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In this episode of Beyond Your Default, George and I tackle one of the most challenging and personal topics in the world of work: burnout, but not just any kind. We’re diving into what it means to truly experience burnout while doing what you love—because let’s be honest, it feels completely different when your passion is the source of your exhaustion. When you're mad at what you do, it's easier to recognize you've got a problem.This episode is personal, it’s real, and it’s something we need to talk about, especially for those of us who pour ourselves into work that we care deeply about.🌶️ Spice up your inbox: Subscribe to the Beyond Your Default newsletterBurnout is a term that gets thrown around a lot, but what happens when the thing that used to light you up—your dream job, your passion project—suddenly becomes the source of your stress? How do you navigate that emotional and physical toll when you still care so much about what you’re doing?George and I roll up our sleeves in this episode to address these questions, and we don’t shy away from sharing our personal stories and struggles with burnout. I even talk about my own recent health scare and how it forced me to rethink how I balance life and work. If you’ve ever found yourself teetering on the edge of burnout while doing what you love, you’re not alone, and this episode is for you.🌱 Related Episodes:How to Make Vulnerability Your SuperpowerIs Self-Care Selfish, Bullsh*t, or Something Actually Valuable?A lot of times, people talk about burnout in abstract terms—just another buzzword. But George and I wanted to shift the conversation to focus specifically on what happens when burnout hits in work that brings you joy and purpose. When you’re doing something you’re passionate about, burnout doesn’t always feel like an option because you love what you’re doing. But even when you’re in love with your work, burnout can still creep in—and it can be more devastating when it does.I share my experience of having to hit the pause button recently because of a significant health scare. It forced me to ask tough questions about rest, boundaries, and how to keep showing up for the things that matter without running myself into the ground.Burnout Topics We Coverburnout, emotional clarity, health scares, work-life balance, self-care, productivity, mental health, communication, passion, stress managementHighlights from Our ConversationDefining Burnout in Work You Love: We start by acknowledging how burnout presents differently when you care deeply about your work. It’s not just physical exhaustion; it’s emotional fatigue that leaves you questioning the very passion that got you started in the first place.George’s Burnout Thermometer: George introduces the concept of his “burnout thermometer,” a personal gauge he’s developed over time to check in with himself before burnout takes over. This involves identifying the warning signs before it’s too late and taking intentional steps to avoid a crash.The Importance of Rest and Reflection: One of the biggest lessons I’ve had to learn is that rest isn’t the enemy of productivity; it’s a necessary part of the process. We discuss how to recognize when it’s time to step back and how to do it without guilt—especially for all my fellow Type A’s who struggle with letting go!Practical Tips for Avoiding Burnout: From micro-breaks to setting boundaries, we break down real, actionable strategies for avoiding burnout, even when it feels like stepping away is impossible. George and I both share how we’ve had to prioritize ruthlessly and learn how to say “no” or “not now” to protect our mental and physical health.How to Rebalance Your Workload: We know that stepping away isn’t always realistic. But you can still rebalance your workload and make time for the things that matter most. We talk about how to delegate, communicate, and prioritize effectively so that you don’t end up burning the candle at both ends.Understanding the Consequences of Ignoring Burnout: What happens when you don’t listen to your mind and body? We get real about the very real consequences of burnout—from physical illness to career stagnation. And if you’re thinking, “It’s just a rough patch, I’ll get through it,” this episode might change your perspective on what’s really at stake.Quotes About the Importance of Burnout“You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.” - Unknown“Burnout is what happens when you try to avoid being human for too long.” - Michael Gungor“The truth is that burnout is a sign that something needs to change, not that you should just push through.” - Carly Ferguson“Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is rest.” - Mark Black“You can do anything, but not everything.” - David Allen“Burnout doesn’t happen because we’re solving problems; it happens when we’ve been solving the same problem over and over.” - Susan Scott“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.” - Eleanor Brownn“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.” - Anne Lamott“Burnout is nature’s way of telling you you’ve been going through the motions, your soul has departed; you’re a zombie, a member of the walking dead, a sleepwalker.” - Sam Keen“Rest is not idle, not wasteful. Sometimes rest is the most productive thing you can do for body and soul.” - Erica Layne“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.” - Lou Holtz“Self-care is not selfish. You can’t serve from an empty vessel.” - Eleanor Brownn“Sometimes the best way to love what you do is to step away for a moment and come back refreshed.” - Unknown“You owe yourself the love that you so freely give to your work.” - Unknown“Burnout doesn’t have to mean giving up on your passions, but it does mean adjusting how you approach them.” - Unknown“You can’t g...

