Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them

Carmelita Tiu

Are you a growth-oriented, mindful and busy #girlmom who wants to raise strong daughters? Me too! This is a show for us -- moms who want to show up with intention, impact and grace, for ourselves and our daughters. Each episode tackles timely (and sometimes tough) topics, to inform and inspire moms of girls: boundaries, self-care, creating safe spaces, self confidence, intuition, negative patterns, body positivity. I also tackle issues confronting tween/teen girls today, like drops in self-esteem, friendship challenges, peer pressure, consent/dating, body image, gender stereotypes, stress, and more. Tune in weekly for short episodes (under 25 minutes) filled with inspiration, insights and actionable tips from experts, moms who’ve been there, and host Carmelita Tiu (a mom of two girls herself). Visit www.knowberaisethem.com and follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram for more info. And here’s to strong women -- may we know them, may we be them, and may we raise them.

How to Interrupt: Manners, Assertiveness, and No Apologies (Encore) // by Carmelita (Cat) Tiu
Jul 19 2022
How to Interrupt: Manners, Assertiveness, and No Apologies (Encore) // by Carmelita (Cat) Tiu
(Encore of Episode 05) “I’m Speaking.”  We all remember that magical, kick-ass Kamala Harris moment, right?   We encourage our daughters to be assertive, share their stories, and speak up. But when we teach them that interrupting is impolite and rude, are we inadvertently undermining their ability to rightfully claim airtime -- even if they’re interrupted by someone else?  Will they choose politeness over being heard?  Will they be afraid to assert themselves in a lively discussion, afraid that they’ll offend?  Listen to hear: The different social norms for boys and girls Disparities in how much men talk versus women in executive settings The 10 words every girl needs to learn, according to Soraya Chemaly Sample phrases illustrating how to interrupt What to tell your daughters to make them feel more comfortable with interrupting   Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every week (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google).  Leave a 5-star review by clicking (here), tap the white rectangle that says “Listen on Apple Podcasts”, scroll down till you see Ratings & Reviews, then tap 5 stars or  “Write a Review”.  You’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on ( Instagram) (@knowberaisethem) (sign up) for our monthly newsletter visit ( ) (www.knowberaisethem.com) Want to support?  (Buy me a coffee) - help keep me caffeinated through the interviews, promotion, admin and editing (til the wee hours of the morning)!
Empower Girls With These 10 Phrases (Encore) // by Wendy Snyder
Jul 12 2022
Empower Girls With These 10 Phrases (Encore) // by Wendy Snyder
Ever wish you had a magic spell that would guarantee your daughter turns into a brave and confident woman?  An “abracadabra” to ensure she grows up to be bold and powerful, in the best way?   While sadly there’s no such thing, Wendy Snyder, Positive Parenting Teacher, Family Coach and founder of A Fresh Start Family, offers us some guidance in her article, "10 Important Phrases Parents Can Use to Empower Their Daughters.”  The episode dives into how we can rephrase our words - how we can say things better, to better support our daughters. I love you no matter what. You are absolutely beautiful, inside and out. You are strong, and you’ve got this! I’m here to support you. How do you feel? Gosh, I love my  ______ (body part)!  What is your favorite part of your body? Oh yeah? Tell me more. How can you be a light in this situation? You have a strong desire to feel powerful and that is GOOD! How will you be the change you want to see? I am not ok with _____, or I’d like you to ______. To learn more about Wendy and A Fresh Start Family, visit: Website:  (www.freshstartfamilyonline.com) Instagram: @freshstartwendy   Podcast: (The Fresh Start Family Show)  Got a strong-willed child? Check out the free guide, " (How to Raise Strong Willed Kids With Integrity)" and " (10 Firm and Kind Phrases to Use When Your Child Isn't Listening)." You can also enroll in a free class on power struggles - save your seat by visiting  (www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/powerstrugglesclass) .  Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Subscribe here - (Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google). Episodes drop every week. Leave a 5-star review by clicking (here); tap the white rectangle that says “Listen on Apple Podcasts” (if you're not in Podcasts already), scroll down till you see Ratings & Reviews, then tap 5 stars or  “Write a Review”.  You’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on ( Instagram) (@knowberaisethem) (sign up) for our monthly newsletter visit ( ) (www.knowberaisethem.com) Want to support?  (Buy me a coffee) - help keep me caffeinated through the interviews, promotion, admin and editing (til the wee hours of the morning)!
Sex, Gender, Expression, Orientation & Showing Up for Your Child's Journey // with Elaine Farris
Jun 28 2022
Sex, Gender, Expression, Orientation & Showing Up for Your Child's Journey // with Elaine Farris
Episode 42 is all about fundamental LGBTQ concepts, and ways we can support our kids and others who may be on their own journey, discovering who they are. Elaine Farris joins host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu and shares: What the definitions are for assigned sex, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation How these terms relate to one another Why acceptance is not the goal The importance of using pronouns How to support your child while being careful not to push them Guest Bio: Elaine is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist based in Ann Arbor, Michigan, whose passion is working with individuals within the LGBTQ+ community, and the neurodivergent community, which often overlap. She works under an intersectional, feminist, and anti-oppressive framework. Email:  elainefarristherapist@gmail.com In this episode – references and additional resources: The Trevor Project Previous Episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them: (Emotional Suppression and How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up // with Ezza Mustaffa) (Ep. 35) Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Episodes drop every week. Subscribe here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google).  Leave a 5-star review by clicking (here); tap the white rectangle that says “Listen on Apple Podcasts” (if you're not in Podcasts already), scroll down till you see Ratings & Reviews, then tap 5 stars or  “Write a Review”.  You’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on ( Instagram) (@knowberaisethem) (sign up) for our monthly newsletter visit ( ) (www.knowberaisethem.com) Want to support?  (Buy me a coffee) - help keep me caffeinated through the interviews, promotion, admin and editing (til the wee hours of the morning)!
Vulnerable Connection, Coping, and 3 Q's to Ask Your Kids Daily // with Cai Graham
Jun 21 2022
Vulnerable Connection, Coping, and 3 Q's to Ask Your Kids Daily // with Cai Graham
In Episode 41 of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Cai Graham chats with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu about connecting with our tweens and teens, and coping.   Some highlights: The importance of being vulnerable in front of their kids Why we shouldn’t beat ourselves up for the challenges we feel when raising tweens & teens 3 questions to ask your tweens & teens every day Healthy ways to cope Guest Bio: Cai Graham is a Parenting & Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen Toolbox™️. She is a mum of two fantastic young adults in their late 20’s - so she has been deep in the parenting trenches. Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN Toolbox™️ Series  which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence. To learn more about Cai Graham: Visit www.caigraham.com Follow her on Instagram @caigraham Find her on Facebook - Facebook Page: @thecaigraham / Facebook Group: Parent & Teen Toolbox Her Amazon bestselling book: (The Teen Toolbox) Check out Cai’s videos: Breathing Techniques: (www.caigraham.com/breathing) 3 Questions to Ask Your Teen: (www.caigraham.com/threequestions) Tapping (EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique): (www.caigraham.com/tapping)  In this episode – references and additional resources: Previous episodes of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them related to this topic that you may find helpful: (Self Harm:  What It Is, Why It Happens, and How to Respond // with Cai Graham) (Ep. 40) (Emotional Suppression and How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up // with Ezza Mustaffa) (Ep. 35) (Are Your Thoughts Fooling You? Reframing Negative Thoughts and Cognitive Distortions // with Julia Hogan) (Ep. 20) Brad Yates  (YouTube channel) for Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), aka tapping Brad Yates’ (book for kids, “The Wizard’s Wish”) Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google).  Leave a 5-star review – you’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude!   Head (here) Scroll til you see “Ratings & Reviews” Click 5 stars, or tap “Write a Review” Feel the gratitude vibes! Thank you thank you thank you! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on ( Instagram) (@knowberaisethem) (sign up) for our monthly newsletter visit ( ) (www.knowberaisethem.com) Want to support?  (Buy me a coffee) - help keep me caffeinated through the interviews, promotion, admin and editing (til the wee hours of the morning)!
