Having It ALL: Conversations about living an Abundant Loving Life

Matthew Bivens

A bold, vulnerable and honest weekly show for those courageous enough to believe they can have all the intimacy, health, money, relationships, fun, connection and self love they desire in life! If you believe having it all is possible and that YOU are the only thing separating you from your ideal life, you’re in the right place. In this podcast I share the mindsets, belief systems, personal habits, tools, accountability and support systems that I use daily to design my best life, all so you can go for your greatness and live your full potential! This is not like your typical self help or personal development show. I share my biggest breakdowns and breakthroughs as I travel my path of living an Abundant Loving Life. Ready? Let's do this! read less

Our Biggest Sexual Insecurities And How To Get Over Them with Kyla Sokol-Ward (HIA Classic)
Jan 25 2023
Our Biggest Sexual Insecurities And How To Get Over Them with Kyla Sokol-Ward (HIA Classic)
So, let’s get real personal for a second: what are your biggest bedroom insecurities? What are those thoughts, stories and emotions that you bring into the bedroom that create nervousness, anxiety, or fear? Yeah, I went there. Why am I asking this question? Because talking about our bedroom insecurities is incredibly important, yet we rarely ever do it. Sometimes we may share a few things here and there to our closest friends (if you’re like me then that’s even off the table), but rarely do we sit down and have raw and honest conversations about what makes us most sexually insecure.  Today we’re having that conversation.  On today’s episode I’m talking once again with my friend Kyla Sokol-Ward. We’re sharing our biggest bedroom insecurities, talking about why opening up is important, and giving you real action steps that you can take to dissolve your bedroom fears.  This is Kyla’s second time on the podcast. In our first conversation we talked about sexual energy, and you can listen to that episode below: Resources from this episode: Kyla's website - http://www.kylasw.com/ My first conversation with Kyla - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/exploring-sexual-energy-what-our-relationship-with-sex-reveals-about-ourselves-with-kyla-sokoll-ward/ * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * GET IN TOUCH WITH ME: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
What Years Of Inconsistency Have Taught Me About Follow Through And Keeping My Commitments (HIA Classic)
Jan 18 2023
What Years Of Inconsistency Have Taught Me About Follow Through And Keeping My Commitments (HIA Classic)
Do you feel you lack consistency in some important areas? One of the biggest challenges that people share with me is their lack of consistency. Sometimes it sounds like "I never follow through", or "I lack dedication", or "I don't have perseverance when times get tough". All of those shortcomings live under the umbrella of consistency, and it's a real challenge that robs the joyful life experience for so many. It did for me for many years. For most of my life I would never consider myself consistent, not in the areas that mattered most anyway. I could always find examples where I started something and stopped, where I wanted to do something and got all excited for a short period of time, then inevitably fell off. It seemed to happen again and again. But there were two moments in my life that taught me some powerful lessons in consistency, that changed everything for me. In today's episode I talk about what I've learned about my own lack of consistency and what those two examples taught me that has transformed me into the consistent, dependable, trust-worthy person I am today. * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5 Expert Rules To Make Goal Setting More Effective, Realistic and Fun
Jan 10 2023
5 Expert Rules To Make Goal Setting More Effective, Realistic and Fun
Do you want this year to be different so badly, but secretly you fear that you'll fail at reaching any of your goals or desires? I know what that feeling is like. To desire something, to see it in you mind's eye, and to get excited about the idea of putting it as a goal on paper. Only to have that tiny voice in the back of your mind telling you "C'mon, let's be honest, you're not going to be able to do it". It's deflating and makes the idea of creating change in your life feel improbable, if not completely impossible. But what if I told you that, with a few simple shifts in how you're approaching goal setting and dreaming about your life, that you could actually FEEL different internally and CREATE some true change in your life! In today's episode I'm bringing you tips from 5 experts who know a few things about achieving goals and creating change. By the end of this episode you'll feel prepared to take on the task of setting better goals for yourself, and actually making progress towards achieving them! Resources from this episode: Word For The Year episode - https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/how-to-create-your-word-for-the-year-and-have-it-all-in-2023/ Day Adeogba - https://theydbg.com/ Rich Roll - https://www.richroll.com/ Chad Wright - https://3of7project.com/ Mel Robbins - https://www.melrobbins.com/ * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
The Key To Building Real Self Confidence
Nov 2 2022
The Key To Building Real Self Confidence
How do you build lasting self confidence? I struggled with self confidence for a very long time. For years I operated with low self confidence and low self esteem, not having a clue as to how I could build them up. But as I found more personal development resources, I started reading books, watching lectures and listening to podcasts on the topic of "building self confidence". I became very well versed in what the experts had to say on the topic, yet none of that ACTUALLY helped me become more confident. The main reason wasn't because I failed to apply the lessons (although many times I did), the issue was that I didn't understand the groundwork of what self confidence is built upon. In today's episode I bring to you some wisdom on self confidence that will help you - no matter how low your confidence is - take steps forward in developing real, lasting confidence with yourself. This is no quick fix, but rather concrete insight from years of personal study, as well as thousands of hours coaching others on building their confidence. By the end of this episode you'll understand your missteps more clearly, and you will know how to walk the path of building real self confidence. Resources from this episode: Instagram post from Lewis Howes that inspired this topic: https://www.instagram.com/p/Cj_GwKDM99r/ Trust Account (aka Balance Chart) app from YourDay Balance Game: https://theydbg.com/ Take your free Codependency Test and get your score!: https://theydbg.com/codependency-test-tp/ * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Codependency: The Silent Killer Of Your Self-Worth And Relationships
Oct 5 2022
Codependency: The Silent Killer Of Your Self-Worth And Relationships
What is codependency? As you read that question above, you probably have an idea of what codependency is in your mind. Most people can spot signs of codependent behavior when they see it in others, but fail to notice it in their own lives. The truth about codependency is that it's much more prevalent, damaging and insidious than you might imagine, and in fact it's at the root of many of the biggest challenges that people face day-to-day. Today's episode is the first part of a series that addresses codependency and how it shows up in our lives. In this conversation, I begin with the basics of codependency and share with you what it is, what it looks like, and how you can start overcoming it. As you will see, codependency is not just something that happens to other people "out there", it's something that might be wreaking havoc on your most important personal relationships. Resources from this episode: Codependency Test - https://0bun98ovlt6.typeform.com/to/Fy2FnfnC YourDay Balance Game YouTube channel - https://www.youtube.com/user/YourDayBalanceGame/videos * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
QUICK FIX: Learn To Love Life's Hardships (HIA Classic)
Sep 27 2022
QUICK FIX: Learn To Love Life's Hardships (HIA Classic)
In today's quick fix I let you know why you need to learn to love and get excited about life's hardships --- Rough episode transcript --- If you’re listening to this podcast then I know that you’re into improving yourself and truly stepping into your greatness, and I can bet that you’ve been practicing. Maybe it’s meditating or journaling or being grateful or facing your fears or practicing humility. Whatever it is, this message for you.   WHEN STUFF HITS THE FAN IN LIFE, WHICH HAPPENS AND WILL NEVER STOP HAPPENING UNTIL YOU’RE DEAD, YOU NEED TO BE PSYCHED ABOUT IT!  Hear me out.  You’ve been doing all of these things to improve yourself. You’ve been finding your strength, uncovering your gifts, revealing your mission and purpose. You’ve been practicing getting organized and being compassionate and having courage. You’ve been listening to podcasts and reading books and attending retreats and buying courses.  All of these things have been your training, and none of it matters when life is going smoothly. When life is great and everything is working out in your favor and the tides are rising, you’re not asked to be courageous and humble and intelligent and mature.   It’s only when things go south, when life smacks you in the face with circumstances, that your training is put to the test.  So, you have to start relating to life’s circumstances as GAME TIME! Seriously. When you create a fender bender on the way to work, or your kitchen floods, or your kid does something dumb and gets arrested, or your baby won’t stop crying, or your partner is withholding love — THAT is when you will really get a chance to see how far you’ve come. It’s in those moments that all the reps you’ve put in reading and meditating and working on yourself matter.   Because when you’re able to respond differently to a situation that you’ve responded to the same way your whole life, you’ve just won and you’ve stepped your game up just a little bit.  So get excited when things go south, because it’s in these moments when you actually have an opportunity to grow.   As I say all the time, HAVING IT ALL is about your relationship to life and what it serves up, so next time you’re presented with a circumstance that sucks, remember that’s it’s an opportunity to grow into a greater version of yourself.   That’s it for today.  * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCASTS: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/having-it-all-conversations-about-living-an-abundant/id1093257684 * CHECK OUT THE ENTIRE HIA PODCAST CATALOGUE: https://podcast.matthewbivens.com/ * LEARN ABOUT MY COACHING PROGRAMS: https://www.matthewbivens.com/coaching/ * SEND ME A QUESTION: matthew@matthewbivens.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices