modify Wellness, Inc a nonprofit providing mental health programming and education in NYC. Arron is also a School Social Worker and Adjunct Professor at Adelphi University School of Social Work. Arron Muller provides Individual and Couples counseling using a eclectic approach. Arron conducts stress and anxiety trainings for nursing schools, facilitates workshops at churches and colleges.  Arron holds a Master of Social Work degree from Adelphi University.He was also selected as the Expert Consultant for The Root.com’s topic on “Black Love”. Working in a predominantly female industry, he recognized the absence of black males in the field which led him to develop a network of Black Male Therapist from across the country whose membership is at 800 members.  He utilizes social media platforms such as Instagram, Facebook and Twitter to provide mental illness information and promote awareness to reduce stigma. Arron was highlighted as one of the “15 Black Male Therapists You Should Know” in the Huffington Post in 2017.  Also featured in Black Enterprise as BE Modern Man 100 Men of Distinction.  Arron has been a contributor to The Grio, Oprah Daily, News 12, Hot 97, THE DOCTORS, ABC News, Cosmopolitan and NY1. He was also featured on Vh1’s “Black Ink Crew” as the Resident Therapist.  One his most notable  projects was the launch of t-shirt line promoting Black Men seeking therapy which includes the empowering slogan, “Black Kings Need Therapy Too”. Arron facilitated the NYC Brothers Thrive- a conversation about mental health developed by Former First Lady Chirlane McCray of New York City to provide a forum for black men to have conversations about mental health. Arron’s mission is to change the stigma associated with mental health and therapy in the African American community by providing information, educating and providing low-cost services. Follow Arron online @theblack_therapist

The secret to happiness in our relationships is not always what we think.  More money, less arguments, more time together, better vacations, the list goes on of what we think will make us happy.  However, all too often, we focus on the wrong things and find ourselves consistently dissatisfied, both in life and in our relationships. We all want to be happy, but what does it really take? In this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Robert Mack, Positive Psychology Expert, Celebrity Happiness Coach, Published Author, and more.  Learn how you too can experience the joy of happiness, right where you are.  About Robert MackRobert Mack is an Ivy League-Educated, Positive Psychology Expert, Celebrity Happiness Coach, Published Author, and Television Host & Producer.His work has been endorsed by Oprah, Vanessa Williams, Lisa Nichols, and many others. In addition to serving as Celebrity Love Coach for Famously Single on the E! Network for two seasons, Robert also worked as Consulting Producer and On-Camera Expert for Mind Your Business on the OWN Network and Executive Producer and Host of Good Morning LaLa Land on Apple TV and Hulu.He has been featured on television shows like Good Morning America, The Today Show, CBS Morning Show, and Access Hollywood and in magazines like GQ, Self, Health, Cosmopolitan, Well + Good, and Glamour. Robert's first book, Happiness from the Inside Out: The Art and Science of Fulfillment, is celebrity-endorsed and critically-acclaimed. Follow Robert Online at Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/robmackofficialInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/robmackofficial/Twitter: https://twitter.com/robmackofficial Also, don’t forget to follow Dr. Nic Hardy online Instagram: nichardy_Facebook: nichardycounseling Twitter: nichardycs Youtube Channel: drnichardy

If you haven’t already, now is the time to binge on Season 1 and review the many great episodes from the Untherapeutic Podcast.  The first season is filled with timeless insights to help you relationally and in life.  In the meantime, don’t forget to subscribe to our new Youtube channel @drnichardy and follow us on social media. Instagram: nichardy_ Facebook: nichardycounseling Twitter: nichardycs Interested in a particular topic or interested in being a guest, feel free to send an email at nic@nichardy.com

Despite how much you love someone, it takes discipline to make a relationship successful.  One of the most important disciplines, is the discipline to establish healthy boundaries with those outside of your relationship. In this episode, I am joined by Anthony Flynn, CEO and Founder of Amazing CEO and execution expert.  In addition to growing multiple successful businesses, and coaching some of the worlds most renowned executives, Anthony’s greatest accomplishment is centered around his marriage and family.  Anthony has been a brother and mentor of mine for over 20 years, and I have personally watched him invest in the daily disciplines of safeguarding his marriage.  With an abundance of resources and global access, how does one practice in private what they preach publicly? How do you avoid pitfalls that have tripped some of the most powerful men in our society? When your relationship is less than perfect, your needs are not being met 100%, and no one is watching – how do you say No?  How to be Faithful in Marriage is a must listen to for anyone who desires to be committed in their relationship. If we are not intentional, disciplined and anchored, the temptation of our own selfish desires can negatively impact the ones we love most.  To learn more about Anthony Flynn, you can follow him online at @anthonyflynn_ac  or visit him at amazingceo.com

In this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by best selling author, Jayne Allen.  In her bestselling book, "Black Girls Must Die Exhausted", this novel takes readers on a true journey of what it means to live life, experience set backs and overcome obstacles along the way.   This book is a true must read.  This podcast episode of Untherapeutic is a behind the scenes discussion about the parallels of this novel, and the real-life journey of many professional, black women in today's society.  Infertility. Corporate America. Dating. Getting Older. Fear. Success. Everyday issues that have a real impact on our life, dating relationships, and the future we envision. Don't forget to subscribe on your favorite streaming platform, and to purchase a copy of this novel.  Please like, share on your social media, and follow Dr. Nic Hardy at @nichardy_ or visit online at nichardy.com or Untherapeutic.com. You can learn more about Jayne Allen on her website, and can follow her on instagram @jayneallenwrites

The older we get, the harder it is to remain optimistic about our relationship future, especially if we have experienced our fair share of failed attempts.  However, despite what’s occurring relationally, the importance of self-care, and maintaining a healthy perspective is vitally important. In this episode, I am joined by Bre Mitchell, founder of Brown Girl Self-Care, as we dive into the topic of how to avoid being cynical and not happy for others, through the practice of self-care. Bre Mitchell is the founder of Brown Girl Self-Care, an online platform and community created out of the need to make the self-care and wellness space more inclusive for Black women. As a survivor of depression, trauma and grief she wanted to provide uplifting and tips that centered the experiences of women who looked like her which is how Brown Girl Self-Care got started in 2018. Bre is a podcaster, community builder and self-care advocate who  cultivates wellness experiences and resources for Black women as an act of resistance against racism and systemic oppression. When not working you can find her tending to her balcony container, watching 80's movies with her daughter, on the couch with a great book and a glass of wine, or at the park getting her (slow) roller skating on.You can keep up with Brown Girl Self-Care on Instagram and Facebook @browngirlselfcare and also reach Bre at connect@browngirlselfcare.com Don’t forget to subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast on your favorite streaming platform today. To learn more about Dr. Nic Hardy, please visit untherapeutic.com or nichardy.com. You can also follow on Instagram at nichardy_#ApplePodcasts #Spotify #AmazonMusic

Has your spouse ever done everything right, but you still found yourself unsatisfied? Believe it or not, being unsatisfied in a relationship is not always because our spouse did something wrong. Is it them, or is it me?  This dilemma can lead us to misplace blame, or go in circles from one relationship to the next.  In this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Psychotherapist, Kamilah Thomas as she discusses our need to have “projects”, warning signs we shouldn’t ignore, trusting our better judgment, and what it means to actually settle.  Kamilah Thomas is a Licensed Psychotherapist, Clinical Supervisor, Private Practice Coach, and Entrepreneur with over 15 years of direct care and management experience. She earned her Bachelor of Arts degree in Criminal Justice with a minor in Psychology at the University of North Carolina-Charlotte, and her Master of Social Work degree at the University of Houston. Kamilah is currently the CEO and Clinical Director of KBT Counseling and Consulting, Houston’s premiere mental health group practice that specializes in working with individuals and families of color. In this role, she provides general oversight of administrative and clinical operations, supervises graduate level interns, and builds collaborations with community partners.You can follow Kamilah online at @kamilahthomas_lcsw For more information on Dr. Nic Hardy, please follow on Instagram at nichardy_. You can also visit Dr. Hardy at nichardy.com for counseling or at untherapeutic.com for more podcast episodes.   Don’t forget to subscribe on your favorite streaming platform today. #applemusic #spotify #iheartradio