Self Harm: What It Is, Why It Happens & How to Respond // with Cai Graham
Jun 14 2022
Self Harm: What It Is, Why It Happens & How to Respond // with Cai Graham
Self-Harm and kids. What parent isn’t struck with anxiety when they think of their child contemplating self harm?  What leads to self-harm becoming an option? (Warning: this episode discusses self-harm from an educational perspective. There are no personal stories or graphic experiences, but we do discuss what self-harm can look like.  For some, this might be difficult or you may choose not to listen to this around young children.  I encourage everyone to assess their situations, take care of themselves, and if you need additional resources, see the links to NAMI and the Crisis Textline below.) In Ep. 40, Cai Graham unpacks all of this with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu in a frank discussion about the origins of self-harm and how we can respond. Some highlights: What self-harm is & isn’t The roots of tween & teen self-harm The 3 reasons kids say they self-harm The first thing to do when you discover your child is self harming What NOT to do when you find out about self-harm Guest Bio: Cai Graham is a Parenting & Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen Toolbox™️. Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN Toolbox™️ Series  which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence. To learn more about Cai Graham: Visit (www.caigraham.com) Follow her on Instagram (@caigraham) Find her on Facebook - Facebook Page: @thecaigraham / Facebook Group: Parent & Teen Toolbox Check out her Amazon bestselling book: (The Teen Toolbox) In this episode – references and additional resources: (Nami.org) - National Alliance for Mental Illness Learn more: (Crisis Textline):  Text CONNECT to 741741 Learn more:  ( Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (with the occasional break). Subscribe/follow here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google).  Leave a 5-star review – it's good karma!  Head (here), scroll til you see “Ratings & Reviews”, click 5 stars or tap “Write a Review”, and feel the gratitude vibes! Thank you thank you thank you! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on ( Instagram) (@knowberaisethem) (sign up) for our monthly newsletter visit ( ) (www.knowberaisethem.com) Want to support?  (Buy me a coffee) - help keep me caffeinated through my interviews and edits :) *Some links may be affiliate links; if you use them to make a purchase, Amazon pays me a small commission for the sale - at no extra cost to you. If you use these links I really appreciate the support.
Sex Talk(s): How to Have Them and Overcome the Awkward // with Sarah Sproule
May 31 2022
Sex Talk(s): How to Have Them and Overcome the Awkward // with Sarah Sproule
Ok, who of us hasn’t cringed a little bit, thinking about "having the talk" with your kids?  Why does this awkwardness exist, and can we make it less awkward for our kids, so there’s a healthier dialogue about sex and bodies and relationships?   In Episode 39, Sarah Sproule unpacks all of this with host Carmelita Tiu, sharing what parents can do to create an open atmosphere, build healthy attitudes towards sex and their bodies, and empower their daughters with tools to craft healthy relationships. Some highlights: Where the awkwardness around sex-related topics comes from When and how to start talking about sex Why it’s not just what you say, it’s how you say it A script for have an open conversation with older kids about sex, when you haven’t had one before The importance of living the way healthy feels Guest Bio: When Sarah was 11 she was afraid she was only growing one breast and didn’t know who to turn to for help.  Now as mother of three teens, with two decades experience as a therapist and a masters in sexuality studies, Sarah uses her skills as an occupational therapist and sex educator to ensure every parent and caring adult knows how to nurture deeper connection with their growing kid(s).  Because no child should ever feel alone and unable to reach out for help with their body, their boundaries or their knowledge about sexuality.  … and yes Sarah eventually grew two breasts roughly the same size. To learn more about Sarah Sproule: Visit (www.sarahsproule.com) Follow her on Instagram (@iamsarahsproule) Find her here on (Facebook) Check out (Sitting in a Car), her podcast about sexuality relationships and consent for parents of teens & little kids  For a guide on how to talk to little kids about sex and making babies, visit (www.sarahsproule.com/bio)   Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google).  And leave a 5-star review – this helps other moms find and listen to the show. You’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on ( Instagram) (@knowberaisethem) (sign up) for our monthly newsletter visit ( ) (www.knowberaisethem.com) to share feedback, topic ideas, or just say hi :)
Diet Culture (Pt 2) - Tough Truths, Tips & Takeaways // with Debbie Saroufim
May 24 2022
Diet Culture (Pt 2) - Tough Truths, Tips & Takeaways // with Debbie Saroufim
What woman hasn’t disliked part of her body, or all of her body, at some point in her life? That is a problem. Diet culture, thin ideals, and ever-changing and unattainable beauty standards – these are self-esteem sabotaging issues that women and girls deal with every day. In a continuation of a conversation from Episode 37, (Defying Diet Culture & Making Peace With Our Bodies), Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim chats with host Carmelita Tiu about what parents can do to help empower their daughters with healthy body relationships, and immunize them to diet culture and fat phobia. We cover: The ways we might inadvertently reinforce fat phobia Understanding diets as disordered eating, and the scary stats connecting diets to eating disorders What we can say to give them a healthy sense of self, when we ourselves may still be working through our own body issues How to address your daughters feelings of frustration around her body The importance of normalizing all body shapes and ages, and that your body will change throughout your life To learn more about Debbie Saroufim, visit (www.bodyrelationship.com) , and follow her on Instagram @bodyrelationship_coach.  And check out her (Parents Guide), for what NOT to say to your kids if you want them to have a health relationship with their bodies. In this episode – references and additional resources: (Understanding Body Positivity and Fat Phobia // with Emily Lauren Dick) (Ep. 24) (Defying Diet Culture & Making Peace wIth Your Body // with Debbie Saroufim) (Ep. 27) (Unpacking Gender Equity // with Annie Warshaw) (Ep. 11)  Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google).  And leave a 5-star review – you’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on ( Instagram) (@knowberaisethem) (sign up) for our monthly newsletter visit ( ) (www.knowberaisethem.com)
Defying Diet Culture & Making Peace With Your Body // with Debbie Saroufim
May 17 2022
Defying Diet Culture & Making Peace With Your Body // with Debbie Saroufim
What woman hasn’t disliked part of her body, or all of her body, at some point in her life? That is a problem. Diet culture, thin ideals, and ever-changing and unattainable beauty standards – these are self-esteem sabotaging issues that women and girls deal with every day. Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim chats with host Carmelita Tiu about how we can navigate diet culture and embrace our bodies, and escape from shame and guilt cycles. We cover: Her journey to becoming a body relationship coach How to redefine our relationships with our bodies What food rules are, and how we can identify and challenge them The need for a broader definition of health  Why fat is not a bad word Guest Info To learn more about Debbie Saroufim, visit (www.bodyrelationship.com) , and follow her on INstagram @bodyrelationship_coach.  And check out her (Parents Guide), for what NOT to say to your kids if you want them to have a health relationship with their bodies. In this episode – references and additional resources: (Understanding Body Positivity and Fat Phobia // with Emily Lauren Dick) (Ep. 24) Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google).  And leave a 5-star review – you’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on ( Instagram) (@knowberaisethem) (sign up) for our monthly newsletter visit ( ) (www.knowberaisethem.com)
Media Literacy & Questioning What We Consume // with Alicia Haywood
May 10 2022
Media Literacy & Questioning What We Consume // with Alicia Haywood
Alicia Haywood, Executive Director of iSpeakMedia, chats with host Carmelita Tiu and unpacks what media literacy is and explains how we can build media literate kids (it’s easier, in some ways, than you think)!   She shares: Questions to ask A playful way to invite dialogue about media literacy How simply modeling can help ensure your child becomes media literate To learn more about Alicia Haywood and the ISpeakMedia Foundation, visit (www.ispeakmedia.org), follow @ispeakmediafoundation on Instagram, and follow @ispeakmedia on Twitter.  You can also find Alicia on LinkedIn (here). In this episode – references and additional resources: Previous episodes of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them:  (Understanding Body Positivity and Fat Phobia // with Emily Lauren Dick) (Ep. 24) (Confident and Grounded Daughters in a Social Media World // with Charlsey Childers) (Ep. 10) (Self-love and Second Guessing Society’s Definitions of Success // with Lacey C. Clark!) (Ep. 22) Books and links: (Can’t Buy My Love: How Advertising Changes the Way We Think and Feel), by Jean Kilbourne, Ed.D (So Sexy So Soon: The New Sexualized Childhood and What Parents Can Do to Protect Their Kids), by Diane E. Levin, Ph.D and Jean Kilbourn, Ed.D (Digital Wellness Lab) Common Sense Media’s (5 Questions Students Should Ask About Media) Note:  Podcast guests make independent suggestions. Some of these are affiliate links; if you use them to make a purchase, Amazon pays me a small commission for the sale - at no extra cost to you. If you use these links I really appreciate the support! Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google).  And leave a 5-star review – you’ll forever have good karma and my gratitude! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on ( Instagram) (@knowberaisethem) (sign up) for our monthly newsletter visit ( ) (www.knowberaisethem.com)
Emotional Suppression & How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up (Encore) // by Ezza Mustaffa
May 3 2022
Emotional Suppression & How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up (Encore) // by Ezza Mustaffa
If you’re like me, you believe on some gut level that burying and ignoring your emotions isn’t healthy - and the research continues to back that. A (study) from the University of Texas found that when we avoid our emotions, we’re actually making them stronger — which can create serious implications for your body and mind, including depression, aggression, low self-esteem, and physical problems like headaches, insomnia, heart disease, intestinal problems.  Another thing to consider, is that opening up can go both ways.  We want to hold space for our sons and daughters, but when we’re feeling off, we make a mistake, or have big feelings, it’s also OK to share these with them in an age-appropriate way.  It’s only by knowing our hardships and obstacles that our kids will understand how resilient, persistent, and courageous we are. _____ Getting your tween or teen to talk to you can be notoriously difficult. We’re all used to one-word answers and hearing “fine” when we ask how they’re doing.   Today's article, "How to Get Kids to Open Up," comes from Ezza Mustaffa, a licensed professional counselor who works with individuals of all ages. Learn about: The importance of a safe emotional environment Reptilian brain?! 5 tips on how to create a safe space Ezza Mustaffa received her Masters of Education in Community Counseling from Loyola University Chicago. She works with individuals of all ages and couples, presenting with a wide range of concerns. Ezza approaches therapy from a relational, integrative, and multicultural framework with skills grounded in mindfulness-based and evidenced-based approaches. Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google).  And leave a 5-star review, I'd greatly appreciate it! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on ( Instagram)  (sign up) for our monthly newsletter visit ( www.knowberaisethem.com) email: knowthembethemraisethem@gmail.com
Post-Divorce Wisdom: Lessons All Moms Can Learn // with Heather McGinley and Laura Koo
Apr 12 2022
Post-Divorce Wisdom: Lessons All Moms Can Learn // with Heather McGinley and Laura Koo
Every failure presents opportunities for learning, and a failed marriage is no different. In Ep. 32, Heather McGinley and Laura Koo chat with host Carmelita Tiu about the ups and downs of life post-divorce, and what they’ve learned. Some key takeaways: It’s helpful for kids to have a sense for the work that parents put into giving them the life that they have.  Tough moments can create opportunities for them to step up and be helpful. Sometimes divorce allows someone to be a better parent.  It may seem counterintuitive, but a toxic relationship can suck up an outsized amount of energy.  When you as a mom are able to come from a happy and healthy place, that positively impacts all of your relationships. Let your kids see your emotions.  It can open the door to talk about big feelings. Normalize that idea that romantic relationships have seasons and phases, just like friendships, and may not last forever.  Help them understand when and how to let go in a healthy way. Teach your daughters what a healthy relationship looks like. Remember that we are not merely the roles we play.  The role of “mom” is just one part of our selves. To learn more about Heather, Laura, and Thirsty: the Podcast, check out: (www.thirstythepodcast.com) Instagram:  @thirstythepodcast Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Subscribe here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google). New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between).  For more doses of information and inspiration:  follow @knowberaisethem on (Instagram)   Like the podcast page on (Facebook) (sign up) for our monthly newsletter  visit ( www.knowberaisethem.com)
Mindset, and Why Modeling It Matters // with Mary Beth Henry
Apr 5 2022
