Nicole & Kate Can Relate

PSA: Stick around until the very end of today’s episode to hear about an incredible milestone we’re hoping you’ll celebrate with us! :)Celebrations and parties - not everyone loves them, but we think they should!In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences hosting parties, what the pros and cons of hosting a party at home are, our favorite occasions to celebrate, and why we think celebrating is so important!Points Discussed in this EpisodeOur favorite things to celebrate What goes into throwing or hosting a great party Where our love of parties and bringing people together comes fromDeciding to host a party at home versus finding a venue Are costume parties fun or a nuisance?Why celebrating wins and milestones is so importantThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Who doesn’t love a good celebration?!Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Are there things on your to-do list you do because you feel obligated to, but that you really don’t like doing? Yeah, we’ve got a few of those, too…In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with obligations - what they are, why we do them, and some different ways of looking at those less-than-ideal to-do’s from a new perspective to make them a little easier to tackle.Points Discussed in this EpisodeThings we do out of pure obligation - that we don’t want to do. Why do we do them?Feeling accomplished after completing an obligationSetting boundaries and saying no to things you don’t want to doThings we feel obligated to do, but that we also kind of want to do - are these the things that push us outside of our comfort zone?Obligations cross-culturally and how those play outThings we love doing - period Discuss Naval’s question: "A personal metric: how much of the day is spent doing things out of obligation rather than out of interest?"Choosing our own path Different phases of our lives bringing on different types of obligationsThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Want to do, have to do, get to do: which is it?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgement, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

It’s a question you’ve maybe thought about here and there, but being able to dive in and consider the topic from multiple different perspectives is, well, why we started this podcast!In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with marriage, what it means to us, and the importance of being on the same page with your partner.Points Discussed in this Episode:Is marriage relevant? The history of marriage There being a very “transactional” feeling to certain aspects of marriageThe different reasons why you might decide to marryThe “anti-wedding” and planning your celebration to represent you as a coupleThe importance of being on the same page with your partnerDid you feel different after you got married?Mentioned in this episode:  ABC Article: Marriage in Australia: A timeline of how love and law have changed in 130 years Time Article: Here Are Places Women Can't Take Their Husband's Name When They Get MarriedThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What does marriage mean to you?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Mental health and wellness is something we all know is important. But how widely accepted is it? And do people shy away from getting help because of fear of judgment - or worse, because they don’t have access?In this episode we’ve invited our good friend Katie VanBuskirk, PHD in clinical psychology, on the mic to chat about mental health. We also discuss some of the tools that are becoming more and more widely available to support those seeking help.Points Discussed in this EpisodeHow counseling and telemedicine has become much more widely available (and leveraged) since CovidIt seems individuals are more open to talking about and sharing that they’re in counseling or talking to a therapist - it’s becoming more “accepted”… is that actually the case?Our responsibility as business owners to take care of our own mental health, in addition to providing support and tools for our teamsNot knowing how to identify certain feelings like anxiety or stress; what’s the best course of action for someone?Ways we interact and engage on social media and how that shapes our experience with social mediaGiving someone permission to be upset about something / grieve The vast difference between for some re: what our parents might have experienced growing up versus our experience as children How does mindset, meditation, and mindfulness fit into psychology and counseling - are they intertwined?Everyone has their own way of dealing with mental wellness; what’s therapeutic for one person might be different for another  Mentioned in this episode Detox Your Thoughts by Andrea Bonior, PhD (recommended by Nicole) Feeling Good by David D. Burns (recommended by Katie) Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker (recommended by Kate)P.S. If this convo brings up anything for you and you need further help or guidance, check out these resources: BetterHelp Online Counseling - private therapy anytime, anywhere TalkSpace Online Therapy - Feeling better starts with a single message Lifeline or Beyond Blue (Australia)Asking for help shows strength. Thank you so much for joining us for this Special Feature episode with Katie VanBuskirk on mental health!Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Being creative. We’ll be real with you: for a long time, we didn’t feel like we had the whole being creative thing down. But what does being creative really mean?In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with being creative, including our past definitions, how those definitions have evolved (and why), plus, the things we do now that make us feel most creative.Points Discussed in this EpisodeWhat does being creative mean? How our definition of creativity has changed over time (and why)The importance of feeling creative Things we do now that make us feel most creativeThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: When do you feel most creative?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Being opinionated, speaking up, having a voice… are they all one in the same?In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with speaking up and feeling confident about sharing our own opinions - and the meaning we’ve attached to being opinionated.Points Discussed in this EpisodeWhat does being opinionated mean, and is it the same as speaking up? A one-sided opinion versus an informed opinion Why we feel being willing to hear both sides of an argument is so importantHow social media feeds the fire when it comes to polarizing topics - and even encouraged and rewarded the dreaded “social rant”Where does all this entitlement we’re seeing on social media come from?Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Is being opinionated and speaking up the same thing?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Self-care is something that’s easily pushed to the backburner, but why? Why is it that we sometimes feel guilty for investing in our health, mental wellness, and our overall well being?In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with self-care: our favorite routines, what we would love to do more of, and oh yes - we’ll chat about the occasional guilt that can come with the more “indulging” self-care activities.Points Discussed in this EpisodeFeeling guilty about some of our self-care routinesThe importance of self-careOur favorite self-care routinesUnplugging from social media as self-careHow our definition of self-care influences our feelings and actionsMentioned in this episode:  Merrymaker Sisters PDF Download: Self Care Checklist: 50 new ideas to practice self care Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: What are your favorite self-care routines?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

