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Jen Oliver

I'm Jen, a white, cisgendered, straight-identifying, American-born woman with a history of Christian and conservative influences. My lived experience is one of solid economic security and educational privilege. All of this shaped the lens through which I viewed life for the majority of my adult years - and it created a comfortable echo chamber where “my existing views were neatly reinforced and alternative ideas were rarely considered…” This no longer works for me. I decided to pursue meaningful work, passion projects, and relationships that would serve as "antidotes to the echo chamber." This podcast is part of that work. Rather than put people in stereotypical boxes -  I want to grow more curious and openminded. This means listening deeply to another person’s story, especially those who differ from me. It means challenging my old paradigms and assumptions. I pursue this on a public platform because I want to see this mindset catch fire in our culture. My guests and I will spur listeners toward healthy, candid conversations, and deep LISTENING with and for the people  in their lives (especially those whom they don’t know). Thanks for being a part of this vision!

How a volatile past can lead to a successful future
Jul 9 2022
How a volatile past can lead to a successful future
Our guest: DEBORAH BROWN-VOLKMAN is a Career Optician who helps clients see new possibility in their career. Deborah believes that when you see your career differently, you are able to do things differently. As an author of several best-selling books, she taps into 20+ years of solid career coaching experience empowering 1,000’s of clients to find new jobs, new careers, and new ways of dealing with workplace challenges. Deborah has worked with clients in companies, including: Facebook, Google, Citibank, Bank of Singapore, Nautica, Verizon, and many others. She is a mix of data and intuition; both spiritual and practical. She dishes out tough love, while also creating a safe space for clients to talk, be understood, and be themselves. Connect with Deborah:Website: surpassyourdreams.com  LinkedIn: @ Deborah Brown-Volkman  Instagram @CareerOptician  Tiktok @CareerOptician   Great people, places, or things we referenced during this episode:WomanSpeak™ - The Art and Soul of Public Speaking Jen holds space for those who want to elevate and amplify their voice. If you desire support in speaking your truth and want to explore the ways you can work with Jen, let's connect: email: Jennifer@beingREAL.mewebsite: www.beingREAL.meInstagram @beingREALjenTikTok @beingrealjenFacebook @/beingREALcommunityIf you believe conversations like these belong in the world, please subscribe, rate & review this podcast - and even better, share it with someone else as a REAL conversation starter. Subscribe to all things Jen Oliver at beingREAL.
Burlesque as a form of therapy - not sexually charged entertainment.
Jun 26 2022
Burlesque as a form of therapy - not sexually charged entertainment.
Our guest: KELLITA MALOOF is a Performing and Teaching Artist and Soulful Conscious Burlesque Mentor.  She works at the intersection where burlesque dance meets depth psychology meets attachment theory meets individuation meets autoimmune recovery meets spirituality.  For over 20 years, Kellita’s been helping kind, soulful, highly sensitive helpers who’ve been over-editing, over-managing and over-giving – and are attracted to dance theater and expressive arts performance – to trust and express themselves with confidence, presence and radiance. She integrates into her work Systemic Constellations, EFT, Transformational NLP and Interpersonal Neurobiology. Kellita’s mission is to support folks in dusting off the fountain of Self-Love that was hiding right in the center of their very own shimmy.Connect with Kellita:Website: showgirlawakening.com Instagram @kellitatheshowgirlshaman  Linkedin  @Kellita Maloof People, places, or things mentioned on this episode:From The Inside Out short documentary:  is your showgirl archetype? Take the quiz:  Kellita’s book, How To Create A Burlesque Solo...From The Inside Out  burlesquesolo.comJo WeldonSarahPeyton.com Jen holds space for women who want to elevate and amplify their voice. If you desire support in speaking your truth and want to explore the ways you can work with Jen, let's connect: email: Jennifer@beingREAL.mewebsite: www.beingREAL.meInstagram @beingREALjenTikTok @beingrealjenFacebook @beingREALcommunity  If you believe conversations like these belong in the world, please subscribe, rate & review this podcast - and even better, share it with someone else as a REAL conversation starter. Subscribe to all things Jen Oliver at beingREAL.
Loving the life we live; birthright or privilege?
Jun 9 2022
Loving the life we live; birthright or privilege?