In this episode of Beyond Your Default, George and I are digging into something that is woefully misunderstood: bravery. We’ve all been fed this narrative that bravery has to be some dramatic, action-hero moment—full of fearless, toxic positivity or like rushing into a burning building or staring down a villain in some epic showdown. But here’s the thing: that’s complete nonsense.We’re breaking down what bravery actually feels like in the real world. Sometimes it feels like you’re about to puke. Sometimes it’s quiet, personal, and shows up in ways that nobody else will ever see. Bravery isn’t about waiting for some magical feeling of confidence to wash over you—it’s about stepping into the scary stuff anyway, even when your brain is screaming:“Abort mission!”🌶️ Spice up your inbox: Subscribe to the Beyond Your Default newsletterSo if you’re sitting there wondering how the heck you can be braver in your everyday life without having to slay a dragon or leap off a building, this one’s for you. George and I are diving into the ways we’ve both shown bravery in our own lives (it wasn’t glamorous), and how you can start recognizing those small but powerful brave moments in your life, too.Bravery isn’t some magical state of being where everything suddenly feels great and you know exactly what you’re doing. (If that happens, let me know, because I’ve been missing out.) It’s messy, it’s uncomfortable, and it often looks like taking tiny, awkward steps forward when you’d rather curl up in a ball. But if you’re still moving forward—no matter how scared, unsure, or uncomfortable you feel—you’re already doing it. You’re already brave. And that’s the whole damn point.So stop waiting for bravery to feel epic. Start giving yourself credit for the brave things you’ve already done, and get out there and do the next scary thing. Because trust me, you’re braver than you think.🌱 Related Episodes:How to Make Vulnerability Your SuperpowerIs Self-Care Selfish, Bullsh*t, or Something Actually Valuable?Bravery Topics We Covereveryday bravery, quiet courage, overcoming fear, bravery vs. fearlessness, cultural expectations of bravery, taking action despite fear, personal growth through discomfort, mindset shifts for bravery.Highlights from Our ConversationBravery Isn’t Fearlessness (Because Let’s Be Honest, Fear Never Fully Goes Away): Let’s cut to the chase—if you’re waiting to magically feel fearless before taking action, you’re going to be waiting forever. Bravery isn’t the absence of fear; it’s showing up and doing the thing with fear tagging along for the ride. We break down how fear and bravery are basically two sides of the same coin, and why being scared doesn’t disqualify you from being brave. In fact, it’s kind of the whole point.The Everyday Acts of Bravery You’re Probably Overlooking: Listen, yes, jumping out of a plane might be brave, but so is setting a boundary with someone when you’ve spent your whole life being a people-pleaser. We dive into the tiny, everyday acts of bravery that don’t get any applause but make all the difference—things like saying “no,” asking for help, or simply getting through the day when life feels heavy. Trust me, these are the real MVP moments of bravery.Why Hollywood’s Definition of Bravery Is Screwing You Over: Society—and yes, Hollywood too—has trained us to think bravery is all about big, visible acts of heroism. But in reality, most bravery happens when no one’s watching. We talk about how these warped ideas about bravery have messed with our heads, and why comparing yourself to some superhero storyline is a surefire way to feel like you’re not measuring up. Spoiler: You don’t need a cape or a grand gesture to be brave.George and I Share Our Not-So-Glorious Brave Moments: We’re getting real about the times we’ve had to be brave—and spoiler, it didn’t look like the movies. From business decisions that scared the hell out of us to moments of personal growth where we had no idea what was coming next, we talk about the times we didn’t feel brave at all in the moment but looking back? Yeah, we were. If you’re waiting for some epic brave feeling to hit before you make your move, we’re here to tell you: that’s not how it works.Stop Waiting for the Feeling—Just Do the Damn Thing: If there’s one thing we want you to take away from this episode, it’s that bravery isn’t some feeling that sweeps you off your feet. It’s about moving forward when you’re scared out of your mind. We break down why waiting until you feel ready is a trap and how the most important thing you can do is just start. Whether that’s having the tough conversation or finally taking the leap on something you’ve been putting off—just go.How to Start Acting Bravely (Even When You Don’t Feel Like It): Want to know how to be braver in your everyday life without feeling like you’re gearing up for battle? We’ve got you covered. George and I walk you through practical, real-life strategies for stepping into those moments of discomfort and taking action, even when you’re not feeling particularly bold. It’s not about waiting for bravery to arrive—it’s about building it as you go.Recognizing the Brave Moments You’re Already Crushing: Here’s a hot take: You’re already braver than you think. Seriously, when was the last time you gave yourself credit for all the times you’ve been brave, even when it didn’t feel like it? We talk about how to look back at your own life and recognize those small moments of courage that probably flew under the radar—and why you should start celebrating those wins, like, yesterday.Quotes About the Importance of Love“Bravery is the capacity to perform properly even when scared half to death.” - Omar N. Bradley“It is not the strength of the body that counts, but the strength of the spirit.” - J.R.R. Tolkien“Bravery is being the only one who knows you’re afraid.” - Franklin P. Jones“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.” - Winston Churchill“The bravest thing I ever did was continuing my life when I wanted to die.” - Juliette Lewis“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’” - Eleanor Roosevelt“Bravery is the audacity to be unhindered by failures, and to walk with freedom, strength, and hope, in the face of the things...

Main Idea: Exploring the concept of love and its diminishing presence in modern conversations, this episode challenges listeners to rethink the role of love in their lives, its varying forms, and how societal perceptions have shifted love from a foundational value to something often sidelined or viewed skeptically.Summary of the Show: In this insightful episode, George B. Thomas and Liz Moorehead dive deep into the complexities of love, asking the provocative question: “When did love become uncool?” They explore why love, despite being central to human experience and relationships, is often dismissed or downplayed in today’s culture. George reflects on his personal journey with love, from sermons he gave as a teenager to his current understanding of different types of love—ranging from agape (unconditional love) to pragma (enduring love). The conversation touches on how love has been commercialized, trivialized, and distorted by pop culture, leading many to shy away from embracing or discussing love openly. They also delve into how true love goes beyond romantic notions and encompasses self-love, compassion, and commitment to others' well-being.Quotes:“Love isn’t just a fleeting feeling; it’s what makes happiness deep and lasting when we tie it into everything we do.” - George B. Thomas“When love drives us to seek justice and fairness, we help build a more compassionate world.” - George B. Thomas“It’s okay to be vulnerable in showing your love. If discomfort equals growth, why not embrace it?” - George B. Thomas“True love isn’t supposed to be stressful; it’s the unlock element for everything else in our lives.” - George B. ThomasScriptures:1 Corinthians 13:4-7: "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."1 John 4:18: "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love."Proverbs 10:12: "Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs."Colossians 3:14: "And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."Reflective Questions:Self-Assessment: How comfortable are you with openly expressing love in your life? Are there areas where you hold back due to fear or societal expectations?Cultural Perception: In what ways has pop culture influenced your understanding and expression of love? How might that perception be limiting your relationships or self-growth?Types of Love: Which forms of love (romantic, self-love, agape) are most prevalent in your life? How can you cultivate a more balanced approach to expressing and receiving love?Barriers to Love: What past hurts or societal pressures keep you from fully embracing love? How can you begin to dismantle those barriers?Daily Practice: What intentional practices can you incorporate into your routine to make love a more active and consistent part of your life?

Embracing the journey of growth, vulnerability, and self-worth by reflecting on past challenges and how they shape our future selves. This episode dives into the raw, unfiltered check-in between George and Liz as they unpack their journeys over the past year.Show Summary :In this special check-in episode, George and Liz reflect on their personal growth journeys over the past year while discussing vulnerability, self-worth, and the lessons they've learned. The conversation is honest, raw, and full of insights as they explore the challenges of consistency, embracing vulnerability as a superpower, and navigating the balance between boundaries and walls. They share their highlights and lowlights, address tough questions about self-belief, and offer practical advice for listeners on overcoming mental barriers and stepping into their true potential.Quotes:“You can be on a football field and you know the boundaries. But if I lock the doors, you can't even get into the stadium. I wasn’t letting people into the stadium to play the game that is life.” - George B. Thomas“I was too loud, too tall, too strange—and I see worth in that now.” - Liz Moorehead“When you pour love into yourself, it becomes easier to pour love into your world.” - Liz Moorehead“If discomfort equals growth, why would I run from discomfort? I’m embracing it and moving forward.” - George B. ThomasRelevant Scriptures:Psalms 46:10: "Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth."Proverbs 16:3: "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans."James 4:6: "But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, ‘God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.’"Philippians 4:6-7: "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."Reflective Questions:Self-Assessment: How has your relationship with self-worth evolved over the past year? Are you more or less confident in your abilities and value?Vulnerability and Growth: What walls have you built to protect yourself from discomfort? How can you begin to dismantle them to allow for growth?Consistency and Focus: What areas of your life need more focus to maintain consistency? Are you saying yes to too many things?Support Systems: Who can you trust to help you navigate moments of vulnerability and self-doubt? How can you strengthen these relationships?Belief in Possibilities: How has your belief in what’s possible for your future changed over time? Are you excited or anxious about the path ahead?

