The 3/6 Profile in Human Design - The Martyr Role Model

The HD Your Biz® Show - Human Design for Business with Jamie Palmer

May 19 2023 • 12 mins

On today's episode of the HD Your Biz Podcast - Human Design for Business I continue the deep dive into the 12 profiles series in human design. Today's episode the 3/6 profile in human design known as the Martyr Role Model. This profile moves about the world with a deep inner wisdom and oscilates between experimentation and observation. They live their life in three distinct phases and are here to be of trusted council to the world.

The 3/6 needs to go through cycles of trial and error in order to embody the wisdom and step into the role model mentor role. These people experiement, create allegencies and build trust as the lead by being of council to others. They are deeply wise and their wisdom becomes stronger with age.

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Speaker 1 (00:02):

The three six profile, the martyr role model in traditional human design, or as I like to say, the experiment mentor, you are here to experiment and mentor others from the wisdom of your experiments. You are resilient, authentic, and you lead the people with your insights. You are sought out for your counsel. You find equilibrium by honoring your pull to dance with life while nourishing yourself with alone time. You build trust slowly with those who believe in your fundamentals. You show us what it means to be an embodied, authentic leader who isn't afraid to fail. Your failure fuels your wisdom, your strength and determination inspire every soul you come in contact with. Let's dive into the three six profile. So with the three six, we are here with the third line, the experimenter. And they're really the transition between the first floor and the second floor.

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This is really how we make material in the world. This is how we have success on the material plane. And then you have the sixth line who's here to be a mentor and a role model and really to show us how to lead in the world through guiding and giving others their quote, blessing or stamp of approval. So this profile is a challenging profile because for the first 30 years, the six line exists in three phases. Phase one to 30, phase two, 30 to 50, phase three, 50 and beyond. And roughly, roughly, those ages are approximate, but in the first 30 years, they're living as a double three profile. So there is a lot of trial and error and experiment. And from the outside world, it can be very challenging. There can be a lot of failures that happen.

(02:08):

There can be a lot of failures that happen for the three six profile, and it can come with a lot of shame and guilt. But there's also deep wisdom in learning that happens during that phase of experimentation. And then in phase two, which is 30 to 50 years, is a period of retreat as they go and they kind of build their foundation and they climb back and they go to the roof and they begin to observe and they begin to try to heal those wounds that they experienced in their first 30 years. This is often where they establish a family and they build a foundation. But businesses often they kind of do things a little bit aloof here, they're not super connected to it. And then in phase 30, which is kind of 50 years and beyond, they start to

Speaker 2 (02:58):

Reengage with life. They come down from the roof or as I like to say, they kind of get their wings and they can oscillate between this time of retreat and this time of being with the people. And they have gained this wisdom, but they still have these wounds they've gotten for the first 30 years. And I always like to say, I don't think most six lines wounds heal like a third line. I think they're always kind of tender. And so these are people who can be skeptical. They're very discerning with who they trust. They often observe before they engage, and yet people are constantly seeking out their approval. But the challenge here is the third line wants to get into the field of life. They want to operate on the material plane, they want to be on the playing field. And the sixth line kind of prefers to be on the roof.

(03:48):

And the third line wants to get its hands to his things. And they've got double third line for their first 30 years. And so this is a struggle. These are people who bump into things, life bumps into them, and they have to realize that they are not a failure. It's they move about the world through trial and error. That's how they experience the world. And there is this resiliency that is developed during that phase one. And it's during that phase one that they also gain the experiences they need to turn that into wisdom in phases two and three. And so they experience what life is like and they realize like, oh man, I don't know that I actually like this. And they may feel sort of unfulfilled or incomplete or weary of life. And then into phase two, they begin to experience more a tension.

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It's almost like they have two different personalities. The three, it bumps into things, life bumps into them. And then in they've got their sixth line that wants to retreat so they can become disinterested in life and what life has to offer because they've bumped into so many things. And there's often a lot of wounds from the first 30 years of life that they just like, I don't want to be down with the people. I don't feel safe to be down with the people. I'm going to stay up here. But the third line's like, and I want to jump into things. And so there's this tension. And particularly during phases two and three, there's challenges that they face with perfectionism and trust and in decision. And it's during that second phase where they're here to establish a family. They're here to have security and build that sense of what's, what does my life look like?

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What does my career look like? What does my family look like? And that happens in phase two, but depending upon what happened in their first 30 years, they either balance this tension well or they don't feel safe to head out into the world at all. And there's usually not a lot of nuance in between that. It's like people typically fall into one of two camps. And so at a healthy expression, they need to balance their desire to experiment and gain wisdom while also honoring their need to observe. And then in phase three, they kind of fully embody, they fully step onto the roof. They fully incorporate that wisdom that they learn from the first 30 years of life. And they're still going to bump into things. And the bumping into things is often for them so that they can have more wisdom. But the reality is they have this unique perspective.

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They are a valuable resource. They're a sounding board to other people. And they don't really lead by getting their hands dirty. They, they may lead by getting their hands dirty for themselves, but that's not necessarily how they guide other people. People will come to the three six for council and they'll get guidance, and then the three six will immediately get back on the roof and observe. But understand that these are people, it takes time for these people to develop self-confidence, develop self-trust to gain mastery, because there's this constant dancing with their discoveries of their third line and the wisdom that comes along with that. And then the sixth line to be a living example of lesson learned. So these are people who as they mature, they gain more wisdom, they gain more trust, they gain more confidence over time, and they embody leading by learning from mistakes.

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And they really have a resilience to stick with the course in spite of what might come up. So the three six s are resilient, they're strong, and they have a capacity to show the world a new way to lead. They persevere. And I think it's important to understand that the challenges here are abundant. And the reality is awareness is key because the three and the six operate fundamentally differently. One's in the lower trigram, but they face two different struggles. So they often might feel like they're just fighting themselves or that they have two different personalities. And really learning to navigate that becomes key. And I always say six lines. They kind of have this wound from the first 30 years that's tender. And that leads them to struggle to trust other people. It may lead them to sit in indecision, it may lead them to perfectionism.

(08:08):

And they'll sit there and they'll tweak and they'll hone and they'll adjust and they'll modify and they learn and observe for years. And they never really step into that mental role. And I think it's important to note that, and nobody really talks about this, but I think it's important to mention that just because you're a sixth line does not mean that you're automatically guaranteed to step into that role model role, particularly if you have not been following your strategy and an authority. So understand that this three six, they may never step into that mental role because they don't feel safe. And it's important to understand that there is a lack of trust, both internally and externally. They don't trust themselves to come down the roof because they don't know what will happen if they're going to get tackled. And then they don't know if they can trust other people.

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So it's important for them to integrate the experience experiments that they had into learning so that six line can carry that with them. And the reality is when they do turn that into wisdom, they'll thrive. And it's important for them to understand that the sixth line doesn't want to get hurt. But that's kind of how the third line operates. The third line operates through trial and error. So there's a tension there that exists. And three, six children, they're often labeled as failures. They often make a lot of, they make and break a lot of bongs early in life, and they often carry those wounds into adulthood. They often experience a lot of shame and a lot of mistakes. And it really piles up to leaving them feeling inferior to other people. And this may lead them wanting to give up and hide away. And so teaching a three six child, this is how you go about learning in the world and that your discover great discoveries come from experimentation is really important.

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And so for a three six, we want them to be engaged in the wonder of life. But these childhood wounds can carry a great deal of distress into adulthood. For the three six, they end up with trust issues and they struggle in relationships. They also can really get into indecision of whether or not they should move forward, or whether it's the right time or not, or whether they should get off the roof or whether or not they should engage in life. And really understanding and leaning into their strategy and authority is really what becomes key, because perfectionism is ever present in a three six. They have high standards, they have high expectations. They don't really like to fully commit to things until they are certain they can meet the expectations they've set for themselves. And often their expectations that they've set for themselves are incredibly realistic.

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So there's a lot that you have to kind of contend with as a three six. But the reality is they are keenly aware of the fact that there are many ways to accomplish the same thing. And there is no one answer. There are many answers. And that's a really important thing to understand. So some questions to ask A three six profile, can I trust this person, this idea, this environment? What did I learn from this experience? Am I sitting in indecision? What do you recommend? Even though you may not want to personally be involved? Am I identifying with my mistakes or am I using, looking at my mistakes as a way in which I gained wisdom? Where might I need to reestablish a bond in my relationships? Am I sitting on the fence of indecision? Am I obsessing over something as a means to avoid moving forward or coming off of the roof? Am I spending time alone? Am I spending time with people? And lastly, what stories am I telling myself that are no longer serving me? That is the three six profile. Thank you so much for tuning in.