Stress-Less Physician

Sara Dill

The Stress-Less Physician Podcast teaches busy practicing physicians how to reduce your stress levels, create a better balance between your medical career and personal life, and have a sustainable and enjoyable clinical practice. Learn how to feel better now while designing a life and medical career that feel good to YOU. Dr. Sara Dill is an Ivy-League educated, practicing dermatologist who has worked in academics, managed care, private practice, and as a consultant in the pharmaceutical industry. Dr. Dill combines her breadth of clinical experience and depth of coaching expertise to help you feel better and discover how improving your wellbeing can be simpler and happen faster than you think. Using her unique combination of coaching tools, mindfulness, and the latest in the sciences of positive psychology and neurobiology, Dr. Sara Dill will share practical and concrete tools that will have you quickly feeling better and in control of your life and career. To explore if coaching is right for you, visit saradill.com.

The Gifts of Gratitude
1w ago
The Gifts of Gratitude
Gratitude is an emotion and a state of mind that brings multiple benefits. Slowing down and reflecting on what we’re grateful for can bring us so much positivity and lift us up. But it’s not necessarily something that comes naturally. We have to work on it. Be intentional about it.With this episode, I want to encourage you to put some new gratitude “tools” into your personal skill set. Exercising the superpower of recognizing the existence of goodness and staying in that moment can transform your daily experiences. In fact, gratitude is essential to actually enjoying our life. So let’s talk about it!“The number of positive experiences that you notice is much more important than how special or how exceptional those experiences are… It’s more beneficial to savor ordinary, pleasant, everyday activities, rather than sort of waiting for important or extraordinary events that don’t happen very often.”  – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll LearnWhat experts say about itGifts of gratitude:Life improvementsHealth benefits3 Exercises to cultivate gratitude:Savor something dailyFocus on what you’re grateful forPractice expressing appreciationContact Info and Recommended ResourcesArticles on the benefits of gratitude:research.com/education/scientific-benefits-of-gratitudepositivepsychology.com/benefits-gratitude-research-questionsGet my book, where I talk about gratitude along with other stress-reducing concepts: The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicinePodcast Episodes that pair well with this one:How to Have More FunWhat if the Good Ole Days are Now?Life is Short and Why This MattersConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachInterested in coaching? I’ll be starting a new small group in January. Sign up at saradill.com/coaching. If you have any questions about the various coaching options or about the small group, please email me at sara@saradill.com. I personally read and respond to my emails.Website: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingGet a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting...
Lesson Learned from The Sedona Method
Nov 14 2022
Lesson Learned from The Sedona Method
Letting go can be hard. Even if we academically understand the validity and the health aspects behind releasing negativity and emotions, it can be difficult to put into practice. That’s why it’s extremely helpful to have some idea of step-by-step techniques and questions we can ask ourselves. In my personal journey to being a stress-less physician, I’ve learned an approach made popular by Lester Levenson based on Hale Dwoskin’s book, The Sedona Method. The concept is to bring yourself to a place where you’re not holding on so tightly to painful or unwanted feelings, whether in the moment you have them or later on as you reflect. This method has five approaches, and each works slightly differently but all can be useful. Although I’m not trained to teach the method, I hope that as I share an overview of it, you find the concept potentially beneficial to you.“What if feelings are actually just perpetuating the problems that they appear to be preventing? What if feelings are sometimes a lie?”  – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll LearnWhat The Sedona Method works onThe continuum of letting goShifting from heavy to lightFeelings sometimes lieEmotional ladderPitfalls to avoidStuck on the why4 questions to ask yourselfContact Info and Recommended ResourcesBook:The Sedona Method by Hale Dwoskin(Learn more about The Sedona Method with Lester Levenson) Podcast Episodes that pair well with this one:BoundariesImproving Your Relationships by minding your own businessLife is Short and Why This MattersConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachInterested in coaching? Sign up at saradill.com/coaching. Have any questions about the various options? Email me at sara@saradill.com. I personally read and respond to my emails.Website: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email and I’d love to hear from you! Please write to me at sara@saradill.com. Get a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting...