What does self-doubt look like in a relationship? How does you questioning yourself, affect the person you are with? Can you really be supportive when you are questioning your own abilities?  When we think about imposter syndrome, we frequently overlook how it impacts us relationally.  However, the truth is, questioning yourself does more that interfere with your own path to success.  It also creates challenges for the person you are with, and their confidence in the relationship.  We have all experienced imposter syndrome, where we internally think we are “tricking” people or will be found out because we are a fake.  Although, it’s what we do with these feelings and thoughts that make all the difference.  On this episode of Untherapeutic, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Licensed Professional Counselor and Imposter Syndrome expert Kisha Walwyn-Duquesnay (Wall-Win-Doo-Kenny). Kisha has been a Licensed Professional Counselor for the last 10 years in Houston, TX and is owner of optimisticcounseling.com. Kisha helps career driven women beat Imposter Syndrome so they can feel worthy of the success they have achieved without the guilt. Over the last 10 years, Kisha has helped hundreds of women go from feeling undeserving, to feeling worthy of every good thing that comes to them. So that they can finally own all that they have done, all that they will do, and live the big full life they deserve. Kisha graduated from the University Of Mary Hardin-Baylor, with an M.A. in counseling and from the University Of North Texas, with a B.A. in sociology and double minor in psychology and counseling. Kisha is first generation Caribbean, born in Houston, Texas. Her mother is American. Her father was born in St. Kitts and raised in St. Croix, U.S. Virgin Islands. Kisha is married with a 1 year old daughter and 14 year old Pomeranian. To learn more about Kisha, you can follow her on Instagram at http://www.instagram.com/optimisticcounseling  visit her counseling practice, Optimistic Counseling. Don't forget to like and subscribe to the Untherapeutic Podcast on your favorite streaming platform, and follow Dr. Nic Hardy on Facebook at nichardycounseling or on Instagram @nichardy_.

When there are problems in a relationship, who doesn't want their partner to change?  In an ideal world, they would just "get it" and everything would be okay.  However, this is rarely the case, especially when two people believe the other person is at fault (which almost all the time). In her Amazon #1 Bestselling book, Dr. Abby Medcalf shares how we can change our relationship, even when our partner won't do a thing.  No longer do we have to wait for the other person to change in order for the relationship to improve.  Although most don't realize it, everything we need to improve the quality of our relationship is within reach. To learn more about Dr. Abby Medcalf, please visit her website, where she has tons of helpful resources.  She also has an incredible podcast called Relationships Made Easy. Oh, and don't forget to order a copy of her Amazon #1 Best Selling Book "Be Happily Married Even if Your Partner Won't Do a Thing". For more episodes, listen to the Untherapeutic Podcast on your favorite streaming platform. Also, follow Dr. Nic Hardy online at nichardy_.

When you don't feel heard, it's hard to explain. In fact, it can seem confusing and ambigous for those who are trying to understand and make sense of this problem. The truth is, this is one of the most common problems when it comes to communication in relationships. But what does it really mean to "not feel heard".  In this episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by relationship therapist Eboni Harris as they explore the subject of communication and how to hear your spouse in a way that is meaningful.  Untherapeutic the Podcast Don't forget to subscribe on your favorite streaming platform and like this podcast if you find it valuable. Also, feel free to send any questions or comments to Dr. Nic Hardy or follow online at @nichardy_ or at Untherapeutic.com About Guest Eboni Harris Eboni Harris is a licensed relationship therapist, keynote speaker, podcaster, and educator. She has been helping couples and individuals explore and heal their relationship patterns, childhood trauma, and unhealthy habits. Eboni helps her clients/audience understand and love the parts of them that create undesirable outcomes so they can transform those parts into extensions of who they know they are to their core.For over 10 years brands like Essence, Bustle, Cosmopolitan, and Self Magazine have considered Eboni an expert in relationships and sex. Although this is true, Eboni has found that she is truly an expert on love. Whether the topic self-love, romantic love, platonic love, or loving your life, Eboni is able to speak to how love is able to transform/motivate individuals to live the life they desire and create the relationships they deserve.Social Mediahttp://www.eboniharris.comhttp://www.facebook.com/eboniharrismahttp://www.twitter.com/eboniharrismahttp://www.instagram.com/eboniharrismahttp://www.youtube.com/user/EboniHarrisMA Melanin & Mental Healthhttp://www.melaninandmentalhealth.comhttp://www.facebook.com/melaninandmentalhealthhttp://www.twitter.com/melaninhealthhttp://www.instagram.com/melaninandmentalhealth