018: Is It Ever Okay to Praise a Child?

Trillium Montessori Talks

May 31 2022 • 16 mins

Most of us in the Montessori world have been cautioned not to praise children. Too much praise can lead to patterns of codependency and inadvertently teach children that their self-worth should be based on the perceptions of others. But is there really no place for praise and compliments in the Montessori classroom? And if there is, how do you do it right?

In this episode, we’re talking about praise, compliments, and connection with your students. We’re explaining the difference between evaluative and descriptive praise, and we’re sharing different ways you can practice giving praise in the classroom. We’re also explaining how to refocus a conversation and connect with a student who you can tell is seeking attention.

What’s in this episode:

  • Why we choose not to praise or reward children for “good” behavior in the Montessori classroom
  • Why it’s important to foster a pleasure in doing the work, not just in receiving rewards
  • How to replace praise-heavy statements with new phrases and ways of encouragement
  • The different types of praise, and how students react to each type
  • How to practice observations and noticing, and how to use those comments to inspire conversation
  • Praise versus compliments, and when it’s appropriate to compliment students
  • Why your conversations with students should always foster connection without codependency
  • How to refocus your conversations with students when they are seeking praise

For full show notes, resources, links and to download the transcript, visit trilliummontessori.org/podcast

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