In this milestone episode, George B. Thomas and Liz Moorehead delve into the misunderstood concept of "holistic" within the Superhuman Framework. George emphasizes that a holistic approach is the stabilizer that holds all other aspects of life together, allowing for balance and alignment between the mind, body, and soul. They discuss how this mindset isn't about overhauling your life overnight but rather about gradual, intentional changes that lead to sustainable growth. The episode covers practical steps to integrate a holistic approach into everyday life, from self-assessment to creating a supportive community, all aimed at achieving a balanced and fulfilling life beyond the default.Quotes We Used:“Pacing yourself is essential. A holistic approach is a marathon, not a sprint. You don't have to overhaul your life overnight.” - George B. Thomas“A holistic approach doesn't mean focusing on everything equally at once. It’s about prioritizing what needs attention now and making intentional adjustments.” - George B. Thomas“Holistic well-being is like the glue that holds all the other pieces of our lives together.” - George B. Thomas“Balance is not something you find; it's something you create.” - George B. ThomasScriptures We Usedt:Psalms 46:10: "Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth."Proverbs 16:3: "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans."James 4:6: "But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, ‘God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.’"Philippians 4:6-7: "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."Proverbs 11:2: "When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom."Reflective Questions:Self-Assessment: How do you currently approach your life holistically? Are there areas that feel out of balance?Prioritization: Which aspects of your life need immediate attention, and how can you begin to address them holistically?Mindset Shift: How can you gradually shift your mindset towards a more holistic approach without overwhelming yourself?Support Systems: Who in your life can help you maintain a holistic balance? How can you strengthen these relationships?Consistency Over Time: What small, consistent actions can you take today to start building a sustainable, holistic lifestyle?

Main Idea: We can transform our approach to physical health by shifting our mindset from weight loss to overall well-being and understanding the impact of consistency and sustainable changes.Summary of the Show: In this episode, George B. Thomas and Liz Moorehead explore the significance of resetting our relationship with physical health. George shares his journey from focusing on weight loss to aiming for a pain-free life, emphasizing the importance of creating a lifestyle that supports overall well-being. They discuss the mental barriers, such as fear and limiting beliefs, that can hinder our health goals and provide practical strategies to overcome them. The episode highlights physical, mental, and emotional health interconnectedness and the need for a holistic approach to achieve a balanced and fulfilling life.Quotes We Used:“When I shifted my mindset from losing weight to reducing pain and enhancing my quality of life, everything started to fall into place.” - George B. Thomas“Our bodies, minds, and souls are interconnected. Taking care of our physical selves leads to a more fulfilled, energized, and purposeful life.” - George B. Thomas.“Physical health is the great equalizer to the other framework elements in the Superhuman Framework.” - George B. Thomas.“Consistency and making sustainable changes are key. It’s not just about shedding pounds; it’s about creating a lifestyle that supports overall well-being.” - George B. ThomasRelevant Scriptures:Psalms 46:10: "Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth."Proverbs 16:3: "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans."James 4:6: "But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, ‘God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.’"Philippians 4:6-7: "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus."Proverbs 11:2: "When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom."Reflective Questions:Self-Assessment: How do you currently approach your physical health? Are there areas where you struggle to maintain consistency?Mental Barriers: What limiting beliefs or fears prevent you from prioritizing physical health? How can you address and overcome these barriers?Holistic Approach: How can you integrate physical, mental, and emotional health practices into your daily routine for a balanced and fulfilling life?Small Changes: What minor, consistent changes can you improve your physical health without feeling overwhelmed?Support Systems: Who can support your journey towards better physical health? How can you strengthen these relationships?Need More? Check out our Beyond Your Default Community.

Main Idea:Exploring the stigma surrounding mental health, understanding its roots, and providing strategies to overcome this stigma while promoting mental well-being and emotional intelligence.Summary of the Show:In this episode, George B. Thomas and Liz Moorehead tackle the sensitive topic of mental health stigma. They share personal stories and insights about the importance of addressing mental health openly and without shame. George discusses the historical context of mental health stigma and its evolution, emphasizing the need for a supportive community and open conversations. The episode highlights the role of emotional intelligence in building stronger relationships and the importance of maintaining mental health for overall well-being. They provide practical strategies for seeking help, fostering self-awareness, and developing emotional resilience.👨‍💻 Join the community.Quotes:“You don't have to control your thoughts. You just have to stop letting them control you.” - Dan Millman“Building emotional intelligence is only possible if you stay mentally healthy or can get through the ish and get to the point where you might think that you're mentally healthy.” - George B. Thomas“Healing takes time, and asking for help is a courageous step.” - Mariska Hargitay“The quality of your thoughts dictates the quality of your life.” - Liz MooreheadScriptures:2 Corinthians 12:9-10: "But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For Christ's sake, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong."Proverbs 16:3: "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans."James 4:6: "But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, ‘God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.’"Philippians 4:6-7: "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus."Proverbs 11:2: "When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom."Reflective Questions:Self-Assessment: How do you currently handle discussions about mental health in your personal and professional life? Are there areas where you feel stigmatized or uncomfortable?Emotional Awareness: How can you improve your emotional intelligence to understand better and manage your own emotions and those of others?Support Systems: Who are the people in your life with whom you can trust to discuss your mental health? How can you strengthen these relationships?Mental Health Practices: What daily or weekly practices can you implement to improve your mental well-being?Breaking the Stigma: How can you contribute to breaking the stigma around mental health in your community?Strategies for Overcoming Mental Health Stigma:Regular Self-Reflection: Set aside time each day for self-reflection to evaluate your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Acknowledge moments of stigma and strive to change them.Seek Professional Help: Don’t hesitate to seek professional help when needed. Therapy can provide valuable insights and coping strategies.Educate Yourself and Others: Learn more about mental health issues and share this knowledge with others to reduce misinformation and stigma.Practice Emotional Intelligence: Use mindfulness, empathy, and effective communication to develop your emotional intelligence. This helps you build stronger relationships and understand others’ perspectives.Create a Supportive Environment: Foster an environment where open discussions about mental health are encouraged. This can be within your family, workplace, or community.Use Technology Wisely: Leverage technology for positive mental health practices, such as online therapy sessions or mental health apps, while setting boundaries to avoid digital overwhelm.Balance Social Media Use: Be mindful of your social media use. Focus on positive interactions and limit exposure to harmful or triggering content.This episode encourages listeners to overcome mental health stigma by fostering open conversations, seeking professional help, and practicing emotional intelligence. Individuals can improve their mental well-being and build stronger, more authentic connections by creating a supportive community and promoting self-awareness. The conversation emphasizes the importance of breaking down barriers and proactively addressing mental health for a fulfilling and balanced life.

