The Changed Podcast with Aden Nepom

Aden Nepom

Featuring guests you care about sharing stories of the fork-in-the-road moments in their lives, so that we can examine what it means to change, be changed and face change in life. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

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Introducing the Changed Podcast KIDS!
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Wondering what's in-store between seasons 2 and 3? It's a sweet little mini-series of interviews on the Changed Podcast Kids! After interviewing 50 guests on the Changed Podcast, I am so very excited to bring in a new perspective... the voices, thoughtsAfter interviewing 50 guests on the Changed Podcast, I am so very excited to bring in a new perspective... the voices, thoughts, and stories of kids! For this mini-series, I have a brand new co-host too! You may recall https://thechangedpodcast.com/about-the-changed-podcast/ (my stepdaughter is the origin) of the Changed Podcast, and since I wanted to talk to kiddos about their experiences, who better to help me do that than my own amazing kiddo, Amelia! Unlike our regular season, these episodes will come out sporadically over the next couple of months as we work around Amelia's school schedule, custody schedule (since we split her time between our house and her mama's house), and the ups and downs in the life of an 8-year-old. That being said, our first episode has already been recorded, and we are excited to bring you the first interview VERY SOON! In the meantime, we recorded a little trailer, to help you get excited. AND if you believe your child would make an excellent guest on The Changed Podcast KIDS, we invite you to submit them by https://artofchange.typeform.com/KidsPodcast (filling out this form)! This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
Oct 16 2021
2 mins
Nancy Davis Kho on How Gratitude Changes Your Everything – Episode 50
This episode is not just the 50th episode of this podcast (WOW!), but it also brings to a close an amazing second season of this show. What better guest than Nancy Davis Kho, host of https://midlifemixtape.com/ (the Midlife Mixtape Podcast)https://midlifemixtape.com%29%2C/ (,) and author of the book: The Thank You Project, Cultivating Happiness One Letter of Gratitude at a Time.Nancy Davis Kho is a speaker, author, and podcaster whose work has appeared in the Washington Post, San Francisco Chronicle, and NPR affiliate KQED. Nancy is also the author of the book https://daviskho.com/the-thank-you-project/ (THE THANK-YOU PROJECT: Cultivating Happiness One Letter of Gratitude at a Time) published by Running Press. Nancy covers “the years between being hip and breaking one” at http://www.midlifemixtape.com/ (MidlifeMixtape.com) and on the https://midlifemixtape.com/midlife-mixtape-podcast (Midlife Mixtape Podcast), available on all major podcast platforms. The Midlife Mixtape Podcast won a 2020 Iris Award as Podcast of the Year and was included in the Wall Street Journal’s list of 8 Podcasts for Anyone Nervously Facing Retirement. Nancy has also been both champion and judge in the acclaimed international comedy-lit improv show, Literary Death Match! More on Nancy can be found on her website, at http://www.daviskho.com (www.DavisKho.com.) And for the 50th episode of The Changed Podcast, which also brings to an end the second season of the show, I could not think of a better guest than Nancy Davis Kho! I like to think that I express my gratitude often and well, but Nancy has dug deeper than arguably the majority of us, and certainly far deeper than I have, producing 50 separate thank you letters, not just to people but to places, and whole swaths of the entertainment industry that have shaped her, inspired her and helped her become who she is today. Clearly, we can all learn something about saying thank you from someone who has really put in the time and effort to do so as thoroughly as Nancy Davis Kho. What's in this episode?A longer than necessary discussion as to whether or not Nancy and I have met before, or if we just look like other people (spoiler alert, we look like other people A midlife specific on the moments that shape us the reality that reaching midlife means you have seen and experienced some pretty significant things Thoughts on the gifts overcoming struggle, loss, and challenge can leave us with The relationship between grief and processing change (shoutout to previous guest https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/andrew-williams/ (Andrew Williams)!) Does empathy come with age and experience? Two book suggestions! 1) https://www.amazon.com/Other-Bennet-Sister-Novel/dp/1250129419 (The Other Bennet Sister) by Janice Hadlow and 2) https://www.amazon.com/Sweetbitter-Stephanie-Danler/dp/1101911867 (Sweetbitter) by Stephanie Danler Nancy's journey of writing two books (and then 50 letters of gratitude later) and then a third book! Lessons learned from saying thank you, and more importantly thinking about the specific reasons you are grateful A long closing statement from me expressing gratitude for all of you who listen to the show, and read the show notes! (You're the best!) Shoutouts to the Super Seven (the first seven guests of this show) https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/mary-jo-pehl/ (Mary Jo Pehl, Mo Daviau, Dr. Rick Kirschner, BJ Lange, )https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/nadine-montaghami/ (Nadine Montaghami), https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/rick-brinkman/ (Dr. Rick Brinkman), and https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/guillermo-martinez/ (Guillermo Martinez )(have you seen https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ak5dFt8Ar0 (The Mitchell's vs the Machines) yet??? WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR???) A few Memorable Quotes from Nancy"I think if you haven't been tossed around a little bit, by the time you hit your 40s and 50s, you are in a very, very tiny...
Oct 1 2021
47 mins
Wade McCollum and How Your Mundane Might be Someone Else’s Life-Changing Moment – episode 49
In Episode 49 of The Changed Podcast Wade McCollum, who has acted on Broadway, in film, and on TV, shares his unique experiences with time, the profound & the mundane, and two stories that illustrate the relationship between our expectations, understanding of ourselves, and our realities.You may have heard of https://www.instagram.com/wademccollum/?hl=en (Wade McCollum). As an American film actor, stage actor, composer, and musician, Wade is https://www.broadwayworld.com/people/Wade-McCollum/ (best known) for his roles as Hedwig in Hedwig and the Angry Inch, and Ernest Shackleton in Ernest Shackleton loves me for which he won the https://www.elliotnortonawards.com/2016-1 (Norton Award for Best Actor )and was nominated for the https://www.lortelaward.com/2018lucillelortelawards (Lortel Award )in the same category. These days, he can be found buried in his neuroscience textbooks as a student at the University of Pennsylvania. Wade is truly remarkable and multi-talented, so it may be no surprise that like previous guests https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/maraya-brown/ (Maraya Brown) and https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/lou-radja/ (Lou Radja), Wade is also an alum of Ashland High School. Like many of the programs at Ashland High School, The drama program at AHS is one of the best (thanks to the brilliant thinking of Betsy Bishop marrying the program to the prestigious https://www.osfashland.org/ (Oregon Shakespeare Festival), which continually attracts some of the world's top talent). All of that is to say that any time I get to sit down and talk with Wade McCollum, it carries simultaneously that sweet feeling of the relief I associate with what is most familiar, AND the excitement of what's new because both of our lives are filled with shifts, changes, and curiosity. There is just so very much to talk about! This may just be my favorite interview of the season! What's in this episode?How this actor's brain handles memorization Why Wade wasn't able to be part of season 1 as originally planned How having and recovering from Covid effected Wade A rich discussion of human adaptation Why #youchanged would make an excellent complement to give! The incredible contrast of human interpretation. My mundane can be your profound, and vice versa How our earliest experiences shape our assumptions about what other people's lives should look like How we digest other people's stories to represent profound meaning to ourselves as humans Two stories that demonstrate how our expectations and understanding of reality aren't always well met. A glimpse into the exciting realm of Medical Music and why Wade is now studying neuroscience after decades of making a living as a performer. A few memorable things Wade McCollum said:"I'm up there thinking, you know what, there's 3000 people watching the show right now... they're having that fulcrum experience where they may never be the same. And I'm literally at my office job. The juxtaposition of that is so incredible" "When you're born into something, the assumption is that's life. That's life, and there's no other, you know, there's no other way to do it, because that's the way it's done." "They said, 'We're the, we're the different ones. Most people live in a house. And they stay there. And most people don't move around like we do and go from town to town.' Everything just went boom, and suddenly I was the anomaly. And it was so fundamental, I could feel my brain change." "Humans as a species are like story eaters. Rather than, throw the story up, this is a gross analogy, our tendency is to digest it. And in that process of digestion, there's that refinement, where we're like, 'what nutrients am I going to take from that story that are useful to my particular lens and narrative, what I'm thinking about how I'm looking at the world right now and what I'm working on?' And that's such a beautiful and incredible gift as a human species. what an amazing thing!" "There's...
Sep 24 2021
1 hr 7 mins
Dr. Ian Brooks on Choosing What Your Pivotal Moments Represent to You – episode 48
Episode 48 of the Changed Podcast features Dr. Ian Brooks, on the power of mindset, living a life of intention (which includes Netflix and chips!), and his own self-determination even as he narrowly escaped the wreckage of a collision in his own fork-in-the-road story.http://www.rhodessmith.com (Dr. Ian Brooks) started off working in a clinical psychology ward eventually transitioning to work with "higher functioning individuals." Over the span of his 25+ year career helping people move forward. He's worked with clients that include Netflix, Shondaland, Bank of America, Guitar Center, Nike Inc. Sony, and Warner Brothers. Most recently, Dr. Brooks is the author of Intention: Building Capabilities to Transform Your Story which integrates research and personal journey that drives readers toward introspection and action. His contagious smile and upbeat demeanor might fool you into thinking achieving Transformation is easy! And it is! But also, it's challenging, it's hard work, and it absolutely takes https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/julia-decaneva/ (intention). Our conversation weaves through the ins and outs of intentional transformation, what the nuances are between transformation and change, and the difference that intention makes throughout all of it. What's in this episode?The differences in getting patient compliance in a closed setting, like a lockdown facility vs the open setting of the general population The difference between achieving personal transformation, and making personal changes The relationship between fear of change and the power of belief when it comes to transformation Why Ian doesn't cry anymore How Dr. Brook's book, is really a second draft, which serves as an excellent reminder that failure isn't always failure and that we have a choice about how we move forward from setbacks How easy it is to let challenges stop us from doing the good and important things in life Ian's personal fork-in-the-road story from a moment when he was in a motorcycle accident How living with purpose and intention does not mean that you don't get to also enjoy spacing out, eating chips, and lazing on the couch watching Netflix A few memorable things Ian Brooks said in this interview:"We only have 24 hours in this day. We were only promised the next second. That's it. And I can't tell you what I'm going to do with that next second. But I can tell you that it's going to be done with purpose. I don't want to waste time." "If you want to kick your feet up and eat a whole bag of potato chips and watch Netflix all day, you're doing with that purpose, whether you realize it or not. Now, if your purpose is really to go out there and exercise, well, then that's a different conversation. But you're still doing what you're doing with purpose because you are doing it intentionally, and that's okay. It isn't always necessarily outcome-based. Sometimes that purpose is: I just need to get lost in my thoughts." "I can do more than what I'm defined by in this motorcycle injury or otherwise." "The power of the mind is very interesting. As we think about fear, and the reasons why we don't do certain things, or even potentially the reasons we do, it's very interesting in the context of specifically, this idea of change. Because we do things quite a bit out of fear, not necessarily providing the context around, how do we actually move forward?" "Change is: I can get someone to do something one day, in a particular moment in time, and just taking very targeted steps to do something different. That's a lot different than transformation, which I think a lot of people are really reaching for. And that is building it into your fabric of who you are." This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
Sep 17 2021
43 mins
Josh Braun on why you should stop trying to change minds, and start listening instead – Episode 47
Josh Braun, the host of the Inside Selling Podcast, shares his thoughts on why it's so critical to learn how to listen fully, how sales superpowers are really just human communication superpowers and the moment that shifted ALL of his priorities.https://www.joshbraun.com (Josh Braun) is known for helping people learn to sell without being salesy, creepy, sleazy, and without selling their souls. We met back in 2006 when he hired me for my first exciting grown-up job working as a comedy writer for an educational software product. Yes. You read that sentence correctly. I'll never forget this particular fork-in-the-road moment: I had just come home from my absolutely awful temp position processing mortgage applications, and I'd decided I was done. I hated my job and knew I had so many other skills to offer, but didn't really have any clue what I was looking for. It was 11 pm at night by the time I found the unconventional job posting in the Gigs section of Craigslist that sounded like it was written by a human who was introducing themselves at a friend's house. It was written in such a funny voice, I thought it might be some kind of joke! Feeling punchy and like I had nothing to lose, I went ahead and responded to the ad. This was a job where humans seemed like they might actually get to act like humans, and I wanted a piece of that! With unbelievable amounts of honesty that included fun facts about my work ethic and my t-shirt collection, I made sure that the flirtiest, goofiest, biggest, and boldest parts of my personality showed up to the cover letter party. I wasn't trying to be the person that fit the role. I wanted to be the human that these humans were excited to meet. At 1:30 am I sent the cover letter and my resume to the email address provided. The phone rang just before 8 am that same morning. It was Josh's voice on the other end of the line "That's the best cover letter I've ever read. No joke, I'm framing it and putting it on my wall." While both of our paths have taken us away from the kind of work we shared at that particular company in 2006, the elements that brought us together in the first place have remained a priority for both of us in our separate endeavors: simple, humble, human communication. I use these skills to teach storytelling and to help teams work well with each other. He uses these skills to teach sales; but, we're not just teachers. We're students too. What's in this episode?Why trying to change people's minds feels frustrating What you might want to try instead Why it's helpful to shine a light on the cost of inaction What is Motivational Interviewing? Why is it helpful? How modern technology is affecting the way we communicate What happened to cause Josh to realize that instead of money, he needed to prioritize the moments and the people in life that he cares about the most. Memorable Things Josh Braun Said:"You don't control other people. You don't control your revenue number, you don't control how people respond to your message. You don't control your quota. You don't control if people are going to hang up on you. You don't control if something's going to change. https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/lou-radja/ (You only control what is in your nature )to be able to control: what you say, what you want to do, how you conduct yourself, how you behave, and your thoughts." "When we start to change people's minds, we often are met with resistance because people don't like it when other people take away their freedom to choose you telling a teenager to stop smoking naturally start to smoke more, it's actually something called https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/reshanda-yates/ (the backfire effect)." "The secret skill is to actually https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/gary-hirsch/ (make the other person feel heard). That is a skill that a lot of people take for granted-- listening--because we do it all the time. And it's a tragedy because unless we realize that...
