PODCAST

S.O.F.T. and Strong: Brave Enough For Love

Bernice McDonald

Hi there! Welcome to the Path to Brave Enough. You enter onto this Path when you decide that you're tired of living in the land of "Not Enough". Believe me - I know. I've been scared that I'm not enough all my life! But there came a point when I decided, "No more!" These are my stories and stories of the women I know or know of who show us the way. They've faced the tough stuff. They've looked the Fiery FEAR Dragon right in the eye, shrunk him down to a friend named "Fred" and did what they had to do DESPITE the FEAR. They found love. They found hope. They found a life that is Brave and meaningful. We can all learn from them. So join me - just short 15 minute or so weekly episodes to remind you that you can be S.O.F.T. (I'll tell you what this means) and Strong all at the same time And Brave Enough.
Episode 48: Brave Enough To Look Like My Mom (& other Scary Stuff) When I Get OldEpisode 47: Maya Angelou: A Brave Woman Who Lived A Brave LifeEpisode 46: Lea's Brave Story - From Betrayal & Loss to Brave Enough
A woman with a heart of gold. A man who asked for her heart. A marriage she thought was made in heaven.But then a nightmare worse than any of us can imagine...while she worked at bringing him home to live with her, she discovered that he was expecting a child with someone else and married her, as well!This is Lea's Brave Story.  How she walked the Path to a place where most women would have closed up their hearts and thrown away the key. And how she found her actual true love along the way.Her Not Enough to Brave Enough Pathway... S.O.F.T. & StrongS - Growing her Strong on the Inside so she can stay Soft on the outsideO - Open to life and love, to magic and miraclesF - Feminine - stepping  a Love stronger than FEART- Staying True to HerselfLea shows us how to be our own Hero. And go forward in  life, not remain frozen in time. It's all here so come on in and have a listen.Send any thoughts or comments or let me know that YOU have a Story you could share that would inspire other women to stay the course - to be Brave - to my Private Message on Instagram @braveenoughforlove_._______________________________________________________GUESS WHAT!!??! I'm Bernice McDonald and I'm a Mindset Coach. I help women beyond 50 who are scared of love, of life, of seeing their dreams disappearing off into the distance as they age... I train them to rebuild their confidence, their 'Brave Enough'. To become their own Hero so they can fall in love with their lives again and go after whatever is in their hearts to do.  Interested in becoming a member of the "Secret Inner Hero Society?" Just PM me on Instagram!
Nov 14 2021
20 mins
Episode 45: Look In Your Heart - That's Where the 'Brave' lives...Episode 44: Yeah - You ARE Brave Enough Even If You Think You're NotEpisode 43: 3 Ways You May Be Pushing A Man Away
You are lovely - inside and out. Lord knows, you're trying to be brave by getting out there and dating.But you're asking yourself...Where are all the good guys? The ones who want a commitment - not just a fling?Why is it that every time it seems as if the chemistry is working, it just fizzles out? Is it me? Is it them? Is it that I just haven't met "the one" yet?OK. First of all, you're not alone. You're not the only one. Just because you're friends who you thought would have a tough time finding a guy are surprising you by finding exactly what they want and you're coming up with nothing, that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.You may just need to tweak your approach a little. Give a listen and see if any of the 3 things I talk about here ring any bells with you. And then...for a few more to think about, download my the free assessment with the 5 things to ask your heart to see if you're Ready For Love. Don't give up...GROW. Find out what's not working and then GROW into being the confident yet S.O.F.T. woman who has the choice of picking and choosing who she will love because she has so many pursuing her. You got this, Gorgeous!_______________________________________________PSSST! Hey Beautiful...you know the love your heart is longing for - the one you only let yourself think about before you fall asleep or in your super quiet moments during the day?  I WANT YOU TO HAVE THAT. And I know how you can find it. Reaching for it but being afraid to get hurt again is like having your foot on the gas and the brake at the same time. I have a very simple 2 step Strategy I use with women who want to FINALLY get free of the fear and go for every one of their dreams. Schedule a Brave Enough Strategy call and let's get you moving into the love you're afraid is just a dream.
Jul 31 2021
21 mins
Episode 42: Being Brave Enough To Trust AgainEpisode 41: 5 Ways To Grow Your "Brave Enough" Even If You Haven't Found Love YetEpisode 40: How To Be As Confident As Wonder Woman On A DateEpisode 39: How To Be Brave Enough To Choose "Mr. Right"Episode 38: Are YOU Brave Enough For Love?Episode 37: Facing the Fiery FEAR DragonEpisode 36: To Own Your Excellence Is To R.E.L.A.X. Into Love
The greatest thing you can ever know is Over the Moon, Never Leave Me Love.  Beyond 50? Dating...again? R.E.L.A.X.! Part 5 Podcast - "X" is for "Excellence". Own your SOFT power. Discover how to take the most beautiful parts of you out on a date - and win the guy.Moving back toward love after divorce is scary.  Add being beyond 50 and it's downright terrifying at times.Why would you put yourself through that? Because you deserve it to find that Great Love out there for you!R.E.L.A.X. back into it. This is #5 in our Masterclass of How To R.E.L.A.X. into love. This is the "X"  for Excellence and this is one of those easy kind of actions once you "get" it.Inside - at your the heart of who you are - you carry a beauty, a light, a strength that is unlike anyone else. Own that and WHATEVER happens as you open up to love again will always keep you grounded and moving forward.On a date. When you fall in love. When you are in the love bubble you will find.Here is the link to the list of values I mention in the podcast in Pillar 3: Hope-filled Action.  GET THE LIST and do this simple assessment to find out where your EXCELLENCE begins!The R.E.L.A.X. into Love Masterclass:Episode 32: R  RelaxEpisode 33: E  Elevate his HeartEpisode 34: L  Learn everything there is to know about you and about himEpisode 35: A Ask for your Needs to be metEpisode 36: X Excellence - Live in it always!All the Steps on the Open To Love Again Pathway...Step 1: Recognize your Old Story and your Power StoryStep 2: Find your S.O.F.T.Step 3: Put your S.O.F.T. into action and R.E.L.A.X.Step 4: Grow your Sparkle Power.
May 19 2021
23 mins
Episode 35: To Ask For What You Need Is To R.E.L.A.X. Into Love
The last thing you want is to feel "invisible" again. As if you're not seen. You're not heard. And your opinion doesn't matter.And, let's face it, when you've been divorced, it's most likely one of the reasons you ended up there.But - you have worked through the hurt of it. You are rebuilding a life you're proud of.  You don't want to give up on love entirely...So how do you remain open with someone and still have your needs met?  A beautiful, romantic, epic love can be yours. You can have it all because of this one thing. How? Learn to "Ask".Move into your Power Story. Smile at the world of men out of a heart of strength. Lift your head. Breathe. Lean back.R.E.L.A.X. into love again.Power PIllar #1: Your Why: You want to experience a great love. You want to confidently know that your needs are going to be met.Power Pillar #2: The Truth Is... a great love is possible only when you: 1. Respect yourself. 2. Believe you are heard, seen and respected. That's what "Asking" will give you.Power Pillar #3: Hope-Filled Action. 1. Make a decision. What do you want? Start with asking your Creator who watches over you to send you a Knight. Use the words,"I feel ____________"."I want ___________".2. Start using those words with everyone around you. Be OK to feel and want or don't want...In this episode: Part 4 of the Masterclass "R.E.L.A.X. into Love" series, you are going to learn something that EMPOWERS you more than anything else - "Ask" for what you need.The R.E.L.A.X. into Love Masterclass:Episode 32: R  RelaxEpisode 33: E  Elevate his HeartEpisode 34: L  Learn everything there is to know about you and about himEpisode 35: A Ask for your Needs to be metEpisode 36: X Excellence - Live in it always!All the Steps on the Open To Love Again Pathway...Step 1: Recognize your Old Story and your Power StoryStep 2: Find your S.O.F.T.Step 3: Put your S.O.F.T. into action and R.E.L.A.X.Step 4: Grow your Sparkle Power.
May 10 2021
20 mins
Episode 34: To Learn About "Who He Is" Is To R.E.L.A.X. Into Love
Does this sound like you? ...Exciting. Fun. Mesmerizing.  Beautiful. No? Hmmm - good news! She's in there! She's just hiding. And she's your Super Girl.In this Podcast, I put this out for your thoughts...Maybe your Super Girl is being dis-empowered by a chunk of Kryptonite that is blocking your way to Over The Moon, Never Leave Me love.We all have those pesky strength stealers that come down like brick walls on our Path, blocking the future. R.E.L.A.X. You're learning how to take that beautiful heart of yours out into the world - and out on a date.This is the 3rd of 5 in the "R.E.L.A.X. Into Love" series. The "L" is for Learn . Learn everything you can about him (and about yourself, too). This is the PRIMARY tool in opening your heart and helping you to RELAX.Power Pillar #1 - Your "Why": You want to experience a Great Love! (of course)Power Pillar #2 - "The Truth Is...":  Always be learning because happiness = progress.Learn about how you see yourself.Learn about how you see him.Power Pillar #3 - Hope-Filled Action: Answer the questions discussed in the Podcast about who YOU are.Answer the same questions about him because it's fun, it focuses on seeing his heart, not his surface behavior AND it gives you a very attractive vibe!The R.E.L.A.X. into Love Masterclass:Episode 32: R  RelaxEpisode 33: E  Elevate his HeartEpisode 34: L  Learn everything there is to know about you and about himEpisode 35: A Ask for your Needs to be metEpisode 36: X Excellence - Live in it always!All the Steps on the Open To Love Again Pathway...Step 1: Recognize your Old Story and your Power StoryStep 2: Find your S.O.F.T.Step 3: Put your S.O.F.T. into action and R.E.L.A.X.Step 4: Grow your Sparkle Power.Brave Enough For Love Website
May 3 2021
21 mins
Episode 33. To "Elevate" His Heart is to R.E.L.A.X. Into LoveEpisode 32: To Receive is to R.E.L.A.X. into LoveEpisode 31: What If You Could See Yourself Through His Eyes?
One thing I hear from many women over 50 is that there is a serious lack of "good men" left out there. The one thing I say back is...don't give up because there is still one who is looking for someone just like YOU!Dating can be seen as a challenge - or dating can be seen as fun. It just depends how you look at it.An article I recently found said that today is the day of CHOICE. You can write your list and you can expect to find someone to fit it. You don't have to settle. That's a good thing...The problem can come when we focus on our list every time we sit down with a guy and decide how many things he checks off. You will more-so find his flaws than see his heart - or the good things about him he may be hiding.So, in this episode, we're talking about the 2 lists you DO need to write down about who you're looking for.But THEN - there's something else to consider. If you were go out on a date with YOU, how would you come across? What would he be picking up from you?We forget to see things through his eyes. And we forget to relax and be ourselves which could also give him a false sense of what we're all about.The 3 Power Pillars for this week are:Power Pillar #1: Your "Why": To know who you want and who you don't want - and then find the person that fits the best with you.Power Pillar #2: The Truth Is... Be honest in your evaluation of yourself. Are you happy with who you are?  Or do you try to be someone you're not because you're trying to impress him?  Or maybe come across as someone who is fearful and wary and all closed up?Power Pillar #3: Hope-Filled Action. What are doing about this?Write your 2 lists.Do the 3rd exercise I walk you through and think about living the Perfect Day with the Love of Your Live. Who are you in that Story? Consider what you would need to do in order to move more joyfully toward becoming that person.**As they say: "If you aim at nothing, you're sure to hit it." So don't aim at nothing - know what your dream looks like!I'd love to hear how you did with these exercises. Send me a Private Message.  Follow me @opentoloveagain on Instagram and send me a PM
Apr 12 2021
20 mins
Episode 30: The Most Beautiful Thing About YouEpisode 29: Sparkle Power Can Transform You Into A Conflict Ninja.

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