Main Idea:Balancing authenticity and well-being in our lives to enhance personal growth, build stronger connections, and navigate challenges with grace and resilience.Summary of the Show:In this episode, George B. Thomas and Liz Moorehead discuss embracing humanity by balancing authenticity and well-being. George shares his insights on openness about feelings and experiences, emphasizing the significance of trusted relationships for sharing vulnerabilities. They explore how showing vulnerability fosters genuine connections, builds emotional resilience, and helps develop a positive inner environment. The conversation covers practical strategies for maintaining authenticity, practicing self-compassion, and ensuring holistic well-being. They also highlight the role of emotional intelligence and self-acceptance in enhancing personal and professional relationships.👨‍💻 Join the community.Quotes:“Embracing vulnerability allows for genuine connection. It builds a sense of community. It helps you develop emotional resilience by facing and sharing your true self, your whole ass human, which essentially you're showing up as you.” - George B. Thomas“Self-compassion, positive self-talk, and vulnerability create a positive and loving environment within ourselves, radiating outward to those around us.” - George B. Thomas“Our humanity begins as a collective. The first step is decentering the me and tapping into the we, which unlocks truly special things.” - Liz Moorehead“It's okay to struggle with this. We all have moments of doubt and fear. The key is not to be perfect but to be persistent in our efforts to connect with our humanity.” - George B. ThomasScriptures:Psalms 46:10: "Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth."Proverbs 16:3: "Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans."James 4:6: "But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, ‘God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.’"Philippians 4:6-7: "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."Proverbs 11:2: "When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom."Reflective Questions:Self-Assessment: How do you balance authenticity and well-being in your life? Are there areas where you struggle to be completely honest with yourself or others?Emotional Awareness: How can you practice self-compassion and positive self-talk? What impact does this have on your daily life and relationships?Support Systems: Who are the people in your life that you can share your vulnerabilities with? How can you strengthen these trusted relationships?Authenticity: How can you show up more authentically in your personal and professional life without fear of judgment?Emotional Intelligence: What steps can you take to improve your emotional intelligence and better understand and manage your emotions?Strategies for Balancing Authenticity and Well-Being:Regular Self-Reflection: Set aside time each day for self-reflection to evaluate your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Acknowledge moments of inauthenticity and strive to correct them.Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a friend. Embrace your imperfections and celebrate your strengths.Seek Support: Engage with trusted friends, family, or professionals to share your vulnerabilities and seek guidance.Cultivate Emotional Intelligence: Enhance your emotional intelligence through mindfulness, empathy, and effective communication. Use mindfulness techniques to stay aware of your emotions.Build Positive Habits: Incorporate healthy habits into your daily routine, such as regular exercise, adequate sleep, and nutritious eating, to support your physical and mental well-being.Set Realistic Expectations: Understand perfection is unattainable and focus on progress instead. Set realistic goals and appreciate your efforts and achievements.This episode encourages listeners to embrace their humanity by balancing authenticity and well-being. By practicing self-compassion, seeking support, and cultivating emotional intelligence, individuals can navigate challenges with resilience and build stronger connections. The conversation emphasizes the importance of continuous growth, self-reflection, and a positive inner environment that radiates outward, contributing to a more compassionate and connected human experience.

This episode has been a long time in the making. This week, we're discussing "holiness" — one of the 10 pillars of the Superhuman Framework for living a life Beyond Your Default. However, before you skip away from this one, because you believe this concept doesn't apply to you or your particular belief structure, I'd encourage you to stick around. In our conversation, we discuss the concept of holiness and its relevance to both religious and non-religious individuals. That's right! We're not here to preach religious doctrine of any kind. And although we do bring our own personal stories to the table, they are much more diverse than you might think.In fact, we spend a lot of time discussing science. We explore the idea that holiness is about nurturing and cultivating the essence within us — whether we view that "essence" through a religious, spiritual, or completely secular lens — and that it can be achieved through various practices and beliefs. We emphasize the importance of living ethically, being kind, and constantly working on personal growth.🌶️ Spice up your inbox: Subscribe to the Beyond Your Default newsletterWe highlight the common ground between different religions, secular belief structures, and global philosophies when it comes to the pursuit of holiness. Nurturing the soul and embracing holiness is essential for inner peace, personal growth, and finding meaning and purpose in life. It involves self-reflection, building meaningful connections, and embracing curiosity. It also leads to better mental health, resilience, and fulfillment.It is important to guard the heart and focus on self-awareness. Nurturing the soul helps navigate challenges with grace and strength, and fosters compassion and empathy. It brings balance, harmony, and integration to all aspects of life. Topics We Coverholiness, spirituality, religion, ethics, personal growth, compassion, kindness, nurturing the soul, holiness, inner peace, personal growth, meaning and purpose, self-reflection, meaningful connections, curiosity, mental health, resilience, fulfillment, self-awareness, challenges, compassion, empathy, balance, harmony, integration, personal growth, meaningful lifeTakeaways + HighlightsHoliness is about nurturing and cultivating the essence within us, regardless of religious or non-religious beliefs.Living ethically, being kind, and constantly working on personal growth are key aspects of holiness.Different religions and philosophies share common ground when it comes to the pursuit of holiness.Acts of charity, empathy, and awareness are important practices in the journey towards holiness.Holiness is a journey within ourselves, where we strive to live authentically and make a positive difference in the world.Quotes About Humility"The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind." - Caroline Myss"To live a pure unselfish life, one must count nothing as one's own in the midst of abundance." - Buddha"Holiness does not consist in doing extraordinary things. It consists in accepting, with a smile, what Jesus sends us. It consists in accepting and following the will of God." - Mother Teresa"When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy." - Rumi"You must find the place inside yourself where nothing is impossible." - Deepak Chopra"We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves." - Dalai Lama"The unexamined life is not worth living." - Socrates"In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you." - Deepak Chopra"The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and the acceptance of love." - Marianne Williamson"Spirituality is not adopting more beliefs and assumptions but uncovering the best in you." - Amit Ray"The most powerful weapon on earth is the human soul on fire." - Ferdinand Foch"It is not the length of life, but the depth." - Ralph Waldo Emerson"Spirituality is not about being fixed; it is about God being present in the mess of our unfixedness." - Michael Yaconelli"Prayer is not asking. It is a longing of the soul. It is daily admission of one's weakness. It is better in prayer to have a heart without words than words without a heart." - Mahatma Gandhi"The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well." - Ralph Waldo Emerson"Your sacred space is where you can find yourself again and again." - Joseph Campbell"True holiness consists in doing God's will with a smile." - Mother Teresa"We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience." - Pierre Teilhard de Chardin"The quieter you become, the more you can hear." - Ram Dass"Just as a candle cannot burn without fire, men cannot live without a spiritual life." - Buddha"Holiness is not the luxury of the few; it is a simple duty for you and me." - Mother Teresa"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us." - Ralph Waldo Emerson"Awakening is not changing who you are but discarding who you are not." - Deepak Chopra"Holiness is not freedom from temptation, but power to overcome temptation." - G. Campbell Morgan"It is in the heart that the soul finds its life." - Rumi"The only journey is the one within." - Rainer Maria Rilke"To be a soulful person means to go through life with a sense of awe and appreciation, recognizing that you are part of something much larger than yourself." - Oprah Winfrey"Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without." - Buddha"The great thing in the world is not so much where we stand as in what direction we are moving." - Oliver Wendell Holmes"Holiness means embracing what is most human in us." - Jean Vanier