Sep 11 2021
37 mins
Greg Campbell and the Importance of the people we meet – Episode 46
Voice Actor Greg Campbell has a voice as smooth as butter. In Episode 46 of The Changed Podcast, he shares how he found himself making the leap from television to sharing his unique voice narrating films, commercials, and audiobooks. He also opens up about his experience as a black parent who has witnessed so much change and is continuing to witness profound change and the importance of the people who help us along our journeys through life.https://www.gregcvoiceovers.com/ (Greg Campbell) is a Voiceover artist with a distinctive voice. He provided his voice for the 2021 Emmy award-winning https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pe3ckZPy5M8 (documentary Shaw Rising) about the oldest HBCU in the south. He has also voiced nationally aired commercials for https://ford.com (Ford), during the Kentucky Derby, and https://www.kumhotireusa.com/us/index.do (Kumho) tires featuring NBA All-Star https://www.nba.com/player/202322/john_wall (John Wall )of the Houston Rockets. He's also the brand voice for the apparel company, https://myshux.com/ (Shux.) In our conversation, Greg shared some of his professional journey: starting out in TV in Michigan and ending up performing voiceovers in Florida. He also shared some of his personal journey as a parent and a grandson. Most of all, his story and perspective both serve to highlight how the people we know and connect with throughout our lives, impact the trajectory of our personal experiences, careers and more. What's in episode 46?An introduction to Greg Campbell, not just what he does, but how he IS as a human How Greg started out as a voice actor narrating audiobooks One of his favorites: https://www.amazon.com/Motown-Man-Bob-Campbell/dp/1988214394 (Motown Man by Bob Campbell )(due to be available in audiobook soon... featuring Greg's dulcet tones), a story that tackles questions of race and identity through the lens of an interracial couple who meet and fall in love in 1991. A discussion of what has changed in the conversation on race, in our behaviors, and understanding of each other and history since the 90s What is still changing The role that https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/gary-hirsch/ (family story telling )plays in teaching important history Carla! (and a thank you to Carla) The importance of great friends The https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/kendrick-shope/ (role of instinct) in who and how we trust A reference to a 1977 episode of The Bionic Woman that almost became its own show, https://www.nbc.com/the-bionic-woman/video/the-bionic-dog-part-1/3800077 (The Bionic Dog)! A few memorable quotes from Greg Campbell"Change means to me: there's always something better down the road, something, something good on the way. For me, it's always been like that." "[Since 1991] I think there's been some changes, you know. Unfortunately, when there is change, there seems to be backlash, too often." "I think that one of the biggest things with change is fear. I think people you know, live too much in fear a little bit. There's a lot of things that's scary out there, that can scare you. But I've always challenged myself, and just try to just keep going, keep moving, and just allow change to come. You got to embrace it, it comes. Some things you know, you can't control. It's part of it, not being able to control it. But, you know, you look at your experiences, and you say, I'm better for it. I'm glad I've tried to have an open mind and live my life that way." 'What you may see in the news nowadays. You know, they talk about what happened in https://www.tulsahistory.org/exhibit/1921-tulsa-race-massacre/ (Tulsa, Oklahoma), and all that. My grandmother told me about that stuff. I mean, I already knew." "I kind of https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nJgmaHkcFP8 (go by Maya Angelou) a little bit, you know, the person tells you who they are the first time. Believe 'em, you know. I kind of live by that a little bit. I mean, because down the road, that first impression means a lot....
Sep 4 2021
36 mins
Playwright Adrienne Dawes on seeing the red flags and then doing something about them – Episode 45
In this episode, playwright Adrienne Dawes shares her thoughts on the relationship between stagecraft and change, and the specific role of comedy and satire in giving people an opportunity to reflect. She also shares her own journey of paying attention to red flags and then doing something about them which has led her to the program she is currently completing.http://www.adriennedawes.com/ (Adrienne Dawes) is a playwright, producer, and teaching artist from Austin, TX, currently completing a graduate fellowship at the University of Arkansas. Her plays include http://www.adriennedawes.com/thisbitch (This Bitch), http://www.adriennedawes.com/hairy-sherri (Hairy & Sherri), http://www.adriennedawes.com/plays/#/teendad (T)http://www.adriennedawes.com/plays/#/teendad/ (een Dad), and her play http://www.adriennedawes.com/am-i-white (Am I White) won the David Mark Cohen New Play Award from the Austin Critics Table and an award for Outstanding Original Script by the B. Iden Payne Awards. Adrienne’s full-length plays have been produced by Salvage Vanguard Theater (Austin, TX), Sacred Fools (Los Angeles, CA), and American Theatre Company (Tulsa, OK). She has developed new work with Teatro Vivo, Salt Lake Acting Company, The Workshop Theater, Queen City New Play Initiative, the Fire This Time Festival, B Street Theatre, Stages Repertory Theatre, Teatro Milagro, National Black Theatre, and English Theatre Berlin. Adrienne is a member of the Dramatists Guild, ScriptWorks, and a company member ofhttp://www.salvagevanguard.org/ ( Salvage Vanguard Theater) and https://www.inthemargin.org/about (In the Margin Theatre Company). Learn more at http://www.adriennedawes.com (www.adriennedawes.com) What's in this episode?Thoughts about the role of satire, comedy, and theatre in general in societal shift and personal change How working with/studying with fantastic people can make or break your experience at school, at work, and in the rest of your endeavors The enticing nature of stability and routine Her story of noticing the red flags of a program she was excited about, and choosing to take action rather than align herself with an organization that she thought was treating it's people poorly An invitation to leaders (and people in general really), that if you're going to ask people questions, listen to their answers and then do something with what you learn! A few things Adrienne said that stood out"You can https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/lou-radja/ (plant this little seed in somebody). When they've opened up, and they're a little more vulnerable to that conversation, I think a lot of the work is just planting that little seed of change" "There's https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/shannon-stott/ (this essential part of who I am) as a human that stays the same, no matter what my location is, or what I'm doing. And my friends, too, there's a quality to the people that I am drawn to that are in my closest circle that kind of stays the same, even though they're wildly different people." "Financially, the smart decision would have been to just shut my mouth, take their money, and, and suffer. Financially, that would have been smart, but https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/aoife-obrien-happier-at-work/ (in terms of my happiness), the route was to get out" "As I get older, more experienced, I'm just sort of like, I have a shorter timeframe of like, 'Yes, I want to try to give people a chance to course-correct.' But also, like there's a window of that before it's excessive and it's actually harmful for you to be in this https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/melissa-thornley/ (very negative toxic work environment)." "It's really about listening to your gut... a couple of red flags is enough. You don't need to wait for things to blow up. You can just have a couple of red flags and go" "I will admit that it's hard to be thehttps://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/todd-cherches/ ( leader,) it's hard to be in charge of...
Aug 27 2021
41 mins
Margery Arnold on How the Loss of Mom Represents Living Two Different Lives – Episode 44
Margery Arnold is co-host of the Positive Thinpact Podcast. In this episode, she discusses her health, the challenges of having co-morbidities for Covid, and how losing her mother at the age of 24 was either a devastating end to life as she knew it, a challenging beginning to live as she is... or both.If you're not familiar with the https://open.spotify.com/show/4fFwHtjalp1gU6C77kVm3f (Positive Thinpact Podcast), this was a project that Margery and I started in 2019. She had a wild idea, that perhaps one could hold on to the excitement of learning the rules of a new fad-diet as a way of gaming the brain to avoid the moment of self-sabotage that inevitably comes after a few weeks on a stringent eating plan. What better way to catalog such a journey than on a podcast?! At the time, her goal was to lose 250lbs. Now as wild as this idea was, she wanted to start the project, not with a doctor, dietician, or natural health expert at her side... but instead with me a friend and facilitator with a background in improv and play. Margery and I have been friends for nearly 15 years... if our friendship was a person, it would be a teenager! I suppose that means that our friendship is filled with honest opinions and unreasonable confidence in wild ideas being worth some attention. I've heard many stories about her mom over the years, we used to meet up and share a piece of cheesecake to commemorate her mother's life on the anniversary of what would have been her birthday. But hearing her story in the context of this interview, gave me a new perspective on my friend's experience. It also allowed me an opportunity to reflect on grief, the impact of losing a loved one, and more. What you'll hear in this episode:For listeners of Positive Thinpact, there is a long-overdue update about how Margery's journey has been going (or had been going at the time of this interview's recording, in the spring of 2021) How to handle your opinions about other people's weight gain, weight loss, and other body changes The invisibility of being fat Thoughts on choosing to take medication to lose weight, in light of the dangers of covid for those who have health and weight issues The status of the Positive Thinpact Podcast How someone who is analytical by nature, and well-practiced at studying data and recognizing patterns, processes change. A discussion of the human ability to predict the future, and the accuracy of predictions The importance of pattern recognition The pivotal experience of losing her mother to inflammatory breast cancer following https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/maraya-brown/ (standard hormone therapy )for menopause The impact of having cared for a https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/brian-macmillan-kptv/ (dying parent) as a person in her early 20s An acknowledgment of how individuals grieve differently and a few suggestions for those who know someone currently grieving The key idea when you lose a parent young, you end up living two lives: the one when they are still alive, and the one in which they no longer exist. How life might have turned out differently, better in some ways, worse in some ways, had mom survived A few links to check out:The book Margery referenced is called https://www.amazon.com/Motherless-Daughters-Legacy-Loss-Anniversary/dp/0738217735/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwgviIBhBkEiwA10D2j6TWCmHLi0_QR1DFYLnVT9nirz82OsbI1EmmV0pTu8jHkIYk87qT_xoC7XgQAvD_BwE&hvadid=241619600533&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9032878&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=4621187081119453607&hvtargid=kwd-11390016387&hydadcr=22565_10355049&keywords=motherless+daughters+book&qid=1629404098&sr=8-1 (Motherless Daughters): The Legacy of Loss and was written by Hope Edelmen Positive Thinpact can be listened to here: https://anchor.fm/positivethinpact (https://anchor.fm/positivethinpact) "Try to look for the good, no matter the change. There are positive outcomes to be had, no matter how horrific the
Aug 20 2021
56 mins
Living Every Day as if it’s Her Last, Julia de’Caneva – Episode 43
In episode 43 of The Changed Podcast, intentional living coach Julia de'Caneva shares why she is so highly attuned to the fact that our lives are short and rarely end at an expected and anticipated moment.Julia de'Caneva (dee-kuh-nay-vuh) is an intentional living coach with an insatiable curiosity for human behavior and a penchant for sweet potatoes and sunsets. She brings the lessons she learned from cancer to help over-workers and perfectionists slow down and find balance by clarifying what truly matters to them. She fell in love with intentional living while working as a professional home organizer, and now one of her three pillars of coaching is the process of internal decluttering which she calls intentionalism. You can find her musing about intentional living on her http://www.julia.coach/ (blog), and she'll encourage you to find moments of ease in each day if you follow her on https://www.instagram.com/life.coach.julia/ (Instagram). When not coaching, Julia devours books and podcasts, takes many photos of flowers on her daily walks, and is improving her handle of the Japanese language. She hopes that everyone will slow down and learn to treat life as precious as it is. What's in this episode?What it means to live intentionally The value of slowness and really enjoying each and every day as the beautiful and fleeting gift it is Two of Julia's transformational pivot points in her journey with https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/bj-lange-resiliency-retired-usaf-medic/ (cancer) A reminder that the severity of a situation is often more obvious to those around us than to ourselves A discussion of the illusion of safety and longevity. In other words, we so often tend to obsess over creating safety or stability for ourselves and our loved ones, but it is impossible to predict whether or not we'll be successful where there is still randomness in the universe. We could get hit by a bus at any time. The importance of caring for and listening to our bodies to make the most of the precious moments we do have. Additional readingInterested in decluttering your physical space? Check out https://www.amazon.com/Life-Changing-Magic-Tidying-Decluttering-Organizing/dp/1607747308/ref=asc_df_1607747308/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312057361370&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=4361484736159055897&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9032878&hvtargid=pla-406163962033&psc=1 (The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up) by Marie Kondo Interested in decluttering your brain at work? I'm starting this book this week, feel free to join me! Noise: a Flaw in Human Judgenment by Daniel Kahneman, Olivier Sibony, et al. Julia de'Caneva's Blog: https://julia.coach/blog (https://julia.coach/blog) This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
Aug 13 2021
39 mins
Is Change Easy or Hard? Philippe Barbe Reminds us that it’s Constant- Episode 42
In Episode 42 of The Changed Podcast, Philippe Barbe reminds us of our adaptability as humans, and that we don't have to work as hard as we might think to experience profound change.Who is Philippe Barbe?https://ph-barbe.com/ (Philippe) is a leader, expert, and trusted advisor in data science, AI, and mathematics with a wide range of experiences in the business industry, government, and research internationally. He is the author of five books and many scientific papers and has been an invited professor at numerous universities worldwide, including Yale and Georgia Tech here in the US. He is the mastermind at http://lastditchconsulting.com/ (Last Ditch Consulting) When a mutual connection https://www.linkedin.com/in/ken-ferguson-85674/ (Ken Ferguson), heard that I hosted this podcast, he immediately said, "I know someone you'd probably find interesting." He was right. This conversation was one of the most philosophically stimulating interviews I've done to date. We wove through philosophies, observations, both big picture and detailed, with great ease. AND I believe I learned a few things too! There are a few things that are different about this episode than the interviews I've shared with other guests. First, though he's certainly https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/aoife-obrien-happier-at-work/ (not my only guest) originally born outside the US, Philippe's origins in France, and 20 years as a citizen here have yielded some different perspectives about how we interact, how we handle conflict, and so on. Another difference, when I asked for a recent headshot, he originally provided an image from a textbook... which actually, I seriously considered using! Finally, instead of sharing one singular moment, Philippe takes us through several fork-in-the-road moments that he has witnessed, experienced, and been changed by to illustrate the profoundly constant nature of changes both big and small in our lives. Note: this episode benefits from subtitles. I recommend you either download the transcript or https://www.patreon.com/posts/54532422 (watch the video with subtitles on our Patreon page), which for this episode is absolutely free for the public. Philippe requested to conduct this as an audio-only interview, so you'll be able to enjoy the subtitles distraction-free. What will you find in this episode?Philippe Barbe's unique approach to solving impossible or novel problems and why he founded Last Ditch Consulting The importance of providing value to the clients you serve The job of a researcher and the importance of proof in mathematics The difficulty of proof in the math of social interaction A minor history lesson in the philosophy of change A deep discussion on whether or not change is easy, or change is hard Our thoughts on why people seem to refuse to acknowledge obvious changes, like aging A few snapshots from Philippe's passage through life and how these changes have changed him One deeper dive into the moment when his house got running water A discussion of the relationship between change and difficulty You're right to change, on your own terms. Not to change just for the sake of changing, but to think about change in terms of bettering the world we live in. Want to connect with Philippe?You can learn more about Philippe at https://ph-barbe.com/ (https://ph-barbe.com) Check out Last Ditch Consulting at: http://lastditchconsulting.com/ (www.lastditchconsulting.com) And if you’d like to connect with him, the best place to do so ishttps://www.linkedin.com/in/ph-barbe/ ( on LinkedIn) This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
Aug 6 2021
57 mins
Kendrick Shope on Finding Her Particular Zone of Genius – Episode 41
Kendrick Shope shares her thoughts on trusting your intuition, finding your zone of genius, and the little forks that leads to the big forks in life, in episode 41 of The Changed Podcast.https://kendrickshope.com/ (Kendrick Shope) is an international sales authority, creator of the Authentic Selling®️ process, and the founder of https://kendrickshope.com/shop/ (Authentic Selling®️ University), the leading online sales training for modern businesses producing millions of dollars in revenue for her students. Often called the most over-delivering woman online, Kendrick believes in doing business differently, providing her students with Rocky Balboa’s drive and Olivia Pope’s determination to succeed. Kendrick hosts https://kendrickshope.com/tv/ (Authentic Selling® TV) reaching 186 countries and 6 continents where she provides sales expertise that is sweet as pie but tough as nails. Authentic Selling®️ has been featured on the Steve Harvey Show, NBC, Forbes, INC, Reader’s Digest, HLN, and dozens more. We had a fantastic conversation in December of 2020, where we bonded over the shared experience of having what I call 'hits' and what she calls 'breadcrumbs' that feel like teeny premonitions or signposts from the Universe. We also chatted about how the little forks in life lead to the bigger forks, like the example from https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/guillermo-martinez/ (season 1, episode 7 of Sony Pictures Animation, Guillermo Torres), sharing the story of choosing to go to a different movie theatre than usual... which essentially launched him on his career path. Like me, her daughter has played a prominent role in her story. As Kendrick observed, 'children can be great teachers." Takeaways from this episode:Sales are fundamental to survival in business. But when selling feels like helping, it's a heck of a lot easier to do it! Shopping is not a hobby. Children are good reflections for us on how WE manage change, AND they change how we see the world. Every day there is a fork in the road. We are constantly choosing something, a path, an action, starting something new, stopping something old... some are small forks, and some are big forks Not everything will be in your particular zone of genius. Rather than do everything yourself, it is wise to surround yourself with the people who have the skills you lack. One hot tip for those who are still learning about working from home: create for yourself a specific workspace and a specific work time... and stick to those boundaries. Links to things mentionedCurious about Authentic Selling®️ University? Learn more at https://kendrickshope.com/ (www.kendrickshope.com) Curious about USS Improvise The Next Generation the Musical? (I know it was a brief mention... but it's just so nerdy and fun!) Learn more at http://www.ussimprovise.com (www.ussimprovise.com) Are you figuring out your own path? Try this book, mentioned in Kendrick's journey, https://www.amazon.com/Finding-Your-Own-North-Star-ebook/dp/B0019O6IXE (Finding Your Own North Star) by Martha Beck This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
Jul 30 2021
41 mins
Might You Be As Julie Gillis Suggests, a Supporting Character in Someone Else’s Story? Episode 40
Julie Gillis a consultant, story coach, speaker, and facilitator, shares her thoughts, in episode 40 of the Changed, on how we tell ourselves stories about the world and our role in it, along with the pivotal experience of finding herself after battling postpartum psychosis.Julie Gillis is one of those people who is that lovely combo of funny and pensive. She's deeply reflective, unafraid of being honest in her expression, and absolutely ready to laugh and play too! It's also true that my knowledge of Julie Gillis is personal. Not only does this episode's guest reside in this podcast hosts home town. But Julie and I used to perform together in an all-lady, broadway-style musical improv group called Girls Girls Girls and produced a festival (though Julie was MUCH more involved called L.A.F.F. otherwise known as the Ladies Are Funny Festival (enjoy the https://ladiesarefunnyfest.wordpress.com/ (legacy website here)!) We also played together in incredible shows, like Apocalypse (directed Brandon Salinas, and costumed by Courtney Hopkins). (If you watch this old promo video, we suggest you watch full-screen with sound ON.) So it was a delight to sit down in January of 2021, just 3 days into the new year, to reflect not only on change broadly but on how 2020 changed some of the key elements of Julie's life. Now that summer has arrived in the US, you may have forgotten what the world was like in January of 2021. Here in Oregon where Julie and I both reside, while shopping was open, most businesses were closed, unless they provided curbside pickup, and masks were required 100% of the time. Schools were closed, and our children were learning from a distance (something fun and easy for our 8-year-old, and something deeply difficult for her young adult children). There was no promise of freedom and no end in sight. And in this climate, we were able to connect over Zoom and philosophize for a while about how the stories we as people tell ourselves about ourselves... may have shifted. Julie also shared the story of how improv helped to lift her back up to herself, when she was at one of her lowest points as a mother experiencing https://womensmentalhealth.org/specialty-clinics/postpartum-psychiatric-disorders/ (postpartum psychosis), one of the least talked about maternal experiences in this country... and one of great importance because of the consequences that can stem from the condition. As Julie confessed, "the idea of hurting myself became rather entertaining," and this kind of flawed thinking can lead not just to self-harm. When lines between reality and darkness become blurry, https://www.postpartum.net/learn-more/postpartum-psychosis/ (help is needed). As a deep believer in the importance of building more understanding and interest in women's health, particularly hormone changes, I'm always glad to hear stories that stem from this place; like the story guest, https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/maraya-brown/ (Maraya Brown) shared at the beginning of season two, in which she had to process the unexpected loss of her first pregnancy. Takeaways from this episodeIn the https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/28-marsha-shandur/ (stories, )we consume there are multiple roles people play: villain, support character, window character…. a really important tree. But in the stories we tell, we often imagine ourselves the hero (sometimes a reluctant hero) of our own story. There are times when being the hero of your own story can be really beneficial, like helping to boost your confidence for a job interview for example. On social media, it’s easy to convince ourselves we’re the hero… even when we’re not. We post a picture, and people like it. We say something and people like it. We forget that other reactions, countering perspectives, and dislikes can slip by the wayside unnoticed. But What if, we step into another role sometimes? What happens when we purposefully play support to someone...
Jul 23 2021
49 mins
Todd Cherches Shares How to Lead Better with Visual Leadership & Communication – episode 39
In episode 39 of The Changed Podcast, author of Visualeadership, Todd Cherches, and host Aden Nepom discuss the importance of visual communication, listening in leadership, and being willing to 'go back into the room' to see what you might learn.Todd is the CEO and co-founder of http://www.bigbluegumball.com/ (BigBlueGumball), a New York City-based management consulting firm specializing in leadership development, public speaking, and executive coaching. He is also a Founding Partner of the https://www.giftleadership.com/ (Global Institute For Thought Leadership) (“GIFT”), and a member of the exclusive “https://www.100coaches.com/ (Marshall Goldsmith “MG100” Coaches).”  Additionally, Todd is a three-time award-winning Adjunct Professor of https://www.sps.nyu.edu/homepage/academics/faculty-directory/13733-todd-s-cherches.html (leadership at NYU), and a Lecturer on leadership at Columbia University… And he is a https://www.ted.com/talks/todd_cherches_the_power_of_visual_thinking (TEDx speaker), and the author of "VisuaLeadership: Leveraging the Power of Visual Thinking in Leadership and in Life," published last year by Post Hill Press/Simon & Schuster, and recently named by Thinkers360 as one of the “Top 50 Business Books to Read in 2021.” Takeaways from this episodeHow we process change differs depending on whether it’s some change we are choosing to initiate, or if it’s a change that is being thrust upon us. Leading change in an organization can be hard because we’re asking people to adopt and adapt to things they aren’t initiating for themselves. As leaders, we can help people adapt more quickly by leading with understanding and empathy There are lots of terrible leaders out there, who have no idea they are leading badly. Our personal lens of the world (influenced by our upbringing, values, experiences, etc) influence how we lead. A helpful mantra for leaders: “How do I get them to see what I am saying?” We can think of our visual thinking and communication like any muscle we can strengthen. It just takes training and practice In his book, VisuaLeadership, Todd Cherches breaks down visual thinking and communication into four categories: Visual drawings and objects Mental models and frameworks metaphor and analogy storytelling With any type of communication, it is helpful to see your audience's needs and issues first and then speak directly to those. When it comes to listening everyone thinks they are a good listener, but if you’re distracted and not listening fully you’re really doing a disservice as a leader, not just to your people, but to you and your organization. 360-degree awareness as a listener is mission-critical to military tactical operations, self-defense, improv theatre, and great leadership When Todd teaches listening he helps people understand the 5 levels of listening Level 1 = ignoring Level 2 = pretending (nodding as if you’re listening.. while actually ignoring) Level 3 = listening to respond (filtering for keywords while formulating what you want to say) Level 4 = attentive and actually taking information Level 5 – empathetic listening (this is the level of listening that leaders should be striving for) Resources and referencesIf discussing what works best to create a positive dynamic at work is your jam, you may enjoy https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/aoife-obrien-happier-at-work/ (my conversation with Aoife O’Brien, host of Happier at Work (episode 31)) You canhttps://www.amazon.com/VisuaLeadership-Leveraging-Visual-Thinking-Leadership/dp/1642933376 ( pick up a copy of VisuaLeadership )and begin leveraging the power of visual thinking in your leadership and learn more about Todd at http://www.toddcherches.com/ (www.ToddCherches.com) Poems referenced in the episode:The Daffodils (I Wandered Lonely as a Cloud) by https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/45521/i-wandered-lonely-as-a-cloud (William Wordsworth) The Road Not Taken...
Jul 16 2021
47 mins
Healing Trauma – Lupe Hernández, episode 38
In episode 38 of The Changed Podcast, guest Lupe Hernández from the Beyond Trauma program at Adelante Mujeres discusses inner strength, forgiveness, and what it takes to heal and to support healing from trauma.Lupe Hernández is an international trainer in healing trauma and deep understanding in ACEs. She co-founded “Help-Restore-Transform”, a program that works to address educational barriers and improve self-worth among women and children in Mexico; and brings over two decades of experience leading people to heal from trauma. She is trained in Conflict Resolution, Mediation, and Restorative Justice, and leadership and is a provider of the Beyond Trauma program in Adelante Mujeres. She is also the mother of two wonderful sons (Ivan & Izaak). If you live outside of Oregon, it's possible that you have not heard of https://www.adelantemujeres.org/ (Adelante Mujeres). Based in Forest Grove, Oregon, they now serve an international audience by providing(as they state on their https://www.adelantemujeres.org/about-us (website)) "holistic education and empowerment opportunities to low income Latina women and their families to ensure full participation and active leadership in the community." Like our first season guest https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/nadine-montaghami/ (Nadine Montaghami), Lupe's experiences healing from her past has given her empathy and depth as a support provider and trainer with the http://Adelante Mujeres provides holistic education and empowerment opportunities to low income Latina women and their families to ensure full participation and active leadership in the community. (Beyond Trauma) program, and she shared quite a few of her insights through the course of our conversation. She also shared a story from a job she held earlier in her life where by all accounts she was saddled with a boss from hell and not a lot of options. The way she handled that situation was surprising and beautiful, and incredibly effective. Lupe Hernández's story illustrates that you really can influence someone's behavior by how you choose to interact with them. At the Art of Change, we often talk about the role of belief in how we experience those around us. If you believe someone is an idiot, you treat them like an idiot. You say things like "I'll talk slow so you call follow along." And when they look at you confused, you see their face as proof that they can't follow... and you're left going "See...? What an idiot!" The same is true when you assume the opposite to be true. If you think that someone is brilliant, you're likely to behave as though their words matter. You'll pay closer attention to what they say, and then when in all of the words they choose, you hear a sentence you like, you'll nod your head emphatically and say "Wow! Brilliant!" Truth aside... (because let's not forget that reality does actually live somewhere in the mix), both in our negative assumptions and our positive ones we find proof that we're right and these biases are unconscious in nature. So if you're going to be right about something why not make the conscious choice and assume something useful? In Lupe's story though, she didn't make a different assumption about her horrible boss, instead, she chose to act as if. This is a really powerful tool! In behaving toward her boss *as if* her boss was friendly, kind, and thoughtful, she actually managed to change the nature of their interactions so much that the boss actually began to resemble those positive qualities! Takeaways from this episodeIn addition to this powerful story of change, there were some good pieces of wisdom for those healing from trauma and those supporting those on a healing journey. Trauma is subjective. What one person experiences as deeply scarring another person may see as no big deal and vice versa It is possible to heal from the wounds of our past. Surviving traumatic events, experiences and thinking do not have to leave you permanently damaged Supporting...