Our guest: LIA VENET’s vision is for ALL women to understand their divine brilliance, cultivating trust in sisterhood circles and sharing their truth in the world.Lia is an Authentic Speaker, Co-Author of Wild and Wise Women around the world – Ten Inspiring Women Share their Feminine Fire in “365 Days of Gratitude.”  Beside her PhD in life experience, she is a Certified Transformational Coach (TCM), Certified Holistic Health Coach (IIN), Sacred Depths trained coach, relationship expert (assisted with John Gray for 7 years) a master Woman’s Speak enroller.  She is a connector, organizer, and gatherer of women, Women’s Circle Facilitator, Founder of Inner Compass Circles that includes organizing empowerment retreats for women.  She is happily married for 29 years with two grown children who are successfully launched and doing amazing things in the world.Connect with Lia:Instagram @liavenetFacebook @WellnessWithinGuidance Great people, places, or things we referenced during this episode:Wild and Wise Women around the world - Ten Inspiring Women Share Their Feminine Fire  Chapter Two - Lia Venet Jen holds space for those who want to elevate and amplify their voice. If you desire support in speaking your truth and want to explore the ways you can work with Jen, let's connect: email: Jennifer@beingREAL.mewebsite: www.beingREAL.meInstagram @beingREALjenTikTok @beingrealjenFacebook @/beingREALcommunityIf you believe conversations like these belong in the world, please subscribe, rate & review this podcast - and even better, share it with someone else as a REAL conversation starter. Subscribe to all things Jen Oliver at beingREAL.
No judgment: Motherhood, career, entrepreneurship and all the things
Jun 3 2022
No judgment: Motherhood, career, entrepreneurship and all the things
Our guest: MELISSA HOFFMANN is a Life Coach for women who know they're meant for more. She helps women who want to get out of their corporate jobs - find their purpose and what they want to do for their work so they can start a business that lights them up. After 7 years in a job she hated, she discovered that she wanted to be a makeup artist and built a successful luxury beauty business. Two years ago she pivoted into becoming a Life Coach and helping women to discover what they really want to do for their work and build the confidence to go for it. Melissa is also a mama of a young child, so she is passionate about helping women let go of mom guilt so they can build a business that works for them and their lifestyle. She hosts a podcast called Pivot Into Your Purpose where she shares tips and inspiration to find the work you're meant to do, as well as shares stories from other women who have pivoted into businesses that are more aligned with who they are.Connect with Melissa:Website:www.melissahoffmann.comInstagram @melissahoffmannFacebook @melissahoffmannrangelTiktok @melissamhoffmannPodcast  Pivot Into Your PurposeMellissa’s workshop:  Clarity In Your Calling- Get Clear On Your Purpose & The Work You're Meant To DoJen holds space for those who want to elevate and amplify their voice. If you desire support in speaking your truth and want to explore the ways you can work with Jen, let's connect: email: Jennifer@beingREAL.mewebsite: www.beingREAL.meInstagram @beingREALjenTikTok @beingrealjenFacebook @/beingREALcommunityIf you believe conversations like these belong in the world, please subscribe, rate & review this podcast - and even better, share it with someone else as a REAL conversation starter. Subscribe to all things Jen Oliver at beingREAL.
Racial equity work: Building a world where ALL people are free, safe, and able to thrive
May 24 2022
Racial equity work: Building a world where ALL people are free, safe, and able to thrive
Our guests:DR. TAMU GREEN is a developmental psychologist and thought leader who brings expertise and lived experience in communities facing inequities in her pursuit of social justice through institutional and systems change. For nearly 30 years, she has been engaged in power building efforts that synergize resources, facilitate equity-oriented decision making, and turn advocacy into outcomes. Dr. Green is the CEO of the Equity and Wellness Institute, where she works collaboratively with a talented team of consultants to assess and meet a wide variety of clients’ and communities’ needs.JUDAH SANDERS’ faith journey has fueled his passion for diversity, inclusion, equity, and wellness. As an Ordained Minister, Judah has served the Sacramento Region in full-time ministry since 2014. Judah's intersectional identity and his degrees in Communication and Theology help inform the way he participates in building a world where all people are free and safe. Judah specializes in coaching, training, and community healing for the Equity and Wellness Institute.The Equity and Wellness Institute excels at community engagement and capacity building that promotes connection, resource distribution, and power sharing; training and coaching on all aspects of personal, institutional, and systemic change; facilitation of emotionally charged subject matter; and transformational strategic planning, particularly the development of racial equity action plans and decision support tools to increase transparency and accountability.  Among others, we have conducted training, created plans, engaged stakeholders, and facilitated change for the California Department of Public Health's Office of Health Equity, the California Arts Council, CalABLE, the Oakland Family Resource Center Network, the California Mental Health Services Oversight and Accountability Commission, and the Sacramento Continuum of Care.Connect with Tamu and Judah:Website: equityandwellnessinstitute.comLinkedIn people, places, or things we referenced during this episode:UCLA Implicit Bias Series -- podcast CodeSwitchBlink by Malcolm GladwellHow to be Less Stupid about Race by Crystal M. FlemingStamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You by Jason Reynolds and Ibram X. KendiFatal Invention: How Science, Politics, and Big Business Re-Create Race in the Twenty-First Century by Dorothy RobertsBlack Futures by Kimberly Drew and Jenna WorthamCaste by Isabel WilkersonJen holds space for those who want to elevate and amplify their voice. If you desire support in speaking your truth and want to explore the ways you can work with Jen, let's connect: email: Jennifer@beingREAL.mewebsite: www.beingREAL.meInstagram @beingREALjenIf you believe conversations like these belong in the world, please subscribe, rate & review this podcast - and even better, share it with someone else as a REAL conversation starter. Subscribe to all things Jen Oliver at beingREAL.