This week, we're back with another deep-dive into one of the 10 pillars of the Superhuman Framework — humility. In our conversation, we talk about our personal achievements, such as George losing 30 pounds and me finding a sense of peace and acceptance in her life.George shares his definition of humility as a blend of religious beliefs and psychological growth. He also shares a personal story of how a motorcycle accident taught him the importance of humility. 🌶️ Spice up your inbox: Subscribe to the Beyond Your Default newsletterI reflect on my own experiences of humility and how they shaped my perspective on love and relationships. Humility is essential for personal growth and building strong, respectful relationships. It fosters a mindset of continuous learning, openness to new ideas, and willingness to learn from others. Humility helps build stronger relationships by increasing the ability to listen actively, value others' contributions, and create a foundation of mutual respect and trust.It encourages empathy, compassion, and understanding of others' imperfections, reducing conflicts and promoting collaboration. Humility keeps individuals grounded, realistic, and approachable, preventing arrogance and entitlement. It is a key component in the journey to a life beyond one's default.Topics We Coverachievements, battle, relaxation, weight loss, lifestyle change, humility, definition, religious beliefs, psychological growth, personal story, motorcycle accident, love, relationships, humility, personal growth, relationships, continuous learning, openness, empathy, compassion, collaboration, grounded, approachableTakeaways + HighlightsFinding a balance between work and relaxation is a constant battle for many people.Humility is a blend of religious beliefs and psychological growth, involving recognizing our limitations, serving others, and having a balanced self-esteem.Humility can be learned through personal experiences, such as George's motorcycle accident, which taught him the importance of deflating the ego and focusing on others.Humility is not about putting oneself down, but rather having a clear understanding of one's strengths and weaknesses and being open to feedback and growth.Experiencing great love can be a humbling experience, as it requires putting the other person's happiness and well-being above one's own. Humility fosters a mindset of continuous learning and openness to new ideas.Humility helps build stronger relationships based on mutual respect and trust.Humility encourages empathy, compassion, and understanding of others' imperfections.Humility reduces conflicts and promotes collaboration.Humility keeps individuals grounded, realistic, and approachable.Quotes About Humility"Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less." - C.S. Lewis"True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less." - Rick Warren"Pride makes us artificial and humility makes us real." - Thomas Merton"Humility is the solid foundation of all virtues." - Confucius"The only wisdom we can hope to acquire is the wisdom of humility: humility is endless." - T.S. Eliot"A great man is always willing to be little." - Ralph Waldo Emerson"Humility is nothing but truth, and pride is nothing but lying." - Saint Vincent de Paul"There is no respect for others without humility in one's self." - Henri Frederic Amiel"Humility is really important because it keeps you fresh and new." - Steven Tyler"The higher we are placed, the more humbly we should walk." - Marcus Tullius Cicero"The greatest friend of truth is Time, her greatest enemy is Prejudice, and her constant companion is Humility." - Charles Caleb Colton"Humility is the essence of love and intelligence; it is not an achievement." - Jiddu Krishnamurti"I believe the first test of a truly great man is in his humility." - John Ruskin"Humility is the only true wisdom by which we prepare our minds for all the possible changes of life." - George Arliss"Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less." - Ken Blanchard"A humble person is more concerned about what is right than about being right." - Ezra Taft Benson"Real genius is nothing else but the supernatural virtue of humility in the domain of thought." - Simone Weil"Humility is a great quality of leadership which derives respect and not just fear or hatred." - Yousef Munayyer"Humility is the mother of all virtues; purity, charity, and obedience. It is in being humble that our love becomes real, devoted, and ardent." - Mother Teresa"One cannot be humble and aware of oneself at the same time." - Madeleine L'Engle

We're back with part two of our conversation about honesty. If you missed it, go back to last week's episode, which covers our relationship with honesty within ourselves. Because if we cannot solve the self-deception problem from within, honesty and integrity without becomes a lot more complicated.Now! Let's talk about this week's conversation. George and I discuss the importance of honesty in relationships and personal growth. We highlight how honesty builds trust and credibility, strengthens relationships, and encourages accountability. We also emphasize the need for self-awareness and reflection to identify areas for improvement.And, of course, we got personal. That seems to be a big theme, recently.🌶️ Spice up your inbox: Subscribe to the Beyond Your Default newsletterI share a personal experience of having an honest conversation with a friend to address a long-standing problem in their friendship. And George discusses a difficult conversation he had with his father to mend their strained relationship. Both examples demonstrate the challenges and rewards of maintaining integrity. \Our conversation explores the challenges of being honest and maintaining integrity in personal and professional relationships. It emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, learning from mistakes, and taking small steps towards greater honesty. Of course, we couldn't ignore how important it is to strike a clear balance between honesty and empathy, as well as the role of intentions in communication, and the need for active listening, when pursuing truth with others. We also highlight the significance of creating a supportive environment that values open and honest communication. Our discussion concludes with the reminder that progress, not perfection, is the goal in developing greater integrity.Topics We Coverhonesty, relationships, trust, credibility, accountability, personal growth, self-awareness, reflection, communication, self-reflection, mistakes, empathy, active listening, support, progressTakeaways + HighlightsHonesty is the cornerstone of all success and builds trust and credibility in relationships.Being honest with others strengthens relationships and encourages accountability.Honesty with oneself leads to personal growth and a higher standard of living.Honesty creates a positive and supportive environment and promotes authenticity.Having difficult conversations and addressing issues honestly can lead to stronger and more meaningful connections. Developing greater integrity requires self-reflection and learning from mistakes.Being specific and direct in communication reduces misunderstandings.Active listening and creating a supportive environment are key to fostering open and honest communication.Progress, not perfection, is the goal in developing greater integrity.Quotes About Honesty + Integrity with Others"Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching." - C.S. Lewis"Honesty is the fastest way to prevent a mistake from turning into a failure." - James Altucher"Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people." - Spencer Johnson"The high road is always respected. Honesty and integrity are always rewarded." - Scott Hamilton"Honesty is the cornerstone of all success, without which confidence and ability to perform shall cease to exist." - Mary Kay Ash"In the end, you should always do the right thing even if it's hard." - Nicholas Sparks"Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody's going to know whether you did it or not." - Oprah Winfrey"The truth may hurt for a little while, but a lie hurts forever." - Unknown"Honesty is the best policy. If I lose mine honor, I lose myself." - William Shakespeare"Integrity is choosing your thoughts and actions based on values rather than personal gain." - Chris Karcher"When you walk a life of honesty, you live a life of truth." - Therese Benedict"Integrity is not something you show others. It is how you behave behind their back." - Unknown"Honesty and integrity are absolutely essential for success in life – all areas of life. The really good news is that anyone can develop both honesty and integrity." - Zig Ziglar"Integrity means that if our private life was suddenly exposed, we'd have no reason to be ashamed or embarrassed. Integrity means our outward life is consistent with our inner convictions." - Billy Graham"To be persuasive we must be believable; to be believable we must be credible; credible we must be truthful." - Edward R. Murrow"No legacy is so rich as honesty." - William Shakespeare"Integrity is making sure that the things you say and the things you do are in alignment." - Katrina Mayer"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." - Mark Twain"The greatness of a man is not in how much wealth he acquires, but in his integrity and his ability to affect those around him positively." - Bob Marley

On this week's episode, George and I dive into the topic of honesty — one of the 10 pillars of the Superhuman Framework — specifically self-deception and dishonesty that manifests from within. We explore how self-deception can wreak havoc in our lives and the different ways it can manifest, such as negative self-talk and an inflated ego. We also emphasize the importance of self-awareness and the need to be honest with ourselves in order to learn and grow.🌶️ Spice up your inbox: Subscribe to the Beyond Your Default newsletterThe conversation unpacks with unflinching candor the themes of self-deception and honesty. I talk about the experience of finding inspiration for writing and realizing the role of confusion in enabling self-deception. And George went there by discussing his struggle with weight and the lies he told himself.We both talk about the importance of self-reflection and being honest with ourselves. Practicing radical honesty with oneself can boost personal integrity, enhance emotional resilience, and improve decision-making. It promotes a sense of calm and stability, leading to overall well-being and a happier, more fulfilling life.By being honest with ourselves, we align our actions with our true values and beliefs, leading to a greater sense of self-respect. It also helps us confront uncomfortable truths and reduce internal conflicts. Practicing radical honesty allows us to make sustainable positive changes in our lives and live in alignment with our true selves.Topics We Coverhonesty, self-deception, self-awareness, negative self-talk, inflated ego, personal growth, self-deception, honesty, self-reflection, confusion, weight, lies, radical honesty, personal integrity, emotional resilience, decision-making, well-being, self-respect, uncomfortable truths, internal conflicts, positive changes, alignmentTakeaways + HighlightsSelf-deception can manifest in negative self-talk and an inflated ego, both of which can hinder personal growth.Being self-aware allows us to learn from our mistakes and avoid falling into the trap of self-deception.Honesty with ourselves is crucial for personal growth and maintaining a balanced perspective.Self-deception can lead to a distorted self-perception and prevent us from recognizing our weaknesses.It's important to avoid extremes of self-deception and strive for a more balanced and honest view of ourselves. Self-deception can manifest in negative self-talk, stories we tell ourselves, and beliefs that shape our thoughts and actions.Confusion can be a result of setting conditions that enable it and waiting for answers instead of seeking them.Self-reflection and regular time set aside for introspection are crucial for gaining a clear and honest understanding of oneself.Fear can lead to self-sabotage and staying small in life, but confronting fears and choosing clarity over comfort can lead to growth.Being honest with oneself and others is essential for building healthy relationships and addressing issues.Identifying and challenging the lies we tell ourselves can help break free from self-deception and live authentically. Practicing radical honesty boosts personal integrity and self-respect.Being honest with oneself enhances emotional resilience and reduces internal conflicts.Radical honesty improves decision-making and promotes a sense of calm and stability. It allows for sustainable positive changes and living in alignment with one's true self.Quotes About Honesty + Self-Deception"Self-deception is nature; hypocrisy is art." - Mason Cooley"We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more from imagination than from reality." - Seneca"The easiest person to deceive is one's own self." - Edward Bulwer-Lytton"The first principle is that you must not fool yourself, and you are the easiest person to fool." - Richard Feynman"Self-deception is a pessimistic definition of optimism." - Theodor Reik"There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth; not going all the way, and not starting." - Buddha"Lying to ourselves is more deeply ingrained than lying to others." - Fyodor Dostoevsky"We are not deceiving anyone, but we are often deceiving ourselves." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe"Nothing is easier than self-deceit. For what each man wishes, that he also believes to be true." - Demosthenes"The most difficult thing in life is to know yourself." - Thales"Self-awareness doesn’t stop you from making mistakes, it allows you to learn from them." - Peter ShepherdRelated BYD EpisodesRedefining Hustle in a Culture That Celebrates Destructive Levels of Busy-nessGenuine Positivity vs. Toxic Positivity and the Movement to Criminalize EmotionsAdopting an Owner's Mentality in Your Own LifeFact vs. Fiction: What Is a Growth Mindset, Really?Victim vs. Victor Mentality: Knowing + Living the DifferenceHow to Set Healthy Expectations that Cultivate Growth, Confidence, + Self-TrustThe Power of Language: Choosing Your Words to Shape Your Destiny

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This week is a very different kind of episode. We've tried to record it three times, but fourth time's a charm. But apparently, this was a topic that required a little waiting.In this episode, George and I explore the role of humor in our lives and how it can be used to hide old resentments or mask uncomfortable discussions. We reflect on their own dreams and goals and the importance of taking them seriously, as well as the impact of our goals on our lives and the lives of those around them.The conversation explores the role of humor as a shield and its impact on personal growth and relationships. We discuss how humor can be a diversion, providing emotional relief and social bonding. We also delve into the power of humor to change perspectives, diffuse tension, and challenge authority. 🌶️ Spice up your inbox: Subscribe to the Beyond Your Default newsletterOur chat also took an unexpectedly deep turn, as I shared my personal experience of using humor to seek validation and connection, while George reflected on how humor has been both a shield and a sword for him. However, humor can also aid in achieving goals by providing emotional relief, reducing stress, enhancing focus and productivity, and strengthening social bonds. Maintaining a balanced use of humor can create an atmosphere conducive to achieving goals and living a life beyond our default.Topics We Coverhighlights, lowlights, weight loss, goals, humor, dreams, animal spirit cards, humor, shield, diversion, emotional relief, social bonding, perspective change, deflection, empowerment, vulnerability, connection, humor, shield, weapon, distraction, avoidance, procrastination, strain relationships, harm credibility, emotional relief, stress reduction, focus, productivity, social bonds, positive mindset, resilience, team dynamics, enjoyable work environment, morale, motivation, balanced useTakeaways + HighlightsTaking goals seriously can lead to personal growth and positive change in one's life.Humor can be used as a shield to hide old resentments or uncomfortable discussions.Reflecting on dreams and goals can help uncover unfulfilled desires and lead to a more purposeful life.Journaling about the prompts from the animal spirit cards can provide valuable insights and self-reflection. Humor can serve as a shield, providing emotional relief and social bonding.It can be a diversionary tactic, deflecting attention from deeper emotions or issues.Humor has the power to change perspectives and reframe negative situations.It can diffuse tension and prevent confrontations, making difficult conversations more manageable.Humor can challenge authority and highlight social issues.Vulnerability and genuine connection are essential for true understanding and personal growth. Using humor as a shield or weapon can distract us from our goals and undermine our focus.Humor can provide emotional relief and reduce stress, enhancing our productivity and resilience.Appropriate humor can strengthen social bonds and improve team dynamics.Maintaining a balanced use of humor can create a positive and productive work environment.Humor can be a valuable tool in achieving our goals and living a fulfilling life.

