Tell The Others

What if the secret to parenting an ADHD child isn’t trying harder—but trying differently?It makes sense when you think about it.ADHD brains are wired differently, and so are their challenges. ADHD coach Sharon Collon shares her journey from chaos to calm and how you can tailor solutions to your family’s unique needs.After spending over $30,000 in her son's first year post-diagnosis and developing an autoimmune condition from burnout, Sharon discovered that success comes not from trying harder, but from trying *differently*.In this episode of Tell The Others, Heidi and Sharon dive deep into the surprising strategies that work for ADHD families while avoiding shame and overwhelm.Transform your approach to daily life with systems designed for ADHD brains.Discover why traditional parenting advice fails ADHD families and what actually works.Uncover the real reasons behind ADHD behaviors and how to address them.Timecodes00:00 - Introducing Sharon Collon.01:33 - Sharon's ADHD origin story.07:54 - The gift of lived experience.17:05 - What is ADHD coaching?25:17 - One-handed systems.38:44 - Working with your brain.41:50 - Five ADHD parenting tips.52:37 - Connection over correction.1:04:54 - Limiting beliefs about ADHD.1:11:05 - How to take action.About SharonSharon is an award winning, credentialed ADHD Coach, Consultant & Parent Expert (who is families trained). She is passionate about helping people with ADHD understand how their brain works and creating joyful, functional lives with ADHD.  She loves anything that makes life easier with ADHD!Her husband and her three sons all have ADHD (throw in some Tourettes, ODD, OCD, SPD and SLD too).    As well as Sharon's lived experience, she has been researching ADHD for over 15 years, studied at ADDCA in New York and the International Coaching Federation.Sharon has runs on the board, assisting over 35,000 families since The Functional Family was created.  Sharon has won multiple awards including Business Awards - Outstanding Education Service, AusMumpreneur - Disabled Business Excellence, People's Choice Leadership, People's Choice Making a Difference and the Cook's Community Award.Learn more about Sharon's membership, ADHD & Families Program, and free resources -> https://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/work-with-me--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

Ever feel like your SPICY kid is allergic to the word "no"?They're actually wired to struggle with three things that make it *look* like they're being difficult 'on purpose' (when it's really just their brain asking for help).Tune in for a perspective shift to help you parent with less stress and more connection.Explore why spicy kids struggle with “no” (and how to set boundaries that stick).Understand why connection is like oxygen for them, and what you can do about it.Learn the SPICY framework that’s transformed thousands of families around the world.--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

Dental anxiety isn't just about teeth — it's also about feeling powerless. It's a topic I covered on a recent Prism Perspective call. Tune in to learn... • How to help your child understand their anxiety• Simple strategies to make dental visits less traumatic• Why lying about pain backfires (and what to say instead)• Ways to empower your child with choice and control--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

'Does everyone need therapy?'It's kind of like asking 'does everyone need deodorant'?Not strictly.BUT...Do you remember your last train ride on a summer day?Or that Uber trip? Or the customs line at the airport?Yechh...The sights, the sounds... the... smells.Body odor (and lack of deodorant!) in a small space is kind of like our emotional struggles and unresolved traumas.Both have an impact on the people around us, and we often don't even realize it!  The thing to remember is that therapy benefits everyone, not just people with severe trauma. And one of the best things we can do for our children is investing in our own mental health. By addressing our own issues, we create a healthier, more stable environment for our family to thrive in.Join me on this hot take to find out why, and learn what you can do about it. Timecodes00:00 - Misconceptions about therapy00:54 - Therapy as a family gift01:23 - Understanding childhood trauma01:58 - Recognizing personal trauma02:56 - Addressing childhood beliefs03:50 - Benefits for everyone--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

I don't know about you, but I like to imagine parenting as a marathon, not a sprint 🏃‍♀️But it's hard to think long-term when every day feels like a race to the finish line.It's like the parenting version Groundhog Day...…we roll into bed exhausted, disconnected, frustrated, and anxious because we KNOW we're only hours away from doing it all again 😑So, here's a little secret…By making small changes to the way we parent each day, the wins start to rack up - fast.And in the process, we create a beautiful legacy for future generations.That's how you become a cycle breaker - by modelling a new way of parenting for your children, your grandchildren and beyond.So where do we start? A great place is learning how to fill your child's 'buckets'.This builds a solid foundation of love and understanding while preparing them to be amazing parents themselves one day.Unpack the buckets analogy with me to learn the 3 tools you can use to help your child feel 'ok', connected and respected (which leads to better behavior and greater emotional regulation!).Timestamps00:00 - Introduction00:19 - What are the buckets?04:45 - Being a cycle breaker05:23 - The source of resistance06:56 - The buckets: breakdown08:37 - The source of power struggles--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

If you're battling your teenager over late-night phone sessions, you're not alone!In this episode, Heidi shares why phone and tech boundaries are especially tricky for strong-willed and neurodivergent kids (you know - the SPICY children who don't respond to 'traditional' parenting techniques 🤣).Learn how to identify what's really driving their behavior and unpack strategies for compromise that work for everyone.Here's the question Heidi received for Q&A from a mom in the Prism Perspective community:"My 13-year-old SPICY child thinks she should be able to determine her bedtime, which would be anywhere up to 3am if I let her on school nights."When do we enforce a ‘phones off’ policy with a SPICY child?"--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

When we're trying to improve our emotional wellbeing, we usually focus on the present or the future.But what if the key to healing and feeling ‘whole’ is actually in our past? 🤔That's where reparenting comes in.Reparenting is about connecting with and caring for your inner child—the part of you that holds the memories and feelings from your early experiences.Sound a little ‘woo woo’... or… maybe super-interesting?Either way, this deep-dive coaching session with Leigh (one of our team members) will give you tonnes of insight into reparenting, understanding and practicing self-compassion, and breaking the glass of what we think we know about ourselves.--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

Parenting a SPICY child is often lonely, exhausting, isolating and overwhelming.I know because I have a SPICY child myself, and I see ya’ll in private practice every week 🤣We live in a society that says children should all fit into a neat little box of behavior and personality… and if they don’t… well… it must be the parents’ fault!But most of society has no clue what it’s like to parent a SPICY child!Join me as I break down some of the myths surrounding self-compassion, and why making it a habit will forever change your life (like, in a positive way! 🤣).There’s also a little exercise at the end if you’d like to give this whole ‘self-compassion thing’ a try.--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

Heidi answers the following question in this episode:"Hi Heidi, why doesn’t positive parenting work on my spicy 8 year old? My 10 year old is so different and much more dutiful, compliant and easy. My 8 year old is aggressive, violent and hates any talk about feelings. It feels like we are all walking eggshells. My husband yells and isn’t as patient as me, but I lose it too, as nothing seems to work. I could talk about feelings and validate the emotions of my 10 year old but Mr 8 hates any kind of emotional chat. Why is he like this?"Heidi answers this question by discussing:emotional regulation and how it's such a key issue for SPICY kidsthe two main beliefs SPICY kids have about themselveshow needing choice, feeling anxious and angry outbursts are all interconnecteda discussion around the belief a lot of people have that these kids are choosing to be this way and are just disrespectful, strong willed and defiantwhat to do and say when your child says 'I hate you!' or 'I'm running away!'--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

