FCPGM [Fight Coach, Psychotherapist, Gym Momma]

Liam-Og Griffin, James White, Marlene Griffin

The Fight Coach, the Psychotherapist and the Gym Momma (FCPGM) is a weekly audio podcast featuring discussion and tips on topics such as mental health, parenting and martial arts. Using our combined experience we break down important topics that affect you and your family and how best to overcome them. The podcast is presented by Liam-Og Griffin (the Fight Coach) - a professional MMA coach, E-learning Designer and former engineer, James White (the Psychotherapist) - who is well versed in the areas of mental health, stress management and anxiety - and Marlene Griffin (the Gym Momma) - an owner/manager of a busy martial arts and fitness gym and a mother of 3. From time to time, the podcast will also feature guest speakers on various related topics. *** Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/fcpgmcommunity/1456858741177345/ *** *** Twitter Feed: http://www.twitter.com/fcpgmpodcast *** *** Discord Server: http://shorturl.at/moBFP ***

FCPGM 028: Reinventing Yourself
Nov 28 2020
FCPGM 028: Reinventing Yourself
Once upon a time, you would choose your profession upon leaving school and that would be it for the next 45 years. Reinventing one’s self was reserved for celebrities or those lucky enough to inherit a trust fund. Fortunately, this is no longer the case and there are endless opportunities for us all to choose our own paths. When is the right time to consider reinventing yourself and how can you do it successfully? On today’s episode, we’re looking at how possible it is to turn your own life upside down. Is it beneficial, detrimental or the just another symptom of what’s now referred to as the New Normal.Gym Momma's Quote:"Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself" - Mireille GuilianoRecommend Books (amazon affiliate links): Emotional Intelligence, Book by Daniel Goleman   (Self- Awareness): yourself, by James Altucher: Tuesday’s, I’m a buddhist, by Michael Hardingt: Moses, by Anna Mary Robertson: Top Tips:Self- Awareness (Who are you ?) Discover Your StrengthsWhat is your Why ? Step outside your comfort zone with courageSet Goals (SMART)   Make a PlanBe Realistic and in line with your values, Try things outConsider others too, use your support group, like minded people and those with experience Self- Compassion / Be kind to yourself, accept setbacks, learn from them and move forward againTake steps to begin and start now Recommended Links:Reinventing yourself at 60:  How to reinvent yourself and change your life for the better:  (Reinvent yourself [Psychology Today]:  Turn back time and hack your biology:  5 steps to reinvent yourself:  Springboard Courses: 7 reinventions of Madonna with us:Facebook Community Group[ on twitter [ Server [
FCPGM 027: Boundaries
Nov 21 2020
FCPGM 027: Boundaries
Have you ever felt taken for granted, or get anxious when somebody asks for what you’d consider too much? Do you find yourself agreeing to things that are not necessarily in your best interest? Well, you need some proper boundaries. On today’s episode, we’re building healthy relationship dynamics by laying out ground rules that guarantees your own long term mental health. Gym Momma's Quote:"Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others" - Brene BrowneFCPGM TipsSelf- Awareness ( What are the boundaries that you feel you need to build and why ?  Where do you need them emotionally)Listen to your Feelings / Gut (Its you bodies way of giving you information)  Maybe like saying no might be a boundary !!  You should be No1 to you and be ok with the stuff you do or acceptSelf- Compassion / Be kind to yourself Build your assertiveness skills (using compassion & empathy)Start small ( Take them 1 at a time) it’s a bit  like building a new habit, the more you practice and do it the easier it becomesRecommended Links:Boundaries with Brene Browne [Youtube}  How to Set Strong Boundaries, Julia Kristina [Youtube]  4 Ways to Set and Keep Your Personal Boundaries. Plus, how to get yourself out when all efforts fail [Article]   What Are Personal Boundaries? How Do I Get Some? [Article]  Recommended Books: Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, by Bruce Patton: Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More Than IQ, by Daniel Goleman: It’s Your Family…: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath, by Dr Sherri Campbell with us:Facebook Community Group [ on twitter [ Server [
FCPGM024: Loneliness
Nov 7 2020
FCPGM024: Loneliness
