In this episode, MaryAnn shares a perspective shift on the concept of being the average of the five people you spend the most time with, and, instead, shifting the focus to being the sum of the five people you allow to influence you most. The influences may be intentional, like specific podcasts, or unintentional, like social media feed. But coming to recognize the sources of the 5 people or places that influence you the most is the first step towards living more consciously and intentionally. First, bring it into your conscious awareness the who and the what that is currently having the most influence on you. Second, notice the impact that influence is having on you. Is it positive or negative? What is it creating for you? Third, decide consciously if you want to allow for this source to continue to be one of your top 5 influencers or not. Additional prompts:Who are the 5 people currently having significant influence over me? How do I feel in their presence? How do I feel when I allow them to influence me? What 3 qualities or characteristics would most describe this individual? Are these qualities or characteristics that I want to develop in my personal life or not? Explain. Do I want to continue to allow this person to be one of my top 5 influencers? You are the sum of the 5 people you choose to allow to influence you. Choose them on purpose. If you would like help upleveling your life this year, or maybe you're recognizing that there are some people in your life that are having an influence on you and you don't know how to navigate it, gift yourself a more fulfilling life this Christmas and come and work with me. I am currently offering 6 weeks for just $625. Click or copy the link to apply now! https://maryannwalker.life/contact-me

This week we are exploring the concept of radical acceptance and psychological flexibility. Radical acceptance is the ability to radically accept what is which increases ones level of psychological flexibly. For example, once we are able to radically accept what the weather is going to look like for the day, we can adapt to the new information and dress accordingly. Radical acceptance helps us navigate life with more purpose, direction, and intention improving not only the quality of our life, but potentially the quality of our relationships as well.Want to book a call?  Let's get in touch!  Click here to connect!

I was recently interviewed for the Raising Confident Kids online summit. In this episode I am sharing that interview where I talk about the importance of modeling emotional processing, especially as it pertains to self care. Emotions are there to teach us where we are and what we need. The more skilled adult care givers at processing their own emotions, the more those in their care learn from their example, allowing both parties the opportunity to learn to act rather than react emotionally.

It can be a challenge to navigate life with difficult people. Be it an ex spouse or an awkward family member, we face difficult interactions often. In this episode bonus mom and blended family coach, Brittany P, shares her insights around how to maintain peace while engaging with difficult people. Want to connect with Brittney?  Click here! Want to connect with MaryAnn?  Click here!

We all process and heal in our own time and in our own way. In this episode, MaryAnn expands on Michael Singers metaphor for healing, comparing it to a spike in ones arm.  Our wounding impacts how we show up in the world, how we engage with others, and how we self identify.In this episode, MaryAnn shares 4 steps for personal healing: 1: Acknowledge what IS:   It is only when we acknowledge what is that we can become conscious as to what we want to create on purpose. 2: Remove the spike: Distinguishing ourselves from our wound rather than identifying it is key when it comes to healing. We are not our wounds. We are the ones observing our wounding. 3: Tend to the wound: Once we have removed the spike, now is the time to attend to our wound. Clean it. Use ointment. Wrap it in a bandage and allow it to heal from the inside out. 4: Trust the process: Do not compare your healing to others. Trust that you will heal on your own timeline. Surround yourselves with people that can remind you of you journey and how far you have come when you get discouraged. If you want to connect with MaryAnn either to book a session or come on the podcast, click here. To get your own copy of Micheal Singers book, The Untethered Soul, click here.

In this episode MaryAnn identifies 10 qualities of both people pleasing and pleasing people. Descriptors for People Pleasing:Overly accommodatingSubmissiveFear of conflictDifficulty saying noExcessive apologizingSeeking approvalAvoiding personal needsConstant need for validationSelf-sacrificingAnxious about disappointing othersDescriptors for Pleasing People:Being considerateKind and empatheticGenerousCooperativeAltruisticSupportiveRespectfulAttentive to others' needsPositive and upliftingWillingness to help without sacrificing personal boundariesWhile the behaviors of each may appear to be the exact same on the outside, the motivation and internal impact of each are vastly different. Would you like help learning how to identify where people pleasing might be showing up for you and transitioning that into pleasing people?  Come and work with me. Click here to get started.

In this episode, MaryAnn Walker and Empty Nest coach, Michelle Evans, explore the concept of people-pleasing, particularly in the context of empty nesters and their relationships with their adult children.People-pleasing may seem innocent on the surface, but it often involves neglecting one's own needs while prioritizing the desires and expectations of others. This can lead to compassion fatigue and burnout. MaryAnn highlights the potential dark side of people-pleasing, where individuals aim to fulfill their emotional needs by pleasing others. In the context of empty nesters, there can be a tendency to rely on adult children to fill emotional gaps, which can complicate the parent-child relationship.While it can be a challenge, it is critical for empty nesters to allow their adult children to experience and manage their own emotions, even if it leads to moments of discomfort.Maryann provides actionable steps for listeners to clean up their people-pleasing tendencies, emphasizing the importance of non-judgmental self-awareness, patience, and celebrating small victories in the process. She suggests shifting from a parental role to a coaching role as adult children grow and need more independence.Want to connect with MaryAnn or register for the FREE Raising Confident Kids Summit? Click here! https://linktr.ee/maryannwalker.lifeWant to connect with Michelle?  Click here! https://linktr.ee/michellesevans/

Are you seeking to create more confidence for yourself?  Are you wishing you had the tools to help your kids to feel more confident? Come and register for the FREE Raising Confident Kids Summit!21 experts have joined together to share tools and experiences to support you and your family, no matter how old the kids are. Click the link to register now!  Interviews will be sent out via email November 1st-11th. See you there! https://raisinglittlehumansinabigworld.com/registernow

You wouldn't use the same cell phone from 20 years ago. So why are you allowing thoughts and beliefs from 20+ years ago to determine how you navigate life?  It's time for an upgrade!MaryAnn will soon be presenting at a mental health summit and her email list will be the first to know the details! Subscribe to MaryAnn's email list to be the first to know AND snag yourself a free copy of her Increasing Connection Through Healthy Boundaries guidebook!  Click here! https://maryannwalker-life.ck.page/2124419f37Want to connect with MaryAnn on her other platforms? Click here! https://linktr.ee/maryannwalker.life

In this episode, MaryAnn talks with relationship coach, Andelin Price, about how boundaries can actually improve and increase intimacy. Boundaries are often thought of as being about the other person  they are fundamentally about self-protection and creating a sense of safety. Feeling safe is crucial for intimacy and trust in any relationship, and boundaries play a key role in achieving this safety.Andelin highlights that setting boundaries is essential for ensuring that you "have your own back." It's about deciding what you will do if something happens, and it contributes to a sense of security, allowing you to get closer to others. Pulling away from relationships often occurs when one feels unsafe, underscoring the importance of safety in fostering intimacy and trust.Some have the misconception that boundaries are about controlling the other person. Andelin clarifies that boundaries are about defining what is acceptable and safe for you. It's not about trying to control someone else's behavior.Boundaries are not a one-size-fits-all solution. Instead, they are an evolving, intuitive process. Recognizing the need for boundaries, understanding their role in relationships, and learning to set them in a way that benefits both parties is an essential skill for building healthy connections.Get your FREE Increasing Connection Through Healthy Boundaries guidebook here! Book Recommendations: The Four AgreementsWomen's bodies, Women's WisdomWant to connect with MaryAnn? Click here!Want to grab Andelin's free date ideas?  Click here!

I recently shared the following quote by Yung Pueblo on social media: "Manage your reactions, but do not suppress your emotions." This quote sparked some great conversations, so I decided to explore this quote in further detail here. The main points  include:The Difference Between Managing and Suppressing Emotions: Many people are confused about the distinction between managing and suppressing emotions. A common misconception is thinking that managing means hiding feelings or expressing them intensely.The Consequences of Suppressing Emotions: Suppressing emotions involves denying their existence, which is not a long-term solution. Much like holding a beach ball underwater,  emotions can resurface unpredictably and potentially harm oneself or others.The Impact on Mental and Physical Health: Suppressing emotions can lead to physical symptoms and, in the long run, contribute to stress-related illnesses. Emotions play a significant role in overall health.Identifying and Naming Emotions: Most people can only identify basic emotions like sadness, anger, and happiness. However, increasing emotional maturity involves probing deeper to understand more nuanced feelings.Noticing How Emotions Feel in the Body: Pay attention to how emotions manifest physically in your body. Understanding bodily sensations associated with emotions is a key step in processing and managing them.Choosing to Act Rather Than React: Managing emotions involves consciously choosing how to respond to them. Emotions drive actions. Identifying the emotion helps us to identify and communicate the underlying need. The Power of Emotional Management: Effectively managing emotions  leads to solutions rather than problems. Practicing Emotional Management: Emotional management is a skill worth developing over time. It takes practice, but is worth the effort.Seeking Support? Come and work with me!  Click here to get started!

In this episode, host of the Healing Your Anxious Teen Podcast,  Britt Bischoff,  interviews MaryAnn Walker,  life coach for the helpers, healers, and people pleasers. MaryAnn shares her insights on finding balance in life, meeting your own needs, and how this perspective can positively impact parenting, especially when dealing with anxious teenagers.MaryAnn emphasizes the importance of recognizing and accepting your own needs and emotions as a parent. She discusses the common tendency to prioritize others' well-being above your own and how this can lead to burnout and a sense of inadequacy. MaryAnn encourages parents to shift their perspective and understand that their child's struggles do not reflect their parenting skills. She also emphasizes the significance of allowing children to experience discomfort and navigate their own emotions.The conversation delves into the concept of sustainable love and the idea that focusing solely on giving without receiving can lead to imbalance and exhaustion. It's crucial to create mutually beneficial relationships where both parties contribute and receive support.Britt and MaryAnn also explore the topic of balance and how being mindful of the energy you invest in relationships can lead to healthier and more fulfilling connections. They highlight the importance of recognizing when you may be unintentionally creating an imbalance in relationships.In the context of parenting, MaryAnn discusses how adopting a mindset of meeting your children where they are emotionally can lead to more profound connections and better communication. She encourages parents to allow their children to experience negative emotions and resist the urge to fix or rescue them.Overall, this podcast episode offers valuable insights into finding balance in life, nurturing healthier relationships, and adopting a more compassionate and understanding approach to parenting, especially when dealing with teenagers and their anxieties. To connect with MaryAnn Walker, click here: https://linktr.ee/maryannwalker.lifeTo connect with Britt Bishoff, click here: https://www.instagram.com/brittbishoffcoaching/

In this episode we will dive into the intriguing concept of "wholehearted yeses" and how to differentiate them from merely saying yes out of people-pleasing tendencies. Wholehearted yeses don't always necessitate extreme excitement; instead, it involves acknowledging your choice and wholeheartedly embracing the consequences without harboring any resentment or anger.In this episode we talk about: -Exploring the concept of "wholehearted yeses" and how to identify them.-Understanding that a wholehearted yes doesn't always mean extreme excitement.- Recognizing that you always have a choice in how you show up in life.-Letting go of "I have to's" and "they made me's" to minimize  resentment.- Overcoming victim mentality and taking ownership of decisions.-Examples of giving wholehearted yeses, even in situations you're not overly excited about.-Reflecting on the purpose behind your choices, especially in relationships and activities.-Addressing discomfort when saying no and understanding it's a part of the human experience.POSITIVE SIDE EFFECTS OF WHOLE HEARTED YESSES: More balanced and sustainable relationshipsLess resentmentMore time and energy to invest into your passionsReduced stress More authentic relationshipsPersonal growthIncreased focus and work life balanceIncreased self respectIncreased genuine connection with those that truly resonate with youAnd so much more!Need more support around discovering where you can give a whole hearted yes and when to say no?  Come and work with me.  Click here to get started. www.maryannwalker.life

In this podcast episode  MaryAnn Walker and Kellyn Legath  dive deep into the correlation between anxiety and people-pleasing, shedding light on the underlying emotions and behaviors associated with these common struggles. Here are the main takeaways from their insightful conversation:The Correlation Between Anxiety and People Pleasing: How people-pleasers often experience anxiety when they prioritize others' needs and expectations over their own. This behavior arises from a fear of upsetting others or not fitting in, resembling a form of social anxiety.The Negative Consequences of People Pleasing: Exploring the detrimental effects of chronic people-pleasing, emphasizing that it can lead to self-abandonment and a loss of one's authentic self. When individuals constantly focus on others, it becomes challenging to identify their core values and desires.her weSelf-Deception in People Pleasing: How individuals may initially feel good about making others happy but later realize they were seeking external validation to fulfill an inner void.Recognizing Emotional Needs: How people-pleasers often neglect their own emotional well-being, leading to emotional stuffing and avoidance, which can be emotionally exhausting.Practical Tips for Overcoming People-Pleasing and Anxiety:Building Awareness: Kellyn recommends mindfulness practices like journaling to become more aware of the stories and emotions driving ones people-pleasing behaviors.Emotion Identification: Learning to identify and differentiate various emotions, enabling individuals to respond effectively to their emotional needs.Honesty and Vulnerability: Creating safe spaces to practice honesty and vulnerability with trusted individuals can help retrain the nervous system and allow for healthier boundaries and self-expression.The episode offers valuable insights into the intertwined challenges of anxiety and people pleasing while providing practical strategies for personal growth and emotional well-being. It encourages listeners to prioritize self-care and authenticity in their relationships and lives.Ready to change your life through coaching?  Contact MaryAnn here!Want to connect with Kellyn Legath?  Click here for  her website.Click here to follow her on Instagram.