Ever wondered if transformation was possible for you, or if healing yourself was even an option outside of therapy?I chatted with my colleague and fellow therapist, Tom Ahern this week, all about our journeys in self-healing and managing our mental health.It was fascinating to dive deep into the topic and explore the idea that therapy isn’t the only route to self-healing (pretty wild - coming from two therapists!).Some of the questions we discuss:What does self-healing mean anyway? Why do you call it an 'art'?What do you know about self-healing?What's your experience with self-healing?How do you know it's effective?How does therapy fit into the picture?What would you say to someone who feels stuck and is having a hard time in their own self-healing?--Connect with TomInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/tom.ahernFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/tombahernMedium: https://medium.com/@tom.ahernYouTube: https://bit.ly/2shhVqMPodcast: https://anchor.fm/the-mind-mate-podcastConnect with HeidiInstagram:  www.instagram.com/heidirogers_Facebook: www.facebook.com/heidirogers.helloWebsite: www.heidirogers.com--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

One of the most common things people say to me is, "I know if I could just change my thinking and be more positive, then I’d be happy. I know it's my fault I'm unhappy because of the thoughts I choose".If it were THAT simple and just 'thinking happy thoughts' was the key to everything, then the world would be a really happy place. But it's not, because it's not that simple.Taking a 'bottom up approach' is a much easier way to find happiness.When we begin the practice of noticing how we feel: the sensations in our body, our breathing, our heart rate… we can start to unlock the causes of our unhappiness.In this podcast, I explain how to do this, and why it's so important.Prioritizing the feelings in our body over the thoughts in our mind puts us on the fast-track to happiness.--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

I often hear from parents:"My child’s teacher has recommended my son / daughter have an assessment to understand their behaviors a bit more. I’m not sure how I feel about this. I think a label will hurt them long-term and I don’t want them to be treated differently."In this clip, I share my thoughts on this and provide some guidance around WHY an assessment may or may not be helpful. I hope it helps!--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

Join Heidi and Vanessa (a trauma therapist and Licensed Mental Health Social Worker) on their deep dive into all things body image, and how to find freedom in food.Some of the topics covered:What determines health?What is body neutrality?Easy ways to promote healthy body image to your kidsHow to protect your kids from developing a negative body imageLabeling foods "good" or "bad"Emotional eating, and what to do if you or another family member is doing itThe ideal meal time experience, and how meal environment impacts usHow fat phobia and diet culture impact us and our kids--Connect with VanessaInstagram:@vanessa_preston_Website:www.greenlifepsychology.com CURIOUS Method registration:https://pfnl.co/XZdeTBFF Project:https://greenlifepsychology.com/the-body-food-freedom-project/--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

I wanted to share a recent question I received in my parenting group about teenagers and their unique challenges.It opened a HUGE can of worms as I honed in on the real issue behind this mom’s concerns - a loss of control.Q: “My 17-year-old is staying in her room and isolating, not talking to us as much as she used to. I’m worried something is going on. Can you help?”It’s such a classic scenario that can lead to feelings of rejection, sadness and a loss of control for parents.But is ‘control’ the best way to parent?Will it get them to confide in you when they’re under pressure to take drugs, have sex or engage in the kind of risk-taking activities that teens are wired to explore? Or will it push them away?If you’d like some insight into what’s ‘normal’ for teenagers (even if your kids aren’t there yet!) - and why we need to parent them differently - you won’t want to miss this answer from a recent Q&A call.--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

One of the common questions I hear in my private practice is ‘Why does my child have anxiety, especially when they have nothing to be stressed about?’While it’s easy to view their anxiety as ‘attention seeking’ or ‘being dramatic’, the key message they need from us is: you are safe, and I can help you.With that in mind, we need to reframe the way we view anxiety and understand how - and why - it shows up in our children.Join me as I dive into the origins of anxiety, how it manifests in our own lives, and how we can extend more compassion (rather than annoyance) when our children are anxious.--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

Mental Health Social Worker and nutritionist Vanessa Preston joins me to discuss the ways women are healing their relationship with their bodies and making room in their lives to pursue what's -actually- important to them.Her online program, the Body And Food Freedom Project, has received rave reviews from my clients, my friends,  and moms in my parenting program, and I'm super keen to share her message because I think it's so important for everyone to hear.Vanessa's refreshing take on diet culture helps put to bed that voice that says we're somehow 'defective' because we're 'not perfect yet'.Connect with Vanessa Preston:Website: https://greenlifepsychology.com/the-body-food-freedom-project/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessa_preston_/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Vanessaprestonglp--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