Surviving Epstein: Normalizing Our Response to Sexual Assault (part 2)
Apr 30 2022
Surviving Epstein: Normalizing Our Response to Sexual Assault (part 2)
Our guest: JESS MICHAELS is an accomplished dancer with 30 years of experience as a dance industry professional, educator, and entrepreneur. She is also a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and a 1991 rape by Jeffrey Epstein. Her healing journey began unexpectedly, over twenty years later, after her hometown of Newtown, CT was devastated by the mass shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School. In 2015, Jess joined Dylan’s Wings of Change, a foundation dedicated to Dylan Hockley, one of the first-grade victims in the shooting. It was there, in her hometown, teaching dance classes and working alongside the brave parents who had lost their children, that Jess began to connect the value of shame-free, community-based, early trauma intervention to the needs of sexual assault survivors. Her message normalizes a proactive, empowered emergency response to SA equipping us to effectively prepare for—rather than react to—one of society's most common, catastrophic crimes while advancing healing, justice and prevention. Connect with Jessica:Website jessmichaelsspeaks.comInstagram @jessmichaelsspeaksFacebook jessmichaelsspeaksTikTok @jessmichaelsspeaks Jen holds space for women who want to elevate and amplify their voice. If you desire support in speaking your truth and want to explore the ways you can work with Jen, let's connect: email: Jennifer@beingREAL.mewebsite: www.beingREAL.meInstagram @beingREALjenTikTok @beingrealjen If you believe conversations like these belong in the world, please subscribe, rate & review this podcast - and even better, share it with someone else as a REAL conversation starter. Subscribe to all things Jen Oliver at beingREAL.
Surviving Epstein: Normalizing Our Response to Sexual Assault (part 1)
Apr 27 2022
Surviving Epstein: Normalizing Our Response to Sexual Assault (part 1)
Our guest: JESS MICHAELS is an accomplished dancer with 30 years of experience as a dance industry professional, educator, and entrepreneur. She is also a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and a 1991 rape by Jeffrey Epstein. Her healing journey began unexpectedly, over twenty years later, after her hometown of Newtown, CT was devastated by the mass shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School. In 2015, Jess joined Dylan’s Wings of Change, a foundation dedicated to Dylan Hockley, one of the first-grade victims in the shooting. It was there, in her hometown, teaching dance classes and working alongside the brave parents who had lost their children, that Jess began to connect the value of shame-free, community-based, early trauma intervention to the needs of sexual assault survivors. Her message normalizes a proactive, empowered emergency response to SA equipping us to effectively prepare for—rather than react to—one of society's most common, catastrophic crimes while advancing healing, justice and prevention. Connect with Jessica:Website jessmichaelsspeaks.comInstagram @jessmichaelsspeaksFacebook jessmichaelsspeaksTikTok @jessmichaelsspeaks Jen holds space for women who want to elevate and amplify their voice. If you desire support in speaking your truth and want to explore the ways you can work with Jen, let's connect: email: Jennifer@beingREAL.mewebsite: www.beingREAL.meInstagram @beingREALjenTikTok @beingrealjen Join us next week for the second half of this conversation and until then…keep communicating, connecting, and listening for REAL. It matters.If you believe conversations like these belong in the world, please subscribe, rate & review this podcast - and even better, share it with someone else as a REAL conversation starter. Subscribe to all things Jen Oliver at beingREAL.
Patriarchy Stress Disorder...seriously?!
Apr 15 2022
Patriarchy Stress Disorder...seriously?!
Our guest: DR. VALERIE REIN is a psychologist and women’s mental health expert who has discovered Patriarchy Stress Disorder (PSD) and created the only science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment by healing the intergenerational trauma of oppression.She holds an EdM in Psychological Counseling from Columbia University and a PhD in Psychology from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. Her #1 Amazon bestselling book, Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment has been heralded by reviewers as "the most important body of literary work of our modern times" and "perhaps the most important book of the century for women."Dr. Valerie’s cutting-edge programs have helped thousands of women shift from “how much can I bear?” to “how good can it get?" - from survival to thriving, in their work and personal lives.Connect with Valerie:Website: DrValerie.com  Instagram @drvaleriereinFacebook  Dr. Valerie Rein Connect with Jen:email: Jennifer@beingREAL.mewebsite: www.beingREAL.meInstagram @beingREALjenGreat people, places, or things we referenced during this episode:Download free first chapter of Dr. Valerie’s book Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment  @  drvalerie.comPractices you can start doing now to get on your PSD-healing journey to shift from surviving to thriving and master the game of “How good can it get?” @  drvalerie.com/book-resourcesListen to The Dr. Valerie Podcast for real and raw conversations with powerful women about living, loving, and creating in the world where it’s never been safe for a woman to be visible. @  drvalerie.com/podcastTo benefit from Dr. Valerie’s science-based curriculum and/or her personal guidance in healing PSD, get on the waitlist to be notified when the next round of her signature virtual program, The Thriving Solution, opens its doors @  drvalerie.com/waitlistFill out an application to learn about the live experience or coaching with Dr. Valerie @ drvalerie.com/jailbreak-learn-more Join us next week and until then…keep communicating, connecting, and listening for REAL. It matters.If you believe conversations like these belong in the world, please subscribe, rate & review this podcast - and even better, share it with someone else as a REAL conversation starter.
Psychedelics and Plant Medicine
Apr 10 2022
Psychedelics and Plant Medicine
Our guest: JULIE WOOD felt stuck for much of her life in the conditioning that she calls the “Good Girl Program” - which left her over-thinking, over-performing and over-conforming - afraid to be herself. She followed all the Rules, graduated from Princeton and spent 18 years managing big advertising clients like PepsiCo and JPMorgan Chase. Despite her outer success she felt inauthentic and unfulfilled.Nine years ago, she left it all behind, setting off with her now-husband on a 5-year Spirit Journey in a little Jeep Wrangler, visiting 69 countries along the way.While traveling through Mexico and South America, she was introduced to the “niños santos” (psilocybin mushrooms) in the mountains of Oaxaca and participated in over 50 plant medicine ceremonies. Eventually she started supporting others in the ceremonial space, which she still does today at retreats in Mexico.Through her transformative experiences with the plants, Julie began to connect with the gifts she’s here to share. Julie has incredible clarity around her purpose here on Earth - to guide others in connecting with their gifts - through coaching, WomanSpeak public speaking circles, Family Constellations and, of course, plant medicine.Connect with Julie:Website: juliekwood.comInstagram @julie.k.woodFacebook Julie K WoodConnect with Jen:email: Jennifer@beingREAL.meWebsite: www.beingREAL.meInstagram @beingREALjen Great people, places, or things we referenced during this episode:Films: For the Next 7 Generations  available on Amazon and YouTube Fungi - documentary on NetflixResources: MAPS.org - Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies. Excellent resource for reading about psychedelic research The International Council of Thirteen Indigenous Grandmothers:  Note: In this episode, we reference the “War on Drugs” and how it relates to a lack of acceptance around plant medicine that also gets linked with drug use. This was interesting info and food for thought:In 1994, Nixon’s Assistant to the President for Domestic Affairs and Watergate co-conspirator John Ehrlichman admitted to the real impetus for the War on Drugs, as quoted in  Smoke and Mirrors: The War on Drugs and the Politics of Failure, in Harper's Magazine by Dan Baum, published in 2016:“The Nixon campaign in 1968, and the Nixon White House after that, had two enemies: the antiwar left and black people. You understand what I’m saying? We knew we couldn’t make it illegal to be either against the war or black, but by getting the public to associate the hippies with marijuana and blacks with heroin, and then criminalizing both heavily, we could disrupt those communities. We could arrest their leaders, raid their homes, break up their meetings, and vilify them night after night on the evening news. Did we know we were lying about the drugs? Of course we did.” Join us next week and until then…keep communicating, connecting, and listening for REAL. It matters.If you believe conversations like these belong in the world, please subscribe, rate & review this podcast - and even better, share it with someone else as a REAL conversation starter.
Pioneer, game changer, life saver
Feb 25 2022
Pioneer, game changer, life saver
Our guest: DR. TAMU GREEN is a developmental psychologist and thought leader who brings expertise and lived experience in communities facing inequities in her pursuit of social justice through institutional and systems change. For nearly 30 years, she has been engaged in power building efforts that synergize resources, facilitate equity-oriented decision making, and turn advocacy into outcomes. Dr. Green is the CEO of the Equity and Wellness Institute, where she works collaboratively with a talented team of consultants to assess and meet a wide variety of clients’ and communities’ needs.*IMPORTANT post-recording addendum: This episode covers a vital matter that proves itself out with many decades worth of empirically relevant data - thus, the compelling statistics around deaths by tobacco require no embellishment. That said, we want to be as accurate as possible with the statements we made during our conversation. When we discuss stats around the daily deaths attributed to tobacco use and the industry's pursuit of new smokers - it may be unclear when we were referencing the US market versus global markets. Dr. Green clarifies:  "...the catastrophic loss on 9/11 (2,996 deaths on that date) and how there are more tobacco deaths daily. In the US there are currently 1,300 tobacco deaths daily but globally there are about 20,000 tobacco deaths daily...""...in addition, the tobacco industry once needed to gain approximately 7,000 new smokers per day, which is likely much higher on a global scale...these statistics were the recognized number years ago and may vary based on 2021 statistics..."Connect with Tamu:website: EquityandWellnessInstitute.comLinkedIn: Tamu Green, PhD Connect with Jen:email: Jennifer@beingREAL.mewebsite: www.beingREAL.meInstagram @beingREALjen Great people, places, or things we referenced during this episode:Articles us next episode and until then…keep communicating, connecting, and listening for REAL. It matters.If you believe conversations like these belong in the world, please subscribe, rate & review this podcast - and even better, share it with someone else as a REAL conversation starter.
What if we are DEAD wrong about managing grief and loss?
Feb 10 2022
What if we are DEAD wrong about managing grief and loss?
Our guest: JULIA NICHOLSON is a former CEO, business consultant, and adjunct professor of business who has excelled for decades as an industry-leading visionary on governance, strategic planning, team building, and executive performance. She now brings her expertise and passion to organizations and conferences across the world.As a C-Suite executive for over 17 years, she has experienced firsthand the negative impact unwanted change, adversity, and loss can have on every individual, personally and professionally, and therefore, every aspect of an organization… every decision, interaction, and relationship, its culture, and ultimately the bottom line.Throughout her life, she’s been told “No” or “Not possible” more frequently than she was ever encouraged or supported. Not to be deterred, she defied conventional wisdom and overcame stereotypes and great odds to identify what it takes to not only survive, but thrive after experiencing unwanted change, adversity, and loss over and over again.Now she’s revealing the secrets to her success, the 5 Realizations, in keynote addresses around the world with proceeds from her talks going to charities that serve people in the areas of mental health and wellness, suicide awareness and intervention, and healthcare.Connect with Julia:Instagram: @julianicholsonpresentsFacebook: @julianicholsonpresentsInstagram:  @julianicholsonpresentsTikTok:  @julianicholsonpresentsWebsite: julianicholsonpresents.comGreat people, places, or things we referenced during this episode:Julia’s 2021 TEDxFolsom talkLook for Julia’s forthcoming book,"It" Happened.  Now What?  The 5 Realizations: A Transformative Way to Process Loss and Turn Grief Into Grit in June 2022.Proceeds from my speaking engagements and book sales are donated to charities supporting past, active, and retired military; charities supporting people with dementia and alzheimers; and organizations supporting disadvantaged children, mental health and wellness, and suicide intervention and its survivors.Connect with Jen:email: Jennifer@beingREAL.mewebsite: www.beingREAL.meInstagram @beingREALjenJoin us next episode and until then…keep communicating, connecting, and listening for REAL. It matters.If you believe conversations like these belong in the world, please subscribe, rate & review this podcast - and even better, share it with someone else as a REAL conversation starter.