P.S. Younger Self

What happens when the need for self-expression clashes with deeply rooted cultural traditions? In this profoundly personal episode, host Chris Oh shares her journey of growing up Korean American, navigating familial and cultural expectations, and finding peace in accepting that prioritizing a relationship with her mother means letting go of the hope for full understanding—but grounding herself in the love and acceptance her mother expresses in her own way.Chris reflects on a recent trip to Korea with her mother, where old childhood insecurities resurfaced, and she found herself grappling with the delicate balance of honoring her Korean cultural heritage while staying true to her own voice. This is a story of vulnerability, cultural identity, and acceptance—showing that while mutual understanding may not always be possible, finding clarity in a loved one’s perspective and focusing on connection can foster healing and peace, even when worlds feel apart.💬 How do you navigate cultural and familial expectations? Share your thoughts with us in the comments or reviews. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

Struggling to hold yourself accountable and uphold your high standards? In this episode, we dive into the essential role of accountability in setting and upholding your personal standards. Without accountability, it's nearly impossible to stay aligned with your core values and principles.Join Host Chris Oh as we explore practical steps on how to be accountable to yourself, from self-reflection and ego management to understanding the powerful impact of intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation. Discover how to stay accountable and how Self-Determination Theory explains the importance of accountability, helping you take full ownership of your actions, behaviors, and decisions. By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear understanding of what accountability truly means and how it empowers you to uphold your high standards that dictate the quality of life you desire and create. 🎯 Key Takeaways:✅ Why accountability is the foundation of maintaining high standards✅ Why identifying your personal values and aligning them with your daily actions is essential. ✅ The role of intrinsic motivation in self-determination✅ How Self-Determination Theory explains the importance of accountability✅ Five steps to hold yourself accountable to high standards. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

Did you know that there are over 180 documented cognitive biases that can subtly influence our decision-making?In this episode, host Chris Oh delves into five common cognitive biases—confirmation bias, anchoring effect, halo effect, availability heuristic, and WYSIATI (What You See Is All There Is)—drawing insights from Daniel Kahneman's best-selling book, Thinking, Fast and Slow. She explores how these biases shape our thinking and decisions, often without us even realizing it, and shares personal examples of when each cognitive bias affected her own choices.Chris also offers practical strategies she uses to overcome these cognitive biases, helping you to also make better decisions in both professional and personal situations. This is a must-listen for anyone looking to sharpen their decision-making skills and avoid the pitfalls of biased thinking.Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

As social beings, we are fundamentally wired to connect. The quality of our lives depends on the relationships we create and foster. Yet, in a world that's growing more divided and ego-driven, where attention often outweighs genuine connections, how can we forge deep, meaningful bonds? What does that truly mean, and how does it look in various relationship dynamics—from friendships to romantic and even professional relationships?In episode #108, our guest Simon Stawski, a Lisbon-based creator with more than 2 million subscribers across his social channels and a personal brand consultant,  shares his personal journey and the tools he's acquired and applied in his everyday life to foster deep, genuine human connections. Discover Simon's intriguing personal philosophy on what it means to truly connect with others, along with effective communication skills to build deeper, better connections. Drawing on his extensive knowledge in neuroscience, psychology, consciousness, and communication strategies like non-violent communication, Simon explains how he continues to apply these principles across various types of relationships: friendships, romantic, familial, and professional. Get ready to widen your perspective on what it means to deeply connect with someone and learn new, powerful ways to transform the way you connect with others.Connect with Simon here: https://www.youtube.com/@SimonsBookClub or on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/simonsbookclub/Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

Did you know that 90% of our communication is non-verbal? It's not just about what you say, but how you say it that can completely change how the receiver perceives and interprets your message. This episode underscores the importance of communicating your standards primarily through mastering key non-verbal communication nuances. Discover how your actions, presence, and even your energy can convey your standards without uttering a single word. Host Chris Oh explores how you show up in various aspects of your life and the subtle yet impactful ways non-verbal communication can set the benchmark for expressing your personal standards. Learn how to master non-verbal communication to convey your standards more effectively than ever before. Stick around, especially for tip number five—it might just change the way you think about how you are communicating your message. And, if you want clarity on standards vs. expectations, be sure to watch this video on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IuBsv4kclYM&t=181sLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

Forget what you thought you knew about emotions—they're not predetermined reactions triggered by external stimuli, nor are they universal and imprinted in us. Instead, they're constructed by your brain, drawing from sensory input, cultural influences, and past experiences.This episode draws on the groundbreaking research and findings of Lisa Feldman Barrett, a venerated neuroscientist, psychologist, and the author of 'How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain.' Host Chris Oh shares her key insights from this eye-opening book that has transformed the way she understands emotions, and invites you into this new paradigm shift in understanding the science of emotion to empower yourself through your journey of mastering your emotions and becoming more emotionally intelligent, which you may be surprised to hear is also inherently linked to your health and well-being.If you've never heard of Lisa Feldman Barrett's renowned work on the science of emotions, be prepared for a transformative shift in your thinking.Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

Have you ever felt something was off in a conversation, leaving you questioning the sincerity of the other person? Or perhaps, you felt like someone was subtly orchestrating your decisions without you knowing it! These moments often signal the subtle presence of manipulation at play. The thing is, manipulation can be subtle, and know what? We all at one point or another will use manipulation tactics in our communication because our guest says it´s a form of power wielding. Our guest Bronwyn Saglimbeni, a seasoned communications coach who has prepared clients for their big moments on shows like American Idol, Bloomberg TV, CNBC’s Power Lunch, The Oprah Winfrey Show, and hundreds of Ted Talks, dives into this concept and reveals the underlying power dynamics involved in manipulative communication. She also offers insights on how to identify and effectively manage such scenarios. Moreover, Bronwyn shares how we can even catch ourselves  if we're inadvertently becoming the manipulator, and offers powerful, actionable tools to foster authentic power through communication strategies that instead inspire and influence. To connect with Bronwyn Saglimbeni, visit her site here.You can also watch her informative content on YouTube here. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

Do you believe self-confidence is a fixed trait? Host Chris Oh challenges this notion, revealing how anyone can cultivate greater self-confidence. In fact, building self confidence is largely what psychologists call volitional, which means it´s by your own choice. Chris shares her own journey from painfully shy early beginnings to embodying unshakeable confidence today, illustrating that transformation is attainable for everyone. Discover the essential components of building self-confidence as Chris provides actionable strategies for your own personal growth. Drawing from her own experiences, she reveals the secrets to developing unshakeable confidence, guiding you towards a more self assured and boldly confident future.Learn the 10 transformative steps to not only boost your self-confidence, but to cultivate Unshakeable Self Confidence today. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

Life’s journey is not without its storms; sometimes it's just a light sprinkle, other times it's a full-blown downpour. Amidst the ebb and flow of happiness, sadness, and uncertainty, one timeless philosophy stands as a beacon of resilience.In this episode, host Chris Oh shares how Stoicism, particularly the profound concept of Amor Fati, has been instrumental in navigating one of the most challenging and stressful experiences of her life. Amor Fati, the Stoic idea of embracing one's fate, becomes a guiding principle in turning adversity into opportunity.Drawing from Stoic teachings and Nietzsche's philosophy, Chris explores the nuanced interpretation of Amor Fati, revealing how it can empower you to change your frame of reference to transform your adversity into an impetus for personal and character growth.Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

Are you exercising against your unique female physiology? With a mere 6% of exercise research centering on women, this episode aims to  empower women with knowledge that challenges generic fitness advice.  Our guest, Denise Yeats, a personal trainer, menopause training specialist, Ironman Certified Coach, and endurance athlete, is committed to guiding women in resetting, recharging, and reclaiming their vitality at any life stage. Denise draws upon her expertise in managing female hormonal fluctuations to offer practical insights on customized fitness solutions that honors women's physiology. From dispelling exercise myths to optimizing training and promoting proper fueling for female hormone health across various life stages—including menstruation, perimenopause, and menopause—this episode is a must-listen for women looking to optimize their health and fitness journey. Tune in to discover how to synchronize your workouts for maximum benefits and unlock your full fitness potential.To connect with Denise Yeats, visit her website here.How to fuel for performance in the perimenopause and menopause resource. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

What if the pursuit of happiness isn't about the zeros in our bank accounts, but the why behind our financial choices? In this episode, "Understanding the Why Behind Our Financial Decisions," our guest Eric Roberge, CFP® and the CEO  of Beyond Your Hammock, helps us explore the connection between our financial decisions and their influence on our lives.  In this episode, we explore the strategies and mindsets for optimal financial decision-making, discovering how understanding our "why" doesn't just shape our portfolios and bank accounts, but molds our lifestyle, mindset and relationships. Eric shares invaluable insights, empowering us to navigate the intricate intersection of money and life. Tune in for an interesting conversation that transcends conventional finance advice, offering inspiration to redefine your relationship with your money and finances. To connect with Eric Roberge, visit his website here. To listen to his podcast, Beyond Finances, click here.Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

In a milestone 100th episode of P.S. Younger Self, host Chris Oh unfolds a powerful lesson on forgiveness she recently experienced.Chris shares her personal revelation, illuminating a surprising, fresh perspective on forgiveness that reshapes its traditional understanding and role in reconciliation. This episode will challenge you to perceive forgiveness as a truly liberating force—a proactive choice to let go and extend compassion first.Discover how this shift in mindset can enable us to lead with genuine compassion, transcend our ego, and foster an environment rooted in unconditional love, ultimately paving the way to genuine inner peace. Tune in for an enlightening episode that prompts a reevaluation of our  approach to forgiveness.Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

Can you truly let go of expectations? And, why should you?Our perception of reality is intricately woven with our expectations and past experiences. However, transcending these expectations and embracing the present can unlock the full spectrum of life's rich tapestry.Join host Chris Oh, as she passionately delves into why letting go of expectations is the liberating path to escape the clutches of disappointment and frustration. And, discover the profound concept of the "Expectations Gap," as defined by Nat Ware, and how it's intricately tied to our feelings of unhappiness.Chris also shares the five conscious steps she's developed to master the art of letting go of expectations. Start your practice and set yourself free to embrace life's wondrous unpredictability.Be sure to sign up here to be the first to know when the Revealing the Foundations: The Standards Mastery Mini Course launches in November! You won't want to miss this transformative mini course: https://www.psyoungerself.com/coursesLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

In this latest episode of P.S. Younger Self, husband and wife team, Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill share powerful insights on how they have discovered what makes couples disconnect, and therefore connect to forge deeper, healthier, long-lasting relationships. They share their discovery through their own journey of a 40 year marriage (30 of which they say was painful) and through Dr. Glenn´s professional, groundbreaking research and studies on human emotions and connection. They share their transformative tool called the Connective Codes, which has helped couples around the world unravel the mysteries of disconnection and regulate and process emotions to foster profound, stronger connection in relationships. Don't miss this truly insightful episode, which covers topics such as:  How getting curious about your partner´s emotions helps build deeper connection Why not to ask "why" questions. Change to "What happened?"Acknowledging our own unique experiences to be heard and seenDemonstration of Dr. Glenn & Phyllis working through the Core Emotion Wheel to process individual emotions Why part of human connection is to be seen and heardWhy saying "I´m sorry" doesn´t build connection and can be weaponizedFascinating research on how emotions get reactivated if not processed in 19 secondsWhy you can´t expect your partner to "understand" you➡️ To connect with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis, click here on their YouTube channel:    / @connectioncodes  or visit their website here: https://www.connectioncodes.co/➡️ To download the Free Core Emotion Wheel - THE tool to conquer conflict in just 4 minutes, from Dr. Glenn & Phyllis, click here: https://www.connectioncodes.co/younger➡️ And, all P.S. Younger Self listeners receive 20% of The Connection Codes Master Class. Use code "younger20" at checkout here: https://www.connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-onlineLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

In the latest episode of P.S. Younger Self, Chris Oh´s dear friend, Saria Gebeily, returned to the show for another deeply engaging and intimate conversation about what “healing” means. They discussed how they have personally defined "healing" and identified when they  were “healing,” as well as revealed pivotal moments that signaled their own progress and growth.Discover why these intimate conversations between Chris Oh and her friend Saria Gebeliy are always so enlightening, as Saria isn´t afraid to share her different, yet always very wise perspective on topics and concepts that often gets diluted down in mainstream conversations. For example, can we get “addicted” to healing, which can do you more harm than good? And, don't miss the other two episodes with Chris and Saria: EP. 45: Why It’s Ok to Outgrow Some Friends EP. 74: Manifestation: What it is and What it’s notYou can follow Saria Gebeily on Instagram here. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

Gaslighting seems to be thrown around for a lot of different negative behaviors, i.e., lying, insulting, guilt tripping, and much more. But what is gaslighting really? Discover the truth behind gaslighting and its intricate connection to emotional abuse in our latest episode with licensed psychologist, Dr. Emily Mayfield of Mindset Therapy, PLLC. Dr. Emily helps us unravel the distinction between gaslighting and other deceptive behaviors, and sheds light on the manipulative intent of gaslighters to control thoughts, emotions, and perceptions for their own benefit. Gain insights on how to identify real gaslighting behaviors and practical strategies to reclaim your reality, confront it, and break free from the manipulative chains of gaslighting.To connect with Dr. Emily Mayfield, visit her website here. You can also find her on YouTube here. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

Setting standards is an important aspect of our personal growth because they act as a measure of our own accountability and reflect our personal values. Yet many people confuse the two. They are not the same and not to be used interchangeably because our standards dictate the quality of life we create, while expectations lead to feelings of disappointment and frustration. In this episode, you'll learn the clear difference between setting standards vs. expectations in all areas of your life. And, if you are interested in finally feeling empowered to transform your experience from feeling frustrated, anxious, and disappointed when setting expectations in your life to setting clear standards, be sure to sign up to find out when our new course launches soon. ✨ Sign up here to be notified when our course "Your Hero's Journey to Setting Clear Standards" launches and to receive a special offer for being part of the initial launch:https://bit.ly/3IW9ysnLearn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

Today, 10MM working mothers in the U.S. alone are suffering from burnout, and in silence. In 2019, the World Health Organization officially included burnout as an occupational syndrome and an estimated that 1 in 3 people are affected by work-related stress, making it a significant health concern. What is going on?Burnout is a pervasive issue affecting more people today than ever before due to a combination of factors such as intense work culture, our "always-on" digital connectivity, uncertainty about the world and economic affairs, heightened stress, and lack of self-care. Dr. Oma Agbai, a Board-Certified Dermatologist, a Clinical Professor of Dermatology and Director of Multicultural Dermatology and Hair Loss Disorders at UC Davis, and Tedx Speaker, shares her personal story of how she overcame burnout by connecting with her higher purpose and implementing her three-step system. She passionately states that aligning with our highest purpose can be the antidote to burnout. Listen to the full episode to discover the early signs of burnout and the 3 step system to prevent and overcome it, and even achieve your own breakthrough moment. Connect with Dr Oma Agbai here and you can follow her on Instagram here. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

I grew up as a painfully shy child. My mother had to make friends for me in grade school, and she even got me my prom date, no joke. Throughout my 20s and 30s, I climbed the corporate ladder, chasing status, more zeros and trying to make my parents proud. Fast forward to my early forties, I have never been more at peace and fulfilled in my life. But that came with a lot of self discovery, self work and lessons along the way, including the most important --- learning to fall in love with myself. 💙These are my 10 biggest life lessons I've learned to date that I would pass onto my younger self. Whether you're just starting out in your self growth journey or are looking to reflect on the lessons you've learned along the way, this podcast episode will provide valuable insights from my own experience that may help you live your best life, right now, wherever you are in life..and on your own terms. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.

What would the world look like if we all cultivated unconditional self worth? Today, the feeling of low self worth is so pervasive. And, it not only cripples us from living out all of our dreams and authentic desires, but can significantly impact our mental health and well-being.In this episode with Dr. Adia Gooden, a licensed clinical psychologist whose Tedx Talk on cultivating unconditional self worth has garnered over 1.3 million views, we dive deep into the topic of building unconditional self worth and understanding the difference between self esteem and self worth. We explore the reasons behind why low self worth is so pervasive in our society, the signs that signal we are struggling with self worth, and the essential steps to start the journey of cultivating unconditional self worth. Dr. Adia also sheds light on the practice of self-forgiveness, which is often challenging for many, and how to navigate self-doubt and imposter syndrome. Listen to the full episode and don't forget to follow Dr. Adia Gooden on Instagram here and learn more here. Learn more about P.S. Younger Self here.And, you can connect with host Chris Oh on Instagram here.