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Married to Addiction

Julie Sanford

Do you have an alcoholic husband? Married to Addiction is a faith-based podcast that gives the wife of an alcoholic the tools and strength she needs to navigate her husband's addiction without losing herself in the process. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/marriedtoaddictionpodcast/support

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Episode 47: Should I confront my husband about his drinking?
2d ago
Episode 47: Should I confront my husband about his drinking?
I hear it all the time: 'But if I don't confront him he will think it's okay with me!' Will he though?? I confronted my husband about his drinking a million times. And guess what....it didn't change a thing except for MY journey through this. In this episode we will talk about whether or not you should confront your husband about his drinking, how confrontation might be doing just the opposite of what you want, and what you might want to try instead. ________________________ To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) click right here. You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com --- Support this podcast:
Episode 47: Should I confront my husband about his drinking?
2d ago
Episode 47: Should I confront my husband about his drinking?
I hear it all the time: 'But if I don't confront him he will think it's okay with me!' Will he though?? I confronted my husband about his drinking a million times. And guess what....it didn't change a thing except for MY journey through this. In this episode we will talk about whether or not you should confront your husband about his drinking, how confrontation might be doing just the opposite of what you want, and what you might want to try instead. ________________________ To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) click right here. You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com --- Support this podcast:
Episode 46: 3 Things to Focus on When You're Hanging by a Thread
Jun 14 2022
Episode 46: 3 Things to Focus on When You're Hanging by a Thread
SO many wives of alcoholics tell me they feel like they are 'hanging by a thread'. And I know they truly do, because I did too. It is such a difficult, overwhelming place to be, but you just don't know what to do to get yourself out of it. So today I am giving you three things to focus on when you're in that spot. Within those three main focuses are several everyday things that you can start with right now. Even if you only implement a couple of these my hope is that these tips will give you a sense of relief....and what wife of an alcoholic doesn't need that?? ____________________________________________________________________________________________________ To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (my group for Christian wives of alcoholics) click right here. You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com --- Support this podcast:
Episode 45: The Power of Speaking Life
May 31 2022
Episode 45: The Power of Speaking Life
'Speaking life'. What does it mean and why should you care? The concept of speaking life is important in general, but especially while we're in a situation such as this. Negative words breed negative power, and positive words breed positive power. Just like many other things....one is from God, and one is from the enemy. But how do we actually DO this? How can we speak life into our situation, and reap the benefits from it? Tune in to find out.... ____________________________________________________________________________________________________ To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for Christian wives of alcoholics) click right here. You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com --- Support this podcast:
Episode 44: Let's Talk About Sex (with Matt and Sheri from the Untoxicated Podcast)
May 24 2022
Episode 44: Let's Talk About Sex (with Matt and Sheri from the Untoxicated Podcast)
Sex. It's a topic that's not discussed much in this arena, but it's an important one that needs to be addressed. The relationship that we as wives have with our addicted loved one is different than any other because there is a physical component. In this episode I am speaking with Matt and Sheri from the Untoxicated Podcast, and they will be sharing both sides of how they navigated their physical relationship during Matt's addiction. This can play out a little bit differently for each couple, depending on the particulars of the relationship, but there are a couple of things that we all agree every woman in this situation should do. Please tune in to this one if you could use some guidance in this area. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ You can find Matt and Sheri at soberevolution.org. Be sure to also tune into the Untoxicated Podcast.  To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for Christian wives of alcoholics) click right here. You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com --- Support this podcast:
Episode 43: Knowing Is One Thing, but Doing Is Everything
May 17 2022
Episode 43: Knowing Is One Thing, but Doing Is Everything
You've probably heard me say this before: Knowing is one thing, but doing is everything. What exactly does that mean though? Well if you've been listening to this podcast for a while, and hearing a lot of suggestions to improve things but not seeing any improvement in your life then this may be for you. This concept is also known as 'Nothing changes if nothing changes'. We can have ALL the knowledge in the world, but if we do nothing with it things will stay the same. It can be scary to do things differently, but I guarantee that it's not as bad as what you are probably experiencing.  Is it time for you to start doing? Listen in to find out.... __________________________________________________________________________________________________________ To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for Christian wives of alcoholics) click right here. You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com --- Support this podcast:
Episode 42: The Importance of the Armor of God for the Wife of an Alcoholic
May 4 2022
Episode 42: The Importance of the Armor of God for the Wife of an Alcoholic
Are you familiar with the Armor of God? If not, then I encourage you to become familiar with it, because it is the perfect thing for us to 'put on' as wives of alcoholics.  The Armor of God will help us protect our minds, hearts, and spirits during times of trouble.  It's what we should wear during spiritual warfare....and having addiction in our homes requires spiritual warfare. Please tune in to this episode to learn more about the armor of God, and how it can help protect us during this difficult journey. __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for Christian wives of alcoholics) click right here. You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com --- Support this podcast:
Episode 41: What if My Husband Never Gets Sober?
Apr 25 2022
Episode 41: What if My Husband Never Gets Sober?
It's kind of the elephant in the room. The thought crosses all of our minds from time to time: 'What if my husband never gets sober??' It's a hard thing to think about, but does that mean we are doomed to a life of misery if it happens? Absolutely NOT. In this episode we'll talk about a couple of aspects of this.  What would our physical situation look like? What are our options? What would our spiritual life look like? Could there be any sort of reason for all of this? I know it's not a fun question, but I truly think every wife of an alcoholic needs to listen to this one. __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for Christian wives of alcoholics) click right here. You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com --- Support this podcast:
Episode 40: 5 Steps to Exiting the Whirlwind of Chaos
Apr 19 2022
Episode 40: 5 Steps to Exiting the Whirlwind of Chaos
CHAOS. That's what my life was when my husband was deep in addiction. I was either constantly being pulled under by all of the awful things that were happening around me, or frantically trying to employ whatever 'damage control' I thought I could to keep things from getting worse.  It was a devastating way to live, and it negatively affected every area of my life. If you can relate to any of that, then this episode is for you. In it I will give you five ways to exit the whirlwind of chaos that you're probably living in.  These are things I really wish I had done back when I was in the thick of it. Please give this episode a listen. __________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for Christian wives of alcoholics) click right here. You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com --- Support this podcast:
Episode 39: What About My Kids?
Apr 12 2022
Episode 39: What About My Kids?
This is something I get asked a lot: What about my kids?  As mamas we worry about our kids anyway, but even moreso when they are in a home with an alcoholic parent. In this episode I will share with you some of the things I wish I had done differently when my husband was deep in addiction where my kids were concerned.  I'll also give you some great (free) resources that can help you help them through this difficult time.  _______________________________________________________________________________________ Resources mentioned in this episode: 'Is Addiction Really a Disease with Dr. Kevin McCauley' video: Betty Ford Children's Program (free virtual program available): Family Oklahoma In-Person Program (free of charge): free Parent Kit: Shoots Deep Roots (Christian tools for children): become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for Christian wives of alcoholics) click right here. You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com --- Support this podcast:
Episode 38: Some Help for the Suffering
Apr 6 2022
Episode 38: Some Help for the Suffering
Sometimes walking this path is SO confusing. Why are we being put through this? Why isn't God coming to our rescue? Why are we having to suffer?? In this episode I'll give you some perspective that I think might change the way you look at things. If you feel like your life is nothing but endless suffering right now, then please give this episode a listen.  _______________________________________________________________________________________ To read Feedspot's 'Best 60 Addiction Podcasts' post (we’re #38!) click here. To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for Christian wives of alcoholics) click right here. You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com --- Support this podcast:
Episode 37: Celebrating One Year of the Married to Addiction Podcast!
Mar 30 2022
Episode 37: Celebrating One Year of the Married to Addiction Podcast!
The Married to Addiction podcast is one year old today! In this episode I will share with you some of the podcast's statistics, and we'll talk about the most listened to episodes, along with what the future holds. I also want to take this opportunity to thank each and every one of you who have tuned in, whether you have listened once, or have heard every episode. YOU are the reason I'm here and I am so grateful for you! THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU Love, Julie --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for Christian wives of alcoholics) click right here. You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com --- Support this podcast:
Episode 36: Four Different Ways That This Can Play Out
Mar 16 2022
Episode 36: Four Different Ways That This Can Play Out
Do you feel like you have only two options as the wife of an alcoholic? 1. Stay and be miserable until your husband gets sober 2. Leave If you're like I was then neither of those is what you want. Truth is those aren't your only options. There are actually four different ways that being married to an alcoholic can play out, and we will talk about those in today's episode. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for Christian wives of alcoholics) click right here. You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com --- Support this podcast:
Episode 35: The Line Between Faith and Works for the Wife of an Alcoholic
Mar 10 2022
Episode 35: The Line Between Faith and Works for the Wife of an Alcoholic
The Bible says 'Faith without works is dead'. But what does that really mean? And how do we know exactly what is our part in a situation, and what is God's part? I was fuzzy on that for a good long while. But discernment here is especially important for the wife of an alcoholic, so in this episode we are talking about how to find the line between faith and works, and how to do each part correctly. There is actually a pretty simple way to tell if your 'faith and works' are in proper balance.  Tune in to this episode to learn how. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for Christian wives of alcoholics) click right here. --- Support this podcast:
Episode 34: 5 More Critical Mindset Shifts for the Wife of an Alcoholic
Mar 4 2022
Episode 34: 5 More Critical Mindset Shifts for the Wife of an Alcoholic