Why Other People's Opinions Are None of Your Business
Nov 7 2022
Why Other People's Opinions Are None of Your Business
We spend a very large amount of time and energy concerned about the opinions of others. Perhaps too much. While it’s important to be kind and take other people’s feelings into consideration, if it causes us to constantly seek the approval of others, we may have a problem.So at what point are other people’s opinions none of your business? Where do you draw the line that states your freedom will not be inhibited by the ever-changing thoughts of others? Let’s talk about how to find and create that healthy boundary.“Giving people permission to not like you or approve of you or agree with you, can be so powerful. And notice how much freedom that gives you. Freedom to grow… and freedom to create a life that feels like your life, not someone else’s life.”  – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll LearnManipulation of opinionsLetting go of trying to controlThoughts are temporaryLiving someone else’s lifeBeing okay with people getting it wrongUnderstanding our need for acceptanceNot adding meaningContact Info and Recommended ResourcesInterested in coaching? Sign up at saradill.com/coaching. Have any questions about the various options? Email me at sara@saradill.com. I personally read and respond to my emails.Podcast Episodes that pair well with this one:BoundariesImproving Your Relationships by minding your own businessLife is Short and Why This MattersConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachWebsite: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email and I’d love to hear from you! Please write to me at sara@saradill.com. Get a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebookInstagram
How to Have More Fun
Oct 31 2022
How to Have More Fun
Have you grown up a little too much? Lost the natural child-like ability to just have fun on a daily basis? I think that, as adults, we have to cultivate and create fun for ourselves. We’re quite good at thinking about this and making it happen for the children in our lives, but not so good at making it happen for ourselves. And let’s face it, fun doesn’t just happen by itself. It takes some intentionality.Why is this important and why am I talking about it? Bottom line: It’s healthy. We need the rejuvenation that doing something we enjoy – something just for the pure fun of it – offers. Our lives are busy, hectic, stressful… and without making time for recreation, we will burn out. So let’s talk about how to have more fun! And if you have difficulty thinking of things you might like to do, I have some thought-starters that may help.“Life is a series of challenges and events and things that happen… Do we feel like we have enough of a buffer or surplus to cultivate the good stuff…To allow us and enable us to meet all those challenges and not to feel wiped out?”  – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll LearnReasons we lack funWhy we need funRemember what you used to likeSome thought-startersIntentionality of challengeContact Info and Recommended ResourcesSmall Group Physician Coaching starting soon! Sign up at saradill.com/coaching. Have questions about the group? Email me at sara@saradill.com.Podcast Episodes that pair well with this one:Why Self-Care Matters (and isn’t selfish)Enjoying Time Off From WorkLife is Short and Why This MattersConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachWebsite: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email and I’d love to hear from you! Please write to me at sara@saradill.com. Get a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebookInstagram
Life is Short and Why This Matters
Oct 24 2022
Life is Short and Why This Matters
Looking back over all that has occurred the past couple of years has reminded me of how precious life and time are. We’ve all had things drastically change in our lives and in the lives of those around us. And all this change has me pondering the depth of what it means to live the moment, and to appreciate the time we have. Through this episode, I want to encourage you to examine the truth that life is short. And to dive into why this matters. This is absolutely not in a “life is short and then you die” kind of way, but rather in a way of cherishing one another and the time we have together. I hope to help each of us embrace more fully the gifts of living wisely, aligning with purpose, and especially, loving and being loved.“Is there a way in which someone who was observing how you spend your days… would they get what’s really valuable to you?... I don’t believe in just living FOR the moment, but living IN the moment… I would just encourage all of us to not miss out on our actual life while maybe worrying about or thinking about our future life or maybe even our past life.”  – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll LearnDaily appreciationCherishing time and other peopleLiving wiselyEmbracing the momentAligning with purposeFully lovingContact Info and Recommended ResourcesSmall Group Physician Coaching starting soon! Sign up at saradill.com/coaching. Have questions about the group? Email me at sara@saradill.com.Podcast Episodes:What if the Good Ole Days are Now?Choose AgainWhat You Can Control (And What You Can't)Connect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachWebsite: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email and I’d love to hear from you! Please write to me at sara@saradill.com. Get a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebookInstagram
What To Do When You Feel Jealous
Oct 17 2022
What To Do When You Feel Jealous
As physicians, as business owners, as human beings, we all struggle with jealousy and/or envy from time to time. Those feelings like others have more or that we want something they have. I’m here to tell you, it’s normal. But if it’s just a natural human emotion, why bother to think much about it?Because I believe examining jealousy and envy gives us deep and valuable insight into how we think about ourselves. Hand in hand with that, it reveals our perceptions of what we believe we can have, what we can achieve, even our place in the world. When we can step back and objectively examine times of jealousy or envy, we can turn that normally negative experience to our advantage. Let’s talk about what to do when you feel jealousy or envy.“A lot of people notice that when they feel envious or jealous, then they also sort of add on a layer of shame or wrongness for even feeling it… I just want to say it’s totally normal. And that layer of shame or embarrassment or denying it or resisting it… that's super unnecessary. That is just gonna block you from actually working with it, from actually getting the information that jealousy and envy are there to provide for us.”  – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll LearnDifferences between jealousy and envyValue of examining our thoughtsSteps for what to do when you feel jealousy or envyNotice when or what causes itIdentify your thoughtsQuestion your thoughtsCome up with 3 waysDiscover how you would feelGo on assignmentContact Info and Recommended ResourcesSmall Group Physician Coaching starting soon! Sign up at saradill.com/coaching. Have questions about the group? Email me at sara@saradill.com.Podcast Episodes:Fear: Friend or Faux?Self-ConfidenceBelieving New ThingsConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachWebsite: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email and I’d love to hear from you! Please write to me at sara@saradill.com. Get a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebookInstagram
How To Know If You Are A Good Doctor?
Oct 10 2022
How To Know If You Are A Good Doctor?
As physicians, we all want to be viewed as a good doctor. But how do you really know? What can you measure to find out? Whether we think of them in this way or not, we have metrics we typically use. We might look at obvious things such as awards or achievements or patient feedback, or we may even have metrics we’re not aware we’re internally using. And surprisingly, or maybe not so surprisingly, none of those metrics are really the best way to know if you’re a good doctor.Like so many things we face in life, all of this starts with how we think. We take our perception of what we believe others think about us, gathered from various outward indicators, and from those we decide if we’re a good doctor. But there is a pretty big problem with this. Let’s talk about it.“So often being a good doctor for me means NOT making patients happy. If I disagree with what they want, it might mean saying no.”  – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll Learn What do you thinkSources of outside metricsThe problem with outside metricsTap dancing and over-responsibilityChoosing metrics you can controlMetrics suggestions and a challengeContact Info and Recommended ResourcesSmall Group Physician Coaching starting soon! Sign up at saradill.com/coaching. Have questions about the group? Email me at sara@saradill.com.Podcast Episodes:What You Can Control (And What You Can’t)Thought Work: The Most Important Work You Can Ever DoBoundariesConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachWebsite: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email and I’d love to hear from you! Please write to me at sara@saradill.com. Get a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebookInstagram
How To Say No
Oct 3 2022
How To Say No
For a variety of reasons, we say yes more often than we should. This triggers excess stress and stifles honest communication. But what if saying yes is actually the poorer choice? The truth is, we cannot excel at everything. So knowing how and when to say no is not only personally healthy but it can actually be the kindest answer we can give.Intellectually understanding the value of saying no is much easier than the actual execution of it. Faced with a request, in the moment, it can be hard to not just say yes. That’s why I wanted to share several helpful insights, exercises, and ways to reframe both your answer, and your thinking, around how to say no.“I feel like being honest in my yeses and nos allows me to be more kind. It might not always be perceived as nice but it’s kind in that it’s honest... I like the question of: What if love, what if acting out of love, might look like a yes and a no?”  – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll Learn Honest communicationReasons we say yesIdentifying worriesPracticing saying noGently framing your noContact Info and Recommended ResourcesBook:A Mind at Home with Itself: How Asking Four Questions Can Free Your Mind, Open Your Heart and Turn Your World Around by Byron KatiePodcast Episodes:Choose AgainUnwritten Rules That Keep Us StuckHow to Make DecisionsConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachWebsite: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email and I’d love to hear from you! Please write to me at sara@saradill.com. Get a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebookInstagram
Improve Your Relationships by minding your own business
Sep 26 2022
Improve Your Relationships by minding your own business
When we’re mentally in someone else’s business, or in God’s business, we’re not present in our own lives. And we’re taking on an incredible amount of stress and accountability. Along with personal overwhelm, this can create strain and negatively affect our relationships.But as physicians, it’s our very job to help people. Add to that the normal relationships of being a friend, child, parent, spouse or colleague… and the number of people for whom we have some measure of responsibility can be pretty high. So how can we know when we’ve moved out of healthy boundaries and into other people’s business? In this episode, I give you several examples to identify being in other people’s business, along with suggestions for how to move back into healthier boundaries. It’s not only personally freeing but you can actually improve your relationships by minding your own business. “What I’ve discovered is that most of the time, we’re often in other people’s business… We’re disconnected from ourselves because no one’s home. No one’s minding our own business… So this can be a practice where you just keep coming back to yourself... What’s my business here?”  – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll Learn3 types of businessExamples of being in someone’s businessDefine your own businessOffering advice without undue responsibilityTaking our own adviceComing back to yourselfContact Info and Recommended ResourcesByron Katie: The WorkConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachWebsite: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email and I’d love to hear from you! Please write to me at sara@saradill.com. Get a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebookInstagram
What if the Good Ole Days are Now?
Sep 19 2022
What if the Good Ole Days are Now?
We tend to reflect on certain things in the past as being better, aka “the old good days”. That reflection typically revolves around experiencing things a certain way that we no longer can now. An example is one I’ve been thinking about lately: how much has changed since the pandemic. Things I had once taken for granted, such as going out to eat or making vacation plans aren’t as easy or certain anymore.As I reminisced a little, I was reminded of a technique involving reflecting on current times as being the good old days. This technique involves imagining your future self thinking back on today. And it is a powerful method for focusing on what you might miss in the future if it were (or when it is) gone. This exercise harkens to both Hedonic Adaptation and the Stoic Philosophy of viewing events and processing emotion. And it holds some potential framework for cultivating positivity and gratitude now.“Picture yourself in five years or ten years or twenty years, forty years… What might you wish you had appreciated more now? What might you miss in the future that you, perhaps, are taking for granted now?... Can we live today with the appreciation that one day, this is gonna be one of the good old days?”  – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll LearnReflecting as the future youHedonic adaptationAppreciating your current ‘good old days’Stoic philosophyCultivating gratitude and aweContact Info and Recommended ResourcesBooks and articles about Stoic Philosophy:  William B. IrvineConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachWebsite: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email and I’d love to hear from you! Please write to me at sara@saradill.com. Get a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebookInstagram
How to cultivate calmness by doing nothing
Sep 12 2022
How to cultivate calmness by doing nothing
Setting aside time each day to literally do nothing is a fundamental practice to cultivating awareness. In order to coach ourselves to more fully understand our own thoughts and emotions, we need some quiet. We need to create space in our lives to calmly reflect. Busyness and distractions don’t allow for the deeper reflection sometimes needed to work on our beliefs, attachments and typical reactions.The key is to practice it before we need it. Not when we’re already in crisis mode. That’s why I wanted to share with you some ideas and steps I’ve learned about how we can cultivate awareness by doing nothing. This practice is the one that really helps all of the other self-coaching tools designed to guide change.“So the entire basis of being able to be coached, and coach oneself – and change one’s thoughts… navigate our emotions… create that space between when things happen and how we respond – is based on cultivating awareness, on having awareness of what’s going on in our mind, in our brain.”  – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll LearnValue of doing nothingPracticing equanimity3 Steps to do nothingTime, location, dedicationMovement or noneDisengage and gently labelContact Info and Recommended ResourcesBook:Buddha's Brain: the practical neuroscience of happiness, love and wisdom by Rick Hansen, Ph.D.Connect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachWebsite: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email and I’d love to hear from you! Please write to me at sara@saradill.com. Get a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebookInstagram
Lessons Learned from Eckhart Tolle
Sep 5 2022
Lessons Learned from Eckhart Tolle
Throughout our lives, how and when something is presented affects us differently. We’re always growing and changing and how we think about things and process situations evolves over time. Furthermore, I believe there really are not that many new ideas, there are simply different ways of presenting them. One person’s manner of speaking appeals to one group while another person’s style appeals more to another group.I pondered this after recently perusing my book shelves (which are full of nonfiction volumes, mostly self-help and mindfulness), and I was drawn to my Eckhart Tolle volumes. Some people really like him, others not so much. Personally, I like Eckhart Tolle and much of what he says goes very well with what I teach. Eckhart speaks a lot about how our thinking affects everything from our emotions to our physical well being, and I wanted to share some lessons I’ve learned from him.“[Eckhart Tolle says], ‘Anything that you resent and strongly react to in another is also in you.’ In coaching, we also refer to that as ‘If you spot it, you got it’... I would say I also like the converse idea: That the things you admire in other people are likely also characteristics that you yourself have. Often we don’t see that.”  – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll LearnOur thinking affectsOur emotions Our physical bodyOur emotions are not who we areFreedom from unhappinessGiving away our powerPast and futurePithy Tolle quotesThe tool of thoughtRecognizing yourself in othersEase in unknowingMaking a new decisionContact Info and Recommended ResourcesBooks by Eckhart Tolle: The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual EnlightenmentA New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's PurposeStillness SpeaksPodcast Episodes:Clean Pain vs Dirty PainThought Work: The Most Important Work You Can Ever DoWhen NOT to do Thought WorkBelieving New ThingsHow to Make DecisionsConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachWebsite: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email and I’d love to hear from you! Please write to me at sara@saradill.com. Get a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being...
Two Minutes to Procrastinate Less and Accomplish More
Aug 29 2022
Two Minutes to Procrastinate Less and Accomplish More
The quest to increase productivity and stop procrastinating is seemingly never ending. We all struggle in one fashion or another to accomplish everything we need to. And like so many struggles in life, how we think about, and thus approach tasks greatly impacts our results.As I sought to restructure my thinking, I discovered that flipping my thought process about the enormity of tasks was liberating. I learned I could reduce my procrastination and increase my productivity by first mentally reframing all I needed to accomplish into more manageable parts. To help guide me in this, I discovered three very empowering concepts: David Allen’s Two Minute Rule, James Clear’s Optimal vs Needed, and Martha Beck’s “turtle steps”. In this episode, I outline each of them for you and how they can help us all to procrastinate less and accomplish more.“If you just decide that, ‘If it’s taking me less than 2 minutes, I’m just gonna do it. No questions. No debate. No decision making…’ It frees up all that energy for things that you do need to think about… This is the beauty of making one decision that then frees you up from making all these other little decisions… decisions that create so much mental overwhelm and mental fatigue for us.” – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll Learn The Two Minute RuleStandardize before you optimize“Turtle steps”Freeing up willpower and decision energy  Contact Info and Recommended ResourcesBooks: Getting Things Done by David AllenAtomic Habits by James ClearArticles: The Power of Imperfect Starts by James ClearDo Less, Fail More by Martha BeckPodcast Episodes:How to Beat BurnoutHow to Drop Your ManualThought Work: The Most Important Work You Can Ever DoBelieving New ThingsConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachWebsite: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email and I’d love to hear from you! Please write to me at sara@saradill.com. Get a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book
Sleep more, function better
Aug 22 2022
Sleep more, function better
Lack of sleep can affect multiple facets in both our physical and mental health. Studies have linked sleep deprivation to weight gain, chemical imbalances, thinking of food as a reward, and slower mental processes. It has been proven over and over that getting better rest is integral to lowering stress and increasing our ability to function in optimum health. But how do we actually achieve better sleep?Having struggled to get adequate sleep myself, this topic touches me personally. I’ve researched and worked to improve my own rest, and learned a lot of information, tips and ideas revolving around sleep. In this episode, I share them with you, including several physiological factors. I discuss ideas and tips for changing our thought processes around rest, correcting mistakes we might be making regarding sleep, and implementing ways to increase our restorative sleep. I hope the information I share helps each of you sleep more and function better.“Without enough sleep, we tend to be more irritable and our brains just don’t function as well… We make more mistakes, things take longer to do and we are just not as bright and as capable as we can be. However, even though we know all that, most of us continue not to get enough sleep.” – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll LearnSleep linked to various diseases, especially obesityOvereating and sleep deprivationListening to your bodySigns you’re not getting enough sleepHow to get more restChanging how you think about sleepMistakes we make regarding restIdeas and tips for improving sleepContact Info and Recommended ResourcesBook: Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams by Matthew Walker, PhDOura Ring: ouraring.com Podcast Episodes:How to Beat BurnoutHow to Drop Your ManualThought Work: The Most Important Work You Can Ever DoBelieving New ThingsConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachWebsite: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingIt’s not too late to join my Physicians Only Small Coaching Group! If you want to get in, sign up at saradill.com/coaching.I read all my own email and I’d love to hear from you! Please write to me at sara@saradill.com. Get a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book
Unwritten Rules That Keep Us Stuck
Aug 15 2022
Unwritten Rules That Keep Us Stuck
