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Imperfect Dad MD Podcast with Dr Jeremy Toffle

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The role of dad has changed for the 21st century physician father. With that comes different expectations compared to the physician dads before us. With so much changing, where do we turn to to get answers about how to be the dad we always expected ourselves to become? This podcast is designed with the physician dad in mind. I am Dr Jeremy Toffle, physician, husband, father to two boys, and self proclaimed imperfect dad. Through my own struggles as a parent, I have come to find that there are several key core foundations that make up who we are as a parent; if we chose to improve these core foundations, we can strive to be the father we always expected to be. Join me in this show as I discuss each of these core foundations as well as interview experts in various fields of these same principals. I also discuss dad life with new and experienced dads, helping us rediscover what it means to be a dad in the 21st century as a physician and learn to embrace our imperfections along the way. This is the Imperfect Dad MD Podcast

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Setting Your Kid Up For Success
Setting Your Kid Up For Success
I have spoked several times on the topic of defining what success means to you, and what does it mean for your child to be successful.  We all have different definitions of success and how we interpret it.  Recently I saw an article posted on Facebook in regards to setting up your child for Entrepreneur Success.  Although we probably all want to see our children become business savvy adults, I felt like the article touched on several topics that can simply set up our children to be successful in many different ways.  If you are interested, the article can be found here.  Basically, it looks at 4 key points in our children and how each one can potentially set up our child for success of failure later in life.  Those 4 items are:1) Company Kept: Who your kid hangs out with.2) Education: Not the school they go to, but what they learn early in life.3) Accountability:  We could all probably use some help with that.4) Self-motivation: Like me forcing myself out of bed to work out in the morning.Listen in as I discuss these 4 key points mentioned in the article and my own thoughts on them.  Remember to SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A REVIEW!  I want to be able to help as many dads and parents out there, and I can't do it without YOUR help!Interested in more topics not covered here?  Check out my blog at https://www.imperfectdadmd.com  to see if I discussed it there.  Can't find what you are looking for?  Send me an email either at my website above or at imperfectdadmd@gmail.com and I can try to cover it in my next show. Want to find other dads to talk to and get advice from?  Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/imperfectdadmd
3d ago
17 mins
Friday Review - How Lifestyle Can Affect Mental Health in KidsAdolescent Depression and Anxiety - Figuring Out the Why?
It is no secret that adolescent mental health conditions have become a major talking point since the pandemic began.  Schools shutting down and moving to virtual learning, the loss of sports and extracurricular activities, and simple socialization halting one day in March of 2020, it is no wonder that some kids are struggling to get back to "normal."However, we can't only blame COVID.  Mental health conditions like anxiety and depression usually take time to develop.  Little things here and there add up to what we see in our patients in the clinic - elevated PHQ-9 and GAD-7 scores, kids struggling with school, and parents not sure where to turn next.This week I discuss the topic of adolescent depression and anxiety and determining WHY your child is struggling with this.  I also approach how you can start to address it at home while waiting to get in with your primary care physician or counselor.Remember to SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A REVIEW!  I want to be able to help as many dads and parents out there, and I can't do it without YOUR help!In the show today I mention several blog posts discussing anxiety and your kids.  Below are links to those blog posts I have done in the past:https://imperfectdadmd.com/2020/10/18/managing-grief-with-kids/https://imperfectdadmd.com/2020/08/10/anxiety-and-kids-ways-to-help-them-manage/Interested in more topics not covered here?  Check out my blog at https://www.imperfectdadmd.com  to see if I discussed it there.  Can't find what you are looking for?  Send me an email either at my website above or at imperfectdadmd@gmail.com and I can try to cover it in my next show. Want to find other dads to talk to and get advice from?  Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/imperfectdadmd
May 18 2022
25 mins
Friday Review - Recovering from Mother's Day