"We should do an episode about rest, but it would be three minutes long. It would be more of a cry for help, actually. 'Please help us. We don't know how to do it.'" — Liz Moorehead (That's me!)This week is a different kind of episode. George was hospitalized for almost a week last week unexpectedly due to an inflammation issue with his heart. He's home, healthy, happy, and on the road to recovery with a renewed outlook how he wants to approach life.But we knew that, this week, we needed to throw out our planned outline for a candid conversation about what he went through, and how many of the topics we've been discussing on Beyond Your Default fortuitously came barreling to the forefront of his experience while he was in the hospital.🌶️ Spice up your inbox: Subscribe to the Beyond Your Default newsletterOur conversation, of course, immediately drilled into the topic of rest and how important it is. George went on to share the lessons he learned around self-care — a topic he was previously resistant to — and relinquishing control.He also discussed the importance of creating space in his life for the things he enjoys and taking control of his own healthcare. George also explored the previously held beliefs he had that were challenged during his hospital stay, such as feeling like he had no space and relying too heavily on medication.⚡ Go Deeper: How to embrace an owner's mentality in your own lifeBut he focused on more than just his health and personal aspects of this journey. We also talked about the impact his hospitalization had on his role as a business owner of Sidekick Strategies, and the trust he had in his team to handle things in his absence. We also discussed the lessons he hopes our listeners can learn proactively from his experience without having to go through it themselves. While these types of life events can be crystallizing in terms of helping us pivot our mindsets and beliefs in healthy ways, think about how much more you could achieve if you didn't wait for life to stop you in your tracks to see how you need to alter your path.Topics We Coverrest, self-care, hospitalization, relinquishing control, trust, business, self-care, health, hospital, inflammation, space, medication, active participant, non-negotiables, reflectionTakeaways + HighlightsTaking time for rest and self-care is essential for avoiding burnoutIt's important to listen to your body and seek medical help when neededRelinquishing control and trusting your team can lead to a sense of peace and allow for personal and professional growth Create space in your life for the things you enjoy and prioritize your own well-being.Be an active participant in your own healthcare and make self-care and healthcare non-negotiables.Reflect on previously held beliefs and be open to challenging and changing them.Ask yourself important questions about your health and well-being before a crisis occurs.

“Time flies over us, but leaves its shadow behind.”― Nathaniel HawthorneThis week, we’re talking about one of the most precious resources we have at our disposal (if not the most precious resource) in our Beyond Your Default journeys, and that is time.If we were forced to define our relationship with time on Facebook, it would 100% be “it’s complicated.” Too often, we feel at a deficit with time, desperately wanting more of it, and never seeming to have enough of it. In fact, six in 10 Americans say they already don’t have enough time in a day to get everything done.🌶️ Spice up your inbox: Subscribe to the Beyond Your Default newsletterOn the other extreme, then there are those seasons of waiting for what we want to happen most, and then all we seem to have is time. Excruciating stretches of time where we wait for life to begin. Time also comes under greater scrutiny when you start looking at your life purposefully and saying, “I need to make changes to grow the way I need to.”Think about the previous topics we’ve discussed where this couldn’t be more apparent:Rethinking the time we have at our disposal for a powerful and purposeful morning routine that will help us start our days in the best way possible.Why seasons of waiting can kill you, where you curse how much time you have at your disposal if you don’t learn how to re-prioritize the small things in life.Being present in this moment in time.Or heck, going back to the very beginning of this podcast, understanding the power of timing and how it can impact your life.⚡ Go Deeper: How to embrace an owner's mentality in your own lifeAll of these conversations force us to put time back under a microscope. And yes, the conversation around time is a complex one. So in this first episode about time, we’re going to lay the foundation for completely rethinking how we define, think about, and talk about it. Because when you make changes internally around those three areas, you’ll be surprised by what becomes possible.As William Penn once said, “Time is what we want most, but what we use worst.”I think it’s time we change that.In this conversation, George and I discuss the complexities of our respective relationships with time, the feeling of not having enough time, and the excruciating stretches of waiting. We emphasize the need to redefine how we think about and use time, and the impact it has on our past, present, and future. ⚡ Go Deeper: Victim vs. Victor Mentality: Knowing + Living the DifferenceGeorge and I also talk about the importance of mindfulness and energy management in maximizing our time, as well as the idea of living our lives as a story that we write along the way. We also examine the different ways we can define and think about time, and how our relationship with time can shape our well-being.We end our conversation by delving into the power of language and how the words we use to talk about time can influence our perception and behavior. Finally, George provides practical ways to rethink our relationship with time and make positive changes in our lives.Topics We Covertime, relationship with time, gratitude journal, Fast and Furious, waiting, mindfulness, energy management, time, narrative, control, mindset, language, perception, well-being, priorities, reflection, goals, time wastersTakeaways + HighlightsTime is a precious resource that impacts all aspects of our lives.Our relationship with time can be complicated, with feelings of not having enough time and long stretches of waiting.Redefining how we think about and use time can lead to a more fulfilling life.Mindfulness and energy management are key to making the most of our time.Being aware of the seasons of life and architecting our own story can give purpose to our time. We are the authors of our own lives and have the power to shape our narrative.The way we define and think about time can impact our relationship with it.The language we use to talk about time can shape our perception and behavior.Prioritizing and focusing on essential tasks can help us make the most of our time.Reflecting on how we use our time and setting clear goals can lead to personal and professional growth.Identifying and minimizing time wasters can free up time for more meaningful activities.