With Social Distancing and successive lockdowns, it seems we’re all experiencing loneliness in 2020 a bit more than usual. For some it’s harrowing to go without daily social contact. For others, alone time is relaxing or productive. It seems to be highly subjective. But what’s the purpose of feeling lonely? And are there dangers to chronic loneliness? On today’s episode, we’re discussing the feelings of being lonely. While Covid has certainly amplified this issue, it’s not a new phenomenon; But has 2020 given us a chance to learn about loneliness and how to deal with it better?Recommended Books:Altered Traits: Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain, and Body, by Daniel Goleman and Richard J. Davidson: Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle: with Loneliness: Learn How to Deal With and Overcome Loneliness to Never Feel Alone Again, by Mary Jane Perrusso: First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts by Winch Ph.D., Guy (2014): Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection, by John T Cacciopo and William Patrick: Mommas's Quote:"The Real Loneliness is living among all these kind people who only ask one to pretend"- Edith WhartonRecommended Links: Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell - “Loneliness”: signs of loneliness - Youtube - Psycho2Go.net Series on Dealing with Loneliness: Youtube Loneliness Kill you? study on effects of loneliness on cold symptoms: a disease  How loneliness can make you sick    Loneliness affecting the brain with us:Facebook Community GroupFCPGM on twitter (@fcpgmpodcast)Discord Server
FCPGM 023: How to deal with negative people
Oct 31 2020
FCPGM 023: How to deal with negative people
Negativity, eternal pessimism, lazy body language, constant complaining, the poor mouth. I bet you even visualising those phrases has already begun to drain your energy. We encounter people with negative behaviours every single day and while we can choose to avoid some of those people, others, we may be stuck with, such as family, work colleagues, team members. Where does negativity come from and how can we prevent ourselves being affected by it. On today’s episode…. We’re going to look at tactics to deal with the moaning Myrtles of our lives. We need to be impervious to gloom so that we can keep on firing on all cylinders and not get dragged into a black hole. Gym Mommas Quote of the Week:"You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to"- anonTop Tips:Don't go head to head (learn to deflect and disarm)Empathise but don't take responsibilitySet boundaries ["I don't want to talk about this topic anymore..."]Learn to redirect the conversation towards something more positiveYou're allowed to say nothing....Complainers... put them in chargeAccept them for who they areMake sure to manage your own stress ("It's your heart attack")Connect with us:Facebook Community GroupFCPGM on twitter (@fcpgmpodcast)Discord ServerRecommended Books:Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realise your Potential for Lasting Fulfilment, by Martin Seligmen: Optimism, by Martin Seligmen: Links:Jay Johnson - Ted Talk - How to deal with Difficult People Julia Kristina - Youtube Channel - How Emotionally Intelligent People deal with negative People Willink - Dealing with Negative/Toxic People - Youtube Academy (Brain Functions) Negativity affects us with Negative People:Why dealing with others’ negativity may involve dealing with your own
FCPGM 022: Social Media - positive or negative?
Oct 24 2020
FCPGM 022: Social Media - positive or negative?
In the 21st century, the internet has revolutionised how our species interacts socially. Being Tik Tok famous or an influencer are terms that didn’t exist just a few short years ago. There’s no doubt social media brings connectivity and entertainment to the masses, but at what cost? On today’s episode…. We take a deep dive into social networking - the good, the bad and angry emoji. How can we benefit from its many positives without drowning in an ocean of pretentiousness and negativity?Recommended Books:Unfu*k Yourself Series 2 Books Collection Set by Gary John Bishop (Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life & Do the Work: The Official Unrepentant, Ass-Kicking, No-Kidding)  Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, by Brene Brown arguments to deleting social media right now,  by Jaron Lanier:  age of surveillance capitalism, by Shoshana Zuboff:  Likes aren’t enough, by Tim Bono:  Behavior and Social Networking:  Social Media Use and Its Connection to Mental Health: A Systematic Review:  Social Media & Mental Health: Mommas Quote of the Week:"The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said"- Peter TruckerTop Tips:Question why do you use social mediaLimit your screen timeDon’t fall into the negative trap  ( Do not get drawn into negative post’s)If you wouldn’t shout it from a rooftop, don’t post itCheck your facts and where they have originated from / Critical ThinkingFollow, Inspiring, Knowledgeable, Experienced & Optimistic people, Unfollow the negative nellies  Connect with us:Facebook Community GroupFCPGM on twitter (@fcpgmpodcast)Discord Server
FCPGM 021: Having Enough - do we ever?
Oct 3 2020
FCPGM 021: Having Enough - do we ever?
There’s not enough hours in the day. There’s isn’t enough food on my plate. There’s not enough instagram followers for me. It’s natural for us to complain and moan about not having enough. How much of that moan is legitimate and how much is based on us trying to keep up with the Jones’s? How can we learn to be satisfied with what we’ve got? In this episode, we never having enough… or do we? What’s this persistent perception of scarcity we seem to suffer from and how can we overcome it?Recommended Book:Man's Search For Meaning: The classic tribute to hope from the Holocaust, by Viktor Frankl: Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living, by the Dalai Lama: The Psychology of Happiness, by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi: Works: How to Use Mindfulness to Calm the Hell Down and Just Be Happy, by Paddy Brosnan: or Learn: MMA, Conor McGregor and Me: A Trainer's Journey, by Coach John Kavanagh: Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead - by Brene Brown Habits by James Clear: Thought it Was Just Me (But it Isn't): Telling the Truth About Perfectionism, Inadequacy and Power, by Brene Brown soul of money, by Lynn Twist:  Mommas Quote of the Week:“What we know matters. What we have matters. But what we are, matters more” - Brenee BrownTop Tips:1. Ask yourself: "Do I really need it?"2. Manage your expectations. Is what you "need" actually possible to achieve?3. Know what "enough" looks like. Have a clear goal and visual image of what it will look like to have achieved it.4. Gratitude. If you're not grateful for what you already have, you'll never have enough. Connect with us:Facebook Community GroupFCPGM on twitter (@fcpgmpodcast)Discord ServerRecommended Links:Why do we always feel we never have enough?:  How to make the most out of not having enough - Kelly Goldsmith: Psychology Behind Never Feeling Good Enough: Post Article: What will ever be enough? reasons why some people feel like they don't have enough time:http:shorturl.at/oNPTV Research shows there's a reason why you never have enough time: Zen Habits: Enough time
FCPGM 019: Drug Addiction & Substance Abuse
Sep 19 2020
FCPGM 019: Drug Addiction & Substance Abuse
Solvents, Hash, Marijuana, LSD, XTC, Cocaine and Heroin. For many of us, the closest we get to these substances is watching tv dramas like Breaking Bad. For others, experimentation in their teens was as wild as it got. But for some, the rabbit hole is much deeper and the life consequences that follow are rarely positive. What substances are on the streets nowadays? Why do young teens turn to drugs or pills at all? How can we keep younger generations from venturing down that path? Today’s episode is a bit different to usual. Myself, Mar and Jimmy were fortunate enough not to have be snared by any major substance abuse addictions. Truth be told, I had a very sheltered childhood so I’m as far from an expert on this topic as you’re likely to get. However, we were introduced to two fellow podcasters who have been in the trenches and survived to tell the story. James Leonard and Timmy Long (aka "The Two Norries") are 2 friends from the Northside of Cork City, who found themselves entangled in a life of drug addiction from their teens into early adulthood. Their addictions were slightly different but ultimately they both ended up on paths that led to the prison system. Having overcome their addictions and re-discovering education, they started their podcast ("The Two Norries") as a way to help others who may be suffering through similar hardships and to help find solutions to the various issues that lead to a life of Substance Abuse and Crime. Check out their podcast on all your favourite podcast apps or by following the links on their website at to services for drug addiction in Ireland: with us:Facebook Community GroupFCPGM on twitter (@fcpgmpodcast)Discord Server
FCPGM 014: Free will versus pre-determinism
Aug 16 2020
FCPGM 014: Free will versus pre-determinism
What did you have for breakfast this morning? Was that your choice? Or did the atoms of the universe over the past 13.7B years collide and interact in a predictable chain reaction that led to you having the life experiences and opportunities which in turn led to you inevitably picking that particular breakfast today? Is free will a myth? In this episode, we weigh up the arguments of free will and pre-determinism. If we don’t have free will, can we take credit for anything we do right? Or suffer the responsibility of anything we do wrong? Prepare for a thumping headache as we meander through philosophy and metaphysics during this episode. Jimmy's Mindfulness Course - "Personal Transformation Course": Book:Free Will, by Sam Harris: Room, by Daniel Dennett: Greatly, by Brene Brown: Fear of Freedom, by Erich Fromm: Intelligence, by Daniel Goleman: Links:Freewill: Freewill Exist: vs Determination: Making: illusion of Free Will 2015 by Terry Hyland – Emeritus Professor, University of Bolton, UK and Research Director, Turning Point Training Institute, Dun Laoghaire, Ireland Tumor that "caused paedophilic urges": Course Philosophy #25: Compatibilism Course Philosophy #24: Determinism v Free Will Mommas Quote of the Week:"The Time will pass anyway. You can either spend it creating the life you want, or the life you don't want; And the choice is yours"- AnonConnect with us:Facebook Community GroupFCPGM on twitter (@fcpgmpodcast)Discord Server