JJ DiGeronimo is a three-time award-winning author, speaker, and former leading woman in the tech industry. She is passionate about helping women raise their frequencies and empower their future impact through tried-and-tested strategies, mindfulness, and energetic practices.JJ's story is one of overcoming obstacles and finding her true purpose. After 25 years in the tech industry, she hit a wall from overproducing, over-delivering, and over-committing. She was questioning all aspects of her life and felt like she was her own worst enemy. She tried drinking more wine, sabotaging her marriage, and even considered driving away and never returning.Eventually, JJ realized that she needed to make a change. She started by seeking professional help and began a journey of self-discovery. She learned how to set boundaries, say no, and take care of herself. She also began to explore her spiritual side and connect with her inner power.JJ's transformation was profound. She went from feeling overwhelmed to feeling connected to a higher purpose, which led to a determination to share her findings with more women.Seeking: 74 Key Findings to Raise Your Energy, Sidestep Your Self-Doubts, and Align with Your Life's Work, JJ’s third book, share the strategies that helped her infuse more purpose and meaning into her work and life. The book is filled with short chapters, relevant stories, and specific questions that help readers evaluate their choices, dig through their stories, embrace their gifts, and elevate their energy.DiGeronimo wrote the book because she believes that "every woman has a unique frequency that vibrates at the frequency of her highest potential." She hopes that Seeking will help women raise their frequency and empower them to believe and align with their highest purpose.Today, JJ is a successful author, speaker, and spiritual liaison. She shares her story and her strategies with women all over the world. She is on a mission to help women raise their frequencies and empower their future impact.This conversation centers around JJ's book titled "Seeking: 24 Key Findings to Raise Your Energy, Sidestep Your Doubts, and Align with Your Life's Work." MaryAnn  and JJ discuss various aspects of the book and its relevance to the helpers, healers, and people pleasers. They discuss  mindfulness, intuition, the balance between masculine and feminine energies, navigating relationships with "practicing polluters", and setting boundaries to prioritize oneself. JJ shares her personal journey and experiences, emphasizing the importance of being present, aligning energy, and embracing the idea that life is happening for you. Not to you. The conversation concludes with a focus on personal growth, shifting mindset, and creating a more abundant and empowered life.Free Resources:Power of No Resource: https://jjdigeronimo.com/powerofno10 Lessons I Gained From My Mindfulness Practice: https://www.jjdigeronimo.com/MindfulnessforWomenJJ’s LinksSeeking on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3KYqnUbWebsites: www.jjdigeronimo.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCf13PUz92FMREVKfq8PttqQLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jjdigeronimo/IG:  https://www.instagram.com/jjdigeronimo/TogetherWeSeek.Online: https://www.togetherweseek.online

In recent  episodes, the focus has been on effective communication of needs in relationships to prevent resentment. However, it has become apparent that many struggle with identifying their own needs, hindering their ability to communicate them. Despite being attuned to others' needs, some find it challenging to recognize their own. This leads to a cycle of unspoken expectations, miscommunication, and frustration.For instance, when overwhelmed, it's easy to convey distress through body language and reactions, yet pinpointing the exact need remains elusive. Family and friends may attempt to help, but without clear communication, their efforts can fall short, worsening the situation. Often, intense emotions trigger a reactive mindset, hindering self-awareness and identification of needs.To counteract this, practicing self-awareness during emotional moments can reactivate rational thinking. Five tips are shared:Get in tune with your body: Notice physical sensations like tension, unease, or restlessness. These signals provide valuable insights into your needs. A nauseous feeling might stem from anxiety, suggesting chamomile tea might help; a headache could indicate a need for rest and quiet.Label your emotions: Differentiate between emotions like insecurity and jealousy, sadness and depression. Identifying and understanding various emotions contributes to emotional maturity. Emotions serve as information to uncover needs.Engage in self-reflection and journaling: Document emotions and their associated stories. Writing out raw thoughts allows for release and subsequent self-analysis. This "ugly first draft" reveals patterns and offers the chance to rewrite your narrative.Distinguish facts from stories: Examine situations to discern objective facts from subjective interpretations. This step reduces assumptions and helps clarify your needs.Imagine desired outcomes: Rewrite events to reflect how you wished they unfolded. This exercise highlights your needs and expectations, aiding in clear communication.Recognizing that emotions are informative rather than disruptive, and using these techniques, can lead to enhanced emotional understanding and better communication of needs. Emotional intelligence fosters healthier connections and personal growth.Click here to listen to Episode 18: What if The Path You're on Leads You to Where You Are Going? Click here to listen to Episode 1: Facts vs Stories Contact MaryAnn via the web at  www.maryannwalker.life or email  at maryann@maryannwalker.life Want to offer feedback on this podcast?  What episode has been most influential for you?  What would you like to share or learn more about?  Click here to leave a review! Want to connect on social media?  Click here to follow on your favorite platform! https://linktr.ee/maryannwalker.life

In this bonus episode MaryAnn Walker is talking with actress and entrepreneur, Florence Matina. Florence shares that, "Honestly, Coaching Changed My Life." In this episode, Florence shares her experience with coaching as well as a few insights she's gained along the way.  Here are a few of her insights: -Embrace all of your emotions.-Take massive action. Not passive action. NOW is the time!-Embracing discomfort is what gets you to where you want to go.-You have to get used to the idea of falling to learn to ride a unicycle. Scrapes are part of the process of learning.-Be patient with yourself. -Find your authentic self and your authentic path. -Consistency is key. -Make life more fun through side quests.Thanks so much for coming on, Florence!If you want to work with MaryAnn to see how coaching can change your life, come and apply now at www.maryannwalker.life

In this episode, MaryAnn Walker helps listeners learn how to ask for help.MaryAnn identifies common thoughts that hinder seeking help, such as not wanting to be a burden, fearing it signifies weakness, or seeking to prove one's capability. She emphasizes that people pleasers often suppress their own needs due to their fear of rejection or disrupting relationships, which prevents  them from asking for help when they genuinely need it.The podcast highlights a paradox where people pleasers are willing to help others but also struggle with asking for assistance themselves.  This pattern can create an imbalance in relationships, limiting vulnerability and true connection. MaryAnn compares relationships to a tennis match, pointing out that the absence of reciprocal requests hampers deep connections.She acknowledges the challenge of being rejected when asking for help, suggesting that accepting people's responses at face value can lead to healthier perspectives. MaryAnn encourages starting with small requests to rewire the brain's discomfort around seeking help and emphasizes that vulnerability, rather than being a weakness, is a courageous act that nurtures connection.The podcast underscores the importance of clear and direct communication vs passive communication and  hints which can lead to misunderstandings and resentments. MaryAnn advises making explicit requests to create balance and allow others to fulfill needs. She concludes by encouraging listeners to practice making explicit requests and recognizing the value of vulnerability in fostering meaningful relationships.Are you interested in booking a call?  Contact MaryAnn either via her website, www.maryannwalker.life or email her at maryann@maryannwalker.life We would love to hear your feedback on this podcast!  What episode has been most influential for you?  What would you like to learn more about?  Click here to leave  your review! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1WGzrZWvqiYgXUf-B-IRzr1GzkNEOmsmyEYhG1_UI1KQ/viewform?pli=1&pli=1&edit_requested=trueWant to connect on social media?  Click here to follow MaryAnn on your favorite platform! https://linktr.ee/maryannwalker.life

Score keeping is common among people pleasers. And often times score keeping is used in order to manipulate or coerce others into filling your needs. ("I helped you, now you owe me!") But score keeping isn't always a bad thing. Score keeping can also be used to bring clarity to a relationship...to help you to see where there is an imbalance  so you can consciously choose how to navigate it on purpose. This week MaryAnn talks about how to shift from manipulative and coercive scorekeeping into something more supportive: Using it as simply a means of gaining information and seeing things.... including yourself... more clearly.  Do you often find yourself in imbalanced relationships and you aren't sure how to restore balance?  Come and work with me!  You can contact me either via my website www.maryannwalker.life or email me at maryann@maryannwalker.life I would also love to hear your feedback on this podcast!  What episode has been most influential for you?  What would you like to learn more about?  Click here to leave me your review! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1WGzrZWvqiYgXUf-B-IRzr1GzkNEOmsmyEYhG1_UI1KQ/viewform?pli=1&pli=1&edit_requested=trueWant to connect on social media?  Click here to follow me on your favorite platform! https://linktr.ee/maryannwalker.life

In this podcast episode, MaryAnn Walker shares her personal journey and insights during a major life transition - moving her family across the country. The episode delves into MaryAnn's recent move and the valuable lessons she learned along the way. She discusses topics such as managing expectations and manuals for herself, family, and friends, practicing presence and self-compassion, dealing with decision fatigue and information overload, as well as self-care during a transition. Want to connect or book a call?  Click here! https://linktr.ee/maryannwalker.life