Last weekend was Mother's Day, and I HOPE you treated the mother of your children (or your OWN mother) to a wonderful weekend.In our house we typically we let mom sleep in, I cook crepes with nutella, I get the kids ready for the day, we go to church, do brunch, and then mom gets to do whatever she wants the rest of the day while I take care of the kids.  Cards are made, little gifts are provided, and I hope we do enough to show my wife that she is appreciated.After doing all of these things, I could not help but be surprised at hearing the WIDE variety of things dads do (or don't do) for their wife on Mother's Day.  First off, this is NOT a judgement show.  I recognize that everyone treats holidays in different ways and fashions, so don't jump down my throat after listening in.  HOWEVER - I do see this day as a great opportunity to teach our kids how to show our loved ones we care for the.  YES we should show this person our appreciation more than once a year, but it is a great time to model the behaviors you hope your kids will one day portray as well.Listen in as I discuss my thoughts on this.  And I do mention I am recovering - because I am tired.  Essentially soloing parenting all weekend was exhausting.  TONS of props to all of you single parents out there.  You are SAINTS.  I'm going to go take a nap now.  Remember to SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A REVIEW!  I want to be able to help as many dads and parents out there, and I can't do it without YOUR help!Interested in more topics not covered here?  Check out my blog at https://www.imperfectdadmd.com  to see if I discussed it there.  Can't find what you are looking for?  Send me an email either at my website above or at imperfectdadmd@gmail.com and I can try to cover it in my next show. Want to find other dads to talk to and get advice from?  Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/imperfectdadmd
May 13 2022
9 mins
Your Kid Doesn't Need a Smart Phone
One of the more common questions Pediatricians get asked by parents nowadays is, "What is a good age to buy my kid a smart phone?"I am kidding, actually.  Most kids have the phone already in hand before the question even gets asked. Today our kids are being raised in a technologically diverse world that we could only dream of 30 years ago.  With that advancement comes attachment.  Attachment to devices.  Emails, message boards, video conferences, social media posts - they all coincide with today's world and the expectations brought upon us.  It is hard enough to manage it all as an adult.  How do we expect our kids to do the same?Smart phones have become the main device for the general population in the United States.  Not only does this give your child access to phone calls and texting, but it also introduces them to anything they desire to search for online as well as an ever-growing list of social media apps.  Is any of this healthy for our kids?  Can we counter the smart phone option with much more appropriate devices?Listen in today as I discuss my thoughts on this and let me know what YOU think!Remember to SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A REVIEW!  I want to be able to help as many dads and parents out there, and I can't do it without YOUR help!Interested in more topics not covered here?  Check out my blog at https://www.imperfectdadmd.com  to see if I discussed it there.  Can't find what you are looking for?  Send me an email either at my website above or at imperfectdadmd@gmail.com and I can try to cover it in my next show. Want to find other dads to talk to and get advice from?  Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/imperfectdadmd
May 11 2022
20 mins
Friday Review - Teaching Prejudice While Watching the Bad Guys Movie
Apparently I am really into movie reviews lately and how they relate to parenting. Today's Friday Review is another movie review - this time with the newly released Bad Guys movie.  The premise of the movie seems simple enough - the 5 quintessential bad guys in most story books (Big Bad Wolf, Shark, Tarantula, Piranha, and a Snake) are cast by society as bad guys, so they obviously act bad.  They steal.  They cheat.  And they just don't care. Yet as the movie goes on, we see them "try" to be good.  I won't give the story away here, but it is easy to see how easily swayed the masses are on if someone is "good" or "bad" based on social media posts, hearsay, and general opinion.  What a great message to teach our kids.  Most of our kids will be raised with social media as part of their every day lives, sadly.  They will have to manage understanding what they see online and trying to decide if it is true or not.  They will have to form opinions based on their experiences, and sadly some of those experiences will be in the online world.Listen in today as I discuss this topic and how I think you can BEST approach it with your own children.Remember to SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A REVIEW!  I want to be able to help as many dads and parents out there, and I can't do it without YOUR help!Interested in more topics not covered here?  Check out my blog at https://www.imperfectdadmd.com  to see if I discussed it there.  Can't find what you are looking for?  Send me an email either at my website above or at imperfectdadmd@gmail.com and I can try to cover it in my next show. Want to find other dads to talk to and get advice from?  Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/imperfectdadmd
May 6 2022
12 mins
Parenting Lessons from Guardians of the Galaxy
You may not look at a movie like Guardians of the Galaxy and think, "Hey, I can learn some great parenting tips from that!"  However, that is just what I did this weekend with our kids.Now, some of you may think that allowing our 9 and 5 year old to watch these two movies are a bit out of their age range.  In most situations I would agree with you.  However, I allowed these movies to be a teaching moment for them.  We discussed initially how things would be said by grown ups in the movie and why they shouldn't use those words.  We paused the movie to discuss hard topics, scary scenes, are people dying.  Finally, we laughed together at the insanity that is the Guardians.  After finishing the first movie, our boys BEGGED to watch the 2nd one as well.  I am not usually a two-movies-in-a-row type of parent, but at this moment it made no sense NOT to say yes, so we went for it.  And boy am I glad I did.  The second movie is packed full of great parenting themes between the laughs, foul language, fighting, and good times.  Listen in as I discuss all of this and more in today's episode. Remember to SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A REVIEW!  I want to be able to help as many dads and parents out there, and I can't do it without YOUR help!Interested in more topics not covered here?  Check out my blog at https://www.imperfectdadmd.com  to see if I discussed it there.  Can't find what you are looking for?  Send me an email either at my website above or at imperfectdadmd@gmail.com and I can try to cover it in my next show. Want to find other dads to talk to and get advice from?  Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/imperfectdadmd
May 4 2022
19 mins
Friday Review - Are You the Negative Movie Reviewer When it Comes to Parenting?
On this week's Wednesday episode, I discussed how understanding the negative entities found in the Harry Potter universe can actually improve our roles as parents.  This was due in parent to recently seeing the new Fantastic Beasts movie, which I really enjoyed!So like any normal person, I decided to listen to other people's opinions on the content.  And boy was it NEGATIVE.  Let's be honest - in the online world of YouTube and podcasts, negativity sells.  No one wants to hear how much you liked something.  They want to know EXACTLY why you disliked it or even hated it.  As I listened in to these various reviews, I quickly learned one thing - the reason these people disliked the movie was due to their expectations and wants for that specific film.  How did they want the movie's main storyline to go?  Why didn't they explain that spell?  Why didn't that scene go the way I wanted?  As their "review" continues on, the negativity builds.  Just like the despair that a dementor allows to fester, the writer builds up negativity with more negativity.  However, it is not due to a poor done film.  It is due to PERSONAL expectations not being met.When it comes to parents it is easy to be a negative reviewer.  When we look at how our kids act or what they do, it is simpler to see the negative things rather than the positive.  Listen in this Friday as I discuss my thoughts on this, and ask yourself this simple question - are you the negative reviewed when it comes to your kids, or the positive one?Remember to SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A REVIEW!  I want to be able to help as many dads and parents out there, and I can't do it without YOUR help!Interested in more topics not covered here?  Check out my blog at https://www.imperfectdadmd.com  to see if I discussed it there.  Can't find what you are looking for?  Send me an email either at my website above or at imperfectdadmd@gmail.com and I can try to cover it in my next show. Want to find other dads to talk to and get advice from?  Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/imperfectdadmd
Apr 22 2022
8 mins
How Understanding Harry Potter Can Improve Your Parenting
This past weekend I was filled with joy as I was able to see the new Fantastic Beasts Movies in theaters with a good friend of mine.  I had been waiting to see how the movie unfolded and the story continued.  If you have not seen the movies, there is a certain character named Credence who develops a negative entity known is an Obscurus.  This negative entity grows within him because Credence tries to hide from the world what he really is - a wizard being raised by a fanatical anti-magic foster mother.  The more he tries to suppress his magical powers, the more this negative entity grows inside of him, eventually to the point where he can no longer suppress it and it is released to cause mayhem and chaos. The Harry Potter universe is no stranger to negative entities.  In Book 3, Prisoner of Azkaban, we are introduced to dementors.  These are creatures that feed on people's happiness, leaving them only in sadness in despair. So what can we learn from these two negative entities, and how can we apply it to our every day lives are parents and physicians?  Listen in to find out!Remember to SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A REVIEW!  I want to be able to help as many dads and parents out there, and I can't do it without YOUR help!Interested in more topics not covered here?  Check out my blog at https://www.imperfectdadmd.com  to see if I discussed it there.  Can't find what you are looking for?  Send me an email either at my website above or at imperfectdadmd@gmail.com and I can try to cover it in my next show. Want to find other dads to talk to and get advice from?  Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/imperfectdadmd
