Does your child or teen seem perfectly fine on Saturday, only to become moody, anxious, or withdrawn by Sunday afternoon? Maybe they start complaining about school, feeling overwhelmed, or even develop those familiar headaches or stomachaches. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re tackling the Sunday Scaries head-on. Whether it’s the pressure of looming homework, social anxiety, or the dread of early wake-ups, many young people struggle with the anxiety that creeps in as the weekend comes to an end—and as a parent, it’s hard to watch. But here’s the good news: it doesn’t have to be this way. I’m going to give you the exact tools and strategies you need to transform those anxious Sundays into peaceful, confident family time. By the end of this episode, you’ll go from feeling helpless and frustrated when these Sunday Scaries hit, to feeling empowered, prepared, and confident. Together, we’ll build a game plan to help your child or teen manage their anxiety and start their week on the right foot. You’ll learn: (3:47) The telltale signs of the Sunday Scaries—and why your child’s anxiety isn’t just about not wanting to go to school. (7:24) The fascinating science behind anticipatory anxiety and how your child’s brain is reacting to Monday’s stress before it even begins. (10:15) Why unstructured weekends can actually make Sunday anxiety worse—and the simple changes you can make to create a smoother transition. (12:30) The three most common triggers of Sunday anxiety—and how identifying them is the first step to easing your child’s worries. (15:52) The power of empathetic, non-judgmental conversations—plus a simple script to help your child open up about what’s really bothering them. (20:28) Why planning ahead on Friday can save your Sunday—and a step-by-step guide to setting up a weekend schoolwork strategy that works. (21:55) How creating a Sunday routine that balances relaxation and preparation can transform your family’s weekend—and reduce those last-minute Sunday night meltdowns. (27:17) Do you feel the Sunday Scaries too? Why it’s time to recognize and manage your own Sunday stress, so you don’t pass it onto your family. (35:48) Your weekly challenge: One small action you can take today to help your child—and yourself—take control of Sunday anxiety for good. Ready to turn those chaotic, anxiety-filled Sundays into calm, intentional family time? By the end of this episode, you’ll have a clear, actionable plan that will help you guide your child or teen through the Sunday Scaries—and, just as importantly, you’ll know how to manage your own Sunday anxiety too.   For more parenting support and resources tailored to your needs, check out these options: Join the Modern Parenting Facebook GroupTake My Court-Approved Online Parenting ClassesExplore My Library of Free Parenting ResourcesTake My Quiz & Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between!   Resources Mentioned In The Episode: Free PDF Guide: The Ultimate Guide To Making Better Parenting Decisions   Connect With Dr. B: Email: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.orgGet Daily Education, Inspiration, and Support on Instagram

The Tool That Will Change How You and Your Child or Teen Handles Anxiety Does your young person's anxiety feel overwhelming, and you’re not sure how to help them? You’re not alone. Anxiety is becoming a bigger challenge for kids and teens every year, and as parents, we often wish we could wave a magic wand and just - poof! - make it disappear. Now, while we can’t make the anxiety go away instantly, we can equip our young people with a powerful, science-backed tool to help them manage it in a healthy way—both in the moment and long-term. It’s called the Catch-Cancel-Change tool, and it’s a game-changer. In this episode, I’m sharing how this 3-step strategy works, why it’s so effective, and how I used it to help my own daughter during one of her toughest struggles with anxiety. By the end of this episode, you’ll not only have a proven method to help your young person manage their anxious thoughts, but you’ll also have a way to help them build a life skill they can rely on for years to come. You’ll learn: (4:07) Why anxiety in kids and teens is more common today and how you can be part of the solution to help them manage it.(5:47) The powerful psychological principle that makes this anxiety tool so powerful(7:41) The secret to stopping anxiety in its tracks—learn how anxious thoughts trigger negative emotions and unhelpful behaviors.(13:38) Step 1: Catching the Thought—how to help your child or teen recognize their unhelpful thoughts before they spiral into anxiety.(19:08) Step 2: Canceling the Thought—why teaching your young person to mentally reject anxious thoughts can break the cycle of anxiety.(26:23) Step 3: Changing the Thought—how to guide your young person to reframe negative thoughts into balanced, positive ones that reduce anxiety.(28:13) Practical examples of how to change anxious thoughts for elementary, middle, and high school students.(32:20) How Catch-Cancel-Change helped my daughter move from feeling stuck to finding balance, and how it can do the same for your young person.(38:38) This tool isn’t just for kids—how you can use Catch-Cancel-Change to manage your own stress and anxiety as a parent.(39:42) Your weekly challenge: Use Catch-Cancel-Change with your child or teen this week and try it for yourself—experience the difference in real time. Stop letting anxiety control your household. By the end of this episode, you’ll feel empowered with a practical tool that helps your young person manage their anxious thoughts and teaches them a skill that will serve them for life. You’ll walk away feeling confident that you can guide them through their toughest moments and give them the emotional resilience they need to thrive. For more parenting support and resources tailored to your needs, check out these options: Join the Modern Parenting Facebook GroupTake My Court-Approved Online Parenting ClassesExplore My Library of Free Parenting ResourcesTake My Quiz & Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between!   Resources Mentioned In The Episode: Free PDF Guide: The Ultimate Guide To Making Better Parenting Decisions   Connect With Dr. B: Email: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.orgGet Daily Education, Inspiration, and Support on Instagram

Do you ever feel like social media influencers, peer groups, or the latest TikTok trends have more sway over your child or teen than you do? Are you worried that your young person’s self-esteem, mental health, and habits are being shaped by the world outside your home? If you’re nodding right now, friend, you’re not alone. Here’s the good news: By the end of this episode, you’ll feel empowered when I describe a couple of new scientific research studies that prove YOU are your young person’s most powerful influencer in their lives—no matter what social media is telling you. You’ll walk away knowing exactly how to use that influence to guide your young person toward healthy habits, confidence, and emotional well-being. You’ll learn: (3:58) The subtle but powerful ways you’re already an influencer in your young person’s life—even if you’ve never posted a TikTok video in your life.(7:54) Empowering research that proves parental influence outshines peer pressure and social media, even during the challenging teenage years.(13:04) Why your “posts” as a parent last longer than any viral video, and how they shape your child’s values, self-esteem, and mental health in the long term.(16:00) How social media influencers use consistency to build trust—and how you can use the same strategy to strengthen your connection with your young person.(22:09) Why it’s not about being a perfect parent—but about the small, intentional actions you take daily that truly make a lasting impact.(27:58) Three powerful strategies to reclaim your role as the ultimate influencer—without taking away their phone or isolating them from friends.(36:02) Two Practical, real-life examples of how these strategies work with both young children and teens.(42:45) Your weekly challenge: How you can start strengthening your connection today and build the foundation your young person will rely on for years to come.   By the end of this episode, you’ll not only feel more confident about your influence as a parent, but you’ll also walk away with clear, actionable steps to ensure your voice is the one that matters most. So, are you ready to become your young person’s most powerful influencer? Let’s get started! Remember: Your influence isn’t measured by likes or shares—it’s measured by the deep, lasting connection you build every day. Tune in now to reclaim your role as the ultimate influencer in your child or teen’s life. For more parenting support and resources tailored to your needs, check out these options: Join the Modern Parenting Facebook GroupTake My Court-Approved Online Parenting ClassesExplore My Library of Free Parenting ResourcesTake My Quiz & Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between!   Resources Mentioned In The Episode: Free PDF Guide: The Ultimate Guide To Making Better Parenting Decisions   Connect With Dr. B: Email: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.orgGet Involved In The Modern Parenting Facebook CommunityGet Daily Education, Inspiration, and Support on Instagram

Boy, I’ve seen it ALL when it comes to parents—and today, I’m sharing some truths that you NEED to hear! If you’ve ever felt like you’re just not doing this parenting thing right, you’re not alone. I get it—I hear this from parents all the time: “Just give me a playbook I can follow.” Well, Friend, that’s exactly what I’m doing in this episode. I’m giving you 5 key habits that I’ve observed over the years—habits that successful parents consistently use to guide their kids and teens toward happy, healthy, motivated young adulthood. These aren’t just tips, either; these are habits that will transform the way you parent, giving you a practical playbook to follow in those tough—but common—parenting situations. By the end of this episode, you’ll feel empowered, confident, and ready to guide your child or teen through life’s challenges with clarity and purpose. You’ll walk away with a set of strategies that help you raise a young person who is not just successful but resilient, motivated, and self-assured. These habits work, and I’m excited to share them with you! For more parenting support and resources tailored to your needs, check out these options: Join the Modern Parenting Facebook GroupTake My Court-Approved Online Parenting ClassesExplore My Library of Free Parenting ResourcesTake My Quiz & Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between! Connect With Dr. B: Email: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.orgGet Involved In The Modern Parenting Facebook CommunityGet Daily Education, Inspiration, and Support on Instagram

You know your child or teen would benefit from an extracurricular—but they flat-out refuse to get involved. Now what? Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered. In this episode, we’re tackling one of the toughest parenting challenges: how to motivate a reluctant child or teen to join an extracurricular activity. Whether it’s fear of failure, preferring to stay in their "comfort zone", or simply struggling to find their passion, we’ll explore the real reasons behind their resistance. I’ll also share 4 proven strategies that actually work to help your young person get excited about trying something new. By the end of this episode, you’ll have a clear, actionable plan to help your child or teen find an activity they love, build friendships, and grow in confidence. If you’re ready to see your child or teen get involved, build friendships, and grow in confidence, then this episode will give you the tools and strategies to make it happen. For more parenting support and resources tailored to your needs, check out these options: Join the Modern Parenting Facebook GroupDownload the Free Episode GuideTake My Court-Approved Online Parenting ClassesExplore My Library of Free Parenting ResourcesWhat Kind of Parent Are You? Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between! Connect With Dr. B: Email: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.orgGet Involved In The Modern Parenting Facebook CommunityGet Daily Education, Inspiration, and Support on Instagram

What if I told you that the secret to your child or teen’s academic success, confidence, and overall happiness isn’t just about their grades -- but about the quality of their friendships? That’s right—this episode dives deep into the often-overlooked but absolutely crucial role that friendships play in your young person’s school experience. It’s easy to think of school as just a place for learning, but what about the social connections that can make or break that experience? If your child or teen has been struggling to find their place among their peers, then this episode is exactly what you’ve been looking for. Listen, I’m not here to sugarcoat things—there are a lot of reasons why your young person might be having a tough time making and keeping friends. Whether they’re shy, dealing with low self-esteem, burned by past friendships, or they seem to make friends easily but can’t seem to maintain those connections, there’s something here for you. We’re going to unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface, so you can stop guessing and start knowing how to help. I’m bringing you practical, no-nonsense, research-backed strategies to help your child or teen develop the social skills they need to thrive in any situation. These are the tools that will set them up not just for a better school year, but for a lifetime of meaningful, fulfilling relationships. So, if you’re ready to roll up your sleeves and turn things around for your young person, this episode is your roadmap. Let’s get started. In This Episode: 2:05: Why your child or teen’s social struggles at school might be more than just a phase.4:30: The truth about online friendships and the real connections your young person needs.7:12: The unexpected impact of extracurricular activities—why they’re more than just hobbies.10:45: Overcoming the barriers to getting involved: What every parent needs to know.13:30: Emotional control: The secret to building stronger, lasting friendships.16:25: How naming emotions can empower your young person socially.19:05: The power of practice: Creating low-pressure social opportunities that work.22:50: A simple change that can boost your young person’s confidence in social settings.25:30: Why small social gatherings can have a big impact on your young person’s connections.28:45: Start today: How to turn these ideas into action for a successful school year. Connect With Me: Daily Inspiration on Facebook and InstagramOnline Courses: Court-Approved Co-Parenting and Parenting Skills CoursesEmail Me With Your Questions: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org Take the Quiz: What Kind of Parent Are You? Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between!

Access The Back-To-School Prep Playlist 7 Resources By Clicking HERE  This episode is a game-changer for busy parents like you.  I know the start of the school year can feel like a whirlwind, but I've got you covered. This isn’t just another podcast episode – it’s a challenge. I’ve curated the ultimate back-to-school playlist and packed it with free resources designed to set your family up for success. Imagine a school year free from stress and chaos. Sounds impossible? Think again. Pop on your headphones, print out my specially selected PDFs, and let's transform this year together. This episode is shorter than usual because I want you to take action immediately. Dive in and discover the tools and strategies that will make this school year amazing for your child or teen. Don’t miss out on these golden resources. Click play now and start your journey toward a smooth and successful school year. Resources Mentioned: Back-To-School: BTS Prep Playlist & Free ResourcesOnline Courses: Court-Approved Co-Parenting and Parenting Skills CoursesEmail Me: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org Take the Quiz: What Kind of Parent Are You? Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between! Got back-to-school questions? Worried about your child or teen's lack of motivation for school and life? Email me your questions and I'll answer them.

Are you experiencing “Back To School Dread”? You know, that sinking feeling that this year will be just a frustrating repeat of the last? This year CAN be different for your child or teen – and it’s easier than you think. In this episode, I’ll show you how three simple focus areas can transform your entire school year from chaos to calm, from stress to success. These strategies are not just about surviving the school year; they're about making it the best one yet for both you and your child. As a parent, I know you want the best for your kids, and that’s why I’m here to share these game-changing tips with you. Trust me, they work. Episode Highlights: (03:12) The hidden secret: Why this time of year brings dread and how to flip the script.(07:25) The first focus area: Discover what every successful school year needs.(13:45) Storytime: How one simple change made a huge difference for a mom and her middle school twins.(21:10) Focus area two: This everyday habit can drastically reduce stress and arguments.(29:35) Real-life example: How a dad transformed his chaotic evenings into peaceful, productive time.(37:50) The final focus area: This often-overlooked step is a game-changer for academic success. Listen in if you’re ready for the next chapter of your family’s journey. I’m right here cheering you on! :) Resources Mentioned: Free Guide: Solve Your Child or Teen’s Sleep ProblemFree Resource: How To Help Your Anxious Child Start The New School Year Online Courses: Court-Approved Co-Parenting and Parenting Skills CoursesEmail Me: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org Next Episode Recommendation: Episode #25: Everything You Need To Know To Solve Your Child or Teen's Sleep Issues Episode #42: How Establishing Family Routines and Rituals Can Help You Overcome Overwhelm, Stress, and DisconnectionEpisode #44: Unlock Your Child's Success: My Five Best Back-To-School Tips For ParentsEpisode #52: When Your Child or Teen Doesn't Want To Go To School Take the Quiz: What Kind of Parent Are You? Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between! Don't miss this episode—it’s the parenting tool you never knew you needed. Tune in now and start transforming your child’s life!

What if I told you that you’re missing out on a simple parenting hack that could skyrocket your child or teen's motivation, confidence, and mental health? This episode is about to blow your mind and change the way you think about creativity and curiosity in your young person's life. I used to think creativity was something you either had or didn’t. I thought the creative genes had skipped me. But guess what? ALL brains are wired to be creative thinkers - and understanding this can transform your parenting game. Creativity isn’t just about painting or drawing; it’s about problem-solving, adapting to new situations, and thriving in life. In today’s episode, I’m breaking down the science behind curiosity and creativity and showing you how these tools can unlock your young person's full potential. You’ll learn how to turn everyday moments into opportunities for growth and learning. What You’ll Learn: The Science of Curiosity: How curiosity works in the brain and why it’s a game-changer.Easy Strategies: Simple, research-backed ways to foster curiosity and creativity at home.Real-Life Tips: Practical advice to create a curiosity-driven environment. In This Episode: 5:33: How the brain is hardwired to be creative.6:40: Columbia University insights: The brain on curiosity.8:23: The Duke University study: How Pretending To Be An Art Thief Taught Researchers About Creativity.13:23: Why curiosity is crucial for your child or teen's development.22:04: Easy ways to inspire curiosity at home.28:45: Your weekly challenge—start creating curiosity now. Resources Mentioned: Free eBook: The Ultimate Guide To Igniting Independent ThinkingOnline Courses: Court-Approved Co-Parenting and Parenting Skills CoursesEmail Me: Podcast@ModernParentingSolutions.org Next Episode Recommendation: Episode #43: Teaching Your Child or Teen To Think For Themsleves: Cultivating Independent Thinkers Take the Quiz: What Kind of Parent Are You? Find Out If Your Parenting Style Leans More Traditional, Modern - Or Somewhere In Between! Don't miss this episode—it’s the parenting tool you never knew you needed. Tune in now and start transforming your child’s life!

Why Does My Teen Push Me Away? Do you feel like your tween or teen is pushing you away and you're left wondering why? You’re not alone. In this episode, we're diving deep into why your young person might be creating distance and what you can do to rebuild your relationship. You’ll feel better after listening to this episode because you’ll realize that this situation isn’t your fault—and I have the science to prove it! I'll share actionable strategies to help you reconnect with your tween or teen, supported by research and real-life examples. In this episode: 1:55: My personal story with my son Patrick and how our relationship has evolved.8:29: Understanding why teens push parents away—scientific theories and research explained.13:45: Common triggers of disconnection.16:56: Common myths of why this dynamic happens between parent and tween/teen20:04: Respecting their need for independence and why it’s crucial for their development.21:39: The importance of taking care of yourself during this stressful time.24:18: Actionable Tips that you can use right NOW to eliminate disconnection36:13: When to seek family therapy and how it can help rebuild your relationship.39:44: Your weekly challenge—putting these tips into action and overcoming barriers. You have the power to improve your relationship with your young person. Small, consistent efforts can make a big difference. It might feel tough now, but your dedication and love will shine through! Resources Mentioned: Free eBook: How To Have Difficult Conversations With Your Teen So That You Get Your Point Across & Create a Close Parent-Child BondOnline Parenting Course: Modern Parenting Solutions Courses Next Episode Recommendation: Episode #62: The Secret to Being a Happy Parent: Why Embracing The ‘Gani’n Changes Everything Take the Quiz: What Kind of Parent Are You? Find out if you lean more traditional, modern, or in between by taking my online quiz. I’d love to hear about your experiences or any questions you might have. Share them with me via social media or email, and please share this episode with a parent who needs to hear it. The more we spread these messages, the more we can help other parents build stronger relationships with their kids. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a positive review so other parents can find it too. I would really appreciate it!

Ever feel like your discipline strategies just aren’t working, no matter how hard you try? If I had to guess, I’d say you’ve experienced moments where your child or teen's behavior seems to spiral out of control, despite your best efforts. Those times when the rules you set are ignored, the consequences don’t seem to stick, and you’re left feeling frustrated and unsure of what to do next. It’s incredibly disheartening, and you might be tempted to throw in the towel or resort to harsher measures. But hold on! Before you do that, you need to listen to this episode! It’s completely natural to feel overwhelmed when things don’t go your way, but I’m here to tell you, my friend, you don’t have to stay stuck in a cycle of ineffective discipline. In today's episode, I’m going to share the 10 crucial clues that your discipline strategy might not be hitting the mark and, more importantly, how to turn things around. In this episode, I’ll cover: Why Understanding These Clues is Vital: Knowing what isn’t working is the first step to making positive changes.The Common Pitfalls: We’ll dive into why certain discipline methods fail and how they can negatively impact your young person's behavior - and your relationship with them.Actionable Tips for Improvement: You’ll learn practical strategies to refine your approach and build a more effective discipline strategy. I know this episode is a bit longer than usual, but trust me, you’ll want to stick around for the last few clues. We’re in the home stretch now, and the insights you’ll gain are worth it. Let’s keep going and uncover how you can transform your discipline strategy and feel more confident, peaceful, and proud of your parenting journey. 🔗 Resources Mentioned: Life Lessons Every Young Person Should Know by the Time They Graduate from High School The Ultimate Guide to Making Better Parenting DecisionsExplore more tools and tips in our Parenting Resources Library. Connect with Dr. Becca Ballinger: Follow me on Instagram for daily parenting tipsBrowse my library of free parenting resourcesGain skills by taking my court-approved parenting and co-parenting classesSign up for my newsletter to get each episode—and its accompanying free guide—emailed directly to you each Monday morning And always remember, Friend, I believe in you. You’ve got this.

Is your dream family vacation turning into a nightmare of sibling squabbles or teen moodiness? We’ve all been there – those vacations that were supposed to be great but ended up in misery. This episode is your ticket to transforming those potential disasters into unforgettable, joy-filled adventures. Join me as I share proven strategies to ensure your family vacation is more about bonding and exciting experiences than endless complaints. Discover how to set up this year’s family vacation for success with actionable tips tailored for elementary schoolers, middle schoolers, and teens. Let’s make this vacation season the best one yet! In today’s episode, I'm diving into how to transform those endless days of potential summer slump into a season brimming with growth, connection, and involvement. Here’s a sneak peek of what I'll cover: [8:36] Setting the Foundation for a Smooth Vacation: Kickstart your trip on the right foot with essential tips for preparation and setting expectations. [14:52] Tackling Common Vacation Challenges: Address the most frequent vacation hurdles with practical solutions to keep everyone happy. [20:09] Engaging Elementary School Kids: Learn how to make vacations magical and fun for your young children with specific, age-appropriate strategies. [28:26] Balancing Independence and Family Time for Middle Schoolers: Discover ways to give your tweens the independence they crave while ensuring quality family bonding. [36:51] Keeping Teens Invested and Engaged: Find out how to respect your teen's space and interests while encouraging their participation in family activities. [46:04] My Parent Coaching Challenge for You: Take on my special challenge designed to help you plan a successful, stress-free vacation. Tune in and turn your next family vacation into a memorable and positive experience for everyone! If you find this episode helpful, please follow The Modern Parenting Solutions Podcast on your favorite podcast app and share it with other parents. It could be just the resource they need. Got questions about parenting in this modern world? Reach out at podcast@modernparentingsolutions.org. I’m here to help, and your questions might just become the focus of a future episode! Connect with Dr. Becca Ballinger: Follow me on Instagram for daily parenting tipsBrowse my library of free parenting resourcesGain skills by taking my court-approved parenting and co-parenting classesSign up for my newsletter to get each episode—and its accompanying free guide—emailed directly to you each Monday morning And always remember, Friend, I believe in you. You’ve got this.

Is your young person feeling lost, wondering what the point of it all is? In today's episode, we tackle a challenge many parents face: helping their child or teen find a sense of purpose in life. It's all too common for young people to feel like life is just an endless cycle of meaningless tasks: going to work, doing boring work, coming home to pay bills, and then doing it all over again. But it doesn't have to be that way! Many worried parents tell me they fear their child or teen might miss out on learning important morals and a purpose in life without a religious background. This episode will show you that plugging into a sense of purpose can be done with or without a religious framework. Whether your family is connected to a religious community or not, there are powerful, actionable strategies you can use to guide your young person toward a fulfilling and meaningful life. Join me as I share 8 impactful strategies to help your child or teen discover their unique strengths and passions, and learn to connect positively with their community and the world around them. We’ll explore: [8:15] Understanding Purpose: Discover what true purpose means and why it’s so vital for your young person’s well-being.[13:00] The Disconnect: Learn the four key reasons why modern teens may feel disconnected from a sense of purpose and how to address these issues effectively.[19:28] Building Purpose: Dive into seven strategies designed to foster a sense of purpose in your child or teen, helping them see that life is more than just a monotonous routine. This episode is packed with practical advice, heartfelt insights, and encouraging support to help you empower your young person. Don’t miss out on these valuable tools that can transform their outlook on life. Tune in now and take the first step towards helping your child or teen live a life full of meaning, joy, and purpose. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to listen to this one: [Episode #35] The Importance of Teaching Your Young Person To Live a Purposeful Life Connect with Dr. Becca Ballinger: Follow me on Instagram for daily parenting tipsBrowse my library of free parenting resourcesGain skills by taking my court-approved parenting and co-parenting classesSign up for my newsletter to get each episode—and its accompanying free guide—emailed directly to you each Monday morning And always remember, Friend, I believe in you. You’ve got this.

What if I told you that the reason you often give up on enforcing a household rule with your child or teen is because they're using science against you? And what if, by understanding this science, you could finally stop giving up RIGHT BEFORE they give in? In today’s episode, I'll show you why you're giving up too soon when your child or teen pushes back on your rules or boundaries...and your young person was just moments away from complying. There’s a game-changing concept that will help any parent successfully implement new boundaries and rules. Once you hear it, you’ll wonder how you ever managed without it. This episode will explain why so many parents struggle to follow through with new rules and boundaries and provide the key to achieving lasting behavior change in your child or teen. By the end of today’s episode, you’ll: Understand the critical concept of the "extinction burst"Recognize the four stages of behavior changeHave practical strategies to stay consistent and see positive results Imagine feeling like a confident parent when you know to expect pushback from your child or teen - AND you know how to deal with it in a way that makes it a non-issue. For more resources, including links to additional parenting tips and strategies, click here for the podcast episode page. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to listen to this one: [Episode #63] Redefining Obedience: How To Go From Blind Obedience To Mutual Trust Connect with Dr. Becca Ballinger: Follow me on Instagram for daily parenting tipsBrowse my library of free parenting resourcesGain skills by taking my court-approved parenting and co-parenting classesSign up for my newsletter to get each episode—and its accompanying free guide—emailed directly to you each Monday morning And always remember, Friend, I believe in you. You’ve got this.

Today, you’ll discover how to stop feeling manipulated by your child or teen using four proven strategies. This episode is a masterclass in understanding and managing emotional manipulation. You'll learn about the science behind why parents get caught in these cycles and, most importantly, how to break free. Dr. Becca Ballinger shares the four key strategies you need to create a peaceful and connected family environment. After listening, you will know exactly what to do to handle your young person’s intense emotions, foster better communication, and build a stronger, more supportive relationship. For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page and to download the episode guide. This guide includes a summary of the key points and a worksheet to help you implement the strategies discussed in the episode, making it easier for you to tackle emotional manipulation in your home. Connect with Dr. Becca Ballinger: Follow me on Instagram for daily parenting tipsBrowse my library of free parenting resourcesGain skills by taking my court-approved parenting and co-parenting classesSign up for my newsletter to get each episode—and its accompanying free guide—emailed directly to you each Monday morning And always remember, Friend, I believe in you. You’ve got this.

Summer's coming, and I know what you're thinking: How long until I'm secretly wishing for school to start again? This year, I want you to flip the script! Summer isn’t just about avoiding the summer ‘brain drain’ or surviving until fall—it's your golden opportunity to focus on your child or teen's natural strengths, deepen family bonds, and create those picture-perfect memories -- all while enjoying a well-earned break from academic pressures. If you're wondering how to keep your child or teen off their screens and engaged this summer, then this episode is for you! In today’s episode, I'm diving into how to transform those endless days of potential summer slump into a season brimming with growth, connection, and involvement. Here’s a sneak peek of what I'll cover: [9:24] Using Summer To Develop Natural Strengths and Interests: Find out how those lazy summer days can become the perfect backdrop for your young person’s creativity and exploration. We’re turning the dreaded summer slump into a season of growth and self-discovery. [22:46] Connect With Your Child or Teen This Summer: Dive into practical ways to deepen your connection with your child or teen this summer. Whether you’re strengthening your connection or building bridges, we’re all about making heartwarming memories and shared experiences. [29:54] Setting Up A Successful Summer Routine: Discover the secrets to creating a summer routine that’s flexible enough to feel like a break, yet structured enough to keep everyone connected and engaged in worthwhile activities. It’s all about balancing enriching activities with the chill vibes of summer. [40:44] Connect With Community This Summer: Learn why reaching out beyond your usual crew of close family and friends is crucial this summer. We’ll discuss how fostering community connections and diverse friendships can enrich your young person’s social skills and broaden their horizons. Ready to turn this summer from standard to stunning? Press play now, and let’s kickstart a season you’ll never forget! And if today’s episode sparks joy or gives you that 'aha!' moment, consider spreading the love with a quick rating or review on your podcast app. Not only does it help our show, but it also helps other fabulous parents like you discover us. For a complete rundown of today’s tips and links to all the resources, be sure to visit the show notes on my website at modernparentingsolutions.org/episode71. Free Guides: Summer Schedule Planner Guide Help Your Child Find Their Passions and Interests Blog Posts: Why Your Teen Needs a Summer Job 6 Steps to Encouraging a Resistant Teen to Get a Summer Job Yes! Your Child and Teen Needs a Summer Sleep Schedule! Here’s Why and How To Create One Podcast Episodes: Episode #13: Why Your Teen Needs a Summer JobEpisode #16: Yes! Your Child and Teen Needs a Summer Sleep Schedule! Here’s Why and How To Create OneEpisode #17: Challenging Parent-Child Relationship? Try These 6 Strategies To Improve This Important Relationship In Just One SummerEpisode #38: Stay Sane This Summer: Summer Strategies For Parents That Build Positive Parent-Child Relationships, Encourage Independence, and Create Lifelong MemoriesEpisode #42: How Establishing Family Routines and Rituals Can Help Modern Parents Overcome Overwhelm, Stress, and Disconnection

Ever feel like your discipline approach is more of a mess than a success? Let's flip that script! If you're worried about being ineffective, crushing your child or teen's incredible spirit, or if tensions are high - it's time to introduce some PEACE into your routine. My 5-point PEACE plan isn't just about keeping order; it's about empowering your young person with the tools they need to grow into an amazing adult. What if you could discipline in a way that not only promotes good behavior but also brings out your child or teen awesome potential AND strengthens your bond with them?  Here's a snapshot of today's episode: [9:42] Passions, Values, and Beliefs (P): Discover how your personal passions, values, and beliefs shape every parenting decision, acting as a moral compass to navigate parenting challenges with confidence.[20:09] Empathy (E): Learn how practicing empathy in discipline shows your young person their feelings matter, nurturing their growth and strengthening your bond, even in tough moments.[26:00] Autonomy (A): Explore how autonomy, backed by self-determination theory, empowers your young person to make decisions driven by internal motivation, seeing the value in their actions beyond mere compliance.[32:13] Consistency (C): Understand how consistency acts as the glue of your discipline strategy, providing security and clarity that builds trust and sets clear expectations for your child or teen.[36:15] Educating Life Lessons (E): Realize how transforming every disciplinary moment into a teaching opportunity can impart vital life lessons, making discipline a constructive and educational experience that extends beyond mere correction. The PEACE plan goes beyond traditional discipline. It’s designed to ensure that your approach doesn't just demand respect but inspires it, cultivating a relationship where your young person feels valued and understood. To help you implement this transformative strategy, I’ve prepared two free resources: “Empower Your Parenting with PEACE: A Step-by-Step Guide to Effective and Loving Discipline” and the “50 Life Lessons Every Modern Kid Should Know by the Time They Graduate from High School” checklist. These guides are packed with actionable tips and insightful exercises tailored to fit your unique family dynamics. Join me as we explore each facet of the PEACE plan, giving you the tools to not only manage behavior effectively but to enhance your relationship with your child or teen. Remember, I believe in you. You’ve got this! FREE RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE: Empower Your Parenting with PEACE: A Step-by-Step Guide to Effective and Loving Discipline50 Life Lessons Every Modern Kid Should Know by the Time They Graduate from High School CONTINUE YOUR PARENTING JOURNEY: Free Parenting Reseouce LibraryCourt-Approved Parenting ClassesCourt-Approved Co-Parenting Classes

Think setting boundaries is just about laying down the law? Let’s flip that idea on its head. In this episode, I'm diving into something truly eye-opening—the reciprocal nature of boundaries. This isn’t your typical chat about rules and limits. It’s about understanding that when you teach your child or teen to respect others’ boundaries, you empower them to expect and receive the same respect in return. In this powerful episode, I unpack how recognizing and respecting boundaries can dramatically improve your child or teen’s self-esteem, confidence, and their ability to forge strong, positive relationships. Here’s what I've got lined up: [5:50] What Are Boundaries: We’re going beyond the basics here.[8:54] The 5 Types of Boundaries: Some of these might really surprise you![17:06] The Big Payoff: How respecting boundaries reshapes self-respect and why it’s a game-changer for your child’s development.[20:00] Where Parents Miss the Mark: It’s easy to do—we’ll tackle how to avoid common pitfalls.[24:28] Tips and Tactics: Straight-up strategies to effectively teach and uphold boundaries that work both ways. Ready to see boundaries in a whole new light? This episode is packed with actionable insights that can transform not just your approach to parenting but also improve how your family interacts every single day. Can I aks you for a favor? Make sure to follow The Modern Parenting Solutions Podcast on your favorite podcast app and share this episode with other parents—it might just be the breakthrough they need. And if you find today’s tips helpful, I'd really appreciate a quick, positive review on your podcast app - that would be amazing, Friend :) Let me help you on your parenting journey: Got questions or want to share a win? Email me anytime at podcast@modernparentingsolutions.org—I love hearing from you and your story could inspire our next topic.Check out my court-appproved co-parenting and parenting skills online courses: https://modernparentingsolutions.org/courses/I also have a free parent resource library that can answer a lot of your parenting questions: https://modernparentingsolutions.org/parentresources/

You asked...and I answered. After last week's episode, many of you wrote to me to tell me that you wanted to use the strategies discussed in the last episode, but you're dealing with a VERY unmotivated child or teen. Well...consider that problem solved! In today’s episode, I dive deep into 4 strategies for igniting a lasting spark of motivation in your young person - helping them not just survive but thrive in these critical final weeks of the school year. This isn't just about pushing for better grades; it's about empowering your child or teen with confidence, resilience, and a sense of accomplishment. Join me as I guide you through actionable, engaging strategies that are easy to implement and designed to make an immediate impact: [6:08] Quick Overview of Motivation: Understand the crucial differences between internal and external motivation, and why knowing these can change how you approach motivating your young person.[13:00] Strategy #1: Strategize Together on What Needs To Be Done: Learn how collaborating with your child or teen on a game plan can make them feel invested and motivated.[17:05] Strategy #2: Make It A Joint Effort: Discover how actively participating in your young person's academic efforts can transform their motivation and deepen your relationship.[21:38] Strategy #3: Make It Fun: Find out how adding elements of fun to study sessions can dramatically improve your young person's attitude towards learning.[25:03] Strategy #4: Repeat Important Messages: See how consistent messages can build resilience and foster a mindset geared towards growth and success. And for those looking to dive even deeper, I’ve created 'The Comeback Kid Masterclass' – a comprehensive, two-hour course designed to provide you with all the tools you need to help your young person end the year on a high note. This masterclass includes bite-sized, enjoyable videos and personalized worksheets tailored to your family's needs. You can access this invaluable resource by visiting modernparentingsolutions.org/comebackkid. Let’s tackle these final weeks with a strategy that not only boosts academic performance but also builds lasting life skills. Thank you for joining me today. If you find this episode useful, please follow The Modern Parenting Solutions Podcast on your favorite podcast app and share it with other parents. It could be just the resource they need. If you have any questions about parenting in this modern world, feel free to reach out at podcast@modernparentingsolutions.org. I'm here to help, and your questions might just become the focus of a future episode!

Feeling like it’s too late to turn your child or teen's school year around? Think again! Discover the inspiring story of how I helped a family transform their sons’ academic paths, boosting grades, confidence, and attitudes with only weeks to spare. In this episode, I weave the journey of working with this family into a powerful narrative, showing you why NOW is the perfect time to kick it into high gear and help your child or teen finish strong. Learn how taking action in these final weeks can not only give your young person the confidence boost they desperately need - but also set them on a trajectory that positively impacts their life for years to come. Don’t miss this chance to turn the school year around and lay the groundwork for future success! Check out 'The Comeback Kid' Masterclass Here