“There is a difference between vulnerability and telling people everything about yourself. Vulnerability is a feeling. Telling everyone about yourself is just facts and details.” — Simon SinekI'll be honest, I was not ready for this episode. So, let's skip the preamble and dig right into our conversation, which is all about the critical importance of learning how to be vulnerable. But what the heck is vulnerability?We define vulnerability as the courage to face potential emotional exposure, risks, and uncertainty, while still moving forward. 🌶️ Spice up your inbox: Subscribe to the Beyond Your Default newsletterIn this episode, George and I discuss the importance of vulnerability in your Beyond Your Default journey, and how it can lead to personal and professional growth. We share their own experiences with vulnerability and how it has impacted our lives, for better and for worse. Although being vulnerable can be scary—or even rejected as an option due to external pressures—vulnerability is not a sign of weakness, but rather a superpower that allows for genuine connections and authentic living. That's why a large part of this episode is dedicated to debunking hey common misconceptions about vulnerability and highlight its strength and power.⚡ Go Deeper: How to embrace an owner's mentality in your own lifeWe examine why people struggle with being vulnerable, particularly men and women, and the societal expectations and conditioning that contribute to this struggle. We also provide practical tips for shifting mindset around vulnerability, such as self-reflection, normalizing conversations about complex feelings, practicing small acts of honesty, reframing vulnerability as a strength, and practicing empathy. Finally, we talk about the benefits of vulnerability, including enhanced self-awareness, increased resilience, personal healing, and growth in self-esteem.  We also emphasize the importance of starting small and choosing the right people to share with, and the transformative impact vulnerability can have on personal growth and relationships.Topics We Covervulnerability, personal growth, professional growth, courage, emotional exposure, risks, uncertainty, genuine connections, authentic living, vulnerability, misconceptions, strength, struggle, societal expectations, conditioning, mindset shift, self-reflection, emotional conversations, small acts of honesty, reframing, self-esteem, empathy, benefitsTakeaways + HighlightsVulnerability is a superpower that allows for personal and professional growth.Embracing vulnerability means being open to both the good and the bad that can come from genuine connections and facing new challenges.Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen, no matter the stakes.Failure is not a reflection of worth, but a stepping stone to greater knowledge and growth.Vulnerability requires the courage to face potential emotional exposure, risks, and uncertainty.Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness, but a powerful tool for creating trust, authenticity, and personal success. Vulnerability is often misunderstood and seen as a weakness, but it is actually a strength that requires courage and authenticity.Common misconceptions about vulnerability include that it is weakness, oversharing, seeking sympathy, or playing the victim.Vulnerability is important for personal and professional growth, deepening connections, and fostering authenticity.People struggle with vulnerability due to fear of rejection or judgment, fear of losing control, past trauma or negative experiences, and societal expectations and conditioning.Shifting mindset around vulnerability involves self-reflection, normalizing conversations about feelings, practicing small acts of honesty, reframing vulnerability as a strength, and practicing empathy.The benefits of vulnerability include enhanced self-awareness, increased resilience, personal healing, growth in self-esteem, deepened emotional bonds, trust-building, improved communication, and mutual support.Quotes About Vulnerability“The intention and outcome of vulnerability is trust, intimacy and connection. The outcome of oversharing is distrust, disconnection - and usually a little judgment.” ― Brené Brown“What happens when people open their hearts?""They get better.”― Haruki Murakami“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection. Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.” ― Brené Brown“When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability... To be alive is to be vulnerable.” ― Madeleine L'Engle“We cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions. Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness.” ― Brené Brown

"You can be a human who gets on a mic and lies and says, 'I have done all the things and my life is absolutely amazing.' Or you can be the honest human and share the mistakes you've learned from, and hopefully people learn from your mistakes as well." — George B. ThomasIf you’ve listened to this show for any length of time, you’ve likely heard us reinforce that George and I are not having these conversations with you from a place of feeling as if we’ve seen it all, learned it all, and conquered it all. Quite the contrary! Do we consider ourselves your guides, here to help you along, as you make your way through your own Beyond Your Default journey? Certainly, but we are guides who are making the same journey, as well – faults, failures, lessons learned, and all.(And if this is your first episode with us, now you know!)🌶️ Spice up your inbox: Subscribe to the Beyond Your Default newsletterThat’s why, periodically, we take an episode to check in with each other. We ask each other questions about the specific topics we’ve covered on this podcast with you all, and speak honestly about our wins, our struggles, and the surprises we’ve encountered.The last time we checked in with each other was right before Thanksgiving — that's almost six months ago, if you can believe it. Where were we at mentally and emotionally back then? Let's take a look ... For George, his big focus was continuing to cultivate the close and purposeful circles of friends, family members, and others as a means to stay grounded. He also talked about that while you were excited about the future and what it could hold, you were also looking at it with a little dose of fear.To quote George:“I want to be careful not to lose myself in this process. And so I'm always kind of like, am I doing too much? Am I doing too little? And again, that anxiety and the need for deep breaths and meditation shows up and I'm like, all right, dude, man, just quit freaking overthinking it and just like, let it be organic, but is organic enough? Then the cycle starts all over again.”⚡ Go Deeper: What does it really mean to possess a healthy growth mindset?Personally, I discussed how I was struggling to be more open and trusting with people, but I was getting better at it. I also talked about how self-forgiveness was my primary focus after a challenging year where I made a lot of changes in my life (moving, a divorce, and so on), I made a lot of mistakes, and I was also learning to get to know this new version of me who wanted more and better, in the right ways.To give you a snapshot of where my head was at, at the time, here’s what I shared:“I think one of the things that has been the most illuminating is realizing that sometimes I was holding myself accountable for things that I did not need to hold myself accountable for. That I was making myself responsible for the feelings of other people and not understanding that I am not responsible for everything. Because that’s how I was trained to think growing up. I’ve learned that self-forgiveness is hard, but you also have to make sure that you are looking at your life clearly.”⚡ Go Deeper: How to embrace an owner's mentality in your own lifeSince then, we’ve done a lot of life stuff and grown quite a bit. We’ve also talked about a ton of new topics since then, including imposter syndrome, being present, finding happiness when all feels lost, seasons of life, our relationship with failure, setting healthy boundaries, toxic morning routine myths, making the choice to embody a victor mentality, anger, growth mindsets, and more. So, before we move into our next batch of conversations, we're taking this week to pull back the curtain on our own personal Beyond Your Default journeys. During this episode, I ask George questions about how things have been going since our check-in last November, and he does the same for me. Our hope is that by sharing what this type of committed self-work looks like behind the scenes — the good, the bad, and the downright ugly — that we can make it easier for you to remain motivated and inspired in your journey.Topics We CoverPersonal growth, vulnerability, self-awareness, mistakes, self-forgiveness, trust, focus, patience, unrealistic expectations, seasons of life, self-care, supportive relationships, change, seasons of life, decision-making, self-perception, self-care, morning routine, boundaries, rest, stability, surprise, anniversary celebration, personal growth, self-care, disconnecting, victim mentality, victor mentality, self-awareness, selfishness, growth mindset, morning routine, and health.Takeaways + HighlightsVulnerability and learning from mistakes are essential for personal growth.Self-forgiveness and trusting others can be challenging but necessary for progress.Focusing on the right things and consistently doing good leads to positive outcomes.Practicing patience and letting go of unrealistic expectations improves well-being.Embracing the seasons of life and surrounding oneself with supportive people is important for personal development.Self-care and being open to change are crucial for a fulfilling journey. Seasons of life require us to act and make decisions accordingly.Being hard on ourselves can hinder our growth and progress.Making decisions as the future version of ourselves can lead to greater success.Rest and stability are important elements of a healthy morning routine.Setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care are ongoing challenges. Disconnecting from technology and taking time for oneself is important for personal well-being.Shifting from a victim mentality to a victor mentali...