Jul 9 2021
44 mins
Less Fear, More Joy – Gary Hirsch, episode 37
Creator of Brave Bots, Joy Bots, and Love Bots & co-founder of On Your Feet Improv For Business - Episode 37 of The Changed Podcast features the creative, generous and playful Gary Hirsch!Gary Hirsch is a visual artist, a facilitator & consultant, and an improviser. In this episode, we talked about how he came to co-found http://www.oyf.com (On Your Feet Improvisation for Business), spread joy through http://www.botjoy.com (BotJoy), along with his feelings, stories, and thoughts about what it means to face and embrace change. Gary is also my friend, and colleague through the work we do together at On Your Feet. A work relationship that was born, built, and continues to evolve in a completely improvisational way, something for which I am grateful. Perhaps that's the kind of magic that happens when you're open to the possibilities at the moment... or perhaps the simple magic of doing work that is centered on bringing joy to people. Gary isn't the first play/joy-centered guest I've had on the show. You may recall conversations with https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/gary-ware/ (Gary Ware), https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/jeff-harry/ (Jeff Harry), https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/shannon-stott/ (Shannon Stott), https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/28-marsha-shandur/ (Marsha Shandur), and many more. That is because JOY is at the center of so much of my own time, energy, interest, and effort. Our conversation ran through several twists and turns from the hustle language of LinkedIn and classic anti-motivational posters https://www.flickr.com/photos/urtica/124920149 (like this one) to the roots of bringing more joy to people through the amazing power of an imaginary giant robot, now embodied in tiny bots that you can carry with you physically. Gary also shared his own sense of AA (Anticipation Anxiety) when it comes to change which lives in contrast to how he might handle an actually massive shift once it has occurred. He also told us the story of the cup of coffee which changed Gary's entire trajectory, featuring the inspiring https://www.robertpoynton.com/ (Robert Poynton.) Prior to meeting Robert, Gary had a successful T-shirt booth in the Portland Saturday Market where he sold t-shirts that featured his original art. Now, more than 20 years later, On Your Feet has served some of the biggest companies in the world by bringing less fear and more joy to their important work. Instead of my usual closing thoughts for this episode, Gary and I ended the episode together with a game/tool that you can take and use called Color/Advance. We demonstrated how to use the game for sharing stories. For "color" on other ways to use the game, check out the https://www.oyf.com/distributed-work/color-advance (OYF Distributed Work Tool Kit). Takeaways from this conversationGive away amazing ideas. The way Gary encourages to https://www.botjoy.com/steal-this-idea (“steal this idea”) of making Joybots, can be an amazingly fulfilling choice and make room for more great ideas. Anticipating change can be much scarier than the actual change itself, much like making a decision can be more exhausting than simply executing the choice on the other side. I’ve been attributing storytelling as a way of examining meaning to Gary because he is who I learned the idea from. He learned the idea from Kat Koppet… which if you know her makes perfect sense! She also has an excellent podcast called https://www.koppett.com/dare-to-be-human-podcast (Dare to Be Human) and it is worth checking out. Make the call. Be present, pay attention… and when it’s time to make the call. DO IT. So many times we come up with excuses for why we should not make the call, but if you never make the call, you never get to see what happens! Or maybe it’s "make the coffee!" Coffee dates also seemed to be a running theme. Say yes and see what shows up. This is a concept directly from the improv world. Saying yes to an offer and allowing...
Jul 2 2021
51 mins
The Bittersweet Gift of Loss – Brian MacMillan, episode 36
KPTV FOX 12 reporter and meteorologist Brian MacMillan sits down in episode 36 of The Changed Podcast to talk about everything from kitchen appliances to flexibility & predicting the future, along with his reflections on how his life has been affected by losing his best friend: his dad.Brian MacMillan is an AP award-winning meteorologist and reporter for KPTV FOX 12 in Portland, OR. He's also a world-traveled improv and theatre performer and an all-around nice human being! His experience as an improviser shows up in his reporting in more ways than one. Of course, as a reporter, he is constantly faced with change and a need to be flexible. There is a lot of uncertainty involved in keeping tabs on our busy modern lives! But improv shows up for him in some pretty silly ways too... Our main areas of discussion centered around whether or not food processors are scary or kitchen miracles, how weather forecasters deal with predicting an ever-changing future, and the role of improv in Brian's life. We also discussed loss. Brian lost his father in high school and this affected the trajectory of his life and career in very specific ways. Takeaways from this conversationFood processors can be scary! BUT sometimes you have to face your fears and take a few risks to reap rewards Meteorologists use both monitors and green screens Three days out for a weather forecast is fairly solid. Farther out (like a 10-day forecast) is a lot less consistent... BUT meteorology isn't a perfected science yet Listening to your local forecaster will yield better predictions because experience will often carry more weather wisdom than the forecasting models that just come from data sets. When it comes to change, even the painful experiences in our lives can lead to tremendously good outcomes. That may not be of comfort in the moment, but it can be quite interesting to look back later and see the path to your present moment Improv and theatre are great training for reporting the news and predicting the weather Even though we shouldn't need reminders... we do. Call the people you love. Tell them that you love them. There are no guarantees that we or they will be here tomorrow. This has always been true, and will always be true, so remember as often as you can to reach out and tell people they're valuable in your life. Links!Check out the KPTV Fox 12 Weather https://www.kptv.com/podcasts/weather/ (Podcast)! If you're interested in science and prediction, then you'll likely get excited in a few weeks with an upcoming guest. Until then satisfy your scientific curiosity withhttps://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/science-with-jerry-nepom/ ( episode13) featuring prominent immunologist Dr. Gerald T. Nepom. No book recommendations from Brian MacMillan at the moment, as his brain is full of textbook material from his grad school studies. BUT there are fresh book recommendations every Tuesday in the Change Hub on Facebook. This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
Jun 25 2021
36 mins
Curly Hair, Hormones & Big Transitions – Chandler Elizabeth Adam, Episode 34
Chandler Elizabeth Adam is a golden-locked goddess and curly hair genius who just so happens to be my actual hairdresser! In Episode 35 She's sharing her decision to begin utilizing hormone therapy as she quite literally facilitates her body changing.Not everyone is as open and embracing of dumb questions and picky hair preferences as Chandler. If you're on Instagram, she is sharing glimpses as she transitions https://www.instagram.com/transgenderagenda/ (@transgenderagenda), AND if you have curly hair, you'll particularly enjoy her lovely haircutting as well in her professional https://www.instagram.com/portlandcurlroom/ (@portlandcurlroom). I met Chandler after several years of only having my hairs cut when I would fly back to Austin, Texas for work. (Big shout out to my original @sweetgeorgiabee at Honeycomb... I'll always have a place in my heart for you!). I'll never forget sitting at Shalom Y'all, when this waitress walks up wearing the best curly cut I had seen in a while. It turns out the young bright-eyed apprentice hairdresser (at that time) who had worked magic on her hair (that very day!) was Chandler! And the rest is history... Chandler graciously sat down over zoom to chat with me about the relationship between hair change and life change, her own transition, and choice to move forward with hormonal therapy, and the role that love support and happy endings to stories play in our mental health. She also graciously agreed to do a curly hair Q&A together, which we will be bringing to you live on July 1st! Make sure you're a member of our Facebook group CLICK HERE TO JOIN to catch the event live! Submit your curly questions to me directly by emailing podcast@artofchange.com and putting "CURLY Q" in the subject line. Takeaways from this conversationThere is definitely a relationship between life change and hair change, but as for which comes first, well that’s a real chicken and egg question. Quitting drinking can be good for your skin! When I spoke to https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/chuy/ (Chuy Zarate) last year about having to quit drinking forever, he actually mentioned this kind of incentive that you see written about often. For Chuy he had to stop as a matter of life and death. For Chandler stopping mattered to her mental health and physical health as well… but the most noticeable change in the shortest amount of time was how her skin looks. Hormones are magic. Chandler joked that she has the hormones of a pregnant woman, but the truth isn’t far from that. The amount of estrogen and progesterone needed to help Chandler’s body mirror her identity is a strong amount of hormone! As a woman in perimenopause, I’m hyper-aware of how hormones shape and change us. But in talking to Chandler I also see how like a polyjuice potion hormone therapy can be. A mother’s love can be magic. In Chandler’s story, her mom knew what was happening and how to support her daughter and it was a tremendous gift! Mothers can serve all kinds of roles in the story of our lives. In the https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/mary-jo-pehl/ (first episode of this podcast, Mary Jo Pehl) shared a moment of standing up to her own mother. But when one is fortunate enough to have a mom who can support your life and your choices and understand the choices ahead of you it really is a beautiful thing. Stories of change, of survival, and of transgender transitions can be happy, can be filled with love. AND it’s good for the soul to hear happy stories. As Chandler pointed out, stories of overcoming challenges, of having to risk everything and build your support structures from the ground up, can certainly inspire… BUT it can also make it hard for people to move forward in their own decision-making because if all we hear are those stories, the world can feel incredibly scary. There is a much-needed role for happy stories to play. A book to check out based on Chandler’s...
Jun 18 2021
43 mins
Marilet Martinez on How Arts and Activism are Both a Celebration and a Rebellion – Episode 34
In this episode of The Changed Podcast, professional performer and teaching artist Marilet Martinez shares her thoughts on the relationship between the arts and activism, maintaining flexibility in our thinking, and coming of age!Born and raised in San Francisco, Marilet Martinez describes herself as a queer, bilingual, multi-hyphenated artist, Leo Sun/ Scorpio rising, bruja homegirl. She prioritizes collaborations that practice intersectionality and community empowerment. As a trauma-informed, student-centered teaching artist, she has developed national programing for community wellness through arts intervention for over 15 years, and her Bay Area acting credits include originating roles in over 10 world premieres with envelope-pushing companies such as Magic Theatre, the San Francisco Mime Troupe, Crowded Fire, Cutting Ball, Impact Theatre and more. She performed with Leela Improv’s faculty team- the Armando Company, the all-female Harold team Sorry Not Sorry, and her duo, Pura Pocha. More recently Marilet (who has relocated to Chicago) is ¼ of the award-winning all Latina improv and sketch team Ratas De Dos Patas. These hermanas del improv have performed and taught workshops across the US, spreading their message of comedy, cultura, y corazon; which is how we met, at the San Francisco Femproviser Fest where we were both faculty members. She is also an ensemble member at ComedySportz Chicago! In this episode, she had thoughts, stories, and anecdotes to share on everything from the beauty of creating a better world through activism, how the Arts can shift and change people to be more inspired in their own creativity or to think differently about the world around them, and so much more. In choosing a story to share from a fork in the road moment in her life, Marilet Martinez chose the quite literal fork in the road of turning 18! This of course makes it hard to ask the question, what if that had never happened... but it helped to illustrate the simple beauty of getting excited about the unknown and embracing what is possible instead of worrying about what is not. Takeaways from this episodeTwo things can be true at the same time. This theme came up several times: Activism is a celebration and a rebellion. An excellent quote from this episode from Marilet, “If it’s all rebellion all the time, that’s a burnout. If it’s all celebration all the time: that’s a pass-out” Change is easy and change is hard. Even having a ‘positive mindset’ won’t necessarily take the difficulty away but perhaps make it feel less damaging Improvisers who practice flexibility on stage can actually be quite rigid in “real life” and often worry about not doing improv right! Feelings are complicated. You can feel grief and joy at the same time. You can feel fear and excitement at the same time. You can feel sad and find things funny at the same time. Every day is the same. Every day is completely different. As young people, we are taught that things are black and white, but actually so much is actually grey. As Marilet Martinez says, “life happens in the grey areas“ If you want helpful mantras to help you cope with change that is dropped on your head we identified a few that may or may not have come from Weight Watchers (and may or may not be helpful, depending on context) “That just happened” “It’s just new information”‘ The book that Marilet recommends? In the Dream House by Carmen Maria Marchada, a memoir of entering into, living through, and then leaving an abusive relationship. Marilet Martinez is a performer… AND you can watch her shows online! Checkout Marilet Martinez’s Ratas De Dos Patas here: https://www.facebook.com/RatasDe2Patas/ (https://www.facebook.com/RatasDe2Patas/) Catch a CSz Chicago show here: https://www.twitch.tv/csznchicago (https://www.twitch.tv/csznchicago) If you’re interested in checking out some of the improv and play centered guests from last season, you might start...
Jun 11 2021
55 mins
Why we should have more women in leadership – Luann Abrams, Episode 33
In this episode of the Changed Podcast, CEOx Founder Luann Abrams talks about tactical changes, women-led business, the nature of inspiring ideas, and beating unconscious bias.Luann Abrams is the founder of CEOX, an organization with a mission is to elevate women into CEO and board roles. From her time in venture capital as a partner at FoundersPad, an early-stage venture fund, she was compelled to find a solution to the inequities in leadership she saw at growing startups. She is a founding board member of the Strengthening Central Oregon Political Action Committee (SCOPAC) with the mission of recruiting and supporting under-represented individuals to run for political office. In the 2020 election, five of their six endorsed candidates were elected to office, ensuring diverse representation in the local community. She is the inaugural member of the Women in STEAM group led by the Technology Association of Oregon (TAO), whose mission is to support and encourage women in male-dominated industries for a gender-balanced future. Here she created a mentorship program matching experienced business executives with up-and-coming women to help them achieve their career goals. Luann has a background in aerospace engineering and spent most of her 15 years in aviation working for a start-up aircraft company in Bend, OR. Here she led the certification engineering program at Columbia Aircraft where she oversaw the certification of several aircraft models and ensured that all designs met applicable regulations. Due to her diligence and integrity, she was granted the authority to sign off on regulatory compliance on behalf of the FAA prior to aircraft delivery. In 2017 she was inducted into the International Air & Space Hall of Fame as part of the Golden Eagles, the winningest intercollegiate flying team. When she is not working and living the Bend life with her husband and two sons, you will find her curled up with a good book and a hot cup of coffee. Speaking of book recommendations…During our rapid-fire round, Luann suggested: Ahab’s Wife: Or, the Star-Gazer: A Novel by Sena Jeter Naslund Born a Crime: Stories from a Southern African Childhood by Trevor Noah Takeaways from this episode:Women-led companies get results: financial results, and positive workplace culture results. Choosing a woman to lead the charge in your organization… that’s just smart business! You can learn more about the mission of CEOx, find resources, and nominate women leaders you know by visiting https://projectceox.com. They frequently offer training and events to help leaders up-level their skills. Last month I was invited to share some of my wisdom with my program: https://www.artofchange.com/workshops-online/reason-in-an-outraged-world (Reason in an Outraged World), a program that you can bring to your organization too! Inspiration often strikes in the unlikeliest of times... like when we are enjoying downtime to the tune of some Netflix, doing some dishes, or taking a stroll through the neighborhood. (By the way, if you need downtime and are looking for a Netflix recommendation… absolutely check out https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ak5dFt8Ar0 (The Mitchell’s vs. The Machines) who’s Head of Story https://thechangedpodcast.com/episodes/guillermo-martinez/ (Guillermo Martinez) sat down and shared a story with us last season!) Executing on ideas takes work, which is probably why ideas aren’t stolen as often as you might think. For example, I have been trying to get somebody to create an improv comedy-troupe called Laughter Circus USA for over a decade now! Still no takers. (I have no idea why not… the posters make themselves!) Even though study after study tells us how many benefits there are to having a diverse network and workforce…busting our biases takes effort. In this episode, I shared one method that has been helpful to some of my clients, that you might use to think about mitigating your own...
Jun 4 2021
34 mins