We fully recognize that there are two sides to every story. We’re just having a REALLY hard time understanding how there could be another side to this one… How could this happen?In this episode we’ll share our own personal thoughts on Roe v Wade being overturned in the United States, along with what some of the implications and unintended consequences might be now - and in the future.Points Discussed in this EpisodeOur initial thoughts when we first heard about Roe v Wade being overturned What happened to Democracy?When your values and the values being prioritized by your country don’t align, then what?Companies providing health benefits, paid leave, and monetary assistance for those seeking abortions in another stateWomen’s rights and this feeling like such a massive step backwardsWhat does this mean for our daughters, nieces, cousins?We presumably all want the same thing; how could there be such a huge gap in our beliefs?Mentioned in this episode:  Skimm This podcast: “Both Sides Now: Recession Fears, VP Harris on Abortion, Heat Waves” (minute 7:30 - 15:00 is a chat with host and VP Harris on Roe v Wade) 7am podcast: “The lessons of Roe v Wade for our health system” ABC News article: “Top companies respond to ruling overturning Roe v. Wade” CBS News article: “Five things to know now that the Supreme Court has overturned Roe v. Wade” Op ed piece from Mia Freedman: “America, you're breaking my heart” Op ed piece from Mia Freedman: “America, 2022: Where guns have more rights than women” Forbes article: “‘Big Step Backwards’: World Leaders React To Roe V. Wade Decision”Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: How could this happen?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

We’ve all done it: judged others, compared our body to someone else’s body, and beat ourselves up for the way we look.In this episode we invite two sisters, Emma and Carla, to the convo - and they’ve been through it all: diets, plastic surgery, and more. Together we chat openly about the struggles all of us have gone through with self-acceptance.Points Discussed in this EpisodeWhy are we trapped in this cycle of believing there’s actually an “ideal” body type? How awareness plays such a huge role in self-acceptance The trickle down effect; change one thing, and you change everythingComparing yourself to others and judgmentDo women have to deal with body complex issues way more than men?Mentioned in this episode:  Podcast episode on Body Image Anxiety from the Merrymaker Sisters Article from ABC: A damaging obsession Detox Your Thoughts by Andrea Bonior, PhD Untethered Soul by Michael A. SingerThank you so much for joining us for this Special Feature episode where Emma and Carla joined us to chat about self-acceptance.Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgement, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.P.S. If this convo brings up anything for you and you need further help or guidance, check out these resources:Australia: Lifeline or Beyond Blue. USA: BetterHelpAsking for help shows strength.

