9. It's Not You! It's Me: Understanding How You Think, For A Better Relationship With Yourself.

And Then, Be Well

Jan 24 2023 • 33 mins

No this isn’t an episode about dating break-ups but it is an episode circling around one of the most important relationships you’ll ever have in your life - the one you have with your mind.

Let’s investigate. In recent years have you…

…found yourself ripping your spouse/ significant other a new one, only to later feel guilty about it? Or losing your marbles over a messy house, feeling sad for not embracing it?  Insert shame spiral, disbelief and self-depreciating thought cycles, ie: “I am a horrible person!”.

Or maybe you are someone who…

…every time you have a pain, ache, cough, etc call your doctor or spend your hours scanning WebMD? Or have crippling anxiety before you fly, even though you’ve only hit minor turbulence? You ruminate, worry and retreat from social scenarios or life appointments for fear sake. Saying things like “the world is an unsafe place”, although you used to live life with interrupted vigor!

Here is the deal ladies - what you are experiencing is in part the hormonal rollercoaster ride your body is on in this stage of life. Some days you’ll feel like fighting dragons with your bare hands and other days you’ll want to shrink into a spec of dust. Some of it you know deep down is manageable, and some times you need more support.

Enter today’s episode. Kristina takes you through a very (very) brief history of emotions, how our emotions manifest in our behavior, and what science says about our “mood disorders”. Learn from psychological study what is happening in our brain when we process thoughts, taken from the study of Cognitive Behavioral Theory, you’ll learn about Adaptive vs. Maladaptive thought patterns, bias and core beliefs. Rounding out the episode with a four step process you can start today that will help you catch your evil twin sister before she can sabotage your positivity parade.

It’s not them, it’s us but we can break the negativity bias by putting in the work.

“Cogito, ergo sum” / “I think therefore I am” - Descartes.

Disclaimer: This show is for educational purposes only. Remember to always consult YOUR healthcare provider for what is best, and advocate for yourself with the information taken from this or any episode.


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