Mindset, and Why Modeling It Matters // with Mary Beth Henry
How do we define "mindset"?  Why does it matter, and how do we model a positive, growth mindset for our kids? Personal growth & life coach, Mary Beth Henry, breaks it down for us with host Carmelita Tiu.   Mary Beth Henry touches on:  The basics - what growth mindset and fixed mindset are Why modeling a growth mindset is so important The downsides of a negative, fixed mindset How to provide perspective to help offset your kids' negativity Plus, you can hear one of Cat's funny podcast missteps. So many trials and hiccups behind the scenes...she shares one that involved her daughters. For more info and to follow Mary Beth Henry (www.mary-beth-henry.com) Instagram:  @if.she.can.you.can LinkedIn:  (www.linkedin.com/in/mary-beth-henry) Find Mary Beth’s podcast, If She Can, You Can on your favorite podcast platform Her newest program is called (Figure It Out- 60 Day Bootcamp).  It’s designed to help busy women figure out what lights them up, how to plan their next steps, and how to fully enjoy and live life to the fullest.  Next session starts May 9th 2022. Other references in this episode: What did we get from our parents that we are passing on to our kids? Check out (Ep. 30, Generational Patterns, "Turning Red" and Turning it Around // with Dr. Stephanie J. Wong). (Ep. 27, Positive Psychology and Rewiring Your Brain For The Better // with Mary Beth Henry) Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Subscribe here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google). New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between).  And I’d appreciate it so much if you leave a 5-star review! This helps other listeners find our show. For more doses of information and inspiration:  follow @knowberaisethem on (Instagram)   Like the podcast page on (Facebook) (sign up) for our monthly newsletter  visit ( www.knowberaisethem.com)
Generational Patterns, "Turning Red" and Turning Things Around // with Dr. Stephanie Wong
Mar 29 2022
Generational Patterns, "Turning Red" and Turning Things Around // with Dr. Stephanie Wong
How did your parents treat you, and how does this impact how you treat your kids?  If you saw the Pixar movie “Turning Red”, you couldn’t help but consider these questions. In this week’s episode, licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Stephanie J. Wong chats with host Carmelita Tiu, and breaks down the concept of generational patterns.   Stephanie shares:  What generational patterns are How we can better identify them What a cultural genogram is – I found this website to be helpful:  to get deeper self awareness, especially in relation to our kids A perspective-shifting approach that can help us deal with opposition and pushback from our kids The one reminder she wants to share with us all  Stephanie Wong is an Asian American, licensed clinical psychologist, entrepreneur, and founder and host of the award-winning, Color of Success Podcast. She works in private practice with Tech professionals, most of which are ethnic minorities, and at a hospital, serving military veterans. Her training in clinical interviewing has led to fireside chats with diverse podcast guests about advancing their careers and addressing mental health and cultural identity.  Dr. Wong is also a keynote speaker in academic, entertainment, and corporate settings, sharing her expertise in Asian American mental health, diversity training, and the treatment of anxiety, depression, substance use, work-related stress, and relationship and cultural concerns. To learn more about Dr. Stephanie Wong and the award-winning The Color of Success Podcast: (www.colorofsuccesspodcast.com)  Instagram:  (@color_of_success) Twitter:  @DrStephJWong  Facebook:  (  ( Them, Be Them, Raise Them Subscribe here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google). New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between).  Like what you hear? Would LOVE if you left a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. My endless thanks and good karma to you! For more doses of information and inspiration:  follow @knowberaisethem on (Instagram)   Like the podcast page on (Facebook) (sign up) for our monthly newsletter  visit ( www.knowberaisethem.com)
Positive Psychology: Rewiring Your Brain for the Better // with Mary Beth Henry
Mar 15 2022
Positive Psychology: Rewiring Your Brain for the Better // with Mary Beth Henry
