Sexellence Podcast

Shasta Townsend and Ian Lavalley

Sexellence celebrates sexuality as a diverse, complex and multifaceted component of being a human being, without judgment. Hosts, Ian Lavalley and Shasta Townsend share the how-to, the mindsets, the science, the tools and the “secrets” to great sex and a good life. They go beyond the usual “technique” focus of lube, vibrators and positions, and give you real information you can use to create a deeper level of intimacy, connection, passion and joy in the bedroom and outside of it! As married income and intimacy success mentors, they share real stories from their own lives and client case studies to keep this relevant and relatable for those of us who are not porn stars, but rather seeking our own ecstatic experience or just want to get the fire back! read less
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Episodes

The Modern Goddess – Women’s Secret Yearning
Mar 10 2021
The Modern Goddess – Women’s Secret Yearning
There’s a secret yearning in the hearts, mind and wombs of women… Few women will admit it, and most men have no idea… Discover what that secret yearning is and how to unleash the passionate life and 7-star sex you desire…as a woman and a man… In this episode Ian and Shasta dive deep into this SECRET, and also speak to:  What is The Feminine and why is it still so challenging to embrace as women, and men. How women may be shutting down Feminine Power, AND turning OFF men unconsciously. Why WHOLENESS must include a return to the Feminine, and what the heck that looks like in this modern world. What the Prostitute Archetype versus the Love Goddess Archetype is, and why it matters…and how many women fall into The Prostitute unconsciously. Why love, sex and relationship can bring balance and GREATNESS for men and women. How to entwine the polarities of The Feminine and The Masculine. How to start to come into balance and reclaim wholeness – especially in and through relationship. What men can do to honour and celebrate the Real Modern Goddess…that makes them feel like superheroes.  Listen now. Get more free resources at www.7starlove.com   Want to share your thoughts? Visit sexellencepodcast.com and leave us a comment in a confidential form. Send us an email at connect@sexellencepodcast.com Connect with us on Instagram @sexellencepodcast and @the7starloveVisit our mentoring website for more tools and resources: 7starlove.com
Have You Mixed Up Your Masculine/Feminine?
Feb 24 2021
Have You Mixed Up Your Masculine/Feminine?
Roles have changed in our culture…Men and women are confused, separated and struggling to figure out what DOES Masculinity and Femininity look like now? Changing roles have affected your sex life, your health and also your libido. We go “inside the episode” in our conversation with Dr. John Gray, author of the Mars/Venus series. We dive into: The changing roles of men and women and what it really means for you, and for our culture. How to find balance in yourself, and success and sweetness your relationship with the changing gender roles. What to do if your partner doesn’t “need” you, and how Ian made a shift around this. What are the two paradigms we are all struggling with right now? What is the difference between Role Mate and Soulmate and how we moved from role mate to soulmate in our marriage. Understanding the biochemical side of things – hormonal side of things and why this is so significant to your relationship and overall health. Discover if you have too much testosterone as a woman or too much estrogen as a man? How we nurture “polarity” in our marriage to honour each of us AND create limitless passion and desire. Listen now   Want to share your thoughts? Visit sexellencepodcast.com and leave us a comment in a confidential form. Send us an email at connect@sexellencepodcast.com Connect with us on Instagram @sexellencepodcast and @the7starloveVisit our mentoring website for more tools and resources: 7starlove.com
Women's Arousal and the Vocabulary of Desire w/ Vagi-preneur Rachel Braun Scherl
Feb 10 2021
Women's Arousal and the Vocabulary of Desire w/ Vagi-preneur Rachel Braun Scherl
Talk about a titan in “Lady Business! Rachel Braun Scherl joins us to talk about female arousal, the vocabulary of women’s sexuality or lack of it, and also her own humorous, heart-wrenching and ultimately wildly successful journey in the woman’s sexual health space. Rachel is a champion for women’s sexual reproductive health and a pioneer in the space and has built an international client list that includes Johnson & Johnson, Allergan, Pfizer, Bayer, and Church & Dwight, as well as venture-backed start-ups. As a Vagipreneur®, Rachel drives growth with businesses from menstruation through menopause, and while President and co-founder of Semprae Laboratories, Rachel and her team built a company that developed and marketed sexual health and wellness products for women - creating a new category. Semprae attracted significant media attention and industry interest and was sold to Innovus Pharmaceuticals in 2013. Needless to stay, she’s an EXPERT!!!! In this episode you will hear: The importance of a real language and vocabulary around women’s sexual desires and health. Why being part of the movement to create a dialogue and a vocabulary to give women and men the words to use to speak openly and honestly in that category remains critical. How to talk to your partner about sexual needs and desires, and to know if your female partner is holding back…she probably it!!! The most innovative and safe products and solutions that exist in the sexual health market, many of them created as the result of other women experiencing the same problems! How big the sexual health market really is, and if you are an entrepreneur HOW to leverage that now!   Want to share your thoughts? Visit sexellencepodcast.com and leave us a comment in a confidential form. Send us an email at connect@sexellencepodcast.com Connect with us on Instagram @sexellencepodcast and @the7starloveVisit our mentoring website for more tools and resources: 7starlove.com
Why Couples Therapy is Not Working & What to Do
Feb 3 2021
Why Couples Therapy is Not Working & What to Do
With a divorce rate of over 50%, and nearly all couples “in trouble” seeking some sort of therapy, there is a pretty clear indication that things aren’t working! Shasta and Ian share their transparent story of what therapy did to their marriage and sex life, and what they did to repair their relationship, and the damage caused in therapy. If you’ve tried therapy and felt worse off there is a reason… If you are a therapist and you feel like you are either not really helping people or even might feel like a fraud yourself because of your own relationship issues, we understand. This episode is for you. You will hear: What is the #1 Flaw inherent in the therapy model. What neuroscience and the latest in neurophysiological (brain/body connection) tells us is actually working, and how to hack into that yourself. Why therapy may increase contempt rather than compassion in your relationship, and what a Seinfeld character knew about this…#festivus Why by doing this ONE thing you are making your brain, body and relationship worse off, and yet many people fall under the false belief that it’s what they should do. The #1 thing to do instead of therapy, that WILL save your marriage, your mind and your money!!! Listen Now Want to share your thoughts? Visit sexellencepodcast.com and leave us a comment in a confidential form. Send us an email at connect@sexellencepodcast.com Connect with us on Instagram @sexellencepodcast and @the7starloveVisit our mentoring website for more tools and resources: 7starlove.com
From Dick Pics, Porn & Toxic Masculine to Modern Warriors – Raising Amazing Boys with author John Beede
Nov 11 2020
From Dick Pics, Porn & Toxic Masculine to Modern Warriors – Raising Amazing Boys with author John Beede
Talking to your son about sex in an age of prolific porn use, dick pics and #metoo can feel uncomfortable, confounding and maybe something you’re avoiding. But the facts are 93% of young boys under the age of 18 have used online porn. It is a brave new world of sexuality from when we were kids and author, John Beede makes it easy to speak about the most taboo topics on the planet. We learned a ton from speaking to him in this show and realized the exact words to say to both young men and women to ensure they are well equipped to navigate sexuality and even a post-Covid isolation dating experience. You will learn how to: Talk about boundaries – your son’s and other people’s so he is well equipped to understand appropriate behavior and even his own impulsesNavigate dick pics – yes, chances are he has sent one!Online Porn + Oversexualization – John shares a perfect way to navigate porn usage and what to do to NOT shame your son but get him off the Hub.#metoo and Consent – learn how to educate and empower the young many in your life too! This is a must listen as a parent or caregiver of a young man or woman. In fact, we learned a ton about being better “models” for the younger generation and you will too. Listen Now Want to share your thoughts? Visit sexellencepodcast.com and leave us a comment in a confidential form. Send us an email at connect@sexellencepodcast.com Connect with us on Instagram @sexellencepodcast and @theincomeandintimacyequationVisit our mentoring website for more tools and resources: theincomeandintimacyequation.com