Way back in Episode 4 we talked about some critical mindset shifts for the wife of an alcoholic, and that has since become my most listened to episode ever.  That being the case I knew it must've resonated with many of my listeners, so I wanted to do a follow up episode. In this episode I will share with you five MORE critical mindset shifts for the wife of an alcoholic.  These are all things that I frequently see women being tripped up by, which ultimately makes things harder for them.  But it doesn't have to be that way. Please tune into this episode to see if any of these things are continuously running through YOUR mind, and get some guidance on what to do if they are. _______________________________________________________________________ You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for wives of alcoholics) click right here. --- Support this podcast:
Episode 33: You Don't Have to be Sad All the Time
Feb 26 2022
Episode 33: You Don't Have to be Sad All the Time
Dark. It was so dark.  I was constantly bound by feelings of oppression. And that's exactly how the enemy wanted it. I now know that there is another way. In this episode we'll talk about getting out from under living in dark places, EVEN IF we are going through really hard things. If you are feeling overwhelmed by the weight of it all, then I really hope you give this episode a listen.  _______________________________________________________________________ You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for wives of alcoholics) click right here. --- Support this podcast:
Episode 32: Finding Hope with Amy LaRue
Feb 17 2022
Episode 32: Finding Hope with Amy LaRue
In this episode I chat with Amy LaRue from Finding Hope.  Amy is a fellow wife of an alcoholic with a story to share that sounds like many of our own: a story of confusion, fear, and isolation. But her story didn't end there.  She is now the Coordinator for Finding Hope, an organization that supports families of addicted loved ones, and she has such a beautiful testimony to share of how God used it all for good! Please tune in to hear my talk with Amy, and get filled up with encouragement and hope. How to connect with Amy: Web: www.findinghope.today Email: amy@hopeisalive.net ______________________________________________________________________ Be sure to sign up for the FREE upcoming Boundaries Workshop! You can do so right here: Sign up for Boundaries Workshop You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for wives of alcoholics) click right here. --- Support this podcast:
Episode 31: Getting Your Needs Met
Feb 11 2022
Episode 31: Getting Your Needs Met
Do you feel like you're not getting your needs met because your husband is addicted? I already know the answer to that, because it is probably the same as mine was. When you're the wife of an alcoholic it often feels like you're hanging by a thread. And NO, you don't feel like ANY of your needs are being met. In fact you usually just drag through your days feeling hollow and empty. If that sounds like you, then this pre-Valentine's Day episode is for you.  Because it doesn't have to be that way. _______________________________________________________________________ Be sure to sign up for the FREE upcoming Boundaries Workshop! You can do so right here: Sign up for Boundaries Workshop  You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for wives of alcoholics) click right here. --- Support this podcast:
Episode 30: The Line Between Mercy and Enabling
Jan 26 2022
Episode 30: The Line Between Mercy and Enabling
In the last episode we talked about understanding addiction as a disease, and how that can lead us to empathy. In this episode we will talk about how to not let empathy lead you into enabling. This can be a tricky line sometimes. So how do we effectively stay on the mercy side of the line without drifting over into the enabling side? Tune in to hear the one important thing you can do that will make it so much easier.  _______________________________________________________________________ You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for wives of alcoholics) click right here. --- Support this podcast:
Episode 29: Is Addiction a Disease?
Jan 20 2022
Episode 29: Is Addiction a Disease?
I think one of the hardest things for wives of alcoholics is that we just don't understand our husband's addiction, which makes it that much harder to handle it. How much of it is a choice, and how much of it is something they truly are powerless over? In this episode we will discuss addiction as a disease.  You'll get some insight into what is actually happening to our addicted husbands, as well as some guidance on what to do with that information. You'll also get some direction from God's Word as well. This one is really important. I hope you listen. _______________________________________________________________________ You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for wives of alcoholics) click right here. --- Support this podcast:
Episode 28: Should you drink if your husband is an alcoholic?
Jan 13 2022
Episode 28: Should you drink if your husband is an alcoholic?
This is a loaded subject, because reaction to this from wives of alcoholics usually runs the gamut from 'I HATE alcohol and would never touch it!' to 'Why should I have to change MY drinking habits because HE has a drinking problem?' So today we're going to dive into this head-on. I'll share a few things I think are important to consider when making this decision for yourself. We'll also talk about some ways that alcohol affects our side of things that you might not have thought about. And I'll share what I consider to be the #1 reason why you need to give this some serious thought. PS: Be sure to listen to the postscript I added to the episode for anyone whose husband is currently in recovery. _______________________________________________________________________ You can learn more about all of the Married to Addiction programs and free offerings at marriedtoaddiction.com To become a part of the Secret Sisters Circle (a membership for wives of alcoholics) click right here. --- Support this podcast: