This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a woman who has a tricky question about herpes and a new man she’s seeing. Then they hear from a man who didn’t like the surprise he got in bed. Mentioned in this episode: “How Herpes Became a Sexual Boogeyman,” by L.V. Anderson, Slate, Dec. 2, 2019. Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Monday. Sign up for Slate Plus now for just $1. Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices