Top Self

Shanenn Bryant

Top Self is a place for survivors who grew up in a dysfunctional family to get tips, tools and resources to grow from past struggles to future success. If you're on a personal growth journey, this podcast is for you. My ambition is to empower and inspire you to go from stuck to next level living. I am an ACA (an adult child of an alcoholic) survivor, and I understand the behavior characteristics and challenges that develop from growing up in a dysfunctional environment. I spent many years allowing my feelings of low self-worth hold me back before realizing I didn't have to let the past define me. I want the same for you but MUCH sooner and is the reason I became a mindset, confidence and jealousy junkie coach and started this podcast. To help you on the journey to your top self, I'm bringing on experts in their field to share their social, mental, and physical growth insights, tips and practical techniques you can use to make big changes in your life.

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Are You Getting It Wrong?  You May Not Be As Empathetic As You Think.
Jun 21 2022
Are You Getting It Wrong? You May Not Be As Empathetic As You Think.
After experiencing the loss of her daughter, Mercy Joan, my guest began helping people and organizations survive, stabilize, and thrive through pain.Most of us think we are saying and doing the right thing, being empathetic to people in their time of need.  Some feel the uncomfortableness of not knowing at all what the best thing is to do or say to support someone in their time of need.Liesel Mertes, acclaimed empathy expert and founder of Handle with Care Consulting, talks about empathy and having the skills necessary to meet people where they are.In this episode she:introduces you to her empathy avatars.  Do you see yourself in any of these?  Find out!Buck Up BobbySilent SamCheer Up CherylCommiserating Candice explains why empathy is so important in both your personal life and in the workplaceshares the Stop Light Check.  A quick easy way to gauge where others are, their energy and how they are feelingcovers how telling someone to let them know how you can help is not the best way to support someone who is sufferinggives tips for working your curiosity muscleexplains when to share your similar story and when to be silent when trying to connect and support someonehow to learn to decide what to keep and what to let go of when you have a disagreement with someoneso much more! Liesel's website:   Connect with Shanenn from Top Self:Website:     Emotion Do You Lead With?  Take the free quiz:  the show
Are You Getting It Wrong?  You May Not Be As Empathetic As You Think.
Jun 21 2022
Are You Getting It Wrong? You May Not Be As Empathetic As You Think.
After experiencing the loss of her daughter, Mercy Joan, my guest began helping people and organizations survive, stabilize, and thrive through pain.Most of us think we are saying and doing the right thing, being empathetic to people in their time of need.  Some feel the uncomfortableness of not knowing at all what the best thing is to do or say to support someone in their time of need.Liesel Mertes, acclaimed empathy expert and founder of Handle with Care Consulting, talks about empathy and having the skills necessary to meet people where they are.In this episode she:introduces you to her empathy avatars.  Do you see yourself in any of these?  Find out!Buck Up BobbySilent SamCheer Up CherylCommiserating Candice explains why empathy is so important in both your personal life and in the workplaceshares the Stop Light Check.  A quick easy way to gauge where others are, their energy and how they are feelingcovers how telling someone to let them know how you can help is not the best way to support someone who is sufferinggives tips for working your curiosity muscleexplains when to share your similar story and when to be silent when trying to connect and support someonehow to learn to decide what to keep and what to let go of when you have a disagreement with someoneso much more! Liesel's website:   Connect with Shanenn from Top Self:Website:     Emotion Do You Lead With?  Take the free quiz:  the show
Emotional Inheritance:  The Chemical Mark of Trauma w/ Dr. Atlas
May 10 2022
Emotional Inheritance: The Chemical Mark of Trauma w/ Dr. Atlas
Trauma leaves a chemical mark on a persons genes that is passed down to the next generation according to today's guest Dr. Galit Atlas.  It's about family secrets and the secrets we keep from ourselves that also keep us from living to our full potential. Dr. Atlas is a psychoanalyst exploring the unconscious of her patients and shares how the emotional inheritance and the legacy of trauma is passed down from generation to generation in her book titled Emotional Inheritance:  A Therapist, Her Patients, and the Legacy of Trauma.In this episode, we discuss how therapy is like detective work and it comes down to uncovering the gap between what people want to have and what they can toleration having.She shares that the trauma healing process starts with the decision to search and to be curious.What do I not know about myself?What can I not emotionally handle?Why does the gap between what I want and what I can tolerate exist?It is also important to treat defenses with respect and if you are not ready to do the healing work that is ok.  It is also acceptable to feel upset that we have to do the work of the past traumatized (our parents or our grandparents) because they were perhaps not strong enough.  Dr. Atlas says if we are only aware of what  we want to have (a relationship, a career, money etc.) but we're not fully aware of what it is that doesn't allow us to have what we want... that is more powerful than what we want".The book, Emotional Inheritance is a must read but give yourself some recovery time and know it can be triggering. What Emotion Do You Lead With?  Take the Quiz: with Dr. AtlasWebsite:    with Shanenn at Top Self:Website:      the show
Operation OPTIMAL PERFORMANCE:  Analyze Your Attributes w/ Rich Diviney
Apr 5 2022
Operation OPTIMAL PERFORMANCE: Analyze Your Attributes w/ Rich Diviney
Retired Navy Seal commander and human performance expert, Rich Diviney, shares the 25 attributes for optimal performance, while sprinkling in some seriously cool stories of his time as a Navy SEAL.  During his 20 + year career, Rich completed more than 13 overseas deployments.  As an officer in charge of training for a specialized command, he was involved in an extremely specialized SEAL selection process, weeding out extraordinary individuals down to just the elite few.  During this process, he discovered what set the chosen SEALs apart and what makes a person more successful and thrive in life, comes down to attributes.  True optimal performance goes beyond just skill.In his book, The Attributes:  25 Hidden Drivers of Optimal Performance, Diviney explains that skills are different than attributes.  Skills direct our behavior in known and specific environment.  They tell us how and when to do something but they're not inherent in us.  Skills do not tell us how we're going to show up in times of stress, challenge, and uncertainty.  It is in those times that we lean on our attributes.  Attributes dictate how we behave, react, and perform; how we are going to show up in life.  We are all born with all the attributes, but the difference in each one of us is the level of which we have each attribute.  The idea is to understand where you show up with the attributes and then understand inside of what context of life you're trying to operate or succeed.Since retiring from the Navy, Rich has worked as a speaker, facilitator, and consultant with the Chapman & Co Leadership Institute, Simon Sinek Inc., and is now founder and CEO of The Attributes Inc.  Currently Rich speaks and consults on leadership, high performing teams, assessment & selection, and optimal performance.  Rich has worked with thousands of businesses, athletic, and military leaders from organizations such as American Airlines, Meijer Inc., the San Francisco 49ers, Pegasystems, Zoom, and Deloitte.To Rich and all the brave men and women who serve or have served our country, THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE.Take the attribute assessments or connect with Rich: with Shanenn at Top Self:Website:      the show (
Confidence and Feelings of Self Worth  w/ Dr. Jomana
Mar 22 2022
Confidence and Feelings of Self Worth w/ Dr. Jomana
Stop pulling yourself out of the race because of your fear of failure.  Do you think you have a high sense of self worth?  Most say yes but your actions may not represent or reflect that of someone who has a healthy sense of worth.Diving into my favorite topics, of course, self-worth and self-confidence with Dr. Jomana.  She is a TEDx speaker, a mindset coach and NLP practitioner and she is dishing out the misconceptions we have about self-worth, practical tips to increase your feelings of self-worth and explaining the competence confidence cycle.The first step in the competence confidence cycle is courage.  Most people wait until they feel confident to do something but confidence comes from taking action first, and having the courage to take that action.Your brain will try to trick you into staying in your comfort zone.  It wants you to feel safe and comfortable.  The feeling of incompetence when trying something new is often when we give up.  Comfort is the enemy of growth.You must accept that you are imperfect to increase your feels of self-worth.  We all make mistakes and giving yourself grace will give you a boost in your feelings of self worth.Boundaries are hard to set, especially in the beginning, but the discomfort you will feel communicating those boundaries is so much better than the resentment you will feel from say yes, yes, yes to everything and everyone.How many times have you based your own worth on what others think of you?  How many times have you done something you didn't want to do, just because you didn't want the other person to be upset?  If you're a people pleaser, this episode will speak directly to you.  Dr. Jomana and I share the same passion for awareness.  It is awareness + action that creates change.  Become aware of your inner critical and negative thoughts and change the way you speak to yourself.  Helping others reclaim their self-worth and increase their confidence, changing their mindset to change their life, is why I started this podcast.  I don't want you to wait as long as I did to see that YOU ARE WORTHY.  Which Emotion Do You Lead With?  Take the Quiz HereConnect with Dr. JomanaWebsite:    with Shanenn at Top SelfSchedule a clarity coaching call:        the show (
Rethink Your Relationship with Alcohol with Patrick Fox
Mar 8 2022
Rethink Your Relationship with Alcohol with Patrick Fox
Patrick Fox, founder of Rethink Alcohol Project, grew up in an environment where drinking alcohol at a young age was the norm.  His weekends with dad consisted of waiting outside pubs or being sent off  to buy CDs and sweets to keep him occupied while his dad drank inside the pub.In this episode, Patrick discussing how reading the book "This Naked Mind", by Annie Grace  helped him understand how alcohol affects your brain and that put the seed in his head to quit drinking.  But, it wasn't until after an alcohol and drug fueled Christmas that he finally set down the bottle for good.After coming to terms with his addition to alcohol, Patrick wanted to share the process and his wisdom with other men so he created a 12-week program called the Alcohol Rethink Project for those who want to stop drinking and started a podcast with the same name as another resource.The steps in the program are simple, the struggle of course, is much more difficult but these three steps have changed the lives of many.Step 1 is Self-Awareness.  Patrick says self awareness is the start to understanding the belief systems we have about ourselves.  For some alcoholics, they have a "fear" of quitting drinking and not having it in their lives.Step 2 is Choice.  Once you are aware, you now get to decide what you are going to think, and how to prepare yourself when the temptation is there or what situations to remove yourself from.Step 3 is all about the transformation.  This is a magical part of the process where people figure out what other interests they have, what to do instead of drinking, what are other things you want to accomplish and focus on.  AND, the interesting part is, these same steps ring true for any self-improvement goal.  Even if you don't have a problem with alcohol but wanting to make changes, this episode provides valuable tips and a process you can use on your own journey.Which Emotion Do You Lead With?  Take the Quiz HereConnect with PatrickWebsite:    The Alcohol Rethink PodcastConnect with Shanenn at Top SelfSchedule a Top Self Coaching Session:   Self Facebook Page:  you have issues with jealousy in your relationships?  Join my Jealousy Junkie Facebook Group:  the show (