Apr 20 2022
17 mins
Direct Primary Care with Dr Phil Boucher
Apr 13 2022
26 mins
Friday Review - My Thoughts on Physician CoachingPhysician Coaching with Dr Michael Hersh
It seems like the topic of "Life Coaching" has become more prevalent the last two years, mostly in part due to the pandemic.  Many people were feeling lost, unsure of who they are or what they wanted, which typically leads individuals to searching for help.  In medicine, however, physicians have been feeling the sense of feeling lost and helpless much longer.  Burnout has been a major topic within all medical fields for the last decade at least, with a strong emphasis on life at work, life at home, physician depression and anxiety, etc.  However, when someone approaches you as a Life Coach stating they want to help you, yet they have absolutely NO IDEA what it is to be a physician, let alone go through burnout themselves, it is hard to assume they are going to be any help. This is where physician coaches come into play.  These are physicians who have put the time and effort into being certified to be life coaches (as well as going through coaching themselves) all while working their normal doctor jobs.  One such physician life coach is Dr Michael Hersh.  He is a gastroenterologist, father, husband, and physician coach at Better Physician Life Coaching.  He coaches physicians on life balance, goal setting, money mindset, self-confidence, and relationships.  You can learn more about him at his website at www.betterphysicianlife.com  Listen in today as we talk about what got HIM into coaching, how it has benefited not only him as a doctor but ALSO a father, and how you can check it out as well.  He also gives a LOT of pearls of wisdom on helping your kid deal with worry and other thought processes, so you don't want to miss this one!Remember to SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A REVIEW!  I want to be able to help as many dads and parents out there, and I can't do it without YOUR help!Interested in more topics not covered here?  Check out my blog at https://www.imperfectdadmd.com  to see if I discussed it there.  Can't find what you are looking for?  Send me an email either at my website above or at imperfectdadmd@gmail.com and I can try to cover it in my next show. Want to find other dads to talk to and get advice from?  Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/imperfectdadmd
Apr 6 2022
28 mins
Friday Review - ACEs, Toxic Stress, and What You Can Do as DadInterview with Dr Scott Grant on Dad Life and ACEsFriday Review - Why is After School So Dang Hard?Why Paying For Exercise Programs Actually Works
I remember being in high school watching late night TV and the commercials that would be on were always some get healthy quick scheme, random health drinks, ab-blaster machines, or the occasional low budget P90X commercials before it became popular.  Many people look at paying for someone to help you get healthy as a ridiculous concept.  As physicians we KNOW that eating healthy and staying active is what we should all be doing, yet many of us fail to do it in our own lives.  Why is that?  Many people may blame it on their patient schedules, overnight call, or the bad food choices in the hospital cafeteria.  Yet what if it was more than just that?  What if it was more about your INVESTED MOTIVATION to make a change in your life?The last 10 weeks my wife and I partook in an exercise program run by Farrell's.  It essentially consisted of kickboxing and strength training exercises mixed with nutritional goals and meal planning.  Now some of you out there may look at programs like these and laugh, stating that as a physician I should not have to PAY someone to tell me to eat healthy and exercise.However, research shows that when you do invest financially into something (be it a book, exercise program. coaching, etc) you actually gain MORE benefit from it than if it were given to you for free.  Think about it - if I wrote a book and gave you the choice to take a free copy OR pay my $10 to get it, you would most likely take the free option.  HOWEVER, you would be more likely to read it and INVEST YOURSELF into the material of the book if you paid me the money.  So in the end, which choice is better?Listen in this week as I discuss my journey with this 10 week program as well as my thoughts on this topic and more!Remember to SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A REVIEW!  I want to be able to help as many dads and parents out there, and I can't do it without YOUR help!Interested in more topics not covered here?  Check out my blog at https://www.imperfectdadmd.com  to see if I discussed it there.  Can't find what you are looking for?  Send me an email either at my website above or at imperfectdadmd@gmail.com and I can try to cover it in my next show. Want to find other dads to talk to and get advice from?  Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/imperfectdadmd
Mar 23 2022
16 mins
