Understanding your own Needs Language for a Better Relationship with Nicole Shir

Date Forever

Aug 23 2022 • 27 mins

Each and every day we have different needs that we try to meet, everything from feeling heard to growing, love, affection and connection and your needs in any given moment are likely different from your partner’s. Today's guest has developed a system to identify and categorise personality types that is fast and intuitive. Knowing your “Needs Language” can help you to feel connected and provides a sense of belonging in all your relationships.

Nicole Shir has a degree in workplace psychology and is the author of a booklet series including The Needs Languages: Bringing Balance & Belonging in Dating. She is the creator of The Seven Candles where she has developed a powerful tool that helps personalities communicate.


We chat

  • The 4 needs languages and understanding which are yours
  • The victim, predator, rescuer triangle
  • Dating with a disability


Better Relationships

We empower couples to create thriving relationships so that they can play all out in life, set big goals and put plans in place to actually achieve them


Better World

Many research studies have shown that great relationships are associated with better health, greater happiness, and even a longer life. If more of us had thriving, healthy, happy romantic relationships, we know we would have a better world. That's why, every time someone works with us, via our partnership with Buy1Give1 we also help someone else in the world. Yep a stranger, someone you'll never meet.

Connect with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger

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Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thrivingcouples/
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Connect with Nicole Shir

Website - https://thesevencandles.com/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/TheSevenCandles
Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC70fWBk1uzBS3r-_dnJfDPg/videos

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