What is positive psychology?  Personal growth & life coach, Mary Beth Henry, breaks it down for us with host Carmelita Tiu.   Mary Beth Henry shares:  What positive psychology is How it differs from toxic positivity Tools to incorporate into our and our kids’ lives The one thought she wants listeners to know! For more info and to follow Mary Beth Henry (www.mary-beth-henry.com) Instagram:  @if.she.can.you.can LinkedIn:  (www.linkedin.com/in/mary-beth-henry) Find Mary Beth’s podcast, If She Can, You Can on (Apple Podcasts) or your favorite podcast platform Her newest program is called (Figure It Out- 60 Day Bootcamp).  It’s designed to help busy women figure out what lights them up, how to plan their next steps, and how to fully enjoy and live life to the fullest.  Next session starts May 9, 2022. Other references in this episode: Finding your daughter’s strengths:  listen to (Ep. 7 with Wendy Synder) - 10 Phrases to Empower Your Daughter, and ( Ep. 22 with Lacey C. Clark!) - Self-love and Second-guessing Society’s Definition of Success (VIA Character Strengths Assessment) - free online test to help identify your strengths Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Subscribe here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google). New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between).  And I’d appreciate it so much if you leave a 5-star review! This helps other listeners find our show. For more doses of information and inspiration:  follow @knowberaisethem on (Instagram)   Like the podcast page on (Facebook) (sign up) for our monthly newsletter  visit ( www.knowberaisethem.com)
Breaking the Gender Bias: Top Tips for Moms // by Carmelita Tiu
Mar 8 2022
Breaking the Gender Bias: Top Tips for Moms // by Carmelita Tiu
Every year, International Women's Day chooses a theme -- a specific call to action in an effort to further gender parity. This year's theme is #breakthebias -- calling attention to the ways that explicit and implicit biases negatively impact women. And while we celebrate International Women's Day on March 8, we're challenged to use the rest of the year to make progress on ending gender bias. While we know what bias is on some visceral level, I wanted to do a quick episode that spells it all out -- what gender bias is, how it shows up in women's lives, and what we can do about it. In this episode on bias against women and girls, we cover: The definition of gender bias The most common biases that women face The bias that ties into imposter syndrome 4 ways women can move the needle on gender bias in the workplace 7 tips for helping reduce the negative impact of gender bias on our daughters One bonus tip for how to break your biases Other references in this episode: Ep. 26 - Cynthia Changyit Levin - " (From Changing Diapers to Changing the World)" Ep. 11 - Annie Warshaw of Mission Propelle - (Unpacking Gender Equity ) Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google). And if you got something out of the podcast, I'd love it if you could leave a 5* review! For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on ( Instagram)  (sign up) for our monthly newsletter visit ( www.knowberaisethem.com)
On Moms as Advocates: "From Changing Diapers to Changing the World" // with Cynthia Changyit Levin
Mar 1 2022
On Moms as Advocates: "From Changing Diapers to Changing the World" // with Cynthia Changyit Levin
As moms, we are powerful creatures. We know we have an impact on our children’s lives, and our families.  But have you ever wondered, “How can I be a part of even bigger changes, bigger movements?” In today’s episode, Cynthia Changyit Levin, author of (From Changing Diapers to Changing the World: Why Moms Make Great Advocates & How to Get Started) - discusses advocacy, motherhood, and points us in the direction to make even broader societal changes.  Cynthia:  Gives us a simple definition of advocacy Shares how she got started Outlines the benefits of advocacy and tween & teen girls Demystifies the process Empowers us to get started! For more info and to follow Cynthia Changyit Levin: (www.changyit.com) Instagram:  @ccylevin Twitter:  @ccylevin On International Women’s Day, March 8, you’ll be able to order (From Changing Diapers to Changing the World: Why Moms Make Great Advocates & How to Get Started) on ( Amazon) and your favorite bookstores. But before March 8, 2022, you can order an autographed copy at ( www.changyit.com/books) Other references in this episode: Sunrise Movement- Youth org for climate justice – ( UNITE - youth clubs for global health – ( – (www.results.org) FCNL (Friends Committee on National Legislation) – ( Climate Lobby – (  "The Path: Creating Your Mission Statement for Work and For Life” by Laurie Beth Jones Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Leave a 5* review on Apple Podcasts! I'll be forever grateful, and you'll help other mindful moms find us. Go to our (Apple Podcasts page) and scroll down til you see stars, and click to rate (and leave a comment if you're inspired to). Subscribe here: ( Apple), ( Spotify), ( Google). New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between).  For more doses of information and inspiration:  follow @knowberaisethem on (Instagram)   Like the podcast page on (Facebook) (sign up) for our monthly newsletter  visit ( www.knowberaisethem.com)