If you’ve ever been married, then you know planning a wedding is a lot of work! But it’s so worth it - IF you’re able to keep one thing in mind: this is about what you and your partner want!In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with creating our wedding guest lists, how we escaped the diamond-studded claws of the monstrous wedding industry, and how we both prepared in advance to have time off from our businesses to enjoy our big day!Points Discussed in this EpisodeKate didn’t invite her cousins to her wedding - and she doesn’t feel bad about it! Nicole and Omar had 25 people at their wedding, and they loved every minute of itThe importance of keeping top of mind what it is that you and your partner want - not what the wedding industry tells you to havePlanning ahead so you’re not working before, during or immediately following your big day!Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Do I have to invite my cousin? Plus other wedding prep concernsDon’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgement, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Style and wardrobe. It’s something we’ve both had a struggle or two with, and that’s why we’re excited to be bringing on our great friend, mastermind partner, and professional personal stylist, Cass Sethi, so she can help!In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with battling our closets, finding clothes we feel great about, and how our “working from home” wardrobes have affected our overall personal style.Mentioned in this episodeNext Level WardrobeFollow Cass on Instagram!Points Discussed in this EpisodeRespect the closet!... and Cass’ closet resetThe 2 most common struggles Cass hears from her clients How working from home influences your wardrobe decisionsWhy do we hold on to certain pieces in our closet - even when we never wear them?The “core pieces” every wardrobe needsHow to have more outfits with less stuffHow do we get excited about our wardrobe and out of the rut of buying the same things over and over again?Controlling your closet versus letting your closet control youShould you plan out your shopping trips and know exactly what you’re looking for?Shopping online versus in personA simple question you can ask yourself when deciding whether to keep a piece in your closetWhy you should blend versus bucket your closetThe most common essentials most closets are missingLeveraging Pinterest to help you uncover your styleThank you so much for joining us for this Special Feature episode where Cass Sethi joined us to help with our style and wardrobe!Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

We did it, friends! Today we’re celebrating episode 50 on the podcast! Thank you all so much for your support and tuning into this podcast.In this episode we’re taking a look back at 4 of our favorite episodes, and we also share a little update on each topic!Points Discussed in this EpisodeEpisode 1: Do I want to start a family?We invited our friend Natalie Sisson on to chat about her journey to motherhood in Episode 47Op-Ed piece from LA Times on “Being child-free”Roe v. Wade being overturned Episode 8: How can I build good habits?James Clear: Atomic Habits“Habits form on frequency not on time” Episode 30: Do you struggle with work-life balance?Episode on Hustle Culture from Jordan Harbinger Episode 37: Is BYO Meat weird? Plus other social etiquette dilemmas We have 3 more social etiquette pet peeves to share! Mentioned in this episodeArticle from LA Times: Op-Ed: Being child-free lets me live my most authentic life Jordan Harbinger Show: Deep Dive | Hustle Culture Thank you so much for joining us for today to celebrate 50 episodes on the podcast!Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Maintaining and growing friendships is hard work, and in our opinion - for the right friendships - it’s more than worth it!In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with maintaining existing friendships - and creating new ones - amongst the many moves, changes in careers, and shifting priorities we’ve experienced throughout our lives thus far.Points Discussed in this EpisodeHow our view of friendship has shifted over time What we’ve done to maintain our most special friendships in the midst of moves and all sorts of life changesWhen it’s time to let a friendship goHow we’ve made new friends as we’ve gotten olderThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: When it comes to friendship, is it quality over quantity?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

A few episodes back (episode 45 here on the podcast) we discussed some of the many cons of social media. In this episode, we’re back to chat about some ways social media has enhanced our lives, both personally and professionally!Points Discussed in this EpisodeLeveraging social media for business (Facebook Groups, Twitter discussions) Does the amount of time you invest in social media = what you get out of it?Deciding which platforms to use based on what you get out of themHow social media has given our family and friends a window into our lives - to be able to share moments we may not have otherwiseThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: The pros of social media - are we better for it? Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

From complete lifestyle freedom and full-time entrepreneurial bliss to all the messy, beautiful experiences of motherhood. Now that’s a transition that comes with a whole lot of changes!In this episode we dive into those changes with our special guest, Natalie Sisson. We hope you enjoy it!Points Discussed in this EpisodeHow Natalie and Josh’s handshake over dinner one night changed their livesThe transition from lifestyle entrepreneurship and full freedom to becoming a momThe emotions that come with raising a child, mom guilt, finding support, and digging deep for patienceAre dogs, cats, or … even your business good introductions to becoming a parent? Incorporating a child into your lifestyle versus changing your lifestyle because of a childWhat attitude and mindset Natalie and Josh have developed to create the experiences they want to have as parentsTeaming up with your partner for support, sleep, and space!... and being intentional about both parents being involved and sharing house - and parenting - dutiesAre dads more likely to be straight up about whether they’d “do it all over again”?Struggling with a swift shift in identities Mentioned in this episode: Natalie’s books, The Suitcase Entrepreneur and Suck It Up Princess Connect with Natalie on Instagram NatalieSisson.comThank you so much for joining us for this Special Feature episode: From Suitcase Entrepreneur to Mama w/ Natalie Sisson!Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

We get it: it’s not easy planning a trip - let alone a trip where you actually get to relax and feel refreshed upon your return.In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with planning time away from our homes (and our businesses) to recharge. ‘Cause if there’s one thing we know for sure, it’s how critical that time really is.Points Discussed in this EpisodeThe importance of planning your trips with intentionVacays pre-entrepreneurship (and how it’s different now)The creativity and experiences that true R&R vacays allowBurnout: what’s at stake if you’re not prioritizing R&R?Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: When’s the last time you had a true R&R vacay?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Social media is something that, these days, is hard to ignore. Whether you’re on it to share pictures, engage with your audience, or for that dopamine hit when you get a “ding!”, we’ve all experienced what it’s like to get a little lost in the rabbit hole.In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with social media and how we think it has changed us - for better or worse.Mentioned in this episode: The Social DilemmaPoints Discussed in this EpisodeWhy do we post on social media? Is there a certain psychology behind it?We grew up without it, but the new generation doesn’t know a world without social mediaHow we’ve managed to balance our use of social media while staying present and experiencing life in real-timePhone calls are soooo 1999!... why?Thank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: The cons of social media - are we worse for it?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Stress. It comes in many forms and varying intensities. But one thing is for sure: we all experience it.In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with managing stress, how it shows up, and some of our own coping mechanisms we use often.Points Discussed in this EpisodeIdentifying triggers, people, and situations that cause you stress Situations where tonality or how you start a sentence could cause unnecessary stressHow our view and feelings around stress have changed as we’ve gotten olderDifferent ways of managing or coping with stressThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Does stress keep you up at night, too?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgment, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Delegating isn’t easy, and partnerships can either be incredibly rewarding, or not at all what you expected. So how do you know when to do it and when not to?In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with delegating and partnerships, and how we’ve learned to gauge whether an offer is a great opportunity, or a hard pass.Points Discussed in this EpisodeHow do you know what and when to delegate? What are the benefits of delegation and/or entering into a partnership?Challenges we’ve faced in partnerships The difference between building relationships and entering into partnershipsThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Delegating and partnerships - what’s a ‘yes’ and what’s a ‘no’? Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgement, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.

Sometimes we find ourselves in a new role that isn’t so familiar, and getting used to showing up in a different way isn’t always easy. This is especially the case as our parents age and the relationship dynamics shift.In this episode we’ll share our own personal experiences with changing roles and identities as we get older - in all areas of our lives.Points Discussed in this EpisodeChallenges with switching our focus… going from a domestic focus, to a business focus, to a family focus The unfamiliar feeling of changing roles with aging parentsReminders around patience and presenceThe power of conversations when experiencing unchartered territoryThank you so much for joining us for this episode where we share our own experiences answering the question: Are your parents getting older, too?Don’t forget to follow or subscribe to Nicole & Kate Can Relate for more episodes like this one! Our mission with this podcast is to share a candid convo one time per week to help provide love, support, and space for women to share without judgement, speak without hesitation, and learn from each other - even when we don’t agree.