The Virah Payam Show

Virah Payam

Power is not who talks the most, but who controls the conversation A podcast about philosophy, power, and the ethics of sex Twitter: @kinkywild1 Instagram: @virah.payam read less
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Episodes

5. We are all the bad guy to someone
May 21 2017
5. We are all the bad guy to someone
We are socialized to see mistakes as "weakness," rather than part of a larger learning process. Think about it, admitting fault even has severe legal consequences. This misconception trains people to avoid looking at or taking responsibility for their words, actions and intentions. For many people, admitting they were wrong also comes with a crippling amount of shame and guilt. This is sad and unfortunate, because these are moments where we really should have the most patience for ourselves.  We are all the bad guy in someone's story. This is a really difficult concept for a lot of people to grasp... I don't think many people set out intending to be the bad guy. I think it happens gradually over time. It happens every time we prioritize our comfort over someone else's humanity. Being an ally means getting out of our comfort zone. Of course, being an ally, also means having one. For every time I've been frustrated by being called out or embarrassed from sticking my foot in my mouth, I've also been supported, encouraged, empowered, and shown immense compassion and patience when I've needed it the most. Some things that I reflected on when writing this episode: What is my biggest fear about being wrong?What would do I expect other people to do when they're wrong?What do I do when I'm wrong?What do I need to feel safe enough to admit I was wrong? **This podcast was originally titled KW1S, or The Kinky Wild1 Show. My Patreon fans suggested renaming it The Virah Payam Show to make my branding more cohesive. The name officially changes around episode 10**  FOLLOW ME & SUPPORT THE SHOW Twitter: @kinkywild1Instagram: @virah.payam
4. How does an honor student become a SW?
Apr 22 2017
4. How does an honor student become a SW?
I prefer to talk about philosophy, rather than politics. The purpose of law and politics should be to support a more humane and civilized society. Laws and rules are simply tools. They can be used to create a better society, or to destroy it. Philosophy tells us exactly how someone will use those tools. What are the principles that guide a persons decision making? Understanding this is more telling of a person and their future actions than any campaign speech or promise. Another thing that's important to note, is that exploitation is a lot like being embarrassed. It's different for different people. While some might consider certain type of work exploitative, others might not have a problem with it. I saw an interview with a cam girl talking about why she doesn't do overtly s3xual shows on Ch@turbat3 (when she could obviously be making so much more money). Her response was "Some girls don't want to have a dild0 up their vag1na for 4-6 hours a day." Of course my internal response was, "And well... some do." Hahahaha! Ultimately, this episode is about the ability to make that choice. We all have to work to make a living, but (for me personally) how I make my living matters just as much, if not more, than how much I make. Quality of life, control over my time, image, messaging and creating quality content that I enjoy are all so much more important to me than being king of the mountain. I'd rather suck d1ck for nickles, than kiss a$$ for quarters. At least then I get to choose what goes in (and out) of my mouth. **This podcast was originally titled KW1S, or The Kinky Wild1 Show. My Patreon fans suggested renaming it The Virah Payam Show to make my branding more cohesive. The name officially changes around episode 10** FOLLOW ME & SUPPORT THE SHOW Twitter: @kinkywild1Instagram: @virah.payam
3. Are humans inherently good or evil? Does it even matter?
Apr 12 2017
3. Are humans inherently good or evil? Does it even matter?
There's a reason we call Bill Nye the "science guy" and not the "philosophy guy."   What is philosophy?What's the difference between morals and ethics?Why is it important? Some core things to think about are how our ideas about the world shape the way we interact with it. In that story about my Dad's crazy ex-girlfriend, I had to seriously examine my ideas about humanity. I knew that how I chose to handle that situation would define the kind of person I was going to be. What we think and how we act, ultimately becomes who we are. The other big idea I hope you take away from this episode is that human beings all have the capacity for both good and evil. It is the philosophies we embrace and how we respond to our circumstances that define what kind of person we become. We don't always get to choose the hand we were dealt, but we do get to choose how we play those cards. I didn't get a chance to put this in the podcast, but I wanted to leave you with the parable of two wolves: A father and son are talking about life. The father tells his son that within each one of us a battle between two wolves. One wolf represents all that is honest, genuine, loving and humane about ourselves, while the other wolf represents all that is selfish, spiteful, mean and wicked within us. Everyday they fight and battle one another. The son asks his father, "Which one will win?" To which the father replies, "The one you feed." **This podcast was originally titled KW1S, or The Kinky Wild1 Show. My Patreon fans suggested renaming it The Virah Payam Show to make my branding more cohesive. The name officially changes around episode 10** FOLLOW ME & SUPPORT THE SHOW Twitter: @kinkywild1Instagram: @virah.payam
2. Can a SW be a feminist? Do I still have to buy her a drink?
Apr 10 2017
2. Can a SW be a feminist? Do I still have to buy her a drink?
I have a complicated history with women, so this was a really important episode for me personally. While I love, admire and am attracted to women, I also struggle with living in a society that encourages women to mistrust, tear down and compete with one another. So for International Women's Day, I decided that my contribution would be to shine a light on the misunderstood topic that is feminism and on my own tangled relationship with women and patriarchy. In this episode I start with a brief history of feminism, where it started and how it has been co-opted away from it's roots as a struggle against oppression. Of course I will answer some basic questions like: What is feminism?Is it possible to be a SW and a feminist?Can females be sexist?Who should really pay for a date? Most importantly though, I hope this episode encourages you to reflect on your own relationship with women. How does your s3xuality affect your relationship with women? How do your views on gender affect the ways you interact with, view, speak to or treat women?  *Not all SW are women, and I'm not trying to erase male SW voices, but obviously, this episode is about women and feminism **This podcast was originally titled KW1S, or The Kinky Wild1 Show. My Patreon fans suggested renaming it The Virah Payam Show to make my branding more cohesive. The name officially changes around episode 10** FOLLOW ME & SUPPORT THE SHOW Twitter: @kinkywild1Instagram: @virah.payam