Many wives have a fear that their husband will have an affair. Many husbands have this exact same fear. Today, we are going to dive into some of the key take-aways from a book called "Anatomy of an Affair" by Dave Carder, to help us with this topic.
The author studied the elements that often lead up to an affair, and he outlines them in his book. Listen in, as we are going to list some of the things he suggests that we avoid thinking, feeling, and doing, in order to decrease our chances of an affair occurring. This list is not meant for us to become more critical of our spouse, or to accuse them of doing some of these things, or to assume they are having one.
The purpose of this list is to heighten our awareness... not of our spouse's behaviors, but of our own. What thoughts are we thinking? What feelings are we entertaining? What actions are we taking that might lead us down the path of having an affair? While we do list quite a bit of things we should NOT doing, we also list just as many things TO BE DOING, and ways to use our time, energy, and efforts to create a deeper connection with our spouse.