Image of a Father - How Does It Affect YOU as a Parent
My wife recently surprised me with a date night to see the new Batman movie.  If you know my wife, you know that this is not typically a movie she would willingly choose to see.  During the movie the viewer watches as Bruce Wayne struggles with the identity of his father, first seeing him as this perfect philanthropist, yet later learns of some buried family secrets (no spoilers here).  This shift in the image of his father seems to take a toll on Bruce, and it had me questioning how I would respond. We see our parents in a certain eye of childhood.  We know what they present to us and how they act around us, which molds many of us into who we are today.  however, what if you learned something new about your dad that shook those foundational beliefs?   How would it affect you?  And with those thoughts in mind, how are YOU shaping YOUR image for your own kids?  Listen in this week as I discuss my thoughts on this topic!Remember to SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A REVIEW!  I want to be able to help as many dads and parents out there, and I can't do it without YOUR help!Interested in more topics not covered here?  Check out my blog at https://www.imperfectdadmd.com  to see if I discussed it there.  Can't find what you are looking for?  Send me an email either at my website above or at imperfectdadmd@gmail.com and I can try to cover it in my next show. Want to find other dads to talk to and get advice from?  Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/imperfectdadmd
Mar 16 2022
13 mins
Friday Review - How COVID Affected the Gender Gap in Physician ParentingThe Generational Gap for Physician Parents
How many of you remember what it was like growing up with your parents?  What was dad's role? What did mom do?Were their jobs "defined" or did it seem fluid and ever changing?If you were raised like many kids before the 90's, you probably had more of a "traditional" family.  Dad went to work and mainly worked whereas mom did most of the household tasks as well as getting kids to and from activities.  Was that you?However, we now have merging parenting roles when it comes to mom and dad.  What technically IS the role of dad now?  What about mom?  And who the heck prepared us for this changing landscape??Trying to balance being a parent as well as a physician is hard.  Yet, now that parenting roles have adjusted, how does that affect our stress and frustrations?In today's episodes I discuss several articles looking at this very topic and how it may play a role in our every day stress and sense of burnout.  Listen in and let me know what you think!Remember to SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A REVIEW!  I want to be able to help as many dads and parents out there, and I can't do it without YOUR help!Interested in more topics not covered here?  Check out my blog at https://www.imperfectdadmd.com  to see if I discussed it there.  Can't find what you are looking for?  Send me an email either at my website above or at imperfectdadmd@gmail.com and I can try to cover it in my next show. Want to find other dads to talk to and get advice from?  Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/imperfectdadmd
Mar 9 2022
26 mins
Lenten Changes for a Physician Dad
This week is the first week of Lent if you follow the Christian calendar.  I elected not to have a Wednesday episode in order to focus on my family this last week and attend Ash Wednesday service with them.  However, the lenten season is an important to recognize the things in life we with to make changes to. Some of you listening to the show may not be familiar with Lent, and if not that is ok.  In the beginning of the episode I give a brief background of what Lent is and why it is so important on the Christian calendar.   Typically during Lent we decide the things we want to GIVE UP.  What are the bad tendencies and habits we do that we choose to rid ourselves from for the next 40 days?  Some people may look at this as the same way they look at New Years Resolutions.  We get all excited the first day, talk about all the changes we will make, only to find 3 weeks later that we are back in our old ways.  Why is that?I think we tend to fall backward when the thing we are doing is REMOVING something from our lives.  That is HARD.  Not only that, usually removing something from our lives only affects one person - US.But what if instead of removing something from your daily life, you ADDED something instead?  Find something positive you do for your spouse or your kids that you KNOW you should be doing but seems to have fallen to the back burner,Listen in this week as I discuss these thoughts and more!Remember to SUBSCRIBE and LEAVE A REVIEW!  I want to be able to help as many dads and parents out there, and I can't do it without YOUR help!Interested in more topics not covered here?  Check out my blog at https://www.imperfectdadmd.com  to see if I discussed it there.  Can't find what you are looking for?  Send me an email either at my website above or at imperfectdadmd@gmail.com and I can try to cover it in my next show. Want to find other dads to talk to and get advice from?  Join our Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/imperfectdadmd
Mar 4 2022
14 mins