Being ‘successful’ is about more than luck. It often involves learning a trade, building relationships, and staying curious - even in the face of adversity and potential failure. Join Heidi as she speaks with Joe Titus, whose experience in the finance sector and on Wall St has taught him a thing or two about the essential personality traits to be successful in any area of life.What to expect in the episode:Is a career on Wall Street worth it?Do you have to be smart to make a lot of money on Wall Street?How does social interaction affect learning?Do successful people have failures?What makes a person successful?The importance of self confidence for your success.Aim high but start small. Why?Why is failure essential to success?What actually happens at Wall Street?What qualities make a company a great place to work? Show notes:  [01:40] Joe’s education[03:57] What motivated him to study well[07:21] When you’re having trouble finding a job[09:41] How to succeed in life after failing badly[10:43] Taking a step back is also part of personal growth[12:46] How Joe became successful[14:22] What matters most in choosing a career[15:25] Why curiosity enhances learning[17:28] Why it’s important to have a good working relationship with colleagues[20:45] What most people think about Wall Street[24:02] Choosing the right leadership styles[33:31] How do you deal with a financial crisis[37:16] The importance of doing what you love[39:48] How we can modernize the education system[41:22] Ways to make sports more affordable Connect with Joe Titus:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joe-titus-a789768/--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

No matter how mentally healthy, resilient, or happy you are, we all go through times when we’re faced with something difficult. Join Heidi and guest Janine Halloran as they discuss the coping methods that suit unique personalities, and how to identify your own coping skills.What to expect in the episode:What is a coping skill, and why is it important?How do parents implement coping skills?In what ways can parents model good coping skills?Coping skills change throughout your life. Why?How to learn new coping skills that are best for youDo people have different coping mechanisms?Shownotes: [01:56] How Janine started creating coping skills for kids[04:00] The challenges therapists/moms face[05:54] How parents often deal with anger and frustration[06:52] Coping evolved at different times throughout life[10:33] Showing respect to other people's ways of coping[12:12] Do the same coping skills work for everyone?[13:30] Categorizing coping skills[19:02] Is it okay to use distraction as a coping skill?[20:21] The importance of play in adulthood[24:52] How to identify your unique coping skills[25:41] Why it’s important to understand your personality[26:35] Using social media to strengthen family bonds[27:30] Should parents play video games with their kids?[32:09] Mistakes are an important part of learning[33:30] What to do when your child is a perfectionist[34:30] Books to support children in making mistakes[40:38] Every human is a work in progress[42:37] What did coping skills look like in your home?[45:13] Write your skills and make a plan--Connect with Janine Halloran: Website: https://copingskillsforkids.com/Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.ph/encourageplay/_created/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/copingskillsforkidsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/copingskillsforkids/--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