Whether we realize it or not, rules influence every aspect of our lives. Especially those unwritten rules that everyone seems to know and abide by anyway. But what exactly am I talking about when I say rules? It’s not things like obeying speed limits or following proper procedures. I’m talking about those rules that affect how we think, what we believe, and ultimately, how we act. Those unwritten rules that keep us stuck.In this episode, I dig into this concept of rules and how they dictate our lives, particularly as physicians. I explain what I mean by rules and give multiple examples. I also touch on a concept by Vishen Lakhiani called BRULES. I think you’ll relate to many of the unwritten rules I bring up and I hope it causes you to question and rewrite some of your own.“So often in coaching, clients will just tell me the rules, like they’re true. And I know I did the same thing, and I still do in some areas. We all have these blind spots.” – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll LearnThe BRULES concept (credit to Vishen Lakhiani)Common unwritten rulesQuestioning your rulesRewriting your rulesContact Info and Recommended ResourcesBook:The Code of the Extraordinary Mind by Vishen LakhianiPodcast Episodes:How to Beat BurnoutHow to Drop Your ManualThought Work: The Most Important Work You Can Ever DoBelieving New ThingsConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachWebsite: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingIt’s not too late to join my Physicians Only Small Coaching Group! If you want to get in, sign up at saradill.com/coaching.I read all my own email and I’d love to hear from you! Please write to me at sara@saradill.com. Get a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebookInstagram
How To Beat Burnout
Aug 8 2022
How To Beat Burnout
Burnout is a frequently used term in our society. But what exactly is it? What goes on inside your brain and your body when you experience burnout? What are some signs that you’re burned out and need to make changes?In this episode, I open up about my experience with burnout. I had pushed myself and my mind to the point that I had to get away. I needed a sabbatical. And even though it wasn’t easy to make happen, I took that time. And within it, I discovered the power of mindfulness and coaching. I learned that you can, in fact, retrain your brain. You can heal the damage from burnout and even prevent it in the future. Let me share with you what I’ve learned about how to beat burnout.“Can you start to choose thoughts that reinforce a sense of your own empowerment, your own ability to respond to the world and the events in it?... Maybe it’s something like: This too shall pass… This won’t last forever… I can do hard things… Those are just some examples… in which the way I think about it can cause me to feel less stressed out, less burned out.” – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll LearnDefinition and signs of burnoutMy experienceYour brain on burnoutRecovery from (and prevention of) burnoutDe-escalate stressRetrain your brainFocus on what you do controlAlter your self-talkChange your thinkingExamine your willingness to suffer Contact Info and Recommended ResourcesBook: The Upside of Stress by Kelly McGonigalPodcast Episodes:What You Can Control (and what you can’t)Thought Work: The Most Important Work You Can Ever DoBelieving New ThingsSome Myths About StressWhy Self-Care Matters (and isn’t selfish) Connect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachMy Small Physicians-Only Group starts MONDAY, AUGUST 8! Join at saradill.com.Website: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email, so write me at sara@saradill.comGet a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebook
How to Drop Your Manual
Aug 1 2022
How to Drop Your Manual
We all have a life expectations manual. It’s the unwritten one that dictates how we feel life should be. Our manual outlines internal expectations for how others should think, how they should behave, and what they should understand. We often don’t even realize our manual exists but it’s there. The problem with this manual is that it is often unrealistic. The truth is, adults have the ability and freedom to behave however they choose. I’m not saying that just because people can choose that any and all behavior is acceptable. Not at all. But outwardly harmful or not, all behavior is inwardly harmful to us when we deny the reality that people aren’t always going to act how we wish. The empowering reverse of this is to grasp hold of the control we do have, which is over ourselves, not over others. Let’s talk about all this and how to drop your manual. “No matter what people do or how they act, or what they say, we don’t have to give others the power to determine how we feel. Ever. I think this is amazing. I think this is a superpower.” – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll LearnRealize your manual existsUse your superpowerAbandon trying to control othersChange your focusClarify proper expectations, in appropriate situationsExecute the step-by-step to drop your manualIdentify your manualPinpoint your sufferingLet yourself off the hookTurn around your rulesContact Info and Recommended ResourcesGet the How to Drop Your Manual worksheet:  with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachJoin my Small Physicians-Only Group, starting soon! Sign up at saradill.com.Website: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email, so write me at sara@saradill.comGet a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebookInstagram
Clean Pain vs Dirty Pain
Jul 25 2022
Clean Pain vs Dirty Pain
How we experience emotional pain in life is connected to the source or cause of the pain. This birthed the concept of clean pain vs dirty pain. But what exactly is clean pain? What is dirty pain? And do the differences between them hold a key to how we work through each type of pain?In this episode, I want to share the powerful concept of clean pain vs dirty pain. I have personally experienced empowerment in how I handle emotional suffering by understanding and framing pain through this concept. The core difference lies in how concrete the source of the pain is. Is the pain something specific you can name that happened? Or is the pain in how you are thinking about what happened? Let’s examine this together.“We think that sometimes by spending a lot of time worrying about something or thinking about something, we can somehow solve it. Or even prevent ourselves from feeling the discomfort or pain. But what it does is prolong it.” – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll Learn What is clean pain?What is dirty pain? Defining painResponding to painContact Info and Recommended ResourcesBalance Your Brain with Jill Bolte Taylor: drjilltaylor.comAcceptance and Commitment Therapy with Dr. Steven C. Hayes, PhD: stevenchayes.comConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachJoin my Small Physicians-Only Group, starting soon! Sign up at saradill.com.Website: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email, so write me at sara@saradill.comGet a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebookInstagram
Taming Your To Do List
Jul 18 2022
Taming Your To Do List
Does your To Do List cause anxiety and overwhelm? Are you having a physical reaction just from reading that last line? If so, you are definitely not alone. Taming your To Do List is, perhaps, one of the biggest sources of stress in our lives. It seems to never end. The moment you cross off one thing, another – or maybe even two things – take its place. Now, I admit, I love to make lists because I thrill at crossing off done tasks. But if you’re finding yourself more anxious than accomplished, I offer some hope. I have a 5-Step method taming your list and getting things done, while still having time for the things and people you love. And it all starts with leveraging your calendar.“If you are coming from time scarcity, from the feeling of not having enough time… you cannot do enough to solve the problem of not having enough time. Because that is a thought problem, not an actual time problem… You have to change how you think about your time… Can you decide when you want to do something, put it on your calendar, and then get it done as scheduled?”  – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll Learn5 Steps to Taming Your To Do ListLeverage your calendarMake that huge listExecute the 3 BsDon’t leave things offHonor your calendarLife applicationTake notesCarve out chunksLive life one thing at a timeAddress time scarcityContact Info and Recommended ResourcesConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachJoin my Small Physicians-Only Group, starting soon! Sign up at saradill.com.Website: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email, so write me at sara@saradill.comGet a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebookInstagram
Choose Again
Jul 11 2022
Choose Again
Throughout our lives and careers, we face times we’re stuck… things we wish we could do over… big and small ways we long to go back and choose over again. But despite those inner yearnings, the “I have to” factors of life interfere. The question is… Should they? What if you could make different choices, while still maintaining the things you don’t want to change?More than once, I’ve asked myself this life-altering question: Should I quit everything and choose again? As I’ve worked through the deep self-examination necessary to answer this question, I’ve discovered some truths and methods I’d love to share with you. So if you’ve been struggling lately, just feeling blah, and restless like I have, I hope these thoughts and insights help.“Whenever we’re trying to escape or we feel urgency, we tend to not make the best long-term choices. And that’s often because we don’t see our choices. And we don’t see many options... [That’s why] this idea of potentially quitting everything and anything – even mentally – I find very powerful… The question you can ask yourself is, ‘Would I choose it again?’ Now. In your current life. Not choosing again in your past. Right? But choosing it again as it is now.”  – Dr. Sara DillWhat You’ll LearnQuitting everything on paperChoosing again in your mindExamining the reasons for each answerNoting the obstaclesWorking out solutionsLoving and creating what is nowContact Info and Recommended ResourcesConnect with Sara Dill, MD, The Doctor’s CoachJoin my Small Physicians-Only Group, starting soon! Sign up at saradill.com.Website: saradill.comWork with me: saradill.com/coachingI read all my own email, so write me at sara@saradill.comGet a FREE consultation with Sara! Sign up here: saradill.com/scheduleGet Dr. Dill’s book The Doctor Dilemma: How to Quit Being Miserable Without Quitting MedicineFacebookInstagram