One of the most common questions I get is from parents is - “how do I deal with a child who is refusing to go to school?”If it's a 6 year old starting school, or a 12 year old not getting out of the car, or a 16 year old refusing to get out of bed….most parents can attest to the frustration and sadness that comes when your child refuses to go to school.I have personal experience with this with my own kids, and I can feel it in my bones when another parent is sharing their painful drop off story: “he was biting me, she was punching me, she was laying on the floor sobbing and I just had no idea what to do, he had to be pulled off me, he has missed 3 months of school so far this year.”I think it taps into our sense of helplessness as a parent….that deep knowing in those desperate moments. Parents have told me, ‘I actually can’t force them to do this. I can be patient and empathetic, and then if that doesn’t work, I can even try bribing, threatening, or shaming…but nothing works.’It is exhausting to fight the battle of school every morning and often leaves the parents ALSO in tears, and an overwhelming sense of failure, frustration and sadness. I hear you!That’s why on last night’s Q&A call, we spent the bulk of the call talking about school refusal, what to do, and how to handle it.I called in some amazing colleagues and friends of mine, Kristi de Young, and Anne Muscatello to discuss it with me. Kristi spent around 15 years working as a school psychologist , and is now in private practice. She says on the call, that about 50% of her job as a school psych was in supporting students who didn’t want to be at school. It is SUCH a common occurrence, and we want you to know you are not alone!Kristi shares her insight and wisdom when it comes to older kids, and Anne shares her tips for younger kids. Whatever age your child is, when it comes to school drop off, we got you covered in this call with all the brain science of whats actually going on in your child’s brain at drop off, what you can be doing to best support them, and the common mistakes we often make when it comes to drop offs.I hope this call is helpful to you, and I want you to know that youre not alone in this, if you are battling every morning with a little person or a big person who just.does.not.want.to.go.--Timecodes[3:45] - Heidi's own school refusal experience[5:01] - The question Heidi tackles[9:55] - Leave quickly, or stay longer?[11:30] - Changes in your child's brain during dropoff[13:31] - What's the real goal of a drop-off?[15:31] - How common is school refusal?[17:38] - The feelings are real[20:00] - What psychologists recommend with school refusal for older kids[24:50] - Common pitfalls to avoid[28:56] - Your role as a confident supporter[31:31] - What psychologists recommend with school refusal for younger kids[37:04] - Preparation is key--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking

The loss of a loved one creates a new kind of 'normal' and introduces us to a kind of suffering that we have never known.Join me as I speak with special guest Brendan Murray as he opens up about his experiences with death and the loss of his parents. For anyone dealing with the loss of a loved one, Brendan shares some techniques to cope with grief and loss to help you get back to life.What to expect from the episode:Feelings and vulnerability in griefHow does losing someone you love affect you?Describing the pain of losing someoneCultivating a positive outlook after losing a loved oneWhy is it hard to accept someone's death?Do you ever recover from losing a loved one?The power of choosing positive emotionNegative mindsets: blame and regret will hold you back from being happyHow to train your brain to focus on what you can controlTechniques and goals for growthShownotes:[02:37] What Heidi noticed about Brendan when his parents passed away[05:04] How Brendan copes with grief and loss[08:12] Is it true that “everything happens for a reason”?[11:14] How do you reconcile grief?[12:47] An analogy for explaining death[15:10] Can you feel the presence of a loved one who passed away?[19:19] You get to choose how you feel[21:42] The importance of recognizing your emotions[25:19] Describing the feeling of losing someone you love for the first time[27:08] Does dealing with death get easier?[33:57] Overcoming regret and self-blame[37:25] The importance of focusing on what you can control[45:05] “When you stop growing you start dying”[48:13] Ninety seconds is all it takes to identify an emotion[49:41] Build momentum to create a force for good in your life[51:17] Byron Katie's Four Questions[55:20] Heidi's first Tony Robbins experience[1:01:16] Tony Robbins’ work and its impact on Brendan and Heidi[1:05:41] “Knowledge isn't power, execution is where the power lies”[1:07:19] Opportunity to demonstrate changeConnect with BrendanWebsite: https://halcyonpw.com.au/--Jalapeño or five-alarm fire? Take the quiz to learn your child's SPICY score and get a free, in-depth report with strategies to meet their unique needs 👇*https://heidilinks.com/quiz-pod*--If you find this episode helpful, please don't forget to rate and subscribe.It helps grow the channel and reach more people who need the unique tools for navigating parenthood with a strong-willed or neurodivergent child 🙂--Connect With MeYouTube: https://heidilinks.com/pod-ytFacebook: https://heidilinks.com/pod-fbInstagram: https://heidilinks.com/pod-igSpeaking events: https://heidilinks.com/pod-speaking